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A lot of people have to start over at around 40 and other times. A lot of people lose money to divorce, investments, debt, inheritance. Tremendous derailments.
Thank you beautiful ladies for coming to chat with us tonight & TY Jonathon for providing the forum. Your courage in the dating game is inspiring. All the best to you.💚
Lovely that you shared yr story! I get yr insecurities as a man. But at 6ft 2" handsome - I'll date you. ❤😅 it's so refreshing when a man is honest. This is more attractive to most women than a fat wallet!
Thank you for opening your heart to us. It makes me think about a man's point of view. I have the same fear cuz I am on disability. People do not understand how it feels.
I appreciate your honesty... It gives me insight of how men can be feeling in similar circumstances. Especially strong men I will keep my heart open and full of compassion Namaste ❤
Hi Jonathon and all folks those who read comments 🖐, firstly thanks for this free coaching session..it s my second comment in a week, seems to me that after giving last wk' s personal statement you picked yourself up and doing very well. 👏 All topic you discussed well covered and sincerely shared and your hosts' personal experiences are promising - what i just wanted to say is that we should also recognise that there are things in this world that not up to us - We may be trying to be good person, kind & caring human being towards to others or love ourselves as Narcissus loved himself in purest form ( teasing ) - or dear Eros trying his best to find a perfect match for any one deserves in whole world - things may not work well on every individual. Sometimes it s not about us. How would that be, never been. I find all shared personal experiences heartwarming when I listen, helping me learning re our fears, basic needs and desires at large when it comes to love another being and wanting to be loved. At deepest level it is all about understanding - learning and understanding will make us a good person. 'Faith seeking understanding '
I really appreciated this talk. Thank you! What is your greatest fear entering a relationship? What an important question! I‘m not dating right now, I‘ll have to remember that. My fear is investing the time, falling in love, only to be eventually rejected by the person I‘m so excited about. Especially after believing all the feelings were mutual.
This is my fear too. I guess this is why continual check ins as you continue dating is what will offer the clarity that is needed every step of the way. I know many could be turned off by that, however if we have been hurt before we have to protect ourselves and find those willing to meet us where we are at. Willing to work with us. It is stupidity throwing yourself into something and just going on hope and faith alone. I think you have to bring it down to earth and find a partner willing to build the scafolding or skeleton of the relationship first.
@ Yes, I think you are right there. Its probably very important from the get go to get clear on what kind of vision our partner has for a relationship.
Aww Jonathon you are worthy and let me tell you something. Being a only child some of us are set in our ways and don't even desire the company of large family gatherings or a pascal of grands running through the house.OMG! Clutching my pearls at that thought. LOL In terms of not having enough to offer not everyone is meant to or desires to live cabin A. Here's a fact to look at, "the richer the man the more likely trouble will come in that relationship as others will constantly be trying for him, and somebody just might break through."
@ Because I have learned from the past and men thinking they’re entitled to something because they paid for a meal, drinks or appetizers. A couple scary incidents that happened
I'm touched by your radical honesty about rejection and insecurities re the golden Batchelor example you gave. You shared about fear of not being able to support another person. About heavy duty tragedies. Thank you so much. This makes you such high value, in my opinion.
Thank you for sharing Jonathon...I guess this comes from raising a son with very little child support, but I have always looked at a relationship as I will always contribute! I bet a lot women feel the same way. I think in my mom and dad's generation, that was different..Also, I think once we are divorced and in our 40's and 50's, it's totally different:)
@ Well, I met him through Zoosk app And we had just met, and he said he really liked me, and that I was so sexy, and he wanted to see me again and to see where it goes, I said ok, we can, we’ll a few days after a received a video of him playing him self with his penis, I was so shocked, I told him i was not going to continue talking to him, of course he apologized and kept texting me till I responded back after a month, and I said I’m not that kind of woman, so he understood what I was looking for, and from there we started fresh, and we were in a relationship for 3 years, so yeah, if you allow those behaviors they take as a casual sex I was more shocked bc he’s a Lawyer, me thinking he was super respectful 😊
Jonathan, thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your fears. I'm similarly fearful, but mine is over the skeletons in my closet!😂 I've heard you mention The Four Agreements, we'll never move forward if we make assumptions about what others will think about us. Praying GUS puts us in front of the right people.
Jonathan have u any members in your group from uk or ireland? I'm thinking I'd like to join your community and make acquaintances with people in UK and Ireland nearer for me as well as others ❤❤
I so get it, the lost everything and rebuilding. Male or female people do reject for this reason. And things are so expensive with the current inflation. It does effect ones confidence, until hopefully it doesn't. Look forward to the psychedelic update. Never heard the B-Day song. Awesome...😅Great ladies living their life❤
Don't forget that for many people sex = love. It may be the temporary fleeting kind of love, but they're also using it to feel closer whether they recognize it or not. Women are not the only ones that give sex expecting love.
How about a woman who is not confident about her money is not the woman you want to get involved with? I am listening and cannot believe how some women think. We are all humans and we should turn that mirror towards ourselves.
JA, you should reconsider your stance on the GB. Salty would love this for you. He doesn't want you stuck. The exposure you would get would be so amazing. Look how all the men bonded and will be life long buddies. This (your) show was stellar. Your fears are normal. I may have a home and people think I may not have a care in the world, but I ,too, have fears maybe I'm not good enough. It's better but it still comes out. Thank you for all you do❤❤❤❤❤
As someone said in live comments - men send d. picks because that works so well with other men. And many men are clueless to what women are like and what they want. In fact, this is the huge problem of today's society I would say - we all project our wishes and desires on other person (be it in love, work, family matters, social surroundings) and we always start with "me, me, me". Maybe if people learned how to understand another person before projecting themselves ("I would never do this so everyone else should not!"), this world would be much better place.
I am an only child, with no family. It is difficult to find another person who is an only child, so getting a family from the other person would be nice.
Johnath. I want to be sexually attracted drives me wild….when I find that I just want it all the time if he treats me bad it’s gone bu.t when I find someone who drives the desire my god I just want to have him all the time
Have you considered that your story/ perspective is what America needs? Especially women need to hear & understand in order to have more compassion and understanding around men and dating? And that men might appreciate it? What if your truth could help bring couples together?
Jonathan…I quit my job last December and tried retirement but not social security. While I enjoyed not working, something was missing in me. Started working out with friends and volunteered with the disabled, I missed not having a job working with memory loss. I went back to work 3 days a week. More happy 💕🦋
Thank you for this. I wish I could get granular with the man who broke my heart 27 months ago but this is just not possible as he will not reach out. But understanding why men want to get sexual so quickly does make perfect sense and I agree. I am afraid of rejection now because of how that relationship ended and been working through it but I don't want to jump into the sack either. I want to take those 100 hrs but what man is really going to do that to build the like?
@JonathonAslay you spoke about me having a fear of not being able to provide. So what about the men who have a mindset of being 50/50. So that providing mindset is not an issue. I guess I'm trying to figure out other fears that would hold a man back if providing isn't their mindset to begin with.
Well can I say he very rarely came near me I felt like I wasn’t good enough for him but am very attractive but him not so but I feel for him not his looks but he was olso addicted to porn wich I worked out for myself and after 7 months it was just getting worse and I had to let him go because I was feeling less than. Never I know my worth ❤Xx
He reached me just for sex😢 He has other women, he Is addicted to sex and porn. He Is a musician and he Is attrattive so he has so many options and I felt one of those. I love him since we knew each other ...almost 5 years ago
Coming from the person who restated her life twice already (once moved to US, 2nd - 1st divorce that left me with 0) and getting through my second divorce 15 years later - its ok to start over - it makes you grow and appreciate the relationships and peace way more
🌷 Jonathan, you really are a sweetheart on so many levels :-) I truly enjoy your talks, thank you. You remind me of my dear brother; he passed away four years ago- my sis passed in '85... gosh, I miss them so much- Still. Anyway, re-subject, my brother admitted once to my mother, my sister and myself (we could talk about most anything) that his level of self-security was directly related to how much money he had in the bank. Most men I've known have been that same way. I just don't feel that way myself... I don't know why… We were as poor as a "church mouse" (without the church :-) I take care of myself- always have... I don't see it as my guy's responsibility... and I don't mind at all- paying for 'things' in a relationship. It's approaching 10P, I'll need to listen to the rest of this talk another time. Truth is, an opossum attacked my chicken, She's all bloody and in shock. So for the next hour or so... I'll be cooing to and giving my chicken a warm Epsom salts bath... truth is stranger than fiction- yes?
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I gleaned from the 2 ladies in the hot seat is that it's never too late to find love. there are men over 60 interested in a love partner.
A lot of people have to start over at around 40 and other times. A lot of people lose money to divorce, investments, debt, inheritance. Tremendous derailments.
I think building together can be exciting. A person who is practical and creative. Money can be made, and a guy who is humorous is golden.
Thank you beautiful ladies for coming to chat with us tonight & TY Jonathon for providing the forum. Your courage in the dating game is inspiring. All the best to you.💚
Thanks for the support, I appreciate it!
Lovely that you shared yr story! I get yr insecurities as a man. But at 6ft 2" handsome - I'll date you. ❤😅 it's so refreshing when a man is honest. This is more attractive to most women than a fat wallet!
I think your story will resonate and maybe make you the next Golden Bachelor or at the very least bring a lot of attention to the work you do!
You are right, Sex is not always bonding 😊 Friendzone is a good thing
Greatest fear - that my partner would not be attracted to me… being unlovable
Thank you for opening your heart to us. It makes me think about a man's point of view. I have the same fear cuz I am on disability. People do not understand how it feels.
I’m glad it resonated with you.
I appreciate your honesty... It gives me insight of how men can be feeling in similar circumstances. Especially strong men I will keep my heart open and full of compassion Namaste ❤
I appreciate you taking the time to watch!
Hi Jonathon and all folks those who read comments 🖐, firstly thanks for this free coaching session..it s my second comment in a week, seems to me that after giving last wk' s personal statement you picked yourself up and doing very well. 👏
All topic you discussed well covered and sincerely shared and your hosts' personal experiences are promising - what i just wanted to say is that we should also recognise that there are things in this world that not up to us - We may be trying to be good person, kind & caring human being towards to others or love ourselves as Narcissus loved himself in purest form ( teasing ) - or dear Eros trying his best to find a perfect match for any one deserves in whole world - things may not work well on every individual. Sometimes it s not about us. How would that be, never been.
I find all shared personal experiences heartwarming when I listen, helping me learning re our fears, basic needs and desires at large when it comes to love another being and wanting to be loved. At deepest level it is all about understanding - learning and understanding will make us a good person.
'Faith seeking understanding '
I really appreciated this talk. Thank you! What is your greatest fear entering a relationship? What an important question! I‘m not dating right now, I‘ll have to remember that. My fear is investing the time, falling in love, only to be eventually rejected by the person I‘m so excited about. Especially after believing all the feelings were mutual.
This is my fear too. I guess this is why continual check ins as you continue dating is what will offer the clarity that is needed every step of the way. I know many could be turned off by that, however if we have been hurt before we have to protect ourselves and find those willing to meet us where we are at. Willing to work with us. It is stupidity throwing yourself into something and just going on hope and faith alone. I think you have to bring it down to earth and find a partner willing to build the scafolding or skeleton of the relationship first.
@ Yes, I think you are right there. Its probably very important from the get go to get clear on what kind of vision our partner has for a relationship.
Aww Jonathon you are worthy and let me tell you something. Being a only child some of us are set in our ways and don't even desire the company of large family gatherings or a pascal of grands running through the house.OMG! Clutching my pearls at that thought. LOL In terms of not having enough to offer not everyone is meant to or desires to live cabin A. Here's a fact to look at, "the richer the man the more likely trouble will come in that relationship as others will constantly be trying for him, and somebody just might break through."
Thank you for your honesty Jonathon!
I appreciate that!
Thank you for being real and so honest with us
Jonathan…just another reason why I pay my own way. 💕🦋
Why?
@ Because I have learned from the past and men thinking they’re entitled to something because they paid for a meal, drinks or appetizers.
A couple scary incidents that happened
Such a strong and important topic!!! Thank you for this topic - needed this right now :)
I’m glad it resonated with you 😊
I'm touched by your radical honesty about rejection and insecurities re the golden Batchelor example you gave. You shared about fear of not being able to support another person. About heavy duty tragedies. Thank you so much. This makes you such high value, in my opinion.
WOW, thank you 😊
Thank you for sharing Jonathon
You're welcome!
Thank you for sharing Jonathon...I guess this comes from raising a son with very little child support, but I have always looked at a relationship as I will always contribute! I bet a lot
women feel the same way. I think in my mom and dad's generation, that was different..Also, I think once we are divorced and in our 40's and 50's, it's totally different:)
You’re right, it’s not always the same.
Phantom relationships, commitments with people in my head
Yes!!! I experienced that, I was shocked. I told him not again.
What did you experience?
@
Well, I met him through Zoosk app
And we had just met, and he said he really liked me, and that I was so sexy, and he wanted to see me again and to see where it goes, I said ok, we can, we’ll a few days after a received a video of him playing him self with his penis, I was so shocked,
I told him i was not going to continue talking to him, of course he apologized and kept texting me till I responded back after a month, and I said I’m not that kind of woman, so he understood what I was looking for, and from there we started fresh, and we were in a relationship for 3 years, so yeah, if you allow those behaviors they take as a casual sex
I was more shocked bc he’s a Lawyer, me thinking he was super respectful 😊
@
He sent me video pleasuring himself.
Jonathan, thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your fears. I'm similarly fearful, but mine is over the skeletons in my closet!😂 I've heard you mention The Four Agreements, we'll never move forward if we make assumptions about what others will think about us. Praying GUS puts us in front of the right people.
Jonathan have u any members in your group from uk or ireland? I'm thinking I'd like to join your community and make acquaintances with people in UK and Ireland nearer for me as well as others ❤❤
I so get it, the lost everything and rebuilding. Male or female people do reject for this reason. And things are so expensive with the current inflation. It does effect ones confidence, until hopefully it doesn't. Look forward to the psychedelic update. Never heard the B-Day song. Awesome...😅Great ladies living their life❤
Thank you for sharing. I loss my Husband and everything . I trying to regain my health.
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing okay.
Don't forget that for many people sex = love. It may be the temporary fleeting kind of love, but they're also using it to feel closer whether they recognize it or not. Women are not the only ones that give sex expecting love.
First time listened... Thank you
I’m glad you enjoyed it!
A very insightful session. And so helpful to me as a more mature woman.
Happy to hear 😊
How about a woman who is not confident about her money is not the woman you want to get involved with? I am listening and cannot believe how some women think. We are all humans and we should turn that mirror towards ourselves.
Esther Perel - Artificial Intimacy
JA, you should reconsider your stance on the GB. Salty would love this for you. He doesn't want you stuck. The exposure you would get would be so amazing. Look how all the men bonded and will be life long buddies. This
(your) show was stellar. Your fears are normal. I may have a home and people think I may not have a care in the world, but I ,too, have fears maybe I'm not good enough. It's better but it still comes out. Thank you for all you do❤❤❤❤❤
I appreciate your support!
As someone said in live comments - men send d. picks because that works so well with other men. And many men are clueless to what women are like and what they want. In fact, this is the huge problem of today's society I would say - we all project our wishes and desires on other person (be it in love, work, family matters, social surroundings) and we always start with "me, me, me". Maybe if people learned how to understand another person before projecting themselves ("I would never do this so everyone else should not!"), this world would be much better place.
I am an only child, with no family. It is difficult to find another person who is an only child, so getting a family from the other person would be nice.
Johnath. I want to be sexually attracted drives me wild….when I find that I just want it all the time if he treats me bad it’s gone bu.t when I find someone who drives the desire my god I just want to have him all the time
Have you considered that your story/ perspective is what America needs? Especially women need to hear & understand in order to have more compassion and understanding around men and dating? And that men might appreciate it? What if your truth could help bring couples together?
Yes, that's why I'm public.
Jonathan…I quit my job last December and tried retirement but not social security. While I enjoyed not working, something was missing in me.
Started working out with friends and volunteered with the disabled, I missed not having a job working with memory loss.
I went back to work 3 days a week. More happy 💕🦋
It's great that you're doing what makes you happy!
Oh thank you so much Jonathan. 💕🦋
@@JonathonAslay It is also great Jonathan that you are now taking much needed time for yourself and your happiness. 💕🦋
Hugs back
Thank you for this. I wish I could get granular with the man who broke my heart 27 months ago but this is just not possible as he will not reach out.
But understanding why men want to get sexual so quickly does make perfect sense and I agree. I am afraid of rejection now because of how that relationship ended and been working through it but I don't want to jump into the sack either. I want to take those 100 hrs but what man is really going to do that to build the like?
My first thought was that you Jonathan would reject Joan because of her age and her lifestyle . That’s what I was thinking
In my last two relationships, both women were older than me.
Jonathan, I like you more & more.
Awe... thank you 😊
Happy, Happy birthday to you!!!! Jonathan loved your singing happy birthday to Linda, so sweet. 💕🦋🎁
Thank you so much!
I want connection but if I’m attracted to them god I wantwantwant them and don’t care after that
You wouldn’t be rejected by me ❤️
Nice to hear...
Th sex attraction is sooo strong I don’t care I just want them
Ok i dont know i havent had sex for 8 years
Are you dating?
Are you dating?
Please explain; are you trying to meet guys and date? Is this an exploration for you to watch this video? Thanks!
Dishonesty
I haven't had sex in 9 years. And I really miss intimacy
I so enjoy you.
Awe... thank you 😊
I am with a man who is in the same situation as you.
But I feel he is pushy me away.
I have never based friends or partners based on finances
Thanks for sharing 👍🏼 😊
What about those men that want 50/50 ?
What about that? What about women who want 50/50? 🤔
@JonathonAslay you spoke about me having a fear of not being able to provide. So what about the men who have a mindset of being 50/50. So that providing mindset is not an issue. I guess I'm trying to figure out other fears that would hold a man back if providing isn't their mindset to begin with.
Testasterone!
Well can I say he very rarely came near me I felt like I wasn’t good enough for him but am very attractive but him not so but I feel for him not his looks but he was olso addicted to porn wich I worked out for myself and after 7 months it was just getting worse and I had to let him go because I was feeling less than. Never I know my worth ❤Xx
He reached me just for sex😢
He has other women, he Is addicted to sex and porn. He Is a musician and he Is attrattive so he has so many options and I felt one of those.
I love him since we knew each other ...almost 5 years ago
❤
I thought you just got married?
My last relationship ended 15 months ago 😢
By the way Linda, you look great
Coming from the person who restated her life twice already (once moved to US, 2nd - 1st divorce that left me with 0) and getting through my second divorce 15 years later - its ok to start over - it makes you grow and appreciate the relationships and peace way more
🌷 Jonathan, you really are a sweetheart on so many levels :-) I truly enjoy your talks, thank you. You remind me of my dear brother; he passed away four years ago- my sis passed in '85... gosh, I miss them so much- Still. Anyway, re-subject, my brother admitted once to my mother, my sister and myself (we could talk about most anything) that his level of self-security was directly related to how much money he had in the bank. Most men I've known have been that same way. I just don't feel that way myself... I don't know why… We were as poor as a "church mouse" (without the church :-) I take care of myself- always have... I don't see it as my guy's responsibility... and I don't mind at all- paying for 'things' in a relationship. It's approaching 10P, I'll need to listen to the rest of this talk another time. Truth is, an opossum attacked my chicken, She's all bloody and in shock. So for the next hour or so... I'll be cooing to and giving my chicken a warm Epsom salts bath... truth is stranger than fiction- yes?
Wow, that's quite a story with the chicken!
Jonathan, I love that you changed hot seat to love 💺 seat💕🦋
Yes ❤️
A more gentle approach
Jonathan, as always, thank you 💕🦋