A Couple’s Final Words to Each Other Accidentally Recorded | The New Yorker Documentary

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  • A son makes a surprising discovery on his elderly parents’ answering machine after his father’s passing in Sara Joe Wolansky’s film “The Last Conversation."
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  • @davademon
    @davademon 4 года назад +2040

    "And before you know it, time will have passed.. and we'll be together again"

  • @joysoul4089
    @joysoul4089 3 года назад +1114

    My grandparents were married nearly 80 years, outliving 4 of their 9 children. She died not long before their wedding anniversary, and my grandfather wouldn’t go to her funeral. He went to bed and turned his face to the wall. A few months after that, he announced to the nursing staff that “I’m going to see my baby and I’m going tonight”. And he did. Cause of death? Decision (not suicide) - he was 98.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 3 года назад +57

      😭🙏💐

    • @Mexicobeanpole
      @Mexicobeanpole 3 года назад +80

      Sad, but also so lovely.

    • @doyoulovehimloretta1607
      @doyoulovehimloretta1607 3 года назад +52

      Omg I am balling hearing about your gpa.

    • @mikajo1971
      @mikajo1971 3 года назад +126

      My grandpa died in Sept..Grandmother died Nov on their wedding anniversary..Would have been 64 yrs...So they never spent a wedding anniversary apart..She went on to join him.

    • @clwbchbabycakes
      @clwbchbabycakes 3 года назад +62

      Yes, people can make a conscious transition. My friend's sister just did this a week ago.

  • @patriciacole8773
    @patriciacole8773 2 года назад +166

    The best gift a father can give his son or daughter is to love their mother.

    • @fiat3879
      @fiat3879 2 года назад +4

      My father has always said this & it’s TRUE💗

    • @patriciacole8773
      @patriciacole8773 2 года назад +4

      @@fiat3879 Coming back and reading this makes me think that our Heavenly Father loves His faithful Commandment keeping remnant church so much that it will draw the hearts of those in the valley of decision.

    • @appraiser1717
      @appraiser1717 9 месяцев назад +1

      My father did the opposite and this is very true. Thank you for sharing this. This quote really caused a reaction with me.

  • @saniya8885
    @saniya8885 2 года назад +176

    “Time will pass and we will be together again” BROKE MY HEART!!!! They loved eachother so much

    • @BeverleyMiller_
      @BeverleyMiller_ 2 года назад +10

      No, be happy for them bc their last conversation came true! They are together for eternity now💕

    • @opticon28
      @opticon28 4 месяца назад +1

      ​@@BeverleyMiller_ username checks out.

  • @abutterfly7975
    @abutterfly7975 3 года назад +1690

    We just accidentally taped my mom and dad talking for the last time while they were both in the hospital with covid, dad died shortly after that. They didn’t know that would be their last conversation.
    It all happened because the nurses pushed my dad down the hall to my moms hospital room so they could have dinner together, what a blessing that was for all of us. ❤️❤️

    • @jacquelinewubbena6604
      @jacquelinewubbena6604 3 года назад +99

      I'm sorry for your loss and grateful for your blessing.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 3 года назад +23

      😭🙏💐

    • @kellygrubbs915
      @kellygrubbs915 3 года назад +56

      I’m so deeply sorry for your loss but so precious that they were able to have dinner together and you were able to record their conversation. Cherished memories

    • @Angel-tw3ko
      @Angel-tw3ko 3 года назад +32

      May God please bless you and your family, I know the pain of losing your parents, I lost my dad in 2012, almost killed me.

    • @elsablue3646
      @elsablue3646 3 года назад +22

      Im so sorry your father passed to heaven. Its so sweet they were able to have dinner together. These are great loves. So wonderful to see and know of. Thank you for sharing. Someday we all will be with our loved ones in heaven again. The blessed hope. God bless you.

  • @65sheilakay
    @65sheilakay 3 года назад +1190

    This man's Mom and Dad had everything people strive for in life.

    • @carriecardwell608
      @carriecardwell608 3 года назад +15

      Amen

    • @marmitenot.
      @marmitenot. 3 года назад +46

      And so many more could be blessed with this if they realized marriage can be very hard sometimes. Nothing worth having ever comes easy, but people give up at the first sign of adversity instead of sticking it out.

    • @robingagan6288
      @robingagan6288 2 года назад +8

      And so did he

    • @beanghelly5666
      @beanghelly5666 2 года назад +2

      I agree

    • @merncat3384
      @merncat3384 2 года назад +7

      @@marmitenot. the problem is.. people don't know how to laugh at things and pick their battles. not everything is THAT serious. many problems can be avoided if people just let it go.

  • @h.r.puffinstuff431
    @h.r.puffinstuff431 3 года назад +187

    His Dad sounded like a great guy! And so in love with his wife! How awesome!

    • @aikaterineillt9876
      @aikaterineillt9876 2 года назад +1

      Blind obsession is not awesome.

    • @h.r.puffinstuff431
      @h.r.puffinstuff431 2 года назад +3

      Aikaterine Illt How is this blind obsession?

    • @josephdockemeyer6782
      @josephdockemeyer6782 2 года назад +2

      @@aikaterineillt9876
      "Blind obsession"? WHAT?
      This is a loving man who had a heart attack and can't see his wife.

    • @h.r.puffinstuff431
      @h.r.puffinstuff431 2 года назад +2

      Aikaterine Illt It is called true love! True love is blind, but not obsessed. True love loves through sickness- mental and physical. That is true love. Back then lots of people took their marriage vows seriously, unlike the throw away love of today.

  • @Silenced23
    @Silenced23 2 года назад +381

    It was like she didn't have Alzheimer's when she was speaking to him. She missed him too, she hoped they would be together soon, it was like she was coherent. Maybe he was her bridge in her brain.

    • @MsViva710
      @MsViva710 2 года назад +16

      I noticed that she had clarity .

    • @CallawayVanZeeberg
      @CallawayVanZeeberg 2 года назад +35

      But that's the thing about Alzheimer's... One moment they remember everything and all seems totally normal... then the next moment it's like someone pulled the plug... that's the heart wrenching part. It's terrible because you don't know if your loved one is going to remember you in the next 5 minutes.
      I believe the recorded phone call was an amazing stroke of fortune for both of them to have a beautiful conversation as if nothing was wrong. It could have been the other way...

    • @beetenyeo7258
      @beetenyeo7258 2 года назад

      @@CallawayVanZeeberg.

    • @marilyndillard1658
      @marilyndillard1658 2 года назад +9

      I loved that they had a perfectly clear great talk at the last..that was wonderful!

    • @carolehankinson4969
      @carolehankinson4969 2 года назад +5

      @@marilyndillard1658 it was a beautiful conversation between a husband & wife who loved each other, love is amazing and it can hurt sooo much. I'm so glad the son had this on his wonderful Parent's last conversation. ❤️

  • @greetgoods
    @greetgoods 4 года назад +1738

    The thing that really stood out to me in this recording is how completely and entirely kind and respectful and loving the two were to each other in every thing they said.

    • @kathyh4804
      @kathyh4804 3 года назад +54

      Not many marriages like that anymore... sad to say

    • @stephaniebaker6001
      @stephaniebaker6001 3 года назад +76

      My 87 year old dad and my 84 year mom are both completely independent and luckily both have all of their faculties. My dad was diagnosed with incurable Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma when he was 73, but is doing extremely well. I'm so glad that they can spend this time together and remember all of it. I feel very lucky! 💕😌

    • @michellejames10987
      @michellejames10987 3 года назад +25

      @@stephaniebaker6001 That's wonderful, best wishes to them!!

    • @stephaniebaker6001
      @stephaniebaker6001 3 года назад +13

      @@michellejames10987 Thank you Michelle! 💕

    • @janetspell1396
      @janetspell1396 3 года назад +4

      Yes!❤️

  • @MiMiMiMi-du6jy
    @MiMiMiMi-du6jy 3 года назад +578

    "He was a very nice man wasn't he?"
    He was a great man.

    • @lauramalizia9636
      @lauramalizia9636 2 года назад +9

      💔😭

    • @freehugs8670
      @freehugs8670 2 года назад +16

      best husband and father one can wish for

    • @nadou760
      @nadou760 2 года назад +20

      And the best husband any woman could dream of .I have been married to narc for 7 years and i know what I'm talking about .I wish i had a man beside , caring husband like this man .His wife was so blessed to have him and their kid should be so proud having such human beings as parents .

    • @Silenced23
      @Silenced23 2 года назад +7

      That's like some movie type quote

  • @chrisholzhauer3698
    @chrisholzhauer3698 2 года назад +24

    This was more beautiful than words can express. The first worthwhile thing I've seen on youtube in a long while. What a treasure that voicemail is.

  • @LoveYamachan
    @LoveYamachan 2 года назад +107

    I had a bed ridden resident but still quite cognitive whose wife used to visit routinely. The wife died due to health problems and he was depressed for a while after that. One day he was smiling and happy, told me "I'm going to paradise, friend" I said "Can I come?" He smiled and said "No, I'm going to see my wife"... He did not wake up the next day and went to palliative care~ He died soon after~

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +1

      amazing!!

    • @bettyh3747
      @bettyh3747 2 года назад +7

      The morning my daughter died (she was 25, an ALS patient) she looked up rather shocked. I asked her what was wrong. She said she saw Grandpa (died 20 years earlier) and an angel. I asked her outwardly if it meant she would be leaving soon. She said she didn't know but she had a wonderful day died that evening. (I wish I could say peacefully) 💔

    • @blue-calla
      @blue-calla 2 года назад +2

      @@bettyh3747 💟

  • @HartsHideaway
    @HartsHideaway 3 года назад +558

    I never called back...I felt that to my core.

    • @frogieZ
      @frogieZ 3 года назад +37

      It hit me too 😭
      Since covid, I came to realization how temporary life is. So I’ve made a promise to drop everything each time my parents & family call, trying my best to be there for them whatever they need me for.

    • @juliashireen6195
      @juliashireen6195 3 года назад +12

      @@frogieZ good for you MerryJane. And thank you for reminding me. I am gonna help mom and dad now. Xoxox

    • @frogieZ
      @frogieZ 3 года назад +5

      @@juliashireen6195 ❤️ I wish you well. Be safe & take care!

    • @rociobany290
      @rociobany290 3 года назад +10

      Always , always keep your word to loved ones **

    • @MK_1Ultra
      @MK_1Ultra 3 года назад +8

      I always answer my mom and dad's calls

  • @ThatJakeGuy99
    @ThatJakeGuy99 3 года назад +493

    "Time will have passed, and we'll be together again"
    I'm done. Goodnight

  • @tabittheha
    @tabittheha 2 года назад +18

    A beautiful, bright love like this is one that defies time, space, and place. We should all feel humbled to have had the opportunity to watch this.

  • @JenniferMcCrayEileen
    @JenniferMcCrayEileen 2 года назад +24

    What a wonderful memory to have of your parents. Brought a tear to my eye.

  • @henryottis295
    @henryottis295 3 года назад +288

    You were blessed to have them as parents.
    But you know that.

  • @debbiecraddock7204
    @debbiecraddock7204 3 года назад +582

    This sounds like they had a Beautiful Relationship together. He got to tell her good by . A true Love story.

  • @saturdayradionova1734
    @saturdayradionova1734 2 года назад +31

    How wonderful and special that he got to hear the last conversation they had….. and that we get to hear it as well!! I hope that their memories are a blessing and that the son feels at peace for in the moment not taking his fathers call

  • @engineergirl6869
    @engineergirl6869 2 года назад +73

    I needed this. Seeing how respect is the number one pillar that should never fall in a relationship. It really encompasses all els in love.
    I really needed this for guidance.

    • @Synth256
      @Synth256 2 года назад +6

      I needed this, too. Hearing the respect and love the couple felt for each other had such a positive impact on me. It's amazing that their last conversation was recorded, to show the rest of us what real love is. But also, hearing Mr. Kornberg say that he never called his father back comforted me just a little. I needed that, too. My last words to my father were "I'll come back tomorrow". I did not. He died. This was in 1992, and it still haunts me. Maybe we're all just human, doing the best we can, with what little information we have, and we should be kind to ourselves, too -- not just others.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +3

      @@Synth256 YES , WE JUST DON'T KNOW, AND BEING ONWARDS WITH LIFE ISN'T WORSE THING REALLY.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +3

      EXACTLY

  • @kasarija
    @kasarija 3 года назад +515

    My mom had dementia when my dad died in October of 2019. I never told her. Didn’t see the point. She died last month. I hope they’re together again.

    • @mrs.elentz2336
      @mrs.elentz2336 3 года назад +43

      Oh wow, not telling her was probably a very difficult act of love. I've witnessed people with dementia, but I've never lost a loved one or witnessed a loved one suffer with dementia. I can't even imagine how utterly heart-shattering that would be. Sorry for your losses!! Prayers to you 🙏❤

    • @gatdemun
      @gatdemun 3 года назад +8

      💜

    • @novice5895
      @novice5895 3 года назад +13

      I’m so sorry for your losses! I wish you peace & comfort & I hope they’re together, as well💗.

    • @dawnatkinson7704
      @dawnatkinson7704 3 года назад +14

      Im very sorry for your losses.
      I think you did the right thing for your mum. You spared her pain xx

    • @kariay50
      @kariay50 2 года назад +5

      My condolences. May they rest in peace 🙏🌈

  • @ltraina3353
    @ltraina3353 4 года назад +649

    I wasn’t planning on crying before bed, but here I am....

  • @maxinewoolston2296
    @maxinewoolston2296 2 года назад +14

    Their marriage was beautiful, loving and respectful🙏in every video you could see that he was very much a kind and loving husband and family man and so was his wife.
    God Bless them Both 🙏🙏

  • @glamdolly30
    @glamdolly30 2 года назад +8

    A beautiful story - what a love they shared! They were so lucky to find each other. And the recording of their final phone conversation is an incredible gift.
    How kind and loving they were to each other. Even with her dementia, she responded so affectionately to every loving platitude. It's clear despite the cruelties of old age, their love endured, undiminished, to the very end.
    God bless them and the fine son who was born of that great love.

  • @paymweaver5650
    @paymweaver5650 3 года назад +407

    What a wonderful gift they left for their son.

  • @Dan5819
    @Dan5819 3 года назад +175

    Boy, those two were soulmate if there ever was such a thing. What a loving bond.

    • @styphlynne8253
      @styphlynne8253 2 года назад +1

      Right? Because she forgot all the bad stuff ! lol

  • @pamelagillham755
    @pamelagillham755 2 года назад +15

    That recording is a blessing, and it’s heart breaking at the same time. Bitter-sweet!

  • @MissingPersonsMysteries
    @MissingPersonsMysteries 2 года назад +3

    Omg! I can't stop crying. Absolutely beautiful!

  • @krizzy__
    @krizzy__ 3 года назад +140

    This was both heartbreaking and heartwarming at same time.

  • @kevinloveshistory7353
    @kevinloveshistory7353 3 года назад +356

    As soon as I listened to the recording, I just burst into tears. You can feel the strong love and bond between and despite the mother’s Alzheimers, you can tell she at least remembers him. Their talk was bitter sweet and powerful. They may have been journeying towards the end of their lives but he knew they’ll one day be together again once he passes.

    • @BabyGirl-cw6uj
      @BabyGirl-cw6uj 3 года назад +12

      I couldn't watch the entire video, it hurt too much and I don't even know them personally 😭😭😭😭

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 3 года назад +16

      Yes It was remarkable last conversation between both cought on voice recording. Quite miraculous actually lolx 😀❤😀

    • @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv
      @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv 2 года назад +10

      People who have near death experiences say everyone in Heaven is young & I’m good with that, so he was reunited with her when she’s got all her faculties. 👍

    • @dionst.michael5818
      @dionst.michael5818 2 года назад

      Thats just your so-called ‘toxic masculinity’ working double time, I’ll bet. Lol!

    • @ME-gz8yi
      @ME-gz8yi 2 года назад +5

      Freakin Alzheimer's!! And kudos to the brave son for admitting his blunder, you could almost hear the strains of "Cats in the Cradle" smh. His honesty made the story that much more powerful.

  • @ardevenuta37
    @ardevenuta37 2 года назад +31

    Dear Mr. Kornberg, I just wanted to say, thank you for posting this video. As short as it is, you said a lot. You conveyed a message of love. At the same time, you remind the viewer, how precious our time is here on earth, with the ones we love. It is important that we make it known and to never take each other for granted while we are here. God always has a purpose and much of the time, we have no idea what the plan is, especially, as life events unfold. You told your dad that would call him back. This is our day to day life. We don't think that this person (or we ourselves) might not be there to call back. There is a lesson in everything, in this case, you, yourself, learned something. Learining is not a bad thing. To the contrary, it is a good thing. Your dad knew you loved him. You, I am sure, showed him this over a lifetime. One thing that struck me was your dad saying to your mom "Patience." Your dad stated, "before you know it, time has passed, and we will be togther again." This is true, thos os God's promise. Thank you again for sharing, this was very touching.

  • @bbigfish1langille940
    @bbigfish1langille940 2 года назад +3

    How Sweet and ment to be to comfort thier Beautiful son thier love for each other made .God Bless you and thank you so much for sharing .Your parents are Proud of you 💖💙💖

  • @Emy53
    @Emy53 3 года назад +185

    We already know we are going to die...it's inevitable...we should always be kind to each other.

    • @lorishiversdogmom
      @lorishiversdogmom 2 года назад +6

      Amen.

    • @CassieShakespeare
      @CassieShakespeare 2 года назад +3

      Without death, life has no meaning.

    • @cybertech6625
      @cybertech6625 2 года назад +3

      We are simply humans, and we are imperfect. That is why it is important to learn to be able to forgive those we love, and even those we don't.

    • @willowb1527
      @willowb1527 2 года назад +2

      Amen. More love no more hate. ✌️❤️

    • @TheLuckyjoenga
      @TheLuckyjoenga 2 года назад +1

      Well said. 🙏

  • @jusletursoulglobaby
    @jusletursoulglobaby 4 года назад +269

    I felt that "I never called back." same. what a haunting moment.

  • @julitt4317
    @julitt4317 2 года назад +5

    So beautiful. I lost my husband 2 years ago at the age of 51 of ALS (MND). He couldn't speak for the last year of his life and I envy the ease of their conversation, born of love and familiarity. For her to live on, unaware that he has gone, is comforting in a way. How blessed they were.

    • @lucymerkom9571
      @lucymerkom9571 2 года назад +2

      God bless you and yours. Your beautiful husband wants you to live each day with strength, courage, laughter and few tears. Love lives forever in the heart. Take care

    • @julitt4317
      @julitt4317 2 года назад +1

      @@lucymerkom9571 Thank you Lucy x

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +1

      That's The Most/More Beautiful way to let it be Meant to be! Good Bless

  • @mb5612
    @mb5612 2 года назад +5

    I’m crying inconsolably right now. Thank you for sharing something so beautiful, precious, and bittersweet.

  • @exdus235
    @exdus235 4 года назад +356

    Such a tender, loving story told with a remarkably subtle, professional visual editing feature. Beautiful all the way through. The family should know that, although the recording tape ended, it does not mean that the conversation was cut off to the couple. If one answered the telephone AFTER the answering machine clicked on, then the recorder would capture for as long as it was programmed to do, but when it stopped recording the couple's conversation was not affected. So...they were definitely able to finish their loving last talk. They had a relationship that most people long for. Bless them wherever they are, and bless the son for sharing his 'memory treasure' with us.

  • @SergMilli
    @SergMilli 4 года назад +141

    I don't think I've ever heard of something so beautiful and sad at the same time in my life.

  • @ceciliacalabrano
    @ceciliacalabrano 2 года назад +1

    That last phone conversation was so beautiful to hear.♥️

  • @dbcruser3133
    @dbcruser3133 2 года назад +4

    This man is so blessed to have had very loving parents. God bless them, RIP dear ones.

  • @whatever5000
    @whatever5000 4 года назад +180

    Thank you, The New Yorker, for publishing this story. While painful, this is beautiful. This is love.

  • @shantipoet
    @shantipoet 4 года назад +244

    I loved this piece and just wanted to let Jeffrey Kornberg know that I had a similar regret with my Mom, where she left a message on my answering machine, asking how I was doing, and I had planned to call her back on Saturday when I was less busy. She died Friday night. It took me a while to forgive myself, but I know that she knew that I loved her and that the last time I saw her in person, we parted with a hug. This beautiful tribute to your parents shows how deeply you loved your father, and I'm sure he knew.

    • @emiliabolsas
      @emiliabolsas 4 года назад +28

      Alyce Wilson He gave his father something to look forward to - that he would be calling him. That he gave his father a future state of time shouldn’t be a regret.

    • @shantipoet
      @shantipoet 4 года назад +25

      @@emiliabolsas That's a beautiful way of looking at it. Thank you.

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 3 года назад +8

  • @76trenalynnroles21
    @76trenalynnroles21 2 года назад +8

    That was the most precious thing ever! I wish people today could learn to love and have patience with each other like that.
    They were blessed to have each other ♥️

  • @sharibigay4712
    @sharibigay4712 2 года назад +18

    That's a tough decision to make, when to stop reminding them of reality. When my mom was losing her memory and asked about my dad (she wasn't that bad yet), I'd remind her that was gone, and she'd be like yeah, that's right what was I thinking of. But one day when I said that, she responded like getting the news for the first time. It broke my heart. I've never corrected her since. We just make an excuse and she goes on to the next thing.

  • @mssiaes
    @mssiaes 4 года назад +153

    Don’t need to be sad. Your dad is such a loving man, your mom is so lucky.

    • @MaIContent
      @MaIContent 4 года назад

      and I bet they will be together again if they both wish it

  • @MaNkYmInX
    @MaNkYmInX 3 года назад +75

    No matter what, always tell your loved ones you love them. Don't part on bad terms. Make sure they are ok and make sure to always treasure all the moments together.

  • @maxbang1813
    @maxbang1813 2 года назад +3

    I'm so jealous that you have those "movies" of your family experiences. Your parents seemed to be loving and vibrant. I'm so happy that you have the recording of their last conversation. Priceless and very special. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @valiantsfelinesmccarty6678
    @valiantsfelinesmccarty6678 2 года назад +1

    The love this couple half and the way they raise their children is what we all wish we could have it our lives wiskim one and in our family. What an example and an uplifting story. I'm grateful their son shared this with us.

  • @denisepaulsenful
    @denisepaulsenful 3 года назад +102

    I've been married 25 yrs. My husband tells me every single day he loves me. If you feel it then say it out loud to the person you love. It's important. It's not a matter of "they knew so there was no need to say it all the time." Make sure you say it too. Need needn't come into it.

    • @whitepouch0904
      @whitepouch0904 3 года назад +13

      It depends on the person's top love language. If the person love language isn't affirmation then she doesn't need to hear it all the time.

    • @eej1983able
      @eej1983able 3 года назад +5

      I do the same thing. We've been married 11 years and still say i love you to each other daily

    • @Deenique16
      @Deenique16 3 года назад +5

      I want to be in love one day

    • @Volkslady
      @Volkslady 3 года назад +3

      You are SO right. My husband was the love of my life, and always will be. I did know he loved me - he showed it in hundreds of ways - but my heart yearned to actually hear the words. He passed away on Christmas Eve 2019. I miss him so. If only I could’ve had that small three-word gift to keep in my heart... 💔

    • @beckyhighfield1781
      @beckyhighfield1781 3 года назад +2

      My husband and I have been together 50 years and we tell each other multiple times a day that we love each other and kiss each other every night before going to bed ❤️❤️

  • @andij605
    @andij605 3 года назад +178

    I'm crying so hard. I miss my grandma so much. Her Alzheimers was so bad for her last few years that she couldn't speak anymore. Yet her last words were vocalizing my name over and over and over again.
    I love you granny, I'll love you forever.

    • @kristineill2378
      @kristineill2378 3 года назад +11

      Bless you for loving your gramma so much. I never had any closeness with my grandparents and wished I had treasured memories of them. It's a gift that can never be taken back. I try to spend time with my grands...love them babies.

    • @irisrodriguez7753
      @irisrodriguez7753 2 года назад +6

      Im so sorry for ur lost i wish i was there to give a friendy hug stay strong

    • @caroled3943
      @caroled3943 2 года назад +8

      Granny loved you too! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🐥

    • @joanodom2104
      @joanodom2104 2 года назад +5

      Cake, believe me...she knows. 💜

    • @vielkadenerson2534
      @vielkadenerson2534 2 года назад +2

      I'm crying for you .

  • @Orpilorp
    @Orpilorp 2 года назад +1

    That was beautiful. I'm so glad he called her for your sake.

  • @MegaSnow121
    @MegaSnow121 2 года назад +1

    So touching. Your mom sounded so clear of mind during that last talk with your dad. What a touching gift this must have been to your family in the midst of grieving the passing of your father. God bless you all.

  • @OldRaver
    @OldRaver 4 года назад +228

    I recently found a massive tied up pile of letters my mum wrote to my dad in 1957/8, the year before they married when he was stationed in Belfast training as an air traffic controller.
    Oh my god, they are a WONDERFUL insight into just how madly in love they both were! 2 or 3 letters a day they’d write!!
    So sweet that dad must have kept these and hidden them away!!❤️
    (It appears that mum chucked hers away at some point over their 54 years of marriage. 😳
    Would have been so romantic to have both sides of the conversation on record❤️)

    • @RJelly-fi6hd
      @RJelly-fi6hd 3 года назад +23

      I also kept my letters between my ex-husband and I, when he was in basic training. I didn't know I still had them after the divorce. I almost through them away, in my anger, but had the good sense to keep them for my children should they want them. There were beautiful words of love in those letters.

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 3 года назад +8

      Relationships really were special in the golden years of yon 😀❤😀

    • @TREVASLARK
      @TREVASLARK 3 года назад +4

      @@edwardoneil3962
      (Please forgive me, but I feel words are very, very important. You wanted to say "in the golden years of YORE.")

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 3 года назад +2

      @@TREVASLARK yon as in yonder. I sometimes make mistakes in using keyboard on phone. Digets tend to be small for fingers especially when busy like now.

    • @TREVASLARK
      @TREVASLARK 3 года назад +3

      @@edwardoneil3962 Yes, yes, I see - but still, Edward, the fact is that "yonder" means "over there" , as in distance of space, while "yore" means distance in time, specifically past times. Check it out !
      Cheers ! :)))

  • @MelliaBoomBot
    @MelliaBoomBot 3 года назад +48

    My mother passed on last November. Even with the all ALL the technology available these days I have only a few videos of her...I was videoing a caterpillar outside the back door and I realised afterwards that in the back ground were my parents talking about going for doctors appointments. Its a little bit of treasure that means so much to me.

    • @CassieShakespeare
      @CassieShakespeare 2 года назад +5

      Sad, isn't it, that with all the technology we have, that we often miss the opportunity to capture those wee moments that makes life worth living. I have 2 videos of my Mum. One of her getting punched in the head at the newsagency that she owned, and the other of her on April Fool's Day, 2011... the day she was diagnosed with cancer...she was immediately admitted to hospital, and we made a video of her talking to her cat. She died 4 months and 10 days later, as predicted by her oncologist. Sending much love to you...losing your Mum is devastating. 💖💖💖

    • @MelliaBoomBot
      @MelliaBoomBot 2 года назад +3

      @@CassieShakespeare thank you so much for your kind words. Im sorry for your loss as well. Bless you..

  • @alanmorris7669
    @alanmorris7669 2 года назад +59

    As the old man, Fagin once said to little Oliver Twist: _"It's a terrible thing, Oliver - old age."_

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +1

      but MOST OF US still DO IT!!!! L! poor kid, Scared!.. old people, they're just like you and me Will Be! and hey, Dying, Everybody Does that TOO! THERE'S REALLY NO OTHER WAY TO GET OUT OF HERE THAN TO GO THROUGH THAT!! ;)

  • @steendful
    @steendful 2 года назад +7

    That is the most amazing story, then recording I've ever heard. My heart is filled with.... Sadness, joy, compassion, etc all at the same time ❤️.
    What a recording to have.

  • @belindasnell7922
    @belindasnell7922 3 года назад +80

    Be still my heart... thank you for sharing this most precious moment. My young husband fought cancer and we knew what was coming. I never left the room without kissing him goodbye and making him guess the flavor of chapstick I had on. I was blessed to share his last breath with him.

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 года назад +2

      im so sorry for your loss. THis made me smile/cry

    • @belindasnell7922
      @belindasnell7922 2 года назад +2

      @@bethlanders6608 thanks so much for your reply. You brought a smile to my heart.

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 года назад +2

      I love your story 💝

    • @maid4thelamb85
      @maid4thelamb85 2 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry, it is so hard. 😔

    • @belindasnell7922
      @belindasnell7922 2 года назад

      @@maid4thelamb85 thank you love. I needed to hear that today!

  • @bru1015
    @bru1015 3 года назад +80

    I came across a taped phone call with my deceased sister talking on it. Her and my brother were taping a discrepancy with a credit card co. She passed 4 years ago. Bonnie was not only my sister, but my best friend. I made sure I labeled the cassette and put it away for safe keeping.

    • @augustaugust7667
      @augustaugust7667 2 года назад +1

      ❤️🌟

    • @tazz3663
      @tazz3663 2 года назад +1

      my aunt Bonnie Daniels passed away four years ago too👍 she was an awesome human being .

    • @Britz1393
      @Britz1393 2 года назад +3

      You should try and get the recording transferred to s digital file. Tape deteriorates over time even just sitting there untouched.

    • @Joy-TheLazyCatLady
      @Joy-TheLazyCatLady 2 года назад

      I have my favorite brother's last voice mail message that he left me. 😢

    • @emveetu3672
      @emveetu3672 2 года назад

      @@Britz1393 I agree. It's really important to digitize any analog recordings on tape, video and audio, otherwise they will be lost to time forever.

  • @cathleenhanson4617
    @cathleenhanson4617 2 года назад +5

    I really loved this! I have been a nurse for almost 4 decades and I must admit, I am not easily impressed. I was deeply touched by your sharing this. It has impacted me in a very deep way for the good. It is a blessing to see the depth of love you have for parents. Thank you very much for sharing this. May you find a deep peace that surrounds you in comfort. I will pray that you do. There is a book called "Jan's Story. The Long Goodbye" That helped me a lot. It is about a 55 year old woman who developed Early onset Alzheimer's and I found it freeing and very helpful. May you find the comfort and peace your heart seeks. You have a beautiful, tender heart and I think your parents know just how very much you loved and honored them.

  • @betsybabf748
    @betsybabf748 2 года назад +1

    Couples are so lucky to get so many years. My husband suddenly 10 days after his 45th birthday when our 5 children were ages 6 to 23. I'd give the rest of my life for 1 more day with him.

  • @pattysalvatore1407
    @pattysalvatore1407 3 года назад +43

    About two minutes in I realized I was smiling as I listened to you describing your parents lives. Your father was incredible. You seem to have a similarly thoughtful heart.

  • @bmoisgood3228
    @bmoisgood3228 3 года назад +81

    I wish my parents could've stayed together. I wish I could have more memories with my parents together.

    • @weebunny
      @weebunny 3 года назад +13

      In this life, often the loose ends don't ever get tied up the way we would have wanted them to. It's normal to grieve when that happens. I wish you peace.

    • @Deborahboenke2
      @Deborahboenke2 2 года назад +5

      😪😪😪

    • @GoodPersonTestWebsite
      @GoodPersonTestWebsite 2 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry :(

    • @jesidepresi
      @jesidepresi 2 года назад +10

      My parents divorced when I was three (I’m eighteen now) and I always think about what my life could’ve been if my parents just worked things out…they live in different states so being with one for a long time and then not seeing the other for about a year is just painful. And broken homes puts you in the middle of everything which sucks. I feel you.

    • @glamdolly30
      @glamdolly30 2 года назад

      @@jesidepresi I often think how sad it is that something so profound and important - the creation of a child - can happen so easily between people who are not compatible enough to raise and nurture that precious offspring together.
      You can be glad you do have both your parents in your life and make the most of that, they won't be around forever.

  • @GoodPersonTestWebsite
    @GoodPersonTestWebsite 2 года назад +10

    My maternal grandmother had alzheimer's. Her son died a few months before she did and her other children made the decision not to tell her because it would be pointless to break her heart over and over again as she continued to forget.

  • @Sjb2077
    @Sjb2077 2 года назад +1

    I am crying for you. So much love and respect between your parents. I wish you peace and happy memories. God bless

  • @epifan3_
    @epifan3_ 3 года назад +126

    My dad was my best friend. We talked every day, sometimes all day. Since I was a teenager. We had a dispute back in October 2020. We didn’t talk for 5 months. The first and only time we ever went without speaking. He suddenly passed in March. We never got to make up. But he’ll always be the best thing that ever happened to me 😭

    • @countrygirl4213
      @countrygirl4213 3 года назад +5

      I'm sorry for your loss,he was very lucky to have you as well.We all meet up again later on.

    • @suzbone
      @suzbone 3 года назад +4

      I'm so sorry for your loss 😢

    • @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv
      @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv 2 года назад +16

      Your Dad knows, yes he knows for sure. That kind of relationship never dies

    • @denasharpe2393
      @denasharpe2393 2 года назад +16

      He never stopped loving you....

    • @monicajean37
      @monicajean37 2 года назад +12

      HE KNOWS, I was told by a very wise person after my father died who I was extremely close too, "talk to your Dad" I said what? That wise person said "In heaven they can hear you", So I talk to my Father, now Mother all the time......It makes me feel better knowing they can hear me, That's the last thing that fades when someone dying, there hearing......

  • @misunderstood2156
    @misunderstood2156 3 года назад +41

    It’s so comforting to know love like this exist .. may their soul find each other and peace forever 💕

  • @Dfender67
    @Dfender67 2 года назад +5

    Wow, what loving and respectful parents….that in itself is such a blessing! Just knowing your parents had such a good relationship and loved each other until the end is comforting.
    Also don’t beat yourself up about not talking to your father right away, he understood and both of you couldn’t have known.
    He knew you loved him! ❤️

  • @bethlovesdogs
    @bethlovesdogs 2 года назад +1

    What a beautiful gift that was for you to find! How precious!

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 3 года назад +129

    In a book by Hospice Nurses, they say "YES" people do know when they are going to die and only do so when ready.

    • @nachogirl35
      @nachogirl35 3 года назад +16

      As a hospice nurse, I totally agree.

    • @dyerstraight391
      @dyerstraight391 3 года назад +14

      This is 100% true my parents owned Palliative care centres basically my whole life and many of those people wouldn’t pass until every I was dotted and T was crossed! I took care of a lady who wouldn’t pass until she knew the Pies being served at her funeral were in Her kitchen waiting on the table she passed that night at 4:17am. A lot of people won’t pass if theirs other people/family in the room either sometimes if we noticed a person dragging out their passing we’d invite the family into the great room for Tea or lunch and the person would use that opportunity to pass…

    • @cordeliav3055
      @cordeliav3055 3 года назад +6

      The Dalai Lama says EVERYONE knows within two years when they are going to pass away.

    • @becknireckn
      @becknireckn 3 года назад +10

      My father definitely wasn't ready. He wanted to leave hospice but was too weak. I wish I would have thought to say I'll help you bust out of here. He would have been happy to hear that.

    • @cordeliav3055
      @cordeliav3055 3 года назад +1

      @@becknireckn I assume your father has passed. If so, he is 100 times happier now than he was in his past life. If he hasn't tried to contact you to reassure you that he is now ok, it is because people who have passed don't necessarily have the skills to communicate with the still-living.

  • @toryglen
    @toryglen 3 года назад +75

    In a strange way, that was very heartwarming, beautiful, charming, romantic and everything that is special in a loving relationship.
    (Even although I don’t know this family, I thank them for sharing a very small piece of their lives)
    Than you for sharing.
    God bless.

  • @breannepender9268
    @breannepender9268 2 года назад +1

    That's was sooo beautiful had me crying at 553am cause I can't sleep. Thats love right here

  • @joannaflores7483
    @joannaflores7483 2 года назад +5

    This was true, pure genuine love that Is so hard to find today. His parents were so blessed to have found each other and show their son that love that most of us long to find. How amazing to have us see a glimpse of what real love is like. Thank you sir for sharing their love and an insight to how love is all bittersweet, wonderful, heart breaking and restoring all at once.

  • @cynthiar7350
    @cynthiar7350 3 года назад +36

    1953 baby here & while I didn’t go thru Alzheimer’s, I did go thru Parkinson’s with mama & just old age decline with daddy. They died within 7 weeks of each other in 2005. It’s hard. This special message is just wonderful & so loving. I’m so glad you have it. God Bless.

  • @missytyrrell1
    @missytyrrell1 3 года назад +50

    The way that it ends, so abruptly. Heartbreaking.

  • @tracywallace6887
    @tracywallace6887 2 года назад +13

    How can people give this a thumbs down. I thought this was an amazing story.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +1

      iv seen them put thumbs down even on memorials/tributes to heroes, for godsakes!!! ? never mind them,they never mind their minds apparently
      !! L!

    • @universe1313
      @universe1313 2 года назад

      Because they think its sad,not because they dont luke it

  • @prall0915
    @prall0915 3 года назад +1

    Before my grandma died she started seeing her mother. She would tell us her ma was walking through the room. The expression on her face was like she was a little girl again. We took comfort in knowing she was seeing her mother before she died.

  • @bonniedunbar6717
    @bonniedunbar6717 3 года назад +33

    Your dad understood and he got to hear your voice. He knew you were there.

  • @madasahatter5514
    @madasahatter5514 3 года назад +35

    This was heartbreaking, poignant and beautiful in equal measures.

  • @debsayler624
    @debsayler624 2 года назад +3

    This story is so sweet ! They had so much love for each other ! So happy their son found the message ! Happy tears !!!

  • @AntiqueCycles
    @AntiqueCycles 2 года назад +2

    Beautiful. Your parents sure did love each other. Amazing.

  • @donnagpalk912
    @donnagpalk912 3 года назад +117

    😥 I wish I could have had a man that loved me just half that much. Wasn't meant to be this life time.😥
    Just imagine if you can , how they really felt together. I cant even imagine...
    You are blessed to have had them as parents... that kind of love growing up.💞🙏🏻rare.

    • @ayeshakadwa7317
      @ayeshakadwa7317 3 года назад +6

      Start loving yourself and you will attract the same love you crave.

    • @donnagpalk912
      @donnagpalk912 3 года назад +22

      @@ayeshakadwa7317
      I'm done...im 63 now & raising my 8 yr old grandson. His dad, my son lives with me also.
      Been single since 2015 & honestly dont want to get involved again. I like being single now....never thought I be raising my grandson. 😱🥰
      Hes such a good kid. Now if my son would grow the H$$$ up.😃

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 года назад +16

      me too,,,me too. Gonna be 55 soon and not even close to being married. Makes me sad cause i have so much love to give. Sucks

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 года назад +28

      @@ayeshakadwa7317 oh bs. I love myself a LOT and never met the right one. That is such nonsense

    • @joanodom2104
      @joanodom2104 2 года назад +5

      @@bethlanders6608 Dear, I'm right there with you. My mother told me, " Do you realize even Charles Manson found a wife and you can't even get a date!"

  • @heidiherr905
    @heidiherr905 3 года назад +52

    Bawling! What an absolute gift to have that message. It seemed as though she may have had some clarity at times in the call…I like to think so. Thank you for sharing!

  • @misshathaway3576
    @misshathaway3576 2 года назад +2

    made me sob 🥺 wherever they are, I know they’re making up for their lost time together

  • @AEArato
    @AEArato 2 года назад +1

    It was nice that she was lucid at that moment. It sounded like a regular conversation between 2 people who loved and missed each other. Both hopeful.

  • @tammihunter5913
    @tammihunter5913 3 года назад +191

    My mom told me "I'm going to miss you, you know". I said, "I'll be back in the morning"...She had a fall the next morning and passed away a few hours later.

    • @sarabobara8458
      @sarabobara8458 3 года назад +14

      *hugs*

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 3 года назад +11

    • @brendak1145
      @brendak1145 3 года назад +19

      I am so sorry for your loss. She loved you dearly.

    • @eej1983able
      @eej1983able 3 года назад +11

      Im so sorry 😞

    • @matthew7835
      @matthew7835 3 года назад +8

      My Great Grandma passed after a fall down the stairs when I was 16. I had totally forgotten till I saw your comment. They found her, having dragged an Album of photos off a nearby Bookshelf. Pictures of her Kids, Grandkids and Great Grandkids strewn about 💙😪

  • @tracey6556
    @tracey6556 3 года назад +40

    There should be more content like this on RUclips. I have a wonderful mom but would have loved to have had a dad like yours!

  • @froggynzack
    @froggynzack 2 года назад +4

    god this was so beautiful. brought me to tears. prayers for you and your family

  • @chloecrayk4899
    @chloecrayk4899 2 года назад +5

    This is so sweet. What a good man. Just makes me want to jump on my husband and tell him how much l love him!!!

  • @lauramassi1957
    @lauramassi1957 3 года назад +17

    It's nice that the family has the conversation between the parents to keep forever for memories and to remember how much they loved on another.

  • @SarahSmith-lr9pg
    @SarahSmith-lr9pg 4 года назад +85

    Snot and tears pouring out of my face.

  • @vexu7366
    @vexu7366 2 года назад +6

    My grandfather had alzheimer's. My grandmother passed away when I was 6 (before his Alzheimer's). He'd always forget she had passed. A few times he'd think my mom was his wife. We never bothered telling him because there's no point in stressing him out when he'd only forget. It's very heartbreaking when they have moments of remembrance and they realize they're lost. God bless him. He's since passed and they're together again.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 года назад +1

      i had a head trauma accident, i know my brain has changed, lol, i do math waay quickly, but iv not had the spelling finesse i used to have. my short term memory is pulling stunts a bit and i notice it..and yes my longterm is going waaay back machine on me, really intrigues me sometimes. but i have the bad feeling that i am going to think my daughter is my sister/ who'v not seen in decades nor plans to.. that's AWFUL , since my daughter and i even worked together on a radio show as cohosts.. we did a lot of projects closely and even shared bed couple years as my husband had to sleep during days and we too were late night ,so schedules differed and worked that way best. I'd hate to do that to my daughter who is not blue eyed like my sister even, but its weird how alikeness triggers wrong name w past same other physical characteristics .. i can see how that its only about reactionary swift mis-distributing its not mal-relationship placement like we'd think but rather familiarity in a kind of stasis: that's how it feels within me , a glimpse of it now, it's a funny feeling a duality, like both feel good and im reaching only halfway the real deeper one i do love deeper but on way am stopping to say here's the best of of my life/ so here you go/ here's to both of you at the same time/ lol hoorrrrayyy !!! lol!!! ..its Too Frightening.. makes me not want to talk at all sometimes , and live alone and like it because its less trouble all around !! Even does seem like not living forever or a way to beat worse would be a blessings in disguise.. don't we all down inside when we get more educated or experience .. i have an older husband '/ age span too.. he's starting to get off track too.. some little ways some times .. i intend to help him.. its the fairest way. It will be my catharsis for me too!is why i'll hang on to him for him as far as possible!

    • @vexu7366
      @vexu7366 2 года назад

      @@youtoo2072 Live and love in the now 💜 The precious moments you make may be forgotten, whether it be temporarily or otherwise, but they will live forever within you, and those around you. I wish you and your family nothing but love, health and happiness 😊

  • @mammontustado9680
    @mammontustado9680 2 года назад +1

    I don't understand how someone could love another that much and that long. I guess they're lucky to have found each other.

  • @adamweston4152
    @adamweston4152 3 года назад +25

    A lady in know once said to me"never go to bed on an argument" and it's stuck with me all my life and now my parents are old they argue alot especially at bedtime and I hate the thought of them not being happy when that inevitable time comes and this is so beautiful to hear, brought tears to my eyes.

    • @novice5895
      @novice5895 3 года назад +2

      Maybe you should gently remind them. One trial of this life, of being human, is that we never know the time or place. It’s the hardest part, I think. I wish you & your parents well💗.

  • @That_AMC_Guy
    @That_AMC_Guy 3 года назад +30

    Ouch. Right in the feels.
    Makes a guy wish he had parents or at least, you know, ones that got along.

  • @geinikan1kan
    @geinikan1kan 2 года назад

    Unbelievably touching. The humble answering machine someone forgot to turn off.

  • @lorishiversdogmom
    @lorishiversdogmom 2 года назад +2

    Awwww this made me wanna cry. 😥😓. So sweet but so heartbreaking 😓💔. I'm so glad they loved each other. That's how marriage is supposed to be. Life when you get older is full of memories .... The past always seems like the happier times. You can choose to be happy in your present but then it doesn't seem as good because you know you don't have as much time left on this earth than you used to have. So in a way aging can be depressing. But losing a loved one is even more depressing. Finding that last message was like striking gold. Very special and very sweet. Him telling her that he loved her the way he did a couple times and the way he said it. It was so sweet. You know he really did.

  • @Sonny84586
    @Sonny84586 3 года назад +19

    What an incredible gift. As if their beautiful life together weren’t enough, it’s wrapped up with a bow. Waterworks.

  • @talapeanutbutter4250
    @talapeanutbutter4250 3 года назад +22

    Gotta admire a strong woman who didn’t shave her armpits! Not making fun of because most of the time I don’t! He brought tears to my eyes. My dad died in May of Alzheimer’s as did his siblings. I’m sure I will, too

    • @Belovelyava
      @Belovelyava 2 года назад

      It’s been so long since I seen armpit hair on a woman! Things were different then. What a beautiful marriage.

    • @skeptigal2785
      @skeptigal2785 2 года назад

      I think shaved armpits weren't a thing back then.

  • @benjerry8987
    @benjerry8987 2 года назад

    They were there for each other every day supporting each other and that action means "I love you" no words required.

  • @loriesters9110
    @loriesters9110 2 года назад +1

    What a blessing and gift. I miss my late mom and dad too.. bless you