Raising Our Multiracial Family - Transracial Adoption Story | Parenting Against All Odds | Parents
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- Опубликовано: 24 июн 2020
- After suffering numerous miscarriages and failed IVF attempts, Keia Jones-Baldwin and her husband, Ricardro Baldwin decided to pursue alternate options to expand their family. In addition to one biological child, they took part in fostering children as well as a transracial adoption. Despite the joy from expanding their family, they also share the challenges they've encountered along the way with raising a multiracial family.
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I love that "you don't have to look alike to love alike".
Janyce Parks Yesss!
It doesn't get better than that 😊
This needs to be on tshirts!!
@@jenniferbates2811 yes!
Me too! That's beautiful!
you are NOT a normal family, you are an EXTRAORDINARY family!!!
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Your So Strong. Your Truely Blessed....Very Best of Wishes. To All of Your Beautiful Family. Amazing. 😊😊😊
Agreed!
Facts
Being adopted myself... YOU DONT HAVE TO LOOK ALIKE TO LOVE ALIKE... adoption was the greatest gift I have ever had! You guys are simply amazing!
they really have the best parents. plus she’s a foster mom AND a therapist 😭 like they’re angels
Absolutely!!
The thing is when Angelina Jolie or any other white people adopted an Ethiopian african american child, Cambodian, asian or any race, people were like ooohhh she's so kind and awesome. But its different when its the other way around. Stop this double standards. Its great that people gives children a loving home and a family. Be happy and be kind. Btw no hate to Angelina and other white people. Im just pointing things out.
Bramble Frost uhm I don’t think that’s the point she is trying to make.
Bramble Frost so you are a psychic?! And you can magically know other people motives? That’s amazing!!!! 😂
Absolutely and this racism should stop
She adopted an Ethiopian child, thus African and not African American lol But, yes, it's great that people are willing to adopt, no matter what they superficially look like. We are one race with sub divided people groups but still one race: Human.
Why do you make yourself busy of writting specific race than at writte Black ? Oh you forget also Cambodian ....Eishhhhh ......
Every now and again there is a story that makes you feel proud to be human and live in this world.
100% agreed
Thank God , a few more children in this world that will grow up without a hint of racism in their precious hearts .
Blessings to both of you and your beautiful family.
You are so right. I am about to burst this is so wonderful.
Agreed!
Right!😘👍❤️🇮🇹
3:53 "He's only going to be with you guys for three months ... He was three-and-a-half years old; he nine. I don't think he going nowhere". 🥰 So endearing, the way she said that. Lovely family!
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I'm just hard pressed to know . How they allowed you to adopt this child ? Not that you don't deserve to adopt him . Because he seems happy and loved . But I thought that they automatically give white families priority . When adopting white children . And as we know . White babies are the most sought after . For adoptions . So it's curiosity for me . That they were willing to bypass white couples . And give this baby to you . Nothing against you and your family . I'm just wondering about that part of it . North Carolina is still very much in the south .
The way the Dad looks at the youngest child is the same way I looked at my one and only son. Its a mix of pure love, happiness and concern.
I am so proud of Keia! I had the pleasure of being one of her teachers in high school. She and her family are such a joy and a source of inspiration to me. I learn from her example all the time.
Omg!!😱 That's so cool!!😆😁
Weren't they recently on The Ellen Show?
Thank you for teaching.
@@maureen669 yes
That's so amazing!! And I agree, Keia and her family are a true inspiration!
One of my best friends is adopted, and I just hate it when people talk about "real" parents. Her parents *are* her real parents. Yes, she had some biological parents too, but her *real* mom and dad are the people who raised her.
I say the exact same thing. I feel like thats so disrespectful to say "real parents". Theres more to parenting then blood/DNA
Exactly
Ya, if you check out the "Not Enough Nelsons" channel they call them their birth parents and they talked about people calling them their "real parents".🙂❤
@Lisa Lotek 9
@SV Green Turtle no but it can bother the parents ._.
This is the most beautiful thing I've ever watched. Such humanity. Such courage. Wish this family lived next door
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I am caucasian, european, and I find your family absolutely beautiful! ! Your children look so happy! God bless you all💖
THE JUDGEMENT HAS TO STOP
Agreed
AGREE!!!! This woman and her husband are gems!!
AMEN!
I agree.
Most DEFINITELY
I have a bio blonde child with blue eyes. When he was a baby his hair was nearly white and people would approach me to tell me how cute he was and blah blah blah and then the line would always come, "I bet his parents are so proud". I was a fairly young mom so I didn't have any snappy comebacks. I would just say I'm his mom. Now as an old bitter lady I would probably answer, "I don't know, they never paid the ransom" or some other asshole remark that would call the rath of the Karens.
Lol! Or how about you being called your childs grandparent? I wish people would just leave people alone. We can all say really kind things without getting into folks business.
@diggs19 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣That's too funny. I would love to see the mouths drop open when you say that!
diggs19. Wow! That’s a good one 😂 😂
diggs19 oh my gosh!! 😂😂😂😂 this literally made me laugh
Haha!!!! 😆
I love how the Husband just seat back letting his Wife do most of the talking, you can tell he has Great Respect and Love for his Wife and Kids. You know its a Solid Family when the Husband let his Wife be the Boss of the Household.
They're Such a Inspiring,Loving, Caring, Humble, Grateful ,Beautiful Family, I wish them the Very Best.
Men nowadays don't know how to be a man, and women nowadays want to be a man....Gods design was: man is the head of the family, and the woman is the helper. Everyone has there place and no one is better than the other, they just have different roles that compliment what the family needs , that is perfect equilibrium (more perfect if you are smart enough to choose a good hearted, full of wisdom and caring husband)
I found it kinda sad that he had no say
@@aselyne5631 If he was serious I am sure she couldn't have the baby. I am sure they both had to sign.
@@aselyne5631 he could just be an Introvert people.
@@joanahope3013 wtf.
They're raising compassionate, kind, socially-aware, educated children. What an exemplary, inspiring family.
“You don’t have to look alike to love alike”
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I'm adding this to my office whiteboard for inspiration 🙂 Loved how articulate these two wonderful parents are.
"He just needs some skin to skin contact"
Three years later...
yesss
My sister and cousin had that happen. They clingy. 😭
How beautiful!! That made me cry :(
I remember this family on the Kelly Clarkson show. They met the toddler’s s birth Dad on the show. On another note I love that they’ve also adopted older children. Usually they’re hardest to place. They’re a great family!
I realize racism is real, but so is love.
I'm sorry you guys have had to deal with this junk. ❤️❤️❤️🙏
"Racism is real but so is love" I like this quote. I'll be using this henceforth 😊.
Beautiful!!! Love is real and conquers all!!
This little boy is very lucky. Got a great family all around him. 🐣
No sorry, they are lucky to have each other.
Kids don’t care how much melanin their mommy and daddy have! They just want to be loved! Thank goodness there are people like you to rescue children ♥️♥️♥️♥️
LOOVE how she said ALL my children are beautiful. I just cannot understand why people are so concerned if kids are a different race/color if they are being loved unconditionally. I LOVE THIS FAMILY
The husband must be the "quiet type" lol
@Snorri Sturluson I was thinking the same thing
"You don't have to look alike, to love alike!" The BEST words I've heard in a year (2020) that has otherwise sucked.
I wish i could reach out to this family to say thanks. They don't know the impact that Putting a white child into a black home will have. I was a foster child in need and a black family took me in and it was the most wonderful thing to ever have happened to me. I wish i had been adopted. Being in that home was the happiest time of my life. i learned so much about love that my own parents weren't bothered to teach me. I wish they had adopted me. This is beautiful. More families should be open to taking in a child of a different race
True.
Did you go back to your birth family? Were you ever adopted?
Bless you!
@@DM-ct8gq Seem like he/she goes back to his/her birth family. It was clearly implied , "i wish i had been adopted" and "my parent weren't bothered to teach me". The black family probbaly afraid of society negative view and discrimination they'll face just because they are a black parent taking care a white children like the one the family in this video is facing. He/she say "They don't know the impact that Putting a white child into a black home will have." it probbaly mean he/she hope story like this will encourage more black parent to have a courage to adopted white baby especially if they have a strong bond and connection to the baby. Disclaimer : This is all my assumption not a fact.
@@mohdghazali3473 p
Not singling out any race.. but African Americans, we, are some of the most accepting and loving people.. I believe if it’s allowed more, I believe more black people would accept children of other races.. kids are kids 🫶🏽
I am so sorry that you & your husband had to experience the grief of miscarriages. The family you now have is absolutely beautiful & the love shines through in this video! ❤️
They had three beautiful blessings that were coming to them.
Awesome! We have been foster parents for 3 years. We had a baby girl from 7 weeks old until 2 years old. We planned to adopt her. The agency said they were on our side. Then a relative showed up from another state. So, they came and I got the her to be with the relative a week before Xmas 2020.We were the only family that she knew. We loved her so much a long with our family and friends. Last year was the worst Xmas ever! We had to take break from fostering. Now we are back to try again we want to be "Forever Parents". You guys story gives me Hope.
Always Remember My Dear that You Shouldn't be Sad that it Ended... But Rather be Happy that it Happened...
What a beautiful story! Please don’t allow anyone to discourage you! Every child deserves a loving home! I pray that God continues to bless you and your husband and your entire family!😘❤️
They are haters who see anything wrong here. Its love. Love is colorblind
Amen!
Amen!! 🤎🖤🤍❤😭🤧
Amen
This same thing happened to a white man who has 3 biracial daughters with a black woman but the children look very African American. Someone called the police on him and tried to have him arrested it made the news
I always had the "I wish you fucking would" when I took my kid out. Now he is a grown black man and I'm his pops.
That happened at a Walmarts right?
Yes I seen that at Wal-Mart and them little girls look like they daddy but with they mama skin tone
I'm 'white', the father of my daughter 'dark' skinned. A beautiful biracial girl who gets a lot attention because of her looks. But lot of times people asked me and herself when she got older, 'where is her/your dad coming from'? Or if she was on her own 'is your mom or your dad 'dark'/'white' skinned'? Both by 'white' ánd 'dark' skinned people...
Mostly there is really no harm in that kind of questions, just curiousity but i think it's a bit rude because it doesn't matter.
I saw that one , the father was very hurt by what happened .
The dad is such a gentleman, and take my hat off to mom and dad ❤️ yes the judgement has to stop.
I’m Costa Rican and my moms white (adopted as a baby). My mom would often get the question, “is she your maids daughter/with you?”. It was really hurtful towards us both. Adoption and fostering goes so far beyond what a baby looks like...it’s pure love. As I grow older I see this with my parents and am so thankful they made the decision they did. People can be so ignorant sometimes but so happy to see you both are amazing parents being such leaders to your children and everybody else ❤️
Wow, they're just so ignorant bit love prevails
This woman is most definitely an angel on earth. If only everyone could love so freely, so pure and without reservation- could you imagine how beautiful this world would be. This woman is a beautiful representation of what it is to really be a mother. My heart physically aches while hearing of all the bias and judgment they have endured. The couple are changing children’s lives and that is such an incredible gift. My thoughts, love and prayers to this wonderful, giving family. ❤️
"You don't have to look alike to love alike"
MOST POWERFUL STATEMENT EVER
Keia is a therapist and a great talker. Her husband knows the value of the wife he is married to. She is a mixture between a kind and strong mother who knows how to raise her children. Applaud for all of them.
I didn't expect to wake up and watch this. Now, they got me over here crying. This love is so beautiful.
This mother and father are incredible. Also how wise of that young bio-father to recognize his babies new mom and take the step to ask her to keep his child. Wherever he is he should be proud of what he did for his son.
“ you don’t have to look alike to love alike” “family’s don’t have to match “
I was in bad foster care (I'm 32 now) and this really touched me.
You're still very young. I hope you find or have found someone or people around you to love you.
@@bookofharvest5965 Thank you for your kind words.
Thank you Jones-Baldwin family! You show the rest of us on how as humans, we are supposed to act. Inspirational story.
I love the RUclipsd family Holden it down, single mother Kim adopted 2 white siblings, she’s an amazing mother just like you ❤️
I love kim and her babies they are so adorable❤
Kiara Shawnita I’ve watched her vlogs way back when Eddie was still buddy
Yes! Lil miss Lizzy and baby boy (can't remember his name) are both precious 💜
Just realized you wrote his name 🤭
And the funny thing about the Holden kids is that they are *not* White on paper. Go figure 🤦♀️ Kim made a great video about it.
@@caitlinlyons8376 I have been watching since Lizzie's adoption vlog. It's great to see the progress in their family. I'm always excited when I see other OG watchers.
This is heartbreaking that you've had to deal with people acting like that towards your family.
That is really heart warming. Children need love. Not white love or black love, just love! Kudos to you and your husband.
I love that "you don't have to look alike to love alike". God bless you and your family. Beautiful just beautiful.
My mom was a social worker for 29 years and the "real" parents are the ones there with them! When they cry, when they have bad dreams, going to the doctors, hugs and kisses daily!!this family is amazing because they are leading with love and patience! ❤❤❤❤👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Every child is precious & it doesn't matter whether the parents are of a different race or not. What matters is the child is in a loving & safe home. God bless your gorgeous family.
This family is a whole blessing. Love watching them on Facebook.
Bless their hearts, they seem like such good parents! It's so sad they have to face judgement just because the kids don't look like them. I pray someday this will change.
I'm so sorry that people are stupid. You are loved for adopting children. My cousin has adopted all 5 of their children
“We’re in this together, so we need to talk about the things that divide us so that we can move forward”. Love this! Education is everything 🎓
U87
I love that part too! My heart is so filled
Amen. 🙏
@@Tullahgit Yea
I love how your biological daughter is!
I love this video! I was in foster care before getting adopted. There are amazing people just like you guys Ms. and Mr. Baldwin. Simply amazing. Honestly it doesn't matter the color of one's skin it matters about who is really there to provide everything that couldn't be provided by the birth parents. LOVE IT!
“You don’t have to look alike to love alike”... beautiful words!! Bless this sweet family
Those children are so incredibly lucky to have parents like that!
Children are exactly that. They need us to give them a safe, healthy, happy place. Color...WTF. This is a Child. Thank you, Awesome Parents. Your Love is all that's needed.
9 miscarriages and cancer proceeding a hysterectomy... I am thinking about. Babies now and I am 40 so.... Thank you for this.
This is a beautiful representation of what Love looks like! You’re a very strong woman and are doing an amazing job! Chin up always!
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beautiful indeed
Loving families are a shortage these days. The love of a true woman knows no bounds! Wishing the family all the best!
The love of a true woman??? This is about adoption, not romantic relationships!
"Don't have to look alike to love alike" ....I love this ❤
Thank god for people like you. What a beautiful example of beautiful caring people. Lucky kids to have such wonderful parents. God bless you 💚💛
“I don’t think he going nowhere either” 😂😂I love how she makes light of this situation.
Relation Rant: I’m the BIOLOGICAL mother of 2 little girls who are mixed with Hispanic. Since birth (mostly with my oldest) I’ve gotten the side eye from EVERY race. Caucasian people just stare and don’t look away. Some frown. Hispanic women (mostly older) scowl at me and when I was with their dad they’d really be mean. I’d even hear them whispering. But I think it’s comments by my own race that annoys me the most. Comments so stupid , I don’t want to type them.
I used to look at people like “CAN I HELP YOU TF” .. it was times I would be out with my sister that has the same complexion as my kids (“example : Singer Ella Mai ”) and people would ask my sister (even tho I’m holding my child and playing with her) “Oh she’s so beautiful, how old is she?” My Sister would just look to me and I’d answer and their whole demeanor changes. Having biracial kids has opened my eyes to how simple minded and ignorant people are in society. But this here *pumps fist* This is beautiful!!!
Poor you .. I know what you mean. I am Indian and we are a melting pot of every race you can imagine and that too for thousands of years. Even then we have millions who use skin whitening creams daily because they want to look European. It’s a terrible flaw in human nature to always want to be something else or to project your own ignorance on others.
Romi Dogra yess. And I personally feel like their ignorance and racisms is is a HUGE projection of SelfHate people have. I’ve learned how to calm my emotions to their lack of knowledge though.
Times are changing. More and more people are mixed, so it will be more accepted in future. Sorry you have to experience negativity.
To me it's so weird when white people do this. If both mother and father are 3/4 Swedish and 1/4 Italian and they have a baby that looks 100% Italian the only response is, "Oh, the baby took after the Italian side of both of you." It's not an event. Yet if the parents have ancestry from different continents and the EXACT SAME THING HAPPENS, white people act like it's some kind of surprise. White people are very strange about this. And I'm 100% white (as far as I know) so I can say this.
@@vg7735 Yes, pre-covid I worked a lot in colleges. So many issues that were major for my parents generation and minor for mine aren't issues for them at all. The long term future looks very bright. The short term? Not so much....
They are lovely parents, and mama knows how to care for each child with their differences but without making them feel apart from them. They are truly a family
My favorite family on social media..I just have so much love and respect for y'all.. ALL those children are SO beautiful. God bless you all :)
I pray that society changes. Don't give up! You are amazing! ❤
Can they adopt me?! 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I'm 34, but house broken and love cooking and play boardgames. 😁😁
Having raised African American children for the past 16 years, I can tell you that the comments, looks, opinions still happen the other way around too. It's been so long for me that I don't generally notice it anymore, but it is not a one-way street.
It pisses me off over some of the stuff people do to her. You don't go up to a person in the store asking why they have a white baby or have to carry the birth certificate for proof. I told her when they ask just look at them wide eyes and say "OMG!! He's WHITE?!?"
My bad, I didn't watch the video yet when I was commenting so I didn't realize she talked about some of it haha
Love your outlook keep doing you 👑 🙏
I bet. When I see anybody with a child that don't look like them I be like I hope that baby aint stolen. But of course I know the other reasons it might be that way
People might look at a white couple weird but y’all never gotten the police called on you or people taking random pictures of you to show proof that you kidnapped someone else’s kids. comments and looks is way different than having police involved and strangers trying to attacked you.
My friend is fostering two Caucasian children and people are surprised all the time when they call her mom. She is in the process of adopting them. They are loved and happy. That should be the most important thing.
The love of a child has no color, you are a amazing couple. I just love watching your family grow up, I pray for you and your family.
I just love this beautiful family🥰. Such a blessing to the world itself.
Ive also had the occasional stares when I with a white/lighter skin person myself. My family is African American and my brother has a child with a Caucasian woman their child though mixed is Caucasian in appearance and so many people will break their necks to stare at you 🙄🙄 and God forbid I be in an interracial relationship because I can't tell you how many times I've had people coming to me to "congratulate" me for paving the way and moving forward 😩🤔🤔??? And apparently I've been told by my boyfriends in the past that when we walk in anywhere we get multiple looks from people but my oblivious behind never noticed because I'm minding my own business and just living, as long as people don't come up to me they can keep looking all they want they just got to learn that interracial families aren't a circus act we aren't entertainment and they will learn to mind they business in due time. ⌚⌚😊🧘♂️🧘🏿♀️
This story touched my heart. I needed this
My sisters were adopted when I was about 6 months old. They are biologically my cousins but that never mattered to me. Knowing that we are not sisters by blood never made them less my sisters. I really hadn't thought about if they hadn't looked like me though. She said families don't need to match and that was really powerful! Thank you for opening my mind to see other situations.
Love has no boundaries.
Watching this honestly made me mad. She’s so strong cause everyone in that DR office would’ve got cussed out that day
What a beautiful family with so much love!!! I can feel it through the screen💖💖💖
"You don't have to look alike to love alike" - - Quote of the century!!
My favorite family to watch, they are AWESOME!! Please watch “Raising Cultures”
All those kids are so blessed to have you 2 and each other and you 2 are so blessed to have them as well. I always wanted a loving family. I wish you could have been my mom too. I love you folks!💛❤
Such an incredible family, this is how love and life should be 💙 Perfection! So beautiful.
You will probably never get to read this, as this was posted such a long time ago, and you have so many followers, but I wanted to put it out there, that I understand what you are going through.
When my husband and I first met, and we knew that it was moving towards being serious, we both knew we had to put our most important beliefs on the table. I had wanted to have a large family adopting hard to place children since I was 5 years old. To my shock, my husband had the same calling! This understanding of each other’s dreams pretty much sealed the deal. We married within that next year. We waited about 1 1/2 years, got pregnant, had our first daughter, then had our second 2 1/2 years after that. We started preparing for our first adoption when our second daughter was 11 months old. I cannot tell you each one’s backstory ( I would have to write a book for that). We were first called when our oldest daughter was 5, and John ( Ogalala Sioux Indian) was 6. Ray was Cherokee through his Grandmother and Grandfather which made this adoption legal. After that, they started rolling in. Jeremy 21 months (he was black and Spanish), then Amy at 6 (Alaskan Indian,also profoundly deaf), Angela and Mark 11 and 9( brother and sister abandoned by their mother), then came Joey 14 (Mexican) he was tossed around in the system for most of his life, finally our baby Kristofor 18 months (very white with bright red hair). We were always stared at, heard whispers behind our backs, were questioned about fairness or legitimacy of taking our ethnic children away from their cultures, we lost many friends, were uninvited to family (my husband’s)events. If we traveled we had to carry adoption papers. Some of our children would be pulled aside to be questioned about why they were with white parents. Yeah, that was tough.
We were blessed to have a lovely farm, where the kids could have pets,and lots of space to play.
I’m now 72, and Ray 73. We have been married for 51 years.
Our journey has sometimes been difficult, but have WAY MORE wonderful memories, and hilarious memories. We have been blessed with 15 grandchildren, and our children are among our best friends.
Thanks for bringing up so many precious memories, and some difficult ones🙏. It’s a reminder that even though there are many things have changed in our society, we still have work to do.
Bless you❤
“The judgement has to stop!”
So much love in that family. That skin to skin is amazing, once you feel that baby skin for the first time you are hook on that baby and he or she is hook on you.
Pais maravilhosos, lindíssimos...que família linda😻😻😻😻😻😻
Bless these two loving parents❤️❤️❤️
I just would like to say I wish I had a Foster Family that just cared a little .. I would’ve of care of anything But love care !! Thank you and God Bless you all for being Real true Loving Family !! I’m 56 years old back in my days homeless Dogs got better care .. I had 5 foster homes !! They didn’t care about me just the check !! I love your true values
When I took my son out after I had him people use to say awwww he's so cute. It's so nice that you're babysitting. I'm like I'm still fat from giving birth to him. People will always have their assumptions about things especially if it doesn't fit their mold or idea of what things should be.
Why does this wonderful family have to PROVE they're a family. We need to check ourselves and stop presuming. Keia, you're a wonderful human and a fantastic mum. Hold your head up high and carry on. Thank you for reminding us that we need to treat all families equally.
This filled my heart with more love! Thank you!
How could anyone put thumbs down? I will pray for you because we need more love & goodness in the world as we all bleed red. God Bless this family. And all families who love with the heart not the race or religion! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I've followed you since last fall!! You have a amazing family!! I love all your children..but the story of Princeton,has been bawling!! You are Mother, and you are an amazing woman, Mom, wife and daughter
This world needs more loving people like this.💕💘💞💝🍁
I can't tell you how wonderful this is to see. Absolutely beautiful.
It’s a blessing for those children.
It’s so lovely to see such caring parents. You can tell they love all of their kids with every ounce of their being. The world needs more people as kind and wonderful as them.💛
thats one of the most beautiful families i ever saw. such a great story. we need more people like them and i wish you all the very best. great family.
So beautiful, you can see how much love they have for all their children ❤️
I’ve almost been locked up behind my little blue eyed blonde haired baby. I GAVE BIRTH TO HIM! Yes it was an issue until everyone got use to seeing us around. It’s hilarious we just laugh about it. The white husband gets more looks with our black son 😂. He almost went to jail 😂. Girl all I do with jerks is SHAME THEM!! It works!😂
My favorite family. Love you guys, your such an amazing inspiration. Love ya'll all the way from South Africa.
I admire these parents so much- a great thing to commit your life to. The look on the mom's face when she held that child for the 1st time - priceless-
Its awsome me and my wife are going thru something similar we are parents again at 51 and 48 god does not give us something that we can't handle my wife is 51 never had children she has done an awsome job our child loves her so much she became a stay at home mom she had never experienced something like this God bless all of the foster parents around the world