CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2019
- CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)
Identify which unhelpful thinking styles are contributing to your self-sabotage. These automatic thoughts, or cognitive distortions, can create considerable pain. CBT therapy or CBT counselling helps to identify unhelpful thinking habits and uses CBT exercises and cognitive restructuring to help you change unhelpful thinking styles. Unhelpful thinking styles include labeling, emotional reasoning, catastrophizing, personalizing, mind reading and mental filter. This video will help you to challenge negative self-talk, self-sabotaging thoughts and identify unhelpful thinking patterns. This, in turn, will help you stop self-sabotaging behavior!
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This video was created by Barbara Heffernan, LCSW for educational purposes only. These videos are not diagnostic and provide no individual consultation. Consumption of these materials is for your own education and any medical, psychological, or professional care decisions should be made between you and your primary care doctor or another provider that you are engaged with. Barbara Heffernan is not available for individual consultation via RUclips, social media, or email, and provides services only in the manner mentioned above.
wow, i'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. it's a goldmine of helpful techniques and info!
Hi subie_grl: I'm so glad you did as well! And thanks for the feedback - it is motivating for me :)
Pretty much what I was going to comment. Great channel Barbara
@@mikelord2698 Thank you! :)
Big Hello from Australia. Thanks for these insigful videos. I love personally studying all aspects of spycoanalysis.
Do you do this over facetime appointments, I'm struggling really bad with this
"Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping"
- Jordan Peterson, Rule #2 in "12 rules for life"
Love that phrase!
@@BarbaraHeffernan correct
And think twice before you let yourself get mangled by the CBT hamburger machine, are you an actual hamburger and are your state of mind simply a thing to fix and replace, or is there something else going on.
@@srolesen tf does this even mean
@@pokemongurlz Means CBT is designed to be convincing at the cost of accuracy, and there is a hamburger like quality to it, the therapist will frequently just close their eyes and chuck all the problems into the machine, more invested in churning out product and measuring success as "% of problems solved" with 0 understanding that some problems are simply not suitable for that hamburger machine and require a deeper level of understanding.
I think CBT is fundamentally a good approach to many issues and that hamburgers are fine on occasion, but I also think that there is a pervasive lack of willingness in both industries for the machine operator to stop and think twice before mashing something through that meatgrinder that does not belong there.
Barbara. I was quite surprised to find a channel so freely offering such direct and helpful definitions of cognitive issues followed by really useful advice and actions to take to address feelings and behaviour. I am so grateful for your willingness and endeavour to help. Thank you. Thank you so much.
indeed i really appreciate her generosity she really saved me by these infos
You are soothing .reassuring .constructive.its full of love that reaches out to all of us needing such support.
Thank you! :)
You are right on track with this one too. I have always been a great friend to others but honestly, have never been kind to myself. Thank you for all that you do.
You are welcome. Yes, be your own best friend!!!
Thank you for this, I'm 60 years old and never knew/put together all the negative talk I have been doing to myself. Your channel is awesome and I can't get enough. I just started seeing a counselor yesterday for CBT therapy.. I will use your channel to boost this even more.
I almost cried watching this, I've been doing many of these categories especially labeling for way too long that its like a fact of life with me. Thank you so much for this video ill begin improving and removing these toxic thoughts
Your comment is very touching. I am so pleased this has been so helpful for you.
I used to see things negatively beleiving that if it becomes positive then the reason is that i felt negative, never thought it will take a tollover my happiness . Ma'am, your idea is worth a thesis! Provided me relief and i feel i can deal with thoughts more efficiently. Please do provide more such content, Thanks a ton! May God bless you!
I think being a friend of myself is a very powerful concept, as well as the "self-sabotage" one that is more tricky because the sabotage looks like a solution instead of the cause of the problem. I worked on it - without a strong consistency but with results - for about four years. Yet, the path is long, the tunnel is brighter but not ended. Thank you very much doctor Heffernan for putting these concepts in such a clear way, so that they are immediately applicable for all of us! I'm already using the cbt log and reviewing all my homework on inner dialogue in light of the six styles you explained so well.
So awesome that you are utilizing the log! Practice is key and increasing our awareness of patterns is the first step.
In my room I have my own art everywhere and I love it because it reminds me of how creative and colourful I can be!
Awesome!
Thank you. Great reminders!
My trauma therapist used EMDR and CBT therapies. What you outline is the kind of thing she would have me practice for “homework”, between sessions.
The awareness of these various patterns of thought makes our self-talk less critical. That way, we can be the person who says to ourselves: “Would I say that to a loved one?”
It’s taken a lot of practice to come to a place of self-kindness. So nice to hear gentle, kind words in my self-talk, instead of the harsh ones I used to say to me.
Blessings!🤓
Wow ! Thank you for sharing that. I hope it gives other people hope and the motivation to do the work! It is so wonderful that you have been able to shift your self-talk... Isn't life nicer when we are nice to ourselves?! :)
Barbara Heffernan
Indeed!
Being able to change neural pathways and practice new habits are a blessing!
Thank you for your videos. I feel comfort when I watch them.
It is a lovely painting. I thought it was a photo! Thank you for sharing all this information. :)
Thanks!
I have a friend who was struggling to remember all the distortions so I gave her names that made it easier to remember and identify. Chicken Little (catastrophizing), Kardashian(comparing ourselves to others), Betting on the Ponies(Predicting the future), Moving Mountains(Changing things out of your control), Cement shoes(intractable), Trigger Happy(generalizing), Been there, Done that(Worrying about past), Grinding Gears(perseverating), Bad Trippin'(Fanaticizing the worst).
Love this!
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you for your wonderful work!
Barbara, I love your warm and expressive style. I'm an Occupational therapist learning about CBT. You explain CBT really clearly. Thank you
Thank you for letting me know! So pleased! Good luck in your work!
So clear and so concise, months of therapy and never understood these concepts so clearly.
I am suffering the consequences of ptsd... In this time, from time to time... A totally heavy emotion comes out of nowhere(apparently, now we know it comes from past trauma and abuse)... And it s so intense as if it doesn t let me breath for the next minute... Before would be worse... Now getting better, simply by realizing it is a huge step... Soo intense and chronic... Wow, thank you, Barbara!
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Omg, I've check all the boxes😂 1to6 no wonder my mind was so f***d up
Thanks for posting. My mental illness has caused me to miss the last three days of work.
I am almost in tears! i found so much relief knowing there is something i can do and having an explanation on why i am feeling this way and to change it.
Thank you for sharing this freely, you have no idea how much it means to someone who is suffering. God bless you!
I am so, so pleased you found this so helpful. Thank you for letting me know. Wishing you health and healing, Barbara
I love your Mom's painting! Very nicely done and it's beautiful. :)
Thank you so much!
I have {sadly), had to watch perhaps 100 RUclips shrinks before coming here. Without having gone through a lot of your videos, I have to say that I just love your way of explaining these things as if you are a good friend or mother talking to her bestie or kid. I really appreciate it. There is an Aussie woman on Psych Central who also talks with her hands and has this gift of conveying their knowledge as if there were, you know, a human.
Thank you for letting me know! I hope my videos are truly helpful for you!
Great overall! I liked the concept of "being a friend to yourself." I believe it's important to view yourself in this manner so that you may reflect on your world and situations in a more helpful and constructive way. 👍🏻
Be your own best friend🙏💖
I have multiple art pieces that my significant other made for me. I love them and they are up in my room.
This video changed my life :) its only been about 2 weeks since i am practicing classifying my thoughts and i already feel so productive ! So much time that i used to spend thinking is saved . Thank you 🙏🏻please keep doing what you do. I am sure itll help many more people 💕
So happy I found you, I struggled with OCD and learning how the mind tends to transform situations had been the best thing that happened to me. Thanks 😊 for your educational videos 🙏
Love the picture, how lovely!
This is gold !!!!
Like your vibe, approach and tone! Your Mom is a great painter.
I’ve been looking for something like this for over 10 years, thank you so much For sharing, after listening to a couple videos, somethings I can put into perspective now, I hope this helps other people, I will continue to post updates and improvements in my own life in the hope that It may help someone else in their journey to find peace and solutions with depression and anxiety which was unknown to me and was never properly diagnosed until much later in my life.
Hi Cherry: Thanks so much for letting me know how meaningful the videos are for you. I hope they truly help you on your journey!
Thankyou so much for sharing all of this 😊
I needed this in my life.
Thank you so much for your helpful insights!
Beautifully explained..I just love the way you explain it ..it really helps me ,as I have done my advanced course in CBT.
i am currently going through a seperation after 2 kids and 7 years. I am struggling mentally with panic and seperation anxiety. your video helped me thank you
So pleased it was helpful, and sorry to hear about the difficult time you are having. Hang in there!
Thank you for putting this out there
I discovered your videos yesterday, and what I can say is that you speak in a straightforward, down-to-earth language. Thank you!
Brilliant!!!!! 👏👏👏
Thank you Barbara 🙏
Thanks, super informative for growth
So grateful.. Your channel is what I needed ❤️🙏🏻
I really needed this today. Thank you so much Barbara. I really appreciate this so much.
Thanks for specifying some of the cognitive distortions and correcting these
Wow! Amazing! God bless you! 👏
Amazing! First 10 minutes summed it all up for me… thank you.
Thank you so much Barbara, this video has been so good in helping me identifying my unhelpful thoughts. I'm looking forward to learning and implementing CBT tools.
Your vidoes save my life. I would give anything to sit down and talk with you. You're so awesome. Thank you.
Wow, thank you. So pleased the videos have helped so much!
Thank you so much....
Ohhhh, labeling... that was so powerful!
Thank you, your videos are very helpful, I've subscribed!
THANK YOU!
I love the idea of being a friend to your self.
Wow....did not realize I'd gotten to the "Why bother" stage. Life circumstances and the thought patterns you mentioned hit me on point. I am a caregiver by nature (& was one by profession) and have wondered lately WHY I don't seem to treat nor care for myself as much as I do others. This video helps bring the patterns to light, and gives me tools to work with. Thank you. Much needed in these days of forced isolation due to the Covid. Will fed to others. Off to view more of your videos.💕
Great explaining and examples
I can say for sure that changing behaviour is very difficult. I am very glad that I found your videos here, I am waiting to be seen by a psychologist and there is a big waiting list. Thank you very much for uploading these videos!
Thank you for the effort you put in to create and share your videos! Great info here -- thank you! ❤
Thank you for this. Thinking patterns are everything!
I always feel very lost and anxious snapping on friends and family. Glad I found this it makes sense and may help in the future. Following here and Facebook.
Thank you for this, Barbara! I appreciate you and your work!
great and informative video. Really hit home with me. I didn't realize how much my thoughts, feelings and hence behavior were hurting me. I look forward to exploring this topic more.
This is so helpful
This is an amazing explanation. So profound but so simply explained! Thank you!
I was not aware of CBT. It was so helpful for me because I can relate to some of the unhelpful behaviors. Thank-you again for sharing.
This is so powerful. I love it. I also have a beautiful painting from my daughter.
Thank you Barbara. I have been in programs that use CBT and DBT. I am in therapy and my therapist is using the same techniques tht you are. I feel like with watching your videos and my therapist I am on the right track to healing from trauma and being a more healthy adult. Agape.
Thank you for putting your work out into the universe. I have been struggling with many different issues. You have helped me find a path through with your channel. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
3:57 thank you Barbara. I’ve worked for years with CBT but get stuck and revert back to negative self talk. Excellent reminder for me. Also a reminder of how hard it is to change these thoughts
Please keep posting videos! I’ve been searching for the practical help you provide.
I will! Thanks for the encouragement. And I'm so happy they are helpful for you.
Great
I revisted ur video again today.
Really makes sence
Thanks a lot
Thank you so much
I really enjoy your video. I learn a lot from them. I also like your calming voice. Keep it going~
i really appreciate these videos
Thank you for letting me know!
Love your videos! Extremely helpful!
I'm so glad! Thanks for letting me know!
The concept of ''Being a friend to yourself'' is a very important and essential starting point to attempt to think in a more accurate and less distorted way, to begin to make small progress as much as possible and to stop the negative thinking and categorizations. Thank you so much for all the videos and the PDF. It's greate help. Sincerely appreciated.🙏😊
Being a friend 2 your self.. can you elaborate some.. I feel this will help many. Thanks in advance!
You are amazing. I loved the concept of being friend with myself. Best wishes for you.
❤❤❤thanks- and I am sure this is a rewatch with a pen and pad😀
Excellent. Thank you
You are welcome!
Extremely helpful! I learned about CBT and this video really explains the underlying reason why we list our automatic thoughts and only after can we identify the cognitive distortion behind it.
Hi Joyce: Thanks for pointing out that key point! I'm pleased the video was helpful for you.
Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome 😊
thank you very much, very clear!
You are welcome!
Thank you.
You're welcome!
Boy am I glad I stumbled on your channel. I'll be tuning in to see all the other videos. This video puts everything I've been experiencing and especially during a pandemic in perspective. I am so so grateful!
So glad you found the channel and are finding it helpful! Welcome :) I truly hope the videos are helpful.
thank you very much 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
You are very welcome 😀🙏
Thank you 🌈
You’re welcome!
Thank you Barbara
You are welcome! I hope it is helpful!
I cried watching this video because it’s my first time in a long time trying to seek help for my anxiety and a lot these negative thoughts are how I think, this was really helpful and im going to start developing a better thinking pattern, thank you.
Super interesting that we can label and reframe our thoughts! I'm going to start paying more attention! :)
Thank you very much for this video🙏
You are so welcome!
Thanks a lot
Excellent! Thank you for posting this.
Glad you enjoyed it!
This channel is so valuable. Thank you so much
Thank you for letting me know! It is very motivating to hear I am making a difference :)
OMG! I can't express how happy I am to have stumbled onto your channel! Your explanation is really simple and effective. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for letting me know! Welcome and I hope you continue to enjoy the channel!
That's really an awesome video, thanks 🙏
So nice of you to let me know you found it useful!
Thank you soo much💗💙💚.This is very helpful
You're so welcome!
Thank you so much for being so kind to offer this for free 😊🙏
You’re welcome 😊
Magnificent, I´ve just seen two of your videos and are amazing. Thank you for helpling us.
You are welcome! Thank you for letting me know!
Your channel has really opened my mind. Thank you for the work that you do.
Thank you for letting me know. It means a lot to me :)
I've learned all of this through experience in therapy but it might be because I'm a science person, I find that I can work more practically when I have structure. But I can't just take out a pen and write everything down in a book while my therapist is speaking, and having it being broken down for me like this makes me think it's not an impossible mountain to climb. Thank you so much for your service, I look forward to exercising what you've taught here with my therapist's support and hopefully moving on from this stangnancy crisis I've been facing throughout the 5 years of my 20s.
Maam, ure getting me all choked up, thank you so much
I hope this is helpful. 🤗
I really needed this information. Thank you for making this video.
You are so welcome!