Can You Really Get Brain Damage From Narcissistic Abuse?

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  • Опубликовано: 5 ноя 2024

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  • @Permenantlyexhaustedghost115
    @Permenantlyexhaustedghost115 Год назад +123

    Brain fog, forgetfulness, constant tiredness, hyper vigilance, replay of bad memories, there are some days where I can’t focus… it’s hard. Narcissists aren’t just playing with your emotions or your health; they’re playing with your life.

    • @bellatschau9096
      @bellatschau9096 4 месяца назад +1

      💯!!!!!!

    • @sidlopez4599
      @sidlopez4599 4 месяца назад +1

      In places like Texas , and other parts of the country (and the WORLD ) 🌎 /for that matter. They are also playing with their own lives.

    • @carolinacastillo9956
      @carolinacastillo9956 3 месяца назад +1

      I survived after 11 years. The bad thing is that I met him when I was twelve and he impacted my life for ever. I’m 29 years old now but I feel afraid of he can comes back and destroys my peace

    • @journaling.aw.vlog.37
      @journaling.aw.vlog.37 2 месяца назад

      Backing you up completely!! All the time 9:32 this video really helped 😊

    • @LiveforJesus-2024
      @LiveforJesus-2024 Месяц назад

      Yes… so sad

  • @DudeRanchDan
    @DudeRanchDan 11 месяцев назад +21

    "I think that your memory is wrong and we need to go in and have it fixed, because I would never say anything so terrible to you"- My narcissist-

  • @supercoffeebean
    @supercoffeebean Год назад +74

    Body shuts down, Brain Fog, Self Blame. Try to Rest, Relax, Positive Journaling. You will recover. Be Safe. Be Well. Be Smart. Be Strong.

  • @richardisley1937
    @richardisley1937 Год назад +27

    Severe brain fog, can't remember shit,, vision distortion, lack of focus, severe chronic fatigue, headaches,,lack of interest in all you used to enjoy doing, dysfunction in your whole body especially the nervous system causing inability to feel intense emotions of All the good stuff like happiness, joy, laughter, bliss. It will cause you to agree/go along with things that you would never before even entertain

  • @arabianprincess888
    @arabianprincess888 Год назад +31

    I am currently stuck in fight or flight mode. Also my body freezes heart palpitations my brain freezes that I can’t even think straight when someone’s talking to me when ever have I have a social interaction I think I may be suffering from severe CPTSD I come from a family of narcissists and I was the scapegoat in my family system. My entire lifetime I’ve recently realized most of my relationships/friendships have been with abusers/toxic individuals. I feel so broken now at 24, I used to be the life of the party and now I can’t leave my house. I recently got out of a relationship with a sociopath/malignant narcissist where I also became the scapegoat at some point in his family system. I also am stuck living with a narcissistic mother that verbally abuses me on a daily basis I see no escape from the abuse it’s like genuinely everywhere I go I seem to attract the same people that now I have severe trust issues I don’t even want to get to know anyone. They ruin lives may we heal and may they pay one day for their shameless sins against innocent good souls.

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 11 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah I have trust issues now

    • @audreyd6725
      @audreyd6725 10 месяцев назад

      I am so sorry to hear :( I do understand. In my opinion I feel like you could benefit from some antidepressants or an anti anxiety medication and, if you're a girl, birth control. That helped SOO MUCH. I feel in control of my emotions now and can actually drive, go grocery shopping alone, talk to people, I feel like a new person thank God. I was scared to take medications but after years of suffering I was like screw it, worst comes to worst I will just taper off of it, but it actually improved my life so much

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 10 месяцев назад +1

      Meditation, fasting, hiking, spending time in nature help. And practise not reacting to the narcissist because that gives them supply. Imagine yourself stepping back and observing their toddler tantrums without engaging with them. Stay calm and curious in the moment.

    • @martinholland2482
      @martinholland2482 6 месяцев назад

      I had a stroke while isolated with her in a foreign country

    • @martinholland2482
      @martinholland2482 6 месяцев назад

      It continues while severely disabled. I cannot get. Away and get punished for my panic attacks. I think I am making it up and am trying to focus on a good life

  • @TheWayofFairness
    @TheWayofFairness 6 месяцев назад +17

    Let's sue the narcs and their enablers for causing our brain damage.

    • @petemorton8403
      @petemorton8403 4 месяца назад

      If not a female it is a no way can you be a victim.

    • @LiveforJesus-2024
      @LiveforJesus-2024 Месяц назад +1

      I wondered that too!
      Our son was controlled for 4 yrs😢
      And us as grandparents 😢
      Now being punished
      Because Once I knew what the heck is going on and spoke up to her….
      She punishing us…
      Haven’t been able to see our granddaughter since July 4.
      And our whole family walked on eggshells for her😩
      Our son is out and going through divorce 🙌🏼
      I am praying she gets caught in her lies SOON.
      And God works a miracle for our son

    • @PEARL712scott
      @PEARL712scott Месяц назад

      what is out there for targets of Domestic abuse that are elderly. they have SSI Nead a lawyer and some counseling to heal. In New Orleans

  • @margaretharris9855
    @margaretharris9855 Год назад +50

    I used to have an amazing memory but ever since my divorce from an N I can’t remember anything. I cant remember experiences, people, etc. it really bothers me and I knew it had something to do with that.

    • @nanceejay3507
      @nanceejay3507 Год назад +1

      Same

    • @stacybarbeau426
      @stacybarbeau426 Год назад +4

      Omg, me too...and I was sitting watching this video and suddenly I realized I couldn't remember what elementary school my 5th child went to years ago. I'm upset because there are so many things now that I can't remember because of so much emotional abuse I've been living with for so many years now. This disgusts me. I guess my brain was so busy warding off attacks, protecting me, that it wasn't storing away properly my memories. This is so sad to have forgotten important things, dates or events, and people to me. It's just so devastating....

    • @UnicornSiren
      @UnicornSiren Год назад +9

      I never had a good memory my narcissist's got me from birth.

    • @irenehigginbotham6392
      @irenehigginbotham6392 Год назад +2

      Yeah. It's all coming back to me now🎉. They lose

    • @shireenramnarain4005
      @shireenramnarain4005 Год назад

      Its true

  • @ericmoore9444
    @ericmoore9444 Год назад +36

    My brain feels really damaged! 🧠

    • @jaimematus7308
      @jaimematus7308 Год назад +9

      Jesus can heal ptsd and frontal cortex damage I promise!

    • @peplsuk7635
      @peplsuk7635 Год назад

      Mine too

    • @leoniehendrickson2530
      @leoniehendrickson2530 Год назад +3

      ​@@jaimematus7308 Amen....yes He can just receive it in Jesus name Amen

    • @Name-cy1ns
      @Name-cy1ns 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@leoniehendrickson2530 Bs

    • @dykeapplebottom
      @dykeapplebottom 4 месяца назад +1

      ​@@leoniehendrickson2530pathetic

  • @InvisibleWarrior279
    @InvisibleWarrior279 Год назад +12

    There is more and more evidence all the time the answer to this question is yes. The level of hyper vigilance required to spend significant time with a narcissist throws your brain chemistry completely out of whack. There is now a lot of speculation narcissistic abuse can be a direct contributing factor to Alzheimer’s.

  • @JohnSmith-wo7ns
    @JohnSmith-wo7ns Год назад +20

    I was abused as a child then my parents divorced, then I changed schools and was bullied. I came out of a very manipulative controlling relationship at Xmas and was suicidal. Maybe I have childhood trauma.

    • @michaelgarrow3239
      @michaelgarrow3239 Год назад +3

      Lots of people do.
      I hope your rebuilding.. 😎🎶🎵

  • @desirahharris
    @desirahharris 4 месяца назад +3

    I question EVERYTHING now. Brain fog and at one point I stop trusting my own instincts. My mind is always racing. Then the thoughts pop up of the abuse and trauma. It makes me shut down. My body aches and hurts. My joints have tension in them. I’m trying to get out of my abusive marriage.

  • @petemorton8403
    @petemorton8403 4 месяца назад +3

    Was 13 when dad was stolen away by a divorced single mom who needed a dad for her two. I blamed me, and always will. I have learned from her actions after he died, she is a witch. Did this without a care, kept him hidden or out of knowing where he was to everyone. Probably kept him constantly preoccupied, at least for that first 5-10 years. Me, my sister & brother had no one. So poor.

  • @joshuawhite3411
    @joshuawhite3411 8 месяцев назад +5

    I have had severe brain fog since my childhood and I'm going to be 30 this year, but since I left I have gotten a lot better. I experience a lot of being unable to remember when events happened either last week or the week before, I'll lose track of time so easily during the day, but my memory has been improving since I left my situation 7 months ago. I've been battling severe depression because the little kid inside is screaming to be held and loved like I wasn't. My parents found me to be really clingy and annoying when I was little, especially my mom. I remember being around 4 or 5 when she really started to push me away and stop holding me and snuggling me, telling me to get off of her and that I was annoying, with a disgusted tone. My parents were almost always negative and their criticism was always negative, never constructive. I would be berated for doing something not the way they wanted when they didn't give me any specific instructions. I would have to sit through hours long lectures and monologues, but it would be the same thing just on repeat, going around the barn and circling back and going over everything again and again and again, until they were satisfied that you understood them. I would be told I could do anything I want with my life, but I would sit through an hours long lecture about why I should do that and I should do this other thing that benefits them instead. I was used for labor for over 20 years, helped build several hundred thousand dollars in equity, and then when I leave, all I get is a portion of the equity, after all their loan notes on it are deducted because it was "all of our things".
    I can definitely see how this can cause brain damage, especially in children, because if their fight or flight is constantly activated, their brains will develop with those circuits firing. Neuroplasticity in children will strengthen these neural pathways and... they will go through life almost always living in fear about things.

  • @MrTodayistheday
    @MrTodayistheday 9 месяцев назад +6

    The brain fog is real. This is the best definition ever! Fight, Flight, or Freeze: So accurate.

  • @Athena-oo3qi
    @Athena-oo3qi 28 дней назад +2

    Yes definitely brain fog and constant fear

  • @HeartOfTheSource
    @HeartOfTheSource Год назад +15

    How can this brain damage be reversed? After a lifetime of severe abuse since childhood,then a 24 year abusive marriage, although we'd been together since I was 13 yrs old so actually longer under the influence of him. Then tried another relationship 3 years after I finally escaped him. And this one turned out to be a very dangerous sociopath according to 'our' therapist (long disturbing story how we ended up with the same teleheath therapist) malignant rather than covert like my ex-husband. I was in fight flight freeze AND fawn. Everyday....😢

    • @yellowdayz1800
      @yellowdayz1800 Год назад +3

      The brain will heal itself... In time. Eat right.. Lots of fruits and vegetables and quality bread and grains. Drink good water... Half your wieght in ounces. VERY IMPORTANT as your brain runs mostly water. Exercise daily.. Sleep early and get up early.. Take a quality ginsing for a few years. Stay away from stress... Do this all well.. And the brain will heal itself. Also, eat a little raw walnuts with your meals..

  • @pandybear26
    @pandybear26 Месяц назад +1

    synoptic seizures, brain fog, forgetfulness, exhaustion (like someone put weights all over my body at times), replay of memories, vision distortions... tell me that this isn't poison? I used to ride horses... Now I can't even look someone in the face when we talk... I don't understand how you can break someone you "love"

  • @kefaylem
    @kefaylem 3 месяца назад +2

    I had no idea it was reversible. I thought I was screwed forever!

  • @michaelgarrow3239
    @michaelgarrow3239 Год назад +9

    Um,,, mom didn’t want a child; she wanted a trained pet.
    I have an unusually high IQ and she always felt challenged. She was a substitute teacher; so, had lots of monkey flying. I was put in remedial classes often.
    Oh, in college they tested my IQ and I was in the top 1%, so yeah…. FTW

    • @jacqueslee2592
      @jacqueslee2592 8 месяцев назад

      Sounded like my narcissistic parents who wanted to make me believe I was a retard and made others believe it as well. When I had an intellectual growth spur when I started high school, they went psychotic and tried to undermine me. They also would make me believe that I was not meant for university or to have a job, but to be disabled, homeless, in jail, or be dependent on them like a mentally retarded adult. This is why they also undermine my adult development and anything that seems adult like, like going to the bank, going to work, talking to people was a threat to them or something that they did not believe it was happening.

  • @zaimayamusic
    @zaimayamusic 10 дней назад

    I was here for the last 6 months or so. Thanks to videos like these I have started my recovery. As of the last 5 days or so, I am remembering things, my passions, I feel happiness here and there etc... but it's been a slow process but there is progress nonetheless 😊

  • @shireenramnarain4005
    @shireenramnarain4005 Год назад +5

    Yes i have it brain fog,tiredness,not alert anymore

  • @eirintowne
    @eirintowne Год назад +4

    Oh, the irony of all your sound effects setting off my alarm state... At least I realize what is happening, why it is happening, and to just let it pass through me taking the time it needs!

  • @joseenoel8093
    @joseenoel8093 Год назад +2

    Great pic and YES, YES, YES, no contact, you owe it to everyone to be and stay as sane as possible, of course we're crazy, they've shaken it onto/upon us!

  • @lordzson2700
    @lordzson2700 11 месяцев назад +3

    Thats very scary...
    Im actually in the middle of this

  • @RatedArggg
    @RatedArggg 10 месяцев назад +1

    Remember the character Bella in "Lost in Yonkers?" Some people thought she was crazy; other people thought she was stupid. I thought she was neither, but traumatized by her cold-hearted mother. Check out the movie if you haven't. Mercedes Ruehl is amazing in it.

  • @Natalie-lf7hb
    @Natalie-lf7hb 21 день назад

    If that is so than the whole population is wasted and we go for.the alterior plan. Thank you for keeping me posted

  • @bcbro142
    @bcbro142 Год назад +16

    Oh this happens all the time around narcissist and know what you need to do start recording them that's what I started doing and playing it back for them and they still tried to gas light me and deny it that's how sick they are they're literally just living in denial every day it's pretty sad and pathetic

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 11 месяцев назад

      Yeah exactly. I've got one as a roommate (from hell) and the one thing I've noticed after 4 years is he doesn't seem to remember things he did. They really don't know they are narcissists because they have an inability to self reflect because of an inability to empathize I think

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@andrewsmith3257They may self reflect but their sense of entitlement has them convinced they are always in the right.

    • @andrewsmith3257
      @andrewsmith3257 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@SamStone1964 yeah either way it's overwhelming to live with one or even be around one..

    • @Holly-d1n
      @Holly-d1n 6 месяцев назад

      Then you'll send it to your lawyer and the narc will then gaslight the lawyer. You can have all the proof in the world. The narc has their own truth-pathological lies

  • @shirleychandler2780
    @shirleychandler2780 Год назад +2

    I’ve has serious narc abuse. I NEVER think it’s me and I’ll argue that until I die . It’s him…..not wired up right !

  • @johnkarl8921
    @johnkarl8921 6 месяцев назад

    An amazing insight into brain functions that shows the effects of exposure to toxic relationships and how it changes normal functioning and healthy behaviour patterns. Walking on eggshells is the norm around narcissistic people, particularly vulnerable narcissist that are also hyper sensitive to the slightest criticism. In my experience trying to reason and get some accountability to resolve relationship issues , or try to feel seen heard and validated only results in frustration and conflict, denial, gas lighting and word salad mind games. If you inevitably get wound up and raise your voice or defend yourself you get accused of being abusive! Often it's easier to agree to get some peace. That's also used against you because they take that to be confirmation that they were right and you are the problem. I thought I had a reasonable understanding of the psychology and neurology involved but your overview is excellent describing the neurological effects of trauma in really easy to understand style. I went through childhood trauma and have been in a codependant relationship 21 years trying to navigate my way through the mine field. Therapy helped to focus on self validation, self care thus lessening the perceived 'threat' from narcissistic behaviour. I like your emphasis on a bottom up approach to Therapy as cognitive behaviour therapy needs a well integrated fore brain to absorb new ideas , so it's important to get the body on board to work together, otherwise all the positive thinking in the world won't convince the bodys nervous system. Thanks again, subscribed. ❤

  • @LesleySASMR
    @LesleySASMR Год назад +3

    Intro to video: “I was wearing grey baggy clothes-“
    Me, having breakfast and wearing grey baggy clothes: oh no.

  • @h.i.11
    @h.i.11 Год назад +4

    Why only women in your thrivers group? Men can be abused as well. Btw, this has been very informative.

    • @HollyJordan15
      @HollyJordan15 2 месяца назад

      Because the highest percentage of people abused are women.

  • @middleofnowhere1313
    @middleofnowhere1313 Год назад +2

    I have probably grown an extra amygdala by now. Man, I don't know what to do. I can't afford therapy (in USA and broke) and ugh I swear the older I get the worse it gets even though I left the bad relationship in 2010. Yes, the narc tried gaslighting but I always took notes and kept records with dates and everything. That's what it took. In fact I told him that every time he made a statement that he would do something financially, like borrow and pay me back, I would require a signature on a notarized contract or else it was a no go.

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 10 месяцев назад

      Meditation, nature, hiking, fasting help.

    • @UteNagel
      @UteNagel 10 месяцев назад

      Dr. Brooke Goldner on youtube! Could help!

    • @Bb-xp8ym
      @Bb-xp8ym 3 месяца назад

      You can always listen to quran for comfort ❤ stay safe

  • @fred306801
    @fred306801 Год назад +1

    For years I have wondered about why things were the way they were when I grew up. I had a rough childhood, most of which I do not want to remember. When I do all, I can remember is the Physical mental and emoting abuse. I do not want to play the victim here, I just wanted to understand why. After watching many videos like this I now understand sometimes a parent can be really sick in the head. Even though they think they are God's gift to the world, and they do not mind bragging about it. Now that I am over 60 I half ass understand this. And still half ass believe some of the lies that were beaten into me. It is strange how when thing do not go my way how those memories come flooding back. From watching videos like this they tend to suggest that even a child, how they can be more on the sickly side, I was. I guess it make sense that a child having to deal with trauma and stress on a daily basis, is not a good thing. I know first-hand what it is like to see daddy beat the hell out of mama. That has to be the best way to destroy a child. Many times, in my youth I got between dad and mom and got beat to hell. I have been married for over 40 yrs. I have never raised a hand in anger to my wife. I do not say unkind things to her or make hateful remarks to her. I spoil her with love and kindness. And it has taken many years for me to convince her I love her and will not do anything to harm her. Sometimes I get the feeling her family life was not as happy as she lets on. I hate that for her But I do not think it was as bad as mine. But at the same time, I realize I am not the only one.

    • @SamStone1964
      @SamStone1964 10 месяцев назад +1

      And that trauma likely began when you were in the womb.

  • @mobiusmaximus586
    @mobiusmaximus586 4 месяца назад +2

    Would it be possible to become a narcissist from narcissistic abuse?

  • @Hartabigail
    @Hartabigail 5 месяцев назад +1

    Can you ever heal the hippocampus

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 месяца назад

    Living in narc relations donot change our condition ,before they damage our brain completely v should take action

  • @FaithFilled1111
    @FaithFilled1111 8 месяцев назад +2

    How about the migraines? Am I alone in this?

    • @Thief-d3c
      @Thief-d3c 5 месяцев назад +1

      I get migraines in short bursts once in a while. Mostly brain fogs.

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 месяца назад

    cant deal with mad people directly and singly , v need real people s support and advise

  • @PEARL712scott
    @PEARL712scott Месяц назад

    It happened to me.there is treatment for it

  • @rachellencarroll1987
    @rachellencarroll1987 Месяц назад

    I’ve been searching for the actual source of the brain scans and proof of this and haven’t found anything legitimate. Can you help me? I believe it to be true from personal experience but I’d love to have the proof and sources.

  • @spacesloth6496
    @spacesloth6496 2 месяца назад

    Thats sad because it works this way i experience it the whole way sinds very young till 55 year old and im feeling like a life wire

  • @m998hmmwv7
    @m998hmmwv7 2 месяца назад

    I can't stomach narcissist. Immediately disgust me when I speak with one. They are ignorant

  • @dbf17
    @dbf17 Год назад +3

    +1 …how to remedy..? 😳🙄

  • @Dustygoodz
    @Dustygoodz 8 месяцев назад

    I wonder if meditation will help with this issue?

    • @HollyJordan15
      @HollyJordan15 2 месяца назад

      For some people it can make them worse & their dissociation can worsen.

  • @estelled389
    @estelled389 6 месяцев назад +2

    Ive asked god to please carry this for me now. Ill let him carry my pain. God is good.

  • @emilytaylor1001
    @emilytaylor1001 Год назад +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @My_klei
    @My_klei Год назад +1

    💯

  • @maryjacob-israel1341
    @maryjacob-israel1341 4 месяца назад +1

    As soon as I heard about what happened to the brain, I felt damaged.

  • @Natalie-lf7hb
    @Natalie-lf7hb 21 день назад

    How is that woman on that throne of lies doing

  • @daftward9292
    @daftward9292 Год назад +2

    That's a pretty unfortunate thumbnail that plays off harmful stereotypes of neurodivergent education.

  • @Shalominmylife
    @Shalominmylife Месяц назад

    This bullshit is getting old

  • @magavtelanata
    @magavtelanata 3 месяца назад

    I found your thumbnail photo and title extremely unsettling. Then I heard what you are saying and to me, you sound like you want to exploit others' misery.

  • @ant6558
    @ant6558 Год назад +2

    🌸 p͎r͎o͎m͎o͎s͎m͎