Thank you for watching and your feedback. I've learned it is never too late to change for the better. Sometimes, I wish I learned these lessons more quickly, but I can only go forward once I've gained conviction.
It truly is possible and it's never too late. I wish it didn't take so long for me to process, but I can try now, knowing that others suffered because of my inaction.
Jim's story is definitely highlighting the lasting impact of childhood experiences here! How he's managed though... It's inspiring to see him reflect on his own actions and strive for change! You're amazing Jim!
Miss Love's impact on Jim demonstrates the power of empathy and understanding. It's a reminder that small acts of kindness can have a lasting ripple effect.
I was happy to say something about Ms. Love. I wish I could tell her how much impact she had on my way of thinking. It wasn't immediate, but something that sank in slowly over the years. She was a genuinely kind and beautiful human being.
One great thing is that I often hear music now in other languages and can "feel" what the song is about without understanding a single word. I'm not sure what that is called, but it's powerful. Music transcends language at times.
To this day, I wish I could tell Ms. love how she had a life-long effect on me, just on those few words and thoughts she shared. She was a beautiful person.
The moment with Miss Love seems to really have impacted his understanding of racism and how important empathy and personal connections can be when dealing with that sort of treatment... A beautiful lesson that not everyone is lucky enough to learn
Jim's recollection of childhood innocence lost is so relatable to me.... I think a lot of people would have a similar memory to this. It is his journey from being a witness to an actor that is inspiring though. I feel so many of us have just become blaze to it happening we don't think of stepping in.
I must admit that for a long time, I thought I was OK if I saw bad treatment of others, but didn't participate in it. Over time in the Navy though, I heard an expression that fits: Silence is approval. Still, taking action takes conviction in what one believes.
I found Jim's analogy of turning into the storm really shows the importance of a collective responsibility to combat racism in such a poetical and profound way, thank you Jim
Thank you for writing. I thought of that analogy on a ship with 2500 military members. In one emergency in the Adriatic Sea, I enjoyed watching tow Sailors who couldn't stand each other closing ventilation when we thought we were under attack. They became friends and one invited the other to stand up for his wedding the next year. We can change.
Thank you for watching this presentation. I still feel such strong emotions when I think of the various people in the story. They probably think I've forgotten about them a long time ago, but they're important parts of my life and I'm grateful to have met them.
On another comment, someone pointed out that discrimination occurs everywhere and takes so many forms. People who are obese can also tell stories of just walking into a room and seeing looks of disapproval, for example. But seeing people as human beings worthy of respect and dignity is something anyone can practice.
I think how vividly Jim's can recollect that experience really speaks to just how lasting the impact of that kind of moment can have on our whole lives, like it would continue to shape your perspective and mindset for so long and I think lots of people have had experiences like that
I tried to make this presentation with as many pictures of how that day played out for me. For sure, the more I thought about it, the more I could see the ripple effect of that experience. Like they say in therapy, it's like peeling layers of an onion.
I often wondered what I could do, just one person. Then I heard Martin Luther King's quote "when we cannot all do great things, all of us can do small things in a great way." So I try to do what I can when I can. Thank you for your response!
Jim's decision to finally say "ubuntu" after years of contemplation reminds us that change is possible, especially if we're willing to go on the long journey of personal discovery and evolution
Thank you for your feedback. It never is too late to learn to treat others better. I try to think of the internal dialogue and be honest about my thoughts. I ask myself if I could be wrong about what I perceive in others.
The contrast between feeling invisible and being seen is thought-provoking. No one should have to cross the road just to feel safe. We need to challenge these perceptions.
Thank you for mentioning that. As a white person, I'd never thought that both visibility and invisibility could achieve the same demoralizing feelings in other people.
The story about Charles at camp hit hard. Sometimes our actions, or lack thereof, reveal uncomfortable truths about ourselves. I think the best we can do is acknowledge it and strive to do better
Ms. Love is one of the favorite people in my life, like an angel placed there to teach something profound. Anyone who met Ms. Love loved her. She was perfectly content to sing and smile her way through each day.
Maaaaaan when he talks about how he felt relief after Charles withdrew from camp... this really hit me. I know that sense of relief, whenever a disabled person is in the line at work and I don't have to serve them. I've never looked closely enough at that relief to understand what it really is. Thank you for making me look at that, Jim.
Thank you for your feedback, I've learned from you. I remember about times when I was confronted with my privilege, I mostly did whatever I could do to feel like I was a good person and racism (or the reason a person felt bad) was something separate from me. Now I challenge myself to see what I might have done to contribute to the problem, and, whenever I can, do something differently. Thank you for your lesson.
Wow, not only would this have been such a life changing experience - that is a heck of a lot of self awareness for a young chilld. I do hope Jim is aware of how appreciated his efforts are.
The navy analogy hits hard. Turning into the storm together is a powerful metaphor for facing racism. We're all in the same ship, and unity is our strength.
Our ship, the USS Wasp (LHD-1) had that very experience in 2000, and this is worth adding: That initially, once we turned into the Hurricane, the going was rough. We had safe's torn from the walls and pipes bursting. Deciding to challenge racism systemically may be the toughest immediately after we decide.
The selfishness of relief at Charles' leaving the camp didn't hit me until much later in later, but even in those years, it occurred to me, just not in a way that metabolized in the way I might think.
Thank you for your feedback. This was my first TEDx Talk and is part of the book which describes my transition home after war in Iraq. I chose this story, it may seem unrelated, because these early impressions about the treatment of "others" stayed with me throughout my life, whenever I met people or new situations. I hope you enjoy the book!
Thank you for writing that. After our Talks, we mingled in the crowd and the great compliment I heard was three different people who told me their own stories and experiences with racism. I felt I had started a conversation at least.
My heart goes out to the speaker as I listened to his story. It is so tragic to think that such a young child had to witness such violence and discrimination at such a young age. Racism is a cancer that is still prevalent in our society today, and it is important to raise awareness and take action to end it.
One reader described my thoughts over the years like a compost heap, I heard the words and took it all in, and would think about them from time to time. After observing and thinking about it, the day came that I just did something. I guess something within me had changed and had grown and I was ready to acknowledge others and see them. Thank you for your comment!
I can recall a time when I felt invisible at a time when I felt I so much to offer. It was one of the worst feelings I've experienced, because there was nothing I could have done in that moment to change it. The rest of the group didn't want me there with no regard to how I felt about it.
I'm not sure if this happens with others, but at times when I've been outcast, I've thought of my treatment of others. It seems like these pictures stay in my mind, and I begin to understand what I've done that make someone feel that way. It helps motivate me to acting better.
what a harrowing experience but proof that great action comes from the most awful of experiences.. Thank you for not only your self-awareness but determination. Sharing right away!
Thank you for your thoughts and for having an open mind. Maybe that was the best time for me to receive that lesson in my life. It stayed with me and affected the way I saw the world forever.
Jim I've watched both your talks and read through so many of your replies to the comments. The fact that you've taken the time to respond to so many people in a thorough, thoughtful and respectful way just speaks volumes about your character.
truly inspiring, and it shows the power of transformation. From being a mere witness to a violent act of racism, he has become an advocate for change. His story reminds us that we all have the power to make a difference, and that it is never too late to stand up for what is right.
You are so right. Sometimes that seed is planted and makes an impact that we might not realize, and later it just comes out. I still wonder where Charles is and hot this may have affected him in his life.
Jim's analogy of turning into the storm resonates deeply. It reminds us that addressing racism requires collective effort and a commitment to equality.
I often think of the Grave Robbers Experiment, which shows how easy it is for one group to discriminate against those in another group solely based on chance. But at the end of the experiment, circumstances were introduced where the two groups, in order to come to the aid of a person in trouble, had to work together to save them.
The idea of ubuntu is so heartwarming to me, that if a group of people are offered the majority of food or clothing and the first ones running to that pile get as much as they want, leaving little for those who aren't good runners. With ubuntu, the first runner grabs food or clothing for the slowest runners. What a beautiful concept!
I can't help but think about how our actions are perceived by/leave lasting impressions on others, especially those who are young. Something to keep in mind as we operate in the world
I've often thought that nobody should ask the person if they're a good person or fair, or that they treat others well. They should ask those people they've interacted with. I hope that people who've known me were positively affected by my treatment of them, but I don't know if that's true.
We're at a time when these sorts of conversations need to happen so much more frequently and the shift from witness to actor needs to start happening for all of us.
When I look back at the 1960's, I would have hoped these conversations wouldn't have been necessary but they're even more important now. I encourage people to do what they can, when they can, and be kind to themselves in between. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
Thank you for watching and commenting. I was happy that analogy came to mind. In that case, our ship was trying to get ahead of a hurricane, there was a sense of urgency. What would it take to feel that same sense of urgency to dealing constructively with racism?
Hello, Jim. A dear friend forwarded me your wonderful talk. I'm so glad he did. Thank you for your amazing heart, your courage, your integrity, your passion, your wisdom, your insights -- and your action. Your talk is deeply moving and inspiring to me. I, too, am trying to move from witnessing to acting. These times are calling for us to act. May we all come to realize that "I am because we are." Thank you for speaking your truth. This world needs to hear you.
Thank you Galen. I've often thought that conversations could start with each side explaining what they don't know about a problem and spend time listening. More than at any time in my 63 years, we need more constructive dialogue with each other.
Once again, Jim, you show me how brave and strong you are. I am so proud to be your friend. Never stop speaking your truth, because it should be truth for all of us. Thank you.
I like to think my thoughts are no so unusual and many people my age then didn't understand everything in those times. I saw Martin Luther King speak once when I was riding my bike by Lake Michigan and didn't completely understand. But I knew it was historic and without even knowing why, I was moved.
The ending with the mention of Ubuntu ties everything together really beautifully. We are all interconnected, and recognizing that is the first step to change.
Jim you have led such an amazing life and your honesty never ceases to amaze me. Thank you for being so authentic and thank you for sharing it with us.
When I started preparing for this, it had a rather sad ending, mostly because I didn't feel I had taken any brave actions to reduce discrimination. Once I introduced Ms. Love, I began to feel differently. She was a beautiful person, and also taught me that just a simple acknowledgement of another person, a smile, something that lets a person know they are seen, can be a huge gesture to another person.
I teared up listening to this. It's a heartbreaking reminder of the pain racism inflicts. We need more stories like this to build empathy and understanding.
Thank you for watching this Talk. I can think of a few moments in my life, where my course could change drastically. In each of the cases that come to mind, I was blessed or lucky enough to learn something. But I still think of Charles and Miss Love, and my Navy friend to hope they continue to teach others. I pray for Charles, that his experience didn't embitter him.
Thank you for sharing your story Jim and for creating a space where people can share their thoughts and feelings about such a tough subject. It's not an easy topic to broach, and creating these dialogues in a digital space make it easier to talk about IRL
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm proud of this presentation starts a conversation, or encourages one to tell a story of their own that resonates with others.
It sounds like Miss Love's song transcended language barriers portraying the universal emotion of longing... Music is so powerful as a tool for connecting people.
I had a chance to meet Gloria Estafan after she made a presentation here in Connecticut. I told that I've heard her songs in Spanish and, without understanding much Spanish, felt greatly moved by the music. I would ask my wife, who is fluent in Spanish what the song was about and she would translate. That would be the very emotion I felt! Gloria responded as you did, that music transcends language!
His description of everyone on a ship being equally valuable during a storm was powerful. Why can't we apply that mindset to society as a whole? Imagine if we truly valued every life equally, regardless of race or background. That's the world I want to live in.
Being grateful is a great way to look at those who being something into our lives. We don't know where or when we'll meet them, so keep looking. They're there!
Thank you for watching. My favorite Ubuntu story is when a man offered a basket of fruit to the fastest runner in a group of children of one tribe The children asked him what the point of winning the race was if he or she couldn't share the fruit with the others!
I think him coming across the term ubuntu shows the beauty of cross-cultural learning. Sometimes there just isn't an English word for some of the more complex concepts around community but then you hear one from another language and it just clicks in such a beautiful way
What a wonderful point. there are books on words that exist on other languages that don't translate to English. It teaches us the beauty of other cultures in other places.
Thank you for noting that. When we do something to acknowledge those who are ignored or treated as outsiders, we teach people how to treat us as well. I believe we create a world we want our children to live in.
We must confront racism head-on, be the change, and dismantle these oppressive systems. Ubuntu, I am ready to fight for a world where we truly stand as one
There really is something fundamentally shocking about witnessing racism for the first time. Especially as a child, you're right in that middle patch between understanding when something is wrong but not knowing how to address it.
I admire Jim's courage to confront his own past and acknowledge the moments when he could have done better. It's through reflection and action that we grow.
Thank you for watching this Talk. There are still times where I feel I could do better or do more. Eventually, I realize that as a white person, I can listen and observe and call racism out when I can. That might seem like a small thing, but collectively it's huge.
In the follow-up book to Fight, Flight, or Freeze: A Love Story, I write of my son, who has autism. In one letter, I confess to having ignored a high school acquaintance's attempts to become friends. He wasn't into sports or the music I liked and was bit of an outcast. Later, when my high-functioning son was in high school, his offers of friendship were denied and I saw and felt his loneliness. I thought of the time I could have been kinder to a person different than me. Racism is about that kind of isolation, of not giving a person a chance just be their appearance.
Jim's personal account of witnessing racism at a young age is powerful and thought-provoking. It's a reminder that we all have a role to play in combating discrimination...
Thank you for taking the time to watch and give feedback. Martin Luther King said "If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way." He's 100% correct.
This talk really captures the transformative power of a personal experience and how it can shape our perspective and opinions of big issues such as racism.
For the longest time, I was kidded about thinking that was the first moment of racism in America, but I was tenacious and kept saying that I saw the whole thing. The way that day impacted my beliefs was what I carried forward.
I got so choked up when he talked about Charles and that sense of relief over him leaving the camp. It's so saddening to think how bias can manifest, even in childhood, to the point where it creates experiences like that.
Thank you for your comment. There are so many marginalized communities in our world now. I heard one podcast on the treatment of Native Americans this morning by our and Canada's government that was heartbreaking. This world still treats "others" terribly, but we can do something about it, even if it's a small acknowledgment or action.
I've loved thinking about that word ever since. It can be applied not only to racism, but to all human interactions. Selfishness and the feeling the universe revolves around us is at the root of so many societal ills.
I appreciate your honesty about not immediately becoming an activist. It's relatable. We all have our moments of realization and for some people that takes longer than others
Gosh this really tugs at the heartstrings. I never had an experience like the one he talks about at a super young age but I did see it a lot when I was working as a shop assistant and I never felt like I could call it out because you couldn't disrespect the customers and it really tore me up inside
Thank you for watching my presentation. I often heard chuckles at my saying I witnessed the very beginning of racism. Now, I'm able to say that for me, it was the beginning. Each of us, in our own time, can reach that point of becoming an actor, even if it's subtle.
Thank you for your feedback. I do try, whenever possible to speak to groups about changing our internal dialogue and being active in addressing it. One first step is to realize that to remain silent means we accept that behavior.
I think the saddest part to me was speaking with my friend in the Navy, and how he felt when an elderly woman football carried her purse and crossed the street at the sight of him. He was as nice of a person as anyone could meet.
It's crucial to be receptive to such stories and reflect on our own experiences and biases. Understanding the impact of racism on individuals is the first step towards fostering empathy and working towards a more inclusive society
Thank you for watching and commenting. It's never to late to learn to be a better listener. It takes effort sometimes to listen to others. I've been surprised at what I have to learn.
I think his vulnerability in terms of being so candid about his journey is really special. Most people would rather not mention their "witness" moments and pretend like they've always been able to stand up for those being treated unfairly.
Ahhh getting to the 7:05 mark and just tearing up like crazy. We never want to think that other people perceive us as maleficent but it happens more than we know.
Thank you for writing this as I just thought about this the other day. I thought at that time that I hadn't really participated in discriminating against Charles, but I often wondered what the effect of that day had. Did Charles become an activist, or did it manifest in a more bitter way?
Love what he says about turning into the storm. There's just too much conflict and so many instances of racism it really is frustrating when people try to ignore it or pretend it isn't happening. Hopefully we can find the courage to confront the issue instead of just witnessing it
Jim's journey from his childhood memory to embracing ubuntu is a testament to personal growth and transformation.
Thank you for watching and your feedback. I've learned it is never too late to change for the better. Sometimes, I wish I learned these lessons more quickly, but I can only go forward once I've gained conviction.
Jim's journey from being a witness to becoming an actor in the fight against racism is inspiring. It shows that personal growth is possible at any age
It truly is possible and it's never too late. I wish it didn't take so long for me to process, but I can try now, knowing that others suffered because of my inaction.
I can't even quite wrap my head having that experience at such a young age and all else that came after. Amazing man.
Jim's story is definitely highlighting the lasting impact of childhood experiences here! How he's managed though... It's inspiring to see him reflect on his own actions and strive for change! You're amazing Jim!
Miss Love's impact on Jim demonstrates the power of empathy and understanding. It's a reminder that small acts of kindness can have a lasting ripple effect.
I was happy to say something about Ms. Love. I wish I could tell her how much impact she had on my way of thinking. It wasn't immediate, but something that sank in slowly over the years. She was a genuinely kind and beautiful human being.
The story of Miss Love's song transcending language barriers teaches us that empathy and understanding go beyond words
One great thing is that I often hear music now in other languages and can "feel" what the song is about without understanding a single word. I'm not sure what that is called, but it's powerful. Music transcends language at times.
So lovely to hear him reflect on Miss Love even after 44 years, shows how much you really can be affected by those meaningful interactions.
To this day, I wish I could tell Ms. love how she had a life-long effect on me, just on those few words and thoughts she shared. She was a beautiful person.
The moment with Miss Love seems to really have impacted his understanding of racism and how important empathy and personal connections can be when dealing with that sort of treatment... A beautiful lesson that not everyone is lucky enough to learn
Jim's recollection of childhood innocence lost is so relatable to me.... I think a lot of people would have a similar memory to this. It is his journey from being a witness to an actor that is inspiring though. I feel so many of us have just become blaze to it happening we don't think of stepping in.
I must admit that for a long time, I thought I was OK if I saw bad treatment of others, but didn't participate in it. Over time in the Navy though, I heard an expression that fits: Silence is approval. Still, taking action takes conviction in what one believes.
Thank you for speaking so openly and honestly, Jim.
I found Jim's analogy of turning into the storm really shows the importance of a collective responsibility to combat racism in such a poetical and profound way, thank you Jim
Thank you for writing. I thought of that analogy on a ship with 2500 military members. In one emergency in the Adriatic Sea, I enjoyed watching tow Sailors who couldn't stand each other closing ventilation when we thought we were under attack. They became friends and one invited the other to stand up for his wedding the next year. We can change.
Wow the emotion coming off of this guy is so palpable
Wow the experience he describes as an 8 year old is so intense.
Thank you for watching this presentation. I still feel such strong emotions when I think of the various people in the story. They probably think I've forgotten about them a long time ago, but they're important parts of my life and I'm grateful to have met them.
The imagery of the rock hitting the man in the demonstration is haunting. It's moments like these that change lives and perspectives forever.
Jim's talk urges us all to be more than just witnesses to injustice. It's time to channel our emotions into meaningful actions.
On another comment, someone pointed out that discrimination occurs everywhere and takes so many forms. People who are obese can also tell stories of just walking into a room and seeing looks of disapproval, for example. But seeing people as human beings worthy of respect and dignity is something anyone can practice.
I think how vividly Jim's can recollect that experience really speaks to just how lasting the impact of that kind of moment can have on our whole lives, like it would continue to shape your perspective and mindset for so long and I think lots of people have had experiences like that
I tried to make this presentation with as many pictures of how that day played out for me. For sure, the more I thought about it, the more I could see the ripple effect of that experience. Like they say in therapy, it's like peeling layers of an onion.
"What transforms us from witness to actor?" probably one of the most important questions to be asked right now.
I often wondered what I could do, just one person. Then I heard Martin Luther King's quote "when we cannot all do great things, all of us can do small things in a great way." So I try to do what I can when I can. Thank you for your response!
Jim's decision to finally say "ubuntu" after years of contemplation reminds us that change is possible, especially if we're willing to go on the long journey of personal discovery and evolution
Thank you for your feedback. It never is too late to learn to treat others better. I try to think of the internal dialogue and be honest about my thoughts. I ask myself if I could be wrong about what I perceive in others.
My husband and I really appreciate your message. So thoughtful and enlightening. Thank you very much.
Thank you for listening Chantel. I was thankful to have met people who left an impression on me.
The contrast between feeling invisible and being seen is thought-provoking. No one should have to cross the road just to feel safe. We need to challenge these perceptions.
Thank you for mentioning that. As a white person, I'd never thought that both visibility and invisibility could achieve the same demoralizing feelings in other people.
The story about Charles at camp hit hard. Sometimes our actions, or lack thereof, reveal uncomfortable truths about ourselves. I think the best we can do is acknowledge it and strive to do better
Miss Love's story about the song is so touching. Language may divide us, but feelings are universal. That's powerful.
Anything that sparks conversation about the ongoing fight against racism. It's a reminder that our journey toward equality is far from over.
I think our best weapons against racism are conversations and listening to others with the intent to learn something new.
Jim's heartfelt gratitude towards Miss Love exemplifies the importance of building bridges and fostering understanding across cultures and languages.
Ms. Love is one of the favorite people in my life, like an angel placed there to teach something profound. Anyone who met Ms. Love loved her. She was perfectly content to sing and smile her way through each day.
@@jimenderle5865 thats so cool, thanks Jim
Maaaaaan when he talks about how he felt relief after Charles withdrew from camp... this really hit me. I know that sense of relief, whenever a disabled person is in the line at work and I don't have to serve them. I've never looked closely enough at that relief to understand what it really is. Thank you for making me look at that, Jim.
Thank you for your feedback, I've learned from you. I remember about times when I was confronted with my privilege, I mostly did whatever I could do to feel like I was a good person and racism (or the reason a person felt bad) was something separate from me. Now I challenge myself to see what I might have done to contribute to the problem, and, whenever I can, do something differently. Thank you for your lesson.
seeing racism firsthand and his subsequent growth offer a hopeful example of how awareness can lead to change.
Wonderful narrative, Jim! Thanks for standing up.
Thank you Kellie, I was revising the talk almost until the day of the presentation!
Wow, not only would this have been such a life changing experience - that is a heck of a lot of self awareness for a young chilld. I do hope Jim is aware of how appreciated his efforts are.
The navy analogy hits hard. Turning into the storm together is a powerful metaphor for facing racism. We're all in the same ship, and unity is our strength.
Our ship, the USS Wasp (LHD-1) had that very experience in 2000, and this is worth adding: That initially, once we turned into the Hurricane, the going was rough. We had safe's torn from the walls and pipes bursting. Deciding to challenge racism systemically may be the toughest immediately after we decide.
The story of his childhood memory brought tears to my eyes. It's a stark reminder of how prejudice can shape our lives.
The selfishness of relief at Charles' leaving the camp didn't hit me until much later in later, but even in those years, it occurred to me, just not in a way that metabolized in the way I might think.
@@jimenderle5865 I get what you mean, it's hard to be aware of the impact of something in the moment
I was touched by Jim's honest account of being a witness and will look for his book; Fight, Flight, or Freeze: A Love Story,
Thank you for your feedback. This was my first TEDx Talk and is part of the book which describes my transition home after war in Iraq. I chose this story, it may seem unrelated, because these early impressions about the treatment of "others" stayed with me throughout my life, whenever I met people or new situations. I hope you enjoy the book!
Well done, Jim! I am so moved by your courage to take the step from 'witness to actor' and your authenticity invites others to do the same!
Thank you Sarah, I think that move comes in its own time. Maybe one person hears this, acts on it, and we're just that much better.
I really start to think about the times I've been a witness instead of an actor. It's time for self-reflection I dare say. Thank you Jim.
Thank you for writing that. After our Talks, we mingled in the crowd and the great compliment I heard was three different people who told me their own stories and experiences with racism. I felt I had started a conversation at least.
This man has such a profound perspective and I think he's done really well to articulate how his experiences helped shape it.
Thank you for your feedback. Each of us try our best with what we have, and anything we attempt in making ourselves better is worth every iota.
Well done Jim, I guess I was too young to remember those demonstrations in our neighborhood.
I was on the way to Al Eggers' Schwinn Shop on Belmont and Greenview. You probably rode your bicycle past that intersection a hundred times!
My heart goes out to the speaker as I listened to his story. It is so tragic to think that such a young child had to witness such violence and discrimination at such a young age. Racism is a cancer that is still prevalent in our society today, and it is important to raise awareness and take action to end it.
"knowing better and doing nothing." I think this describes a lot of people at the moment
One reader described my thoughts over the years like a compost heap, I heard the words and took it all in, and would think about them from time to time. After observing and thinking about it, the day came that I just did something. I guess something within me had changed and had grown and I was ready to acknowledge others and see them. Thank you for your comment!
Oh, the story at the 7:00 mark is so sad, to think someone feels safer by being invisible gives me such a sinking feeling in my heart
I can recall a time when I felt invisible at a time when I felt I so much to offer. It was one of the worst feelings I've experienced, because there was nothing I could have done in that moment to change it. The rest of the group didn't want me there with no regard to how I felt about it.
Can definitely relate to those feelings of confusion over no one batting an eyelid at something that you know is wrong.
I'm not sure if this happens with others, but at times when I've been outcast, I've thought of my treatment of others. It seems like these pictures stay in my mind, and I begin to understand what I've done that make someone feel that way. It helps motivate me to acting better.
what a harrowing experience but proof that great action comes from the most awful of experiences.. Thank you for not only your self-awareness but determination. Sharing right away!
Thank you for your thoughts and for having an open mind. Maybe that was the best time for me to receive that lesson in my life. It stayed with me and affected the way I saw the world forever.
Jim I've watched both your talks and read through so many of your replies to the comments. The fact that you've taken the time to respond to so many people in a thorough, thoughtful and respectful way just speaks volumes about your character.
Excellent Jim!! This was wonderful to see in person and to revisit again.
Thank you again for attending and for your encouragement, Sabrina. I hoped to tell the most unvarnished and accurate account possible.
truly inspiring, and it shows the power of transformation. From being a mere witness to a violent act of racism, he has become an advocate for change. His story reminds us that we all have the power to make a difference, and that it is never too late to stand up for what is right.
You are so right. Sometimes that seed is planted and makes an impact that we might not realize, and later it just comes out. I still wonder where Charles is and hot this may have affected him in his life.
Jim's analogy of turning into the storm resonates deeply. It reminds us that addressing racism requires collective effort and a commitment to equality.
I often think of the Grave Robbers Experiment, which shows how easy it is for one group to discriminate against those in another group solely based on chance. But at the end of the experiment, circumstances were introduced where the two groups, in order to come to the aid of a person in trouble, had to work together to save them.
Ubuntu definitely resonates with his journey and his experiences really speak to the power of empathy and understanding.
The idea of ubuntu is so heartwarming to me, that if a group of people are offered the majority of food or clothing and the first ones running to that pile get as much as they want, leaving little for those who aren't good runners. With ubuntu, the first runner grabs food or clothing for the slowest runners. What a beautiful concept!
I can't help but think about how our actions are perceived by/leave lasting impressions on others, especially those who are young. Something to keep in mind as we operate in the world
I've often thought that nobody should ask the person if they're a good person or fair, or that they treat others well. They should ask those people they've interacted with. I hope that people who've known me were positively affected by my treatment of them, but I don't know if that's true.
We're at a time when these sorts of conversations need to happen so much more frequently and the shift from witness to actor needs to start happening for all of us.
When I look back at the 1960's, I would have hoped these conversations wouldn't have been necessary but they're even more important now. I encourage people to do what they can, when they can, and be kind to themselves in between. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
The analogy of a ship turning into a storm to tackle racism is powerful. It emphasizes the collective effort needed to combat such deep-rooted issues.
Thank you for watching and commenting. I was happy that analogy came to mind. In that case, our ship was trying to get ahead of a hurricane, there was a sense of urgency. What would it take to feel that same sense of urgency to dealing constructively with racism?
Hello, Jim. A dear friend forwarded me your wonderful talk. I'm so glad he did. Thank you for your amazing heart, your courage, your integrity, your passion, your wisdom, your insights -- and your action. Your talk is deeply moving and inspiring to me. I, too, am trying to move from witnessing to acting. These times are calling for us to act. May we all come to realize that "I am because we are." Thank you for speaking your truth. This world needs to hear you.
Thank you Galen. I've often thought that conversations could start with each side explaining what they don't know about a problem and spend time listening. More than at any time in my 63 years, we need more constructive dialogue with each other.
Once again, Jim, you show me how brave and strong you are. I am so proud to be your friend. Never stop speaking your truth, because it should be truth for all of us. Thank you.
I like to think my thoughts are no so unusual and many people my age then didn't understand everything in those times. I saw Martin Luther King speak once when I was riding my bike by Lake Michigan and didn't completely understand. But I knew it was historic and without even knowing why, I was moved.
The ending with the mention of Ubuntu ties everything together really beautifully. We are all interconnected, and recognizing that is the first step to change.
Jim you have led such an amazing life and your honesty never ceases to amaze me. Thank you for being so authentic and thank you for sharing it with us.
When I started preparing for this, it had a rather sad ending, mostly because I didn't feel I had taken any brave actions to reduce discrimination. Once I introduced Ms. Love, I began to feel differently. She was a beautiful person, and also taught me that just a simple acknowledgement of another person, a smile, something that lets a person know they are seen, can be a huge gesture to another person.
This is the second talk of Jims that I've seen and just as amazing as the first one. Poignant, heartbreaking and so relevant. Thank you Jim.
This is fantastic, Jim. Thanks for sharing and being brave.
Thank you for listening, I'm happy it resonated with you
I teared up listening to this. It's a heartbreaking reminder of the pain racism inflicts. We need more stories like this to build empathy and understanding.
Thank you for watching this Talk. I can think of a few moments in my life, where my course could change drastically. In each of the cases that come to mind, I was blessed or lucky enough to learn something. But I still think of Charles and Miss Love, and my Navy friend to hope they continue to teach others. I pray for Charles, that his experience didn't embitter him.
Thank you for sharing your story Jim and for creating a space where people can share their thoughts and feelings about such a tough subject. It's not an easy topic to broach, and creating these dialogues in a digital space make it easier to talk about IRL
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm proud of this presentation starts a conversation, or encourages one to tell a story of their own that resonates with others.
It sounds like Miss Love's song transcended language barriers portraying the universal emotion of longing... Music is so powerful as a tool for connecting people.
I had a chance to meet Gloria Estafan after she made a presentation here in Connecticut. I told that I've heard her songs in Spanish and, without understanding much Spanish, felt greatly moved by the music. I would ask my wife, who is fluent in Spanish what the song was about and she would translate. That would be the very emotion I felt! Gloria responded as you did, that music transcends language!
I like the poetry of what Jim says about how the rock thrown at the demonstrators strikes us all. It's a really profound way of wording those insights
His description of everyone on a ship being equally valuable during a storm was powerful. Why can't we apply that mindset to society as a whole? Imagine if we truly valued every life equally, regardless of race or background. That's the world I want to live in.
This was a reminder for me to be grateful for those who, knowingly or unknowingly, guide us toward understanding
Being grateful is a great way to look at those who being something into our lives. We don't know where or when we'll meet them, so keep looking. They're there!
The concept of "Ubuntu. I am because of who we all are" is profound and life changing. Thank you for reminding me of this philosophy.
Thank you for watching. My favorite Ubuntu story is when a man offered a basket of fruit to the fastest runner in a group of children of one tribe The children asked him what the point of winning the race was if he or she couldn't share the fruit with the others!
Your Navy analogy really struck a chord. Turning into the storm is a powerful metaphor for facing societal issues head-on.
I think him coming across the term ubuntu shows the beauty of cross-cultural learning. Sometimes there just isn't an English word for some of the more complex concepts around community but then you hear one from another language and it just clicks in such a beautiful way
What a wonderful point. there are books on words that exist on other languages that don't translate to English. It teaches us the beauty of other cultures in other places.
Props to him for tackling such a huge topic... the overall message about facing challenges head-on and recognizing our shared humanity was solid.
Jim's story makes me wonder how future generations will look back on our efforts to combat racism. It's crucial that we leave a positive legacy.
Thank you for noting that. When we do something to acknowledge those who are ignored or treated as outsiders, we teach people how to treat us as well. I believe we create a world we want our children to live in.
The contrast between feeling invisible and being seen as a person of color is a sobering realization. Great perspective, Jim
We must confront racism head-on, be the change, and dismantle these oppressive systems. Ubuntu, I am ready to fight for a world where we truly stand as one
Miss Love's song and its meaning resonate deeply. There's a lot of pain and longing within marginalized communities that isn't shown very often.
There really is something fundamentally shocking about witnessing racism for the first time. Especially as a child, you're right in that middle patch between understanding when something is wrong but not knowing how to address it.
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I admire Jim's courage to confront his own past and acknowledge the moments when he could have done better. It's through reflection and action that we grow.
Thank you for watching this Talk. There are still times where I feel I could do better or do more. Eventually, I realize that as a white person, I can listen and observe and call racism out when I can. That might seem like a small thing, but collectively it's huge.
Jim's story reminded me of my own encounters with racism. It's comforting to know that others are also reflecting on their past actions.
In the follow-up book to Fight, Flight, or Freeze: A Love Story, I write of my son, who has autism. In one letter, I confess to having ignored a high school acquaintance's attempts to become friends. He wasn't into sports or the music I liked and was bit of an outcast. Later, when my high-functioning son was in high school, his offers of friendship were denied and I saw and felt his loneliness. I thought of the time I could have been kinder to a person different than me. Racism is about that kind of isolation, of not giving a person a chance just be their appearance.
wow i cant even comprehend how much this would have shaped his path in life
me either
His stories are proof of why it's not enough to acknowledge racism - we must actively work to dismantle it, both as individuals and as a society.
Jim's personal account of witnessing racism at a young age is powerful and thought-provoking. It's a reminder that we all have a role to play in combating discrimination...
Thank you for taking the time to watch and give feedback. Martin Luther King said "If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way." He's 100% correct.
his journey from passive witness to active participant in fighting racism is inspiring. It's never too late to start making a difference.
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I'm happy if I helped in any way. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Such a big topic to tackle Jim but you've navigated it with a lot of grace and goodwill, thank you.
This talk really captures the transformative power of a personal experience and how it can shape our perspective and opinions of big issues such as racism.
For the longest time, I was kidded about thinking that was the first moment of racism in America, but I was tenacious and kept saying that I saw the whole thing. The way that day impacted my beliefs was what I carried forward.
Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging us all to act. Ubuntu indeed - we are all part of this shared human experience.
I felt so sad for eight year old Jim for being a witness to a hate crime and being frozen by the shock.
This talk made me feel so many things, was not prepared for it.
Thank you for watching. Sometimes there are lessons from the least likely places. I hope this Talk was one of them for you.
The recurring theme of being a witness versus an actor resonates. It's a call for all of us to step up and make a difference.
I got so choked up when he talked about Charles and that sense of relief over him leaving the camp. It's so saddening to think how bias can manifest, even in childhood, to the point where it creates experiences like that.
powerful and needed in these times.
Thank you for your comment. There are so many marginalized communities in our world now. I heard one podcast on the treatment of Native Americans this morning by our and Canada's government that was heartbreaking. This world still treats "others" terribly, but we can do something about it, even if it's a small acknowledgment or action.
Your journey from witness to actor is inspiring. It takes time for some of us to find our voices and take a stand.
Thank you Mr. Enderle
You're very welcome, and thank you for watching!
Ubuntu, the concept Jim learned in Africa, beautifully encapsulates the interconnectedness of humanity.
I've loved thinking about that word ever since. It can be applied not only to racism, but to all human interactions. Selfishness and the feeling the universe revolves around us is at the root of so many societal ills.
It's crucial to understand the past to shape a better future. Ubuntu, acknowledging our shared history is the first step.
Thank you for your observation. I completely agree. We have so much to learn from each other, and each increment enriches our lives.
I appreciate your honesty about not immediately becoming an activist. It's relatable. We all have our moments of realization and for some people that takes longer than others
Like so many other things, it come in its own time. I do my best now and feel like I'm more sensitive to the humanity of others.
The parallel between the thrown rock and racism affecting everyone is profound. We're all connected, whether we realize it or not.
Gosh this really tugs at the heartstrings. I never had an experience like the one he talks about at a super young age but I did see it a lot when I was working as a shop assistant and I never felt like I could call it out because you couldn't disrespect the customers and it really tore me up inside
his experience really opened my eyes to the deep-seated issues of racism. It's a shame we still struggle with it today.
Honest and raw, important talk for sure.
Such a powerful and honest talk, thanks Jim ....
Thank you for watching my presentation. I often heard chuckles at my saying I witnessed the very beginning of racism. Now, I'm able to say that for me, it was the beginning. Each of us, in our own time, can reach that point of becoming an actor, even if it's subtle.
It's really plain to see how much Jim's experiences at a young ago impacted his view on the world, and how hard he's working to be a force for change.
Thank you for your feedback. I do try, whenever possible to speak to groups about changing our internal dialogue and being active in addressing it. One first step is to realize that to remain silent means we accept that behavior.
Heartbreaking. That poor child witnessing such brutality at such a young age. It's stories like these that make me question humanity's progress.
I think the saddest part to me was speaking with my friend in the Navy, and how he felt when an elderly woman football carried her purse and crossed the street at the sight of him. He was as nice of a person as anyone could meet.
It's crucial to be receptive to such stories and reflect on our own experiences and biases. Understanding the impact of racism on individuals is the first step towards fostering empathy and working towards a more inclusive society
Thank you for watching and commenting. It's never to late to learn to be a better listener. It takes effort sometimes to listen to others. I've been surprised at what I have to learn.
I think his vulnerability in terms of being so candid about his journey is really special. Most people would rather not mention their "witness" moments and pretend like they've always been able to stand up for those being treated unfairly.
Ahhh getting to the 7:05 mark and just tearing up like crazy. We never want to think that other people perceive us as maleficent but it happens more than we know.
Thank you for writing this as I just thought about this the other day. I thought at that time that I hadn't really participated in discriminating against Charles, but I often wondered what the effect of that day had. Did Charles become an activist, or did it manifest in a more bitter way?
Love what he says about turning into the storm. There's just too much conflict and so many instances of racism it really is frustrating when people try to ignore it or pretend it isn't happening. Hopefully we can find the courage to confront the issue instead of just witnessing it