WHEN YOU STOP GIVING THE NARCISSIST CHANCES

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  • Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
  • When you stop giving the narcissist chances you will begin healing.This is when you recognize who they are and what they have done.The narcissist needs to have no access to you.Going no contact is the path.Controlling your own time and energy is imperative. Not giving a toxic person any chance is what needs to be done once we identify who these people are.

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  • @TamikaTaylor-rl1im
    @TamikaTaylor-rl1im День назад +20

    Andrew, did you read my mind? Just opened my phone after wondering all night if i still have to give another chance to the narc who know contacts me via 3 other people lol only to say that he cannot live nor survive without me( aparently he is dying of hunger 😮🫤?), and that i am the only one who understands, well yeah but not so much now…. Help, i was done 7 weeks ago , why do i still feel sorry for him, so scary,especially after all that happened, what to do when someone ( the narc) says he is dying and all the friends and family have left him😮😢,… Andrew , thank you for the video!

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +4

      The Trauma Bond keeps knocking on your door. You understand him, alright, like you
      now understand "Narcissism." You feel sorry because you are what you are ( which is good )- a loving, big heart-ed person, which by keeping no contact, allows you to stay that way.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +3

      Welcome..🙏💜🌺

    • @Eeevvee
      @Eeevvee День назад +3

      if he's dying of hunger he can go to a food bank like the rest of us

    • @joylynne1343
      @joylynne1343 21 час назад +3

      ❤ From an old one who knows: Do not accept a Hoover!!! ...
      Stay free, so you may find a "keeper!"
      My saying is: "It's better to be alone than to be with another Mr. Wrong!" 😂🤣😂

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 17 часов назад +3

      Are you his mother? His cook? His counselor? Who will feel sorry for you? Not him! Block and delete. Keep learning from Andrew videos. We come first, second and third 🙏💜💐

  • @Beth00009
    @Beth00009 День назад +114

    When you stop giving the narcissist chances , you give yourself the best one ever

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 День назад +10

      Top notch comment...
      SO RIGHT ON!! 👍💥❤🙏
      🌈🎀😘

    • @Beth00009
      @Beth00009 День назад

      @@marieeakin8534 Thankyou (it's all so very painful and mind twisting, but once you're aware that's it)
      🤍💗🤍

    • @tinachristy3212
      @tinachristy3212 День назад +6

      🎉🎉🎉 True 🎉🎉🎉

    • @Beth00009
      @Beth00009 День назад

      @@marieeakin8534 Thankyou 🤍💗🤍

    • @Beth00009
      @Beth00009 День назад

      @@tinachristy3212
      🌷😊🌷

  • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
    @paulineEirefairygirl5067 2 дня назад +62

    They are emotionally unavailable, detached, intangibles

  • @TwilaB0721
    @TwilaB0721 2 дня назад +76

    The longer I stayed, the worst it got. Thanks, Andrew❤

  • @BronwynJowsey
    @BronwynJowsey День назад +49

    45 years worth of chances ! I'm on the healing path now. Safe and peace. Thankyou Andrew.

  • @blue.5058
    @blue.5058 2 дня назад +28

    It’s funny how narcs will use the, “But… but… wh-why me?!” act when you refuse to deal with them, like they’re unaware they did anything wrong.
    It’s what happened to several narcs in my life, including my father in the past. It’s like they believe the “rules” don’t apply to them or something.

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +8

      It's cowardice and lack of humility that they don't want to open and look inside that "box" of vile acts and their bad behaviors. They can resist being introspective, but that track record of nastiness ain't going anywhere.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      💯💯😉

  • @dontbeadogsbody3564
    @dontbeadogsbody3564 День назад +56

    They are the closest thing to a factory made demonic robot there is. Seriously. How are they so similar and lacking in originality?

    • @Angel-rt1sn
      @Angel-rt1sn День назад +3

      💯🎯🔥⚖️

    • @paratrooper73
      @paratrooper73 12 часов назад +2

      There is no self, so I think these are the basics. Industrial setting😅

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 2 дня назад +36

    No more Chances for narc cousins or any narc neighbours,im done with anyone Toxic,,One chance too many in the Past,!!!t.y. Andrew🤗💜

  • @badomaji
    @badomaji День назад +26

    They sense the energy of the bright soul - they know who to latch on to, they know who has something to offer - and they are going to stick around and try to get whatever they can get. And hopefully it will be before they are discovered.

  • @MaryAnderson-xs5wd
    @MaryAnderson-xs5wd День назад +21

    Walk away from the Narc. Take the high road. It is called the healing path. Give the hurt they deal to you to God. Let go and let God deal with them.

  • @Niamhdm7871
    @Niamhdm7871 2 дня назад +38

    Trauma bonds are the strangest, deepest, rabbit holes. 😢 Almost three months strong now! Said, enough of this wacked out pseduo, love! Toxic nothing more than Toxic. Ty for daily affirmations and knowledge and encouragement. Blessings. 🙏

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z 2 дня назад +4

      Any way I think about it, the " Trauma Bond" is a mind cruncher. Learning about a Trauma Bond, along with other terms in the topic of Narcissism is like learning the "ABCs." Prior, we heard words and saw actions of a Narc, but we couldn't understand any of it.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +2

      Welcome..💜🙏

    • @Resilience13
      @Resilience13 День назад +3

      Stay strong ❤❤. 6 months out. Your energy will change.

  • @marieeakin8534
    @marieeakin8534 День назад +41

    Once I actually got the wisdom .....I went no contact & cut all ties.
    NO more chances....I was way DONE & WILL NEVER give any more time to ANY narcissists.
    Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +6

      👍Always nice to hear someone calling from "The Peak" and those words echoing
      down through the valley. Folks on the recovering trail, stop, smile and push upward.

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 День назад +5

      Thanks, so nice! I'm taking time up here to relax, enjoy & let myself figure out what steps I want to take from here.
      I'm on a vacation from all that I've been through & its nice to slow down & let myself just be as I discover the new.
      Hope you are doing well & taking things in stride.
      Appreciate you!!! 👍❤☕

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik День назад +1

      Enjoy your time to urself..​@@marieeakin8534

    • @chazbickel4518
      @chazbickel4518 День назад +2

      ​@@JHavaJoe2-m1z❤😊

    • @chazbickel4518
      @chazbickel4518 День назад +4

      ​@@marieeakin8534 Time to just be..🙌😊
      When you live in the present moment the bright future just happens.
      You are going to need those shades back...
      😎❤

  • @ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω

    Yes, I had just lost my father, and an unborn baby two years before.. I was under medication for depression. That's when he showed up, consoling me for my losses. After four weeks of love bombing, you all know what followed : darkness cheating, hell.

    • @Softtearsofwisdom...
      @Softtearsofwisdom... День назад +10

      💔

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +7

      Don’t give up dear one !!
      I was used up by these Family friends lovers .., all my freakin life
      Now I have a good one
      Watch and wait …
      It took a long time..
      But it was worth it
      My old friend from way back (17 years) cruised into my life and we’ve been together for six years. We’re not perfect but we are not narcissists.
      I spent many years alone. I asked god to bring me the right man at the right time. The loneliness was sinking into my bones when he came along. It was worth the wait 🙏🌺🌼🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛💜🌈🐝👍🌸Deb

    • @joannagooney8342
      @joannagooney8342 День назад +3

      There is light at the end of the tunnel I am proof of that
      All here for you

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      Thank you for sharing..😌😌💜🙏

  • @user-ro3rv4nw2n
    @user-ro3rv4nw2n 2 дня назад +29

    The narcissist in my life did the same step by step. It is uncanny how they all do the same. He overcalculated and is out now but I am still analyzing what happened. I came to the conclusion that he was training me to be his puppet and him the puppet master. Luckily it was only a 'friendship" that slowly turned ugly.

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik День назад +4

      You dodged a cannon ball,,keep your head on a swivel...stay far,stay safe,,SO glad you realized the trajectory, and dodged the cannon ball..

    • @user-ro3rv4nw2n
      @user-ro3rv4nw2n День назад +2

      @@MattyNelson-rs3ik Yep. they are dangerous

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +2

      😌😌💯

  • @Divinely_Guided444
    @Divinely_Guided444 2 дня назад +34

    I love when you speak about energy. Every thought, emotion or feeling has a vibration or energy attached to it. The energy cord with the narcissist is like no other, and if someone has not experienced it, they will never be able to fully innerstand.✨✨✨

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +7

      Yes
      I agree
      It’s very difficult to break that energy cord but it does feel so good to feel my energy coming back 🙏Deb

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      💯💯💯😌

  • @GoldFeather123
    @GoldFeather123 День назад +20

    Today my Insurance agent called me and when we finished our business she asked if she could talk with me. She disclosed to me that she was with a NARC up until last June. She said that she went up North with him and came back so sick she thought she was going to die 😢. He discarded her because she was sick. During the same time her father was dying. Needless to say I was in complete shock. She moved to a new place and he texted her once and she didn't answer him. Hovered her a few times before she moved. Our stories are very similar. She has been educating herself since the discard happened on Narcissistic abuse. We will be meeting very soon for lunch and I have encouraged her to attend church with me. She said she felt comfortable talking with me because people who haven't been through it dont understand and think your crazy when you try to explain what happened. 🙏 ❤

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +5

      All the knowledge you accumulated comes in handy to validate another! That's
      the greatness of this wisdom- you help yourself and one day, grab a hand of someone
      who really needs you.👍🙏

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik День назад +3

      ​@JHavaJoe2-m1z I did exactly that, this past week,the x narc friend who triangulated my relationship with another true work friend,discarded my true work friend,,who believed all the ex narc "fiend" told her about me..I was in shock,the way she explained the discard,understand this,that true work friend has not spoken to me x 2 years..it all came out due to the death of the narc 's relative...I told her I knew one day you would be next,except I was the one who greyrocked the x narc "fiend" then went no contact..The true work friend explained how she was betrayed at work by the narc "fiend"..and how depressed she was,and crying.over a week,can'tbelievewhat happened,,she said and has.decided not to ever get so close to another work collegue,,,I was close to her, she could not see it,,,,sad!! I told her we encountered a true narcissist and user,a😮nd taker,,. And that
      She was no longer supply for the x narc fiend,,,2 collegues who worked the early shift,started working the later shift, new people, new supply for the narc fiend, as God would have it,that scenario did come into my head,,when I heard they were moving to the later shift.God does not lie...He is a revealer of truth,,,we just have to sit back a see the drama unfold..😮. I am a retired person not interacting with them on the job anymore...

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +2

      @@MattyNelson-rs3ik Retiring and given the time, allows you to reflect clearly. The go, go, 'need the job', fast pace of youth obscures. But, at any age, if those in a quagmire of confusion with Narcs find this wisdom and education, they'll be at an advantage in re-building their lives. I wish there were more people like you with the understanding and compassion.

    • @nleativa
      @nleativa День назад +2

      Wish I had a friend to connect with on narcissistic abuse. I usually watch narcdaily videos everyday lol

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      Thank you for sharing..😌💜🙏🙌

  • @costasl1282
    @costasl1282 День назад +14

    It took me 6 months to press that block button…it has been a year now… no contact… healing and understanding.
    Thank you

  • @TiredOfToxicTv
    @TiredOfToxicTv День назад +22

    The infamous side smirk gets me every time haha love your content . Thanks for the info & entertainment 🤓🤩

    • @badomaji
      @badomaji День назад +6

      The smirk that says the narcissist is having an internal conversation congratulating him/her self on how smart they are and how they are outsmarting someone else.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +2

      Welcome..🤔🤔😉🤭

  • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
    @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +12

    No more chances! There I was , giving "chances" for big infractions and little ones.
    "No Narcs in my space" will be a priority, so I don't have to give them anything.

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 День назад +2

      Wow...get it, that was great...good for you!
      All that is good & only good...
      come to you Joe Joe 💥💞 ☕
      🌈🎀😘

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      😌😌💜💯

  • @RachelH.B
    @RachelH.B День назад +15

    I installed a fitted wall to wall closet in my house for my clothes. Within 6 months my new boyfriend had filled the new closet with his suits, shirts and shoes. He was also filling every available drawer. My clothes were on an old rail, hangers and boxes in another room. He never came to live with me, even after marriage, although he made me think he would. Happy ending when I bagged up his stuff and sent it to his sister. So slow and insidious that I didn’t notice what he was doing. He was bagged up and sent after his belongings too.
    After the closet had a thorough cleaning, my clothes are now back in place.And so am I.

    • @kathleencondit1660
      @kathleencondit1660 День назад +5

      Enjoy your closet. It does feel good to get rid of their stuff.

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +5

      That sounded so symbolic- like getting your life organized and in order ... Your way!👍🙌

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +3

      Good one 👍🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад

      Thank you for sharing..💯💯😌💜😉

  • @jswan312
    @jswan312 День назад +16

    Two years ago today-first day of vacation with my ex narc. My final last grasp at trying desperately to please him, to build a life together, to make him happy.
    He had no intention of us having a future, as I’d find out soon.
    Still healing and reeling but no-contact, blocked him, picking up the pieces and moving on.

  • @JJX1279
    @JJX1279 День назад +29

    Cheers from Poland :) You are positive man, thank You ;)

  • @angelacahill9083
    @angelacahill9083 День назад +10

    We get to live in peace when we stop giving them chances to change......they are incapable of changing. When we realise that, the better it is for us all going forward. We become our own best friend in the process of us healing our wounds. Thanks Andrew, great video. 🙏

  • @debbysmith7129
    @debbysmith7129 День назад +6

    Spot on. Out of that bad seed relationship. It a year. And still picking up the pieces. One step at a time.

  • @John-k6i
    @John-k6i 22 часа назад +3

    Thank you Andrew and Community Members for all the support.. Much love to all of you wonderful people..

  • @nicolehayes6020
    @nicolehayes6020 День назад +15

    NO MORE CHANCES!!! Thank you Andrew for every day doing these amazing videos for us and all who need this. I appreciate you and all u do❤️🙏✌️💯

  • @kimr9960
    @kimr9960 День назад +5

    I am finally out of my Narc sister’s life. It feels so good to not have her abuse, ask for money, lie to me all the time. Never ever will I let her in to my life. Your channel has helped me thank you.

  • @ContinentsEdge
    @ContinentsEdge 2 дня назад +20

    This is great stuff. This is my life

  • @kerry_runs
    @kerry_runs 2 дня назад +15

    On the healing journey 🙏

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere 2 дня назад +9

    This is your life...Amen...giving ourselves all we have now - thank you Andrew 🙏✨

  • @Rugbymom
    @Rugbymom 2 дня назад +19

    This whole video.. 💯 spot on! I gave too many chances and ignored red flags.. but I have learned so much from these videos and did utilize the tools provided.. now I’m healing and working my way to a better place every day. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.. it truly saved me.

  • @LovelyLisa0247
    @LovelyLisa0247 День назад +9

    I’m glad that I’m not alone.
    Thank you Andrew ❤

  • @sylviemulvaney
    @sylviemulvaney День назад +13

    I love all your videos, Andrew, but this one REALLY resonated with me. I saved the link to watch it again. You described my relationship perfectly, unfortunately.
    I saw this recently & figured I'd share it here: "A narcissist will emotionally murder you in the privacy of your own home." Terrifying, but so true.

  • @sharonroberts6697
    @sharonroberts6697 2 дня назад +25

    Five months after complete No Contact (after daily contact) and he approaches one of my friends to reach me for a favor. Wow. Is there no end to their gall?
    Guess not.

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z 2 дня назад +9

      No class, no character, disrespectful, lacking humility ... but plenty of gall.

    • @TamikaTaylor-rl1im
      @TamikaTaylor-rl1im День назад

      Hey there, this is what is happening to me right now, my ex narc keeps contacting me via 3 other people only to let me know that he is dying of hunger (😮?), and that i was the only one always there( true i was until 7 weeks ago), this is hard to hear, and i feel guilty , so weird, right?! I was so proud of myself staying strong and focused but one call and i become weak, thank god for Andrew, he really helps me when i am tempted to help!❤Good luck to you!😃

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      😌😌💜

  • @user-mh8sj8xt3s
    @user-mh8sj8xt3s День назад +15

    I find it hard to deny my aging parent any more chances. Because I cannot prove 100% that the parent is a narcissist.
    I also find it hard to have to block possible hovers that are also family, namely siblings.
    But I finally had to learn my lesson: It is them them or I.
    It hurts.

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +3

      Yes
      Me too
      I had to completely let go of my original family including my ageing parents . It had been very very difficult but I also knew that it was them or me. It’s still a daily reckoning. This channel helps a lot !!
      I wish you lots of love and best wishes
      🙏🌈🌺💜🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🐝🌼
      Deb

    • @user-mh8sj8xt3s
      @user-mh8sj8xt3s День назад +1

      You too Deb, you too! Thank you for the lovely emoticons. Especially the little beasties:). Sadly I don't know how to do them;(

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k 21 час назад

      On your smart phone there’s a smiley face on the keypad. If you press it hopefully you’ll get emoji’s. Otherwise ask a child to help you !!😀🦋

    • @user-mh8sj8xt3s
      @user-mh8sj8xt3s 21 час назад

      What's your problem. General stupidity?

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 16 часов назад

      @@user-mh8sj8xt3s I use my iPad and ask my son or a kid 🤣🤣🤣

  • @michelledale3334
    @michelledale3334 День назад +14

    What hurts is how easily they replace you

    • @annbrunoson2954
      @annbrunoson2954 День назад +3

      Well, do they really? Maybe they miss you!

    • @437Colie
      @437Colie День назад

      They replaced you before it ended so while devaluing you they are grooming/ love bombing the new supply. Soon it will happen to her the new supply will become dull & he will devalue her while grooming the next. This is how they leap from one to the next. Its not personal it's who they are. Stat away and heal & don't accept the hoover because it's fake & only for supply

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +2

      😌😌💯

    • @nicolajirving
      @nicolajirving 15 часов назад

      Too easily.

  • @Sandra-vc3uw
    @Sandra-vc3uw День назад +11

    I am quiet, very quiet. Thank you. God bless you from God the Son, God the Father. God the Holy Spirit. The triune only true God.

  • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
    @paulineEirefairygirl5067 2 дня назад +18

    🎭 😂 Ireland 🇮🇪 tuned in 1st

  • @CN-ry4yp
    @CN-ry4yp День назад +12

    Hello, Andrew! From Japan 🇯🇵🇯🇵
    I finally found this channel after dating my American ex-boyfriend for 9 years. 8 of those 9 years were long distance 🇯🇵🇺🇸. I am so surprised that I have experienced almost everything mentioned in your videos.
    I hope more people in Japan learn about narcissistic abuse. There is not even a term for "narcissistic abuse" in Japanese.
    I am slowly healing now. This channel has helped me a lot.
    Your beautiful smile makes me smile. Thank you so much 🩷

  • @andoraabray4749
    @andoraabray4749 9 часов назад +2

    I believe they don’t even love themselves. How can you love another if this is a
    I also believe you love us all Andrew, this is why you are here.
    Thank you!

  • @chazbickel4518
    @chazbickel4518 День назад +4

    Great video Andrew!!
    The more chances you give a narcissist, the more chances they take.
    Wishing everyone clarity and peace...

  • @jillschaefer7257
    @jillschaefer7257 День назад +9

    Blocked him when his chances were up. He messaged me at work where he knew I couldn’t block him and then messaged a friend to get to me after that. Continued sporadic contact keeps him around in my brain more than I’d like as is his intent. But he will never get another chance. Galvanized! 😊

  • @hannastrack4310
    @hannastrack4310 День назад +5

    Raining. Here to boy the truth will set you free amen when you say no more they only get worse

  • @CoolStuff..
    @CoolStuff.. День назад +9

    "It's Only Make Believe"
    People see us everywhere
    They think you really care
    But myself, I can't deceive
    I know it's only make believe
    My one and only prayer
    Is that someday you'll care
    My hopes, my dreams come true
    My one and only you
    No one will ever know
    How much I love you so
    My only prayer will be
    Someday you'll care for me
    But it's only make believe
    My hopes, my dreams come true
    My life I'd give for you
    My heart, a wedding ring
    My all, my everything
    My heart I can't control
    You rule my very soul
    My only prayer will be
    Someday you'll care for me
    But it's only make believe
    My one and only prayer
    Is that some day you'll care
    My hopes, my dreams come true
    My one and only you
    No one will ever know
    How much I love you so
    My prayers, my hopes, my schemes
    You are my every dream
    But it's only make believe (make believe)

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +1

      Wow!!
      I get it !!
      But get the f out of there if you haven’t already!!
      Give the love you feel for another to yourself
      Take back your power from outside of yourself to and for yourself!!
      This has been my journey.
      I came from a family of narcissists and they just used me up for as long as I let them.
      Then others came along. My family are in England and I have been in Australia for thirty years. I love love love like you do but as our friend Andrew says …. You come first second and third ….🙏
      Deb

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад

      😌😌💜

  • @marcelacasas2187
    @marcelacasas2187 День назад +5

    Note: The Narcissist can have all and any woman he wants except me. They want what they can't have . Hopefully this will help other women live without him .

  • @ChristopherHodges-n6w
    @ChristopherHodges-n6w 2 дня назад +11

    Appreciate your videos very much Andrew...please never stop doing what your doing...you saved me...and I'm sure you have saved many others....thankyou so kindly..Chris from Oz...❤

  • @collegegirl201418
    @collegegirl201418 2 дня назад +7

    yes exactly andrew stay warm andrew hope you got home safely i believe my parents marriage is over haven't seen my narcissistic father in a couple of days

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 2 дня назад +17

    Hi And Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This You Are Absolutely Right I Was Emotionally Abused Horribly And Psychologically Abused I Was Hoovered And Discarded The Same Day Thrown Away Like Trash 🗑 As Soon As The Narcissit Was Done Using Me And I Was Told By The Narcissist To Never Message Him Again These Are Ruthless Ppl. They Don't Care About Feelings Of Others Only Themselves. Narcissitic Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.This Person Has Destroyed My Life.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 дня назад +5

      Welcome..😌🙏💜

    • @lysajacobs1107
      @lysajacobs1107 2 дня назад +9

      So sorry you went through that and happy to see you here.
      It’s extremely difficult to believe people are really like this.

    • @ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω
      @ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω 2 дня назад +7

      Same
      Hoovered and discarded on the same day.
      In one of the innumerable hooverings.
      Never again.

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 2 дня назад +8

      @@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω I’m So Sorry!!!

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +2

      "Ruthless" nails it. Things, you'd never dream of doing to another human being.

  • @EJohnFisk
    @EJohnFisk День назад +4

    Absolutely correct . You have described what happened precisely.

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x День назад +7

    It is all about energy. If we give the narcissist another chance, we are giving them our energy and it let’s them keep on going and doing destructive things in the world. And sadly, we are enabling evil in this way. Power, control, dominance, influences, money are all energy and if we let the narcissist have any of those we enable their destructive existence and deprive ourselves from energy and thus weaken in the process.

  • @King.Mathias.Chosen1
    @King.Mathias.Chosen1 День назад +6

    Bro im changing now that im alone by myself life is getting better n better every day 😂 Yall gotta get away from the narcissist. We all been there where we think we need the narcissist to survive and scared to leave. Break the ties ppl life gets bright n brighter. Its deep!! ✌🏽🙌🏼✨️

  • @ZiptiesAndButterflies
    @ZiptiesAndButterflies День назад +15

    Hope everyone is doing well! 💚 I just said no to my narc Mom. Learning to love myself a little more...🙂

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +2

      👏👏👏

    • @ZiptiesAndButterflies
      @ZiptiesAndButterflies День назад +1

      @@user-mo1wk6nd9k Thanks! 💚

    • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
      @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +3

      I have a narc mum. She is very cold and cruel variety. She used silent treatment on me a lot !! Til I just didn’t care anymore. It took me a long time. She’s old now and my narc dad hot headed angry super selfish type died three years ago. I’ve been in Australia for thirty years. My parents and family in England. My mother actually expected that I would give up my life here in the sunshine and go back to look after her !!!
      Nah!!! Strongest word in the English language. I had to work on the guilt . Just sit with the guilt until it went away and I could take another thread of the energy connection back to me !!
      Lots of love to you on your journey home to yourself!!
      Deb🙏🌺💜🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🌈

    • @Angel-rt1sn
      @Angel-rt1sn День назад

      ​@@user-mo1wk6nd9k❤😊🕊️⚖️

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      😌😌💜

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 День назад +15

    Stay solo.❣️

  • @franksimmons9242
    @franksimmons9242 День назад +3

    Reminds me of a saying my Dad used... "trouble is easy to get into but hard to get out of..." most of them are under some kind of negative spiritual influence frequencies we don't want in our homes. The only thing I've ever seen come of that is noise or dissonance. No harmony and we feel drained, or at least annoyed.

  • @BeverlyLarson-g6g
    @BeverlyLarson-g6g День назад +6

    You are soooo right Andrew. I was very vulnerable after the death of my husband . I wasn't even sure how he came into my life, he was just there being so kind, until he wasn't. It was so confusing. And I got so depressed, losing again someone I thought cared. Today, I've taken the no contact, or when needed, being a dull gray rock. Getting sronger day by day staying to myself.

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад +1

      That Gray rock only seems "dull" to others, but you know it's the resolve of a fighting spirit!👍💪✊

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik День назад +1

      STAY AWARE,STAY SAFE,,JERP YOUR HEAD ON A SWIVEL,ESPECIALLY IF MONEY WAS LEFT TO YOU.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад +1

      Thank you for sharing..😌💜🙏

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 16 часов назад +1

      I went to the beach with my ChiChi bird a caique. Animals pick me🙏 get a pet?

  • @johnnichols2088
    @johnnichols2088 День назад +1

    One of the great things I learned from Andrew is to never give them second chances. After having been away from my narc father for a few months now, I have recovered some and fond memories of him are starting to emerge. I find myself thinking “maybe I should reach back out”. But Andrew hard won and solid wisdom holds me back, and I will never go back. I will continue down the path of healing

  • @franksimmons9242
    @franksimmons9242 2 дня назад +10

    Unfortunately I encountered a nephew with a black trash bag full of his clothes wanting to know could he leave them at my house while he went to an appointment.
    There was a time I would have wanted to know did he need a shower or something. Nothing personal but we don't live in those times anymore. I gave him a spot to store his things but then thought don't want him coming back and forth randomly. Never really got to know him but his Dad, my brother is highly toxic and my heart goes out because I know being in his thirties somewhere he never got guidance but we have to protect our space energy and time. Especially from other adults who have a funny way of trying to dump their baggage on someone.

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 День назад +6

    I love the title but the opening intro is even better.."but what were you doing?" Think about that🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊😁🌊 Love your talks Andrew💚🙏🐝

  • @rosalynmatz3288
    @rosalynmatz3288 День назад +2

    Wow…. that cautionary Trojan Horse hoover analogy is conceptually brilliant and spot on, Andrew!! 🧠💭🎯

  • @sandranatale1265
    @sandranatale1265 День назад +6

    You are Soo right Andrew!!!! June 15 it was the " I can't take this anymore" and I vent, 3 month no contact at all, God is on my side because Divorce be final the 15 next month !!! Exactly 4 months after , God is in this 😊. He married me like a contract even with a prenuptial, because he did all he could do for me to brake the prenupcial, but I did not, he married me only for two years, it only lasted 16 months, and I told him that he looks like he's becoming to the due date. Please 🙏 listen, read all the comments, but do not believe of the i be better this time, every chance you give, the more hard the outcome of that chance. .

  • @catxls1835
    @catxls1835 День назад +3

    My ex partner almost ended me. I didn't think I could recover, but I found you. You are helping me heal from what I have experienced at the hands of a narcissist. I didn't realize how much trauma I had been through until I found your channel. Thank you for helping me identify and heal from what I have been through. God bless you.

  • @seekingstarwater371
    @seekingstarwater371 День назад +8

    Spot on as always

  • @Original22
    @Original22 День назад +8

    It affected me to the point I had painters elbow and planters fasciitis and low and behold after she left everything subsided and disappeared ! Haven't had an issue in 12 yrs or better ...

  • @marylamb56
    @marylamb56 День назад +4

    All is so truthful of which you are saying 🥰 Thank You Andrew 🕊⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌈😘

  • @earleenGreene
    @earleenGreene День назад +9

    I'm healing from a narcissist

  • @cathyjackson1150
    @cathyjackson1150 2 часа назад +1

    Exactly. .I met him 4 Mos after my precious husband passed away, unexpectedly..I was still at my grieving stage..weak and I couldn't think good,he was moving in stronger and stronger in my weak broken heart stage..after we married,he changed on our wedding night,extremely abusive..I was totally shocked and couldn't figure out what he was doing..it's been pure ungodly hell ever since..we are separated and getting a divorce after 12 yrs..God has been my strength and my protection..thanku for your utbe video

  • @vickipierard6342
    @vickipierard6342 День назад +3

    Thank you so much Andrew. It is like you know exactly what I have lived. I am out of my 18yr marriage but it had taken me 20yrs to heal!! I am so grateful for you. God bless you!!

  • @earleenGreene
    @earleenGreene День назад +5

    I LOVE LISTENING TO YOU YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON YOU HAVE HELP ME SO MUCH GOD BLESS YOU ❤

  • @user-mo1wk6nd9k
    @user-mo1wk6nd9k День назад +6

    Yeah I’ve been trying to copy the side smirk !!
    I haven’t got it yet 😅😂🤣
    Deb🙏

  • @herlifenextdoor
    @herlifenextdoor День назад +4

    YESSS 💯😭 been there, done that.I only realized I was an empath after learning alot during post-discard..

  • @edainari
    @edainari 4 часа назад +1

    Andrew, your videos ground and comfort me so profoundly. Thank you

  • @derrelmack1466
    @derrelmack1466 День назад +12

    OMG OMG OMG OMG
    Great Video!! Please pay attention people!!!

  • @John-k6i
    @John-k6i 22 часа назад +3

    I gave in to the hoover, and it took about 10 days for her attitude to end up right where it was... The good thing is that i continued to strengthen my resolve. She has no clue how detached i am from her at this point.. It's really sad honestly that someone who you have done literally everything for can just take us for granted. She really doesn't understand..

    • @BNyaB
      @BNyaB 3 часа назад

      Ruuuun! 🏃

  • @lovehonesty
    @lovehonesty 7 часов назад +1

    Trusting your instincts is key! Thank you Andrew

  • @PeterRabbit53
    @PeterRabbit53 День назад +3

    The coments are as telling as the video contents. You do good work, Andrew. I've had a couple narcs in my life, a step child whose son I ended up raising, and now my current wife's ex. I would scream NO CONTACT WORKS! to anyone who would listen. Ugh, the generational damage they do! I would enjoy being a fly on the wall during their life reviews...

  • @marypalmer1062
    @marypalmer1062 День назад +6

    It seemed to be hard core to just expose my eyes to such brightness but im here now to let u know...from a nobody with ❤

  • @marieharrington3573
    @marieharrington3573 День назад +3

    Thank you so much, Andrew. You have such a good heart to share this wisdom and help so many. Every day something hits home, and I am so grateful to be on this healing path, finally. Love to everyone 🌼

  • @browneyedgirl1999
    @browneyedgirl1999 День назад +2

    This is an amazing video, Andrew. Thank you for creating it. I have been with my husband for 33 years ( 17 years married) and I feel so stuck and trapped. I constantly give my husband chances and more chances. I came from a narcissistic abusive family ( scapegoat) and lo and behold I found someone who is just like my dad narcissistic and abusive. The problem is- I have a teenage autistic son who loves his dad and the thought of leaving ( I really need to for my dignity) makes me feel so overwhelmed and guilty. I don’t know what to do. I have been leaning on God and praying

  • @annrominger7529
    @annrominger7529 День назад +2

    Some psychologists say narcs are like children, yes only in that they never grow up,but thats all children are beautiful and innocent and pure,narcs are not you have to become like them to enter God's kingdom!thank you Andrew, you are a real gem and have helped me so much and opened my eyes to reality ,love your content ❤

    • @gma729
      @gma729 День назад

      They are NOTHING like children, aside from Child Narcs like themselves, they ARE EVIL 💯 MALEVOLENT

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад

      True to an extent .They may have many child-like immature traits, but adult Narcs are far more dangerous with more complex manipulating games.They'll inflict merciless emotional damage and laugh about it.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад

      Welcome..🙏💜😌

  • @hongtruong4576
    @hongtruong4576 17 часов назад +1

    Namaste Andrew 🙏You helped me made that long connection between my head to my heart. Forever grateful from Long Island NY. The waves were beautiful at the beach this afternoon. Life is Grand without toxicity. Deepest respect to you Sir! 🙏💜💐

  • @nleativa
    @nleativa День назад +3

    I'm afraid the narc will hoover me many years from now when I forget, older and vulnerable. We co-parent our son, so this very is possible

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 2 дня назад +14

    ❤💜❤️💜 Exactly!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 дня назад +5

      😌💜💯

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 2 дня назад +5

      Hi Jennifer lots of Love sent 💐💐💖🌼💖🌼💖👏

    • @collegegirl201418
      @collegegirl201418 2 дня назад +5

      hey jenny

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 дня назад +4

      Hey Flower! 🙌💐🥰☀️☘️🇮🇪🩷🌻🌺🪻🍁🦋🫂🫂❤💜❤️💜

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 дня назад +4

      @@collegegirl201418Hey Amy Jo, how have you been? 🙌😁☀️🫂🦋💜❤️☮️☘️🌻🌺💐🍁🩷🪻👩‍🍳🍽️

  • @michelleharkness7549
    @michelleharkness7549 День назад +4

    Thank you tech person ( people) : again: thank you 😊

  • @Senarableuenn
    @Senarableuenn День назад +7

    Super video today I really enjoyed the flow and explanation ❤

  • @sunnyskyacres
    @sunnyskyacres День назад +3

    Latest text from Narc: “When can we start talking again? I’d like to know what you’re thinking.”

  • @jshelley4592
    @jshelley4592 День назад +6

    OMG Andrew I got the courage to leave !!!! I am in the road going to texas

  • @MrWildWales
    @MrWildWales 3 часа назад +1

    Andrew you're a beautiful soul

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 День назад +3

    Tam, let's encourage each other. It isn't easy either.❣️

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity6314 5 часов назад +1

    I experienced PTSD from my experience. I almost lost my mind. They are so beguiling, l was naive and he knew it. I am still recovering 2 years later. Dracula visited me. But l got away by threatening him with exposure. It's not over yet...l sense he is coming back. I like to think l am wiser and strategic this time. Door bolted permanently.

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp День назад +4

    Thank you Andrew I'm ready to move on and I got better but I'm still want to hear your RUclips videos thank you so much and God bless you

  • @larickywalker7568
    @larickywalker7568 2 дня назад +11

    Yes sir ❤

  • @Moose74491
    @Moose74491 14 часов назад +1

    My counselor told me at one point, to choose a date in the future and put it in my calendar. A date when I would no longer put up with it.

  • @motowngirl5891
    @motowngirl5891 День назад +9

    BLOCKING ON THE PHONE doesn’t work, they can still leave voicemails and texts

    • @nicolajirving
      @nicolajirving 15 часов назад

      Turn your voicemail off. He left pleading messages to draw me back in. I don't want to hear that ever again. Remove yourself from social media to protect yourself. You are in control.

  • @anitaandersen2531
    @anitaandersen2531 День назад +3

    ❤ sooo many gold nuggets- last 3-4 especially 🙏🙏🙏❤️- can so relate and appreciate 🇳🇴

  • @RealBigCliff
    @RealBigCliff День назад +8

    Refuse to be Used

  • @laylomaazimi7560
    @laylomaazimi7560 9 часов назад +1

    Exactly what's up lol love peace love all that you are saying every word is so true correct 💯 love love 😘❤

  • @antdiggitychevy3291
    @antdiggitychevy3291 День назад +5

    I contacted my ex wife to make her aware of a situation regarding our son and she used that as a opportunity to trash talk me and even make up some stuff that never happened during or relationship. I'm talking a straight up fabrication of events that never took place . Scared the hell out of me because we have been done for 5 years and I don't understand what's the point after all this time still just being nasty and lying.

    • @gma729
      @gma729 День назад +1

      They fabricate up crap on their spouses or ex's all the time. THEY ARE 💯 PURE EVIL !! MALEVOLENT !!!

    • @JHavaJoe2-m1z
      @JHavaJoe2-m1z День назад

      "making up stuff that never happened ..." Scary, but it's some foul, twisted DARVO thing that made those delusions Gel into a toxic reality.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  День назад

      😌😌💯💯

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 16 часов назад +1

      The ex narc favorite quote: A lie is not a lie if you believed in it! What? Hah? Now that makes sense. They believe in their owe lies, they live in a sick, twisted fantasy 💯💯💯 she’s looking for a reaction. I would just look and zip my lips

  • @MartinHays-ht6jx
    @MartinHays-ht6jx День назад +5

    Hi andrew this was the last chance for my sis broken promises im done im leaving the state and Never coming back around this cult they can have it all to them selves my sis and big brother had lost their freedom now because of the way they treated me i can only hope while they are sitting on a cell reflect how they got here if they can see clearly and take responsablity then its possible in time to leave that personality for good not blaming everyone else for their bad behavior and take responsibility for their actions.

  • @joannagooney8342
    @joannagooney8342 День назад +4

    Andrew, Thankyou for the video
    So relatable to me
    Spot on
    Your channel is really helping me so
    thankyou again
    Have a lovely day

  • @katieowen4676
    @katieowen4676 День назад +3

    God bless you for this video! and God bless you anyway, I needed this.