Sophie, We sent our two boys to daycare as well. This was 20 some years ago. I was so torn. I remember walking into the hall of my school just crying/sobbing that first day I left them. However, looking back now, with my boys in their 20s, I’m so glad I made that choice. My boys really excelled in school and started kindergarten very prepared. My oldest son graduated with 30 hours of college credit. I had a lot of support from my mom though when the kids were little. I taught the entire time before my boys were born, I’m still teaching now. My mom helps all of us even now, even my daughter in law. You can do it and there are positives. But, everyone has to do what is right for them. And I pumped with our second son for the entire first year, at school every day. I will give you a heads up. The hardest thing was when the boys would get sick in the middle of the night. If you can have a game plan for that, it might help when those times come up. I always had to have emergency plans ready. You can do this, and I do believe it will get easier as time goes on. But, again, everyone has to do what they feel is best.
Thank you for the reassurance and it sounds like you went through something similar with your kids and it makes me feel so good to know how wonderful your boys turned out. Having help from family is such a game changer as well! My in laws are about 45 min away and are wonderful about stepping in when we have a sick kid and helping out.
Oh Sophie! I got so emotional watching you through this video. You know I was an infant daycare provider for 20 years. If you ever want to talk I’m here. I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug.🤗🤗
I do know that and I bet you were the best!! I know so many of those providers take the best care of our littles and care so deeply for them which makes leaving my boys a little easier.
You are helping other mothers realize they are not alone. It is extremely hard. You will have to let go of some of the good things in order to do the best things.
Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with us. I don’t have any children, but I watch your motherhood videos as well simply because I enjoy you as a content creator. I love these kind of videos where you are just chatting about something. Hearing you just talk allows me to have you in the background while I’m doing house stuff without feeling like I need to glance over at what you’re doing.
I had my son when I was an active duty nurse in the Air Force in the late 80's. At that time, we got 4 weeks leave for a vaginal delivery, and 6 weeks for a C-section. My husband was an Air Force physician, and got no leave at all. To make matters worse, the hospital we were at was having a major inspection the month I delivered, and I was the nurse manager of my unit. While I was technically on leave for 4 weeks, in reality I was back at my office, with my baby, a week after I delivered. The only saving grace was that I worked on the OB unit, so there were lots of people around who would come and cuddle my son during their breaks, and my husband could come up to the unit at lunch to spend time with him. The day that I came off of leave, and we took our baby to the day care was one of the worst days of my life, and I felt guilt for the remainder of the time I was in the service. Fortunately, I left the Air Force when the baby was 9 months old, but I still feel regret for the time that I missed with him.
Baby does not need that much milk. Period. Look up paced feeding and educate the daycare providers. 24-30 oz per day total. You're doing great! Don't feel compelled to pump yourself into oversupply.
Baby does not need that much milk. Period. 24-30 oz a day total. Look up paced feeding and tell the daycare providers to do it. They are feeding him too much. You are doing great, don't feel compelled to pump yourself into oversupply.
Thank you for validating this! After this video I called my pediatrician and they gave the same advice, I have given them clear instructions now and it is SO much better for both him and for me mentally and physically now that they are spreading out the time and reducing the amount.
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Sophie, We sent our two boys to daycare as well. This was 20 some years ago. I was so torn. I remember walking into the hall of my school just crying/sobbing that first day I left them. However, looking back now, with my boys in their 20s, I’m so glad I made that choice. My boys really excelled in school and started kindergarten very prepared. My oldest son graduated with 30 hours of college credit. I had a lot of support from my mom though when the kids were little. I taught the entire time before my boys were born, I’m still teaching now. My mom helps all of us even now, even my daughter in law. You can do it and there are positives. But, everyone has to do what is right for them. And I pumped with our second son for the entire first year, at school every day. I will give you a heads up. The hardest thing was when the boys would get sick in the middle of the night. If you can have a game plan for that, it might help when those times come up. I always had to have emergency plans ready. You can do this, and I do believe it will get easier as time goes on. But, again, everyone has to do what they feel is best.
Thank you for the reassurance and it sounds like you went through something similar with your kids and it makes me feel so good to know how wonderful your boys turned out. Having help from family is such a game changer as well! My in laws are about 45 min away and are wonderful about stepping in when we have a sick kid and helping out.
Oh Sophie! I got so emotional watching you through this video. You know I was an infant daycare provider for 20 years. If you ever want to talk I’m here. I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug.🤗🤗
I do know that and I bet you were the best!! I know so many of those providers take the best care of our littles and care so deeply for them which makes leaving my boys a little easier.
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Choices - we all have them and they can be difficult
So true.
You are a great mom. Life is just difficult but things will be fine. ♥️
Thank you for taking the time to say that ❤
You are helping other mothers realize they are not alone. It is extremely hard. You will have to let go of some of the good things in order to do the best things.
100% very well said
Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with us.
I don’t have any children, but I watch your motherhood videos as well simply because I enjoy you as a content creator.
I love these kind of videos where you are just chatting about something. Hearing you just talk allows me to have you in the background while I’m doing house stuff without feeling like I need to glance over at what you’re doing.
That means SO much to me that even though this isn't content relatable to your life you are still watching. THANK YOU for being here and saying hi!
I had my son when I was an active duty nurse in the Air Force in the late 80's. At that time, we got 4 weeks leave for a vaginal delivery, and 6 weeks for a C-section. My husband was an Air Force physician, and got no leave at all. To make matters worse, the hospital we were at was having a major inspection the month I delivered, and I was the nurse manager of my unit. While I was technically on leave for 4 weeks, in reality I was back at my office, with my baby, a week after I delivered. The only saving grace was that I worked on the OB unit, so there were lots of people around who would come and cuddle my son during their breaks, and my husband could come up to the unit at lunch to spend time with him. The day that I came off of leave, and we took our baby to the day care was one of the worst days of my life, and I felt guilt for the remainder of the time I was in the service. Fortunately, I left the Air Force when the baby was 9 months old, but I still feel regret for the time that I missed with him.
Baby does not need that much milk. Period. Look up paced feeding and educate the daycare providers. 24-30 oz per day total. You're doing great! Don't feel compelled to pump yourself into oversupply.
You're so right. thank you
Baby does not need that much milk. Period. 24-30 oz a day total. Look up paced feeding and tell the daycare providers to do it. They are feeding him too much. You are doing great, don't feel compelled to pump yourself into oversupply.
Thank you for validating this! After this video I called my pediatrician and they gave the same advice, I have given them clear instructions now and it is SO much better for both him and for me mentally and physically now that they are spreading out the time and reducing the amount.