Hey ladies! Thanks for being here. I've decided to be very open about my marriage in hopes that it helps someone else. I'm so thankful that God can redeem any situation and my marriage is so blessed because of that. I hope to hear how I can pray for you!
Yes, I am going through a similar situation but my wife is Catholic. I am born again and since my daughters are now 22 and 24, my wife and I disagree on everything including parenting. Our marriage is a huge issue where her views on marriage is different than mine. We have marital and parenting issues. Please pray for us. I’m James and my wife is Thuy. I’m hearing God tell me to continue loving her and I shall obey. Thank you. This is a great video and God bless you!
Putting you on my prayer list right now. Have you watched any of Mike Gendron videos on Catholicism? He has a huge heart for Catholics and wonderfully breaks down their doctrine to show how it compares with scripture. May God continue to use you as an example and may He show grace to your wife and children!
this is so timely for me, I have been married for 11 years to be unbeliever. It has had its challenges in walk and I have recently been struggling with it. Thank you for sharing.
23:57 - I would like to know if you dedicated your son to the Lord at church and had a pastor pray over him as a baby/toddler and if your husband allowed it or not.
My son attends church with me and my husband allows it. I did dedicate him to the Lord. My husband actually prefers my son participate in my church, praise God!
My and my husband’s story is a bit more complicated. We have been together on and off for 10 years. When I got saved, we were together and living together. We were not married yet though. I was praying to God, like what do I do?! I want to get married, but we are technically unequally yoked. I can’t afford to go anywhere else, I couldn’t afford rent on my own, at the time I wasn’t making enough. It’s not like he didn’t believe in God per se, but he wasn’t reading the Bible, praying, or anything of that sort. Then, the Lord gave me a dream. I dreamt that I was walking toward a door and I opened it, and my husband was on the other side of the door. I immediately felt that the Lord was telling me that He wanted me to still marry my husband. Please pray for my husband, he has gotten a lot closer than he was to the Lord. He still has a long way to go, but God is moving through his heart.
That sounds very similar to my story. I was also living with my husband when we were just dating and I wouldn't have been able to afford to not to. (This isn't to say that anyone else should use that as an excuse because God will make a way). You are now married and I believe you know what you should do! (1 Peter 3:1) Your story is not over! Continue to pray. I have heard of a story of a woman who prayed for 40 years for her husband to be saved and he finally was. I would be careful relying on your dreams, sister. Our dreams may be able to come from ourselves or other entities while they seem like they are from God. (Some may be from God, some may not be). Jude 8 talks about evil people who relied on their dreams and were led astray from God because they trusted their dreams instead of His word. What's done is done and God can turn any situation for our good and His glory. I am praying for your marriage and your husband's salvation. I highly recommend Grace Bible Church Fair Oak's series on marriage. My unbelieving husband agreed to watch them with me and we have both majorly benefited. God bless you!
@ I know when certain dreams come straight from the Lord! Joel 2:28. God has spoken to prophets through dreams in plenty of instances throughout the Bible. I understand where you are coming from especially if this is not the way He speaks to you, but I take it to the Holy Spirit for confirmation.
It's scary and sad how many people go through with a wedding just because "they were already engaged" when something comes up during this engagement. Breaking off an engagement is NOT a sin or as bad as divorce. Now if the person is truly "in love" and feels like this is their true soul mate, all the power to you! But if something comes up like a difference in religious *beliefs* during an engagement...😬 I don't know, EXTREMELY risky to follow through with it "just because we are already engaged". Engagement means nothing and is not final. I pray it turns out well for you, but I hope and pray people know that breaking off and engagement is OK and might save you TONS of heartache and tears.
On a positive note, I appreciate you sharing your experience and being vulnerable and honest in sharing your struggles. It's very insightful and hopefully people will listen to your words of wisdom through personal experience.
Yeah, I'm guessing you didn't watch the whole video but that's exactly what I'm warning against. It's not "all the power to you" if you think you're with your true soul mate. If they aren't saved, there's your first sign you shouldn't marry. I was a BABY Christian and didn't know what to do nor did I have mature Christians in my life to warn me. But GOD, yet again, redeems and restores where we fail. There are amazing stories including one of a woman who prayed for 40 years for her husband to be saved and he finally was. I hope to be like that one day, but a lot sooner than later.
I did watch the whole video, you only quickly mentioned that you became a believer shortly after engagement, you did not mention that you had no Christian guidance in this matter. I guess I thought maybe you came from a Christian family and had a Christian background. Even if not, church pastor could have/ should have warned about this if you began attending a church after getting saved. But I'm sure there is more to your story than what you can fit into a video. Sorry I misunderstood.
I think what we call engagement is what the Bible calls betrothed. Breaking off an engagement would call for divorce papers according to the Bible. An example of this is Joseph and Mary. The wedding consummates the marriage. I guess the point is that with an engagement you promised to spend your life with that person at that time and biblically you're held to the commitment. Our culture has very much strayed from basic principles of marriage so we're all confused on how to do things.😓
I think towards the beginning of your video you mentioned you were already engaged when you became a believer (for real) and that you didn't feel right about breaking off the engagement. I think once the marriage is arranged you are considered betrothed and legally bound to your husband before God. If I'm understanding you, I think you did the right thing. Perhaps the Spirit led you in that? Hopefully that encourages you. My husband was a believer years before i was, and i was a new believer when we got married. I prayed for a husband and that God would show me what I need to know about Him. I see now how God was leading me even with my little knowledge of Scripture. Just obey your head and show the beauty of who the Bride of Christ is by obedience and subjecting yourself to the man God put over you, like 1 Peter says.❤❤
Thank you for your encouragement! I wouldn't anyone to think that they are legally bound to someone just because they are engaged. I don't believe that to be true but I could wrong and I am open to hearing of any verses that speak to this. Yes, now I believe that God has redeemed my situation and I have hope and trust in the Lord! Thank you! :)
Almost everyone is unequally yoked on some level and in different areas but man I sure couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who wasn’t at least trying to learn and knew and believed the basics
Right, but this is about being unequally yoked regarding saved/unsaved relationships. Even if someone is trying to learn the basics but doesn’t make Christ their Lord- I still wouldn’t recommend being in a relationship until there was a true commitment made.
@cbebop5 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband.
Thanks for responding friend, I think there is a discrepancy in your understanding of the definitions of sanctification vs salvation. In Christianity, salvation is the act of saving a person from sin and its consequences by forgiveness through Christ who died on the cross. While sanctification is the process of continually being transformed into the image of Christ as you mature in the faith. Salvation is a gift that can only be given from God, while sanctification is a journey that requires effort and sacrifice, and maturation in the faith. In the video, she clearly states that she is a Christian, but her husband is still not a believer. He tolerates her faith, but he has not received salvation just by being married to a Christian woman. That's why she prays for him to receive the gift of a repentant heart that turns to Christ and asks for forgiveness of his sins and receives the gift of eternal life and relationship with Christ.
Responding to original comment: If that is the case, then why does it say in 1 Peter 3:1-2 “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” This verse is implying that if a woman is married to an unbelieving husband, her husband could be one over by her behavior. If he was already saved through their marriage, then there would be no need to try to win him over by her conduct. We are all responsible for our own sin and somebody else’s salvation does not cover another person’s. Man is appointed to die once then comes the judgment. If the salvation of a spouse saved another person, then they could boast that it wasn’t only Christ who saved them, but also their spouse. Also, if that was the case, my husband would love the Lord and he does not. I hope this was helpful. :)
@@WhensheseeksHim well said. May the Lord answer your prayers for your husband to receive the gift of salvation. God bless you, your marriage, and your family. 💛🙏🏾
The most offensive attitude a Christian can have is unbelief.Israel at the border of promised land entertained defeat and despair so God led them back to the wilderness to die over time.The spiritual posture that receives blessing is trust while circumstances say otherwise.So trust,trust and trust.An unbeliever has no idea of this way of living and moving through trials.
@ 2 christians can be unequally yoked as well.The litmus is trusting under trials.The whole nation walked in unbelief minus Joshua and Caleb yet they were His chosen and God wrote them off.I was trying to distinguish the difference between believer and unbeliever.
@@kevinkeenan4675 2 Cor 6:14 specifically says "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" and that is what my video is about. I don't believe two Christians can be unequally yoked unless one is a false Christian, and in that case, wasn't Christian to begin with.
Well done Amanda, this is such a helpful video. I love your testimony of the couple who has been married 60 years! What an example to us.
Thank you for this video.
Hey ladies! Thanks for being here. I've decided to be very open about my marriage in hopes that it helps someone else. I'm so thankful that God can redeem any situation and my marriage is so blessed because of that. I hope to hear how I can pray for you!
Yes, I am going through a similar situation but my wife is Catholic. I am born again and since my daughters are now 22 and 24, my wife and I disagree on everything including parenting. Our marriage is a huge issue where her views on marriage is different than mine. We have marital and parenting issues. Please pray for us. I’m James and my wife is Thuy. I’m hearing God tell me to continue loving her and I shall obey. Thank you. This is a great video and God bless you!
Putting you on my prayer list right now. Have you watched any of Mike Gendron videos on Catholicism? He has a huge heart for Catholics and wonderfully breaks down their doctrine to show how it compares with scripture. May God continue to use you as an example and may He show grace to your wife and children!
this is so timely for me, I have been married for 11 years to be unbeliever. It has had its challenges in walk and I have recently been struggling with it. Thank you for sharing.
I hope the verses towards the end were an encouragement to you! ♥️
23:57 - I would like to know if you dedicated your son to the Lord at church and had a pastor pray over him as a baby/toddler and if your husband allowed it or not.
My son attends church with me and my husband allows it. I did dedicate him to the Lord. My husband actually prefers my son participate in my church, praise God!
My and my husband’s story is a bit more complicated. We have been together on and off for 10 years. When I got saved, we were together and living together. We were not married yet though.
I was praying to God, like what do I do?! I want to get married, but we are technically unequally yoked. I can’t afford to go anywhere else, I couldn’t afford rent on my own, at the time I wasn’t making enough. It’s not like he didn’t believe in God per se, but he wasn’t reading the Bible, praying, or anything of that sort.
Then, the Lord gave me a dream. I dreamt that I was walking toward a door and I opened it, and my husband was on the other side of the door. I immediately felt that the Lord was telling me that He wanted me to still marry my husband.
Please pray for my husband, he has gotten a lot closer than he was to the Lord. He still has a long way to go, but God is moving through his heart.
That sounds very similar to my story. I was also living with my husband when we were just dating and I wouldn't have been able to afford to not to. (This isn't to say that anyone else should use that as an excuse because God will make a way). You are now married and I believe you know what you should do! (1 Peter 3:1) Your story is not over! Continue to pray. I have heard of a story of a woman who prayed for 40 years for her husband to be saved and he finally was. I would be careful relying on your dreams, sister. Our dreams may be able to come from ourselves or other entities while they seem like they are from God. (Some may be from God, some may not be). Jude 8 talks about evil people who relied on their dreams and were led astray from God because they trusted their dreams instead of His word. What's done is done and God can turn any situation for our good and His glory. I am praying for your marriage and your husband's salvation. I highly recommend Grace Bible Church Fair Oak's series on marriage. My unbelieving husband agreed to watch them with me and we have both majorly benefited. God bless you!
@ I know when certain dreams come straight from the Lord! Joel 2:28. God has spoken to prophets through dreams in plenty of instances throughout the Bible. I understand where you are coming from especially if this is not the way He speaks to you, but I take it to the Holy Spirit for confirmation.
It's scary and sad how many people go through with a wedding just because "they were already engaged" when something comes up during this engagement. Breaking off an engagement is NOT a sin or as bad as divorce. Now if the person is truly "in love" and feels like this is their true soul mate, all the power to you! But if something comes up like a difference in religious *beliefs* during an engagement...😬 I don't know, EXTREMELY risky to follow through with it "just because we are already engaged". Engagement means nothing and is not final. I pray it turns out well for you, but I hope and pray people know that breaking off and engagement is OK and might save you TONS of heartache and tears.
On a positive note, I appreciate you sharing your experience and being vulnerable and honest in sharing your struggles. It's very insightful and hopefully people will listen to your words of wisdom through personal experience.
Yeah, I'm guessing you didn't watch the whole video but that's exactly what I'm warning against. It's not "all the power to you" if you think you're with your true soul mate. If they aren't saved, there's your first sign you shouldn't marry. I was a BABY Christian and didn't know what to do nor did I have mature Christians in my life to warn me. But GOD, yet again, redeems and restores where we fail. There are amazing stories including one of a woman who prayed for 40 years for her husband to be saved and he finally was. I hope to be like that one day, but a lot sooner than later.
I did watch the whole video, you only quickly mentioned that you became a believer shortly after engagement, you did not mention that you had no Christian guidance in this matter. I guess I thought maybe you came from a Christian family and had a Christian background. Even if not, church pastor could have/ should have warned about this if you began attending a church after getting saved. But I'm sure there is more to your story than what you can fit into a video. Sorry I misunderstood.
I think what we call engagement is what the Bible calls betrothed. Breaking off an engagement would call for divorce papers according to the Bible. An example of this is Joseph and Mary. The wedding consummates the marriage.
I guess the point is that with an engagement you promised to spend your life with that person at that time and biblically you're held to the commitment.
Our culture has very much strayed from basic principles of marriage so we're all confused on how to do things.😓
I think towards the beginning of your video you mentioned you were already engaged when you became a believer (for real) and that you didn't feel right about breaking off the engagement. I think once the marriage is arranged you are considered betrothed and legally bound to your husband before God. If I'm understanding you, I think you did the right thing. Perhaps the Spirit led you in that? Hopefully that encourages you.
My husband was a believer years before i was, and i was a new believer when we got married. I prayed for a husband and that God would show me what I need to know about Him. I see now how God was leading me even with my little knowledge of Scripture.
Just obey your head and show the beauty of who the Bride of Christ is by obedience and subjecting yourself to the man God put over you, like 1 Peter says.❤❤
Thank you for your encouragement! I wouldn't anyone to think that they are legally bound to someone just because they are engaged. I don't believe that to be true but I could wrong and I am open to hearing of any verses that speak to this. Yes, now I believe that God has redeemed my situation and I have hope and trust in the Lord!
Thank you! :)
Almost everyone is unequally yoked on some level and in different areas but man I sure couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who wasn’t at least trying to learn and knew and believed the basics
Right, but this is about being unequally yoked regarding saved/unsaved relationships. Even if someone is trying to learn the basics but doesn’t make Christ their Lord- I still wouldn’t recommend being in a relationship until there was a true commitment made.
You become one once married. So if you are a believer, he becomes saved also.
Where in the bible does it state that? Please cite scripture. Does not sound biblically accurate at all.
@cbebop5 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband.
Thanks for responding friend, I think there is a discrepancy in your understanding of the definitions of sanctification vs salvation.
In Christianity, salvation is the act of saving a person from sin and its consequences by forgiveness through Christ who died on the cross. While sanctification is the process of continually being transformed into the image of Christ as you mature in the faith. Salvation is a gift that can only be given from God, while sanctification is a journey that requires effort and sacrifice, and maturation in the faith.
In the video, she clearly states that she is a Christian, but her husband is still not a believer. He tolerates her faith, but he has not received salvation just by being married to a Christian woman. That's why she prays for him to receive the gift of a repentant heart that turns to Christ and asks for forgiveness of his sins and receives the gift of eternal life and relationship with Christ.
Responding to original comment: If that is the case, then why does it say in 1 Peter 3:1-2 “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” This verse is implying that if a woman is married to an unbelieving husband, her husband could be one over by her behavior. If he was already saved through their marriage, then there would be no need to try to win him over by her conduct. We are all responsible for our own sin and somebody else’s salvation does not cover another person’s. Man is appointed to die once then comes the judgment. If the salvation of a spouse saved another person, then they could boast that it wasn’t only Christ who saved them, but also their spouse. Also, if that was the case, my husband would love the Lord and he does not. I hope this was helpful. :)
@@WhensheseeksHim well said. May the Lord answer your prayers for your husband to receive the gift of salvation. God bless you, your marriage, and your family. 💛🙏🏾
The most offensive attitude a Christian can have is unbelief.Israel at the border of promised land entertained defeat and despair so God led them back to the wilderness to die over time.The spiritual posture that receives blessing is trust while circumstances say otherwise.So trust,trust and trust.An unbeliever has no idea of this way of living and moving through trials.
Not sure what this has to do with my video. 🤔
@ 2 christians can be unequally yoked as well.The litmus is trusting under trials.The whole nation walked in unbelief minus Joshua and Caleb yet they were His chosen and God wrote them off.I was trying to distinguish the difference between believer and unbeliever.
@@kevinkeenan4675 2 Cor 6:14 specifically says "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" and that is what my video is about. I don't believe two Christians can be unequally yoked unless one is a false Christian, and in that case, wasn't Christian to begin with.