Why YOUR EX ALWAYS Comes Back After a Breakup (The Real Reason)

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  • Опубликовано: 18 янв 2025

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  • @bronzedgold
    @bronzedgold 6 месяцев назад +134

    I think I’m starting to get over my ex. I used to watch these videos and cry. Now I watch them & I’m like dang Coach look good 😂

    • @ahmadelshbasy3222
      @ahmadelshbasy3222 6 месяцев назад +3

      What helped the most ?

    • @di114n2
      @di114n2 6 месяцев назад +5

      Yeah I’ve gotten to that point and it’s only been 1 week out of a 6 year relationship. If she wants me she’ll pursue and if she doesn’t I’ll be just fine . I had girlfriends before her and I can have some after her .

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 6 месяцев назад +2

      😂

    • @edgaraguilar209
      @edgaraguilar209 6 месяцев назад

      City bois up​@@di114n2

    • @tyeshatucker4460
      @tyeshatucker4460 3 месяца назад +2

      Same lol

  • @rashidarowe7882
    @rashidarowe7882 6 месяцев назад +108

    If they left you once, most likely they will do it again. Never let the same person put you through the same pain. When they leave, you have to mentally leave as well, the person who left won't be the same one that's coming back. Harsh truth.

    • @13sprintuser
      @13sprintuser 6 месяцев назад +11

      THIS. Don’t go backwards to an ex. There’s 4 billion men/women on this planet.

    • @dedrajones4174
      @dedrajones4174 6 месяцев назад

      So true!!!

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 6 месяцев назад +64

    Avoidants are so focused on testing their love interest
    to make sure he/she will be a good partner
    that they don’t even notice that in the process...
    THEY have become a terrible partner!
    We have to let people walk away. That creates a space for the right person.
    I will not hide what I feel.
    I will NEVER sugarcoat what I say.
    Radical honesty is my highest calling and my greatest value.
    I only accept consistency. I deserve it. I accept nothing less than being treated as the queen I AM.

  • @frankwhite8556
    @frankwhite8556 6 месяцев назад +122

    My girl left me about 3months ago and at first I was begging and pleading to get her back. I couldn’t eat I couldn’t sleep I swear I thought my life was ending but I’m here to tell u it gets better over time. I still miss her a lot but I’m no longer hurting and I really dnt know if she’s coming but I’m starting not to care and that’s the beauty of it. Plz stay in no contact and try to move on

    • @sandymcpherson497
      @sandymcpherson497 6 месяцев назад +2

      Wow, I thought I was the only person going through this. Iam 3 months, no contact to. I miss him too, but I no, he is not good for me. Stay strong 💪

    • @hanzo1917
      @hanzo1917 6 месяцев назад

      @@sandymcpherson497 you'll pull through don't worry

    • @frankwhite8556
      @frankwhite8556 6 месяцев назад +4

      9 times out of 10 if the relationship was even semi good they’ always come back. It might weeks, months, or even years but they always seem to find their way back in your life but it’s up to u if u want them back or not.

    • @sithy5816
      @sithy5816 6 месяцев назад +5

      The craziest part is at the month mark is where they start to wonder about what is going on especially if you went ghost they miss your presence nobody can compare to the love that you give them and if your relationship was longer that’s even better because nobody is gonna replicate the knowledge you have of them and who they are and they will crave that love is super hard to find now a days and the connection that you had brings them back my ex came back begging me after begging her for about 4 months went 1 month no contact at all and she came back begging so just stay strong don’t stop your life meet new women or men. Hang out with them learn about them and you will see from first hand nobody really compares nor will ever connect that same way with you and vice versa there will never be another you.

    • @specialk8927
      @specialk8927 6 месяцев назад

      Wow didn’t know guys could hold any feelings. 😮

  • @OM-1111
    @OM-1111 6 месяцев назад +214

    It's been 9 months. I don't think they're coming back. And, I'm ok with that. In the beginning I used to want them back so badly. Now, I see how they treated me in the end. I didn't deserve the dishonesty, immaturity, and disrespect. I deserve better. So, yeah. I don't think they're coming back and I'm feeling OK about that.

    • @alexpereira6528
      @alexpereira6528 6 месяцев назад +9

      Reflection is useful

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz 6 месяцев назад +18

      So true. 🤗 No contact enables disconnect which removes the rose-colored glasses. We see things so much more clearly. “Dodged a bullet” is my perspective. 💪✨

    • @smh6016
      @smh6016 6 месяцев назад +3

      Ditto! Feel ya…. For real!

    • @paulinerussell444
      @paulinerussell444 6 месяцев назад +2

      Mee 2

    • @doubleJJ01
      @doubleJJ01 6 месяцев назад +2

      7months here buddy 😂

  • @b2k-desiel630
    @b2k-desiel630 6 месяцев назад +134

    Broke up 7 months ago and went into no contact since March not heard a dime from her. Yesterday was her birthday I didn’t send any wishes I’m staying 💪.. I know my value.. and if I never hear from her again I’m not fussed. I finally let go and feeling great. I was good before her and I’ll be even great after her.

    • @alexpereira6528
      @alexpereira6528 6 месяцев назад +9

      good move man, shits hard

    • @d1bama90
      @d1bama90 6 месяцев назад +7

      Same !

    • @sandymcpherson497
      @sandymcpherson497 6 месяцев назад +4

      Stay strong, brother

    • @tamersaid81
      @tamersaid81 6 месяцев назад

      Well-done

    • @jn45672
      @jn45672 6 месяцев назад +1

      Dude, it's been 7 months, time to move on.time is precious

  • @JDflight24
    @JDflight24 26 дней назад +4

    It’s been 2 years-my therapist said she’ll be back at some point in my life but by then I’m going to be a point in my life where I will be able to just walk away

  • @kristina4395
    @kristina4395 6 месяцев назад +125

    The less you care the more they care

    • @di114n2
      @di114n2 4 месяца назад +3

      Facts looking back I was way too obsessed with my x . I made her my everything and basically my entire life. Never again will I treat a girl like her

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 3 месяца назад +3

      That assumes they're thinking about you, checking in on you, or want you back. If they're not doing any of those, you can care as little as you want, it won't do Jack because they don't know and don't care.

    • @kristina4395
      @kristina4395 3 месяца назад

      ​@@fuzzypanda1684 this video is about "an ex that comes back", not about the exes who dont...so is my commentary

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 3 месяца назад +1

      @@kristina4395 I hear you, but the title is that they ALWAYS come back, which isn't true whatsoever.

    • @kristina4395
      @kristina4395 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@fuzzypanda1684​the title is not that all exes always come back.. its what (why) is always the reason they come back when they do.. watching the video might help you understand

  • @therealtanza_
    @therealtanza_ 6 месяцев назад +34

    This month it would be 2 years. Now he’s in a new relationship while I’m still single. He left at my lowest point, and I’m doing a lot better. It still hurts so I need to really heal before meeting someone new

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 6 месяцев назад

      Good idea 👍

    • @specialk8927
      @specialk8927 6 месяцев назад +5

      Unfortunately he had that relationship while you were together that’s why he moved on so instantly

  • @cj2443
    @cj2443 6 месяцев назад +17

    When I stop thinking of her, she reaches out to talk crap, make jealous or breadcrumb. Happened 3x last month and 1 time this month. Strange how the universe works! I'm still NC

  • @lucyg7887
    @lucyg7887 6 месяцев назад +22

    He hurt me so bad that I literally erased myself from social media. So he can’t watch me, he can’t see nothing about me. He text me today and I left him on read. I did the professing my feelings thing before when he text me and he did go ghost. I’m not responding to nothing but true effort. Im proud of myself for being strong enough to not respond. I really don’t block people, like Nicki Minaj said “I leave these bitches on red so now they know that they blue it” 😂

  • @kareemandino7388
    @kareemandino7388 5 месяцев назад +8

    It's crazy how every single video has been spot on. Every time they contact you watch one of these videos. I made so many mistakes. Got a rebound made it public stayed in no contact she came back crying talking about how could you. Crazy about me. And she hated me man. She wanted nothing to do with me at all. Stubborn, and still this worked. I couldn't believe it

  • @sithy5816
    @sithy5816 6 месяцев назад +10

    You don’t understand how true these words are until you experience these exact situations spitting straight facts

  • @GeorgeBrown-dx9ws
    @GeorgeBrown-dx9ws 5 месяцев назад +8

    I can't believe that there's a lot of people going thru the same thing in going thru.love hurts😢day by day no contact you get stronger . stay strong

    • @timpierce1967
      @timpierce1967 2 месяца назад

      I dont think I will love anyone ever again 😔 13 years down the drain

  • @tena2013
    @tena2013 6 месяцев назад +35

    Today is the anniversary of our engagement. I accidentally ran into her yesterday. Said a quick hello and went on my way as she was heading to work and i needed to get home. I wish she saw value in our life together. 10 years...for nothing

  • @kwdjessy
    @kwdjessy 5 месяцев назад +15

    If they left you once and you accepted it back they will leave you again when things get tough!

    • @Starrrrr898
      @Starrrrr898 5 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely true! Recently, I went through this. I think once they leave they shouldn't be accepted back. Like return to sender haha

    • @rositagonzalez6051
      @rositagonzalez6051 Месяц назад

      My ex leaves, then comes back😂 I no longer react. He just needs a place to stay. I used to suffer. I see him more like a friend in need. I did no contact and 2 weeks later he called then was home again 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @Omnitrix8
    @Omnitrix8 6 месяцев назад +14

    She ended the relationship 2 months ago. I have greived the 'loss'. I am over it now and currently dating. Nothing serious but currently dating. I am currently taking kickboxing and animation lessons. My ex can kick rocks for all I care!

    • @Omnitrix8
      @Omnitrix8 4 месяца назад

      @EdwardChan-k9u get lost!!

    • @Omnitrix8
      @Omnitrix8 4 месяца назад

      @EdwardChan-k9uscammer!!

    • @Omnitrix8
      @Omnitrix8 4 месяца назад

      @EdwardChan-k9u did I ever tell you I need any help??

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo 2 месяца назад +1

      Have your ex ever reach out to you??

    • @Omnitrix8
      @Omnitrix8 2 месяца назад

      @@archangelelmo not directly. she tried baiting me by liking my post on Instagram and unliking it. She has been stalking my post though so I don't know if that counts

  • @joydipchowdhury5557
    @joydipchowdhury5557 6 месяцев назад +9

    Move on, the avoidant has this tendency to leave anytime so let yourself get some peace and let it go. If they come back they still got the power to leave again and make u look completely not valuable. Self respect!!

  • @crumbocrumbo887
    @crumbocrumbo887 3 месяца назад +3

    I need a video to expand upon once they come back and you realize there's been no changes after I did everything you suggested, it worked and now they want to act like we're together yet we're apart. He did the chasing. He begged to come back. Now he's immediately falling back into the old patterns. All talk. No action. When I address it, it's an argument. It's a lot to unpack. I need to speak with you.

  • @seowweetang2253
    @seowweetang2253 4 месяца назад +5

    Reading the comments and my own experience, women never comes back. Its always the men that comes crawling back. So men, sorry but your ex girlfriend is gone.

  • @mrocks199
    @mrocks199 3 месяца назад +4

    Today Marks 3 months no contact for me. At first the breakup hit like a bus and i was really bad for the first month but it got better. I still struggle with wanting to text her but ive stayed strong still i miss her but cant do much about that.

    • @timpierce1967
      @timpierce1967 2 месяца назад

      Me too im on 3 months i have to see her because of kiddos. Sucks 😢 that make it harder.

  • @RaulGarcia-x5x
    @RaulGarcia-x5x 6 месяцев назад +19

    Hey coach black I just got dumped a week ago my ex thinks I’m never gonna change I recently signed up to mentally therapy trynna change for myself and save this relationship

    • @Champman543
      @Champman543 6 месяцев назад +7

      Brother you are doing the right thing💪
      Do it for yourself first

    • @R2G1414
      @R2G1414 6 месяцев назад

      @@RaulGarcia-x5xstay in no contact and unless she says something significant ignore her, if you answer to every little breadcrumb she gives you you’ll never get her back and she will not respect you! Work on yourself, get yourself straight, go to the gym, make money, clear your head and once you’re at the point where you’ve become better. You won’t care anymore - trust me lol my ex who left me keeps creeping on my Instagram now, they always come back bro

    • @chinadoll534
      @chinadoll534 6 месяцев назад +1

      Really good to do

    • @R2G1414
      @R2G1414 6 месяцев назад

      @@RaulGarcia-x5x do it for you, go to the gym everyday, delete social media for 90 days and put 100 percent all into yourself
      They are always watching
      Trust me

    • @Mysterix619
      @Mysterix619 6 месяцев назад

      Change the motivation bro! Do it for yourself! I’m on a similar path

  • @debramcgill7962
    @debramcgill7962 3 месяца назад +3

    We not spoken for a year. Now he wants to get back together. He was in Africa on military job. While he was gone he says he had a fear of death.
    I am afraid it will happen to me again that he leaves again.
    He needs to prove he’s not going to do that. I’m very independent since he left and have grown.

  • @dave12181
    @dave12181 3 месяца назад +3

    If you and you ex are on FB but (not friends, or not blocked) you will not know if they are watch you’re stories because it will only show as OTHER.

  • @tangelaallgood925
    @tangelaallgood925 17 часов назад

    I love this! Confidence and confirming.

  • @tiffanyburke2785
    @tiffanyburke2785 5 месяцев назад +3

    5.5 years and I had health issues. And he started pulling away when I was emotionally struggling with parts of our relationship of transparency and honesty. I eventually had too many emotional moments of I can’t do this anymore. He would pull me back in. Eventually he didn’t pull me back. I have tried a few times. But it’s over. It’s been 3 weeks since we last texted. And it’s been 6 weeks since we had the break up talk face to face. It’s been close to 2 months since we have spent anytime together as a couple. I miss him so deeply. But we had drifted so far apart and he never chose me at my height. I was never good enough to keep for life. I was transactional. My daughters wanted more for me. But I had become so little value. He even said. I’m not getting anything out of this anymore. It was rough to hear. But I suppose I will be ok. I just usually bounce back. Not this time. Annnnd I really hope he doenst watch your channel. 😂

  • @AlFakherFan
    @AlFakherFan 4 месяца назад +1

    Man, you are really pro of what you are doing, keep doing! Thank you, you helped me a lot through difficult times!

  • @hotcargo8886
    @hotcargo8886 5 месяцев назад +2

    On another note...That Jersey is 🔥...Earl Campbell was my Favorite Underrated Running Back 💙

  • @ozonethedon
    @ozonethedon 6 месяцев назад +2

    Dont want them back

  • @acumenpsychiatryservices6376
    @acumenpsychiatryservices6376 6 месяцев назад +2

    I love him. So much.

  • @tmkc162
    @tmkc162 4 месяца назад +2

    Just subbed. Thanks soooo much‼️

  • @thatcringegirl007
    @thatcringegirl007 6 месяцев назад +4

    Please do a video on breakups when there is a significant age gap ( girl older/guy younger) or execs where one person is a single relationship. Thanks

    • @Chun_Leroy
      @Chun_Leroy 5 месяцев назад

      This is my story.
      I’m older, he’s younger

    • @Chun_Leroy
      @Chun_Leroy 5 месяцев назад

      This is my story.
      I’m older and he’s younger.

  • @AttorneyD
    @AttorneyD 6 месяцев назад +6

    I just want to say I love the fit and I just like the sound of your voice lol. Very soothing. You should do ASMR.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +1

      Ha, thank you. I get that quite often actually

    • @kristina4395
      @kristina4395 6 месяцев назад

      That's true..😊. I have no ex that i want back at all, but i listen to these videos coz his way of speaking and his voice helps me fall asleep 🪄🪄🪄😊 truth. 🤷🏖️🏖️

    • @TreMiller23
      @TreMiller23 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@blacademicwhat should you do if she says she checked out emotionally

  • @KhrystynaBraverman
    @KhrystynaBraverman День назад

    Thank you Coach!

  • @jamd24
    @jamd24 8 дней назад

    Excellent points

  • @matthobson1882
    @matthobson1882 6 месяцев назад +12

    You should do a video on how to re-attract your ex if you actually are the one who messed up. Like weren't present enough etc. Also a video around long distance.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +8

      Weren’t present isn’t a great reason to breakup in my experience. It is very likely much deeper than that.
      Are you ACTUALLY in no contact? Honestly

    • @matthobson1882
      @matthobson1882 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@blacademic Ya, I'm actually in no contact. And in terms of not present, we were long distance for a long time. It was mostly my fault not moving the relationship closer and there were times I could have made more of an effort to see here when she was asking and trying to see me.

    • @matthobson1882
      @matthobson1882 6 месяцев назад

      @@blacademic to her she felt that i was one foot in one foot out. even though I was just being avoidant in a way. Im working on that by the way now.

    • @willemhanse762
      @willemhanse762 6 месяцев назад

      Breakups are terrible what people especially wise men can become after healing is not to be play with thanks though Coach we still healing and moving.​@@blacademic

    • @kcchong-s2i
      @kcchong-s2i 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@blacademichi Coach , I had ask if you can advice ..is having coffee, having Male friends and talking to guys in the gym ... Disrespect or Emotional Cheating ..I told my girlfriend stop all these. she flakes and ghosting me Day 19...should I take her back ...is this week ?

  • @skhre039
    @skhre039 6 месяцев назад +3

    I really appreciate this video needed to hear the message today

  • @elizabethclarke2005
    @elizabethclarke2005 6 месяцев назад +2

    I want Coach Blac he's gorgeous looking and talks to my heart x

  • @specialk8927
    @specialk8927 6 месяцев назад +3

    They could care less about seeing you crying

  • @geometrae4773
    @geometrae4773 6 месяцев назад +8

    She contacted me after about a month of nothing. She wanted us to get together to have a breakup ceremony of sorts, "conscious uncoupling" thing. I declined and said that I'm not interested since our breakup wasn't mutual and i wouldn't be able to show up for that, and that she should reach out if she changed her mind about us. Was that a proper response? She hasnt responded since I wrote that.

    • @Crazyd2050
      @Crazyd2050 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah you did good

    • @Xx__1
      @Xx__1 6 месяцев назад +4

      Perfect. You let her know you want her. Leave her with that thought & dissappear. Stay in no contact & move forward with your life

  • @KarinaMoel
    @KarinaMoel 6 месяцев назад +1

    Just want to say thankyou.. feel so good to hear what you said in this video.. i love the way you talk, very calm so that i can understand the words.. GBU

  • @gaelmontes5122
    @gaelmontes5122 6 месяцев назад +3

    Coach, they came back after no contact and moving out, but my body was telling me something was wrong so I set boundaries for me to walk away & pull back. They only took 3 days and came into my work asking why I’m ignoring her

  • @babyluvjr
    @babyluvjr 6 месяцев назад +2

    Im feeling that earl campbell , Coach

  • @ladyshorty6989
    @ladyshorty6989 6 месяцев назад

    Ty ♥️. He hadn't gone to counseling nor has he fixed the issues 💔 but he has repeatedly reached out. I have fortunately been growing and focusing on me. But I've also noticed that when we do talk,I hear the tone in his narcissistic,ego driven and frustrated voice that he's doesn't know what to say,and that he's easily triggered. I've taken pictures of him popping up unauthorized. The betrayal was the nail in the coffin. Even though he verbally apologized,it wasn't sincere. One of his problems besides anger issues are that he's not uses to being told NO!! IVE been sticking to my boundaries and my word because his effort is piss poor in my opinion. It's alot......very draining. At this point,I can wait on my next and not my ex and let him deal with his pride because ive tried.....

  • @Korra939
    @Korra939 6 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you coach Blac, your videos has really helped me a lot.
    Mine eventually came back after 6wks but I didn’t wanna be with him anymore, I immediately blocked him after he reached out & he started to follow me on Instagram with a different name I know of.
    This guy walked away after an argument & destroyed all my business plans I had put together, was heartbroken but your videos helped me pushed through.

  • @lucyoclarke
    @lucyoclarke 6 месяцев назад +2

    Really needed to hear this tonight. Thanks.👍🏻

  • @Leenotpassing
    @Leenotpassing 6 месяцев назад +13

    my ex is a virgo and he’s so stubborn i don’t think he would come back even if he wanted to. his family hates me so i know they influence him to stay away. it’s been 3 weeks and im hurting. i love him and im trying to heal.

    • @adgrizzard86
      @adgrizzard86 6 месяцев назад +1

      My husband is a Virgo too. We been broke up 6 weeks but it’s only been a week we haven’t talked. His family definitely influence him to stay away from me. I prepared the divorce papers but haven’t filed yet. I pray we can work through this after some healing on both our parts but I’m unsure. Sounds like we in a similar situation. 😅 Virgo’s are very stubborn

  • @teresatilley1324
    @teresatilley1324 4 месяца назад

    Great advice! Thank you!

  • @nfornepatricejunior3761
    @nfornepatricejunior3761 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Sir, apart from feeling better I learn a lot from you

  • @Iragricyna
    @Iragricyna 15 дней назад

    My ex broke up with me and since that day didn’t leave me alone. The same night texted me. After 2 days texted me “horribly missing you”. I didn’t respond. He constantly checked my stories. I don’t get that stupidity 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @eustacesmith9635
    @eustacesmith9635 5 месяцев назад

    Thanks very much coach

  • @kay6816
    @kay6816 6 месяцев назад +1

    My ex is asking if am seeing anyone after 5 months of no contact

  • @yolenda_loves_to_sing
    @yolenda_loves_to_sing 6 месяцев назад +2

    I have a question - Is there anyone who did say "no" to their ex who came back, but actually REGRETs for it later in their life, and still wondering the "what if", and is missing them, and secretly want to contact them again, but ego is in the way, and don't know what to do now? Just curious, anyone? Or do I have a special case?? :(

  • @igchannel2174
    @igchannel2174 4 месяца назад +2

    Ive been in NC over a week now. Ive been posting some neutral nature theme pics on ig story. my ex wached all of them. And on the latest post (there was a cat and i Said in that video "hello cutie!!"), he reacted on that putting a heart.. he knows i want a clean cut from him, so i dont know why he is still following me on social media. I was thinking that maybe is best for me to delete insta for at least a month, so i can really focus on myself.

    • @Blackmamba12345
      @Blackmamba12345 4 месяца назад +1

      Just delete it. Otherwise you're pretty much still in contact..

    • @igchannel2174
      @igchannel2174 4 месяца назад

      @@Blackmamba12345 ye. I felt already a little better after deleting that app. :)

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo 2 месяца назад

      Have your ex ever reach out to you???

    • @igchannel2174
      @igchannel2174 2 месяца назад

      @@archangelelmo Hi! YESS! He reached out to me after 2 and a half week. He wanted to talk to me, I declined politely. Couple days after, I was feeling so fine and I reached to him saying i would be willing to listen to him now. He came to see me as soon as he red my message. After that everything went so natural.. and after a month or so we started dating :)

  • @cocopoulin936
    @cocopoulin936 6 месяцев назад

    thank you coach for a long form video ♥

  • @scorpiored3871
    @scorpiored3871 6 месяцев назад +1

    ❤Very helpful, thank you ❤

  • @zombiemitsu
    @zombiemitsu 6 месяцев назад +3

    After my ex broke up with me the week after I reached out so many ways that now I’m threatened and block I have begin to do NC. Do you think I messed up my chances for reaching out so much days after we broke up? Like will NC erase how embarrassing I acted and the desperation??

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo 2 месяца назад

      Have your ex ever reach out to you???

  • @robbello1000
    @robbello1000 6 месяцев назад +3

    You Get 1 Chance sometimes 2 but........................... RARELY..........................................

  • @d1bama90
    @d1bama90 6 месяцев назад

    Great video

  • @daniel17569
    @daniel17569 5 месяцев назад

    It has been 6 months when I found out she was cheating with her work husband when I confronted her she left with my children got a social housing, for the first 2 months I was bedridden but now it feels so good without her and I finally got the courage to apply for divorce everything is working out for me got a new job. The only pain I feel is missing my daughter she’s 13 years old

  • @changlee4771
    @changlee4771 5 месяцев назад +1

    What if i say to him its okay never mind take care on the road

  • @Chiffon-mv1gw
    @Chiffon-mv1gw 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you Black 🥺🥺🥺

  • @PamelaAnderson-ut6sz
    @PamelaAnderson-ut6sz 6 месяцев назад +2

    So my ex dumped me. That same day I said ok never call or text him again. So we worked together he did it all showing my friends pictures seeing me trying to touch me crazy stuff. But I never pay attention to him. So now he’s acting like we r talking again and the next day not speaking.

    • @adgrizzard86
      @adgrizzard86 6 месяцев назад

      Sounds like he’s having mixed emotions about the breakup. Hot and cold. My husband been doing this quite a bit since we split up 6 weeks ago. I’m currently in no-contact

  • @DtroytDave
    @DtroytDave 6 месяцев назад

    THAT JERSEY 🔥🔥🔥

  • @girishk5763
    @girishk5763 6 месяцев назад +1

    Coach, can you kindly make a video on how to get your fearful avoidant ex back after you’ve screwed up no contact for 6 months after break and they’ve blocked you and made a lot of begging and also when they hold a lot of resentment from the mistakes of the past long long ago I’ve done. Also if I was inconsistent with my tasks.Please advise.

  • @tricia4075
    @tricia4075 6 месяцев назад

    Hi Coach Blac,
    Do you still do 1 on 1 sessions?

  • @KendraWalker-z4t
    @KendraWalker-z4t 6 месяцев назад +1

    Well he left me 8 month's ago we have a child together if he's breadcrumbs me but he'll say things wen we was together how he think bout wen he drunk he thought bout coming over then he say we not together anymore can we be friends like i said i aint even see u as a friend .if it aint bout the baby i dont call him i dont case or beg

  • @becsilverio
    @becsilverio 6 месяцев назад +1

    It's day 7 for me since our breakup. The odd thing is I'm still staying with my ex here in the apartment we're renting. It's not that easy to move out. And I just lost my job recently as well. So I hit rock bottom. 😢 don't know what to do.

  • @Tzoptzoptimi
    @Tzoptzoptimi 6 месяцев назад +1

    How to do when we still live together

    • @gravischick24au
      @gravischick24au 6 месяцев назад

      Im in the same boat as you! My ex broke up with me while she was overseas, maintained NC which lasted for 12 days and has asked me to pick her up from the airport in a few weeks time and I said I would

    • @gravischick24au
      @gravischick24au 6 месяцев назад

      And I was the one who initiated to contact her

  • @clairefoxall2313
    @clairefoxall2313 6 месяцев назад

    How about if your ex asks to see you a year ago but you’re in a relationship but then that relationship ends & he asks if he can see you & asks if he can help you out around the house which is great he does jobs for you but he never wants to talk on the phone only txt you as they are most comfortable with this 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @joykorshiwor699
    @joykorshiwor699 6 месяцев назад +11

    I broke up with my ex because he was causing me too much pain

  • @NashvilleBoss
    @NashvilleBoss 6 месяцев назад

    Jersey 🔥

  • @Jasmine-eo9fo
    @Jasmine-eo9fo 6 месяцев назад

    Do you think him putting a clapping emoji like this 👏🏾 on one of my insta story posts is him reaching out or trying to interact? Even though it’s not a regular text or call?

    • @MrMoet
      @MrMoet 4 месяца назад +1

      A breadcrumb imo

  • @bambilekha6812
    @bambilekha6812 6 месяцев назад

    I went through a lot of pain, hurts, devastated emotions 💔

  • @staph1re378
    @staph1re378 6 месяцев назад

    Hi Coach. I have a question about something you mentioned in the video at around the 4:00 mark. You said that they don't want to see us in pain. However, from watching your videos, I've noticed you've said several times that they actually want us to chase after them and be sad because it justifies their decision to leave. This allows them to see that the dumpee's life hasn't improved, reinforcing their belief that their decision was correct.
    Thanks.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +5

      Two different timelines, when they first dump you. It’s a hard enough conversation, they don’t want to see you crying, begging etc. as it just makes the conversation more difficult and uncomfortable
      But afterwards, days or weeks later they don’t want to see you just totally move on without grieving the loss of the relationship.
      It’s just human nature, we all to some extent want to feel like we matter

  • @halimamahdee5825
    @halimamahdee5825 Месяц назад

    Me ex is sending me pictures via whatsapp that I already have without any verbal context. I'm not sure why he feels the need to do this but I didn't respond.

  • @aBLA910
    @aBLA910 6 месяцев назад +3

    My ex and I were in a committed relationship for 3 years, but have known each other since childhood. He dumped me and moved out a couple weeks ago mid-fight. He’s been on dating apps since a few days after. I begged for a few days post-breakup, but have been respecting the boundaries he said he wanted, and have tried to go no contact since. But he will not stop texting me everyday, even though his tone is cold. He tells me every detail about his day, and gets offended if I stop responding. Even though when breaking up with me, he claimed that I was terrible and awful, he claims he still sees me as his “best friend”. It’s making me crazy, coach. I’m so anxious, and I want him back so badly, but I know I can’t ask again or come on too strong…

    • @TheSinfulSiren_
      @TheSinfulSiren_ 6 месяцев назад +1

      Stop responding and stay in no contact or you’re gonna ruin it if you want him back. If he can’t stop texting you then you’re in a good place to get him back. But only if you do no contact.

    • @hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438
      @hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438 6 месяцев назад +1

      His not feeling break up as you are still there entertaining his bullshit. Block him and move on. He will beg to be with you. Absense is needed to miss and understand someone.

    • @aBLA910
      @aBLA910 6 месяцев назад

      @@TheSinfulSiren_ thank you! I’m going to follow this advice

    • @aBLA910
      @aBLA910 6 месяцев назад

      @@hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438 thank you for responding. Doing exactly as you say starting today!

    • @gaelmontes5122
      @gaelmontes5122 6 месяцев назад +3

      Im in the SAME situation, please stay strong, they need way more time to process the consequences of their actions. Truly work on yourself bc you’re clearly still in love and needy so it’s not just for him, but for YOU and your health, take ur power back

  • @Steez-yn2uv
    @Steez-yn2uv Месяц назад

    Most videos I watch I can NOT relate. My relationship and situation is very different. When we were first met I didn’t want to be with her but she wanted to be with me and she knew that. After months of us talking her calling me her “boyfriend” i finally started to take her serious. Keep in mind I wasn’t completely faithful, she knew that. But that was our first year being together. For the next 3 years I was completely loyal. But, I was constantly bring up breaking up whenever we argued and she’d always beg to stay in the relationship with me. I was so used to having that power over her. One time I broke things off and didn’t talk to her for a month and came back bc I missed her. I ended up falling in love with this girl. We’ve been arguing for the past couple weeks due to me being jealous about a co-worker which is her brothers friend. She always told me I had nothing to worry about bc he was just a friend and was married. But I kept being consistent with talking shit she finally ended things a week ago. She has been so cold I’ve never seen her like this before, she told me she lost feelings for me and has been “mentally checked out” which is hard for me to believe because a 2 months ago I tried leaving her and she was ending messages to me nonstop begging for the relationship. I went to make things right 2 days ago but didn’t even step out of her house. She said I needed to move on and that her decision was final. I’ve been trying so hard to win her love over. Bought her like 70 roses, wrote her a 2 page letter which I never thought I’d do. Should I be hopeful that she just needs time to think or is it done and should I move on.

    • @saicharanrajmamindla8671
      @saicharanrajmamindla8671 7 дней назад

      Bro sorry to say she is gone
      Please don't beg she is not worthy
      Spend time on yourself focus on your personal goals and do gym
      You deserve better tgen her
      All the best 😊

  • @Sllihulkgaming
    @Sllihulkgaming 3 месяца назад

    Im slowly fading away. Oh well i have to do somethin good for her all i need is a closure i have no idea whts the reasons why she ended our relationship

  • @allexleyrandmusic
    @allexleyrandmusic 5 месяцев назад

    What happens if someone texts you on your birthday? Should I respond or what? I need some advice, please.

  • @shevellewaldron926
    @shevellewaldron926 6 месяцев назад

    My ex not coming back that man break up with me after 5 years and got married in two months and we was living together and have a 4 year child together and that man left and never look back it’s been 8 months

  • @Ivy89261
    @Ivy89261 6 месяцев назад

    It's been almost 2 years and I still have sad dreams about him. I always had the hope that he would just call and ask if we wanted to do something together... we have a child so we are always in touch a little and see each other sometimes.
    it hurts and I'm desperate 😢

  • @Mxrow
    @Mxrow 6 месяцев назад +2

    Hey coach blac noticed my ex uploads Instagram stories now that I stopped uploading mine. Is it just a coincidence. She used to watch them all the time and I feel like she stopped watching them to get me to react so I stopped uploading stories to my page. I don't look at hers ever so have no idea what she's sharing. Been no contact for a while now

  • @demetriocelocia5545
    @demetriocelocia5545 6 месяцев назад

    Hello coach she break up with my ex on my birthday April. And now she seeing my our boss what do you recommend please can i still get back with me?

  • @florentinohernandez0
    @florentinohernandez0 6 месяцев назад +2

    Bro dripped out

  • @shawny979
    @shawny979 6 месяцев назад

    He Monkeybranched, but wished me a Happy Birthday. What's up with that?

  • @jhaneasipin7612
    @jhaneasipin7612 6 месяцев назад +1

    My boyfriend left me in February and he blocked me from everything. Then atter 3 months of No contact, (May), he emailed my niece and he asked about me and he said that he will send a graduation gift for my daugher, since when we were together, he really gave money to my 2 kids.. Then, my niece asked my Ex if he still loved me. My Ex's answer was, "Not anymore". But at that time, he unblocked me and we talked. We talked and he sent money for me and his gift for my daughter. Our conversation lasted for 1 week and we enjoyed it even though we didn't talk about the relationship. Then, until one day I became clingy and he felt that I was jealous and he said that it was wrong that we talked again and he blocked me again. I was worried, did he mean it when he told to my niece that he doesn't love me anymore?
    When he said that he doesn't love me anymore, was he sincere? So he just wanted to give me money, that's why he reached out?

    • @Xx__1
      @Xx__1 6 месяцев назад +3

      Sounds like he cares about your daughter, that's easy to see, I don't know your situation but it seems like he has moved on. Probably seeing if the grass is greener elsewhere. If there was any interest there on his part it would have shown after all that time apart it. It reminds me of my ex, the same thing happened (she left) I speak to her after 2 months of no contact & she is a different person, turns out she was with someone for about 6 months prior to us breaking up. I'm now 6 months into no contact and i hear she is getting married next month. Listen, please don't waste your time, get in the gym, or do something productive to become the best version of yourself. Keep yourself busy and move on cuz life is short. You deserve to be happy. My life has changed recently & I feel great. I will never look back, you will get there too. Keep your head up.

    • @jhaneasipin7612
      @jhaneasipin7612 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@Xx__1 Thank you, and yes you're right.. sorry to hear that, but when I hear the word "Marriage" I lose hope. But I think your Ex will still talk to you, not now, but right now he is still in the honeymoon phase so maybe one day he will talk to you. In our case, our relationship lasted for 2 years and we broke up 5 times and he came back😌He leaves and comes back.. I always accept him because I love him but it seems he abused me since he knew I was soft hearted. and he knows I will forgive him. The last time we broke up, he left for the reason that he and his wife got back together since they were separated. I begged, of course I was hurt. But he explained that it was for the sake of their 2 children, so I accepted the break up. Then after 3 months, he reached out to my niece and sent money for my daughter and for me and we talked but of course he seemed like a different person since he was with his wife 😌I had no choice but to accept it. If I push, I will just be another woman in his life.

    • @Xx__1
      @Xx__1 6 месяцев назад

      @jhaneasipin7612
      You're situation is similar to mine, they left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split a few times duriing that period & got back together, but each time we got back, it was just that little bit more toxic as our bond was getting just that little bit more damaged each time. She took 1000's from me as I was financially supporting her too as she has kids, however as soon as i said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a home that was the end. She found a rich man with a business & decided that would be better for her and started a relationship with him & now they are getting married. I couldn't understand how someone could just switch off their feelings so suddenly and emotionally just invest into someone else over night & committed to a marriage? Its crazy. I could never do that. When I love I love 100%. All or nothing. Anyway I realised, she is never going to come back or contact me, unless that relationship/marriage ends or realises my value but to be honest, if someone treats you like that you shouldn't want them back. Would you do that to someone, or treat them like that? Why be with someone who don't respect you. It's been a few months of work but I feel amazing now, you just need to work on yourself, cut all communication and just move forward. Its hard but you can do it. With every hardship in life comes ease. There is always something in your life that's happening at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this saying, you will find success from it, I promise you. Its been my salvation

    • @Xx__1
      @Xx__1 6 месяцев назад

      @jhaneasipin7612
      You're situation sounds similar to mine. They both left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split several times during this period, but always back together, but each time we did it things were bit more toxic as each time our relationship would be just that little bit more broken each time.
      She took 1000's from me as I would financially support her as she had a few kids. One day I said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a new house & unfortunately that was the end of us. As soon as I said I couldn't, she went & found herself a rich businessman & started a new relationship with him.
      I couldn't understand how a person could stop loving someone and just recommit to another, invest themselves emotionally 100% and agree to marriage overnight? I could never do that. When I love its 100%, all or nothing. They will only come back if their relationship fails. You would just be a back up plan. To be honest i wouldnt want her back. I couldn't be with someone who is like that & you shouldn't either. We are better then a back up plan. I'm sure you wouldn't treat someone like that I know I wouldn't. Just cut all communication & try to forget them. I did that and feel amazing now. I've leveled up. I'm better then what I was 1 year ago. Just remember thru every hardship come ease. Whilst you have something difficult in your life ongoing there is also something happening in your life at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this & you will find success
      I'm sorry if I posted this twice I think I accidentally deleted it the first time

    • @Xx__1
      @Xx__1 6 месяцев назад

      @jhaneasipin7612 all my messages to you seem to be getting deleted 😐
      Did you see my reply by any chance

  • @shaunghishing9965
    @shaunghishing9965 6 месяцев назад

    My gf broke up with me, but she doesn't want to say anything why she is leaving. She is telling me to move on, I'm guessing it's probably because of her ex. She use to tell me sometimes that her ex is begging and crying to be together. They were together till 2022 dated 4 months I'm guessing she is clearly lying coz i came to find out they were from same hometown and moved to different city for jobs. We've been together since 2023 march - 2024 may. And i wanted to ask the guy directly, if i have the answer then maybe i would be able to move forward. Would that be good?

  • @mariarincon6978
    @mariarincon6978 6 месяцев назад

    Trust me, they ALWAYS come back; every time they do so, you get a different version of them. It’s exhaustingly confusing and so not worth the time nor the energy. RUN!

  • @crumbocrumbo887
    @crumbocrumbo887 4 месяца назад

    I really need a session but this economy doesn't allow me to afford it. Is there a payment plan?

  • @chidimmaobah6002
    @chidimmaobah6002 6 месяцев назад

    What if they have multiple options ?

  • @ogdeuce4934
    @ogdeuce4934 4 месяца назад

    what it mean when somebody leave you over food though

  • @Shammonella
    @Shammonella 6 месяцев назад

    The timing?? 😮

  • @audrey4150
    @audrey4150 6 месяцев назад

    Ugh two weeks ago was the break up and he blocked me :(

  • @teeronn866
    @teeronn866 5 месяцев назад

    I don’t even respond when she break no contact .. Im either on the phone with one of my new shorties or on my way to their house … that p falling out the sky!!!

  • @dantenewyork7380
    @dantenewyork7380 6 месяцев назад +1

    Earl Campbell!

  • @teeronn866
    @teeronn866 5 месяцев назад

    But coach what if we like F that yo!! Since me and my ex broke up I got a 5 chic rotation. I don’t think Im ever going back… head daily.. not arguing and fighting and the vibes I’m having is lit…. F my ex!!!!

  • @michellereasee861
    @michellereasee861 6 месяцев назад

    I haven't seen him we chat brief I told him free me but he want say nothing but I'm lost for words

  • @RaulGarcia-x5x
    @RaulGarcia-x5x 6 месяцев назад +1

    Man I recently just got dumped I really hope you reply back to me, she would check up on me and I would want to get right then there, I would cheat and be abusive. I start going to mentally therapy this Monday and now I just really wanna get back with her all my past relationships I never knew who to give space but now I’m willing to change myself and not go to alcohol or drugs and not stay the same cause I dont wanna blow it if I get another chance my birthday is coming up in three weeks and we was together for almost three years

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +5

      You sound very needy even in your comment and full of fear. The feelings are valid but you need to work on the things you said you would work on and stop worrying too much

  • @SheedMoney141
    @SheedMoney141 6 месяцев назад

    My ex recently broke up with me I did the no contact rule 5 day’s later she reached out to me but we had a trip planned she stilll said she wants to date me and go on the trip my friends told me dead her I want to reconcile what do I do