The Story of a Glass Child | Dellara Sheibani | TEDxPhillipsExeterAcademy
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- For Dellara Sheibani, "The Search" was a search for belonging. In her talk, Dellara takes us on her journey growing up as a glass child-a sibling of a person with a disability-from finding the vocabulary to express her feelings to discovering her identity at boarding school 3,000 miles away from home. In doing so, she shares how we, as a society and individuals, can support those who often feel hidden from view. Dellara Sheibani is a junior at Phillips Exeter Academy (Class of ’22). She is a classics scholar and violinist who loves astronomy and hiking with her dog on snowy days. In her talk, she shares her experience as a glass child-a sibling of a person with a disability-and discusses how we, as a society and individuals, can support those who often feel hidden from view. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
This is ME, I am 63 years old, with an older sister with developmental disabilities. I burst into tears while listening to this, because for the first time in my life, someone else GETS IT.
Thank you for your perspective. I am a mother of a child with autism- and i have to remember to spend time with my typical daughter- as she also needs my time and attention.
This is me. My sibling is still draining my parents and they are growing older. I will never have a normal relationship with them.
I have high-functioning autism and I'm the glass child, in my family I was a socially awkward shy child, and although I was lonely I was well-behaved and got good grades without trying, while my older brother was chronically defiant, unpredictable, prone to violent mood swings, and was a drug addict by his teen years. I felt like a ghost inside my own house, I feel like I didn't have a childhood while at the same time feeling like I never grew up.
Thank you. I'm in the same situation as you minus the drug addict part since my little brother who has autism is severely disabled as well (missing a leg and has cerebral palsy). He relies completely on my parents. He's 13 and doesn't know basic math, he can't even write his name, can't use the bathroom, can't walk, let alone get his hands on drugs.
i relate so much to everything but the drugs
That was a wonderful talk Dellara. I am so glad to hear your perspective. I'm so glad that your parents supported you in going away to school. Remember to take care of yourself. You are not alone. I am GC too just much older. I send you my love and support. Li
While I didn't need the extra attention my sibling did, my parents took it too far. My sibling was given more than they needed and was treated as a golden child.
Well done! You are a loving sister.
Great presentation, Dellara!
Complete relate to this. I too have an elder brother with autism
Someone get her a contract
I feel like I never had the chance to develop an own identity, that's because I developed borderline personality disorder instead
I probably also have borderline at this point. I honestly don't know how I manage to not go completely insane anymore.
@@ruhevorsturm My explanation for this is probably that our own emotions were not acknowledged so we did not learn to deal with them
This is just my thought:
yes being a glass child is trauma, but no. it's not your siblings fault for being disabled. it's your parents fault for neglecting you
I feel like this whole discussion on TikTok is just the product of misplaced anger and blame. like they're blaming their disabled siblings and not the parents
I’m the disabled siblings, and I honestly I wasn’t the best child (seriously I wasn’t) but it’s also barriers in supports and funding that
Us disabled people can’t get and I was told before by doctors in my older years, you can chose you wanted to be euthanized (specifically what’s happening now where I live in Canada ),
Me growing up, I wish at times I never existed because my conditions and what my brother had to endure. my sibling should never be my care taker and I won’t allow that (meaning they will never be my care taker I forbid it!!!
The thing is disabled kids/people always need more attention than a regular kid just to survive, My problem with a lot of glass children is that so many use it as an excuse to use extremely ableist language. Like you can share how bad it is that Society doesn’t give families of disabled ppl the adequate resources which leads to the glass child phenomena. But it’s not an excuse to be ableist
No one said it's the disabled child's fault. None of the speakers on "glass children" said that at all. They are simply telling their truth and the truth of many others. You're on the other side so you wouldn't understand their point of view. They are educating parents and others on how to pay attention to the children without disabilities. Children need attention regardless. Children without disabilities are no less important or needy than the ones with disabilities.