Hi, I really relate to your delivery style. Im in school for a counseling certificate up here in BC Canada and studying family systems and it really resonates with me. I too have struggled with concepts and language and you've inspired me to continue to keep going. Thanks for this considering your premium presentations.
Thanks Kirk, this is helpful. I feel like so often now on the internet relationship advice consists of, “if you’re not getting your needs met, leave them.” But I find that to be black and white thinking and not very differentiated if I’m understanding what you’re explaining here. It’s more about realizing we have different needs, let’s listen to each other and find overlap and compromise to try to meet in the middle. Not all of our needs will be met by our partner.
I do appreciate your explanations about Bowen. Not sure if I agree that underfunctioners can be categorised as losers. Aren't we all underfunctioners or overfunctioners in family situations to some degree? I know I am...
Enmeshment is a negative kind of empathy. Empathy isnt always good for us. Differentiation means having emotional boundaries and not getting overwhelmed and entangled in others emotions. Allows us to have compassion but also be sane.
Hi, I really relate to your delivery style. Im in school for a counseling certificate up here in BC Canada and studying family systems and it really resonates with me. I too have struggled with concepts and language and you've inspired me to continue to keep going. Thanks for this considering your premium presentations.
Thanks Kirk, this is helpful. I feel like so often now on the internet relationship advice consists of, “if you’re not getting your needs met, leave them.” But I find that to be black and white thinking and not very differentiated if I’m understanding what you’re explaining here. It’s more about realizing we have different needs, let’s listen to each other and find overlap and compromise to try to meet in the middle. Not all of our needs will be met by our partner.
Appropriate boundaries. Appropriate self esteem. Emotionally mature. A healthy individual.
Great learning more about differentiation! Thank you!
very helpful presentation and thank you so much
Thank you, Dr. Kirk.
I do appreciate your explanations about Bowen. Not sure if I agree that underfunctioners can be categorised as losers. Aren't we all underfunctioners or overfunctioners in family situations to some degree? I know I am...
❤ excellent
Im guessing most Italians are undifferentiated
South asians too
and I think it's a matter of context because those cultures define independence and autonomy quite differently than the majority in Western culture
Thank you for sharing
20:00 qualities of people who are differentiated vs those who are less differentiated
I'm curious if people who meditate regularly are more differentiated.
I know practicing mindfulness helped me. So sorta kinda. Depends if meditation helps said person
I think people with ADHD tend to be less differentiated naturally. What would you advise people with ADHD?
Differentiation exists on a continuum.
Differentiation sounds like an empath, like you feel the pain of others as if it is yours. No?
Enmeshment is a negative kind of empathy. Empathy isnt always good for us. Differentiation means having emotional boundaries and not getting overwhelmed and entangled in others emotions. Allows us to have compassion but also be sane.
lol this is straight up rebranded jung