What Not To Say To An Autistic Person

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  • Опубликовано: 30 окт 2024

Комментарии • 27

  • @dolson27
    @dolson27 2 месяца назад +5

    "But you're so smart!"
    🙄

  • @squirellysian
    @squirellysian 2 месяца назад +8

    Thank you, I am so sick of "we're all a bit Autistic" or "Oh but you're not severely Autistic right?" and I've lived most of my life without a label, it wasn't better, I am so much more able to cope now I have the vocabulary to find my community and resources to help me manage my struggles.

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад +1

      You’re welcome. Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment. I totally agree with you, so much easier to cope when you know what you’re dealing with. 🥰

    • @Sarah-with-an-H
      @Sarah-with-an-H 2 месяца назад +1

      Best comeback to everyone is a bit autistic is "it's a spectrum yes, but if you're over here you're not going to understand me and I'm not going to effectively communicate with you while there's not that communication issue with other autistic people"

  • @srldwg
    @srldwg 2 месяца назад +2

    First off, subscribed. I like you, and how you presented this topic with raw emotion.
    Ignorance isn't stupidity. It sucks that people say ignorant things, but they will. If I'm simultaneously willing to give the person a break for stuff that they don't have knowledge on, and stand firm in how an ignorant statement makes me feel, I can now open the door to being open minded on providing education to someone on a topic they have little knowledge on in a balanced way.
    This has helped me through educating people whom I have as providers in the medical community.
    Instead of judging their reaction, for both our sake, to keep the conversation continuing to the path of education, I took a deep breath and processed my emotions.
    Then I kindly let them know why that assumption is commonly made, and provide the information that can help them understand.
    In the time that a recipient of an ignorant response/statement can just stop the conversation and no longer communicate/educate, because the response they received caused them upset, irritably, etc, assuming the intent of the other person - they could have communicated many pieces of education.
    To be clear, we all validly have our limits. (The rants that I have had to my boyfriend about how "people can be stupid" are more than I care to admit.😂 Especially when I am having a meltdown 😖)
    This video will hopefully be taken with a grain of salt by people who are uneducated when it comes to autistim.
    They can understand that this is frustrating to us, but they are not bad for not knowing or not having know the facts.
    That ignorant things being said do not equal ill intent.
    Bad intent equals bad intent, and accountability is important when that is the case.
    Thanks for this video.
    Thank you for helping the community.

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад

      Thanks for subscribing and taking the time to comment. I agree that education is key, I think I’ve just been so frustrated with the comments recently towards myself and my son, that I needed to rant! 🤣

  • @etsmikep
    @etsmikep 2 месяца назад +3

    The two (twin?) concepts of "How autistic" and "we're all a little bit" ... so frustrating. There's got to be some way to tell people I'm autistic without eliciting such an uneducated attempt at consolation. I don't need to be consoled, I need people to stop messing with my pattern!

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад +2

      Yes, the fact they think we need consoling is insulting in itself!!!

  • @MissMausoleum
    @MissMausoleum 2 месяца назад +5

    Orion Kelly said in one of his videos, and it with me, that if you meet an autistic person, you've only met one autistic person, because the experience is different for everyone. Idk if that made sense, but I tried😅

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад

      Yes it does make sense and is absolutely spot on. 👍

    • @dolson27
      @dolson27 2 месяца назад

      It's a pretty common saying in the autistic community 😊

  • @GGHD76
    @GGHD76 2 месяца назад +1

    I have a 20yr old with severe Autism. After years I've finally accepted that I have some level of Autism. I do think it's important to have a diagnosis to see where you are on the spectrum, as early as possible, to get any help you may need.

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад +1

      It took me a while to accept that I was autistic too, after realising my son was. I agree with the diagnosis. My son has been diagnosed and I have my first appointment in a few weeks. It’s a bit of a process, but we’ll get there in the end!

    • @GGHD76
      @GGHD76 2 месяца назад +2

      ​@@thediaryofnow You will! I'd love to get diagnosed but, I'm 48 now, just going to carry on. 😂

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад

      @@GGHD76 Yeah, good for you. It’s good that you’ve recognised it in yourself. I’m 42 and never thought I’d be going on this journey, but here we are!!! I didn’t even know there was autism in my close family (no one ever spoke about it) until very recently!

    • @GGHD76
      @GGHD76 2 месяца назад

      @@thediaryofnow you're doing the right thing, and it is a journey, we're learning all the time and leaving our print for the next ones.

  • @abell509
    @abell509 2 месяца назад +7

    1. Autism is a superpower.
    2. You don't look autistic.
    3. We're all a little bit autistic.
    4. But you're only a little autistic, right?
    5. Why do you need a label? Why not just get on with it?

  • @antarcticcat
    @antarcticcat 2 месяца назад +1

    I finally feel I have discovered why I am the way I am. I tried telling my husband and sister this and they give me these responses. It's very frustrating. I feel I need to keep everything to myself. I feel so alone.

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад +1

      I’m so sorry you feel that way. Perhaps you can show your husband some videos that may help him understand.

  • @Yallah_Studios11
    @Yallah_Studios11 2 месяца назад +1

    such a fantastic vid, very cathartic to watch

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад +1

      Ah, thank you. So glad you liked it. Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. 🥰

  • @Positivekitten
    @Positivekitten 2 месяца назад +1

    Most people are just convinced that if you are not presenting with any type of the stereotypical look of a disability, they are used to seeing in the media, you are either faking or they need to give a backhanded compliment like “you don’t look…”. I wish we could have more outreach and educational programs
    In schools so that kids could understand different disabilities and how, just because someone in a movie or a TV show that is portrayed of having a disability, or you happen to know someone who has a particular disability doesn’t mean that everyone with that disability is going to look or act the same way.

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад

      Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. Completely agree with you. Education is key.

  • @inikainika1523
    @inikainika1523 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you

    • @thediaryofnow
      @thediaryofnow  2 месяца назад

      You’re welcome. Thanks for watching and commenting. 🥰