Please always remember that she is not your friend! You help to pay her bills, but you do not really know her and she definitely doesn’t know you. It’s okay to like and support people’s content and personality, but please remember you do not know her and she has no idea who you are👌🏾
I'm 26, been following you for years. What you are feeling is completely NORMAL (just validating it, not trying to make it feel less important). As you grow older, your real true friends will probably become fewer. You will leave people behind because you no longer share that common thing that brought you closer in the first place. BUT you will also realize the world is such a BIG place and it is full of worthy, interesting and caring people that will become essential parts of your new adult life. It is bittersweet to "lose" friendships, but I try to focus on the impact each person has had in my life, and think that I will remember them fondly (even if we no longer speak regularly or at all). I would love to say that this loneliness goes away, but I think it is a feeling most of us experience from time to time during adulthood. It can be tough, but also rewarding once you realize life can be beautiful and that some connections you make will last a a lifetime. I wish you the best Jazzy
Wow, this was so beautiful and comforting to read. Thank you so much for that reassurance. I know it’ll be okay with time, and it’s a period I need to lean into right now. Thank you so much❤❤
I literally cried cause I felt so lonely last night, your videos have brought me so much comfort since you were on ssg, I see myself in you as a wasian girl trying to figure myself out. A lot of people have told me I look/remind them of you. Your college videos made me realize everything is gonna be okay 💝
this video could not come out at such a perfect time, im so glad someoen else out there also feels the way I do.. DUDE i always hang out eith my friends but then the moment im left alone i just… feel so lost? like i miss them sm and they’re like onecall away but i just feel so lonely :( 4:03 “i need a community” IS SO REAL. i miss being around people so much augwhwuhaiuh 4:43 “im really craving deeper connection with people” EXACTLY??1?1?1?1 5:21 “theyre not the right ppl for me” oh my god thhis resonates w me so BAD. like im around people constantly but realistcially i just can’t vibe with the people in my new school, like the connection i have with them isnt deep.. and idk what to do dijehijj overall, rhis video makes me feel so SEEN… its kinda crazy to think abt oh my God
I know this feeling. But funny thing is, when I recently hung out with old "friends," I realized that they aren't the people I wanted to be with or even consider acquaintances. We don't match in energy, and I felt like I outgrew them. I'm quite happy in sticking with my small group. But yes, I still feel this way, but I've become more and more grateful for the family I have and gained. Love ya girlie this feeling will get easier to cope with.
Me too, I ran into old friends in college and while we get along on a surface level, I truly can’t envision that we would ever be as close as we used to. They are very fast paced and talk a lot about their greatest success and achievements, it was really hard to connect because now I only view them to be superficial like something changed them. I prefer to start fresh and make new friends. I’m suffering with loneliness a lot in college, and the feeling of every day being the same.
I felt/feel like this when I graduated from college last year. It’s definitely a big transition… you got this & your feelings are valid! I legit FaceTime all my hometown/college friends ALL THE TIME. One thing me & my friends do is plan a date to see each other every 3 months!
5:07 thank you for making this video! It’s honestly so real, I find the loneliness is because you want more stronger deeper connections not necessarily because the friends around you. College has people with similar interests, similar age range, and makes us feel connected so I can imagine without it can be an adjustment at first. I’m so happy you chose to spread awareness for this because it is a conversation needed so we know we are not alone🤍
I spent 3 hours crying yesterday cuz i felt So lonely and hopeless, so i feel you. And honestly your videos have helped me alot when ive felt down, love you lots jazzy
girl no literally i feel this so heavily, and honestly it's overwhelming in a sense but it's okay to be lonely or lost in the stream of ones consciencess
This video has literally come out at the most perfect time, i feel so lonely and i have no clue why :( but jazzy you feeling this too means so so much to me, thank you so much! I know you wont read this but anyone who is watching this video will feel so empowered rn bcs you make such a difference for everyone ILYSMMM
JAZZY i completely get what youre saying. it's totally normal to feel lonely especially after living a life with parents, siblings, dorm mates, and just being in school. getting a pet (especially a cat or dog) can help wonders with loneliness. i know you had fuzzy with you for a while but pets help so much. also, pretend your phone doesn't exist for a day. what can you do with your free will in the mean time? go to a café and meet someone or go to a bar and flirt with a guy. i know it takes a lot of courage but life is short and you get an amazing feeling after approaching a stranger. YOU GOT THIS GIRL I BELIEVE IN YOU ❤
3:58 i know u didn't ask for advice, but one thing that really helped me was joining a ballet school. Maybe try to join a volunteer thing, idk, but this kind of thing really gives u this sense & feeling of community. Luv u
i feel for you and ur frustration SOOO much, there’s literally nothing worse than recognising you might be self-sabotaging your only hope for connections. i’m in a similar boat too - i know if i leave the house and actively seek socialising then eventually i’ll find a friend, yet i maintain the mundane in my bedroom and wonder what’s wrong with me. logically, you’re absolutely right, this is just a period of time everyone deals with at this point in life but that doesn’t make it any easier to go through. it’s lonely despite knowing ur not alone. honestly i wish nothing but the best for you jazzy and i rlly hope you’ll find a dream group of besties on the near horizon
so so true but I’m slowly shifting out of this feeling & what I’ve found has helped me do that is have a physical and hobby-like outlet. For me, that looks like going to my local library regularly and volunteering at a clothes charity church biweekly. I also like to dance my feelings out as often as I can. Just recently, I’ve realized that I can 100% start my own passion projects instead of waiting on someone /school to tell me what and how to do stuff yk? I highly recommend keeping track of your current activities & hobbies by the hour so say in 1-2 weeks you can analyze the data you’ve collected and adjust accordingly. For me, this looked like realizing I was spending too much time on social media living vicariously through people and pulling away to set my own goals and achievements. All I can say is this a very experimental time but I want you to know you are always free to begin again. Try new things while you can and live your life! (And living your life doesn’t mean you gotta go to extravagant places-it could be as simple as getting coffee at a new business or attending a free library event or having dinner alone). Rooting for you and all others in this space 🫶
this is literally exactly how i’ve been feeling for the past week. my anxiety has been thru the damn roof and i’ve only gone to school once since thanksgiving break. you’re not alone jazzy, or anyone else who’s feeling the same🤍
Jazzy, I can’t put into words how much this resonates. There is definitely something in the air. As we grow, navigating relationships with others and ourselves is so hard. It feels so lonely. Thank you so much for sharing a pieces of yourself with us and allowing us to not feel so alone. You are inspiration ♥️
literally felt like this the whole year ever since i got out of high school. i love my friends, but it’s a whole can of worms when it comes to figuring out loneliness and why it feels so prominent. thanks for making me feel seen :]
dude this is just what i needed to hear bc i just graduated art school, it had an incredible artist community and now i just feel like im not in the loop yk??? It helps so much to know im not alone --thank you for being so open and honest
Thank you so much for talking about this😭i think about this everytime during the day, and seeing someone actually talking about this kind of helps me❤thank you for being real
Thank you for this short video Jazzy :) As someone that just graduated from highschool and feels this way a lot, I can only imagine how it would feel to graduate college and have this loneliness still remain. A really good anthology to read that takes an absurdist take on loneliness in our modern world is "Smart Ovens for Lonely People" by Elizabeth Tan. I would definitely consider giving it a read, as it helped me realise that the most human way that all of us feel connected is through the common feeling of loneliness we all experience :)
This video is really something I needed. I've kind of grown up watching your content, and I'm still keeping up once in a while to see what you're up to. I find myself relating to you so much at this time in my life (turning 20 in a couple of days, s.o.s.). So, thank you for sharing this, because I've been feeling really lonely lately, even though I've got a lot of nice friends. I know everyone around me is going to do their own thing, and that leaves me almost afraid of where I’ll end up. But this gave me hope.
i just graduated from high school and i am now attending a community college. in high school i was really involved in choir and i had such a strong sense of community. when i graduated i lost so mnay of my friends because of drama and just becoming independent to live their own lives. and just like you, I HAVE FRIENDS, but ive never felt so alone. you put this feeling into words very well. loneliness is often the product of wanting more out of people. craving emotional connections gets stronger when you get older and establishing emotional connections gets even harder. sometimes WE have to be the ones to make plans and reach out to people. idk, finding community is hard. at the end of the day, we are our own best friends.
this is so validating. we're not alone. as someone who has gone through a period of having no friends at all, this feeling haunts me even as i have found my people who love me unconditionally. much love
8:43 I RELATE SOOOOO MUCH GIRL- Sometimes I feel like it’s my fault that I’m not trying to truely connect with others, but I feel so tired at the end of the day- and the end of the day is usually when everyone is available 😭😭
I recommend going to the park. Go to the park on a weekend day in the morning time (11am). Make sure it’s a park that’s pretty popular . That adds to feeling connected. I was so surprised by how many people still go to the park. You’re surrounded by all age groups. People walking their dogs, elders, parents, children, young adults running. It’s feels good.
i really needed to watch this video. im supposed to be at the age where you go to uni but unfortunately this year i wasnt able to. i feel like im missing out on so much because my friends are all meeting new people and although i still see them, i just feel like theres this sense of disconnection and extreme fomo im experiencing. its really hard because most of my peers arent in my situation. im glad im not the only one who feels like this right now :) thank you for sharing this
I felt this so hard, I’m always feeling lonely. I get along with my work friends at work but none are willing to take it outside of work, wanting to go out and hang out and if I mention it they make it seem weird I ask or it just never gets brought up again. Then my life feels like a constant loop of going to work and home with no social activities with other people.
wow this was perfect timing for me to stumble across this video. first of all i’m so proud of you for you know “doing things” 😂 like that can get pretty hard when you feel so lonely or down in the dumps. but also i totally related to this as someone whose life has changed pretty unexpectedly recently. definitely feeling those lost feelings- and sometimes that makes me not want to be around people because i don’t want them to see me as lost so i just isolate (which i know logically is not helpful) anyways just thank you- also not sure if this would help at all, but if you’re religious, maybe check out some churches around your area- there are often activities and people you can meet, a community you can have. if not that’s perfectly fine too, i’ve just been blessed to have a church community my whole life
the tug of wanting connection but struggling to intentionally have those moments with specific people is SO HARD! especially because there's no guarantee it's returned or if it is it might not be the community you need! you are seen and understood in a way that is so raw girl, someone had to say it
The shift from college/school to living alone or having a job is so jarring, our system of being constantly surrounded and being almost forced to interact with people and then being so incredibly isolated is scary, but you being able to recognise the people you don't want to interact with is incredible, so congrats
11:38 this is beyond real. i feel like people can be more open online which is beautiful, but irl it’s so difficult to find that space bc it’s so vulnerable raahhh idk
THIS!! EXACTLY THIS!!! I moved out of my parents’s house two months ago, and it was ROUGH at first, still is sometimes. I have a bit of a rocky relationship with them, so I was ecstatic to be moving out, but then I missed them so much. I don’t know if it’s specifically them I missed or just being around people 24/7, but I do love them in a way. I definitely miss my younger sibling, too. I have a roommate, and we ARE friends, but we both work two jobs so we’re rarely home at the same time, or at all, haha. I graduated high school over a year ago, so I’d gotten used to not having that community and routine, but now that I don’t have my family around me all the time, I have NO community, and I don’t know how to fix that. I see my coworkers almost every day, and I’m friends with a few of them, but we’re not extremely close and rarely see each other outside of work. And ALL of my close friends live SO FAR AWAY. Aside from one who’s quite close, but she’s in college an hour away during the week. I go to visit her sometimes, but it’s hard when I already have to juggle two job schedules. I broke down crying so many times the first few weeks in my new place, literally bawling my eyes out on the floor. I showed up at my parents’s one night sobbing because I was so lonely, WHICH, THEY ONLY LIVE LIKE FIFTEEN MINUTES AWAY FROM MY NEE PLACE, but I hadn’t been over to visit them much, I thought I didn’t need to since I had my own place. Now I go over to visit almost every day which helps SO MUCH. BEING INTENTIONAL ABOUT CONNECTING WITH PEOPLE AND HAVING MINDFULNESS ABOUT THAT. YOU’RE RIGHT, IT’S SO HARD. AND I DON’T KNOW WHY. Between working and housework and trying to find time for my hobbies, it’s hard to find time to talk to my friends. Which is SO BAD because I love my friends SO MUCH, but by the time I get home and have to make myself food and clean up, all I want to do is lay down. I want to get better at calling my friends on the phone, because it’s a little closer to being with them than texting is. In conclusion, thank you so much for making this video. I hope we all can find a way to struggle through
seeing the notification for this video come in on my phone made my day so much better cause now i realize i’m not so alone. i’m in high school and i feel like that’s the peak time to be making friends and i’ve made friends but i feel so lonely and i didn’t understand why and this video helped me connect every thought about it in my little noggin and made me view the topic in a new perspective. thanks for this video, u understand certain topics like this and i want more videos like this lowkey
You don’t know how much I needed this. I JUST said this to someone…”I feel lonely but I’m not alone…I have my friends and family. So why do I feel this way?” Why do I crave my old friend group (most of them moved away for college) from literally almost 4 years ago…I can still remember all of our inside jokes and experiences so vividly. It’s such a weird and uncomfortable feeling and you described it so perfectly💝
this directly describes my life rn too. right now i’m in high school, and i have friends, but the emptiness and confusion i’m feeling stems from my loneliness. it feels confusing because i do have friends. it’s okay to feel alone. i hope you figure your way out of this! i wish you the best jazzy🫶
thank u jazzy for being vulnerable on here and feeling comfortable to share this because honestly it resonates a lot and i know a lot of people are feeling the same way too... everything is gonna be okkkk
This is such a relatable feeling. When I describe these feelings to my friends, they end up being very supportive and I see them often. However, I still feel this lack of fulfillment even though, I am doing most of what I can do and want to do at this moment in my life. I have friends and I have family, but feeling lonely while having people around you is very normal and very real. In time it will go away, but you are definitely not alone in this.
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Hey Jazzy I know exactly how you feel, I have been recently going through loneliness aswell and even though I have a few close friends, I bet everyone goes through this so you're not alone. I have been watching you for years and you're videos have helped me whenever I feel down.
Also I have to say, it must be hard as a content creator because you dont see the person watching your videos and how it positively impacts their day. But when I tell you Jazzy, the other day I actually went back and REWATCHED that Littlest Pet Shop series you did about SophieGTV cause it was soooo funny and it really made my night. I was like man I could be friends with this girl! But little things like that you don’t see, so I hope this helps you too.. you make more of an impact than you realize :)
Omg that is so kind of you to say😭😭 we would def be friends if you also were obsessed with that LPS series❤❤ Thank you for that :’) we’ve got this, good luck to you!!
I love you sm Jazzy. I'm graduating college soon and I feel this way too! I feel so lost and unsure of what's next and I feel so lonely and like I need to find new friends. You are not alone and I personally would love to be your friend!
lowk im in college and i fear that when i graduate i will lose all sense of community, but its important to remember that our lives are always changing and while his period may seem like there is a lack of community, it can also be used for amazing personal growth and the realization that even when we are alone, we are ok. The love and community in our lives is in a state of changing form and thats why it feels so awkward and confusing, but this weird state is also beautiful because it makes it more clear to see what it is we want with our lives and understand things better.
Being a homebody is so frustrating because I truly love being alone, and the thought of going out sometimes gives me true anxiety even if it's planned. But it also sucks when I don't go out with ppl I enjoy being around. Like idk
Jazzy your content is so special to me bc i always feel like it comes out at the time i need! I’ve been feeling the exact same WAY! Though i haven’t been transitioning out of collage i think it’s just a weird thing we’re people look at our relationship and where we are at in life, and though we have societys expectations of successful life, we aren’t feeling the intimate human parts of life as much! I think the fact that you were able to make this video explains a lot about why you feels this way actually. For me at least a lot of the time i would rather stick with something that i know over change especially in a time where a lot of stuff is changing anyway! Maybe (key word maybe) Your self isolation comes from a place of ik how i feel, so i would rather just stay in this feeling and give into this feeling bc it’s familiar. Same thing with your friend group, there not your people but you already know that! You would rather stay with people who you lowkey don’t vibe with then change who your around! Not to mention how hard it is to meet new people! Idk these are just my thoughts but i’m going through it too! Lots of Love, thanks for making this again💕💕💕
Life and people can be such a paradox! A lot of things in life are so enigmatic and mysterious with no answers or explanations! If I knew how to get to my happy place and stay there for as long as I'd like, I'd share it with everyone! I am going through so many things that are beyond explanation, so I won't even attempt to convey my experiences and situation! Good luck in navigating this challenging and overwhelming labyrinth called life! Goodbye until whenever!
I've been dealing with this problem for 10 years. I'm almost 30 now and started out as a RUclipsr, now doing freelance social media stuff. I stare at a computer all day and work by myself from coffee shops. I love the freedom but it gets soooo lonely. The most fun time of my life was when I lived in a rental house with 3 of my best friends. I had a built in community without needing to "make plans" all the time. Now I'm married. I love my husband but he works full time and seems these days like he'd rather stare at his phone than talk to me. I'm trying to make friends who also freelance so we can have co-working dates. I've only been in my current city less than a year, so trying to be patient. There are ways to mitigate how lonely it is to be a creator/freelancer, but you have to be extremely intentional about it. It's the one thing that really sucks about this job.
I’m going into my last semester of college and I am very scared of this exact feeling. I’m scared that once I’m done with school my friends will start slipping away or at least I won’t be seeing them as often and that terrifies me. Thank you for speaking about this and making me feel less alone
haven't finished the video yet, but thank you so much for posting this jazzy.. i feel like even though i have my good friends, i still crave that forced proximity i got from school. and especially in winter it's hard to tell if this is really an issue or if the sunset at 4 o'clock is just messing with me. wishing you a happy christmas jazzy ❤
I wish more people our age were actively joining or coming up with community programs. Can we pleasee get more cool people joining the local adult soccer team?? or i wanna see posters out for weekly meet ups to work on giant puzzles or some shit! i just think it could pop off, i want to get off my ass so baddd
Thank you so much Jazzy this really did make me feel less alone. I don’t know why I feel so alone. I got out of a toxic relationship and I felt like I was carrying so much burden. 💕💕I know you don’t know me that well but I’m always here for you
This year has literally been every day full of tears and I have been having $uasidel thoughts so I went to therapy a week ago and this came out thank you jazzy ❤❤❤
you have such a beautiful way of speaking like i completely understand everything you say on such a deep level 💗 this video makes me feel a lot less alone so thank you so much
Thank you so much for making this video 🙏🙏 I’ve been feeling the EXACT same way. Knowing that I’m not alone in feeling this makes me feel a lot better though
I live in NYC and I’m like a junior, I was going through it in September (had no school due to mental) but now I transferred out of a popular art high school, I experienced not having energy or feel like I had time to spend time with my friends(who live far asf) and I knew I would probably outgrow them or have obstacles like intentional meet ups. I had to start a new environment from a toxic one and it’s challenging and it’ll take time to meet new people and right people- I’m still learning to put in effort but I’m sure it’ll turn out well if we try our best and maybe talk to others about how we feel like this video because surprisingly people think the same way. That’s how I made friends (deep talks when your comfortable and connect to people)
as someone that is going to graduate college sooner than i know it i’ve been afraid of the inevitable less connectedness that will happen once my friends and i go our own ways, thank you for sharing your feelings it gives me hope that it’s gonna be okay even if i might also encounter some similar feelings
I feel like we’re all constantly expected to “have our shit together” but in the right frame of mind that is literally impossible for anyone to achieve. Anytime I find myself thinking about it where I need to reach a certain goal or point to be “socially accepted” or even satisfied with the quality of my life, I have to take a second and zoom out. And that’s where I always have a moment to remind myself, “Hey. We never stop growing. Because everything that’s meant to happen in our lives will happen in time” and this statement always lets me appreciate this stage of growth in my life. We get so into our heads and expect that reaching a certain point in our lives is going to solve EVERY problem or will give us EVERYTHING we want or desire, when it’s mutually just impossible for all of us. It’s just not plausible at all. Which is very scary to hear. But just when I’m finding myself slipping into that fixed mindset, I have to remind myself “Everything you have done in your life to get to this one point happened with time” and in that I find peace and contentment, where I can finally tell myself “You know what, maybe I’m not doing so bad.”
literally same. live alone. 19. no friends but don't want any or don't like people or being around them. a grew up neglected. i constantly daydream abt having someone i can hold and talk to but no one loves me enough, so im good alone.
it’s almost as if someone went into my brain and documented every thought i’ve had for the past few months. i just started college and it’s been the loneliest time in my life but the way you talk about uni ending up fun gives me hope hopefully it’ll apply for post grad as well!! also not to preach but for me the only saving grace has been going to church and talking to God; all the best :))
omg yeah me too, like ive made friends here and i still talk to my close friends back home but idk how to feel, everyone else seems to have found their people already
Sometimes feeling lonely isn’t about your connection to others, but rather your connection to yourself. I know for me though, that’s not always indicative that something is wrong, but rather part of the process of growing and getting to know myself. It can come in that sexy inbetween of the parts of me I’ve grown out of and let go, and the person I am getting comfortable with being, and the person I want to become.
As a postgrad, this is so real. College was lonely sometimes too but I feel like I miss having childhood friends around that have known me my whole life? The lore/inside jokes just hit different. You need a history with people to feel that deep connection and you finally feel that as an upperclassman in college and then you graduate lol.
i’ve been feeling this same way recently, except my big change is that i’ve just moved INTO college for the first time and it feels like i’ve just reverted back to middle and early high school when i was extremely quiet and tucked in my shell. it’s just VERY frustrating bc it feels like i JUST got used to my environment and being myself in my senior year and now it’s all back to the beginnjng
bro me too... ive been so lonely recently and i do have friends too but liiiikee it doesnt feel like it bro. idk whats goin on :( im goin through a lot of change too i get it 💗💗💗 and u totally got this girl
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feeling lonely but not exactly wanting to see people is so real
Has anyone else ever had the feeling that Jazzy Anne is your friend even though you’ve never seen her in person?
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Please always remember that she is not your friend! You help to pay her bills, but you do not really know her and she definitely doesn’t know you. It’s okay to like and support people’s content and personality, but please remember you do not know her and she has no idea who you are👌🏾
just had a overwhelming feeling of “wait you too?” like wow
NO because i feel like everyone is going through it so hard rn?! Does anyone know why?!
@litterlyjusttjYES I’m going through the same thing right now
I'm 26, been following you for years. What you are feeling is completely NORMAL (just validating it, not trying to make it feel less important). As you grow older, your real true friends will probably become fewer. You will leave people behind because you no longer share that common thing that brought you closer in the first place. BUT you will also realize the world is such a BIG place and it is full of worthy, interesting and caring people that will become essential parts of your new adult life. It is bittersweet to "lose" friendships, but I try to focus on the impact each person has had in my life, and think that I will remember them fondly (even if we no longer speak regularly or at all).
I would love to say that this loneliness goes away, but I think it is a feeling most of us experience from time to time during adulthood. It can be tough, but also rewarding once you realize life can be beautiful and that some connections you make will last a a lifetime.
I wish you the best Jazzy
Wow, this was so beautiful and comforting to read. Thank you so much for that reassurance. I know it’ll be okay with time, and it’s a period I need to lean into right now. Thank you so much❤❤
I thought I was the only one who gets this feeling all the time.
I literally cried cause I felt so lonely last night, your videos have brought me so much comfort since you were on ssg, I see myself in you as a wasian girl trying to figure myself out. A lot of people have told me I look/remind them of you. Your college videos made me realize everything is gonna be okay 💝
I DID TOO!! i was wondering what was wrong with me 😭
this video could not come out at such a perfect time, im so glad someoen else out there also feels the way I do.. DUDE i always hang out eith my friends but then the moment im left alone i just… feel so lost? like i miss them sm and they’re like onecall away but i just feel so lonely :(
4:03 “i need a community” IS SO REAL. i miss being around people so much augwhwuhaiuh
4:43 “im really craving deeper connection with people” EXACTLY??1?1?1?1
5:21 “theyre not the right ppl for me” oh my god thhis resonates w me so BAD. like im around people constantly but realistcially i just can’t vibe with the people in my new school, like the connection i have with them isnt deep.. and idk what to do dijehijj
overall, rhis video makes me feel so SEEN… its kinda crazy to think abt oh my God
yuppppppppppppppppp exactly exactly thank you for getting it 💗
Jazzy, I know exactly how you feel. So many people go through this, yet loneliness isn't talked about enough. You're not alone 🧡
I know this feeling. But funny thing is, when I recently hung out with old "friends," I realized that they aren't the people I wanted to be with or even consider acquaintances. We don't match in energy, and I felt like I outgrew them. I'm quite happy in sticking with my small group. But yes, I still feel this way, but I've become more and more grateful for the family I have and gained. Love ya girlie this feeling will get easier to cope with.
Me too, I ran into old friends in college and while we get along on a surface level, I truly can’t envision that we would ever be as close as we used to. They are very fast paced and talk a lot about their greatest success and achievements, it was really hard to connect because now I only view them to be superficial like something changed them. I prefer to start fresh and make new friends. I’m suffering with loneliness a lot in college, and the feeling of every day being the same.
I felt/feel like this when I graduated from college last year. It’s definitely a big transition… you got this & your feelings are valid! I legit FaceTime all my hometown/college friends ALL THE TIME. One thing me & my friends do is plan a date to see each other every 3 months!
That’s a great idea :) Thank you so much for the validation… ❤ I hope ur doing well!!!
5:07 thank you for making this video! It’s honestly so real, I find the loneliness is because you want more stronger deeper connections not necessarily because the friends around you. College has people with similar interests, similar age range, and makes us feel connected so I can imagine without it can be an adjustment at first. I’m so happy you chose to spread awareness for this because it is a conversation needed so we know we are not alone🤍
I spent 3 hours crying yesterday cuz i felt So lonely and hopeless, so i feel you. And honestly your videos have helped me alot when ive felt down, love you lots jazzy
girl no literally i feel this so heavily, and honestly it's overwhelming in a sense but it's okay to be lonely or lost in the stream of ones consciencess
This video has literally come out at the most perfect time, i feel so lonely and i have no clue why :( but jazzy you feeling this too means so so much to me, thank you so much! I know you wont read this but anyone who is watching this video will feel so empowered rn bcs you make such a difference for everyone ILYSMMM
Gosh, this is so relatable, especially recently. I love winter so much, but I always feel like this during this time of the year.
JAZZY i completely get what youre saying. it's totally normal to feel lonely especially after living a life with parents, siblings, dorm mates, and just being in school. getting a pet (especially a cat or dog) can help wonders with loneliness. i know you had fuzzy with you for a while but pets help so much. also, pretend your phone doesn't exist for a day. what can you do with your free will in the mean time? go to a café and meet someone or go to a bar and flirt with a guy. i know it takes a lot of courage but life is short and you get an amazing feeling after approaching a stranger. YOU GOT THIS GIRL I BELIEVE IN YOU ❤
3:58 i know u didn't ask for advice, but one thing that really helped me was joining a ballet school. Maybe try to join a volunteer thing, idk, but this kind of thing really gives u this sense & feeling of community. Luv u
you are absolutely not the only one who feels this way omg you have put words to the feeling i haven't been able to articulate lately
the way I felt like I was on a facetime talking to you as my friend just makes me enjoy your content more
6:57 reasonable crashout
i feel for you and ur frustration SOOO much, there’s literally nothing worse than recognising you might be self-sabotaging your only hope for connections. i’m in a similar boat too - i know if i leave the house and actively seek socialising then eventually i’ll find a friend, yet i maintain the mundane in my bedroom and wonder what’s wrong with me. logically, you’re absolutely right, this is just a period of time everyone deals with at this point in life but that doesn’t make it any easier to go through. it’s lonely despite knowing ur not alone. honestly i wish nothing but the best for you jazzy and i rlly hope you’ll find a dream group of besties on the near horizon
so so true but I’m slowly shifting out of this feeling & what I’ve found has helped me do that is have a physical and hobby-like outlet. For me, that looks like going to my local library regularly and volunteering at a clothes charity church biweekly. I also like to dance my feelings out as often as I can. Just recently, I’ve realized that I can 100% start my own passion projects instead of waiting on someone /school to tell me what and how to do stuff yk? I highly recommend keeping track of your current activities & hobbies by the hour so say in 1-2 weeks you can analyze the data you’ve collected and adjust accordingly. For me, this looked like realizing I was spending too much time on social media living vicariously through people and pulling away to set my own goals and achievements. All I can say is this a very experimental time but I want you to know you are always free to begin again. Try new things while you can and live your life! (And living your life doesn’t mean you gotta go to extravagant places-it could be as simple as getting coffee at a new business or attending a free library event or having dinner alone). Rooting for you and all others in this space 🫶
You’re not lonely, Jazz. You’re an inspiring young woman who has the rest of her life ahead of her.
That doesn't mean she's not lonely. Loneliness is a personal feeling and it can be deep.
@ S…….
this is literally exactly how i’ve been feeling for the past week. my anxiety has been thru the damn roof and i’ve only gone to school once since thanksgiving break. you’re not alone jazzy, or anyone else who’s feeling the same🤍
Jazzy, I can’t put into words how much this resonates. There is definitely something in the air. As we grow, navigating relationships with others and ourselves is so hard. It feels so lonely. Thank you so much for sharing a pieces of yourself with us and allowing us to not feel so alone. You are inspiration ♥️
literally felt like this the whole year ever since i got out of high school. i love my friends, but it’s a whole can of worms when it comes to figuring out loneliness and why it feels so prominent. thanks for making me feel seen :]
dude this is just what i needed to hear bc i just graduated art school, it had an incredible artist community and now i just feel like im not in the loop yk??? It helps so much to know im not alone --thank you for being so open and honest
Thank you so much for talking about this😭i think about this everytime during the day, and seeing someone actually talking about this kind of helps me❤thank you for being real
Jazzy thank you for sharing this! Ironically I felt less alone watching this cuz girl same. I’ve felt really lonely lately and I needed this!
Thank you for this short video Jazzy :) As someone that just graduated from highschool and feels this way a lot, I can only imagine how it would feel to graduate college and have this loneliness still remain. A really good anthology to read that takes an absurdist take on loneliness in our modern world is "Smart Ovens for Lonely People" by Elizabeth Tan. I would definitely consider giving it a read, as it helped me realise that the most human way that all of us feel connected is through the common feeling of loneliness we all experience :)
This video is really something I needed. I've kind of grown up watching your content, and I'm still keeping up once in a while to see what you're up to. I find myself relating to you so much at this time in my life (turning 20 in a couple of days, s.o.s.). So, thank you for sharing this, because I've been feeling really lonely lately, even though I've got a lot of nice friends. I know everyone around me is going to do their own thing, and that leaves me almost afraid of where I’ll end up. But this gave me hope.
this video is so authentic and real, thank you so much for this jazzy!! been such a fan since sevensupergirls and love to see you grow as a person ❤
i just graduated from high school and i am now attending a community college. in high school i was really involved in choir and i had such a strong sense of community. when i graduated i lost so mnay of my friends because of drama and just becoming independent to live their own lives. and just like you, I HAVE FRIENDS, but ive never felt so alone. you put this feeling into words very well. loneliness is often the product of wanting more out of people. craving emotional connections gets stronger when you get older and establishing emotional connections gets even harder. sometimes WE have to be the ones to make plans and reach out to people. idk, finding community is hard. at the end of the day, we are our own best friends.
this is so validating. we're not alone. as someone who has gone through a period of having no friends at all, this feeling haunts me even as i have found my people who love me unconditionally.
much love
8:43 I RELATE SOOOOO MUCH GIRL- Sometimes I feel like it’s my fault that I’m not trying to truely connect with others, but I feel so tired at the end of the day- and the end of the day is usually when everyone is available 😭😭
Bruh this is literally how im feeling rn😭
Like i got my friends but we are all living our lives and then im just like 🧍
and it almost feels like u have no purpose or anything leading u to something new like ur just stuck
I recommend going to the park. Go to the park on a weekend day in the morning time (11am). Make sure it’s a park that’s pretty popular . That adds to feeling connected. I was so surprised by how many people still go to the park. You’re surrounded by all age groups. People walking their dogs, elders, parents, children, young adults running. It’s feels good.
i really needed to watch this video. im supposed to be at the age where you go to uni but unfortunately this year i wasnt able to. i feel like im missing out on so much because my friends are all meeting new people and although i still see them, i just feel like theres this sense of disconnection and extreme fomo im experiencing. its really hard because most of my peers arent in my situation. im glad im not the only one who feels like this right now :) thank you for sharing this
I felt this so hard, I’m always feeling lonely. I get along with my work friends at work but none are willing to take it outside of work, wanting to go out and hang out and if I mention it they make it seem weird I ask or it just never gets brought up again. Then my life feels like a constant loop of going to work and home with no social activities with other people.
I really needed this❤️ I have been feeling this way exactly recently and I’m only in my second year of college.
wow this was perfect timing for me to stumble across this video. first of all i’m so proud of you for you know “doing things” 😂 like that can get pretty hard when you feel so lonely or down in the dumps. but also i totally related to this as someone whose life has changed pretty unexpectedly recently. definitely feeling those lost feelings- and sometimes that makes me not want to be around people because i don’t want them to see me as lost so i just isolate (which i know logically is not helpful)
anyways just thank you- also not sure if this would help at all, but if you’re religious, maybe check out some churches around your area- there are often activities and people you can meet, a community you can have. if not that’s perfectly fine too, i’ve just been blessed to have a church community my whole life
the tug of wanting connection but struggling to intentionally have those moments with specific people is SO HARD! especially because there's no guarantee it's returned or if it is it might not be the community you need! you are seen and understood in a way that is so raw girl, someone had to say it
this makes me feel so less alone and seen, thanks jazzy
The shift from college/school to living alone or having a job is so jarring, our system of being constantly surrounded and being almost forced to interact with people and then being so incredibly isolated is scary, but you being able to recognise the people you don't want to interact with is incredible, so congrats
11:38 this is beyond real. i feel like people can be more open online which is beautiful, but irl it’s so difficult to find that space bc it’s so vulnerable raahhh idk
You are so true Jazzy, I feel like this sometimes- I felt like it today!
THIS!! EXACTLY THIS!!! I moved out of my parents’s house two months ago, and it was ROUGH at first, still is sometimes. I have a bit of a rocky relationship with them, so I was ecstatic to be moving out, but then I missed them so much. I don’t know if it’s specifically them I missed or just being around people 24/7, but I do love them in a way. I definitely miss my younger sibling, too. I have a roommate, and we ARE friends, but we both work two jobs so we’re rarely home at the same time, or at all, haha. I graduated high school over a year ago, so I’d gotten used to not having that community and routine, but now that I don’t have my family around me all the time, I have NO community, and I don’t know how to fix that. I see my coworkers almost every day, and I’m friends with a few of them, but we’re not extremely close and rarely see each other outside of work. And ALL of my close friends live SO FAR AWAY. Aside from one who’s quite close, but she’s in college an hour away during the week. I go to visit her sometimes, but it’s hard when I already have to juggle two job schedules.
I broke down crying so many times the first few weeks in my new place, literally bawling my eyes out on the floor. I showed up at my parents’s one night sobbing because I was so lonely, WHICH, THEY ONLY LIVE LIKE FIFTEEN MINUTES AWAY FROM MY NEE PLACE, but I hadn’t been over to visit them much, I thought I didn’t need to since I had my own place. Now I go over to visit almost every day which helps SO MUCH.
BEING INTENTIONAL ABOUT CONNECTING WITH PEOPLE AND HAVING MINDFULNESS ABOUT THAT. YOU’RE RIGHT, IT’S SO HARD. AND I DON’T KNOW WHY. Between working and housework and trying to find time for my hobbies, it’s hard to find time to talk to my friends. Which is SO BAD because I love my friends SO MUCH, but by the time I get home and have to make myself food and clean up, all I want to do is lay down. I want to get better at calling my friends on the phone, because it’s a little closer to being with them than texting is.
In conclusion, thank you so much for making this video. I hope we all can find a way to struggle through
seeing the notification for this video come in on my phone made my day so much better cause now i realize i’m not so alone. i’m in high school and i feel like that’s the peak time to be making friends and i’ve made friends but i feel so lonely and i didn’t understand why and this video helped me connect every thought about it in my little noggin and made me view the topic in a new perspective. thanks for this video, u understand certain topics like this and i want more videos like this lowkey
You don’t know how much I needed this. I JUST said this to someone…”I feel lonely but I’m not alone…I have my friends and family. So why do I feel this way?” Why do I crave my old friend group (most of them moved away for college) from literally almost 4 years ago…I can still remember all of our inside jokes and experiences so vividly. It’s such a weird and uncomfortable feeling and you described it so perfectly💝
this directly describes my life rn too. right now i’m in high school, and i have friends, but the emptiness and confusion i’m feeling stems from my loneliness. it feels confusing because i do have friends. it’s okay to feel alone. i hope you figure your way out of this! i wish you the best jazzy🫶
thank u jazzy for being vulnerable on here and feeling comfortable to share this because honestly it resonates a lot and i know a lot of people are feeling the same way too... everything is gonna be okkkk
I’ve felt so alone recently, I’m glad I came across this video. It makes me feel more seen so thank you ps: I hope you feel better soon girl ❤
this made me feel seen in a way i really needed for a long time, thank you for giving us an opportunity to not feel alone in this feeling
it’s truly a blessing to have jazzy back
i really needed this. i’ve been feeling this way these past few months ❤
This is such a relatable feeling. When I describe these feelings to my friends, they end up being very supportive and I see them often. However, I still feel this lack of fulfillment even though, I am doing most of what I can do and want to do at this moment in my life. I have friends and I have family, but feeling lonely while having people around you is very normal and very real. In time it will go away, but you are definitely not alone in this.
JAZZY I NEEDED THIS. this rlly helped me thank you so much for this video
Ive been feeling the exact same way. Glad im not alone in this.
that title is so relatable
so glad that someone else gets it ❤
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Hey Jazzy I know exactly how you feel, I have been recently going through loneliness aswell and even though I have a few close friends, I bet everyone goes through this so you're not alone.
I have been watching you for years and you're videos have helped me whenever I feel down.
JAZZY THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i rlly needed this :(
this came at the right time; thank you for uploading
Also I have to say, it must be hard as a content creator because you dont see the person watching your videos and how it positively impacts their day. But when I tell you Jazzy, the other day I actually went back and REWATCHED that Littlest Pet Shop series you did about SophieGTV cause it was soooo funny and it really made my night. I was like man I could be friends with this girl! But little things like that you don’t see, so I hope this helps you too.. you make more of an impact than you realize :)
Omg that is so kind of you to say😭😭 we would def be friends if you also were obsessed with that LPS series❤❤ Thank you for that :’) we’ve got this, good luck to you!!
I love you sm Jazzy. I'm graduating college soon and I feel this way too! I feel so lost and unsure of what's next and I feel so lonely and like I need to find new friends. You are not alone and I personally would love to be your friend!
Right there with you 🥺
12:48 the way that you said that just as I was putting my toothbrush into my mouth 😭 it freaked me out a little bit
seasonal depression
lowk im in college and i fear that when i graduate i will lose all sense of community, but its important to remember that our lives are always changing and while his period may seem like there is a lack of community, it can also be used for amazing personal growth and the realization that even when we are alone, we are ok. The love and community in our lives is in a state of changing form and thats why it feels so awkward and confusing, but this weird state is also beautiful because it makes it more clear to see what it is we want with our lives and understand things better.
Being a homebody is so frustrating because I truly love being alone, and the thought of going out sometimes gives me true anxiety even if it's planned. But it also sucks when I don't go out with ppl I enjoy being around. Like idk
Jazzy your content is so special to me bc i always feel like it comes out at the time i need! I’ve been feeling the exact same WAY! Though i haven’t been transitioning out of collage i think it’s just a weird thing we’re people look at our relationship and where we are at in life, and though we have societys expectations of successful life, we aren’t feeling the intimate human parts of life as much! I think the fact that you were able to make this video explains a lot about why you feels this way actually. For me at least a lot of the time i would rather stick with something that i know over change especially in a time where a lot of stuff is changing anyway! Maybe (key word maybe) Your self isolation comes from a place of ik how i feel, so i would rather just stay in this feeling and give into this feeling bc it’s familiar. Same thing with your friend group, there not your people but you already know that! You would rather stay with people who you lowkey don’t vibe with then change who your around! Not to mention how hard it is to meet new people! Idk these are just my thoughts but i’m going through it too! Lots of Love, thanks for making this again💕💕💕
Life and people can be such a paradox! A lot of things in life are so enigmatic and mysterious with no answers or explanations! If I knew how to get to my happy place and stay there for as long as I'd like, I'd share it with everyone!
I am going through so many things that are beyond explanation, so I won't even attempt to convey my experiences and situation!
Good luck in navigating this challenging and overwhelming labyrinth called life! Goodbye until whenever!
Your so relatable actually it’s good to make there kinda videos talking about how you feel 💗
I've been dealing with this problem for 10 years. I'm almost 30 now and started out as a RUclipsr, now doing freelance social media stuff. I stare at a computer all day and work by myself from coffee shops. I love the freedom but it gets soooo lonely. The most fun time of my life was when I lived in a rental house with 3 of my best friends. I had a built in community without needing to "make plans" all the time. Now I'm married. I love my husband but he works full time and seems these days like he'd rather stare at his phone than talk to me. I'm trying to make friends who also freelance so we can have co-working dates. I've only been in my current city less than a year, so trying to be patient. There are ways to mitigate how lonely it is to be a creator/freelancer, but you have to be extremely intentional about it. It's the one thing that really sucks about this job.
Your videos always bring me so much comfort, thank you for making this, really 💗
I’m going into my last semester of college and I am very scared of this exact feeling. I’m scared that once I’m done with school my friends will start slipping away or at least I won’t be seeing them as often and that terrifies me. Thank you for speaking about this and making me feel less alone
im glad im not the only one that feels this way
haven't finished the video yet, but thank you so much for posting this jazzy.. i feel like even though i have my good friends, i still crave that forced proximity i got from school. and especially in winter it's hard to tell if this is really an issue or if the sunset at 4 o'clock is just messing with me. wishing you a happy christmas jazzy ❤
I wish more people our age were actively joining or coming up with community programs. Can we pleasee get more cool people joining the local adult soccer team?? or i wanna see posters out for weekly meet ups to work on giant puzzles or some shit! i just think it could pop off, i want to get off my ass so baddd
This is literally what it sounds like when im talking to my therapist for CBT therapy
Thank you so much Jazzy this really did make me feel less alone. I don’t know why I feel so alone. I got out of a toxic relationship and I felt like I was carrying so much burden. 💕💕I know you don’t know me that well but I’m always here for you
Thank you for being so honest and open, Jazzy!! I've been feeling similarly lately and this really helped me process my emotions xoxo
11:22 Jazzy is saying the quiet part out loud!
This year has literally been every day full of tears and I have been having $uasidel thoughts so I went to therapy a week ago and this came out thank you jazzy ❤❤❤
you have such a beautiful way of speaking like i completely understand everything you say on such a deep level 💗 this video makes me feel a lot less alone so thank you so much
Thank you so much for making this video 🙏🙏 I’ve been feeling the EXACT same way. Knowing that I’m not alone in feeling this makes me feel a lot better though
It’s so crazy because I’m right now a freshman in College and I can see myself going through this exact situation in the future
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Lonely too, but I intend to stay like this
I live in NYC and I’m like a junior, I was going through it in September (had no school due to mental) but now I transferred out of a popular art high school, I experienced not having energy or feel like I had time to spend time with my friends(who live far asf) and I knew I would probably outgrow them or have obstacles like intentional meet ups. I had to start a new environment from a toxic one and it’s challenging and it’ll take time to meet new people and right people- I’m still learning to put in effort but I’m sure it’ll turn out well if we try our best and maybe talk to others about how we feel like this video because surprisingly people think the same way. That’s how I made friends (deep talks when your comfortable and connect to people)
as someone that is going to graduate college sooner than i know it i’ve been afraid of the inevitable less connectedness that will happen once my friends and i go our own ways, thank you for sharing your feelings it gives me hope that it’s gonna be okay even if i might also encounter some similar feelings
I am constantly worrying about what happens when I graduate college tbh so this is real af
I feel like we’re all constantly expected to “have our shit together” but in the right frame of mind that is literally impossible for anyone to achieve. Anytime I find myself thinking about it where I need to reach a certain goal or point to be “socially accepted” or even satisfied with the quality of my life, I have to take a second and zoom out. And that’s where I always have a moment to remind myself, “Hey. We never stop growing. Because everything that’s meant to happen in our lives will happen in time” and this statement always lets me appreciate this stage of growth in my life. We get so into our heads and expect that reaching a certain point in our lives is going to solve EVERY problem or will give us EVERYTHING we want or desire, when it’s mutually just impossible for all of us. It’s just not plausible at all. Which is very scary to hear. But just when I’m finding myself slipping into that fixed mindset, I have to remind myself “Everything you have done in your life to get to this one point happened with time” and in that I find peace and contentment, where I can finally tell myself “You know what, maybe I’m not doing so bad.”
literally same. live alone. 19. no friends but don't want any or don't like people or being around them. a grew up neglected. i constantly daydream abt having someone i can hold and talk to but no one loves me enough, so im good alone.
needed this fr, thank you jazzy!
it’s almost as if someone went into my brain and documented every thought i’ve had for the past few months. i just started college and it’s been the loneliest time in my life but the way you talk about uni ending up fun gives me hope hopefully it’ll apply for post grad as well!! also not to preach but for me the only saving grace has been going to church and talking to God; all the best :))
omg yeah me too, like ive made friends here and i still talk to my close friends back home but idk how to feel, everyone else seems to have found their people already
Sometimes feeling lonely isn’t about your connection to others, but rather your connection to yourself. I know for me though, that’s not always indicative that something is wrong, but rather part of the process of growing and getting to know myself. It can come in that sexy inbetween of the parts of me I’ve grown out of and let go, and the person I am getting comfortable with being, and the person I want to become.
Thank you so much for posting this holy crap I'm so glad I'm not the only one ❤️
For me its the fact I do feel like I have found my people but they live far away so I rarely see them :(
As a postgrad, this is so real. College was lonely sometimes too but I feel like I miss having childhood friends around that have known me my whole life? The lore/inside jokes just hit different. You need a history with people to feel that deep connection and you finally feel that as an upperclassman in college and then you graduate lol.
i’ve been feeling this same way recently, except my big change is that i’ve just moved INTO college for the first time and it feels like i’ve just reverted back to middle and early high school when i was extremely quiet and tucked in my shell. it’s just VERY frustrating bc it feels like i JUST got used to my environment and being myself in my senior year and now it’s all back to the beginnjng
bro me too... ive been so lonely recently and i do have friends too but liiiikee it doesnt feel like it bro. idk whats goin on :( im goin through a lot of change too i get it 💗💗💗 and u totally got this girl
I love you sm jazzy. Your videos always make my days better, you are so good at what you do and you have so many fans who support and love you. ❤