Marriage Separation Advice (Separation Anxiety)

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  • Опубликовано: 19 сен 2024
  • In today's video, I am talking about the separation anxiety that we go through when we get separated from our spouse. Separation anxiety is a normal thing to go through when you don't want to be separated from your spouse. It can be hard to go through but it is something that you can get through.
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  • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
    @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  2 года назад +5

    Are you going through a separation and feeling anxious?
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  • @joannparker1977
    @joannparker1977 2 года назад +11

    Tasha, your video makes such sense. My husband and I will be having our 39th anniversary in less than 2 weeks. Tonight, he wants a separation. So, I’m going to be leaving our home in Austin to stay with my best friend in Fort Worth. Although it’s going to be hard, I’m doing it. Going to have to leave my sweet little doggie Max and my son Geoff. But. You are right. I’m going to have to get my shit together. Put my emotions in time-out. I’m being remarkably calm right now. But when he left to go with the place he’s staying with my friend, I broke down. We began dating 41 years ago this month. So much shared history.
    After listening to your video, I will be searching no further videos. Bless you for your inspiration. And whether it works out in the end, who knows. But I certainly feel better. ❤️

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  2 года назад +1

      Well that's what my aim is. To just help people feel better. I know it's hard and thank you for sharing your story. You two been together longer than my husband and I so I can understand the history and the life shared. But you can get through this just focus on you during this time.

  • @ronblakeofficial
    @ronblakeofficial 10 месяцев назад +6

    I really needed this. My wife after 25 years has moved out on me a month ago. This is so hard and all I want is to reconcile our marriage. I am trying so hard to be patient.

    • @Hopeless-cv3cj
      @Hopeless-cv3cj 6 месяцев назад +1

      How are you doing so far?

    • @ronblakeofficial
      @ronblakeofficial 6 месяцев назад

      @@Hopeless-cv3cj Things are the same. She is still cold to me. I keep praying for her heart to soften. The problem is outside influences manipulating her.

    • @Hopeless-cv3cj
      @Hopeless-cv3cj 6 месяцев назад

      @@ronblakeofficial I feel you about outside influences that can potentially influence her. All we can do is be the best person we can be and hope they see.

  • @jessicavegathigpen1681
    @jessicavegathigpen1681 2 года назад +6

    This was so good and helpful in redirecting the "thoughts, anxiety and fears" makes alot of sense to work on myself while just being patient during this process.

  • @jsolo254
    @jsolo254 2 года назад +17

    I needed to hear this cause man I miss my wife

    • @SESrivemor88
      @SESrivemor88 Год назад +2

      I feel you man. Me too. We just separated 3 weeks ago.

    • @bigrelly2001
      @bigrelly2001 6 месяцев назад +1

      Trust me fellas it gets better

    • @jsolo254
      @jsolo254 6 месяцев назад

      @@bigrelly2001 been standing for 3 years now

    • @dwightwiley490
      @dwightwiley490 4 месяца назад +1

      Mine too Big Dawg 💔

    • @jsolo254
      @jsolo254 4 месяца назад

      @@dwightwiley490 bruh it’s been 3 years. Most people would have been like forget it. I’ve had a lot of women try to talk to me too but that ain’t what I want, I want my wife and my family back💯💯

  • @Siah69251
    @Siah69251 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank You Tasha! Mind opener for me. We are still living in one roof, She just want to love herself and that her door is still open.

  • @Brispluggz
    @Brispluggz Год назад +4

    That’s how I was just a few weeks ago. I sent flowers. She loved them. We Been communicating on the daily now again, we weren’t talking. We just had a 3 day get away. She told me since I am still her husband is she wants too work it out. She wants too heal together. Now we’re looking into getting our own place together… Love your channel, & your advice. It really helps with the mental.

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  Год назад +1

      Thank you. I'm glad you two have decided to work things out. Your comment means a lot. I'm here to help as much as I can.

  • @Kidrobot016
    @Kidrobot016 Год назад +3

    Ive been watching this on repeat to not only understand what to do, but to also soothe the pain. I am afraid. Im trying not to be.

    • @soniaho5173
      @soniaho5173 Год назад

      Me too ❤️‍🩹

    • @ryang1589
      @ryang1589 4 месяца назад

      Yep, I noticed I was doing the same thing

  • @Noya89
    @Noya89 2 года назад +5

    I'm so glad I found your channel! So many great tips. My husband has been hinting and speaking on coming home to me and I've noticed that it's when I have my emotions under control and not being argumentative and pushy.. but he's also is saying he still needs time and this is going on 2 years of being apart. We've been spending more time together but I feel like It's only when him and his girlfriend or ex-girlfriend are on bad terms. When I question him about her, he always says they are not together anymore but he needs time before he
    jump back in a relationship with me. I think he's in a dilemma between me and her. I've caught him lying several times when it comes to her. We also just had twins during our separation because we are still sexually active with one another and that still haven't been special enough for him to completely leave that girl alone and come back home. Some days he's super in love with me saying he's ready to come home and other days he's not affectionate at all and calls me by name.. I feel like he's confused. Do you think that's a good idea for us to still be having sex? I don't want to push him away to have sex with his now girlfriend 😔 but I also don't want to be feeling used. If you can Please help me Tasha

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  2 года назад +4

      This is a dilemma I faced with my separation too. Now my husband wasn't dating anyone else to my knowledge because if I asked he denied and there were some questions I wouldn't ask because I was afraid of the answer. I'm doing a video on this in the next two weeks. But I didn't want to push my husband away as well because of the same reason I didn't want to lose him. But even though it's your husband you can't keep anyone with sex. From what it sounds like he is confused. I'm not sure why he's holding on to the other woman but I feel like he's not thinking about your feelings at all. Most guys want to feel needed. It's not just sex, they want to feel like they are making a difference and that could be why he's confused as well. (I'm assuming). Men want to feel useful he comes to you because you are what he knows. But if you are using that "I can do this without you" that also can push a man away. I know you can do it, he knows you can do it. But like I said he also wants to feel like he's helping. What I would do is take some time and think. I wouldn't have sex every time I see him and don't worry about the other woman because honestly, she holds no candle to you. You may not think so be she has to work harder to keep his attention you don't have to. You have to put your feelings first and that has to be your focus your feelings and your mental health. I hope this helped you.

    • @ashleyh3672
      @ashleyh3672 2 года назад

      This is becoming my reality and it hurts so bad 😢

    • @Noya89
      @Noya89 2 года назад

      @@ashleyh3672 🙏💗

  • @nechamascher7199
    @nechamascher7199 2 года назад +3

    Exactly what i needed to hear now.....
    Thanks for your videos!

  • @soniaho5173
    @soniaho5173 Год назад

    Thank you 😔🙏 I needed to hear this. The anxiety is killing me..

  • @stalinreece4452
    @stalinreece4452 Год назад +3

    I really to hear this I am a total mess dealing with my separation

  • @elmo319
    @elmo319 Год назад +2

    Just don’t bother, when it’s over it’s over, move on

  • @npblevins
    @npblevins Год назад +2

    I like what you said about when you have a conversation with your spouse have zero expectations! I am definitely at the point now were I’m no longer trying to get my spouse back but just working on me! Thanks for this video ❤

  • @damondupre5350
    @damondupre5350 Год назад +1

    This was great, Tasha! I needed to hear this.

  • @psauce7282
    @psauce7282 Год назад +1

    I miss my wife with all my heart. I just finished my therapy. I wish that we can fix things.

  • @Slimjdawg83
    @Slimjdawg83 Год назад +1

    I really need this I’m recently in a separation it’s going on two weeks…. I did a lot in the past and the past is causing my present hard

  • @8tremundo175
    @8tremundo175 Год назад +2

    This anxiety is killing me. She ignores me and stone walls me to death and im having soooo much trouble getting over her and stop focusing on getting her back...

    • @imanivaldez5303
      @imanivaldez5303 11 месяцев назад

      It’s hard you have to let her go in your heart

  • @soniaho5173
    @soniaho5173 Год назад

    This is the best advice. Thank you

  • @lifewithme777
    @lifewithme777 4 месяца назад +1

    If they leave its God bringing in peace for the both of you unless there is infidelity involved then it's different then divorce becomes an option I too have seen infidelity and restoration thereafter. God allows divorce even though he doesn't like it he says it happens because of the hardening of the hearts which makes sense.

  • @jeraldbrownjr1381
    @jeraldbrownjr1381 Год назад

    Glad I listened to you yoing lady .glad i found your video

  • @gloverfamilypage1086
    @gloverfamilypage1086 Год назад

    Wow this is spot on what’s happening with me

  • @imanivaldez5303
    @imanivaldez5303 11 месяцев назад +1

    I’m finally at this point leave my husband alone even though I cheated on him I’m doing everything I could to show him I am changed person Chile that man just want to see me suffer . It sucks but determined to let him be

  • @esthermweemba3618
    @esthermweemba3618 Год назад

    Exactly what I wanted to hear thanks

  • @upaway8184
    @upaway8184 Год назад +3

    Why it has to be me? He cheated on me

  • @MarkieMcG.
    @MarkieMcG. Год назад

    Subscribing. This is so needed!

  • @jasonfromm5637
    @jasonfromm5637 2 года назад +2

    Exactly me, but Iam the guy, We live together and I still do all that, I need to relax

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  Год назад

      You do need to relax. I am the worrier in my marriage....I worry about everything. But if you put your anxiety on other people eventually they will walk away. Believe me, my husband almost walked away from me.

  • @christinemarieryan6010
    @christinemarieryan6010 Год назад +1

    Yes you do have emotional but there nowhere I'm taking my husband back it's time for a new being

  • @SHAY2DAA
    @SHAY2DAA Год назад

    This was very helpful

  • @jeanslade4954
    @jeanslade4954 Месяц назад

    what if i didn’t break the promise or want the separation. we will be married 25 years in october.

  • @JoJo-gy9sw
    @JoJo-gy9sw 6 месяцев назад +1

    Women require way too much maintenance. Me me me me. Don't change for them. Don't need them.

  • @alcy0ne1
    @alcy0ne1 10 месяцев назад

    Should I do joint thanksgiving with my separated husband? Some of the kids really want to.

  • @Ashlac
    @Ashlac 5 месяцев назад

    Mine is a little different. I have 2 kids from the marriage. So it’s stress and fear on how I will manage them alone.

  • @pfancy08
    @pfancy08 Год назад +1

    this is opposite for me. my husband us sweet and he tries. he needs to change. i hinted on what i want and i tried telling him. i am not sure he unferstands.

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  Год назад

      It's good that he tries at least. But maybe you should look at what you need instead fo what you want. The reason why I say this is because we could want a brand new car but what we really need is a reliable car. You may want your husband to be more affectionate but he might not be that so you need him to at least just tell you he loves you or in his way show you. Our husbands is not us and what we may do may not be what they are going to do. But you can also show him...So if there is something I need from my husband I'll do it for him and he in turn will do it for me. I hope you understood that. My brain is going faster than my typing.

  • @omarhenry3413
    @omarhenry3413 5 месяцев назад

    Love this to my bone

  • @georgeblackwell4670
    @georgeblackwell4670 6 месяцев назад

    I’m going through this we’ve only been married 4 years we have a 1 year old son and she’s currently pregnant now and she decided to move out 4 days ago.. it hurts so bad because I have no closure on the situation. I love my family

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 4 месяца назад

      How are things going? I’m currently going through it

    • @georgeblackwell4670
      @georgeblackwell4670 4 месяца назад

      Not good at all she doesn’t want to communicate with me but we are living in the same house again! That’s a positive but very little communication

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 4 месяца назад

      @@georgeblackwell4670 yes her moving back in is a positive. I think you will get through it. I am moved out. We communicate but just recently she has not been responding back even after asking for me to call Any advice?

  • @Wes1988
    @Wes1988 Год назад

    Hello, how are you? I tried to get the free guide, but I did not receive the confirmation email.

  • @joannparker1977
    @joannparker1977 2 года назад

    Tasha, I’m trying to get your free guide, but it’s not working. Am I required to sign up for Mail Chimp? If so, why?

    • @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor
      @TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor  2 года назад

      No you shouldn't be required to sign up for mailchimp at all. When you sign up for the guide it will ask you to subscribe I may have to change that you, but I put it in place to make sure people are ok with me collecting their e-mail. Do me a favor send an e-mail to my e-mail in my bio. I'll repy to the e-mail with my guide. I may have to look at what is going on with my link. Thanks for reaching out.

  • @courtneycarterdejesus
    @courtneycarterdejesus 2 года назад

    Hey Tasha, I’m trying to get your e-book but the link says it’s broken. Can you send me the right info? Thank you!

  • @pfancy08
    @pfancy08 Год назад

    book link did not work for me.