Meet the Boys an Adoption Story - Part 2
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- Опубликовано: 22 ноя 2021
- Two years ago, Benny and Eddy adopted FIVE BROTHERS. A lot has changed in those two years. embrella sat down with the family to talk COVID, divorce, college and more.
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Shocked about the divorce ,but.........better to separate than put the boys through any more trauma. They mean well, and only want what is best for the boys, and thier own sanity. I can only imagine the stress Eddy and Benny were under with the addition of these 5 handsome young men. We all don't live in a fantasy land where everything and everyone is PERFECT. As long as these boys feel loved.....and Eddy and Benny can continue to love them, it is what it is.
Great perspective! Glad you see that Benny and Eddy undoubtedly want what is best for the boys!
Amen
I completely agree it's so true, they literally sacrificed everything for these boys and rightly so, they needed somebody who was willing to
A child can live with a divorce as long as parents let them know they are loved...period
Thank you for your positive message. And yes you are correct I love my boys and they are happy and thriving and to me that's all that matters.
Shocking to see how relationships can breakdown, it’s sad he convince his wife to adopt these boys. There are any perfect life however, I’m very proud that the adoptive mother keeps the boys and don’t resented the innocent boys, thank God she stick around with those boys knowing what they have gone through in the beginning of their life. You show the strength of a mother.
This woman is a gift from God!
Thank you so much.
I was shocked. I had seen the love and support aspect of Benny and Eddy's relationship and found it so heartening, so much an aspect of what they chose to do for these five brothers. To hear that they divorced truly shocked me. But the love and care for the boys goes on, in spite of ups and downs.
Thank you for your supportive words.
Oh no I’m heart broken. She never gave up on them and she protected them.
Thank you so much.
WHAT!? Divorce?? Oh, no! I really was hoping that this generous, loving couple would have gone the distance with all they had done together. 😢 Glad to see the children are well, however, and that Xavier has matured both emotionally and mentally and is at peace with everything 🥰🥰 All the boys look so healthy and happy. It really makes my heart rejoice. May Jehovah be with them; I pray for his Kingdom so that no one should have to go through such tragedies.🥰🙏🏿
I was very shocked to see that they were divorced but I’m glad that they come together and they are such a wonderful family and how they keep their birth mother in their hearts addiction is a sickness God bless all them children and the mother and father ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I hope we're going to get a part 3!
I've been longing for a happy second part of these boys and the lovely adoptive parents. The divorce part shocked me a lot however if it was the best way to resolve any issue then so be it. These boys are still so lucky for having you as their mom. Please continue to guide and protect them i pray that God will show them the way to the family's happier future. To the boys, please do not take sides. Love your mom and dad no matter what happens. I am sure the father is still good to them. God bless you all
Thank you so much Igor for this wonderful positive message. The boys are all doing great and thriving
This was so wonderful to watch, especially after having been so marked by the first video two years ago. These boys are SO special. It is so clear that they will each go on to very special things with their lives.
I was very impressed with Xavier. He is incredibly mature, and I really felt he is striving to do the most he can with his life and not repeat the same mistakes that he saw in his childhood. While it is easy to fall into a generational cycle of trauma and abuse, I can tell he will not only go on to be a very loving father, but he will also go on to help others and use the hardships of his life to help and inspire others. Xavier is a very intelligent young man - l look forward to hopefully seeing what comes next in his life! Aidan and Ethan also struck me as being really incredible people - particularly through their kindness, work ethic, maturity. Peyton and Logan are absolutely adorable and wise beyond their years. What an incredible family - the love and care between the brothers is so special. And, of course, Benny is doing a wonderful job. She is definitely paving the way for people across the world to look into adopting - including myself!
As a Muslim, it is really inspiring to see fellow Christians doing such good in the world. May God bless you, and always watch over your family. I pray that these five wonderful boys go on to lead happy and fulfilling lives ahead, and use the hardships from their past to shape them for the better and propel them ahead. And thank you to Embrella for taking time to put this content out. Lots of love from the UK!
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Those are very kind words ..... bless you!!
Well did sister
How can you be so proud of people that you’ll never meet ?? Somehow. I am !!! Thank you for this fierce Mom !!!
Thank you so much for these words 🥰
This story of the boys moved me. What love they now have that was missing before. Drugs are so destructive, and these boys are the lucky ones. And they are such good boys. What a tribute to all involved!
She was and is a gift from God. These boys will never forget their mother.
Oh no… the divorce! 🥴 I’m
glad the dad stayed close by so the boys can still see him on the weekends.
Those kids are so down to earth, great young guys.
What a wonderful family! Sorry about divorce but it’s understandable. Different parenting styles. I think it’s wonderful that the eldest is able to forgive his biological mum. Shows how sensitive he is. You have done a wonderful thing opening your heart and home to such loving children.
I am happy for the boys, their mother and grandmother living all together in the same house. You are a beautiful family. God bless you all.
Thank you so much, the boys are doing great.
It is great grandma and niece help, how wonderful they are too-like Benny with a heart of gold. I hope other mentors will come into the boys lives and am praying for the strong love of God to pour out joy.
We need to be thankful Dad initiated and cared so deeply for the boys. It was very touching and although now divorced i have much respect for both. There are imperfections in all of us. God bless.
You guys are so lucky to have mom like her be thankful for everything you guys have she’s amazing mom 🥰🇦🇫
Thank you so much Hasina for these kind positive words. I truly appreciate it.
Awww, so sorry things turned out this way, but you are doing a wonderful job with the boys. God will raise you up, and lead you were you guys need to go as a family. God bless you, many, many blessings.
What an impressive young man Xavier has become. So proud of him.
Yeah, I could tell Eddy was super shut down in the previous video. The divorce doesn't surprise me. Benny is the best.
Thank you so much for these words. I truly appreciate all the positive support. I am trying my best to be the best mother I can be.
@@bennysanchez7104You are amazing!😊❤
I wrote in part 1 how I felt Eddy had compassion for the boys as he grew up without parents, and you, Benny, had passion to do the right thing. I somehow feel that this was the reason Eddy had difficulties relating as a father when he didn't know his own father. But you know what? God is our Loving Heavenly Father. You both need Him. And He loves the widows and orphans. You do have siblings around you, but Jesus said that without HIM, we can do nothing. I encourage you both to turn to Him and let Him into your situation. He loves to heal what is broken. The enemy (devil) only comes to steal, kill and destroy, but Jesus came to give us LIFE in ABUNDANCE! I bless you with His anointing that breaks every yoke. May He fulfil all in your lives that He put in you (and the boys too!) God loves you so much.
To me Xavier shows more of a father figure than anybody
Xavier is an amazing son and man. His brothers really look up to him. My oldest son Eddie is also amazing with all his bothers. They are all doing great
I am amazed how mom harnesses so many resources for so many years. I hope the Holy Spirit will fill your family with joy, peace, love, strength, endurance, and the willingness to reach out to others in the same needs, whether psychological, physical, basic needs or emotional. Praying 🙏🏽
Thank you so much Barbara for this wonderful positive words. ☺
It was really a heart feeling video. I am so glad that Benny is a strong, loving, caring, supportive mom to all five boys! Truly, it was a blessing that Benny & Eddy had decided to adopt the five boys. Truly a blessing. I'm so glade Benny has a support system too from family. I will have Benny & Eddy & the boys (young men), & Benny family in my prayers. The boys are so cute & handsome. They look happy & loved. May the good Lord bless you, comfort you, heal you, & love you all special family! 😇🙏❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words 😚
I would do it in a heartbeat . To help young children who’s abandoned by their own parents is heartbreaking
You are so right about groceries coating $700 or more a week!!! I have six people living with me and I just purchased groceries yesterday and everything is gone today and the struggle is real!!!! I wish we got food stamps or something Lord I pray every day and cry alot.... it's really hard time for us
Beautiful family. Embrella, thank you for sharing this story. Please stay in touch with them. These kids will do great things.
Yes, with this loving and supporting environment their future is limitless! We are so glad you appreciate our content, thanks for sharing your feedback.
Benny, you are truly a gifted mother! You are a gift from God sent to love, nurture, care for, and teach these boys!
Benecia is such a great mother and I love that her family supports her. This video made me so happy. Wish the family all the best...❤❤❤
Thank you so much Pelly. I truly appreciate these positive words. I can say it hasn't been easy but it has been worth it. I love all my kids.
@@bennysanchez7104 I just can repeat that you are such a beautiful person. I guess the boys needed someone in their life...like you. To give them love, guide them and give them a safe home. ..God bless you.
I wish Eddie, Bernie and the boys the very best and pray they continue to flourish as a family. It must have been very difficult on the marriage at the start. I'm an optimistic and pray this couple can find a way back to each other someday. The best thing though is that you are able to Co parent ( even in divorce) your children in a healthy and happy way. God bless you all.
prayers to non existing gods don`t work. What does work is kind and brave ppl who help
Hi Elizabeth thank you for your kind words. The boys are thriving and doing wonderful
I am originally from NJ and I know the Linden area. The most important thing is that everyone is happy and healthy. Good to here that the children visit with their dad on the weekends. Also that family is close by .
I love that the state helps those who help themselves . That is how the programs were ment to work, never feel bad as you are a hard working Mother who has gone above and beyond . Love seeing how the love in your family is. I feel bad that you had to go through a divorce , but knowing that you understood what your marriage was doing to u and your family and being able to move forward is amazing. It sounds as if all of you have been truly Blessed. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Thank you so much Juanita for these wonderful words. Yes you are correct it was a very difficult time for me, but the love my kids have for me carried me through. We are all doing great and thriving
So sorry to know yall divorced that was a huge game changer. Stay strong...
Hi Michele thank you for your kind words. Yes the divorce was not an easy part of my life, but I know it was the right thing to do. We are all doing great.
Please don’t listen to people who say the state helps tell them to walk in your shoes I myself think u r a wonderful woman God Bless u and your family
Thank you so much Cheryl, I truly appreciate your positive words.
Came across the story and watched both episodes back-to-back back what a BEAUTIFUL family- persevering challenges!!! Surprise to see they reside near my place of work.
A divorce!!!??? 🤯🤯🤯🤯
I’m glad the kids are doing well!
Bless this family, I'm so happy they are doing well now and the family is happy now. Hugs and love for you all.
Thank you very much.
thank you so much for the updates! Very shocked that they are divorced. I wish you could have included what the boys feelings toward the divorce. They must had been very scared at that time.
Thank you for the support. The boys were not shocked about the divorced. I was as very open and honest with them since I made the decision to file for the divorce. It was not an easy decision but it was the right one.
@@bennysanchez7104 , Thank you for responding. Wish you and your boys nothing but the best!
Benny is Neat...like the house, the boys... the family ..🤗 .I love it.
Thank you so much
I loved the 2nd part too!
I loved the first part! I am looking forward to watching the 2nd part
I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce. You are strong and will be fine with so many young men with you. Xx
Thank you so much Amy for these kind words. The divorce was the best decision for my family. We are all doing great and the boys are thriving
May God bless you all. Thank you for helping the boys💕
they are all adorable!
Watching the first video, I have to admit, it felt amiss. I felt so much respect for you both. The feeling that Eddie was like “we’re doing this” but not a lot of details in the HOW it was being done. Benny was hesitant I feel only because she knew HOW it was going to be done. Regardless, both your vision on HOW it was going to happen allowed for these children to be loved and a part of something very special. Blessings to you all.
Thank you so much Emily. Appreciate this kind words. 😚
Shocked about the divorce!
It is shocking, but unfortunately not uncommon. The important thing is that the family is now at peace, happy and healthy.
These boys are adorable
Benny is so amazing!!!
Thank you so much Elisa ☺
An excellent family I wish yall the best
Thank you so much Zane I appreciate these kind words
I didn't see the parents as so loving of each other. They had it for the boys, but the sadness in their voices. I was surprised they're together....now I see that they're not
Yes you are correct, we are divorced. It was a decision I made for my family. The boys are doing great.
God bless your family❤️✝️
God bless you all as your life goes forward. Love will conquer all.
Thank you for these supportive words.
Great to have a catch up. Sad regarding the divorce but these things happen and it appears they have all moved on from it
Beautiful people
SORRY YOU DIVORCED
BUT HAPPY YOU ARE STILL WHOLE MS.BENNY.JOY ,COHEVIVENESS IS STILL FLURRISHING.
BLESSINGS TO YOU & FAMILY & EX TOO!!
BLESSINGS
TO SEE THEM SMILING IS AWESOME 👌
Thank you so much Karen. I appreciate these kind words. We are all doing great and the boys are thriving
God bless you all you all are a beautiful family 🙏❤️❤️
Thank you so much Sharon, I appreciate your kind words
Part 3 please
maybe one of these days!!
You are just a wonderful woman as are your children.
Thank you so much.
Love this family. Such an amazing mom. Good for the boys. I wonder if they will do University once they are done College?
thank you so much
I love her!
Thank you 🥰
I truly will not be surprised to hear that Benny and Eddy have remarried in the near future.
Y'all such a beautiful family.
Benny, you're amazing sis💞
I believe Eddy passed away the following March.
Thank you so much for your encouragement but that's a hard no for the remarried part. We are all in a much better happier place now. 😊
@@bennysanchez7104 hugs and kisses.
Benny for the win! Be happy.
Thank you so much. I am definitely winning. Everyone is happy and thriving. Thank you for the positive message.
Beautiful chaos...
you are amazing
Thank you so much for your kind words
She is a strong woman xx
Thank you so much Lisa.
Such a pity, but I guess life served a curved ball to your wonderful family. Keep up the good work.
You are an amazing woman
Thank you so much Gabby, I appreciate these words.
Some people deserve sainthood.
Wow this is sad. The adoption was started good and the couple were supporting each other but now its different after the adoption. As long the children are ok that is more important. I was thinking the story has happy ending in that they stay together. But life can be unpredictable. But I admire these children for their resilience and adaptability to new life. The separatiin was very sad but I think it was best for the sake of the boys. God bless them.
Even though we divorce I still have my happy ending. We are doing good.
Strong 💪 women keep going
Thank you so much.
That was sad relationships can get better if worked for it he was a good man too
Very sad to hear about the divorce. I wish the adoptive parents had tried counseling. If this update is only 2 years later then that was a whirl wind decision and divorce. I’ve been married for 25 years and I can say you may have a few weeks, month and yes years where you contemplate divorce, but if you are really working at it you can get through it. Many Juan’s are quick tempered but counseling can help. I just think it’s not fare to these kids to have divorced so quickly. But otherwise the kids seem to be adjusting well. Glad the kids see the dad on the weekends. Prayers for all of you
Trust me the divorce was not an easy decision by any means. We did try counseling. I made a decision that would benefit us all. Thank god we are all happy and thriving.
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Wow did I hear they divorced?
I predicted that the oldest gentleman will make a excellent dad.
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lucky blessed children ♥
As an adoptive father, i just want to say, the g**erment would rather pay for mu**d*r than assisting people who are trying to adopt. Thankfully we had the support of friends and family that assisted with the ridiculous cost. He'll be 11 soon and he's the greatest son anyone could pray for. -charley sage**
I'm surprised about the parental style..they had kids before..parented together before and were fine..what makes it different now...I think it's more to the divorce..
In the first video it explains that they married later in life, they hadn't parented much together prior to the boys!
Hi Ria, no Eddie and I didn't parent together, our kids were much older when we met. And no I can assure you that there is nothing more to the divorce than me being a mother and putting my children first. I know a lot people don't understand this concept, but to me my kids will always come first.
Watching that part 1, it seemed as if there was something off between the adoptive parents.
This is a classic case where urgency of Children’s needs competes with spousal love. This can so easily stifle even true love and especially so when both parents are so physically and emotionally stretched caring for 5 ‘instant’ kids. It’s not the kids nor the lack of love for each other, or even a different understanding of bringing up the kids. I pray that they will snatch some needed quiet time for themselves and each other apart from the kids, to revitalize the very obvious resident love they have for each other.
Divorce can be a band aid, an emergency feel-good solution to hurt and aggravated feelings but Jesus can heal. Any spouse can so easily feel neglected and even hate themselves for being jealous, having been ousted out of their #1 position in the eyes of his or her lifetime partner. Different parenting styles aggravated but is very likely not the main cause for their divorce.
Here are 2 first class human beings giving their all to help save 5 kids from tragic circumstances… and in the end being casualties themselves 🥲 BUT with God, the Bible promises…everything is possible, especially reconciliation, a new found deeper love for each other and a joyful recommitment to a better marriage. Praying for you ALL and especially Benny and Eddie❣️
loved it... Im not saying it's annoying... but it gets a bit annoying... be well all
Hats off to the mom. She is now a single mom!!
Thank you so much Maria, Yes I am now a Happy Single mom of 8 wonderful amazing Children.
awww, a divorce, poor kids
I can promise you the boys are doing great. Divorce is never easy but for our family it was the best decision I made.
Sometimes divorced parents are better parents. ❤
Its sad that the parnts had a divored but maybe it was for the good comeing from a bad house thay came from Then someone adopt thats to much truma there adopt dad could have mor patice how to displed them like there adopt mom said thay didnt need to yell at them its unhealthy for the kids im glad she stood up let him go I see the kids are doing better know than then
Divorce !!!!
Beautiful life Story of Rising From The Ashes☀️💨💦🎄🔥🌈
Yes, indeed! The family is thriving, happy and healthy.❤️
So sad from broken home to broken home ..these kids have really been through it ..I was a very very tossed around foster kid in the 80s ..not a good situation for anyone ..the foster case / child welfare system fails every child no matter what decision they make let the judges decide not some caseworker on a whim
Well Cassandra I must disagree with you on your statement. Just because I chose to divorce doesn't mean my home is broken. All my 8 Children are happy and thriving. So being divorce doesn't equate to brokenness.
Benny Sanchez my parents divorced and it completely shattered the lives of all 3 of us kids I'm 51 my sister now 52 my brother now 54 still deeply affected by the divorce 💔...it was my step father that dumped me in foster care because my mother became pregnant with his child and he didn't want to deal with my uncontrolled epilepsy ..so yes you do have a broken home if your marriage failed then you and your husband failed your children...you should have waited until they were grown and gone to separate.
@@cassandramays7999 wow so sad to hear about your story, no wonder you associate divorce with brokenness. Hope you and your siblings are doing ok. As for my children no I didn’t failed them, I divorce because they come first in my life. As I mentioned before my kids are doing great and thriving so our divorce did not affect them like it did to your family which by the way is very sad. God bless you
@@cassandramays7999 … that’s your story… divorce can also be a blessing in disguise… This worked for Benny and Eddy… you may need to look into therapy… they only thing that was broken l, in their home was the couch and countertop… Don’t come for them… her sons are thriving…
@@bennysanchez7104 … I love y’all story… sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t… You and Eddy, did what was in the best interest of you all… I salute you and keep pushing momma…
P.S… the only thing I saw that was broken, was your couch… keep going… Y’all got this…❤
So there are older siblings??
Yes Maria, I have 2 older Daughters and my stepson also lives with me full time. So the boys are all doing great. They are loved by their older siblings
I would love to know Grandma’s Russian Bean recipe!
Did she say divorce?
Yeah
Yes Stellamaris I decided to file for divorce. The great news is we are doing great. All of my children are happy and thriving and that's all that matters to me.
This is so sad that she got a divorce. The boys keep losing parents. They lived in hell before and now fighting parents so sad for them. So sorry for all of them. Yes there is a God up there and you have been watched just know that. Just remember you did ask for a boat boys and God gave you a boat with getting you a home and food and caring.
Don't feel sad, I can honestly say we are all in a much happier place now. The boys are growing and thriving.
You look good for 50 girl
Thank you so much Bonnie, I truly appreciate the positive message.
WTHeck a divorce. I thought the husband was all for this? They spoke of the church. What happened? I mean why put these precious boys through trauma.
Stay close to the lord 🙏 you boys are exceptional and worthy of every good. May God bless you and comfort you and May you be happy and healthy.
Hi Verlinda, hence the reason I filed for divorce. I didn't want to put my boys through any more unnecessary trauma. They boys are all doing great and thriving.
Whhhhatttttt?
something doesnt make sense here, they adopted children and got divorced within 2 years how did the agencies miss this? and where was the communication between the 2 parents
A divorce is a natural part of life and sometimes the most healthy option! Single parents are often just as well-equipped to foster and adopt as married parents.
Nothing last forever and what matters here is that the boys are happy and just like she say she wanted a healthy and better place for them
I'm confused over your statement. How did the agency miss the fact that 2 yrs later I would be divorced??? I wish I knew I was going to be divorced in 2 yrs as well. But guess what even If I did know I would be a Divorced mother of 8 KIDS 2 yrs later, I would have still adopted the boys.
State doesn’t help that much. I know.
Hi Cindi, yes you are correct the state doesn't help alot, but thank god we are all doing great.
Boys need to remember if it wasn't for dad saying yes straight away mom wouldn't have had them
No what the boys need to remember is that no matter what Mom will always be there.
Why would this man take in 5 boys and adopt them if he was not going to stay with the family? He didn't know how to deal with all of it had his own issues that had not been resolved.
do you think this about all divorced men?
I knew that dad was too calm.
Hi Maria, I think everyone is this world has issues. My boys are doing great.
I cried as I listened, but initially was hopeful because because they attended a God fearing loving church, BUT, I NEVER heard another word, pray, Holy Spirit lead direction at ALL! I do not hear anything from the boys about having any knowledge about Father God, Lord Jesus and Holy Spirit!! That so saddened me.... very disappointing...
Not disappointing at all. We all still very much believe in god and my boys are very aware of this
Wait a minute 😳 🤔. Her husband started the idea of the boys and now they are her life's goal. 🛸🖖👽🤓😎🥸🎉
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