MONK's Q&A's SEXUAL DESIRE & HOW to SLEEP ON THE FLOOR
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 10 янв 2024
- MAN GIVES UP EVERYTHING
In 2015, aged 47 an English businessman gave up everything and travelled Asia to find true happiness. Now a Buddhist Monk, living a simple life in Thailand, India and Sri Lanka, he shares the continuing story.
Please SUBSCRIBE and be HAPPY too.
englishbuddhistmonk@gmail.com
Phra Dan (Bhante Dhammarakkhita, Bhikkhu) is a Theravada Buddhist Monk who lived in India from 2020, Thailand and now Sri Lanka. Born in Sussex, England in 1967. Educated by French Catholic Monks. A successful businessman in Estate Agency and Financial Services during the 1980's and 90's. Married, now divorced with 3 adult son's. 2000 marked change and travel including South Africa returning to the UK in 2003 to continue different work and business activities until 2012. Gradually materialistic values turned to renunciation, simplicity and meditation, living nomadically in an old Ford Transit van full time for 3 years. Van life and meditation led to Buddhism and a Thai Forest Tradition, Theravada Buddhist Monastery in the UK. During 2015 travelling the Buddhist Holy Sites of India, deep faith reinforced desire for Ordination. In 2020 after 5 years of intensive meditation practice between Thai Forest Monasteries in Thailand and England he was Ordained in India where he lived for 3 years until returning to Thailand in 2023 and now Sri Lanka.
Sabe Satta Sukhi Hontu
#englishmonk
Q1. Sexual / Sensual desire 10:46
Q2. Changing our mind 17:57
Q3. Trust 23:37
Q4. Distress to Peace 25:52
Q5. Balala Cat Fleas 29:18
Q6. Guided Meditation 31:29
Q7. How to sleep on the floor 37:53
Q8. Studio 42:21
Q9. God and the Buddha 43:01
Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sukhi Hontu
Thank you Phra Dan, i am experiencing great katannuta (gratitude) for your devotion and for your guidance leading us back to the Dhamma. I too trust you and want to give back by supporting you in Dhamma too. 🙏🙏🙏
You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well
Grateful to have found your channel, very helpful for the solitary practitioner like me 🙏🙏🙏
I'm happy it's useful. Be happy and stay well
Thank you very much for this talk.
For myself, I compare my sexual desire almost to intoxication and with this "intoxication" I find that my practice is affected. I find myself being delusional and steering away from the eightfold path and acting with misconduct. So as a lay person, I practice abstinence as much as possible, yet this sexual desire can get very intense, but I have to see it as a teacher to letting it go.
Sukhi Hontu
🙏🙏🙏
Ask for divine help, ask for wisdom on how to transmute it.
Speak to your body, tell it the spirit is in charge.
Do breath work to help raise it into your heart. Try Joe dispenza’s breath.
This helped me overcome mine when the energy was overwhelming.
I will definitely be posting a video about this as a lot of people struggle with this.
Sending you lots of love and light 🙏
I see you mention poya and from the red floors that you are in Sri Lanka! (And your mention of the cats of course) great video! Very much appreciated, ayubowan, booma stutti Aiya. Much love and many blessings to you ❤️🙏✌️😊
Sukhi Hontu
Master of the universe bhagwan Buddha ❤🙏🙏🙏
Sukhi Hontu
13K views for this video in a week. Congratulations Phra Dan
Sukhi Hontu
Thanks! God bless 🙏
Sukhi Hontu
thankyou for this explanation.
You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well
Anumodana, Phra Dan/Bhante Dhammarakkhita, 🙏🙏🙏
Sukhi Hontu
@@englishmonkif I masturbate 10,12 times in a year is it bad?
Peace be with you!
And also with you
Im going through a kundalini awakening your video has such loving energy. Thank you so much love
If you don't mind can you share about how you afford life? I have anxieties about that. Are you staying in a monastery? Can women live there?
You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
Hello english buddhist monk. Thank you for sharing this. I Am a 28 old woman and I really want to be celibate, i Always felt an atraction for it, and I feel empowered by hearing about celibate life style and how it changes you heart and mind to a higher state. However I do feel a very strong need for companionship, not sexually, But emotionally. So I dont really know what to choose Or what to do.
Thank you for you videos
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
Hi dear. Please don't attached with anybody, especially for emotionally needed. Trust me. 😊
The companionship give you temporary happiness but will bring you to unending suffering. There will be an expensive price to pay in this name of companionship. The worry, the betrayal, the anger, the jealousy, the attachment for "atta and nica" concepts, the desire for this and that, etc.
You are your own greatest companionship. Only you and your conscience. You can look for a life as pabajja. Samaneri, atthasilani, etc.
I want to choose that life too but it's a bit too late for me. I understand the value of Buddha teaching only when I am already a mom. I hope when my responsibility towards my kid will be done, I can move forward and start my celibate life..😊
The singing chants sound lovely. I will say that once awakened the noises or words you sing or chant are irrelevant. It’s the making of the sounds that raises Kundalini and arouses the Pineal to secrete Amrita which then propels the Yogi into Supra Consciousness, Christ/Krishna Consciousness.
When I awakened in my mid twenties I was also simply sat comfortable upright on an ordinary Chair chanting “Aum” through my Chakras and autopilot Pranayama long Cobra hissing breaths. This aroused Kundalini and I had the full blown awakening experience..
Tremendous flash imagery beyond Human comprehension in the ultimate Bliss beyond and Plant or Substance I’d ever taken. The Bliss and images etc are not the end goal or a means to an end I do not believe. But it’s an incredible ability to have as I can reside there without ever being ‘bored’ again and I believe that it is a complete purification each time I arouse her and she uncoils.
I lost my ability to do it as I ‘fell from Grace’ and started drinking and abusing my body for a long time. You seem like a great man. I am from England too. I feel like I can learn a lot from you. Thanks 🙏
สาธุ พระสงฆ์ ผู้ปฏิบัติ ดี ปฏิบัติชอบ
Sukhi Hontu
i enjoyed watching this
Sukhi Hontu
I appreciate the part where you distinguished between empty and spacious mind. good stuff.
Thanks YOU for Explanation om Buddhism in English. Sardhu,>Sardhu,Sardhu.
Sukhi Hontu
Thank you, I will have a look at the recommended videos. I looked at some other online stuff on no sexual release either and some recommended a vigorous workout, breathwork to pull the energy from the root chakra to the third eye, taking a cold shower, and to bring full awareness to the experience. So I have some tools to test out. :)
Be happy and stay well
🙏🙏🙏 สาธุเจ้าค่ะหลวงพ่อ
Be happy and stay well
Thx😊
You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well
Thank you for this talk very helpful, I am new to this world . Have done a few courses and retreats and recently joined a study group. I am finding these videos helpful also and have answered some questions.
You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well
I don't belong to any sect but have lived as a monk for 16 years now. 12 years ago those conserved energies opened a door at the base of the spine and flew up into the crown satisfying the sexual desire without any arousal below the belt. This has been happening multiple times daily for 12 years now. I know this phenomena by the yogic name Urdhvaretas.
ok
I had the great fortune to spend a week at the monastery in Chichester some years ago, it was an amazing experience and one I will cherish forever.
My life is a mess now and I still get the twinge of the monastic life calling me. I used to love to meditate but I now find it really difficult due to my monkey mind.
I wish you a peaceful journey my friend.
Sukhi Hontu
@@englishmonk ❤️🙏
Only the monkey mind is bothered by the monkey mind
Phra Dan, greetings from Brazil.
Do you think ordination is the 'last step' to take after an intensive practice of meditation and living according to the precepts, or can one ordain without too much practice?
Thank you very much
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
One great thing about Gautam sidharth is blame self for every
Sukhi Hontu
Greetings Ajahn Phra Dan 🙏
I was told that the only pleasures the Buddha condones are the pleasures of the mind. I cannot find a definition for such pleasures, could you please elaborate on this subject? Thank you.
May you make a full and swift recovery.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
🙏🙏🙏
Sukhi Hontu
That room looks really cold to me
But thay could be because im sitting in a 38 degree (fahrenheight)
Camper and it is freezing in here. I need to do some yoga before i can meditate today.
Be happy and stay well
friend, your channel, an extension of ego : consideration on this :. ❤
Sukhi Hontu
I also like to sleep on the floor in my city apartment. Mattresses are too soft for me. But I have an old country house, without a basement, with a stone floor that gets very, very cold in winter. Unfortunately I can't go there, it would probably kill me with kidney inflammation.
Be happy and stay well
I agree that all the desires are similar, from sex, food/drugs, indulgences... but I would see it taken further....Holding your breath long enough will quickly show you a strong desire. Everything you would wish to do would be a desire.
I'm unsure desires need to be overcome in this sense - Maybe just unravelled. Even the practice of not indulging in desires is a desire for control.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
☸️🙏
Sukhi Hontu
37:50 How to sleep on the floor explanation and sharing of experience
Sukhi Hontu
Hes like ajhan brahm who did similar decades ago... English buddhist monks can be eloquent. Yet still the buddhist path needs modernising and its really hard old school
It's worked very well for 2567 years without modernization. Be happy and stay well
Indeed and I won't debate but maybe reframe with modern science discoveries which concur with Buddhist teaching, such as brains scans and mindstates, to dilute the spiritual aspects for those of us who are not ready or skeptical. I'm challenged with the holy spiritual aspects such as past lives. The other teachings such as karma, meditation, developing wisdom, are well aligned with modern thinking making it broadly relatable to some people like myself.
Buddha is Dharma is harmonie in action on the floor of perfection
Hello brother,
I want to ask you what thought process has lead you to giving up a lifestyle of, as I suppose, successfull businessman?
Was it more of a single thought or a line of thought processes that lead into a realisation?
By the way, I have observed trough personal life experiences that egoism and narcissism in action don't work and, sadly, entire sphere of so called self improvement that appears on the internet is filled with delusion, egoism, narcissism and blends all kinds of scammers, naive people and generally people tricked into believing that their lifes are miserable, while their lifes weren't that bad before they discovered content creators telling them that, in general, this modern life sucks.
I would be glad to hear your opinion about it.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
Sometimes animals become infested with fleas to the point where it would allowing a great deal of suffering to the animal to not do something about it. Or paralysis ticks which often kill animals. Another grey area would a building with a termite problem which would ruin the building if left untreated. I can't imagine if the monastery had termites that nature would be left to run its course. Or would it? Genuine question.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
If I remember correctly, Lahiri Mahasaya, the great Kriya Yoga teacher, initiated by Mahavatar Babaji, who was married with children (maybe had sex😀), used to smoke his pipe very often. It is mentioned in the book Autobiography of a Yogi. Can you please comment on that? Namaste 🙏
He was not a Buddhist monk
அருட்பெருஞ்ஜோதி அருட்பெருஞ்ஜோதி தனிப்பெருங்கருணை அருட்பெருஞ்ஜோதி
Sukhi Hontu
I was puzzling over how there can be a moral law when there is no Creator. Then it occurred to me that if Being, existence, itself is divine but uncreate then the laws (like the laws of physics and biology) must exist to maintain and regulate the system of Being. The trouble is that the moral law is less obvious than, for instance, the laws of physics. We all know that people who drink, take drugs, live only for pleasure and treat others badly tend to go down hill and often end badly but this often happens to decent people too (through 'bad luck', ill health etc.). Also is killing always wrong? If I have a parasite that's going to kill me then should I not, wisely, take medicine to kill it? If a police marksman sees a gunman walking into a school then should he not shoot the gunman to save the children? A lot to puzzle over!
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
What is the back ground sound
Not sure
Sounds like he lives close to a busy road. I wonder if it disturbs his meditation. At that proximity, there is probably also a vibration when a big truck passes.
I'm married. Sexuality has its place in this partnership. Not something that drives my life, though.
Sukhi Hontu
Do you willingly and cheerfully drink the Water of Shiva? Thanks 🙏
Not that I know of. Be happy and stay well.
@@englishmonk You can read about it in the Damar Tantra. It saved my life, and gives me incredible peace. 🙏
The creator has given everything one can desire, crave and ask for, but irony is society termed them as taboo and made them forbidden
I will have to ask the all knowing and all powerful creator that if he knew Eve would eat the apple then be cast out of Eden with Adam and together have children so that they can become corrupted and the creator would flood the world and kill everyone that he “created”…why bother creating? Or he is not all knowing nor all powerful…
Peace be with you
try some pushups and bicep curls maybe?
Be happy and stay well
How many hours do you sleep a night?
4/6
@@englishmonk Thankyou
Someone asked how to sleep on the floor ? Bruh, what’s next ? How to walk? How to breathe air ? 😅🙏 appreciate the chance to learn and be entertained
Sukhi Hontu
How about a shower every time...? Would that work? Maybe not to a full extent...
Probably not. Exercise restraint of the senses.
Thank you kindly for your reply. How does one work on the senses? Through mindfulness? I can see myself doing that, but I'd probably sleep three hours per night.
Also, it is actually the meat content in foods, especially red meat, while I find that a good (*extreme*) heat in vegetarian curries does tame my other desires...! Red meat has animal hormones, it is the hormones that make us go crazy I would think.
Who is an English Buddhist Monk..?
See description under the video. Be happy and stay well
I'm so sorry you can't afford a quieter place...
I've moved. Be happy and stay well
Why do you bow to the buddah? he is not god is that something he wants those who follow his path to do? I am genuinely curious.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
Sexual desire is normal; it is after all not good to be alone.
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
Body breath body digest food it is all natural process similar to sexual desires, thought is another natural process of body.
You are not the body once you know this and all activities of the body with self as a centre is neither good or bad this is freedom
Sukhi Hontu
There have probably been hundreds if not thousands of " enlightened" beings born here , the difference being with Buddha is that he came from money and that is the reason he is known .
Sukhi Hontu
Well of course research India and you will find 1000s of enlightened masters
Excellent point!
There have been many Buddha's. Not just one and not all of them were born from rich families.
There is Buddha in everyone just waiting to be realized
Why did they set up this monastery next to a highway? The vehicles are going at high speeds making a lot of noise. People listening to a great talk like this in person on on RUclips should not be disturbed. Very annoying.
How do you know the highway was there before the monastery?
This is not a Monastery, it is a room kindly given to Phra Dan to live and practise in while he is in this area 🙏
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
I feel no emotions about lust for women and women in general. I feel nothing
Be happy and stay well
Only an non returner and an arahant would have no sexual desire. Which i don't think any human beings on earth is nowadays. Otherwise there will be sexual desire. And i think it's natural. Just like being hungry. You can eat when you are hungry and feel no shame. But why for sexual desire?
Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon.
ruclips.net/p/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj
Be happy and stay well.
I WANT YOUR LIFE... LIFE IN UK SUCKS
Sukhi Hontu
if buddha didnt want you to sleep on a bed, you think he would want you to have a smartphone?
No, but I can use one to talk to you about Dhamma. Be happy and stay well.
@@englishmonk so who owns the phone that you're using? is it communal for all the monks?
Hey vénérable bikkhu, ce n'est pas très poli de commencer par montrer ta plante de pieds.
Sukhi Hontu
Sabbe satta sukhi hontu is great chant, thank you venerable.
Too many words
Sukhi Hontu
a monk with a phone and YT channel...lol cracks me up cos he doesnt get it at all. if you a real monk you would sit alone in a cave and not have any urge for YT and phone play and running around 9km a day. stop faking urself.
Agreed if so...
ruclips.net/video/_jJORuXymtk/видео.htmlsi=v4dq2p4DAhH1Jiri
Sukhi Hontu
run away from the game called LIFE? when the game offers endless opportunities to play it well someone who cant handle reality anymore has to live like a monk.. u a scared to play the life game and you scared.. this is utterly nonsense and even worse than alcohol and sex.. walk 7km a day haha thats sickness cos you cant control your thoughts
Be happy and stay well.
@@englishmonk empty words with zero meaning... what is happy? isnt it not the state of mind where you able to forget urself and ur inner traumas.. isnt that not the reason why you escaped and run away from life? u just replaced activities and drugs with other activity and drugs. in a sense meditation or 9km walking is nothing more than shooting up heroin and having sex. all those activities bring u a state of mind where u can forget urself. there is an easier way..control your mind and find out who you really are and enjoy playing this purposeless meaningless game. face and ID the inner traumas and start healing urself..
Becoming A monk its not about running away from life its about living your life fully. Life is not what you eat, where you live, your parents, your friends, your hobbies, your job
Thats not life. Life is inside not outside, thats Why meditation is só important. When you do drugs you using it mainly Because you want to run away of your problems But you dont have the courage to leave All the pleasures that you know from what you think ist you life. Exercice is Good for the body became it makes more e receptive to something higher, and makes you use energy is a more beneficial way. Instead of having sex and loosing your creative energy you can use Exercice as means to help you, Just help you concentrate in something better. Even if you are married if you have sex with your partner out of compulsion you will lose your energy Because thats sex doesnt come from your consciousness it comes from your compulsions and needs. You said that he was running away, this man has way more courage Than you. You should learn from him
@@dianareis9624 you made up a fantastic story to defend this sitting monk nonsense. with all the possibilities around to play the game called my life they choose to sit and become nothing .. they totally missed the point. the fear drove them away.. they unable to handle the game called my thoughts inside my head. this guy needs to walk 7-9km a day cos he is even unable to sit the whole day. its a sickness nothing more.
correct.. a monk with a phone and YT channel... cracks me up cos he doesnt get it at all. if you a real monk you would sit alone in a cave and not have any urge for YT and phone play and running around 9km a day. stop faking urself.