A Woman’s Value to Men, My Response to this big Lie
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- In this video, I respond to the flawed notion that women lose their #value to men at 35. This perspective is a big Lie. I define a lie as "any false or inaccurate statement, belief, perspective or impression that belies our innate wholeness and worth."
In this video, you'll learn:
* The three boxes the woman in the video believe you must be able to check off, to be of value to men
* Why buying into this young woman's perspective can leave your dream behind and your man without his woman
* What to do to attract and create the kind of relationship that you dream of, no matter your age, ability to bare children or femininity.
Ignore other people's ideas of how you should live your life. Our big universe has all kinds of people, needs and reasons for connection. So, dream your dream and dare to believe that what is in your heart is possible. Not because I say so, but because the laws of the universe make it so.
#worthy #trueself #beinspired #mindsetshift #relationships
When I stopped seeing myself through the perspective of “what men value” I started to love and appreciate myself so much more.
Good!! More women need to do this.
I listen to these discussions and it makes me more sure of my decisions to remain single and childfree. If my value plummets at 35 because im no longer beautiful and fertile then what's going to stop my husband from trading me in for the next young thing when i get older. I might as well save myself and my children from the heartbreak and find something else that will fulfill my life other than a man who will tell me im valueless at 35.
I agree but it's bit true only a fool would do that.
Exactly. I’m not sure if they thought their argument all the way through.
Ms Tina iam 66 yrs young and loving myself. I have found my higher vibration. Within me and it is beautiful.i go with the flow of my energy.🌻🦋🌹
Worst thing that ever happened to us was giving folks microphones and platforms to voice their ignorant opinions on podcasts.
I completely agree. These podcasts are so damaging and draining.
I wonder why the discussion is always about what men value but never what women value. Why is what men value so important??
Exactly. I'm sick of hearing what men value.
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Because women have been conditioned to center men, to make them the center of their world. And when we do not do that we are considered bitter and don’t know what we want… Ridiculous! Ridiculous!
Yes, what these men don't realize, is that the young woman will get older and so will you bm. Thank you for your message. I say, live your best life regardless of your age. You are so beautiful my sister. Peace to you.
That's why this conversation makes no sense. So basically men will be getting new spouses every 10 years? Why can't women get that too then 😂😂😂
My Mom is 79. The fact that these children think you have nothing go offer past 35 is mind boggling. My mother lives a life that’s enviable. She runs two social dance Teams, one of which dances at NBA 1/2 times. She’s extremely active in her social groups and travels. She gave up on dating just a few years ago, because they have nothing to offer her, but they persist in chasing her. She can’t beat them off fast enough. 😂
"In a universe as big as this" those words ALONE are so powerful.
You are so wise, charismatic and beautiful! I need more role models like this is my life as a youth (late 20s). I feel better for coming here.
Yes!!!🙌🏾 🙌🏾🙌🏾 we must decide for ourselves. Your inner creates your outer! ❤
She is pandering to her viewers.
Ooh, that made my skin crawl. I am 60 and no one dictates my value as a woman. This interviewer has a lot to learn.
Amen.
No one is more sexy and appealing to me than an older woman, a woman over 40. You make a very good point: don't operate on assumptions and generalizations. ASK ME WHAT I WANT instead of assuming you know what qualities are important to me.
Yes! Give this man a megaphone.
I absolutely love you and your videos. I am 47 and still learning! But I do know as a woman we have to love ourselves first.
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She may not know at her young age… but she will find out. I wonder what she will think after she matures and looks back at the interview .
I loved you on South Central and Queen Sugar!
Feminine behavior, youth, and fertility are good starts. Add compatibility, intelligence... and that's a great start. Round it out with responsibility and accountability, and women can (and men) can win in relationships and marriage, whether you want kids or not - that's how it's done. The young lady wasn't necessarily wrong, she just needed to add a few more character and personality traits to the discussion.
I love you Tina thank you for being yourself ❤❤❤
We can't tell a woman to not like what they like . But they shame men for our true for the majority of men. But the universal truth for the majority of women we just have to except . They make no apologies for what they want . But we are supposed to be grateful just for what we can get. Stand your ground on what you want just like they do.
I’m a woman and I agree.. woman can freely say I want 6’2 ect but when men say what they like yal get tore apart
I'm 6'3" I'm too tall damnit
I agree I don’t like nothing old but money! And an old man can’t do anything but bring me my coffee at Starbucks!
Yessss…..scroll pass! 🙌🏾💪🏾 Tina Lifford is surely my Auntie in my head! 🦋🌻💛
The Boxes are 1000% ACURATE!!!!!
And you are irrelevant and no one wants you😅
She’s so annoying 1:03
Love this; thanks so much for sharing your perspective.
Dang, this was an eye opener for me. I share some of the same thoughts and feeling of the lady speaking in the soundbite. This enlightened me to my narrow way of thinking and how I've placed all in a box meant for some only.
I think she was speaking of a specific age of men. A lot of men feel the way interviewer feel. The problem is that women do not listen to me. And think that they should think the way women think and men think differently. I was on The single side of dating and now I'm married and enjoy the things that the woman right now is speaking of. We men look for youth when we are looking for a woman then when we settle down we appreciate a woman that know how to treat us well. Please ask me something how men think because I and many men around men that are professionals think the same.
There are many men that think like what she said and as many that do not. Create your own cipher. I do not know men like these. Low vibration men just arent in my circle nor are women who would be in community with those men.
I think some of us value different things. So be it. We do have to be careful to think that what we value is universal. I agree sista❤️ i do think popular opinion is that of the young lady that had those boxes. I'm ok with being an outlier 🙏🏾❤️
Lies how can a woman lose value and a man don’t please this nonsense God don’t say that he said he who finds a wife finds a great thing not an age. Why old men like young women and young women don’t look at a man like he old I’m not dating or marrying him bc he old at 36 my husband 61 brother u can’t say that I lost value when u are old and I still married you people weird. I hate this nonsense going around. Kevin Samuels started this nonsense only some things I don’t agree with him on.
The challenge I have with most women is they are not contented and they don't know what they need and want
She speaks as if she knows ' all the men ' in the world. Further, some men don't want children.
It should not matter. Regardless of what men want...what do women want for THEMSELVES.
“A universe as big as this!” Yes. It is not universal. The algorithm is attracting manosphere men to this video. Unfortunately, these people are often very binaried thinkers. These types of men and women imagine that everyone thinks like them and want what they want. Not all women value couple-hood with men or to be in any relationship at all. And many older people have rich dating lives, yet youngish people don’t really ask them how their love life is because of ageism. Their world seem so sad and small.
Feminine woman will always be in higher demand to a masculine man.
The" Boxes" she named are important to men around the world. Even abraham valued fertility he didnt leave Sarah But he valued fertility.
Woman should establish certain relationships between 19 and 30 because it give a woman more dating and marriage OPTIONS the key word is options. Many older sistas give young woman advice they themselves didint use meanwhile they hooked grandpa in their 20s with beauty and formed an early connections. No one said men leave after beauty fades but lets not pretend its not a lure
And you can’t even afford children
She's not totally wrong since most men have that preference, but there are exceptions, my aunt found one in her late thirties or mid forties. I disagree with her comment about femininity since that remains with women forever.
Women often confuse the value she sees in herself with the value men sees in her. A better way of separating the two is to ask the women how is she benefitting a man? List what you do for that man. And that list is the value that man sees in you, simply put. Its amazing how women can see clearly that a mans value is what he does for her, but they act lost and dumbfounded when its the other way around. Their search for simps is at an all time high
So the men in your family all Left the women in your family after giving them children? Or after they turned 35? Or after they stopped cooking? Or after having Sex? Or after they stopped talking to them?
@@frijofroisdeern3783 yes relationships are conditional and the woman and man each has their role. That is what makes a husband and a wife. If you can't do your role and duty as husband or wife, go be with someone who will accept that structure. God structure is above family. God's principles and righteousness is above what you think is right
I thoroughly enjoyed your speaking I will be sure to listen to you more often I'm going to subscribe right now
"In a universe as big as this" FELT THAT ❤
I want to be honest I believe girls should know the truth so they can make informed decisions. Im 35 and when I date younger I take it seriously olders jus fun also eventually looks fade but if you’ve built a relationship and family with a man looks fading matters much less and I get it ladies all this doesn’t sound very nice but it’s all true also i don’t lead women on if I see them as only temporary or fun I say it up front
The problem is that young men don't want to settle down. No woman wants to be with an older guy, really.
@@ineedhoez you can't say not all young men. Some do but can't find that girl his age that feels the same.
I agree man, I fully agree.
@@bgrey55 have you seen a college campus?
@@ineedhoez ofcourse, but I'm speaking of young men that are graduated from school that are working and looking to make a family. No young man should think of marriage if he can't support a family. Those are the men I'm talking about. Not in college the older guys that are making money doing something.
Well said.
if she still fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, cooking & cleaning after 35, she has *nothing* to worry about
TBH, someone like that would've been wifed up a while ago.
@@Garanon5 as much as i wanna say "fax", i can't, but I'd like to think that's true in most cases
@@Garanon5That is not true. Dimes are found but treasures are hidden!
I love you and I appreciate you.
Wait till you hear my husband talk about body count and women's value. But good thing I know God has created me magnificently and I don't need his (my husband) to see how God sees me. He can follow all these influencers all he wants. Whatever floats his boat.
What does he have to say about body count? If he thinks high body count is a disease and not valuable, we might both agree.
This is deep!❤❤❤
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😮A Real True Man, is gonna value, from a Godly perspective, the interviewer interest spoken, unless you caught your husband younger, your opinion is gonna be different😮
Great analysis. Thank you.
The sad part is these men are not choosing her. 😅
Here is the problem.
Every girl takes what that white girl says to heart.
1. because they secretly know its true but theyre hoping/telling themselves its not.
2. Because theyre personalizing it to themselves and projecting.
If you knew 5 people who got into a car crash and survived without wearing a seatbelt, are you now going to stop wearing your seat belts? no.
of course, why would you? becuase you know 5 people who survived? because you feel that you'll be fine? Truely flawed logic.
In comparison to wearing a belt belt because statistics as a whole show that you are more likely to survive wearing one.
Point is.. Who cares if you havent lived it and who cares if your friends havent too. The fact is (coming from a man) that it IS TRUE. thru The whole of human history its been TRUE.
The nerve of some people to think something that is so innate and rooted biologically and socially in the history of the entire human species suddenly changed in 2023. To the point, even when MEN are telling you and showing you the opposite you still challenge it with your chest held high?? Wtf
Statistics on a whole, biology on a whole history on a whole.. all of these things show time and time again that men are more attractive to younger women.
Why? because its attractive. why? because its safer for our offspring. its safer for our relationship. There is less likely hood divorce. less likelihood of infidelity. Its genetics way of telling us as men to PUT ON YOUR FUCKING SEATBELT.
Now, there are situations where it doesnt work out that way. Heres the kicker.. A good percentage of those situations involve either men who dont see value in themselves and women who for whatever reason, couldnt find what they think they deserve in a dream partner.
A lot of those situations end in divorce because both parties are allergic to accepting simple facts of life and this is one of them.
If that's all men value then I don't value them at all.
But she must be around a certain type of man, not those that I know.
An average man wants kids. Multiple kids. So the best option is to find a friendly under 30year old. It will take some time to really know eachother then you get some children and BOOM she is 40.
So no way to get with a woman 35+ if you want to have a family.
And we be real honest right here now. MOST men want at least 3 children from the SAME woman and they want to be a good dad.
Almost every family with one or max 2 children, is because the mother wanted it so.
Men this is all social engineering and manipulation. Stop agreeing too much. There will be no positive outcome to it. Say loud and clear what you want and what you think. You may will find an agreement acceptable for both sides, if not, move on!
An average man makes 50k a year. He can't afford kids.
And you can’t afford children
The young woman interviewer makes it seem that all men and all women want the same things regarding fulfiling relationships. Even if what she says is true for many, it's not true for all. Finally, nobodys' worth and value is based on the opinions of others, it's based on knowing, accepting, and loving yourself for who you are as a human being and fulfililng your calling.
Opinions are like bootyholes. Unless colostomized, everyone has one.
Pearl knows exactly what shes talking about because Pearl actually talks and "listens" to what (valuable) men are saying they want in women.
Thing is women try to tell men what they should value and things simply don't work like that.
Either listen to what men want and adapt or be a leftover because men have listened to women and adapted.
Les goooo😅 Das car facts
She still single though 😂😂😂
Mam i enjoy listing to you but i respectfully disagree with you at a curtain point. When men are looking for a woman they look for the youngest looking and energetic woman that is sweet and thoughtful. Those attributes attract us to a female that we want to settle down with. Its not all men but most men. Now that i am married i enjoy a woman that know how to treat me and to listen to what i need to express to her and vise versa. But to get to that stage i was attracted physically to my wife and her youth and that opened the door for me to get to know her and see that she was a match for me. I know this because i am a man and men around me think the same and are educated men, that make good money. I feel that women do not know what men are looking for and want men to think the way they do. I really wish women ask men. Their thoughts and they would hopefully tell you.
No, that's just you and your friends. There's a world of men out there. I've met some of them.
Men tell women what they want all the time but they contradict themselves. My grandmother got married in her 60s and her husband was only a few years older than her. So you need to speak for yourself and not other men. Because not all men are the same and they don't all like the same things.
You can stay delusional all you want ladies instead of listening to what we say instead you are speaking for us lmao The exceptions don't make the rule. The fact that you guys refuse to see the reasons such as biology, nature, attraction and preferences.
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They not going to listen bro! Wasting your breath.
What nonsense and discriminatory argument is this. You obviously don't value yourself if you think that real men think so shallow.
I smell truth being told and delusion from you mam. She's spreading hard truths that ladies neee to know.
And I hear delusion from you, sir. So sad that those attributes the young woman said were necessary has never been sustained in truth or practice. Unless you can keep the same attributes she describes, because sir yours will wane as well, you better be happily married for ever. I’m with Tina Lifford. ✌🏾🖤
Your opinion matters little or none at all, you are basing men comming to you for sex as a witness of marketplace viability, if men want something, younger, firmer and prettier , your objections, denials and sophistry don't change that...here's the deal, a choice a 40 + year old woman a and a 30 year old woman, the man is 70-80% going to choose the 30 year old ...fact....
How old is Drayas current partner ? How old is Jeff Bezos partner? Yes men like Hugh Hefner want young girls they can exploit, but not men who value the essence of a woman go beyond a womans youth because his youth & his virility will go downhill too! Plenty of men leave their wives for younger versions just like many men seek age appropriate women they can connect & relate to on an authentic level
@@thelight1385 I get all that I want up to and including you if I wanted you....I suspect that I wouldn't....
@thelight1385 young men ruin young girls....trust and believe age is not nor has ever been a barrier .....only in the cliches of your undeveloped consciousness....you see I don't run after women of ANY age....they come to me...fact
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Women would choose the same. There are no fourty year old men that can compare physically to an eighteen to twenty-five year old man. There is no way you could keep up. You all are completely delusional.
Respectfully, you're missing a lot of context behind what Pearl advocates for and who is her intended audience. She advocates for men and against what I would call "toxic feminism". Her audience, naturally, includes many modern day western women in their 20's through 40's.
For a million different reasons, not all but MANY women have gotten a chip on their shoulder that has made them think they're entitled to the best life has to offer with zero effort on her part just for being a woman. They revel in their youth, sleeping around, leading men on, thinking they can settle down "later". The issue is, the kind of men most of these women dream of (6 figure salary, 6 feet tall, model looks, etc) will likely NOT be interested in committing to her when she's had her fun. Are there exceptions? Of course, but not enough to disprove what statistics say. As far as I'm concerned, Pearl is doing women a FAVOR by letting them know beforehand that media has lied to them and that men don't think like women.
By all means, it's good to have goals aim high and dream, but don't bet the farm on willing the powerball millions just because SOME people have won before. You have no one to blame but yourself if you didn't prepare for the very real possibility you wouldn't pick the winning numbers.
She’s saying a man who is looking to have children, who is looking to be married, your worth as a woman is greatest in your youth hate to say it, but it’s just like a used car when it loses value you get less money for it, so women who are looking to be married, who are looking to have children should not use up their best years and find this out too late.
That’s a blatant lie u cheap pick me. All of the top successful people didn’t get married or have kids until their late 30’s and older.
She used her years to heal, self develop, get educated, earn more money, travel, invest, etc before she even dream about having a temporary male.
You've gulped up the poison. It's a shame to be female and see your own self and others in such a one-dimensional way.
A woman in her 20s is still a young adult that wants to live her life. She's trying to find herself, not be used up for baby making purposes.
Whereas a woman in her 30s, typically having a more established career, money saved, experience with men is more prepared to enter into the reality of marriage and motherhood. Just because a child or a young woman has a womb doesn't mean she's ready to be fertilized.
And any man who can't understand this, gets what he deserves, because there's a lot of foolish women (like you) out here who will put yourself in a sinking ship to try and please others as opposed to doing what's actually right for yourself.
She understands exactly what was said and the intention. The point and fact remains that NOT EVERY MAN is looking to check off those boxes. Too many women who want to get married give up looking because they believe, in error, that they have nothing to offer. They’re literally trying to make money off of keeping women, living in a state of fear. It’s not working which is why birth rates have dropped and now they’re trying to take away women’s rights over our bodies.
I respect your view but i disagree. That girl in that video is right. Men prefer younger girls compared to 40 and 50 year olds , you might find few men who prefer 40 and over . If those men do not want children then they would not care about fertility.
Men prefer kids and dogs too. What men "want" is irrelevant to anyone who really desires peace.
Men may prefer it but most are not going to get it. Young women want virile young men as well. They only want a grandpa if they're using him for money.
If a man is 40, but he wants a 20 year old, it's because of two things. 1. He's emotionally 20. 2. He is looking for someone who is young and naive and doesn't see red flags.
Actually women lose value at 30 to me
And you never had value from the your first breath
Women are born valuable while u useless males need to build your value. The suicide rates are way higher in men. Women live longer than men by nature.
lol. for someone who believes that everyone is entitled to an opinion, you seem very quick to negate anothers opinion, and you seem to place vey high esteem on your own limited opinion. It sounds, just like what you claim the person in the video is doing, being a feminist. delusion isnt limited to the video you watched, its also applicable to your opinion and thoughts afterwards. lol.
You're delusional go outside and look at real humans once in awhile. You may actually learn something.