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It’s so many emotions. Thank you for making space! It feels like grief, relief, confusion and kind of mourning. It’s made me have a bit of an identity crisis too bc now I’m not just lazy, incompetent, stupid or whatever awful words I’ve been told (and subsequently tell myself), I’m autistic. There are reasons for my struggles. Still, it’s hard learning to be kind and accommodating and feeling worthy of accommodation. Dx at 41

You are right there... Keep Moving!!!😊

Such good advice

I say everyday this: "Today is a big holiday, we celebrate the "everyday life"! Love💚

And if I can give you an idea for one of your next Videos: When I am choosing what Videos to look on RUclips, I never look on the "views" of the channel or the "likes". I just look at the content if it is good for my philosophy. I don't want to do what most people are doing but what I find is good for my mindset. Selftrust!

I am doing it myself too! But now that I am listen it from you, I am going to do it more! It is like self programing. Thank you!

Thank you for your advices on life!💚

Thank you god doing this video!! I needed the validation for why parenting feels so much more challenging for me, as an autistic parent. I really wish I had known to use ear plugs when I still had babies- the sound of crying was always SO hard to deal with. I’ve seen other moms be so calm when their baby is crying; hearing my babies cry put me into a panic. I was definitely “touched out” much of the time, and not having quiet to recover/not getting enough sleep was brutal. I remember, right after we brought our third baby home, my husband would tell me to go get some sleep, and, even though I was exhausted, I couldn’t get myself to relax. Breastfeeding made me feel claustrophobic. I have a blog where I’m writing about my experiences; I’ll be writing about parenting in the near future. This video has given me more to think about. ❤

You look great with your hair buzzed. Do you enjoy having it on a 0? I’m autistic too and love buzzing mine off on a 0 at the start of every month haha

Thats nice! Happy long hair growing! I will keep on watching the progress! Thanks!

Thank you!

Thank you so much for this! I really needed to hear this today...

I’m on year 11 of homeschool with my three (probably autistic) kids- the ability to pace ourselves and takes breaks when we need has been amazing! I wish I could’ve been homeschooled!

Have you thought of wearing earrings and sunglasses to accessorise

Extremely elated & low mood could still indicate a subthreshold bipolar condition. "Crazy" is not a very helpful label.

Thank you!

Can you talk more about your parenting experiences? I’m 40 and recently self-diagnosed, and I’ve been feeling like a crap parent for so long (I guess mostly when my kids were littler and needier), but have found very little talked about parenting while autistic.

I'm on medication for bi polar and anxiety. This is something I'm definitely going to look into. I also believe I have innatentive adhd. Thank you for this video 😊😊

This is such a lovely valuable message you're sharing. Thank you!! ❤✌️☯️ Yes, I've just recently become aware of how many of my family members are on the spectrum, but we all get along splendidly with my non autistic family members. I feel as long as everyone is a caring and loving entity then it's easy to get along.

I'm autistic, my hubby hasn't been assessed but is definitely neurodiverse, and both of my children (female at birth) now adult, are both diagnosed. Familiar themes in this video :)

Thanks for this. It echoed my own experience.

Yes…. I’m 74 and just finding out I’m on the spectrum. So much of my shame was lifted. I felt a great deal of relief. The problem I have now is trying to explain this to my children and other family members.

Please, can you describe some of the answers you gave (if you feel comforteable to) I myself am questioning, and Im a 35 y o woman :/

I was just diagnosed last week at the age of 48, and I think everything you say there really resonates. I'm now into a whole transitional phase where I need to figure out who I want to share that information with and how best to do it. Having the diagnosis feels really good and validating, but I'm still coming to terms with what it means for me in terms of relationships and career prospects. I think it's probably going to take some time for me to start feeling comfortable with thinking about myself in that way before I can really be confident about discussing it with others.

Things we use in everyday's life today, (especially scientific and technological things), they would be considered as "crazy", or impossible, some time in the past, of our human history!

Yes be grateful for every little thing. I agree. It really does work. ❤️

I was diagnosed last year, aged 41, and I do sometimes feel like an imposter. I spent four decades assuming I was 'normal'. I'm really struggling to keep it all together right now, and I remind myself that I'm autistic in a world not designed for me. The autism RUclips community is my sanctuary.

40yo recently self-diagnosed here. I’m binging your videos 👍🏻👍🏻

I’m 40yo and have only worn make up on my wedding day. I’m really glad my husband doesn’t care.

It really suits you! I’ve thought about cutting my hair really short (maybe a 4 or so) for months, but it’s hard to commit- what if I freak out right after and regret it completely?? 😬

Imposter syndrome can REALLY mess with you at times, you're not alone and im so proud of your journey, best of luck :)

Such good advice, i personally always start each and every day by thinking of something to be grateful for, I call it 365 Grateful. Make the choice to be an optimist, not a pessimist

Right! Thank you! 🌸🎵💙🌈

its insanely hard ! and the constant strain makes life an eternal burnout. i try -though not always succed- to keep a healthy blaaance between my needs and my kid's needs, and to also teach them about limits and boundaries . but who ever said it takes a village was not joking... sadly in our modern individualistic world finding one isn't easy. T^T

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Congratulations! I’m also Vegan. I’m an anti fur activist. Wondering if London is going fur free anytime soon?

i love this! im subscribed and im glad it goes to a good cause😊

I'm ADHD, probably AuDHD (only have the former officially diagnosed for now) and I have a very irregular work/effort output, which has always been an issue at school then at work. It always hurts to hear "if only you took less breaks, with your productivity, imagine how much you would achieve", because people who say this don't realize that if I don't take all of those breaks, that amazing productivity goes down the drain too, and you only get slow and poorly done work out of me. I realize it's inconvenient for planning and coordination, but that's how it is, you have to look at my productivity as an average over time. I'm a sprinter, not a marathon runner. Or like a surfer waiting for the next wave of energy and motivation. There can't be waves constantly, by definition they come and go. I NEED that amount of rest to be my best self. Also simply in terms of my happiness and health, because productivity is not everything, damnit.

If it's so affordable could you show how? With how much money you spend on each meal recipe. Maybe cooking challenge series? I'm curious, tried many times, and filed

What was the purpose of the charity?

Vegan for life (mine and theirs) :)

Totally agree. I'm proud to be vegan for the animals. It is the kindest lifestyle. :)

A good cardio workout is getting your heart rate up to about 70% of your maximum safe heart rate.

Thank you for this, I really needed to hear to detect , reflect, accept and understand myself right now. To go at my own pace :) Much love to you! 💟

I had my hair shaved once. This was actually the sign of my self destruct tendencies. I was suffering from deep depression in my late teens, and my parents were totally misunderstanding everything. They were like "if you'd be learning like you should, you'd have no time for being depressed". I wanted to scream, often cried. Once I have painted my hair, face and hands with some leftover enamel paint from painting walls, because I didn't want to go to school (they forced me to go even if I was genuinly sick). I was really in a bad shape and even looking back, I needed to rest. After that I tried to get rid of the paint, but it stayed on my hair. So I had no choice, but to shave it. I couldn't wait my hair to grow back. I wore a wig, but I still felt bad about it, as my natural hair was way thicker, shinier and had nicer color. It also had a natural white strand above my left ear, which I really loved - it looked so cool, like it was from a fantasy movie. I felt stuck for like 1.5 years (my thick hair do not fall down util they're at least 10cm long, and even then they tend to look pulled up; think of an afro, but from straight hair standing upright) looking like I didn't want to look. Now, when I'm a mother and a homemaker, I don't have time for daily combing or such, yet I'd never go even for short hair. I just discovered hairstyles that do not require too much care and look OK. So whenever I need to, I can look really good. I have long, heavy hair, but after learning more about actual haicare, I've learnt how to care for them to save time and especially - money. And as for cutting them - I've been cutting hair myself for like forever. Nowadays there are really good tutorials for various long haistyles. I always cut myself (yes, myself!) by layering. And all I need is just a comb, some water, haiband, good scissors and like 30 minutes - mostly for combing. And I do it only once a year. So in my case shaving a head was not liberating, it was a sign of a sickness.

I find it interesting that 100% for us is maybe entirely different than for them. I have this thought that their 100% is our 70%, because usually when neurotypicals give it 'their all' it seems that they're not.

Great idea but how. If you tell your employer you're struggling, you're a problem and employers get rid of problems. NDs are already suffering a higher unemployment rate and if you can string a sentence together, you can forget about PIP or any other benefit. The vast majority of people do not care about ND. I'd love a break but instead I'm running on three hours sleep because of having to deal with other people and their mess ups. No one else will pick that up. I agree about burnout but what do you do when you have no option. You go until you can't and then you crash. I hope your other viewers have better luck but realistically it doesn't happen for most NDs.

How do you know what failure is?

pffft ive been trying to do that since ive been a child but i can never feel still or calm yet im constantly trying to be calm, but to be fair all i knew about myself growing up was i had adhd and was hyper......parents were to lazy to diagnose me, so im the "reason they drink" or some thing and the goals they set were never achievable for me and they never took the time to help me learn to cope in healthy ways.....hope you get big and help others like me that were just tossed to the side