"we live our lives based on words bouncing around in our head, bits of invented language that we think define us, are more real than us" this is so profound!
The only thing I know, I don't care about it anymore, especially with my ex. I am closing doors with people that don't deserve to stay in my life. I am gonna get what I deserve, the people that I deserve, not the people that bring negativity in my life. Everyone else, can fuck off.
Same here. I fundamentally don't let other peoples words or actions, that I don't have control over, ruin my day. If I don't like someone I just avoid them, if they cross my boundaries I tell them. And if they like me or don't want me in their life, I don't care
Im in my 60s and feel ive. Spent the last 40 years attatching myself to various relationships and putting what they want first and being a people pleaser...i dont know where to go from here at this age.... Im so sad
Just came to the realization that I do not need to be validated from people. I do whatever I want to do and if people want to join me for the ride. They can if they want too. Peoples an opinions of you are just from a shallow insecure person. You control who you spend your time with. I just do not think people pleasing is a good thing to do.
Women used to chase me when I was younger. I would literally get random texts from girls at work who I barely spoke to. Now I'm lucky to get a look that wasn't accidental lol. I haven't changed. I just got older and more mature. Either way, my point is there's nothing you can do to make people chase you unless you're young and hot and worth being chased. It just is what it is. I'm older now and my youth is fading. No one wants to "chase" a single 29 year old guy lol. I either have to work for it and bring something damn good to the table or it ain't happening
Yep young people forget that looks fade. They forget to look around them and notice that the parents of all their friends, the older pairs you see everywhere, are almost never physically attractive people.
@@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj dude are you for real your 29 are you out of shape or what?!? I'm freaking 45 and I date women in their 20s I have a 19 year old on my line as well haven't made anything of that one but seriously get yourself together man build your body and abnk account get your self ready to live brother
I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF
"we live our lives based on words bouncing around in our head, bits of invented language that we think define us, are more real than us" this is so profound!
I love when you say "whatever". It goes hard man , hit deep into psyche
The only thing I know, I don't care about it anymore, especially with my ex. I am closing doors with people that don't deserve to stay in my life. I am gonna get what I deserve, the people that I deserve, not the people that bring negativity in my life. Everyone else, can fuck off.
Same here. I fundamentally don't let other peoples words or actions, that I don't have control over, ruin my day. If I don't like someone I just avoid them, if they cross my boundaries I tell them. And if they like me or don't want me in their life, I don't care
@@i_like_to_move_it_move_it Yep. Now, It Is time to put myself on a pedestal ,not others.
Yeah fuck everyone. They suck
I release my attachment from people situations and outcomes ❤
You should have much more subscribers ,love your videos❤
I know you don't usually read these but Andrew, your videos are amazing
Im in my 60s and feel ive. Spent the last 40 years attatching myself to various relationships and putting what they want first and being a people pleaser...i dont know where to go from here at this age.... Im so sad
Love this video thanks, “you are real” ! Amen
I am choosing me!!❤
Just came to the realization that I do not need to be validated from people. I do whatever I want to do and if people want to join me for the ride. They can if they want too. Peoples an opinions of you are just from a shallow insecure person. You control who you spend your time with.
I just do not think people pleasing is a good thing to do.
One thing I'd like to know..... The need to be intimate
Women used to chase me when I was younger. I would literally get random texts from girls at work who I barely spoke to.
Now I'm lucky to get a look that wasn't accidental lol.
I haven't changed. I just got older and more mature.
Either way, my point is there's nothing you can do to make people chase you unless you're young and hot and worth being chased.
It just is what it is. I'm older now and my youth is fading. No one wants to "chase" a single 29 year old guy lol. I either have to work for it and bring something damn good to the table or it ain't happening
Shift that mindset 😊
@@CaramelinfusedI will when I see evidence to the contrary lol
Yep young people forget that looks fade. They forget to look around them and notice that the parents of all their friends, the older pairs you see everywhere, are almost never physically attractive people.
Getting older…29 lol sorry sweetheart your best years yet to come 😉
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@@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj dude are you for real your 29 are you out of shape or what?!? I'm freaking 45 and I date women in their 20s I have a 19 year old on my line as well haven't made anything of that one but seriously get yourself together man build your body and abnk account get your self ready to live brother
I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF I LOVE ANDREW VANHOFF
Thank you🫶
Taking such a long time to say a simple thing.
Andrew is amazing