I'm at 4.7 yrs standing. I struggle with feeling like I'm surviving not thriving. Not feeling released to do anything. Im tired of the ground hog day season, if you can consider almost 5 yrs a season. I sometimes feel that because I'm so miserable and unproductive by world standards I suppose, im not glorifying God at all. It is helpful to hear you say standing, interceeding is a job, is a purpose.
Hope this helps you. The Lord taught me how to REST in him. Mt 11:28-30 Ask him to help you with trusting him. My wait is close to your time, longer. Know it’s hard, but have learned how to literally Let Go and Let GOD. Have several ladies all in complete Love with God. We get together in a ministry then gather to help each other with our growth in Jesus Christ.
Praise Him in the Storm Praise Him in the Peace I've heard once a stander always a stander. I see the same for diet. It's a lifestyle not a temporary thing. God is Speaking through you Sheila.God Bless
I will encouraged all of you standers to kerp your eyes on Jesus,let go of what is happening to our spouses,Let God be God,my burdens are not heavy anymore i am so happt with Jesus,i am over joy with him,Seek first the kingdom of God and all shall added on to you,Matthew 6;33
Thank you for such a timely and much needed lesson Sheila! I appreciate your willingness to tackle those areas that will truly bring about Godly conviction, through the Holy Spirit, and lead us to genuine repentance and a more sincere trust in, and relationship with God!
I cant believe the separation. Im so tired im with my 3 kids no break.I worked hard all my life i put myself last.what a foolish thing i did to myself i put myself last always. I really cant believe this. I can only call it foolish what i did.
Where is the video of family getting in the way? You mentioned it in this video. My husband is listening to His whole family. Telling him to leave me. I really need that video but I can't find it. BTW these videos are AMAZING. THANK YOU.
The lost sheep reminds me of when Moses went up the mountain for them to confer with God and came back to them worshipping a golden calf. I equate that to when God seems to be silent/going after the one, my inclinatiin to create an alternate idol. It seems to imply the God was not in both places. Some humans need consistency in God's presence than others, otherwise humans are inclined to stray/seek to find Him.
My husband uses the silent treatment. I have no family or friends here where he moved us... he told me himself that he purposely doesn't say thank you for dinner and stops touching and holding me and talking to me until I get to a point where I am " ready." If I do something he doesn't like or I don't agree with him and tell him he was right about something he was wrong about. And I have been fighting resentment and anger towards him so bad and giving him more reason to be a worse husband. Before I came to Christ, I was an empty shell that soaked up whatever identity others wanted me to have bc I hated myself and felt unworthy. My husband took advantage of that. And now that I have an identity in Christ and will no longer flatter him out of pure ignorance or to gain his favor and receive my validation, this doesn't work as much. But it worked for so long so he's just trying to do the same thing to get his way and I think he is trying to run away from guilt the prideful way that needs me to agree with him so he can feel justified. But it's late tearful nights like this that draw me close to God.
It's hard when you don't hear from God. I keep asking Him is there something else I can do what's going on? I think He wants me to be quiet for now but it's still difficult. One lady that was restored said she hardly heard from Him and she just kept praying.
I am not currently in the place of a child being involved with the other person. But it makes me think of the child Abraham had with Hagar and was made to send them away. I realized how hard and expensive that would be, none the less not an unrealistic expectation. Me personally I would have no problem with loving that child.
I'm in the place that i am trusring the Lord i am norl Scared, cause as long as everything is in his hand his Control i am so so ok, really its nearly one year,march 19,I am so happy with the Lord cause I know why it happens,for him to save me and my family
What do you say to an ex spouse who has abandoned her family for another man and his kids, and tells you that they're in a better place but their relationship with God is complicated?
This will get answered and solidified the more you come to know Him personally and deeply. As you drawn nearer and understand His character and nature, this should be made very clear to you Who He is and how marriage reflects and mirrors this relationship.
I believe God wants us to cry out to Him with our pain, heartaches, and frustrations just as we would want our children to not suffer in silence and cry out to us in times of turmoil. David cried out to God lots of times in the Psalms. But he always resolved that he would put his hope and trust in the Lord. Crying out to God is a way to let Him know that we know He's the only one Who can truly help us and deliver us. I think complaining is more of a griping spirit that only desires to express our unhappiness or discomfort in situations without really seeking the Lord for help on how we could go about dealing with the matter, or what we could do to change it. I'm trying to practice what David did. Cry out to God, ask Him for help, and resolve that I will trust Him through my storm. I hope this will help. God bless you! 🙏🙏🙏
MY HUSBAND DIVORCED ME FOR NO BIBLICAL REASON...WHEN HE DIES ,DOES HE GO TO HELL? I PRAY HE DOES NOT. HE READS THE BIBLE. AND GOES TO CHURCH. DO I GO SEE HIM OR JUST PRAY AND STAY AWAY?
Divorcing is not going to separate your husband from God for all eternity, but it will certainly interfere because when you are outside of God's will, doing your own will, that brings shame, guilt and causes a division between us and God. Keep praying for his heart to do the will of the Father and heed the call of the Holy Spirit. God can speak to him in ways that we can't, so unless God is asking you to reach out, it's best to stay quiet. Pray and seek direction on what is best for your situation and keep pursuing God for your peace and comfort during this time. He has you! --Sheila
Standing for a lost believing spouse, is almost the same as standing for a lost unbelieving spouse. Both are living in the same place of struggle with knowing, believing, understanding their identity in God. Knowing Him as Father, believing, trusting, surrendering to Him, having fear of the Lord as we should, and loving Him first. We pray for their hearts to open to Him and for the desires of God's heart to fill their hearts.
I'm at 4.7 yrs standing. I struggle with feeling like I'm surviving not thriving. Not feeling released to do anything. Im tired of the ground hog day season, if you can consider almost 5 yrs a season. I sometimes feel that because I'm so miserable and unproductive by world standards I suppose, im not glorifying God at all. It is helpful to hear you say standing, interceeding is a job, is a purpose.
Hope this helps you. The Lord taught me how to REST in him. Mt 11:28-30
Ask him to help you with trusting him. My wait is close to your time, longer. Know it’s hard, but have learned how to literally Let Go and Let GOD. Have several ladies all in complete Love with God. We get together in a ministry then gather to help each other with our growth in Jesus Christ.
This was very helpful . Thank you for doing this . Thank you for not quitting when you felt like you had to . Thank you for listening to God
This is so helpful. Thank you
Praise Him in the Storm
Praise Him in the Peace
I've heard once a stander always a stander. I see the same for diet. It's a lifestyle not a temporary thing. God is Speaking through you Sheila.God Bless
You are an awesome teacher! Thank you for your ministry!❤
I will encouraged all of you standers to kerp your eyes on Jesus,let go of what is happening to our spouses,Let God be God,my burdens are not heavy anymore i am so happt with Jesus,i am over joy with him,Seek first the kingdom of God and all shall added on to you,Matthew 6;33
Thank you for such a timely and much needed lesson Sheila! I appreciate your willingness to tackle those areas that will truly bring about Godly conviction, through the Holy Spirit, and lead us to genuine repentance and a more sincere trust in, and relationship with God!
I cant believe the separation. Im so tired im with my 3 kids no break.I worked hard all my life i put myself last.what a foolish thing i did to myself i put myself last always. I really cant believe this. I can only call it foolish what i did.
Where is the video of family getting in the way? You mentioned it in this video. My husband is listening to His whole family. Telling him to leave me. I really need that video but I can't find it. BTW these videos are AMAZING. THANK YOU.
The lost sheep reminds me of when Moses went up the mountain for them to confer with God and came back to them worshipping a golden calf. I equate that to when God seems to be silent/going after the one, my inclinatiin to create an alternate idol. It seems to imply the God was not in both places. Some humans need consistency in God's presence than others, otherwise humans are inclined to stray/seek to find Him.
When I listen to you dear Shela I feel you pass what you pass you talking just all my pian
My husband uses the silent treatment. I have no family or friends here where he moved us... he told me himself that he purposely doesn't say thank you for dinner and stops touching and holding me and talking to me until I get to a point where I am " ready." If I do something he doesn't like or I don't agree with him and tell him he was right about something he was wrong about. And I have been fighting resentment and anger towards him so bad and giving him more reason to be a worse husband. Before I came to Christ, I was an empty shell that soaked up whatever identity others wanted me to have bc I hated myself and felt unworthy. My husband took advantage of that. And now that I have an identity in Christ and will no longer flatter him out of pure ignorance or to gain his favor and receive my validation, this doesn't work as much. But it worked for so long so he's just trying to do the same thing to get his way and I think he is trying to run away from guilt the prideful way that needs me to agree with him so he can feel justified. But it's late tearful nights like this that draw me close to God.
100% Dating is an interview for a spouse.
It's hard when you don't hear from God. I keep asking Him is there something else I can do what's going on? I think He wants me to be quiet for now but it's still difficult. One lady that was restored said she hardly heard from Him and she just kept praying.
that is encouraging!
I am not currently in the place of a child being involved with the other person. But it makes me think of the child Abraham had with Hagar and was made to send them away. I realized how hard and expensive that would be, none the less not an unrealistic expectation. Me personally I would have no problem with loving that child.
I'm in the place that i am trusring the Lord i am norl Scared, cause as long as everything is in his hand his Control i am so so ok, really its nearly one year,march 19,I am so happy with the Lord cause I know why it happens,for him to save me and my family
Dear Shela do you experience NPD Narcissistic Borderline Desorder BPD ??I need you help and your advice should I believe stay for my marriage?
What do you say to an ex spouse who has abandoned her family for another man and his kids, and tells you that they're in a better place but their relationship with God is complicated?
How due i know if God wants me to be back with my ex ,or he just wants me to have a new family
This will get answered and solidified the more you come to know Him personally and deeply. As you drawn nearer and understand His character and nature, this should be made very clear to you Who He is and how marriage reflects and mirrors this relationship.
I thought that crying was perceived complaining
I believe God wants us to cry out to Him with our pain, heartaches, and frustrations just as we would want our children to not suffer in silence and cry out to us in times of turmoil. David cried out to God lots of times in the Psalms. But he always resolved that he would put his hope and trust in the Lord. Crying out to God is a way to let Him know that we know He's the only one Who can truly help us and deliver us. I think complaining is more of a griping spirit that only desires to express our unhappiness or discomfort in situations without really seeking the Lord for help on how we could go about dealing with the matter, or what we could do to change it. I'm trying to practice what David did. Cry out to God, ask Him for help, and resolve that I will trust Him through my storm. I hope this will help. God bless you! 🙏🙏🙏
MY HUSBAND DIVORCED ME FOR NO BIBLICAL REASON...WHEN HE DIES ,DOES HE GO TO HELL? I PRAY HE DOES NOT. HE READS THE BIBLE. AND GOES TO CHURCH. DO I GO SEE HIM OR JUST PRAY AND STAY AWAY?
Divorcing is not going to separate your husband from God for all eternity, but it will certainly interfere because when you are outside of God's will, doing your own will, that brings shame, guilt and causes a division between us and God. Keep praying for his heart to do the will of the Father and heed the call of the Holy Spirit. God can speak to him in ways that we can't, so unless God is asking you to reach out, it's best to stay quiet. Pray and seek direction on what is best for your situation and keep pursuing God for your peace and comfort during this time. He has you! --Sheila
Do you have any videos/articles on standing for an unbelieving spouse in an unequally yolked marriage?
Standing for a lost believing spouse, is almost the same as standing for a lost unbelieving spouse. Both are living in the same place of struggle with knowing, believing, understanding their identity in God. Knowing Him as Father, believing, trusting, surrendering to Him, having fear of the Lord as we should, and loving Him first. We pray for their hearts to open to Him and for the desires of God's heart to fill their hearts.
@@MarriageRevealedMinistries thank you so much! Will continue to pray and stand. 🙏🏾