Stop Competing With Your OCD and Become The Boss
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OCD is LOUD! It tries to rattle you and the more you "fight" or try to make sense of it the more it becomes louder. Both competing to see who wins or who can be the loudest. Instead of competing what if you tried being quieter?
Topics discussed:⠀
👉 Learn to no compete with OCD
👉 What to do when your OCD gets LOUD
👉 How OCD tries to overpower you
👉 What it looks like to stop competing with your OCD
👉 Learn your job with OCD
👉 How to get the voice of OCD to be quieter
👉 What it looks like to sit through an exposure
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DISCLOSURE: Although I am a licensed therapist. This video is not intended to replace medical advice. This is for information purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a local mental health professional.⠀
What works for me when bad ocd thoughts come is i say "boring...yawn". That really makes the thought lose power.
Its not working for me
The exceptions are when you starts to OCD over saying “boring...yawn”...😂
@@reservoirdograyh4n it takes time. You can’t go from constantly obsessing over something to not obsessing over it at all overnight.
@@niallkquinn4458 Or maybe because what might work for some might not work for others? We have our own individual mechanisms to cope with and/or diffusive intrusive thoughts and tendencies.
@@reservoirdograyh4n definitely. I thought you meant ERP in general wasn’t working because the only times ERP doesn’t work is when people don’t commit to it, and they usually don’t commit to it because it doesn’t provide relief. If you just mean that particular kind of thing isn’t working then yeah you should probably find something that’ll work for you.
Watching your videos makes me strangely emotional. Your tone of voice, sense of humor, and just the calm way you go about talking about OCD makes me really wish this channel had been around when I was a young teenager, when I didn't know I had OCD. I thought I was crazy for so long. I am in my 20s now and know that I have OCD and this knowledge helps, but I still feel like I lost a chunk of my life due to OCD and watching these videos just makes me so grateful. I feel like when things get bad again, I have a resource. So thank you for making these videos because they help, a LOT.
Same here!
I feel the exact same
God loves you 🙏
So now ur good ? Ur not doing it now
Same here!! But we're gonna get through this.
I think the moment you actively choose to not figure anything out and just keep going with your life is the game changer because in that moment you have the control.
I'll try that
I try to let the ocd do what it wants so that my mind thinks ‘oh it doesn’t give her fear’ and somehow it goes away
u are gorgeous ngl ❤️ ocd can’t tell you, you’re not
How are you now?
Do you feel like you're always competing with your OCD? What makes you feel free? 😃
You're not a psychologist you're a psychic! Either way it's great!
That is amazing!! 👍🏻👍🏻
HAHA. Thanks! I hope you're doing well! 😃
@@ocdandanxiety sorry broo ,did you have OCD before !?
Im just frequently fighting a war with my OCD. I wonder when will it end..
“ I ‘m totally scared right now... wuuuuu.”
Love it
I like it! 🤪
Hey I have an OCD and its hard.
The key to treat this and overcome is don't pay attention to the content of my intrusive thoughts but its hard not to argument the more I don't pay attention the more the noise so I end up answering it. But I know it will take time to practice it. Thank you for your advice and tips it's very helpful.
You have been such a big part of my acceptance with my OCD. Thank you xx
I dont know if youll ever read this but thank you for being with us in this tough times. There are many content you could choose that can gather even more views but instead you focus on OCD only which only a plenty of people are aware of that they have it. Thank you very much for that your videos are very important for us.
Thanks so much for the kind words Carl!
Nathan you're such a gentle soul. Thanks for everything. You are very soothing in a non- reassurance assuring kind of way. 🤗 Since OCD is specialized its hard to find therapists or programs that are affordable. Only two in our area exist and I have the pleasure of having severe PTSD combined with OCD and general anxiousness which get triggered from my intense surroundings. It is people like you who help me to see that I'm safe and okay and nothing is lost. ❤
You changed my life, my life has almost resumed to normalcy. Trust me guys exposure and response works. Thanks Nathan , you are doing more good than thousands of maulvis, pastors and gurus. You changed my life and I am so much at ease.
From India
Your vídeos actually helped me a lot. I'm 16 and i always had intrusive thoughts, but only recently i realised it was OCD and your videos helped me understand it and fight it. Now, whenever my ocd tries to act i imagine it like an ugly worm saying my intrusive thoughts in a very weird and funny voice. And whenever my ocd tries to make me doubt myself (like making me think that i'll hurt others) i think "well okay. Let it be then" and the bad things don't happen. Everytime the bad things don't happen, my ocd becomes a uglier, crustier and more pathetic worm, and life goes on.
thank youuuuu!!! the anxiety i get with my ocd is so unbearable that i cry breaking down sometimes when its too much!! i hurt my self, punch my self, just to be able to feel something else other than the anxiety, i wake up burses all over my body just for it to stop. this help so much. thank you!!!
I love you so much. I have teeth ocd problems that involves self harm. It has been damaging me for years and stopping me from having fun. These videos help so much. Thank you
You can do it guys the more you understand your brain and what your going through it really does take time but i promise you will make it I just broke through right now and I plan on lasting. It feels so much better knowing it’s ocd because you can train yourself to ignore it
I’ve always had calm intrusive thoughts but recently I’ve been going through a lot to the point where my ocd wouldn’t let me leave my room . Or even talk to people becausw I was trying to meditate haha but yes do it. Just chill do what you need to to besides ruminate ❤️
One of my problems with OCD that really bothers me is that I have to look at every mirror at our house and smile there or else I don't feel comfortable or tels me that someone's going to die if I don't do and in RUclips I have to look at the date that it's posted and memorise it or else I'm not comfy
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Question: what do you do when you don't like getting relief from "agreeing" with the intrusive thoughts in order to make them stop? It starts a whole new issue of worry (IE: OCD days you think you want to hurt people, so you say "yeah, maybe I do." You feel relief from that thought, but, now you're worried that THATS how you really feel??? This is a horrible rabbit hole!
Exactly how I feel, if anyone has a tip to over coming that I’d love to hear it.
Thank you so much for this video. I was really crying and get away from my studies bcz of these internal battle of thoughts. I was trying so much to get away from ocd but It was not working. Thanks for helping me. Good luck!
STOP FIGHTING BACK! LET GO
The big problem with my recovery is getting caught up on the theme. It’s all the same it’s only trying to create fear, it’s hard to remember that sometimes. I know when it is OCD, but I just need to know that the more I react the more it’ll find new ways to scare me.
You are genius. And saving my sanity. Thank you! 😭 🙏🏼😊
What about when OCD tries to find evidence and prove that the thought is real ?
LIES! DON'T BELIEVE YOUR THOUGHTS
Just yawn at that through and move on
You freaked me out cuz that is what my ocd does!
Own up to your mistakes, "yeah I did that, but it doesn't effect who I am now."
"so let it be, let it kill me, is better die than follow your instructions, f*cking ocd"
I want you to know i live in the other side of the world and you helped me . I’ll pray for you ❤
Thanks ❤️❤️❤️❤️ not many people know in India and you tube is only hope because I can not tell this to my parents.
That video saves me. Thank you! None of my terapist said that to me. And this video makes me fell peaceful again. Tahnk you so much ❤❤❤
You have helped me a lot. Even seeing you here, your presence and etc. gives some kind of relief. Thank you for this service!
Thank you for this video and the others you have posted. They are so helpful. Jess
Thanks Jessica! I'm so happy that it's been able to help you! I wish you the best! 😃
The thing I've noticed though, is that I'm perfectly fine with agreeing with my OCD voices saying I'm a bad person. If OCD comes to attack anything about me as a person directly, I can say: "Bring it on bro!" But I think it knows it can't get me with that anymore, so it has now switched to attacking the things and people I care about most... A bit more of a difficult problem to tackle.
Harm ocd is my thing. And I promise you, it may feel different than your other ocd issue you had, but the mechanism is still the same. It’s not anymore real or harmful than your other obsessions. It’s scary bc it’s abhorrent to thought that you could possibly hurt anyone you love. But. It’s just noise. Like a toddler speaking gibberish, you gotta just agree w it and move on. The thought only means something to you bc it’s attacking what you love. But, still, it’s just noise. You choose to decide whether or not the noise has meaning. You can sit and try to figure out the babbling child or you can just accept it and carry on according to your values.
I am not gonna lie, this advice here helped me more than everything i have ever tried. An example could be such for people with ocd about contamination: “yeah, mr brain, that is indeed an extremely horrific and scary contamination i will catch if i don’t wash my hands, i will probably die because of this or suffer forever”. a week do that and you will feel much better, then your brain will automatically not be scared of intrusive thoughts, and no fear = no thoughts.
ps: applicable to every kind of ocd i believe
yep, it is the advice that helps the best and fast. Not that hard to apply too, you just have to know it and apply it. Took me 3 years to discover this and it changed my life.
My OCD is getting worse day by day but your videos tend to be helpful. I get some encouragement, right now I am mentally and physically drained because of it and have lost all my motivation. My brain is exhausted but I have to keep on living with this thing! I don’t even have the energy to battle with it anymore.
I needed to find this channel so bad it just may have saved my life thank you so much.
Nathan Thank you so much for all of your videos!!! You are truly a blessing and have helped me and some friends so much!!! I have to make sure that I don’t come running for reassurance sometimes but my most recent bout with ocd hasn’t been nearly as debilitating as it was previously because of ocd therapy and the many tools you have shared!!! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
You're awesome! Thanks so much!
So need some advice please. My checking once I realised I'm not fighting with had to drop. But now I check if I have checking less to tell if I'm improving. Which is still checking. I'm trying to measure my performance which in this case is whether the thoughts are not bothering me as much. Thanks
Reading the comments to find what people do.. As I'm trying to cope with my ocd and not feeed the monster. I am trying to stop and breathe, then acknowledge its just a thought and not a fact... And try to let go.. But that's the hard bit.. Letting go
I haven’t done anything to control my OCD. After 30 yrs, I decided to look up something on RUclips. My OCD looks like this: if I want to hang a wall art on the wall, my OCD says something bad is going to happen. I do insane rituals , like turning off lights in the house before bed but in order. If something bad happened and I wore this blouse, I’ll never wear it again. It’s mentally exhausting and excruciating.
Your voice itself is so soothing and helpful! Thank you so much
Thank you so much! I am glad to help.🙂
Nathan, you're one of my heroes
I looove your videos. I went to the movies last night and as the movie was about to start more and more and more people started flooding in. It was busy, then people were talking, and coughing, and children crying, and the movie loud. I put in my ear plugs and watched the movie and dealt with it. your video explained that perfectly
but there are non stop thoughts that just keep coming, every few seconds of every day, ive tried this, i know this method, it is very effective but almost every single fucking second there is a new ocd bombardment
Man this is so inspiring and motivating! Thank you!!
my ocd is that my wife thinks better of her ex than me (looks, sex, money etc). even tho she tells me i’m the best man she’s ever had my mind is bombarding me with “I’m 2nd best” “he’s better in the bedroom” “I have no worth”.
This vid was super helpful
Good stuff!! Just talked with a client about this yesterday.
Awesome! Thank you!
How do you determine what is a real thought and what is just anxiety/OCD?
Illogical thoughts are mostly ocd which means the thoughts don't make sense
thank you man. this makes me so happy :)
Glad I could help!
That’s a good way not competing with it
I try to agree with the thought. But I agree screaming at it, I say YES ITS TRUE and then I feel the anxiety rush… I don’t understand why my OCD gets louder when I agree
PRAISE JESUS! for this site. It's helped me so much.
Praise ALLAAH Our Lord And Creator
I have ocd for 5 years now, god knows it’s killing me, from not being able to stop washing my hands while counting like for 7 seconds and it takes 10 mins sometimes, to keep standing up for some mins until those bloody thoughts stops from saying that something bad is gonna happen if you sit down now, or you will never get what if you do that, to even not being able to eat whenever i want cause blah blah blah, i sit down a lot and cry myself to sleep literally cause i feel like im crazy and nth like other people who do whatever they want whenever they want however they want, life is so hard for me, i just hope all of this ends and finally be free from this exhausting illness.
Ive come to recognisw my ocd and try and combat it with the help of therapy... I've found it difficult when there's always something new, but I really like the reminder here that my job isn't to worry about a thing I said years ago or why I did it or whether it was years ago etc... My job is to just get on with my damn life...
It's just not very easy
COOL, MAN. I’M IN DANGER. UNLESS I SEE REAL DANGER, IT’S COOL, I’M NOT REACTING.
just a reminder for myself. thank you so much for this idea! i have been dealing with OCD for years, and this video is so cool and funny and helpful! subscribed to you immediately!
thank you. Your voice is so soothing and you sound so accepting and judgemental. I haven't tried your method but I will give it a try
sorry i meant non judgemental!
Honestly I just told my self today that I’m going to forget about it ! So focus and live my life amazingly because I deserve to.
Thank you for making these videos, they help a lot!!🎉
the problem with mine is that almost everything triggers my ocd like putting on my glasses, going to a different room, sitting down on a chair, putting on my headphones, adjusting my glasses, touching my hair, typing and moving my cursor and much more. All of these things trigger it, causing me to repeat them all multiple times. Sometimes it gets so worse that it takes me 30 minutes to just put on my glasses
i used to have that problem ( kinda still do ) but with social media like i have to like each comment i see, every reply, etc. the thing i do to reduce this is to not follow my mind so that it just doesnt tell me that anymore, it might work
@@tokyo3293 same
This is so helpful ! Thank you :-) I started to learn to accept uncertainty a little more. it is an interesting, hard and good journey.
I've recently been researching help with my OCD after struggling with a few therapists, doing CBT and ERP - I've been really struggling because I almost feel like it's second nature to do the compulsions - Things like these help, but like compulsions, provide momentary relief, I'm super struggling to keep going, specially as it's contamination OCD and have had it for 20 years roughly, so it's all very overwhelming, though taking prozac and recently amitriptyline (which I hope in time it will help) I can finally start taking back control - It's comforting to know I'm not alone
It helps so much. Can’t thank you enough.
Mine gets meaner and meaner the more I ignore it.
And it takes alot of time for me 8 month was a got to understand the energy and 12 to 13 month when i am very comfortable with my obsessions and then later it's about actually following ur interests and doing doing what u like even if it doesn't work out hah at least u tried.
Your voice is so calm
Loved this ! Thank you so much ❤❤❤
I struggle because I do believe most of my OCD thoughts. It isn't so much that they are even untrue. They are just given undo intensity and blocking out other perspectives.
Thanks a bunch. Your videos are awesome; they give me encouragement to overcome OCD. Thank you so much!
Wow, thank you so much for your kind words! I am so happy I could help you.
I have a plethora of OCD subtypes. My OCD mantra is "I don't know, I don't care". Kinda helps. Still in recovery though
I think as I have magical thinking it ruins this motion of saying the opposite and accepting the thoughts as in doing so it means I'm okay with the fear or that it will come true. 😔
SW. I know what you mean...I struggle with this too. But if you remember it is a way of neutralizing the fear so that you will start to naturally return to your positive self anyway...because you've cleared the ground to be able to do that. Also I think it's ok, once we've got some ground with the neutralizing of the fears, to gently build in some positives....but most of all it's best done without that sense of urgency :)
Thank you,your videos are so helpful!
So basically what he is trying to say is to face the anxiety, let it suck you up, and hunt you until the brain gets used to them that it will get bored. Is that about right.
Hi. Idk if you'll read this or not. It's been a while since you posted this video. But I just wanted to say thank you for the information that you give.
My ocd has decided to focus on a trip I have coming up. And im learning that just because it doesn't "appear" as relationship ocd as I have experienced previously, it's still *OCD*. And I need to approach it as such.
I know two or three songs kept trying to play over and over in my head this morning. I just told it no just to stop .That's it reacting , that's like narcissists want you to do is react .
This video actually helped me thank you
wait I've never thought about this. Im gonna try not to resist it
The im not gonna figure this out hit me hard
Thanks ❤😊 it’s just better no compulsions to reassure myself and also I am trying to take the fear response and say it’s normal the fear I just developed this month,I am trying to treat it.thnkssss I m stopping to ruminate😊
2 channels that I recommend is urs and therapy in nutshell ❤❤
I am happy 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am blessed
Universe is full of love and abundance
I accept positivity ❤❤
Treat ocd negative though like a tornado it will pass you by afterwards be a nice blue cloudless sunny sky😊
Your videos are great and really help me out! Thank you so much
Like in that scary movie we be like oh is this the part where I get anxious? Oh no im sh!dding my pants oh no it's falling down my leg oh oh okay now it's trailing behind me
I use the maybe or maybe not trick and it calms down I feel better
Yes! I literally just figured this out a couple days ago
I love your humor!
Thank u. I can't afford therapy so this is helpful. It's true my husband said to mock it or be like oh really? Ok lol. And to know u aren't your thoughts. I make videos to encourage people to have hope through their mental struggles and am training to b a therapist one day. Thanks for your vids 🙏☀️
this video was really helpful. Thank you so much!!!
Damn this dude understands
Excellent Thanks I heard this a while ago now I'm reminded #nomorefightingocd
Love your style!
Thank you so much for your videos. They’re really helpful!
Good advice thanks
I tell my Ocd that I am so exicited to get better right now by not doing this compulsion
Love u brother ❤️❤️❤️
Much love!
Worrying if I should be worried 😂. Then worrying why I'm not worried anymore.🤣
True saviour😀
Nothing helps. It still makes me think it. Idk what to do anymore dude
Keep trying! It will get better x
Man, you're awesome, love you 😂😍❤❤❤❤
I hold ice cubes!! I say that i can’t compete cause i have to wait for them to melt and by the time they do my anxiety has mostly if not completely faded :)
this helped me so much, thank you
I am going to try it!
I get weird anxiety about using certain words.
I wonder if you have videos about supporting people with OCD esp. in the context of Coronavirus?
I have this one. How To Help Someone With OCD
Very helpful. Thank you sir.
Yes im Boss my fight starts here
Sinai helpful..... genuinely working on me .... thanks 🙏 😃
My problem is that it will go from fighting me to complimenting me. You can't insult someone and then pretend that you didn't insult them. So my OCD does that. Whenever I try to stop arguing, it will become emotional and start "trauma dumping". I sometimes get relief when I silence my thoughts. Because it's competing with me, I guess, so maybe when I go silent, it does too.
Yep, I've had experience with the complementing thing too. Although, it's the opposite for me, I can't stand silence as of now. I need either an audiobook or music, otherwise the statement loops go wild. They are oddly silent when I listen to audiobooks. And sometimes, if I notice a description that relates to my OCD and the thoughts pop up again. I'll say: "Remember that description, that's you. Oh and this is boring me, you've stated it a million times." Just a way to cope with humour I guess, lol.