"Having high standards is not the same as over giving, over doing, over working..." WOW. That one hit like a bullet. So true. That was me for many, many years until cancer hit me like a Mac truck. I struggle with getting back to that version of myself, even now at 6 years a survivor. I know I need to talk much kinder to myself. I mean...I freaking survived stage 3 bilateral breast cancer! If I were my own daughter or friend, I would be cheering her on daily! But for some reason, because I can no longer work at my career in the same exact capacity as I used to, I have felt worthless since my cancer diagnosis changed my entire world, meteorically. This video has helped me see that I am worthy, no matter what! I'm here! My truly wonderful boyfriend has said to me on numerous occasions..."Don't talk about the woman I love in that way." Thank you, Terri. 💖
Dear Terri, Thank you so much for your advices and information. I am very happy and grateful to see so many people like you sharing knowledge and wisdom out of pure love for others. I love you all beautiful souls ❤ Thank you 🙏❤
Have been on a healing journey for awhile. A year ago I would have broken down and used this as an excuse to wallow in "I'm not good enough", well no more. I have beat myself up for enough years, working on loving me, all versions. I will be ordering your book, thank you. ❤
I love this! Thank you 🙏🏽 “just because you can do it, doesn’t make it yours to do.” Such a powerful statement. I’m in the process of discerning what is mine to do. Not just as an act of self care but also as an alignment to the greater good. I do only what is mine to do is my new mantra. Helps with overwhelm too! 😂Beautiful message, sending love and gratitude 🙏🏽
Thank you deeply for all your wisdom and guidance here. I just found you and it’s so timely. At 48, realizing I’m codependent with a narcissist, grieving the loss, learning to love, value, understand myself in earnest, keep myself safe, braving to feel a lifetime of stuffed feelings that prior would only explode out of me…. You have so much that is helping, informing, nourishing me. Thank you for sharing. Thank goodness
Hi my name is Kimberleigh and I'm new to this channel. So I have been trying delve into self love and I asked for guidance from the universe 🙂 So just today I came across your shorts speaking about overt and covert narscists and how they lack empathy and I had a flashback memory of a narsistic relationship I was in and thought okay I need to subscribe to this Chanel and then I came across the self love video. 😇😇😇😇😇 and my questions of self love and how to love self and what is self love are answered so thank you. Love and light
Thanks so much for this episode! I struggle with all of this. Accepting compliments, limiting things about myself etc..This was very helpful like a warm hug 🤗
Lovely. Yes, I'm certainly working on breaking those awful strongholds this lack of true self worth has on me. I love your presentation style Terri Cole.😊
Very good message. From a psychoanalyst aspect, I agree and can understand to a degree. This would have been great advice when I was in my 20s or better when I was 15. I'm 58. Living a lifetime with these defects there is doubt, pessimism, and a lack of faith/trust that this can change a lifetime of negative self-talk. It all sounds good in theory. Like I said, I agree with your message but to rebuild a foundation of a deteriorating building that was built on a dysfunctional foundation is not practical. These practices that you talk about are great but that's not going to change the fact that the foundation is shot.
Love this! What do I really want; enough income to go to the dentist (and everything I need else I need). Lol! Also, what is it called when a "friend" (person that says they are your friend), puts themselves first always, even at the obvious expense of others (me)? Is that a narcissist? Or just beastly selfish?
It sounds like the constant doing is helping you to avoid difficult emotions. You may want to start small and spend some designated time without being “productive” to sit with your emotions. Try journaling, speaking to a professional or even to a friend. ❤️
I think you can feel good about your accomplishments independently- we don't have to give them the power to determine our worth, but we can be proud of ourselves ❤️
How is your self love? Do you have a deficit, or are you practicing self-love regularly? Tell me below! 👇
It’s getting better and working on that. I actually talk to my inner child, read, and enjoy quiet time.
"Having high standards is not the same as over giving, over doing, over working..." WOW. That one hit like a bullet. So true. That was me for many, many years until cancer hit me like a Mac truck. I struggle with getting back to that version of myself, even now at 6 years a survivor. I know I need to talk much kinder to myself. I mean...I freaking survived stage 3 bilateral breast cancer! If I were my own daughter or friend, I would be cheering her on daily! But for some reason, because I can no longer work at my career in the same exact capacity as I used to, I have felt worthless since my cancer diagnosis changed my entire world, meteorically. This video has helped me see that I am worthy, no matter what! I'm here! My truly wonderful boyfriend has said to me on numerous occasions..."Don't talk about the woman I love in that way."
Thank you, Terri.
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Witnessing you with so much love and compassion, Birdie ❤ Glad the video resonated!
@@terri_cole Thank you.💖
Dear Terri,
Thank you so much for your advices and information. I am very happy and grateful to see so many people like you sharing knowledge and wisdom out of pure love for others. I love you all beautiful souls ❤
Thank you 🙏❤
Thank you so much for being here, I appreciate you leaving this comment ❤️
Have been on a healing journey for awhile. A year ago I would have broken down and used this as an excuse to wallow in "I'm not good enough", well no more. I have beat myself up for enough years, working on loving me, all versions. I will be ordering your book, thank you. ❤
I love that ❤️❤️ I hope you enjoy Too Much!
as the daughter of evil Narcissist mom, this all EXTREMELY important for my recovery, Thank you 😘😘
You're so welcome ❤
Best video ever
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I love this! Thank you 🙏🏽 “just because you can do it, doesn’t make it yours to do.” Such a powerful statement. I’m in the process of discerning what is mine to do. Not just as an act of self care but also as an alignment to the greater good. I do only what is mine to do is my new mantra. Helps with overwhelm too! 😂Beautiful message, sending love and gratitude 🙏🏽
I'm so glad this resonated with you, Aspasia ❤
I love listening to you Terri. There is so much warmth in you 🤗
Thank youuuu ❤
Thank you deeply for all your wisdom and guidance here. I just found you and it’s so timely. At 48, realizing I’m codependent with a narcissist, grieving the loss, learning to love, value, understand myself in earnest, keep myself safe, braving to feel a lifetime of stuffed feelings that prior would only explode out of me…. You have so much that is helping, informing, nourishing me. Thank you for sharing. Thank goodness
Thank you for taking the time to comment and share your experience ❤️
Love all your podcasts and context. You are a blessing 💞🙏🏽💞
Thank you so much, Missy ❤ Glad you're here!
Hi my name is Kimberleigh and I'm new to this channel.
So I have been trying delve into self love and I asked for guidance from the universe 🙂 So just today I came across your shorts speaking about overt and covert narscists and how they lack empathy and I had a flashback memory of a narsistic relationship I was in and thought okay I need to subscribe to this Chanel and then I came across the self love video. 😇😇😇😇😇 and my questions of self love and how to love self and what is self love are answered so thank you. Love and light
This video was so helpful! ♡ I love the description of self-love as being dialed in to your own needs.
Can you do a collab with marissa peers?. I love the both of you! And I can see the both of you doing a really good collab.
Fantastic💛thank you!!!! Love from Sweden.
You're so welcome, Helene! Glad you're here ❤️
Thanks Terri! Your videos helped me navigate through some struggles that I’ve been trying to figure out.
I'm so happy to hear that! ❤️
I have low self-esteem and lack of self love. Hardly any friendships I'm trying g hard to get better.
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
Thanks so much for this episode! I struggle with all of this. Accepting compliments, limiting things about myself etc..This was very helpful like a warm hug 🤗
I am so glad it was helpful to you, Stephanie ❤️
Lovely. Yes, I'm certainly working on breaking those awful strongholds this lack of true self worth has on me. I love your presentation style Terri Cole.😊
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Your outfit looks beautiful, the colors suit you 💙
Wonderful episode , thank You 🙏
I'm so glad it resonated, Annie! Thank you for being here ❤️
Very good message. From a psychoanalyst aspect, I agree and can understand to a degree. This would have been great advice when I was in my 20s or better when I was 15.
I'm 58. Living a lifetime with these defects there is doubt, pessimism, and a lack of faith/trust that this can change a lifetime of negative self-talk.
It all sounds good in theory.
Like I said, I agree with your message but to rebuild a foundation of a deteriorating building that was built on a dysfunctional foundation is not practical.
These practices that you talk about are great but that's not going to change the fact that the foundation is shot.
I feel sad and lonely most of the time. I'm trying to provide love to myself but not sure how. I've gone to therapy but hasn't helped :(
I see you and I'm witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️
Love this! What do I really want; enough income to go to the dentist (and everything I need else I need). Lol! Also, what is it called when a "friend" (person that says they are your friend), puts themselves first always, even at the obvious expense of others (me)? Is that a narcissist? Or just beastly selfish?
Could be either and the question is, do you assert yourself to get your own needs met or not?
thank you very much for this awesome video. much needed. I came here from Spotify to check out the guide but the link is not working.
Thank you for catching that, Alessa! The correct link is www.terricole.com/self-love-practices-guide
❤🙏 thank you Terri
Are you able to add the superheart to the top bar so that i can give to your videos?
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Hi, what if I enjoy doing, doing, doing? Not doing causes me depression. Is this healthy?
It sounds like the constant doing is helping you to avoid difficult emotions. You may want to start small and spend some designated time without being “productive” to sit with your emotions. Try journaling, speaking to a professional or even to a friend. ❤️
If my success or failures don't determine my self worth how can i feel good about my accomplishments.
I think you can feel good about your accomplishments independently- we don't have to give them the power to determine our worth, but we can be proud of ourselves ❤️