Ah “The Girls!” My wife and I are both 50, have a 26 old daughter, have lived in our current house for 22 years and live openly as lesbians. Almost all the neighbors call us “the girls”. (Even neighbors that are younger than us.) It is odd. It is like they aren’t quite sure how to refer to us. We once had a neighbor say that it was great that our daughter did “boy jobs” around the house. I told him that no jobs at our house are boy jobs, they are all women’s jobs. He was really embarrassed after he processed what he said. We still kid him about it.
@@Toon_Topaz Sweet of you to say that! Most of our neighbors are actually very nice. Everyone sort of looks out for each other properties when people are on vacation, help shovel each others sidewalks and driveways, stops to chat and the absolutely best is that lots of us like to garden. --That means people offer their plants when they need thinning out. Getting free plants, that you know will thrive in your area, is fantastic. (Can you tell that I am excited for Spring??)
Audibly laughed about Rupert's running commentary. But it was still really important conversation! He wasn't finished! I'm sure being able to communicate basic needs greatly lessens frustration for both the baby and the adult :)
I brought up bisexuality with my family to 'test the waters' and some of them responded poorly... So I waited a long time to come out. Turns out if they'd known it was about me, they would have responded differently even at the time! Having to actually face it elicits a different way of thinking and feeling than just theoreticals.
There is something very sweet about seeing Claudia playfully complaining about how she's the only one that gets woken up in the middle of the night because Jessica is deaf and can't really be woken up by the baby crying, and then seeing Jessica look a little embarrassed, but still laughing along. I feel like, with another couple, that could so easily turn into a fight or into resentment on the hearing parent's part, but since Jess and Claudia are so communicative and aren't afraid to address the limitations of Jessica's disability, it's just a funny anecdote that Claudia can openly complain about without fear of hurting Jessica's feelings. As a disabled person, sometimes my inability to do certain things, and my reliance on other people for those things, makes me feel such an intense wash of guilt and shame that i often will neglect my own needs because I simply don't want to ask for help. Sometimes, caring for me will have an unavoidable, negative impact on that person. They're tired, they had a hard day, their back hurts, they're busy, they're literally ASLEEP. How can I butt in all the time like "HEY can you make food for me thank youuuu" without feeling like a burden on them? how can I hear them complain about a headache without feeling guilty later when i have to ask for help? Seeing that Claudia feels comfortable complaining (even in a playful, joking way) about something that is directly made harder for her because of her partner's disability, and seeing that Jessica feels comfortable hearing those complaints and laughing at the situation... it makes me feel hopeful. maybe one day, I'll be able to laugh along and not feel ashamed of my needs. Maybe one day, I'll be able to listen to a person who cares for me, complain about their day, without feeling like I need to neglect my own needs in response. I think that would be really nice.
Thanks for sharing, can't have been easy. You really shouldn't feel guilt or shame, you didn't ask for your challenges. I'm sure someone out there would love to share a life with you and help you tackle those challenges. With that being said, we have to be realistic about media we engage with, especially online and in influencer circles. Sadly, the point you mention about the baby crying and Jessica never hearing it genuinely may cause or be causing resentment at some point. Hopefully not, and ostensibly not, but it could happen. We can't assume or presume to know what Claudia feels or wants, just because she shares a RUclips channel publicly and posts a video in which she's laughing and joking about the matter. What we're seeing is a glossy, highly-edited, mega-positive take on their real life, which likely omits a lot of the harder or less upbeat rainbows-and-sunshine material. And quite a lot of new/young parenting channels are guilty of this, not being honest about the reality of how difficult it is to raise a baby in these times, with and without challenges.
"Good night and good luck" was used by the late US TV broadcaster Edward R Murrow as his sign off of his current events show on the CBS TV network in the 1950's. George Clooney directed a movie with that title about Murrow.
Dating before you come out: Jessica said to be safe. There are different kinds of safety. Sometimes we have to take risks for our mental well-being. So I think as long as both of you know as much as you can predict what those risks are and are willing to take them, then it’s up to the two of you to decide if that’s worth it. Similarly, you have to decide if this person is trustworthy enough to even ask. And deal with the heartache of potentially having that joy and having to keep it secret. While the joy can absolutely be worth it, straight people get to talk about their relationships all the time and you wouldn’t be able to do that.
One day, a few years ago, I learned that the production of my Salbutamol inhaler was incredibly detrimental to the environment. As someone with chronic asthma, I'm dependent on this inhaler and it's not really something I can change. I spent weeks freaking out about it, feeling so guilty for needing this thing that causes waste and pollution, I made myself so miserable. I felt like I had to balance it out somehow, so I switched to reusable menstrual pads, panty liners, etc.. I later stopped using cotton pads to clean my face, switched to reusable ones instead. Being a chronically ill person who requires more resources, and having this existential dread of climate change - it's a horrible combination. I don't wish it upon anyone. No matter how well I know that corporations and conglomerates are the biggest contributers to the climate crisis, something within me still kind of blames myself as an individual, and one that requires extra resources at that.
Does anyone have recommendations for LGBTQ+ couples that don't have children? I hope this isn't offensive at all and I don't mind the content, especially not with couples I had already been following. Just as someone who is planning to be child-free I would like to see more examples of healthy relationships. Thanks!! And absolutely no hate to the other couples, I'll definitely be following them as well!!
I’m a gay guy and I hate the “gay voice” I know why I hate it. Cause I do the “voice” sometimes and it just makes me uncomfortable cause my mind goes “No! That’ll give them ammo to criticise you! Hide! Get down! Camouflage!” So I’m trying to just get over it with exposure therapy to the “gay voice”. I had a similar experience with Scottish accents. For no deeper reason tho, they just grated on my ears, but then I played Xenoblade 2 and at some point the voices no longer bothered me. Exposure therapy for the win
The one show I can think of that is not an LGBT+ focus show, but has great LGBT+ is DC's Legends of Tomorrow. The plot focus is about time traveling superheroes. Cast members have changed as time passes, but the show has always had LGBT+ characters. Currently they have done 7 seasons thus far, with two characters in a same sex marriage ( to each other) and a character who joined in season 6 coming out as asexual in season 7. The one draw back is that it is a spinoff of other superhero shows and sometimes they do crossovers with the other show. Can you watch and enjoy just DC's Legends of Tomorrow without watching the crossover events? I shall admit to be unsure.
Oh there is another show I can think of with an LGBT+ character, the current reboot of Charmed. Plot is modern world where three special witches called The Charmed Ones fight the forces of evil. One of The Charmed Ones is a lessbain in this rebooted version. The catch is however, dating is hard for all three of The Charmed Ones is prove to be a challenge. Seriously, within three seasons none of them have been that successful in maintaining a healthy long term relationship that lasts into next season. But least it is struggle they are equally sharing? Note: The Charmed reboot might be a little darker then the original Charmed. I personally would not call the reboot a dark show, but I admit it is a touch darker then the original.
I actually showed your nursery tour to my mother to help normalize more non-cishet stuff to her. I know she likes new baby type content, so it's all about finding a common ground with someone's interest and showing them the wide range of people in similar situations/hobbies/community as them I think ^_^
@@ahhh4117 You can adopt at older ages and support children who aren't your own with clubs, sports and including family accessibility for public plans.
@@fionafiona1146 funny you mention volunteering! I do volunteer at a local qeueer youth center, and I fully intend to adopt older autistic children (as an autistic). I want some undeveloped people to help nurture into some impressive individuals infants are extremely fragile and i cannot communicate with them
I totally agree with Jessica that the most important question is "Do you want to come out to that person at that time" rather than "Do you need to". It's a part of us that we can keep or share just like any other part of us. Some people will know more about us and others will know less because of many different factors, and you're still just as valid as a person whether or not you come out to someone.
Here’s a tip to some new moms from a slightly older one: THEY WONT STOP NARRATING THEIR TRIPS TO TOLIET! My 6-year-old still announces when she’s pooped and sometimes wants me to come admire her work. Which I do. “Wow! You must feel so much better!”
my brother is 10 and my mother is a doctor who always says "if your poop floats that means its good!" or whatever and to this day my brother's like "mom my poop was floating are you proud im healthy"
Definitely both. I get those comments aimed at me a lot (despite, or maybe because of, working in an active manual job). But nobody assumes that as a couple we can't handle DIY, because we are in a heterosexual relationship. So I get to dodge some of the comments that I imagine will get aimed at lesbian couples/relationships.
I am sure this applies to many people other than lgbtq... 16 yr. old girl might have an abusive father, mother hides a secret that their daughter is going on first date with a boy.. father finds out and becomes abusive. Happens to people outside of LGTBQ×
@@OrhallaZander Abusive parents will be abusive parents regardless of sexuality but parents who would otherwise be a good parents will hate their kid BECAUSE they’re gay. There is a difference.
@@mattiekhler3396 I cannot relate. My parents came to me when I was a teen and said they would accept me if I was gay. I actually was straight and scared of girls. This was 22 years ago, and the stigma back then, is just not on the same level it was, even in the deep south. A lot of Christians don't care as much anymore. God forbid, you are Mormon or Muslim or Indian religions, you may face severe shunning.
@@OrhallaZander this is pretty naive. Yes it's a lot better but there are still many congregations and religious communities that reject queer people. Rates of LGBTQIA homelessness among teens are still pretty high. There are entire church denominations that almost entirely separated because of the issue of whether or not to accept queer people, and this happened fairly recently. There are states where pro-queer and trans legislation is constantly almost being overturned or challenged by Conservative religious politicians. And there are Christian communities all over the world, like where I live, that think being queer is a sin and that is majority opinion. Maybe don't speak on an experience you don't have. Saying that being gay isn't as bad anymore when you are straight and don't experience homophobia is questionable. Homophobia and having abusive parents are different things, and often times, queer people can experience more abuse from their parents, abusive or not, than straight people because abusive parents are often (not always) also bigoted in certain ways. I have one abusive parent and one nonabusive one, but I can't entirely rely on the nonabusive parent because they are also wildly homophobic (so is the abusive one, if you're wondering). It's just not the same. Homophobia, especially religious Homophobia can make even non abusive people do horrible things to their own children. My mother is a kind person but she also hates me for being queer because her religion tells her to (not that she knows I'm queer, but her feelings about the LGBTQIA community are crystal clear, and knowing how intense she is about her beliefs, she would throw me away before she ever changed what she thought).
@@OrhallaZander You'd be very surprised if you think it's a lot better in the American South. You can still be killed and the person never punished for finding out you're LGBTQ+ in the American South and it happens basically every month, at least.
In regards to making a family member subtly more comfortable with queerness, find lgbtq aspects of a thing they already care about. For instance, while my father is a supportive ally for the most part, it helped us bond a lot when I showed him the queer history of his favorite music genre, Blues. Some of its pioneering musicians were queer women of color (Ma Rainey, Rosetta Tharpe,) and he was so intrigued by this that he went on to find more queer blues musicians and made a playlist for the both of us. So maybe it’s a sport, or movie genre, whatever the hobby or interest is there is probably a corner of its that’s queer and can be a point of connection!
oo building off this i think that worked because it really humanises queer people and like, un-others them? not saying your dad didn’t think of queer people as people, more we all need that subconscious push this goes with basically all ‘othered’ groups tbh
@@acookie7548 Exactly! It showed him that these kinds of persons existed and belonged to a space he loved and was a part of, which helped to un-other him from that aspect of me!
For the first question: my mom was happy for the first time since I can remember when she started dating her first woman! Both of them have been together since 2007 and are happily married. She travels, meet lesbians across Europe and now have a new wonderful community with lots of dear friends. When I grew up she was lonely and didn’t have many friends of hobbies at all. They now live in a townhouse with their cat AND one of my close friend Linda moved to Australia and found her new soon to be wife and I have never seen someone so happy! And those are the lesbians I know who are in a relationships but got more friends who is happily single as well!
thank you for talking about climate and disability! I'm in the environmental field, and am not able to bike and walk most places at this point due to my disability. It's tough dealing with the guilt of having to drive short places sometimes, or the appearance that I don't care. Or, if it's a low-spoon day, and I didn't have the mental energy or wherewithal to pack reusable bags... there are so many things people assume you should just do if you "really care" and I've been working on letting go of the guilt of that!
I agree! I use single use items and hate that they aren't recyclable. And the bag thing? 100% with you on it. I love green spaces and feel guilty all the time. Thanks for sharing. ❤
I feel you. Still, it really isn't the responsibility of disabled people to take care of the environment at the cost of their own well-being when there are able-bodied billionaires out there flying their private airplanes and rich oil company executives buying out sustainable technology patents just to make sure they never end up on the markets. Take care of yourself first, you'll be better equipped to teach and challenge others to make a difference.
@@Mielipuolukka Very well said! One thing I often say is that if more able-bodied people stepped up and made changes or put in more effort towards environmentalism (whether on an individual or corporate level), they would more than offset the limited ability that disabled people have for those tasks. Especially when you combine disability with poverty, which prices you out of things such as buying organic or free range. In other words, our planet is not in the shitter bc some disabled people can't recycle or scrub containers to reuse them or make every meal from scratch.
My knee jerk reaction to the girl wanting to date in secret is to tell her to wait until graduation. Granted, my own personal experiences color my opinion on this, but I think that it is best to wait until you are independent from your family if they are not going to be supportive because if one is found out, it can potentially get dangerous and ugly in many ways. *Edit* misspelling
I remember having a secret gf when in the closet (even though I am a transguy I still think it can be learned from) when I still lived with my parents and all it did was affirm that I was dissatisfied and unhappy with my life. Don't get me wrong she was cool but the dysphoria from being perceived as a lesbian and the fear of my parents finding out was too much
The sign language section was incredible. It’s so wonderful that he has a way of communicating with you before his voice box has developed. Just shows how quickly babies’ brains develop, it’s just they can’t really use them. I’ve never thought of sign language like that but it’s incredible. Absolutely mind-blowing. What a lucky boy he is with you two as his mothers 🥺
Show Suggestions: Schitt’s Creek It was created by Dan Levy who is gay, and it was created as a show that “shows love in every form” One of the main characters is openly queer from the beginning and his sexuality is just a part of who he is. There is no homophobia in the show whatsoever and it shows multiple healthy queer relationships. It’s not the main focus of the show so it’s great as a jumping off point for family members, but it is present (especially after season 3). I cried so many times watching it because of how seen I felt So that is my long winded way of saying watch Schitt’s Creek (just get through the first season I promise it gets so much better it’s just a set up)
Two things: 1) I adore the wine metaphor (if you know, you know) and how they kinda subverted everyone's expectations about David's sexuality by having his first relationship be with Stevie and 2) another show rec would definitely be Modern Family, partly because it's has such a broad target audience and also bc of Cam and Mitch's relationship lots of
I loved Shitt’s Creek, the characters are just so hilarious and wonderful. My show suggestion is : Our Flag Means Death. It is on Crave and is a lovely and hilarious show about a rich man trying to fulfill his pirate dreams and there are queer folks and a non-binary character with they/them pronouns. There was an episode where two characters have their first kiss and I almost cried. It was just so heartwarming. Plus Taika Waititi is in it and he is the best. Also “What We Do in the Shadows” is hilarious and great. The queer elements of it are a bit more subtle. A mention of a same sex relationship here and there and little moments here and there that just normalize talking about gay love and sex without making it seem shameful or something to be embarrassed of.
"The girl" thing happens because same-sex relationships are viewed as lesser than the straight ones. For example, I was sitting with my girlfriend in the café and told a person who asked about our relations that we're dating. He referred to us as "friends". Then I saw him with another couple which was straight and he referred to them as "a girlfriend/a boyfriend". A small but obvious details.
the usage of sign language with a baby is absolutely genius, i would have done it with my baby too (if i was ever going to have one). it is much more simple and i think much easier for the baby to communicate with as they can move hands better than they can talk lol and also imo makes for a lot less frustration on the baby's part. i am autistic and sometimes i find it hard to speak, it is less of a physical block and more of a mental one i think (usually happens when i am feeling overwhelmed or exhausted or in emotional pain) and i always wish in those times if i could communicate with sign how great that would have been. however, communication is a two way street and one can try to do however many signs it only works if the person "listening" is actually accepting this way of communication. i haven't even been able to establish even a safe word type sign (which i think everyone should have) that could communicate that i am in stress and would like to be left alone for a few minutes...
I hope you get to have people in your life who 'listen' the way you need them to. Establishing a safe word in sign seems like such a small thing for them to do that would really help you. You deserve to communicate in a way that feels safe and right for you, and to have that respected.
I've thought about setting up signs with my partner for the same reason, but I've found he often notices that I'm in distress before I do - he picks up on my body language in a way that my parents never did, which makes some signs a bit redundant
@Helen M thank you for sharing this. i feel happy that you have someone like your partner who knows you well enough and is mindful of you like this. my response might seem weird but I have always had this idea of a perfect love where we would know each other like this but as per my experience with anyone i have ever met... i thought this was an unrealistic wish. i have never let myself even dream of having someone like that (although I have always wanted to be such a person to the one I love). but seeing your comment just made me smile so hard. I wish you both happiness and health ❤
That's really interesting blue, I'm thinking of learning sign for a vaiiety of reasons, but it was my dyslexic good friend who first suggested I try it. She said she found it amazing being able to communicate non verbally just with her body direct to meaning, without having to say or think in words. Even having a few common sign words might be a great relief.. And give a sense of starting place, and personal choice. It's good to remember that sign is a language, like any other language, it's OK to make up your own slang. There might be people fluent in one dialect or one region or one country, but there is no reason you can't make up your own with family and friends, or learn the official public sign language of your country and adapt it as you please. Language is for us to use, and live with. It's good to respect the amazing people that developed it and live with it everyday, but it's OK to participate if you want to 😊
I remember in a report on homophobia from my country a lesbian couple said something akin to: "Men often ask 'Don't you need a man in your relationship' and we always answer 'I don't think you understood the concept of being a lesbian" and to this day this makes me chortle cause yeah...those people really don't. Also: representation is everything. As someone somewhere on the beautiful spectrum of asexuality, I would love to see more aces in popular media 😌
Asexuals are less popular in the media than vampires and that rubs me the wrong way for real Like don't get me wrong i love vampires but also I'm pretty sure there's more people who don't experience sexual attraction than like people who drink blood
@@ahhh4117 Now an asexual vampire would be something, considering their portrayal always seems to be strongly tied to sexuality...but in all seriousness, oof, yeah! My personal gripe is that the classic misconception 'asexual == no interest in sex at all' is still so strong. And I believe seeing someone figuring out their asexuality, maybe mentioning the split attraction model, would've definitely saved me some time in figuring out that aesthetically pleasing ≠ sexual attraction 😅
@@Anni_ka There technically is an asexual vampire character, he's in shadowhunters but he wasn't an important character. In my fantasy media there would be a diverse set of asexual characters with complex differing experiences. Like I've never met someone who was even Mostly like me, but I think what makes us unique as a community is the understanding that we all have incredibly personal and unique experiences
Poor Claudia! I felt that last bit as a previously nursing mom... was absolute hell (easier than making bottles blearily at 3 am and then not being able to go back to sleep though) because it never stopped hurting or being a sensory overload issue for me, and it made me feel less like I was appreciated for who I was and more for being a source of food and comfort. Easy to get burned out and depressed, especially with sleep deprivation... Idk if y'all can hire a night sitter, but if you can it might be a cool thing on the weekend or every other week to try to help you get some of the rest you need and avoid caregiver burnout! Pumping isn't a ton of fun either but lord knows once I could do so I came to rely on it for my partner or sitter to give the baby food and comfort while I finally properly rested for the first time in months! I managed better after that and continued nursing til my eldest was almost three! She's autistic and needed the extra nutrition and time with me and as hard as it was I am glad I did it.
I agree that parents should give themselves a break and seek a way to get the rest they so need. It's not depriving the infant, it's helping Mothers cope which does help the baby in the long run. You can't pour from an empty cup. And, absolutely NO GUILT !! Be well .
I can relate. I was raised by 2 gay men.(mom's best friends) mom couldn't raise me.she had too many problems,plus I look exactly like my birth father,which made her mental health worse
I’m 58 and I absolutely love your lesbian mothers videos! You are the positive role models I didn’t have growing up! And the topic of internalized homophobia is so important! Thanks for your encouragement to heal!
Show suggestion: One Day at a Time on Netflix. The daughter in this lovely family sitcom is gay! Some episodes are centered around her experience, but the show is mainly about the single mother, war veteran nurse Penelope. The show also explores mental health, the American immigrant experience, and family dynamics.
Nothing in particular to say, just wanted to let you know that even being the same age as Jessica, I find great peace in having a wonderful pair of internet lesbian mums 😊
I feel the 19 year old bisexual. I didn't realize I was bisexual until I was 6 years into my marriage. I plan on being with my lovely husband forever, but it's been weird. For the most point I'm not "out" but I try to be more neutral with terms. Makes me feel more comfortable. I was in an abusive home that told me my grandma wouldn't love me anymore if I was with a woman
I’m in the same situation, and my husband doesn’t understand it. I never dated anyone before my husband, neither man nor woman but he thinks I will leave him for a woman one day, which of course I wouldn’t. I still feel strange talking about my sexuality because my husband is in denial completely. I am not straight.
@Stoplgbtoffical okay? Not sure why other people's lives matter that much to you unless you're rejecting your own truth, but I guess we all learn in our own time 🤷🏻♀️
I agree that whether or not to come out to parents as bisexual, especially if they’re conservative and homophobic, is up to the person, if they don’t feel that they would be safe, then don’t do it. But if you are in an intimate, long term relationship with someone, you owe your partner the honesty of telling them the truth about your sexuality
I disagree. No matter what kind of relationship you have with someone, you are free to be open or not be open about your sexuality (or gender). In any way, put safety first. Having a loving and trustful relationship it might on the long run be about having a partner who knows you and can support you this way. But in the end it‘s your opinion that matters. be less of a consideration to be closeted and that would make sence.
@@Alina_Schmidt I agree with Alina, just because you have a close relationship with someone, no matter how close, you do not have to tell them everything about you. They shouldn't expect you to either. I would dump anyone that fucking thinks that they have the right to know everything about me...that is just fucking not true.
To the person who asked if they need to come out as bisexual even though they're in a relationship where it may look like everybody's heterosexual from the outside, I agree entirely with Jessie and Claudia that this is up you, how you feel about coming out in general and how safe you feel to do so. I do have some experience with this one though, as I figured out I was bi very early on in a straight relationship and never saw the point in coming out as I thought I would be with that person for life so I figured it was really kind of irrelevant. Fast forward to now, that relationship ended after 17 years, I spent a few years alone by choice and now that I am considering the possibility of dating again, I am also facing coming out as bi at the age of nearly 40, which feels ridiculously daunting as I'm positive my family have no idea. Looking back, for me personally, I think it might have been a good idea to do it sooner! It would certainly be one less thing to contend with, when also looking at the absolutely terrifying world of modern dating after not dating for the last 21 years! Best wishes to everyone out there who is also still figuring it out, you're not alone! 🌈♥️
@@charliebrown1184 thank you 💕 and the same to you. My closest friends know, and while I don't shout about my sexuality I make no effort to hide it, so I doubt anyone would be super surprised 😂
Thank you for answering my question. And in response to Claudia my mum is more likely to say “oh is that why you love anything rainbows and listen to Halsey so much”
I get you on the bi thing though, and there's so much erasure that can come with BEING bi, as your identity is often invisible (assumed straight if you're with a man, assumed lesbian if you're with a woman). I was married to a man many moons ago, & when I told my brother I was getting married, he said "oh, so you're not bi anymore?" (in his defense, he was 17, haha). I'm currently partnered with a man, & I actually mentioned this annoying erasure of my orientation & even he asked "but does it really matter if you're assumed gay or st8?" 🤦🏻♀️ Well, yes, yes it does, or I wouldn't be talking about it, now would I? 😁 All I can say is do what you feel safest doing. I told my mother I was bi in my very early teens, but she didn't really have to think about it until I brought home my 1st serious girlfriend when I was about 18. I'm not sure if that's better or worse, tbh. 😆 I think she's compartmentalized it in her mind, because she called ALL my female friends "my girlfriends" (as in, "I'm going to the club with my girlfriends tonight" *NOT* in the "I want to marry this particular woman because she's my girlfriend" way), and as I'm not physically demonstrative with ANY partner in front of my mom, I think she...just doesnt think about it. She's not homophobic, she's had numerous friends who are queer & even one of her closest friends for YEARS was a lesbian (well, I'm sure the lady still *is* a lesbian, she just moved far away & they're no longer in touch lol); she just seems to have trouble with it for her own kid, I guess?
@@bethbatt2081 🤦🏻♀️ Like...WUT?! 😆 I'm screaming over here, that's freaking hilarious! (I hope her family was otherwise accepting, but dang...what an odd conclusion! 🤭)
the whole "who will put up the shelves?" comment really irked me. as if they aren't capable because they happen to be women. and while i wouldn't expect Jessica to do certain diy tasks because of her disabilities, i'm quite sure that on a good brain and body day, she could be a great help.
Love this! My wife and I also are aiming to die at the same time in a peaceful way. That way neither of us will have to be without the other. This is what happens when you marry your best friend and love of your life. You want to always be together. 🥰🥰
Stay safe is the first advice, and that's as it should be. But I think a close second that's often overlooked is, make space to self-actualize, and that often means gaining independence, fast. Financial independence, emotional, logistical. It's so much harder to self actualize when you have that threat to your safety.
Such a great video with wonderful answers, and I especially loved the way Claudia was making you laugh at the end just by being her usual self and the delight on your faces when you talked about Roo! SO charming! ❤️❤️ And I personally love that your first response is always, “Make sure you are safe!”, Jessica! And when you both spoke about Amy not “needing” to come out to anyone about anything unless she was comfortable and how sexuality wasn’t about who you were with but about you, I was nodding along vigorously! Brilliant answers! 👍🏻👍🏻 I’m glad you could make one of these again as they’re always informative and enjoyable and you really seem to care about helping others with their questions as caring parental figures that not everyone has right in front of them, unfortunately, so being able to watch your videos for that I think is really wonderful! 💛💛 And Claudia’s “Go to bed! It’s late!” at the end was so very Claudia, hilarious and just perfect! 😆😆
"Sexuality is not about who you're with, it's about you" - amazing piece of advice, so we'll said. Thank you. 😊 And thanks to you both for the whole Q&A
I recently watched Embrace the Panda: Making Turning Red, which is a doc about the all-women leadership team behind Turning Red. One of the women is lesbian, and recently had kids, so if you want media to send to people with casual lesbian representation, it's a good one.
My aunt taught my little cousin baby sign language before she could talk, too! She's probably forgotten most of it by now but it's really amazing how much they can communicate that way while their vocal control is still developing.
today has been a hard day, and i’ve been having quiet a lot of them lately. i just wanted to take this time to send some love, not only for jessi and claudia, but also to anyone reading this. jessica, your videos always give me hope that i can someday be mu true self and be happy doing it. thank you for everything you do daily to make the world a better place. sending lots of love:))
You asked for content suggestions, and I have one! My go-to for suggesting LBGTQ+ content to people in a stealthy way is definitely She-Ra on Netflix. The cast is full of fantastical space heroes... who all turn out to be LGBTQ+ at the end. ✨
Don't worry Claudia, my husband is immune for baby crying at night, so I'm like you, the one who takes care of baby at night :D and we have son in the same age as you!
7:35 I think the important thing to remember here is that because you can't do something perfectly, doesn't mean you can do nothing at all. We are often made to believe that if we don't do all the steps perfectly, we are not serious about eg the environment anyway. I experienced this when I wanted to go vegan but couldn't do so because of my health. But what I could no is lower the amounts of animal products I eat about half in total and not eat a few specific products that I feel very passionate about. And that is totally, ok and great and valid. Just like with the diaper story. Don't feel bad about the things you can't do, feel good about the things you can do.
You two are so amazing and give very good advice. As I’m not a baby gay anymore I don’t really need advice anymore but I still like to watch these videos 😊 always good to see you two
Jessie and Claud, thank you both for tackling the subjects that have been the questions in the community tab. My other half and myself have run into giant roadblocks. I am so thankful that I found your community. You Are Amazing.! 😁😁😁😁😁😎😎😎
the deaf mother sleeping soundly thing is hilarious, ironically mirrors the hetero dynamics where the father fakes sleeps through the night and never gets up for the baby (*sarcasm*, in case some can't tell). Take that, homophobes
I used to be very against homosexuality. Up until I was 35 or 36 and then I made friends with someone who was very pro-LGBTQ. They were very kind in the way they pointed out how messed up my thinking was. The problem was, she kind of directed me to be accepting of male homosexual relationships to the point where I realized she was fetishizing them. I did come to acceptance that love is love is love but my real break through in accept has come through you and Claudia. You are so sweet in the way you include us in your romance. It's so normal and sweet and that helps this straight woman to see that any relationship can be wholesome and sweet. Did I mention you're both so sweet? 🤭
thank you for sharing your experience. it's nice to know you've come to the other side! I think most gays just want to be seen as normal, regular people.
There are many healthy gay/lesbian couples around but unfortunately, straight ppl rarely see them. Bc of the homophobia that exists in mostly straight areas, gay/lesbian couples cluster together in the "gay areas" of town. As a result, straight people don't see them and therefore don't know how they live and that they can be "normal" families--which leads to more homophobia. Vicious cycle. Thank goodness for the internet that allows everyone to learn about each other.
Thanks for saying we can, as disabled people, consume more resources and do what we can. I try to buy used or slow fashion, and donate clothing I can't use anymore or recycle them. And when I go to the store, I'll try to go with someone so we can carpool. And you're right, it's a systemic issue.
Great advice all around! Must say, I love when Claudia is telling about something that makes Jessica laugh-near uncontrollably 😆🤣 like in book Vid too. Such a beautiful picture into your relationship. 🏳️🌈💗❤🏳️🌈
I'm not disabled but do have a lot of guilt for not having a reusable water bottle because my OCD makes it very difficult for me to clean it and then they end up used for a bit and then forgotten and then I throw them away because to me it'll never be clean again and then I feel bad and the cycle repeats! My environmental solution is just to stop drinking water! Just kidding but I did have to just get over this and admit that sometimes I'm going to drink Starbucks water out of a starbucks cup and it isn't the end of the world. I also use disposable items for cleaning tasks generally because I have a lot of trouble with that (I'll clean the floors with a brush, then clean the brush I used in the sink or tub, then clean the sink or tub because the brush was in it and sometimes you just can't do that every time that you clean anything or you will cease to exist). I do try as much as possible to limit things without making my life miserable though.
My sister and I live together. We are both retired and over 65. Our family still refer to us as the girls. Our handyman does our shopping for us. He would talk to the manager to see if there was something we needed. He told the manager that it was for the sisters. A few months later still asking for produce for the sisters, the manager said that he didn't know that there was still a convent near by. No, we are not nuns. We are both lbgtqia+.
That was an absolutely stunning integrated advertorial! And what a wonderfully apt partnership for a sponsorship! So proud of you Jessie and in awe of your positivity and strength. Loved that story of The Great Visit to the Potty, as commentated on and narrated by little master Ru! Lots of love to you both and little Ru! Xxx
when you said that about the hearing aids I realised I have no idea how deaf parents wake up to feed the baby. do they have to cosleep to know? I'd never thought about it
My brother in law and sister in law are both pre-verbal Deaf, so sign is their primary form of communication. Their son's first/native language was sign. He was communicating his wants, needs, observations with his signing parents long before he was capable of coherent speech. I'm old now, but do wish you could go back in time and be my Lesbian moms. I'm bi, and really struggled with loving women out in public. My family just added me being queer to the list of negatives they already had about me. Now it doesn't matter at all. When I was young, there wasn't anyone to help.
I'm disabled and queer and you guys are literally my idols 💞💞 I want to have kids and dogs and cats in a cool house so bad. And then I want to travel around the world and at some point study animation and game design. Ugh my dream Edit: also the biodegradable stuff? GENIUS! I always always try to push our family into being more green but I won't be able to 100% do that until I get my own place in the future
I came out to my parents as bisexual after I married my husband. It was awkward, since they thought it didn't matter, and probably still don't. I feel more at peace now that they know, but I wish they took it more seriously.
Like many of us, I didn’t have any gay role models growing up, so having you two is giving me a whole new level of comfort. I still don’t know any married gay people in real life, but representation is so relieving.
if y'all would like to see a happy lesbian love story, i suggest checking out Zolita! she's a rlly cool singer and she's recently put out two (out of three) songs about a super cute gay couple that is going to have a very happy ending in part three!! ✨💖🏳️🌈 edit: she also puts out some behind the scenes videos where she even talks about how important it was for her to make these videos with a happy ending since literally every other lesbian couple ends in tragedy lmao
That question about "environmental guilt" or however else one might put it, really struck a cord with me. I was born in 1987, so I can recall growing up in a time when green politics and broader awareness of climate change seemed such a distant, even futuristic, problem. Now I'm in my late thirties and although I rather deliberately try to "do my bit", I feel like my efforts feel like a dribble into the waters of an oceanic planet. I *_hate_* the idea of some internet chode making disabled folks feel guilt-ridden for "wasting resources". The whole thing stinks of a dogwhistle to (albeit very poorly) disguise some creepy ableist attitudes.
Same here. Sometimes I wonder about those straight couples about how long their relationships will last because there are too many who have problems with each other (not all of them but the majority).
Let me add some more LGBTQ+ RUclips couples who in my opinion have beautiful and happy relationships: Paige and Holly Rose and Rosie Kristen and Steph (channel name: Kristen McKenzie) Abbie and Julia Whitney and Megan (What Wegan did next) Stevie and Josie (Stevie Boebi) Cammie and Taryn (Cammie Scott) AND LAST BUT SURELY NOT LEAST: Mandi and Tara Rosa (Living Rosa)
Jessie is so right about it changing relationship dynamics for the better when you come out (sometimes). I was closeted through uni and often found it hard to make close friends as I was perceived as “secretive” and therefore not trustworthy. Looking back I see now that by holding back about being open about my sexuality it made me seem closed off in general and definitely wish I could have come out sooner
For the person asking about losing hope, especially about climate change and the general horror going on in the world: There's a great video from "Kurzgesagt - in a nutshell" on that. I'd recommend watching it, because they talk about the positive side. That not everything is horrible and that actually things work. Things did get better. And yeah. It helped me a lot in regaining hope.
Enjoyed your comments about climate change and disability. I have an autistic kid who has a lot of sensory needs around food. It means I need to buy plastic wrapped things I feel guilty about sometimes. I try not to as it is items that are needed!! 😊
It sounds like Claudia might have had a past that I would personally really resonate with. I'd love to have a full video of Claudia talking about her journey (to whatever degree she's comfortable with)! Stuff like childhood feelings about girls? Dating boys? Internalized homophobia? Comp het? Any struggles she has currently, whether internal or external? Anything really. I'd just love a deep dive into her gay storyline I guess. Love you guys!
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Ah “The Girls!”
My wife and I are both 50, have a 26 old daughter, have lived in our current house for 22 years and live openly as lesbians. Almost all the neighbors call us “the girls”. (Even neighbors that are younger than us.) It is odd. It is like they aren’t quite sure how to refer to us.
We once had a neighbor say that it was great that our daughter did “boy jobs” around the house. I told him that no jobs at our house are boy jobs, they are all women’s jobs. He was really embarrassed after he processed what he said. We still kid him about it.
Hopefully you can transition to "the ladies" soon enough!
@@Natalie-101 Right? That would be good, or just our names would work too!
You two sound wonderful, I'd love to have you as neighbors haha
@@Toon_Topaz Sweet of you to say that! Most of our neighbors are actually very nice. Everyone sort of looks out for each other properties when people are on vacation, help shovel each others sidewalks and driveways, stops to chat and the absolutely best is that lots of us like to garden. --That means people offer their plants when they need thinning out. Getting free plants, that you know will thrive in your area, is fantastic. (Can you tell that I am excited for Spring??)
@Jennifer S I would love to be your neighbor! I don't know my current neighbors.
Audibly laughed about Rupert's running commentary. But it was still really important conversation! He wasn't finished! I'm sure being able to communicate basic needs greatly lessens frustration for both the baby and the adult :)
I brought up bisexuality with my family to 'test the waters' and some of them responded poorly... So I waited a long time to come out. Turns out if they'd known it was about me, they would have responded differently even at the time! Having to actually face it elicits a different way of thinking and feeling than just theoreticals.
This is so true!
There is something very sweet about seeing Claudia playfully complaining about how she's the only one that gets woken up in the middle of the night because Jessica is deaf and can't really be woken up by the baby crying, and then seeing Jessica look a little embarrassed, but still laughing along.
I feel like, with another couple, that could so easily turn into a fight or into resentment on the hearing parent's part, but since Jess and Claudia are so communicative and aren't afraid to address the limitations of Jessica's disability, it's just a funny anecdote that Claudia can openly complain about without fear of hurting Jessica's feelings.
As a disabled person, sometimes my inability to do certain things, and my reliance on other people for those things, makes me feel such an intense wash of guilt and shame that i often will neglect my own needs because I simply don't want to ask for help. Sometimes, caring for me will have an unavoidable, negative impact on that person. They're tired, they had a hard day, their back hurts, they're busy, they're literally ASLEEP. How can I butt in all the time like "HEY can you make food for me thank youuuu" without feeling like a burden on them? how can I hear them complain about a headache without feeling guilty later when i have to ask for help?
Seeing that Claudia feels comfortable complaining (even in a playful, joking way) about something that is directly made harder for her because of her partner's disability, and seeing that Jessica feels comfortable hearing those complaints and laughing at the situation... it makes me feel hopeful.
maybe one day, I'll be able to laugh along and not feel ashamed of my needs. Maybe one day, I'll be able to listen to a person who cares for me, complain about their day, without feeling like I need to neglect my own needs in response. I think that would be really nice.
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Thanks for sharing, can't have been easy. You really shouldn't feel guilt or shame, you didn't ask for your challenges. I'm sure someone out there would love to share a life with you and help you tackle those challenges.
With that being said, we have to be realistic about media we engage with, especially online and in influencer circles. Sadly, the point you mention about the baby crying and Jessica never hearing it genuinely may cause or be causing resentment at some point. Hopefully not, and ostensibly not, but it could happen. We can't assume or presume to know what Claudia feels or wants, just because she shares a RUclips channel publicly and posts a video in which she's laughing and joking about the matter. What we're seeing is a glossy, highly-edited, mega-positive take on their real life, which likely omits a lot of the harder or less upbeat rainbows-and-sunshine material. And quite a lot of new/young parenting channels are guilty of this, not being honest about the reality of how difficult it is to raise a baby in these times, with and without challenges.
"Good night and good luck" was used by the late US TV broadcaster Edward R Murrow as his sign off of his current events show on the CBS TV network in the 1950's. George Clooney directed a movie with that title about Murrow.
I’m glad you’ve switched from “moms” to “mothers” as it was a bit jarring coming from a British couple, as a Brit myself
You guys don’t say “moms” in the UK? Just curious American.
@@scilines no we say “mums”
I honestly really love the Pandora ad! You two are just so joyous
Dating before you come out: Jessica said to be safe. There are different kinds of safety. Sometimes we have to take risks for our mental well-being. So I think as long as both of you know as much as you can predict what those risks are and are willing to take them, then it’s up to the two of you to decide if that’s worth it. Similarly, you have to decide if this person is trustworthy enough to even ask. And deal with the heartache of potentially having that joy and having to keep it secret. While the joy can absolutely be worth it, straight people get to talk about their relationships all the time and you wouldn’t be able to do that.
Yes! I took risks but it was because for me the keeping it in and not sharing my sexuality was already detrimental to my mental health.
I absolutely love the two of you because you are so different, so yourselves and at the same time you are so respectful towards each other!!!
You two are so adorable together! I'm glad things are going well with Rupert. :)
One day, a few years ago, I learned that the production of my Salbutamol inhaler was incredibly detrimental to the environment. As someone with chronic asthma, I'm dependent on this inhaler and it's not really something I can change. I spent weeks freaking out about it, feeling so guilty for needing this thing that causes waste and pollution, I made myself so miserable. I felt like I had to balance it out somehow, so I switched to reusable menstrual pads, panty liners, etc.. I later stopped using cotton pads to clean my face, switched to reusable ones instead. Being a chronically ill person who requires more resources, and having this existential dread of climate change - it's a horrible combination. I don't wish it upon anyone. No matter how well I know that corporations and conglomerates are the biggest contributers to the climate crisis, something within me still kind of blames myself as an individual, and one that requires extra resources at that.
Does anyone have recommendations for LGBTQ+ couples that don't have children? I hope this isn't offensive at all and I don't mind the content, especially not with couples I had already been following. Just as someone who is planning to be child-free I would like to see more examples of healthy relationships. Thanks!! And absolutely no hate to the other couples, I'll definitely be following them as well!!
The IPad on the edge of the bed ready yo fall off, really grinds my gears
Jessica, you need to dress up as Pepa from encanto!
How do you deal with other people having crushes on you? Is there a different rule for handling these types of vibes?
I had that black and white 'stripped' Christina Anguilera poster on my wall...there were signs.
Loved the outro(s) 🥰
I’m a gay guy and I hate the “gay voice” I know why I hate it. Cause I do the “voice” sometimes and it just makes me uncomfortable cause my mind goes “No! That’ll give them ammo to criticise you! Hide! Get down! Camouflage!” So I’m trying to just get over it with exposure therapy to the “gay voice”. I had a similar experience with Scottish accents. For no deeper reason tho, they just grated on my ears, but then I played Xenoblade 2 and at some point the voices no longer bothered me. Exposure therapy for the win
The one show I can think of that is not an LGBT+ focus show, but has great LGBT+ is DC's Legends of Tomorrow. The plot focus is about time traveling superheroes. Cast members have changed as time passes, but the show has always had LGBT+ characters. Currently they have done 7 seasons thus far, with two characters in a same sex marriage ( to each other) and a character who joined in season 6 coming out as asexual in season 7.
The one draw back is that it is a spinoff of other superhero shows and sometimes they do crossovers with the other show. Can you watch and enjoy just DC's Legends of Tomorrow without watching the crossover events? I shall admit to be unsure.
Oh there is another show I can think of with an LGBT+ character, the current reboot of Charmed. Plot is modern world where three special witches called The Charmed Ones fight the forces of evil. One of The Charmed Ones is a lessbain in this rebooted version. The catch is however, dating is hard for all three of The Charmed Ones is prove to be a challenge. Seriously, within three seasons none of them have been that successful in maintaining a healthy long term relationship that lasts into next season. But least it is struggle they are equally sharing?
Note: The Charmed reboot might be a little darker then the original Charmed. I personally would not call the reboot a dark show, but I admit it is a touch darker then the original.
I don’t have internalized homophobia. It’s just blatantly wrong
I actually showed your nursery tour to my mother to help normalize more non-cishet stuff to her. I know she likes new baby type content, so it's all about finding a common ground with someone's interest and showing them the wide range of people in similar situations/hobbies/community as them I think ^_^
Bro I don't even want to babies but that video was the only thing to ever make me reconsider
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You can adopt at older ages and support children who aren't your own with clubs, sports and including family accessibility for public plans.
@@fionafiona1146 funny you mention volunteering! I do volunteer at a local qeueer youth center, and I fully intend to adopt older autistic children (as an autistic). I want some undeveloped people to help nurture into some impressive individuals
infants are extremely fragile and i cannot communicate with them
Lol! Now that is a friendly way to change someone's mind
I totally agree with Jessica that the most important question is "Do you want to come out to that person at that time" rather than "Do you need to". It's a part of us that we can keep or share just like any other part of us. Some people will know more about us and others will know less because of many different factors, and you're still just as valid as a person whether or not you come out to someone.
"[Sexuality] is not about who you're with, it's about you"
Well said Claudia
Here’s a tip to some new moms from a slightly older one: THEY WONT STOP NARRATING THEIR TRIPS TO TOLIET! My 6-year-old still announces when she’s pooped and sometimes wants me to come admire her work. Which I do. “Wow! You must feel so much better!”
hahaha this made me laugh
I as a babysitter can confirm that that's a frequent thing across children
Pre covid this used to crack me up when in a public toilet and a kid just has to narrate everything or question everything loudly for the entire room
I've been babysitting a 5 year old (since she was 3) and I'm 15. The kid does that all the time haha
my brother is 10 and my mother is a doctor who always says "if your poop floats that means its good!" or whatever and to this day my brother's like "mom my poop was floating are you proud im healthy"
The girls thing isn't even about homophobia. It's just flat out sexism
its both. sexism and homophobia go hand in hand together.
like @Nalyeli said, also it's safe to say Jessica and Claudia know best what they experience, it's rude to try to undermine it
Agree.
Definitely both. I get those comments aimed at me a lot (despite, or maybe because of, working in an active manual job).
But nobody assumes that as a couple we can't handle DIY, because we are in a heterosexual relationship. So I get to dodge some of the comments that I imagine will get aimed at lesbian couples/relationships.
Both.
breaks my heart that any lgbtq person still has to consider their safety before considering their happiness.
I am sure this applies to many people other than lgbtq... 16 yr. old girl might have an abusive father, mother hides a secret that their daughter is going on first date with a boy.. father finds out and becomes abusive. Happens to people outside of LGTBQ×
@@OrhallaZander Abusive parents will be abusive parents regardless of sexuality but parents who would otherwise be a good parents will hate their kid BECAUSE they’re gay. There is a difference.
@@mattiekhler3396 I cannot relate. My parents came to me when I was a teen and said they would accept me if I was gay. I actually was straight and scared of girls. This was 22 years ago, and the stigma back then, is just not on the same level it was, even in the deep south. A lot of Christians don't care as much anymore. God forbid, you are Mormon or Muslim or Indian religions, you may face severe shunning.
@@OrhallaZander this is pretty naive. Yes it's a lot better but there are still many congregations and religious communities that reject queer people. Rates of LGBTQIA homelessness among teens are still pretty high. There are entire church denominations that almost entirely separated because of the issue of whether or not to accept queer people, and this happened fairly recently. There are states where pro-queer and trans legislation is constantly almost being overturned or challenged by Conservative religious politicians. And there are Christian communities all over the world, like where I live, that think being queer is a sin and that is majority opinion. Maybe don't speak on an experience you don't have. Saying that being gay isn't as bad anymore when you are straight and don't experience homophobia is questionable.
Homophobia and having abusive parents are different things, and often times, queer people can experience more abuse from their parents, abusive or not, than straight people because abusive parents are often (not always) also bigoted in certain ways. I have one abusive parent and one nonabusive one, but I can't entirely rely on the nonabusive parent because they are also wildly homophobic (so is the abusive one, if you're wondering). It's just not the same. Homophobia, especially religious Homophobia can make even non abusive people do horrible things to their own children. My mother is a kind person but she also hates me for being queer because her religion tells her to (not that she knows I'm queer, but her feelings about the LGBTQIA community are crystal clear, and knowing how intense she is about her beliefs, she would throw me away before she ever changed what she thought).
@@OrhallaZander You'd be very surprised if you think it's a lot better in the American South. You can still be killed and the person never punished for finding out you're LGBTQ+ in the American South and it happens basically every month, at least.
In regards to making a family member subtly more comfortable with queerness, find lgbtq aspects of a thing they already care about. For instance, while my father is a supportive ally for the most part, it helped us bond a lot when I showed him the queer history of his favorite music genre, Blues. Some of its pioneering musicians were queer women of color (Ma Rainey, Rosetta Tharpe,) and he was so intrigued by this that he went on to find more queer blues musicians and made a playlist for the both of us. So maybe it’s a sport, or movie genre, whatever the hobby or interest is there is probably a corner of its that’s queer and can be a point of connection!
oo building off this i think that worked because it really humanises queer people and like, un-others them?
not saying your dad didn’t think of queer people as people, more we all need that subconscious push
this goes with basically all ‘othered’ groups tbh
@@acookie7548 Exactly! It showed him that these kinds of persons existed and belonged to a space he loved and was a part of, which helped to un-other him from that aspect of me!
Jessica, you look like an antique portrait today! Claudia looking chic as always!
Agreed! I opened this video and my first thought was "ooh, looking lovely today, ladies!"
For the first question: my mom was happy for the first time since I can remember when she started dating her first woman! Both of them have been together since 2007 and are happily married. She travels, meet lesbians across Europe and now have a new wonderful community with lots of dear friends. When I grew up she was lonely and didn’t have many friends of hobbies at all. They now live in a townhouse with their cat
AND one of my close friend Linda moved to Australia and found her new soon to be wife and I have never seen someone so happy!
And those are the lesbians I know who are in a relationships but got more friends who is happily single as well!
@@Elijah-ri6xo I guess I made my choice then. Your message is garbage
thank you for talking about climate and disability! I'm in the environmental field, and am not able to bike and walk most places at this point due to my disability. It's tough dealing with the guilt of having to drive short places sometimes, or the appearance that I don't care. Or, if it's a low-spoon day, and I didn't have the mental energy or wherewithal to pack reusable bags... there are so many things people assume you should just do if you "really care" and I've been working on letting go of the guilt of that!
I agree! I use single use items and hate that they aren't recyclable. And the bag thing? 100% with you on it. I love green spaces and feel guilty all the time. Thanks for sharing. ❤
I feel you. Still, it really isn't the responsibility of disabled people to take care of the environment at the cost of their own well-being when there are able-bodied billionaires out there flying their private airplanes and rich oil company executives buying out sustainable technology patents just to make sure they never end up on the markets.
Take care of yourself first, you'll be better equipped to teach and challenge others to make a difference.
@@Mielipuolukka Very well said! One thing I often say is that if more able-bodied people stepped up and made changes or put in more effort towards environmentalism (whether on an individual or corporate level), they would more than offset the limited ability that disabled people have for those tasks. Especially when you combine disability with poverty, which prices you out of things such as buying organic or free range.
In other words, our planet is not in the shitter bc some disabled people can't recycle or scrub containers to reuse them or make every meal from scratch.
My knee jerk reaction to the girl wanting to date in secret is to tell her to wait until graduation. Granted, my own personal experiences color my opinion on this, but I think that it is best to wait until you are independent from your family if they are not going to be supportive because if one is found out, it can potentially get dangerous and ugly in many ways.
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I remember having a secret gf when in the closet (even though I am a transguy I still think it can be learned from) when I still lived with my parents and all it did was affirm that I was dissatisfied and unhappy with my life. Don't get me wrong she was cool but the dysphoria from being perceived as a lesbian and the fear of my parents finding out was too much
The sign language section was incredible. It’s so wonderful that he has a way of communicating with you before his voice box has developed. Just shows how quickly babies’ brains develop, it’s just they can’t really use them. I’ve never thought of sign language like that but it’s incredible. Absolutely mind-blowing. What a lucky boy he is with you two as his mothers 🥺
Show Suggestions: Schitt’s Creek
It was created by Dan Levy who is gay, and it was created as a show that “shows love in every form” One of the main characters is openly queer from the beginning and his sexuality is just a part of who he is. There is no homophobia in the show whatsoever and it shows multiple healthy queer relationships. It’s not the main focus of the show so it’s great as a jumping off point for family members, but it is present (especially after season 3). I cried so many times watching it because of how seen I felt
So that is my long winded way of saying watch Schitt’s Creek (just get through the first season I promise it gets so much better it’s just a set up)
Two things: 1) I adore the wine metaphor (if you know, you know) and how they kinda subverted everyone's expectations about David's sexuality by having his first relationship be with Stevie and 2) another show rec would definitely be Modern Family, partly because it's has such a broad target audience and also bc of Cam and Mitch's relationship
lots of
Maybe also Atypical? Haven’t seen it yet but my mom and my qpp love it!
I loved Shitt’s Creek, the characters are just so hilarious and wonderful.
My show suggestion is : Our Flag Means Death. It is on Crave and is a lovely and hilarious show about a rich man trying to fulfill his pirate dreams and there are queer folks and a non-binary character with they/them pronouns. There was an episode where two characters have their first kiss and I almost cried. It was just so heartwarming. Plus Taika Waititi is in it and he is the best.
Also “What We Do in the Shadows” is hilarious and great. The queer elements of it are a bit more subtle. A mention of a same sex relationship here and there and little moments here and there that just normalize talking about gay love and sex without making it seem shameful or something to be embarrassed of.
definitely seconding Schitt's Creek. just started it a week or two ago, so good
"The girl" thing happens because same-sex relationships are viewed as lesser than the straight ones. For example, I was sitting with my girlfriend in the café and told a person who asked about our relations that we're dating. He referred to us as "friends". Then I saw him with another couple which was straight and he referred to them as "a girlfriend/a boyfriend". A small but obvious details.
the usage of sign language with a baby is absolutely genius, i would have done it with my baby too (if i was ever going to have one). it is much more simple and i think much easier for the baby to communicate with as they can move hands better than they can talk lol and also imo makes for a lot less frustration on the baby's part.
i am autistic and sometimes i find it hard to speak, it is less of a physical block and more of a mental one i think (usually happens when i am feeling overwhelmed or exhausted or in emotional pain) and i always wish in those times if i could communicate with sign how great that would have been. however, communication is a two way street and one can try to do however many signs it only works if the person "listening" is actually accepting this way of communication. i haven't even been able to establish even a safe word type sign (which i think everyone should have) that could communicate that i am in stress and would like to be left alone for a few minutes...
I hope you get to have people in your life who 'listen' the way you need them to. Establishing a safe word in sign seems like such a small thing for them to do that would really help you. You deserve to communicate in a way that feels safe and right for you, and to have that respected.
I've thought about setting up signs with my partner for the same reason, but I've found he often notices that I'm in distress before I do - he picks up on my body language in a way that my parents never did, which makes some signs a bit redundant
@Helen M thank you for sharing this. i feel happy that you have someone like your partner who knows you well enough and is mindful of you like this. my response might seem weird but I have always had this idea of a perfect love where we would know each other like this but as per my experience with anyone i have ever met... i thought this was an unrealistic wish. i have never let myself even dream of having someone like that (although I have always wanted to be such a person to the one I love). but seeing your comment just made me smile so hard. I wish you both happiness and health ❤
That's really interesting blue, I'm thinking of learning sign for a vaiiety of reasons, but it was my dyslexic good friend who first suggested I try it. She said she found it amazing being able to communicate non verbally just with her body direct to meaning, without having to say or think in words.
Even having a few common sign words might be a great relief.. And give a sense of starting place, and personal choice.
It's good to remember that sign is a language, like any other language, it's OK to make up your own slang. There might be people fluent in one dialect or one region or one country, but there is no reason you can't make up your own with family and friends, or learn the official public sign language of your country and adapt it as you please. Language is for us to use, and live with. It's good to respect the amazing people that developed it and live with it everyday, but it's OK to participate if you want to 😊
I don't know sign language so I may be out of line here, but you can look for signs for "stress" or "silence", "alone"?
I remember in a report on homophobia from my country a lesbian couple said something akin to: "Men often ask 'Don't you need a man in your relationship' and we always answer 'I don't think you understood the concept of being a lesbian" and to this day this makes me chortle cause yeah...those people really don't.
Also: representation is everything. As someone somewhere on the beautiful spectrum of asexuality, I would love to see more aces in popular media 😌
Asexuals are less popular in the media than vampires and that rubs me the wrong way for real
Like don't get me wrong i love vampires but also I'm pretty sure there's more people who don't experience sexual attraction than like people who drink blood
@@ahhh4117 Now an asexual vampire would be something, considering their portrayal always seems to be strongly tied to sexuality...but in all seriousness, oof, yeah! My personal gripe is that the classic misconception 'asexual == no interest in sex at all' is still so strong. And I believe seeing someone figuring out their asexuality, maybe mentioning the split attraction model, would've definitely saved me some time in figuring out that aesthetically pleasing ≠ sexual attraction 😅
@@Anni_ka There technically is an asexual vampire character, he's in shadowhunters but he wasn't an important character. In my fantasy media there would be a diverse set of asexual characters with complex differing experiences. Like I've never met someone who was even Mostly like me, but I think what makes us unique as a community is the understanding that we all have incredibly personal and unique experiences
@@ahhh4117 Wait, there was an ace character in Shadowhunters? But yes, I feel the very same way. Like, show us the diversity of the ace experience™️!
Also on the ace spectrum and I totally agree! If I'd seen more representation when I was younger I think I would've figured it out a lot sooner
Poor Claudia! I felt that last bit as a previously nursing mom... was absolute hell (easier than making bottles blearily at 3 am and then not being able to go back to sleep though) because it never stopped hurting or being a sensory overload issue for me, and it made me feel less like I was appreciated for who I was and more for being a source of food and comfort.
Easy to get burned out and depressed, especially with sleep deprivation... Idk if y'all can hire a night sitter, but if you can it might be a cool thing on the weekend or every other week to try to help you get some of the rest you need and avoid caregiver burnout! Pumping isn't a ton of fun either but lord knows once I could do so I came to rely on it for my partner or sitter to give the baby food and comfort while I finally properly rested for the first time in months!
I managed better after that and continued nursing til my eldest was almost three! She's autistic and needed the extra nutrition and time with me and as hard as it was I am glad I did it.
I agree that parents should give themselves a break and seek a way to get the rest they so need. It's not depriving the infant, it's helping Mothers cope which does help the baby in the long run. You can't pour from an empty cup. And, absolutely NO GUILT !! Be well .
@Stop Igbt may your hate burn you just as brightly cupcake 😊
Thank you for all the bi affirmation you reliably bring when it comes up in your lgbt+ videos - it means a lot! 💕
I can relate. I was raised by 2 gay men.(mom's best friends) mom couldn't raise me.she had too many problems,plus I look exactly like my birth father,which made her mental health worse
I’m 58 and I absolutely love your lesbian mothers videos! You are the positive role models I didn’t have growing up! And the topic of internalized homophobia is so important! Thanks for your encouragement to heal!
Show suggestion: One Day at a Time on Netflix.
The daughter in this lovely family sitcom is gay! Some episodes are centered around her experience, but the show is mainly about the single mother, war veteran nurse Penelope. The show also explores mental health, the American immigrant experience, and family dynamics.
I love how the grandmother reacts to the girl's coming out! Reminds me of my grandmother.
My favorite show!!! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Nothing in particular to say, just wanted to let you know that even being the same age as Jessica, I find great peace in having a wonderful pair of internet lesbian mums 😊
I feel the 19 year old bisexual. I didn't realize I was bisexual until I was 6 years into my marriage. I plan on being with my lovely husband forever, but it's been weird. For the most point I'm not "out" but I try to be more neutral with terms. Makes me feel more comfortable. I was in an abusive home that told me my grandma wouldn't love me anymore if I was with a woman
I’m in the same situation, and my husband doesn’t understand it. I never dated anyone before my husband, neither man nor woman but he thinks I will leave him for a woman one day, which of course I wouldn’t. I still feel strange talking about my sexuality because my husband is in denial completely. I am not straight.
@@ray_0209 omg were like the same person. I went on 1 single date before my husband but other than that, its only been my husband ever.
@Stoplgbtoffical okay? Not sure why other people's lives matter that much to you unless you're rejecting your own truth, but I guess we all learn in our own time 🤷🏻♀️
I agree that whether or not to come out to parents as bisexual, especially if they’re conservative and homophobic, is up to the person, if they don’t feel that they would be safe, then don’t do it. But if you are in an intimate, long term relationship with someone, you owe your partner the honesty of telling them the truth about your sexuality
I disagree. No matter what kind of relationship you have with someone, you are free to be open or not be open about your sexuality (or gender). In any way, put safety first. Having a loving and trustful relationship it might on the long run be about having a partner who knows you and can support you this way. But in the end it‘s your opinion that matters.
be less of a consideration to be closeted and that would make sence.
@@Alina_Schmidt I agree with Alina, just because you have a close relationship with someone, no matter how close, you do not have to tell them everything about you. They shouldn't expect you to either. I would dump anyone that fucking thinks that they have the right to know everything about me...that is just fucking not true.
To the person who asked if they need to come out as bisexual even though they're in a relationship where it may look like everybody's heterosexual from the outside, I agree entirely with Jessie and Claudia that this is up you, how you feel about coming out in general and how safe you feel to do so.
I do have some experience with this one though, as I figured out I was bi very early on in a straight relationship and never saw the point in coming out as I thought I would be with that person for life so I figured it was really kind of irrelevant. Fast forward to now, that relationship ended after 17 years, I spent a few years alone by choice and now that I am considering the possibility of dating again, I am also facing coming out as bi at the age of nearly 40, which feels ridiculously daunting as I'm positive my family have no idea. Looking back, for me personally, I think it might have been a good idea to do it sooner! It would certainly be one less thing to contend with, when also looking at the absolutely terrifying world of modern dating after not dating for the last 21 years!
Best wishes to everyone out there who is also still figuring it out, you're not alone! 🌈♥️
best of luck to you too! coming out is a journey, and one that looks different for all of us. be kind to yourself 😊
@@frances7575 thank you!
I'm in the same situation as your younger self, so thanks so much for this, it's worth thinking about
@@LizTiddington the very best of luck, whatever you decide to do!
@@charliebrown1184 thank you 💕 and the same to you. My closest friends know, and while I don't shout about my sexuality I make no effort to hide it, so I doubt anyone would be super surprised 😂
Thank you for answering my question. And in response to Claudia my mum is more likely to say “oh is that why you love anything rainbows and listen to Halsey so much”
I get you on the bi thing though, and there's so much erasure that can come with BEING bi, as your identity is often invisible (assumed straight if you're with a man, assumed lesbian if you're with a woman). I was married to a man many moons ago, & when I told my brother I was getting married, he said "oh, so you're not bi anymore?" (in his defense, he was 17, haha). I'm currently partnered with a man, & I actually mentioned this annoying erasure of my orientation & even he asked "but does it really matter if you're assumed gay or st8?" 🤦🏻♀️ Well, yes, yes it does, or I wouldn't be talking about it, now would I? 😁
All I can say is do what you feel safest doing. I told my mother I was bi in my very early teens, but she didn't really have to think about it until I brought home my 1st serious girlfriend when I was about 18. I'm not sure if that's better or worse, tbh. 😆 I think she's compartmentalized it in her mind, because she called ALL my female friends "my girlfriends" (as in, "I'm going to the club with my girlfriends tonight" *NOT* in the "I want to marry this particular woman because she's my girlfriend" way), and as I'm not physically demonstrative with ANY partner in front of my mom, I think she...just doesnt think about it. She's not homophobic, she's had numerous friends who are queer & even one of her closest friends for YEARS was a lesbian (well, I'm sure the lady still *is* a lesbian, she just moved far away & they're no longer in touch lol); she just seems to have trouble with it for her own kid, I guess?
I knew someone who told her mother she is bi and her mother snapped, "Well! So that explains why you've always had such irregular periods!"
@@bethbatt2081 🤦🏻♀️ Like...WUT?! 😆 I'm screaming over here, that's freaking hilarious! (I hope her family was otherwise accepting, but dang...what an odd conclusion! 🤭)
I love my lesbian moms!!!
You and Claudia are huge possibility models for my relationship with my future wife - thank you for sharing with us!
the whole "who will put up the shelves?" comment really irked me. as if they aren't capable because they happen to be women. and while i wouldn't expect Jessica to do certain diy tasks because of her disabilities, i'm quite sure that on a good brain and body day, she could be a great help.
Love this! My wife and I also are aiming to die at the same time in a peaceful way. That way neither of us will have to be without the other. This is what happens when you marry your best friend and love of your life. You want to always be together. 🥰🥰
Rupert narrating his time on the potty is so adorable!
Stay safe is the first advice, and that's as it should be. But I think a close second that's often overlooked is, make space to self-actualize, and that often means gaining independence, fast. Financial independence, emotional, logistical. It's so much harder to self actualize when you have that threat to your safety.
Such a great video with wonderful answers, and I especially loved the way Claudia was making you laugh at the end just by being her usual self and the delight on your faces when you talked about Roo! SO charming! ❤️❤️ And I personally love that your first response is always, “Make sure you are safe!”, Jessica! And when you both spoke about Amy not “needing” to come out to anyone about anything unless she was comfortable and how sexuality wasn’t about who you were with but about you, I was nodding along vigorously! Brilliant answers! 👍🏻👍🏻 I’m glad you could make one of these again as they’re always informative and enjoyable and you really seem to care about helping others with their questions as caring parental figures that not everyone has right in front of them, unfortunately, so being able to watch your videos for that I think is really wonderful! 💛💛 And Claudia’s “Go to bed! It’s late!” at the end was so very Claudia, hilarious and just perfect! 😆😆
"Sexuality is not about who you're with, it's about you"
- amazing piece of advice, so we'll said. Thank you. 😊 And thanks to you both for the whole Q&A
another amazing queer couple are shelbizle and her wife madison! they vlog their sustainable "ecominimalist" lifestyle + have cats and chickens ❤️
I recently watched Embrace the Panda: Making Turning Red, which is a doc about the all-women leadership team behind Turning Red. One of the women is lesbian, and recently had kids, so if you want media to send to people with casual lesbian representation, it's a good one.
My aunt taught my little cousin baby sign language before she could talk, too! She's probably forgotten most of it by now but it's really amazing how much they can communicate that way while their vocal control is still developing.
today has been a hard day, and i’ve been having quiet a lot of them lately. i just wanted to take this time to send some love, not only for jessi and claudia, but also to anyone reading this. jessica, your videos always give me hope that i can someday be mu true self and be happy doing it. thank you for everything you do daily to make the world a better place. sending lots of love:))
Huggs to you Ana Alice Kohler
You asked for content suggestions, and I have one! My go-to for suggesting LBGTQ+ content to people in a stealthy way is definitely She-Ra on Netflix. The cast is full of fantastical space heroes... who all turn out to be LGBTQ+ at the end. ✨
Don't worry Claudia, my husband is immune for baby crying at night, so I'm like you, the one who takes care of baby at night :D and we have son in the same age as you!
Such a lovely couple. Both of you are amazing and have such a wonderful relationship.
7:35 I think the important thing to remember here is that because you can't do something perfectly, doesn't mean you can do nothing at all. We are often made to believe that if we don't do all the steps perfectly, we are not serious about eg the environment anyway. I experienced this when I wanted to go vegan but couldn't do so because of my health. But what I could no is lower the amounts of animal products I eat about half in total and not eat a few specific products that I feel very passionate about. And that is totally, ok and great and valid. Just like with the diaper story. Don't feel bad about the things you can't do, feel good about the things you can do.
Watching The L word under the covers is so freaking relatable. I felt seen lol
Same… been there too 😂
I watched blue is the warmest colour that way haha
You two are so amazing and give very good advice. As I’m not a baby gay anymore I don’t really need advice anymore but I still like to watch these videos 😊 always good to see you two
The overly tired and giggly Jessica is always a tonic. (Rupert is 9 months?! wow)
BP oil came up with the idea of carbon footprint to offset responsibility - we’ve been programmed to think it’s our personal fault
It makes my day when you call each other "darling." I adore your family and you as individuals - thank you for your content, and hello, Rupert! ❤❤❤
Jessie and Claud, thank you both for tackling the subjects that have been the questions in the community tab. My other half and myself have run into giant roadblocks. I am so thankful that I found your community. You Are Amazing.! 😁😁😁😁😁😎😎😎
the deaf mother sleeping soundly thing is hilarious, ironically mirrors the hetero dynamics where the father fakes sleeps through the night and never gets up for the baby (*sarcasm*, in case some can't tell). Take that, homophobes
Ask your lesbian mums is my fave series. 😍
Rupert is do lucky to have wonderful mothers!
Aw, Claudia, hope you get some sleep 😂❤️
I used to be very against homosexuality. Up until I was 35 or 36 and then I made friends with someone who was very pro-LGBTQ. They were very kind in the way they pointed out how messed up my thinking was. The problem was, she kind of directed me to be accepting of male homosexual relationships to the point where I realized she was fetishizing them. I did come to acceptance that love is love is love but my real break through in accept has come through you and Claudia. You are so sweet in the way you include us in your romance. It's so normal and sweet and that helps this straight woman to see that any relationship can be wholesome and sweet. Did I mention you're both so sweet? 🤭
thank you for sharing your experience. it's nice to know you've come to the other side! I think most gays just want to be seen as normal, regular people.
There are many healthy gay/lesbian couples around but unfortunately, straight ppl rarely see them. Bc of the homophobia that exists in mostly straight areas, gay/lesbian couples cluster together in the "gay areas" of town. As a result, straight people don't see them and therefore don't know how they live and that they can be "normal" families--which leads to more homophobia. Vicious cycle. Thank goodness for the internet that allows everyone to learn about each other.
Thanks for saying we can, as disabled people, consume more resources and do what we can. I try to buy used or slow fashion, and donate clothing I can't use anymore or recycle them. And when I go to the store, I'll try to go with someone so we can carpool. And you're right, it's a systemic issue.
Great advice all around! Must say, I love when Claudia is telling about something that makes Jessica laugh-near uncontrollably 😆🤣 like in book Vid too. Such a beautiful picture into your relationship. 🏳️🌈💗❤🏳️🌈
I'm not disabled but do have a lot of guilt for not having a reusable water bottle because my OCD makes it very difficult for me to clean it and then they end up used for a bit and then forgotten and then I throw them away because to me it'll never be clean again and then I feel bad and the cycle repeats! My environmental solution is just to stop drinking water! Just kidding but I did have to just get over this and admit that sometimes I'm going to drink Starbucks water out of a starbucks cup and it isn't the end of the world. I also use disposable items for cleaning tasks generally because I have a lot of trouble with that (I'll clean the floors with a brush, then clean the brush I used in the sink or tub, then clean the sink or tub because the brush was in it and sometimes you just can't do that every time that you clean anything or you will cease to exist). I do try as much as possible to limit things without making my life miserable though.
My sister and I live together. We are both retired and over 65. Our family still refer to us as the girls. Our handyman does our shopping for us. He would talk to the manager to see if there was something we needed. He told the manager that it was for the sisters. A few months later still asking for produce for the sisters, the manager said that he didn't know that there was still a convent near by. No, we are not nuns. We are both lbgtqia+.
That was an absolutely stunning integrated advertorial! And what a wonderfully apt partnership for a sponsorship! So proud of you Jessie and in awe of your positivity and strength.
Loved that story of The Great Visit to the Potty, as commentated on and narrated by little master Ru!
Lots of love to you both and little Ru! Xxx
when you said that about the hearing aids I realised I have no idea how deaf parents wake up to feed the baby. do they have to cosleep to know? I'd never thought about it
Y'all knew this was coming: SHE-RA
My brother in law and sister in law are both pre-verbal Deaf, so sign is their primary form of communication. Their son's first/native language was sign. He was communicating his wants, needs, observations with his signing parents long before he was capable of coherent speech. I'm old now, but do wish you could go back in time and be my Lesbian moms. I'm bi, and really struggled with loving women out in public. My family just added me being queer to the list of negatives they already had about me. Now it doesn't matter at all. When I was young, there wasn't anyone to help.
Good morning, beautiful moms!
I'm disabled and queer and you guys are literally my idols 💞💞
I want to have kids and dogs and cats in a cool house so bad. And then I want to travel around the world and at some point study animation and game design. Ugh my dream
Edit: also the biodegradable stuff? GENIUS! I always always try to push our family into being more green but I won't be able to 100% do that until I get my own place in the future
This is the earliest I’ve ever been. Thank you for this video it was very helpful!!
Love these!! I always told my children it didn’t matter to me what their sexuality was since I didn’t plan on sleeping with them.
Morning moms
I came out to my parents as bisexual after I married my husband. It was awkward, since they thought it didn't matter, and probably still don't. I feel more at peace now that they know, but I wish they took it more seriously.
Like many of us, I didn’t have any gay role models growing up, so having you two is giving me a whole new level of comfort. I still don’t know any married gay people in real life, but representation is so relieving.
Also check out Rose and Rosie!!
Jessica just cackling at Claudia talking about how Jessie gets to sleep through the night while Claud is up feeding Rupert 🤣🤣🤣🤣
if y'all would like to see a happy lesbian love story, i suggest checking out Zolita! she's a rlly cool singer and she's recently put out two (out of three) songs about a super cute gay couple that is going to have a very happy ending in part three!! ✨💖🏳️🌈
edit: she also puts out some behind the scenes videos where she even talks about how important it was for her to make these videos with a happy ending since literally every other lesbian couple ends in tragedy lmao
That question about "environmental guilt" or however else one might put it, really struck a cord with me. I was born in 1987, so I can recall growing up in a time when green politics and broader awareness of climate change seemed such a distant, even futuristic, problem. Now I'm in my late thirties and although I rather deliberately try to "do my bit", I feel like my efforts feel like a dribble into the waters of an oceanic planet. I *_hate_* the idea of some internet chode making disabled folks feel guilt-ridden for "wasting resources". The whole thing stinks of a dogwhistle to (albeit very poorly) disguise some creepy ableist attitudes.
I love how the help with shelves is just a fellow lesbian 😊
I don't know what it says about me that when I hear about a gay couple I go 'aw' but when I hear about a straight couple I go 'eh'.
Same here. Sometimes I wonder about those straight couples about how long their relationships will last because there are too many who have problems with each other (not all of them but the majority).
Let me add some more LGBTQ+ RUclips couples who in my opinion have beautiful and happy relationships:
Paige and Holly
Rose and Rosie
Kristen and Steph (channel name: Kristen McKenzie)
Abbie and Julia
Whitney and Megan (What Wegan did next)
Stevie and Josie (Stevie Boebi)
Cammie and Taryn (Cammie Scott)
AND LAST BUT SURELY NOT LEAST:
Mandi and Tara Rosa (Living Rosa)
Jessie is so right about it changing relationship dynamics for the better when you come out (sometimes). I was closeted through uni and often found it hard to make close friends as I was perceived as “secretive” and therefore not trustworthy. Looking back I see now that by holding back about being open about my sexuality it made me seem closed off in general and definitely wish I could have come out sooner
For the person asking about losing hope, especially about climate change and the general horror going on in the world:
There's a great video from "Kurzgesagt - in a nutshell" on that.
I'd recommend watching it, because they talk about the positive side. That not everything is horrible and that actually things work. Things did get better. And yeah. It helped me a lot in regaining hope.
Enjoyed your comments about climate change and disability. I have an autistic kid who has a lot of sensory needs around food. It means I need to buy plastic wrapped things I feel guilty about sometimes. I try not to as it is items that are needed!! 😊
It sounds like Claudia might have had a past that I would personally really resonate with. I'd love to have a full video of Claudia talking about her journey (to whatever degree she's comfortable with)! Stuff like childhood feelings about girls? Dating boys? Internalized homophobia? Comp het? Any struggles she has currently, whether internal or external? Anything really. I'd just love a deep dive into her gay storyline I guess. Love you guys!
Not Claudia calling out my bisexual ass out on having more piercings on my left ear than on my right 😂😂