Okay it's only been half an hour but already figuratively a million people have asked us to do the guy version, so we will ask Grace and Ryosuke and the next time we're in Tokyo we'll see if they're up for it! -Rachel
My boyfriend's Japanese and although we aren't married yet, I can totally relate to all of these except the feet thing, he doesn't care about feet really. I'll share two funny stories. Communication: My boyfriend likes to use English slang but sometimes he uses the wrong expressions at the wrong times. For example, when he stubs his toe, he shouts "Fuck off!" at his toe. And when he drops something he says "Ouch." I've explained it to him, but these kinds of situations are split-second reactions, and so he still accidentally blurts out the wrong phrase sometimes. I feel very bad laughing at him when he stubs his toe. Accidental Flirting: One time my (female, american) friend came to visit and stayed with us for a couple days. The first night she was here, she got out of the bath and came back into the living room and sat on the carpet to watch tv. My boyfriend grabbed a comb, sat on the couch behind her and started combing her hair for her. She and I were both really shocked by this but he didn't seem to know why we were so surprised. I got the feeling that he wouldn't have done this if she were Japanese, but he always combs my hair for me after the bath and it seemed logical to him that this is something foreign women enjoy and in order to be a good host he should comb her hair for her? IDK, I still don't totally get what his thought process was with this one.
He combming her hair was probably just trying to be nice you know, obviously like you said. He probably thinks that the women there likes their hair combed after bath.
This is so awesome :) Thanks! Recording with you was TONS of fun. And you have mad editing skills~ Next time y'all are in Tokyo (or if we ever make it down to Nagoya), we should record a "guys version"!
A lot of Americans actually don't wear shoes when at home or with someone you know well - everyone I know takes off their shoes because they want to be comfortable. It's usually when at someone else's house that we leave our shoes on. It's considered disrespectful to take your shoes off at someone else's house unless you are close enough to them or they invite you to take your shoes off. Taking your shoes off at the home of someone you don't know well enough is kind of like just walking over to their fridge and taking food without asking. There is a line between feeling comfortable in someone else's home and making yourself *too* at home, I guess. This is just from my personal experience, I actually prefer the culture of taking shoes off but I guess this is just something that goes back in the history American views on politeness.
ForeverCellist That's so weird to me. I would think it's more disrespectful to keep your shoes on and track dirt all over the floor. If you came to Canada and left your shoes on you'd get an earful haha.
i don't wear shoes in the house, and i'm American :/ it makes the floors dirty. Plus then your mom will yell at you and make you clean the floor. I didn't know anyone would wear shoes in the house xD
+Malos Kain Well I'm sure some households allow shoes in the house but for me, growing up in a strict Asian Culture, shoes are a big nono especially on carpet, however if the floor is cold, I wear house slippers. :) So don't generalize all Americans, it depends on how they are raised. Cleanliness is a must for me x.x
This probably explains why the protagonist in harems are so polite and composed, and why all the girls get the wrong impression... it could be to exaggerate and make comedy out of a common thing Japanese men do when they interact with people.
Rachel & Jun I'm from the United States, and rarely ever talk about someone I'm in a relationship with with other people. It often makes the person you're talking to feel less important in your life, and I'd rather it be less known, so that there's less people to say rude things about us. I gain no enjoyment from talking about a significant other to someone other than that person. Why would I? The reason the relationship makes me happy is the person themselves; talking about them doesn't make me feel any nicer. That's just my idea of the person, not the person themselves.
Rachel & Jun wow japanese guys are so cool. much better culture than the west. westerners are loudmouthed, sassy, showing off, judgmental and cunning. its good to see such a cultural difference. and i certainly congratulate them on the "dont talk about your relatioship even to friends" part. thats a very smat thing to do for many reasons.
I think its important to some what show your taken. Like have a picture of your girlfriend in your wallet or on your phone. Like if you are oblivious then like the picture background will explain itself if you look at your phone. Dont need to bring it up. Its just for me i am always friend zoned with Japanese guys cause they don't get i like them. Thank heavens i have Japanese girlfriend who can till me who is single. But still dont have that all the time. I think there is pro and cons to not talking about it. I think showing your taken in a polite way is ok.
+MetroAndroid i agree, but given my severe autism it would in fact be better if i did have someone who could tell me 'that's stalking, don't do that' or 'he's abusive' or whatever!
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I definitely understand a lot of this. I had a friend who moved here from Egypt a few years ago, and she's introduced me to all her family, so I've gotten used to them misusing/misunderstanding English phrases. Especially the "What's wrong with you" part. It's something with all foreign people, because English is weird. My favorite is explaining the difference between a "butt dial" and a "booty call" It's always entertaining.
I'm like Jun, I tend to lean a little bit and draw all my attention to the person I'm talking to... I might look like flirting especially if the person is male... now that I'm watching this video, I understand more why some people were unconfortable and some girls (the girlfriends,lol) were mean to me... but for me, it's not flirting, it's just a spontaneous gesture of attention, I'm like "I'm 100% listening to you and what you're saying is really interesting". No more, no less. If I'm flirting, it's gonna be more complicated, I'll tend to be a litle bit clumsy and more distant because I'm tense, so I can't be "spontaneous" anymore and I have to focus on two things: my own attitude and paying enough attention to the other...
Now that I think about it.... I think I'm doing that too! XD I never realized it before watching this video because it was (and is) just a natural gesture for me to show the other person "I'm genuinely interested in what you're talking about" Now I finally understand why some guys acted the way they did even though I wasn't interested at all... Ha... Ha........😅
seru Seruna But you know, I won't change that to please some people or the girlfriends because sooo many others really appreciate how "involved" and "focused" I am when they talk to me, they feel my respect for them and that's something nobody can hate, who doesn't want to be fully heard and respected as a person expressing him/herself? :-) For some others, they feel a warmer atmosphere around them, as if I had some caring vibes which give them a lot of comfort and bring their smiles back to them, especially when they talk about an issue or some personal memories.
+Ssookawai Yah you just made me realize why people who like me stray away. Im so social to everyone else then the person I like is around and I just choke up.
+Ssookawai I agree with you. Like you mentioned, it's just one of body language showing "I'm all ears". I'd be sad if my husband didn't listen to the other people, but me and was like "whateves..." all the time :(
Me too!! Even in my country (I'm a part Japanese descendant, but born and raised in Brazil)! Some guys thought I was flirting for listening carefully to them and smiling (and I normally do that to EVERYONE, women and men). Here in Japan, that hasn't been an issue so far (not with Japanese people) or, at least, no Japanese said anything about it.
This was so much fun! Multicultural relationships really are so fascinating, and it's amazing that you both had such similar experiences! Also, yes to the husband episode!
the "I want to talk to you" thing cos they miss talking to their wife is SOOO nice! once they know what their husbuands mean, they should be happy about that!
Really enjoyed this video! My Japanese husband and I live in Australia and we laughed ourselves silly at "What's wrong with you." We have sooooo many times when we've offended the other - or just said the wrong word. So funny. I loved getting texts messages with "worm hugs".
I'm Japanese American and my first girlfriend was White. We met in college. I never talked to anyone but one day, she asked me to have lunch with her. Funny, she had a White boyfriend, but she asked me to have lunch together. Anyway, when Summer break came, she dropped her boyfriend and asked me to be her boyfriend. The first time her Mother met me, she told her daughter, "Quick! Get him into the backyard before the neighbors see!". After 6 months of dating, her Mother told her, "I'd rather see you die in a car accident than go out with him!". Finally, her Mother forbid her to see me, so she went to her Father. Her Father had been a prisoner of war in Japan. He had been captured on Bataan and shipped to Japan. Her Father told his wife, "She can go out with anyone that makes her happy!". After college, we married, but it only lasted 3 years.
Don't feel sorry for her father co'z her father was the despicable soldier who colonized my country, the Philippines. Bataan is in the Philippines. Idc about americans who became prisoners of war. That way we Filipinos got our revenge on USA for the atrocities they committed in my country. That mother had no right to treat you bad co'z those americans did worst to the world now that you mentioned her husband was an american soldier. I abhor all the american soldiers who colonized my country and those american soldiers who were and are still abusing and maltreating my country and my people! I abhor americans for still treating us their colonial slaves! So, don't feel sorry for that old hag. If I were there, I would have fired my gun at that dirty and fat old hag
I think my boyfriend is japanese in his mind :'D (we're both German but) he is exactly as you describe your husbands. Especially the flirting thing. He just doesn't notice when girls are flirting with him and when one of them asks him out he's like "great I made a new friend"
2019 and I miss Grace and Ryosuke. I'm not even that big into Japanese stuff but Grace, Ryosuke, Rachel and Jun all just have such great personalities, that I find myself binge watching (admittedly, sometimes, I just wanna see Rachel and Jun's cats, cause cats). I perfectly respect Grace and Ryosuke's reasons for leaving youtube, but I'll still miss them. :(
Being an American living in Ukraine, I have a lot of the same issues with feet thing. Also they keep their relationships close to their chests as well. My other half can not speak any English, so if I make a mistake, I need to figure out how to explain to her what I wanted to say. International relationships can tricky at times, but I would never change a thing. Us Americans and Canadians ( we are about the same) seem to think somethings are flirting that others don't.
In this day and age, if someone focuses ALL of their attention on you to the exclusion of other people, phones, video input, etc, well, I have to say, that's pretty powerful stuff.
Feet is dirty even if you wear a socks. It sweat a lot in it, and it has to be cleaned or washed before you go to bed, after a long day. Japanese opinion.
Yes, it does happen in every international relationship. I'm a Belgian, and I'm with a Dutchman, living in the Netherlands. I barely crossed the border, and we speak the same basic language. (Although, when I first moved here, no one could understand my dialect.) But the cultural gap is quite big. So it doesn't matter how close the country of your international lover is, you'll run into cultural hurdles.
AsiaticTruth I'm not saying our cultures don't get along, I'm saying there are hurdles. For example, Southern Dutch people love Belgians, our speech, our food, our art, etc. But that only proves even more that there are fundamental differences.
i am dutch and in a relationship with a Dane and our main communication is in English, and it happens here too. because we both don't have English as a primary language the problem goes both ways sometime ^_^'' at least in the end we always manage to laugh about it but in the moment it can become pretty intense :P ***** i am from the east part of the netherlands and i love belgian talk with the soft g and all. my boyfriend when he tried to say simple phrases in dutch he would sound so adorable belgian
You will laugh, but i am Canadian and i married an American. You would think there would be little to no culture or language gap. Surprise! Lol. We have been married for years and still find funny differences. I love hearing other peoples stories. I wonder if we are more tolerant when we marry across borders?
My girlfriend is a Dominican raised in America and I'm a Czech, she's fluent in English and I'm mostly too, but I have my moments where I stumble over words and sentences, lol, at least it makes her laugh
I completely agree with all these points! I'm lucky though because Takashi is such a shy man that he really doesn't talk much to people he doesn't know, so the 'unknown' flirting doesn't happen. But it took him such a long time to tell his parents, pretty much 2 years after we started dating! He told them we were thinking of marriage and his mother was so shocked because it was the first time his mother and I met and he threw that into her face! A big thing I noticed since dating him though that he does not like public affection, which I guess is true about most of Japan, but as an American woman, I like to hold hands and such. It gets frustrating at times, especially the communication issues, but in the end, I have him and its so worth it. :)
It was the same for us with PDA, too! Although Jun's gotten used to holding hands in most places now (but not the grocery store because "Rachel that's so embarrassing no!!") haha The communication stuff is deeeefinitely frustrating sometimes! Poor Jun faces most of it though, since I typically make him speak in English most of the time.
The only time I got Takashi to hold my hand was when he came here and we went to Walmart...apparently that wasn't embarrassing at all. But walking down the streets of Koube or Osaka? Nope ...I'm just gonna walk faster and ignore your advances! Lala laaaand. Lmao.
I actually got so mad that I went to the nearest cross walk, and went to the other side of the street. He didn't even notice until 3 blocks down and started to freak out because he couldn't find me. Don't worry, the street wasn't completely packed so he could have easily seen me if he had looked a little more to the left ;)
I think a lot of these issues just come naturally with multi-cultural relationships~ Maybe the examples are different, but even me and someone else I dated, despite that we both have spent a large amount of our lives in America, since I am also Chinese/Taiwanese, and he is Korean, we still ran into some funny(?) miscommunication. But like any miscommunication, regardless of what caused it, the only way to solve it is by communicating more^^
These still exist in the same cultures, too. My boyfriend does not understand that a girl touching him and laughing is flirting. My parents are also from Russia, so although I was born in America I still grew up in a slightly different culture, so sometimes we do hit strange barriers. For example, apparently in America it's normal to go into your friend's refrigerator and find food by yourself, even if his parents own the house. I was raised to see me being a guest as a burden and to not get in the way and to not get comfortable in a house you don't contribute to. You're totally right though, it's healthy to understand that there's differences and to talk about it instead of getting mad right away
I'm probably digging way too deep into this, but I actually think it's really sweet of them to choose the word 'need' instead of something like 'want' or 'like to'. I know they probably weren't doing it intentionally, and I know the English phrase has a different meaning (it's the same in Italian), but it still was really nice of them to say that. I think that from a linguistic point of view saying that you WANT someone or that you LIKE it when somebody's with you... I don't know, now that I think about it it's kind of creepy. I mean, don't we use those same words for food and objects? Words like 'want' and 'like' referred to a person's presence only make me think of the delight I find in that presence... it's the same as with objects. Let's say a book: I like a book, I want a book: I know the book will make me happy. I like a person, I want a person: I know that person will make me happy. But the word 'need' is different. When I 'need' a book or any other object, it just means that I'm looking for it because it will be useful to me. But when I need a PERSON, it doesn't have the same meaning. It means that I long for that person, that I miss that person deeply, that I wish that person was there because I am missing a very, very important part of myself. I'm not just looking for delight in that person's presence, I'm looking for something more important. When I want something or like something and I don't get it, I'm dissapointed. But when I need something and I can't have it, I truly suffer. People use the word 'need' for truly important things, such as medicine and education. You don't say you 'want medicine', you say you need it. And they needed you and your presence. And one of the most important things in life is love. I think that, perhaps without really understanding it, they were trying to express how really important your presence was for them. Now, that particular phrase has a negative meaning for us, because our presence may be required for something 'serious' and not just important to them. 'Need' can also have a very serious meaning, and that is why theirs was a mistake. But I still think it was a sort of... sweet mistake, don't you? Last example. You can say to your loved ones: 'I want you' or 'I like you'. But none of them will be remotely as deep and romantic as 'I need you'. I think that, among those three words, it is the one closest to love. Sorry for the scroll, I should seriuosly apply for a position as a writing monk. My comments are always huge and useless. XD Anyway, you all have a great day! :)
I get what you're saying! No idea if that's what he meant behind it, but that would for sure be cute. :D Both these guys are romantic in their own ways, haha.
Mostwanted exactly! most females take care of their feet more than men and there usually is no reason to worry, especially if the girl wore socks all day.
I'm a Texan woman, but I have to agree with the boys here, feet are disgusting! The thought of feet touching my pillow freaks me out! I would be really mad if my husband put his feet anywhere near where my face would go. I make him wash his feet all the time before bed lol. I never ever understood how ppl felt freedom with their tootsies, like ew no! XD
The thing about them saying "What's wrong with you" reminds me of something Jun says to you a lot that I love lol when you guys shop and he says, "Looks really good on you" it's so sweet!! Like, it's YOU making that outfit or hair piece look good, not the other way around. So that's something I'd never correct lol
Wow, Jun's cute! I appreciate you uploading this, it actually brought me a little bit of closure. You see, a long time ago I dated a gorgeous Japanese man, and I really liked him, but he just bottled everything up inside and thought I was weird for wanting him to share his thoughts or feelings with me all the time. I believe communication is vital for any relationship, so things just fell apart. I always assumed it meant he was seeing other girls, or just thought I was out of his league and not worth the effort (I sure did, at least). But I guess it's just the cultural norm over there.
Men aren't typically comfortable talking about feelings and emotions as it is seen as not being manly by society. we are taught to never show emotions and to tough it out so that's why he probably didnt like talking about it . This goes for all men out there.
Say what!? Leaning closer and looking another person in the eyes during a conversation is flirting!? O_o Wow, talk about culture differences! Since I was a kid I've been taught that that's proper manners since it shows you're listening.
Mikila its kind of like you're really into the person rather than what they are saying? It makes you look like you're in a day dreaming state of like "oh my gosh look at their eyelashes and their eyes and their hair and they sound so happy about what they are saying they are so beautiful in some way" its just a thing I guess? If you're on a date dont you try your best to pay attention and focus on someone the same way?
@@ariannaharley11 when I listen to someone and look in to their eyes all those things you say are not the only things I pay attention to. I'd pay attention to all subtle facial expressions and gestures to understand better all the underlying things that are not expressed through the words. It'll add more context and nuance to the words they express. That's listening, not just hearing.
yup, no feet on pillows in Italy either. Are you kidding me?!? But if you need to use pillows to elevate a leg or foot ok, just those pillowcases will be changed before using on the head again.
In nursing in America, we prop people feet that need to bring down swelling or circulation issues.I have never been to other countries, so not sure how common that is.
I have a question, I don't know if it is just a myth but I'd like to know if Japanese people don't like affection demonstrations like hugs, kisses and touching people, I'm Latina and the moment we hang out with someone we kiss them on the cheek to say hi or bye so I was wondering if that is like too disrespectful for Japanese people because I love Japan and I've always wanted to go live there but closeness to people is really important to me as a Colombian
It's true mama, lol. I lived in Japan, and I hugged a friend and her body language was like that of a tree...totally stiff, lol. It was obvious to me that she was uncomfortable. However, if you're really close and they're use to you and your culture, exceptions can be made.
In Brazil it's a common thing to wash your feet when you get home for hygienical reasons. Your feet being always on the ground where there's so much bacteria and germs, it's a good thing to wash it. Besides it is refreshing . :) On another note, I Love learning about the japanese culture in your videos. Thank you for sharing them.
My mom is from Indonesia so it's always interesting to listen to how she says things. My family and I sometimes mimick her because it's cute. One of my favorite things she says is "what a heck" haha I love my mom and my interracial interreligious family!
I had to save my foreign exchange student friend Takako from a date she accidentally agreed to. She didn't realize the guy was asking her out to homecoming. She thought he just wanted to go as a friend, even though he made a poster and even tried to spell it in japanese lol
Haha, I remember my host family was picky about my feet too. I needed walk on the floor with slippers but had to walk on the hall rugs without slippers! They had slippers all over the place because of this. It was a bit silly, my leader told me they were an extreme case.
HAHA omg that made me laugh out loud, the image of slippers freaking everywhere and putting them on or off in every room... Yeah, that's a bit extreme. XD
Out of all the tubers who talk about Japan you guys are my favorite. I was never interested in anything about Japan till I ran into Rachel's vids and they inspires a curtain respect of Japanese people in me, Jun's self control and humble manners reflects the man's wisdom and got my respect. Through these vids hooked my on to graces episodes and began enjoying their clips as well, yoskie just cracks me up how naturally funny and upbeat he is, I like how he's always cheerful from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to sleep. You guys should make more videos to gather I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks so :) :) :)
I also noticed that Americans are more jealous and insecure while Japanese people trust their spouses and don’t worry about them “flirting” because they trust them
Not exactly. If your guy goes out with an American girl to a movie and a dinner alone, she thinks it is a date. It is just people are freer and more forward with their emotions in America and would not be meeting a guy in that situation if they did not think they may end up in a relationship. If their husband gets hit on, they should be concerned.
The feet thing is funny. I'm half Japanese but raised in America with strong cultural ties and visiting family in Japan a lot and I feel the same way about my feet. I will not get into bed unless I'm clean and will wear slippers or socks after showering or bathing before getting into bed to not get them dirty and my feet can't touch my pillow or the inside sheets of my bed.
takwa dhaoui I'm guessing she means she won't let her bare feet touch the inside of her sheets. So I'm guessing she'll wear socks to bed so her bare feet don't touch the sheets.
i'm sorry about all of the judgmental comments you've received on this video, esp. from people who don't seem to have experience with intercultural relationships. i don't think a 10 minute video is sufficient to judge someone else's marriage, and it's obvious the purpose of this video is to talk about funny or strange differences you encounter when dating someone from another culture. i mean, in america, if someone demanded you wipe your feet before you get into bed, you would think that person has OCD. in that same vein, i'm not sure about japan, but in korea there's no concept of "double-dipping." you share meals from the same dish, and no one thinks about dipping a french fry in ketchup twice. a lot of americans think it's gross to double-dip, but to a korean, this concept is just as "silly." it's not that these cultural differences are "wrong" or "right" or "good" or "bad," but from someone who hasn't grown up with them, it can be funny or weird or sometimes unintentionally hurtful. TBH, i think some people aren't used to seeing an AMWF couple and are coming in with a preconceived notion of, "oh, she's a loud, domineering american and he's a quiet, reserved japanese person; she's obviously controlling him." i'm not sure about grace and ryosuke since i've never seen other videos of them, but i think it's obvious not just from other videos, but in THIS video, that rachel is gentle when dealing with jun and jun has no problem speaking his mind. unrelated to the above, but i think the "men can't tell when women are flirting with them" is a japanese or "eastern" thing in this respect instead of a universal thing! i can't seem to find the study on it right now (which is strange, because it's a really popular one), but in the america, most men assume a woman is sexually interested even when she's just being friendly. i think a lot of this has to do with the culture and the media in the america, though, because unfortunately the general consensus in locations outside of the U.S. as well is that american women are "easy." anyway, sorry for the long comment! i look forward to the video from ryosuke and jun about the "weird" things they experienced!
Poor Jun! You can tell he's a very intelligent, cognisant guy who probably puts a lot of effort into NOT giving off a bad impression, so he feels a bit bullied here. XD Guy deserves some recognition!
Jun's a little self-conscious about his image in our videos, actually. He's not very outwardly expressive (like a lot of Japanese people--Ryousuke is an exception here!) so in most his videos he gets comments like this. :/ He works really hard to "act" more outgoing for our Western viewers but it's still difficult for him, so stuff like this is a little hard for him to read. He's been planning on making a video about it, actually!
Rachel & Jun He made a video once with his sister - I think I understand know why she was the way she was. I didn't think anything negative of it, but I did notice it. Jun should mostly enjoy himself. :) Don't stress too much about it, Jun! Also, thank you guys for doing all these videos! Everything is so interesting! Ever since I was four years old for some unknkwn reason I just really liked the japanese language and the little things I knew about the japanese culture. Now I remember my fascination again and I really enjoy your videos. :) Defintely want to learn Japanese again!
Rachel & Jun could you please mention which video is this from? I would love to watch it ^^ Also are you guys going to make a video about some of the issues you guys had to break through culturally? I mean I totally get it if u guys don't want to. But it would be really educational to watch to see what obstacles you guys had to, or still have to go through :3
***** Its the part where Rachel asked Jun (it was actually sb else's question, and she repeated the it to Jun) if he felt jealous when other guys talking to her, and he said yes XD I just rewatched it, guess it somewhere after the first hour :
Hi, I recently moved to Japan to live with my Japanese bf and found your channel. I totally agree with these as I have experienced all of them, especially the first one and last one. I felt so insulted and horrible when he called me dirty and demanded that I clean my hands whenever I enter a building, changing my whole outfit when I get home and complaining that I wasn't wearing slippers in the house or that I would sit on the floor, he's calmed down since then luckily. He's also a really really flirty guy, so it was difficult at the start to see him always flirting with these girls who would then tell me how they feel about him and he's completely oblivious and refusing to believe when I tell him what the girls said to me (he always introduced me as his friend, never girlfriend)
@@samuraijosh1595 had to rewatch the video to know what things I was talking about. For some unknown reason I'm still married to the guy (we got married so I could stay in Japan as I had a home a job and a pet but my visa was about to run out and it wasn't a renewable one) back then any 🚩 would be dismissed as 'cultural differences' but that excuse wears thin after living in their country surrounded by their culture for 7 years 🙃
@@TickarikYT Damn...so I guess you're feeling "stuck" in your relationship? (Or things actually turned out to be good and my interpretation is wrong cuz my English sucks? 😂) I want to date and settle in Japan so both of these positive and negative testimonials help me have some balanced realistic expectations haha.
@@samuraijosh1595 definitely stuck 😅 things are ok for a bit then they suck and it's been like this for years but during my time with him he's successful cut off any support and stunted any Japanese progression so that I'm reliant on him 🥲
My dad lived in Japan for a bit and he always takes off his outside shoes and puts on indoor shoes out of habit. We follow a lot of Japanese things at my house.
I miss Ryoske and Grace. Hope they are enjoying their retirement from [ ▶]. Have you been in contact with them at all? Even indirect assurance that they are OK would be appreciated.
Rachel, from watching the videos I just get the impression that everything Jun does, he is going to do it with excellence. I think that's what he may be doing when he listens to people super well. That's a good trait to have and probably one of the reasons you fell in love with him.
That one time I had my American friend over for a sleep over and at some point we were outside in our backyard walking bare feet. That particular wasn't the problem (it was summer!) but when we went to sleep she went into my bed WITHOUT washing her feet and they were dirty. Like really dirty. You could see the dirt. They were almost black from all the dirt. But she flatly REFUSED TO WASH THEM. I even begged her to please please wash them but she said I didn't have the right to tell her what to do with her feet. Well that was the last time she slept at my house.
you took off your shoes and wore socks all day ofc you need to clean your feet, your foot is in a dark (maybe slightly damp place) when it's in the sock bc of your foot temperature and everything if you dont it smells (even if it's subtle it still means it should be cleaned) .. i always wash my feet immediately after taking off my socks even if i wasnt wearing it with shoes (if i just wore it at home)
At 5:35, That's so cute! Even though I can (from my cultural perspective) understand that it's super aggravating, it's also really cute when you consider the result of the conversation! Of course it'd be nice to have a little "heads-up" of the subject matter, and it's confusing to come from an unknown perspective, it's really nice to hear a positive outcome!
I'm not sure I completely agree with the girl's opinions on the boys "flirting." I think it's important to establish trust with your significant other. Regardless of what it looks like, if Jun sees leaning closer and maintaining eye contact as a way of maintaining a connection with another, then that's all there is to it. If it means nothing more to him, then I don't think it should be labeled flirting. But I can understand how this could be upsetting at first if you didn't know this. I would have an important talk where guidelines are layed out and misunderstandings are resolved. Cool video! Very neat learning about the cultural differences.
+Kiz zie The point Rachel was making was that the girl Jun was focusing on got the wrong impression, not Rachel. Somewhere in the comments she said Jun was labeled a playboy before they were an item and he himself had no idea why, meaning the girls felt he was flirting even if he wasn't.
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I love the faces Ryosuke keeps making mid-conversation, he's adorable :D
He's basically a girl. Beta as fuck.
The Merovingian yall are fuckin weird lmao
@Joyless J no its not, he is just right.
@@antoinette3664 no you are
@@justme8841 you are sad
Boy version has been recorded! The boys get to talk in Japanese about their wives' weird traits. ;) Will edit and upload within the next few weeks!
Ryosuke told me about that project at hanami and I REALLY CAN'T WAIT!!!
I-i-it's finally a reality!
Rachel & Jun yay! I cannot wait to watch it!
I just saw your channel recently, but I'm really excited to watch the boys version! Rachel and Jun, you guys rocks! Keep the romance in the air💞
Yay c:
Okay it's only been half an hour but already figuratively a million people have asked us to do the guy version, so we will ask Grace and Ryosuke and the next time we're in Tokyo we'll see if they're up for it!
-Rachel
:D
I hope they aren't too mean about it. I'm sure the list of annoying American things can't be THAT long...
Your Wayward Destiny hahahahahaha
Rachel & Jun Hey I wanted to ask this haha by the way, still waiting for the men's fashion video :D
***** hahahaha the clock is behind the plant. It's hiding a little table lamp.
Flown87 Now that I'm here I'll try to get Jun to do something with fashion!!
My boyfriend's Japanese and although we aren't married yet, I can totally relate to all of these except the feet thing, he doesn't care about feet really. I'll share two funny stories.
Communication: My boyfriend likes to use English slang but sometimes he uses the wrong expressions at the wrong times. For example, when he stubs his toe, he shouts "Fuck off!" at his toe. And when he drops something he says "Ouch." I've explained it to him, but these kinds of situations are split-second reactions, and so he still accidentally blurts out the wrong phrase sometimes. I feel very bad laughing at him when he stubs his toe.
Accidental Flirting: One time my (female, american) friend came to visit and stayed with us for a couple days. The first night she was here, she got out of the bath and came back into the living room and sat on the carpet to watch tv. My boyfriend grabbed a comb, sat on the couch behind her and started combing her hair for her. She and I were both really shocked by this but he didn't seem to know why we were so surprised. I got the feeling that he wouldn't have done this if she were Japanese, but he always combs my hair for me after the bath and it seemed logical to him that this is something foreign women enjoy and in order to be a good host he should comb her hair for her? IDK, I still don't totally get what his thought process was with this one.
The toe ting.. Funny!
He combming her hair was probably just trying to be nice you know, obviously like you said. He probably thinks that the women there likes their hair combed after bath.
Hahahahahahahah
I say ouch when I drop my phone 🤣
I have never had a man do that, comb my hair after my bath. That would be my dream to have! Please send one of those men my way. Thank You
"I need to talk to you"
In reality, can we talk about stuffs i just miss you
Omg this boys where can i get one
Japan apparently 😂
This is so awesome :)
Thanks! Recording with you was TONS of fun. And you have mad editing skills~
Next time y'all are in Tokyo (or if we ever make it down to Nagoya), we should record a "guys version"!
Yes, definitely!! :D
I always wonder how Grace has been doing since she quits YT
I'm Canadian, I don't understand how Americans wear shoes in the house. Take that shit off I just cleaned the floor!
A lot of Americans actually don't wear shoes when at home or with someone you know well - everyone I know takes off their shoes because they want to be comfortable. It's usually when at someone else's house that we leave our shoes on. It's considered disrespectful to take your shoes off at someone else's house unless you are close enough to them or they invite you to take your shoes off. Taking your shoes off at the home of someone you don't know well enough is kind of like just walking over to their fridge and taking food without asking. There is a line between feeling comfortable in someone else's home and making yourself *too* at home, I guess. This is just from my personal experience, I actually prefer the culture of taking shoes off but I guess this is just something that goes back in the history American views on politeness.
ForeverCellist That's so weird to me. I would think it's more disrespectful to keep your shoes on and track dirt all over the floor.
If you came to Canada and left your shoes on you'd get an earful haha.
LMAO Same 😂
i don't wear shoes in the house, and i'm American :/ it makes the floors dirty. Plus then your mom will yell at you and make you clean the floor. I didn't know anyone would wear shoes in the house xD
+Malos Kain Well I'm sure some households allow shoes in the house but for me, growing up in a strict Asian Culture, shoes are a big nono especially on carpet, however if the floor is cold, I wear house slippers. :) So don't generalize all Americans, it depends on how they are raised. Cleanliness is a must for me x.x
This probably explains why the protagonist in harems are so polite and composed, and why all the girls get the wrong impression... it could be to exaggerate and make comedy out of a common thing Japanese men do when they interact with people.
i jus realized, they look like a weird adult version of asuna and kirito....
omg it can never be unseen xD
Hahahaha 😂👍🏼
what a comment 😊
+fanny vo OMG
+fanny vo i read this then look back at the vidoe then dropped from my chair chanting , "i see it!!"
I love how Jun is like sorry to everything and Ryosuke is just like “I don’t care, I love her, but that’s how I am”
Boy's version!
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Rachel & Jun I'm from the United States, and rarely ever talk about someone I'm in a relationship with with other people. It often makes the person you're talking to feel less important in your life, and I'd rather it be less known, so that there's less people to say rude things about us. I gain no enjoyment from talking about a significant other to someone other than that person. Why would I? The reason the relationship makes me happy is the person themselves; talking about them doesn't make me feel any nicer. That's just my idea of the person, not the person themselves.
Rachel & Jun wow japanese guys are so cool. much better culture than the west. westerners are loudmouthed, sassy, showing off, judgmental and cunning. its good to see such a cultural difference. and i certainly congratulate them on the "dont talk about your relatioship even to friends" part. thats a very smat thing to do for many reasons.
I think its important to some what show your taken. Like have a picture of your girlfriend in your wallet or on your phone. Like if you are oblivious then like the picture background will explain itself if you look at your phone. Dont need to bring it up. Its just for me i am always friend zoned with Japanese guys cause they don't get i like them. Thank heavens i have Japanese girlfriend who can till me who is single. But still dont have that all the time.
I think there is pro and cons to not talking about it. I think showing your taken in a polite way is ok.
Lol I like how your friend in the red shirt's face is really expressive.
+MetroAndroid i agree, but given my severe autism it would in fact be better if i did have someone who could tell me 'that's stalking, don't do that' or 'he's abusive' or whatever!
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how about being in a relationship with japanese idol but you self are from europe is that also cultural relationship?
I definitely understand a lot of this. I had a friend who moved here from Egypt a few years ago, and she's introduced me to all her family, so I've gotten used to them misusing/misunderstanding English phrases. Especially the "What's wrong with you" part. It's something with all foreign people, because English is weird. My favorite is explaining the difference between a "butt dial" and a "booty call" It's always entertaining.
5:02 Jun's eye roll LOLOLOLOL
Family Fun Play she has mentioned this a few times on RUclips. I bet it really upsets her in person.
Hahahahaha...
Lol he’s probably been in trouble for this too many times.
Kkkkk
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I'm like Jun, I tend to lean a little bit and draw all my attention to the person I'm talking to... I might look like flirting especially if the person is male... now that I'm watching this video, I understand more why some people were unconfortable and some girls (the girlfriends,lol) were mean to me... but for me, it's not flirting, it's just a spontaneous gesture of attention, I'm like "I'm 100% listening to you and what you're saying is really interesting". No more, no less.
If I'm flirting, it's gonna be more complicated, I'll tend to be a litle bit clumsy and more distant because I'm tense, so I can't be "spontaneous" anymore and I have to focus on two things: my own attitude and paying enough attention to the other...
Now that I think about it.... I think I'm doing that too! XD
I never realized it before watching this video because it was (and is) just a natural gesture for me to show the other person "I'm genuinely interested in what you're talking about"
Now I finally understand why some guys acted the way they did even though I wasn't interested at all... Ha... Ha........😅
seru Seruna
But you know, I won't change that to please some people or the girlfriends because sooo many others really appreciate how "involved" and "focused" I am when they talk to me, they feel my respect for them and that's something nobody can hate, who doesn't want to be fully heard and respected as a person expressing him/herself? :-)
For some others, they feel a warmer atmosphere around them, as if I had some caring vibes which give them a lot of comfort and bring their smiles back to them, especially when they talk about an issue or some personal memories.
+Ssookawai Yah you just made me realize why people who like me stray away. Im so social to everyone else then the person I like is around and I just choke up.
+Ssookawai
I agree with you. Like you mentioned, it's just one of body language showing "I'm all ears". I'd be sad if my husband didn't listen to the other people, but me and was like "whateves..." all the time :(
Me too!! Even in my country (I'm a part Japanese descendant, but born and raised in Brazil)! Some guys thought I was flirting for listening carefully to them and smiling (and I normally do that to EVERYONE, women and men). Here in Japan, that hasn't been an issue so far (not with Japanese people) or, at least, no Japanese said anything about it.
This was so much fun! Multicultural relationships really are so fascinating, and it's amazing that you both had such similar experiences!
Also, yes to the husband episode!
This was brilliant XD
Can't wait for the guys' version!
Thank you! また次回!!
-Jun
Working on English subs now!
EDIT: DONE!
I have a question. Didn't Grace write an article for Metropolis magazine?
IamKeevs Yes I did. I write for them fairly regularly (since they pay pretty well).
That's pretty cool
Texan in Tokyo
Texan in Tokyo thats very interesting
the "I want to talk to you" thing cos they miss talking to their wife is SOOO nice! once they know what their husbuands mean, they should be happy about that!
Really enjoyed this video! My Japanese husband and I live in Australia and we laughed ourselves silly at "What's wrong with you." We have sooooo many times when we've offended the other - or just said the wrong word. So funny. I loved getting texts messages with "worm hugs".
Omg. I really laughed out loud at "worm hugs" that is awesome. 😂
I dont normally laugh out loud when reading comments but when I read “worm hugs” it made me have a big belly laugh 😂
"That's a date! That's a date." "...Huh!"
Melody Ho 😂😂😂
I'm Japanese American and my first girlfriend was White. We met in college. I never talked to anyone but one day, she asked me to have lunch with her. Funny, she had a White boyfriend, but she asked me to have lunch together. Anyway, when Summer break came, she dropped her boyfriend and asked me to be her boyfriend. The first time her Mother met me, she told her daughter, "Quick! Get him into the backyard before the neighbors see!". After 6 months of dating, her Mother told her, "I'd rather see you die in a car accident than go out with him!". Finally, her Mother forbid her to see me, so she went to her Father. Her Father had been a prisoner of war in Japan. He had been captured on Bataan and shipped to Japan. Her Father told his wife, "She can go out with anyone that makes her happy!". After college, we married, but it only lasted 3 years.
Relationships are hard, hope you find someone
😔😔😔 Hope you already found your the one
Don't feel sorry for her father co'z her father was the despicable soldier who colonized my country, the Philippines. Bataan is in the Philippines. Idc about americans who became prisoners of war. That way we Filipinos got our revenge on USA for the atrocities they committed in my country. That mother had no right to treat you bad co'z those americans did worst to the world now that you mentioned her husband was an american soldier. I abhor all the american soldiers who colonized my country and those american soldiers who were and are still abusing and maltreating my country and my people! I abhor americans for still treating us their colonial slaves! So, don't feel sorry for that old hag. If I were there, I would have fired my gun at that dirty and fat old hag
I think my boyfriend is japanese in his mind :'D (we're both German but) he is exactly as you describe your husbands. Especially the flirting thing. He just doesn't notice when girls are flirting with him and when one of them asks him out he's like "great I made a new friend"
I'm Norwegian, and not good at noticing that girls flirt with me. It frustrates them sometimes I think..
2019 and I miss Grace and Ryosuke. I'm not even that big into Japanese stuff but Grace, Ryosuke, Rachel and Jun all just have such great personalities, that I find myself binge watching (admittedly, sometimes, I just wanna see Rachel and Jun's cats, cause cats).
I perfectly respect Grace and Ryosuke's reasons for leaving youtube, but I'll still miss them. :(
Ryosuke is fucking awesome. In his videos he is so goofy and hilarious xD
That's not flirting! That's LISTENING!
Being an American living in Ukraine, I have a lot of the same issues with feet thing. Also they keep their relationships close to their chests as well. My other half can not speak any English, so if I make a mistake, I need to figure out how to explain to her what I wanted to say. International relationships can tricky at times, but I would never change a thing.
Us Americans and Canadians ( we are about the same) seem to think somethings are flirting that others don't.
In my country it is called jealous thing!!! XD
@Egawa C Not sure why the lol, guess it is an immature reaction, but I to two girlfriends it was a huge deal.
In this day and age, if someone focuses ALL of their attention on you to the exclusion of other people, phones, video input, etc, well, I have to say, that's pretty powerful stuff.
The differences between cultures is a real thing.
Feet is dirty even if you wear a socks. It sweat a lot in it, and it has to be cleaned or washed before you go to bed, after a long day.
Japanese opinion.
Also American and I also agree.
Indian and I agree lol
You guys are the most perfect couple ive seen! You are soo cute together💕 ly!
Aww thank you!! :D
Yes, it does happen in every international relationship. I'm a Belgian, and I'm with a Dutchman, living in the Netherlands. I barely crossed the border, and we speak the same basic language. (Although, when I first moved here, no one could understand my dialect.) But the cultural gap is quite big. So it doesn't matter how close the country of your international lover is, you'll run into cultural hurdles.
Very true
AsiaticTruth I'm not saying our cultures don't get along, I'm saying there are hurdles. For example, Southern Dutch people love Belgians, our speech, our food, our art, etc. But that only proves even more that there are fundamental differences.
i am dutch and in a relationship with a Dane and our main communication is in English, and it happens here too. because we both don't have English as a primary language the problem goes both ways sometime ^_^'' at least in the end we always manage to laugh about it but in the moment it can become pretty intense :P
***** i am from the east part of the netherlands and i love belgian talk with the soft g and all. my boyfriend when he tried to say simple phrases in dutch he would sound so adorable belgian
You will laugh, but i am Canadian and i married an American. You would think there would be little to no culture or language gap. Surprise! Lol. We have been married for years and still find funny differences. I love hearing other peoples stories. I wonder if we are more tolerant when we marry across borders?
My girlfriend is a Dominican raised in America and I'm a Czech, she's fluent in English and I'm mostly too, but I have my moments where I stumble over words and sentences, lol, at least it makes her laugh
Great video. Learning about the differences between cultures is critical in this world. Thanks for posting, Rachel :)
Maggie Clark It was!
I cannot wait for the guys' version! I don't think you guys were serious about making it, but please please please make one!!
haha the next time we meet them we'll see if they're up for it! :D
I completely agree with all these points! I'm lucky though because Takashi is such a shy man that he really doesn't talk much to people he doesn't know, so the 'unknown' flirting doesn't happen. But it took him such a long time to tell his parents, pretty much 2 years after we started dating! He told them we were thinking of marriage and his mother was so shocked because it was the first time his mother and I met and he threw that into her face! A big thing I noticed since dating him though that he does not like public affection, which I guess is true about most of Japan, but as an American woman, I like to hold hands and such. It gets frustrating at times, especially the communication issues, but in the end, I have him and its so worth it. :)
It was the same for us with PDA, too! Although Jun's gotten used to holding hands in most places now (but not the grocery store because "Rachel that's so embarrassing no!!") haha
The communication stuff is deeeefinitely frustrating sometimes! Poor Jun faces most of it though, since I typically make him speak in English most of the time.
The only time I got Takashi to hold my hand was when he came here and we went to Walmart...apparently that wasn't embarrassing at all. But walking down the streets of Koube or Osaka? Nope ...I'm just gonna walk faster and ignore your advances! Lala laaaand. Lmao.
TwitchDesu hahaha omg! What if you just stopped walking and stood there with your hand out, because I would totally do that.
I actually got so mad that I went to the nearest cross walk, and went to the other side of the street. He didn't even notice until 3 blocks down and started to freak out because he couldn't find me. Don't worry, the street wasn't completely packed so he could have easily seen me if he had looked a little more to the left ;)
Even embarrassed, he was really worried when he couldn't find you. That's got to be a good sign.
I think a lot of these issues just come naturally with multi-cultural relationships~
Maybe the examples are different, but even me and someone else I dated, despite that we both have spent a large amount of our lives in America, since I am also Chinese/Taiwanese, and he is Korean, we still ran into some funny(?) miscommunication.
But like any miscommunication, regardless of what caused it, the only way to solve it is by communicating more^^
I agree.
These still exist in the same cultures, too. My boyfriend does not understand that a girl touching him and laughing is flirting. My parents are also from Russia, so although I was born in America I still grew up in a slightly different culture, so sometimes we do hit strange barriers. For example, apparently in America it's normal to go into your friend's refrigerator and find food by yourself, even if his parents own the house. I was raised to see me being a guest as a burden and to not get in the way and to not get comfortable in a house you don't contribute to.
You're totally right though, it's healthy to understand that there's differences and to talk about it instead of getting mad right away
I'm probably digging way too deep into this, but I actually think it's really sweet of them to choose the word 'need' instead of something like 'want' or 'like to'. I know they probably weren't doing it intentionally, and I know the English phrase has a different meaning (it's the same in Italian), but it still was really nice of them to say that. I think that from a linguistic point of view saying that you WANT someone or that you LIKE it when somebody's with you... I don't know, now that I think about it it's kind of creepy. I mean, don't we use those same words for food and objects? Words like 'want' and 'like' referred to a person's presence only make me think of the delight I find in that presence... it's the same as with objects. Let's say a book: I like a book, I want a book: I know the book will make me happy. I like a person, I want a person: I know that person will make me happy.
But the word 'need' is different. When I 'need' a book or any other object, it just means that I'm looking for it because it will be useful to me. But when I need a PERSON, it doesn't have the same meaning. It means that I long for that person, that I miss that person deeply, that I wish that person was there because I am missing a very, very important part of myself. I'm not just looking for delight in that person's presence, I'm looking for something more important. When I want something or like something and I don't get it, I'm dissapointed. But when I need something and I can't have it, I truly suffer. People use the word 'need' for truly important things, such as medicine and education. You don't say you 'want medicine', you say you need it. And they needed you and your presence.
And one of the most important things in life is love.
I think that, perhaps without really understanding it, they were trying to express how really important your presence was for them.
Now, that particular phrase has a negative meaning for us, because our presence may be required for something 'serious' and not just important to them. 'Need' can also have a very serious meaning, and that is why theirs was a mistake. But I still think it was a sort of... sweet mistake, don't you? Last example. You can say to your loved ones: 'I want you' or 'I like you'. But none of them will be remotely as deep and romantic as 'I need you'. I think that, among those three words, it is the one closest to love.
Sorry for the scroll, I should seriuosly apply for a position as a writing monk. My comments are always huge and useless. XD Anyway, you all have a great day! :)
He he I was thinking the exact same thing actually.
Kendall L Yay! High five! :D
I get what you're saying! No idea if that's what he meant behind it, but that would for sure be cute. :D
Both these guys are romantic in their own ways, haha.
I get this!!!
Jun's subtle eyebrow lifting eye roll, made me laugh so much, it's around 5:00 to 5:05 xD
I'm with your husbands when it comes to feet and I'm not even Japanese...lol
Uniform Tango 74 same, I am too
Uniform Tango 74 OMG same
Female feet are so cute
Mostwanted exactly! most females take care of their feet more than men and there usually is no reason to worry, especially if the girl wore socks all day.
But its illogical. Unless you make the person wash their armpits and privates which are more dirty and sweaty than feet!
I'm a Texan woman, but I have to agree with the boys here, feet are disgusting! The thought of feet touching my pillow freaks me out! I would be really mad if my husband put his feet anywhere near where my face would go. I make him wash his feet all the time before bed lol. I never ever understood how ppl felt freedom with their tootsies, like ew no! XD
AsiaticTruth Yes, that's exactly what disliking something is. Good job.
AsiaticTruth
I know I was being sarcastic.
Feet are gross. Not obsessed with feed. Just stating the agreement, feet are dirty. And I don't like people have shoes on in my home.
But you don't think twice about armpits or privates do you lol.
chasey1978 armpits? What kinda shit are you into? Also, private parts gotta be cleaned before lol
The thing about them saying "What's wrong with you" reminds me of something Jun says to you a lot that I love lol when you guys shop and he says, "Looks really good on you" it's so sweet!! Like, it's YOU making that outfit or hair piece look good, not the other way around. So that's something I'd never correct lol
Not that it's grammatically incorrect, more excessive words added in, but I wouldn't ever want him to change that lol
Wow, Jun's cute! I appreciate you uploading this, it actually brought me a little bit of closure. You see, a long time ago I dated a gorgeous Japanese man, and I really liked him, but he just bottled everything up inside and thought I was weird for wanting him to share his thoughts or feelings with me all the time. I believe communication is vital for any relationship, so things just fell apart. I always assumed it meant he was seeing other girls, or just thought I was out of his league and not worth the effort (I sure did, at least). But I guess it's just the cultural norm over there.
Men aren't typically comfortable talking about feelings and emotions as it is seen as not being manly by society. we are taught to never show emotions and to tough it out so that's why he probably didnt like talking about it . This goes for all men out there.
"four ODD things about japanese husbands!!" lol that sounds like those weird ads that are like "she stays young with this ONE WEIRD TRICK!!" haha
Say what!? Leaning closer and looking another person in the eyes during a conversation is flirting!? O_o Wow, talk about culture differences! Since I was a kid I've been taught that that's proper manners since it shows you're listening.
Mikila its kind of like you're really into the person rather than what they are saying? It makes you look like you're in a day dreaming state of like "oh my gosh look at their eyelashes and their eyes and their hair and they sound so happy about what they are saying they are so beautiful in some way" its just a thing I guess? If you're on a date dont you try your best to pay attention and focus on someone the same way?
@@ariannaharley11 when I listen to someone and look in to their eyes all those things you say are not the only things I pay attention to. I'd pay attention to all subtle facial expressions and gestures to understand better all the underlying things that are not expressed through the words. It'll add more context and nuance to the words they express. That's listening, not just hearing.
I'd love to hear the guys' perspective on what they found odd about the girls.
It's wonderful to meet Grace and Ryosuke. Welcome to RUclips!
haha I'll see if they really want to do a guys version the next time we see Grace and Ryosuke!
Wow I was just thinking that Rachel hasn't uploaded a video in a week :D I am so lucky
haha good timing!! :D
I just assumed she was busy with the move and waited patiently.
Phil Nolan Awww thanks Phil!! :D haha yeah I've been super busy. Still unpacking!
wooow i am so happy i never expect CROATIAN subtitles !!! yeey
i want moreeee
Im Turkish and putting your feet on the pillow is pretty gross here too lol why would you do that
Justine H yeah i get it, obviously no one would put their dirty feet on their pillow but its still kinda weird idk :/
It depends on the culture for me it is just to normal!
yup, no feet on pillows in Italy either. Are you kidding me?!? But if you need to use pillows to elevate a leg or foot ok, just those pillowcases will be changed before using on the head again.
In nursing in America, we prop people feet that need to bring down swelling or circulation issues.I have never been to other countries, so not sure how common that is.
luna li thats not a turkish thing at all dude im turkish too
she looks like Maggie from the walking dead
OMG she totally kinda does
OMFG I THOUGHT THE SAME THING
I have a question, I don't know if it is just a myth but I'd like to know if Japanese people don't like affection demonstrations like hugs, kisses and touching people, I'm Latina and the moment we hang out with someone we kiss them on the cheek to say hi or bye so I was wondering if that is like too disrespectful for Japanese people because I love Japan and I've always wanted to go live there but closeness to people is really important to me as a Colombian
Ahh I hope not
It's true mama, lol. I lived in Japan, and I hugged a friend and her body language was like that of a tree...totally stiff, lol. It was obvious to me that she was uncomfortable. However, if you're really close and they're use to you and your culture, exceptions can be made.
voice2voiceless tell him to stfu, and good response man
Not.. a myth. I'm Japanese myself and i fucking hate hugs. As in stay the fuck away from me you creature. XD not like that, but yeah.
Erza Knightwalker kinda yeah ^^; I'll be stiff if it's forced upon me.
I've noticed male Japanese anime characters don't seem to noticed flirting either. I wonder if that's in any way related.
anime characters are not realistic
Thats irrelevant to the matter
briana d that's not the point though
THIS IS MY FAVORITE VIDEO!!!!
Watched it more than 20 times!
My Grammy always made us wash our feet before bed. She was 100% American from Texas.
In Brazil it's a common thing to wash your feet when you get home for hygienical reasons. Your feet being always on the ground where there's so much bacteria and germs, it's a good thing to wash it. Besides it is refreshing . :) On another note, I Love learning about the japanese culture in your videos. Thank you for sharing them.
My mom is from Indonesia so it's always interesting to listen to how she says things. My family and I sometimes mimick her because it's cute. One of my favorite things she says is "what a heck" haha I love my mom and my interracial interreligious family!
HAHA that's adorable!!
"What a heck" XD
I also wash my feet before bed, maybe I was Japanese in another life.
I had to save my foreign exchange student friend Takako from a date she accidentally agreed to. She didn't realize the guy was asking her out to homecoming. She thought he just wanted to go as a friend, even though he made a poster and even tried to spell it in japanese lol
I've been watching both of your channels and got exited when I found this
Haha, I remember my host family was picky about my feet too. I needed walk on the floor with slippers but had to walk on the hall rugs without slippers! They had slippers all over the place because of this. It was a bit silly, my leader told me they were an extreme case.
HAHA omg that made me laugh out loud, the image of slippers freaking everywhere and putting them on or off in every room... Yeah, that's a bit extreme. XD
Y'all are so young here - and now you have a million subs! Congrats!
You guys are all so gorgeous and I envy you guys for living abroad. Maybe someday I can too.
Out of all the tubers who talk about Japan you guys are my favorite. I was never interested in anything about Japan till I ran into Rachel's vids and they inspires a curtain respect of Japanese people in me, Jun's self control and humble manners reflects the man's wisdom and got my respect. Through these vids hooked my on to graces episodes and began enjoying their clips as well, yoskie just cracks me up how naturally funny and upbeat he is, I like how he's always cheerful from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to sleep. You guys should make more videos to gather I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks so :) :) :)
I love that you guys met up! :)
日本人ですが足を拭くのは初めて聞きました。
人によると思いますよ。
I think the background music was higher then you guys talking. So it was a bit hard hearing you all.
Sorry!! I thought it was pretty low in this video! But we have English subs up now for anyone who doesn't understand something!
Rachel & Jun Otherwise I really enjoyed it, and looking forward on the the wife version ^^.
I also noticed that Americans are more jealous and insecure while Japanese people trust their spouses and don’t worry about them “flirting” because they trust them
Not exactly. If your guy goes out with an American girl to a movie and a dinner alone, she thinks it is a date. It is just people are freer and more forward with their emotions in America and would not be meeting a guy in that situation if they did not think they may end up in a relationship. If their husband gets hit on, they should be concerned.
they also seem to be more masculine in behaviour
the husbands are too cute ... both couples are lovely !!!
ウェットシートでふくのはあなたの旦那様がかわってるだけ
Lol, Ryosuke seems like an awesome dude!
The feet thing is funny. I'm half Japanese but raised in America with strong cultural ties and visiting family in Japan a lot and I feel the same way about my feet. I will not get into bed unless I'm clean and will wear slippers or socks after showering or bathing before getting into bed to not get them dirty and my feet can't touch my pillow or the inside sheets of my bed.
what? your feet dont touch the inside sheet of your bed? then how do you even go to bed?
takwa dhaoui I'm guessing she means she won't let her bare feet touch the inside of her sheets. So I'm guessing she'll wear socks to bed so her bare feet don't touch the sheets.
Sage Mirei I just want to say that you are gorgeous!
xermoda Thank you, that's very kind of you. I appreciate it!
i'm sorry about all of the judgmental comments you've received on this video, esp. from people who don't seem to have experience with intercultural relationships. i don't think a 10 minute video is sufficient to judge someone else's marriage, and it's obvious the purpose of this video is to talk about funny or strange differences you encounter when dating someone from another culture. i mean, in america, if someone demanded you wipe your feet before you get into bed, you would think that person has OCD.
in that same vein, i'm not sure about japan, but in korea there's no concept of "double-dipping." you share meals from the same dish, and no one thinks about dipping a french fry in ketchup twice. a lot of americans think it's gross to double-dip, but to a korean, this concept is just as "silly." it's not that these cultural differences are "wrong" or "right" or "good" or "bad," but from someone who hasn't grown up with them, it can be funny or weird or sometimes unintentionally hurtful.
TBH, i think some people aren't used to seeing an AMWF couple and are coming in with a preconceived notion of, "oh, she's a loud, domineering american and he's a quiet, reserved japanese person; she's obviously controlling him." i'm not sure about grace and ryosuke since i've never seen other videos of them, but i think it's obvious not just from other videos, but in THIS video, that rachel is gentle when dealing with jun and jun has no problem speaking his mind.
unrelated to the above, but i think the "men can't tell when women are flirting with them" is a japanese or "eastern" thing in this respect instead of a universal thing! i can't seem to find the study on it right now (which is strange, because it's a really popular one), but in the america, most men assume a woman is sexually interested even when she's just being friendly. i think a lot of this has to do with the culture and the media in the america, though, because unfortunately the general consensus in locations outside of the U.S. as well is that american women are "easy."
anyway, sorry for the long comment! i look forward to the video from ryosuke and jun about the "weird" things they experienced!
4 of the coolest people on the internet in one video ... love you chanels.
Haha!! I love Ryosuke and Grace! Fun video!
You guys are all cute!
I miss Grace and her husband so freaking much. I wish we could have an update and I hope they are okay
You guys should do an updated version of this c:
cuteeee
Poor Jun! You can tell he's a very intelligent, cognisant guy who probably puts a lot of effort into NOT giving off a bad impression, so he feels a bit bullied here. XD Guy deserves some recognition!
Does anyone else think Jun wasn't feelin' that interview? Lol I enjoyed watching this, always interesting stuff to learn about the Japanese culture
Jun's a little self-conscious about his image in our videos, actually. He's not very outwardly expressive (like a lot of Japanese people--Ryousuke is an exception here!) so in most his videos he gets comments like this. :/ He works really hard to "act" more outgoing for our Western viewers but it's still difficult for him, so stuff like this is a little hard for him to read. He's been planning on making a video about it, actually!
Rachel & Jun He made a video once with his sister - I think I understand know why she was the way she was. I didn't think anything negative of it, but I did notice it.
Jun should mostly enjoy himself. :) Don't stress too much about it, Jun!
Also, thank you guys for doing all these videos! Everything is so interesting! Ever since I was four years old for some unknkwn reason I just really liked the japanese language and the little things I knew about the japanese culture. Now I remember my fascination again and I really enjoy your videos. :) Defintely want to learn Japanese again!
Next video: "How to catch a cool japanese husband like ours".
この動画面白い！こういう動画また出してほしいです
Awesome :D Please do more collabs with Grace and Ryosuke again :) Love this
The faces Ryosuke is making mid convo is really funny!! I LOVE IT!!!!
I have a question for the men. Do you get jealous when other men flirt with your wives?
I can answer for Jun and he would say yes. We actually talked about this in one of our live shows before lol
Rachel & Jun I see, that's good to hear :)
Rachel & Jun could you please mention which video is this from? I would love to watch it ^^
Also are you guys going to make a video about some of the issues you guys had to break through culturally? I mean I totally get it if u guys don't want to. But it would be really educational to watch to see what obstacles you guys had to, or still have to go through :3
***** Its the part where Rachel asked Jun (it was actually sb else's question, and she repeated the it to Jun) if he felt jealous when other guys talking to her, and he said yes XD I just rewatched it, guess it somewhere after the first hour :
What man doesnt? lol
Hi, I recently moved to Japan to live with my Japanese bf and found your channel.
I totally agree with these as I have experienced all of them, especially the first one and last one. I felt so insulted and horrible when he called me dirty and demanded that I clean my hands whenever I enter a building, changing my whole outfit when I get home and complaining that I wasn't wearing slippers in the house or that I would sit on the floor, he's calmed down since then luckily.
He's also a really really flirty guy, so it was difficult at the start to see him always flirting with these girls who would then tell me how they feel about him and he's completely oblivious and refusing to believe when I tell him what the girls said to me (he always introduced me as his friend, never girlfriend)
Doesn't sound like you were feeling secure in that relationship...how are things now?
@@samuraijosh1595 had to rewatch the video to know what things I was talking about. For some unknown reason I'm still married to the guy (we got married so I could stay in Japan as I had a home a job and a pet but my visa was about to run out and it wasn't a renewable one) back then any 🚩 would be dismissed as 'cultural differences' but that excuse wears thin after living in their country surrounded by their culture for 7 years 🙃
@@TickarikYT Damn...so I guess you're feeling "stuck" in your relationship? (Or things actually turned out to be good and my interpretation is wrong cuz my English sucks? 😂)
I want to date and settle in Japan so both of these positive and negative testimonials help me have some balanced realistic expectations haha.
@@samuraijosh1595 definitely stuck 😅 things are ok for a bit then they suck and it's been like this for years but during my time with him he's successful cut off any support and stunted any Japanese progression so that I'm reliant on him 🥲
@@TickarikYT *"Cut off any support and made me reliant on him".* I think you should working on escaping from this relationship asap..lol
足が汚いイメージはあるけど、ウェットティッシュで拭くのは初耳。
Ryosuke is so touchy, it's adorable
love this video. Great to see the communication between the couples. adorable and interesting
My dad lived in Japan for a bit and he always takes off his outside shoes and puts on indoor shoes out of habit. We follow a lot of Japanese things at my house.
This was so cute! Esp the ooooh, I get it know-s
I miss Ryoske and Grace. Hope they are enjoying their retirement from [ ▶]. Have you been in contact with them at all? Even indirect assurance that they are OK would be appreciated.
the boys are so cute with they're reactions. Jun keeps saying sorry. it's so cute
Rachel, from watching the videos I just get the impression that everything Jun does, he is going to do it with excellence. I think that's what he may be doing when he listens to people super well. That's a good trait to have and probably one of the reasons you fell in love with him.
Ryosuke has a pretty smile
lol I'm not japanese but feet are just a big no to me lol.
+VanillaLooks I wander how they feel about people with foot fetishes. lol
That one time I had my American friend over for a sleep over and at some point we were outside in our backyard walking bare feet. That particular wasn't the problem (it was summer!) but when we went to sleep she went into my bed WITHOUT washing her feet and they were dirty. Like really dirty. You could see the dirt. They were almost black from all the dirt. But she flatly REFUSED TO WASH THEM. I even begged her to please please wash them but she said I didn't have the right to tell her what to do with her feet. Well that was the last time she slept at my house.
+seru Seruna lmao
Moktar Ansu true story XD
+seru Seruna ugh i had some friends like that...seriously if ur a guest u should respect the homeowner's wishes lol
you took off your shoes and wore socks all day ofc you need to clean your feet, your foot is in a dark (maybe slightly damp place) when it's in the sock bc of your foot temperature and everything if you dont it smells (even if it's subtle it still means it should be cleaned) .. i always wash my feet immediately after taking off my socks even if i wasnt wearing it with shoes (if i just wore it at home)
You guys are such an inspiration to interracial couples all over!
At 5:35, That's so cute! Even though I can (from my cultural perspective) understand that it's super aggravating, it's also really cute when you consider the result of the conversation! Of course it'd be nice to have a little "heads-up" of the subject matter, and it's confusing to come from an unknown perspective, it's really nice to hear a positive outcome!
I thought this would be useless to me, but now I feel like a pretty cool husband! No offense Jun and Ryosuke!
You Scored a ginger. *applause*
Imran Ward Hhhaha :D
Shes actually pretty hot :p
Britney giron She is cute.
I'm not sure I completely agree with the girl's opinions on the boys "flirting." I think it's important to establish trust with your significant other. Regardless of what it looks like, if Jun sees leaning closer and maintaining eye contact as a way of maintaining a connection with another, then that's all there is to it. If it means nothing more to him, then I don't think it should be labeled flirting. But I can understand how this could be upsetting at first if you didn't know this. I would have an important talk where guidelines are layed out and misunderstandings are resolved. Cool video! Very neat learning about the cultural differences.
+Kiz zie The point Rachel was making was that the girl Jun was focusing on got the wrong impression, not Rachel. Somewhere in the comments she said Jun was labeled a playboy before they were an item and he himself had no idea why, meaning the girls felt he was flirting even if he wasn't.
Seriously though, great videos y'all have put up. They are the best actual look at life in Japan I have seen around. Keep the good work.
So good and nice explanation to know it , I love it