@@nataleynakata3687 looked up the theory. It’s more people in general scare me, wasn’t like this before tho. Seen some awful things to all types of good innocent people for no reason
So much pain. But I've come across it I need someone but they're not there..... It's just these people who think I'm a good for nothing. But I'll keep on beleiveing.
Yes it does, strips it right down to the core. It's remarkable in a way, I'm almost 50 and I've realized how numbed I am to it. I have moments I mourn the loss of connection. However, most of the time I just exist, work and one day when the end comes, I'll go down on the floor and be found 3 or 4 days later. In a nutshell, that's my remaining days.
Speaking as someone who feels undeserving of love, it's difficult to convince someone they're deserving of love because they don't understand why or how. You can't just say no one is unlovable or that someone out there loves you because often the question that'll be brought up is "what makes me lovable?" "Why do i deserve love?" "What would people like about me?" If you want to explain to someone why they're lovable, using real-world examples in regards to who they are and what they do can further cement the idea that maybe they do deserve love.
I want to leave the planet so badly sometimes. I just feel I’m not meant to experience the happiness I desire, and if I’m not, I don’t want to continue suffering here
Hello there. You matter, so much! I'll keep you in my thoughts, even tho we don't know each other and it might seem strange, I just feel the need to tell You these words. It does gets better! I know it does and I'm sure it will
I want to leave life itself so badly either. But it's just would sound very silly and dumb to others. they'll say "that guy suicide just to run away from the pain of being unloved or unwanted. What a pathetic". Which makes me reconsider. Cuz I know someone there cares for me...or at least did or will do. The point is: you are loved by many people. You might not know them,but they do and care. And if you wanna be friends, I wouldn't say no cuz I feel you.
Same, for me it stems from a deep rejection of myself. Even if others want to love me. I often don’t feel worthy of being loved by them. I can’t even develop a relationship with God because I ask myself what did I do to deserve his Grace, Love and Mercy I’m a Pos I don’t even deserve Gods love
@@RWQFSFASXC-17BP They do exist hahah And I would know, because I've concidered unaliving myself some time ago as well. I would wish every day to be stronger and happier the day after that. Life just goes its own way, and sometimes the way for us to be stronger, is to meet hardships on our way. Once we do that, happiness does comes along, in its timing, but it does
No one is unlovable, but it seems that there are people for whom love does not happen. It's not that it can't happen, just that it continues to not happen.
This. But also charisma. Charisma attracts love, even if it's not meant to happen. Seen some of the lowest humans gather such people around them, by simply having a little charisma.
@@GrekeFenris Well the way I see it, without knowing you of course; the effect your attitude has on other people will always come back in the same tonality. Maybe it's not what's inside but what's shining through.
Ok wait this one has my attention… it’s just too relatable. Take care of yourselves guys, you need to find ways to promote self-love, especially when others can’t love and accept you for who you are.
Thank you for sharing your insight. It can be difficult to love ourselves especially when people around us don't seem to accept or love us. However, it's critical at times like that to love ourselves and understand that we are still worthy of love :)
Relatable... I feel that I am only valuable when I do things that my peers and parents want me to do at 100%. If I dont do that myself as a person is worthless and unworthy of love. I am only loved when I work hard. I am not useless, I am worthless because anyone can replace me.
This is relatable. I couldn't get enough marks in science and maths and my family started hating me for it. It was as if they stopped giving me that little bit of love i used to get from them. Although things have now improved i still can't get over it. My family always tries to make themselves look good in front of other people. They make excuses about my mental problems and always make me feel like I'm a burden to the family and that I never should've been born. I just envy those who have healthy relationship with their family and loved ones
That sounds really rough... We hope you know that you are more than just your accomplishments in academics and that you are loved regardless of how much you accomplish. How are you doing now? How has your relationship with your family been?
@@Psych2go I'm still having a tough relationship with my family. They are simply over narcissistic and hypocrites. Their presence in a room brings a negative vibe. I feel a lot better when i go to the gym. It's a major problem cause I'm an introvert with few friends that I don't even talk to.
@@nicholasleipzig5448 oh my god you just described my life. I'm in the process of leaving but it's a really tough decision. I feel less alone now. Thank you for sharing, and I hope it gets better soon🙏❤️ is there a way we can connect privately rather than the comment section?
Timestamps 1). An early defining moment 0:41 2). Rejection and abuse 1:36 3). Shame 2:18 4). How to heal 3:03 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I was never in an abusive relationship. I WAS the abusive relationship. My feeling of being unloved comes from hating myself. Being bitter and ashamed of the things ive done. Feeling like ive betrayed life itself and now it will punish me for the rest of my days by keeping me with a perpetual feeling of loneliness.
Today I reached out to my girlfriend whom I haven't heard from in a while, and told her I miss her and hope to see her soon. Shortly after, I had a mental image of my mom being annoyed or frustrated from when I was younger and would ask for her in some way, and saw very clearly one of the things that makes me afraid to ask for my girlfriend which makes me feel like I am intruding or being a burden.
i guess i'm not the only one who is feeling like this, right?.. it' hard to believe that you deserve love or that someone loves you... thanks for the video !!
That's true. I felt unworthy of love almost my whole life and then I met a person (no not romantically, for anyone who's single and stuck in a mentality that they'll never find love) who appreciated me for me. Loving relationships can TRULY rewire your brain. I don't know how long it'll last but I'm happy someone finally showed me that I'm lovable and helped me with my self-esteem in such easy way.
@@UnstableYT-u7k you see, it could be from anyone. maybe you haven't found the right person yet but don't worry because god have plans and he will let you meet the right person eventually so remember to be patient :)
I am 67 years old. I have never had a loving relationship with a woman in my lifetime. The words "there's someone for everybody" just agrevates me. I stopped looking for "the one" aged 30/35. There isn't a miss right in the world for me. Self-esteem and self-confidence were bullied out of me at school from ages 5 to 16.
In islam, it is said that people who don't marry on this earth, will marry on the next. It's beautiful. But, hey, don't u lose your happiness please. I'm sure if you do good, it'll come back to you, in beautiful ways. Have hope, and faith. Take care
This is so relatable. My mind was telling me, that I don't deserve love from anyone, that's where the depression comes from. Now, I'm going to therapy and I'm also taking meds to help me feel better about anything. I almost always write about love in my poetry because I'm INFP-T, and I watch and read ROM COMS a lot, also sone funny comics, too.
This video makes me think of Heinz Doofenshmirtz from Phineas and Ferb. His whole life, his parents emotionally abused him and never loved him for not being good enough, they replaced him with better sons like Roger and only son. Heinz was told that he was a failure by his professor and that he makes her sick, and his own daughter Vanessa is completely unable to love him despite of how nice he is to her and everything he does for her. Also Linda broke up with Heinz Doofenshmirtz just like everyone else got mad at him and hated him for being a failure who messes up all the time.
I definitely identify with this as someone with abandonment issues but therapy, self-reflection and dating have helped me to combat these feelings better. To anyone reading this: You matter, you are loved and you are not what those persons made you feel like. ^_^
@@kristijan8518 Same, but I would suggest linking with a therapist and do an autopsy of your past relationship(s). That will help you to avoid certain patterns and learn the areas you need to either affirm yourself in or set stronger boundaries in. Love is not easy but it’s not (as) hard when you know how to love yourself. 😘 I believe in you.
I felt this way for a long time and videos like this one helped me realize, I am actually more lovable then I gave myself credit for. I actually was loved I was just so in this melancholy and hopeless emotional state that I couldn't see that there were people around me that actually cared and possibly loved me. I just needed to look up and recognize what they were trying to show me to see it. So, I am very grateful for what I am learning from these videos and it is helping me redefine my surroundings and how to better read the people around me. I still have a long way to go but it has helped me make progress even though at times I feel like I was rather dumb when I let my emotions run my life but that realization helps me become better. Now I wish I can find those people that did try to show they cared and thank them for trying to help me. I don't know if I can but as long as I live my life the way it should be I guess that can be thanks enough to them.
As Maslow wrote years ago, love genuinely is a foundational experience toward thriving at all levels. When Paul McCartney and John Lennon sang, in 1967, "all you need is love," they totally nailed it.💙💙
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I have been really struggling with this due to the circumstances that I am in. This video lists most of what makes me feel like I am unlovable but I have been working on that. Great video as usual and thanks a lot to the team at Psych2Go for the amazing videos you guys make. I have learnt a lot about myself and others through your content and really appreciate the work you guys are doing 😄❤️
Feeling unlovable started in middle school for me. I was bullied for years over my weight and social quirks. As everyone developed needs for connection, I was bullied for that too. Kids would tell girls I had a crush on them just to embarrass them, watch the disgust on their face. They would act nice to me just to laugh to the themselves if I thought it was genuine. Reaching out wasn't even a thought because I didn't have to say anything to be put down for it. I'm in my mid 20s now and despite years of self care and personal developement the thought of reaching out when I'm lonely or want to socialize makes me scared and angry at those memories. This kind of stuff sticks with you and working through it is a long journey, one that I still have a ways to go on unfortunately.
Painfully relatable, all of these points. Here's my story if someone wants to read. And before I start I'd like to say, you guys aren't alone and you all have my best wishes. ❤ My family always dismissed me as being too needy and demanding, and any time I'd make some mistake as a kid, they'd always carry on about it for years until it was to the point I developed self-hatred. That was pretty much my whole life until a few years ago. I'm almost 27 now and I'm slowly but surely healing. I still struggle with feeling unlovable at times, but I'm trying to keep in mind at least I have friends who love and care about me, even if my family is toxic. At the thought of anyone caring about me, I start to cry. But I'm slowly trying to default to positivity. So slowly, but I definitely am.
We need to love ourselves! (: I've found that I can't expect others to fulfill this feeling... It just never works. I have to love myself to truly feel loved. ☀️☀️
My mental health has convinced me that I’m not worthy of love and Am unlovable and no amount of “self love” is able to change that no amount of “healing work” or therapy is gonna help that.
Thank you for giving me ammo to fight my battle. I've struggled with this for a very long time, and this video brought me to tears. I'll keep going until not only do I feel lovable again, but until I can truly feel the love that the ones I value show me.
Yeah childhood sucked and then adolescence was met with indifference, which is what got me out of if alive, but apathy and shame lead to a wasted 20's. Finally slowly unwinding the misery and sorrow and trying to build someone worthwhile, since thats what i need to love myself, and thats the requirement to be loved.
I think I give up on girls to easy ,maybe? I’m not sure,I’m told I’m good looking but I really suck at getting any attention from women ,I really don’t understand.
Of all your videos, this one hit me the most and brought me to tears. Crazy how childhood trauma and abuse could really set you up for all these "unlovable" feelings.
as a 35yo, twice divorced man, with 3 kids, lost everything twice.... Been working hard my entire life..... Last ex lied to court and to the expert from child protective services and was caught lying in court... Still won... Judges excuse? The kids had already moved.... Even if she had moved after signing a contract that non of us could move away with the kids.... Take it from me.... There is no "love" in the world worth it..... Its worth less. It will only bring pain, depression and guilt..... The world treat dads like crap..... and thats only what you are left with after... Feeling like crap.. Stay single and happy. NEVER get married, never get kids. I love my kids to death.... But when they take them away from you, and even it the other person gets caught lying to court..... you wish you didn't have kids so you would not ever know this pain.....
I'm at the coffee shop. my 38 year-old ass... bawling with this video. I relate. but I also look back at everything and how much I've overcome over the past decade. I am in a better place without the abusive people in my life. 3:19 - even after years of therapy, I somewhat struggle to believe this, but I do know I am deserving of love... the ex wife leaving was a huge factor for this... i sustained traumatic brain injury and survived a murder attempt... it wasn't my fault, I didn't know recovery was going to take so long. For anyone that needs to read this: You can make it through, I believe in you. Keep going 🥺
This video made me weep and break down in tears! 😪This was exactly me growing up, being abused, and having a family that didn't give a shit, and even now, years later, I still get feelings of: "I'm not good enough for anyone", and "I wish I were not me, but someone else". Being an INFJ doesn't help matters either!
Reaching out and needing someone will always feel painful to me, I'm going to be 30 this year and never shared a loving connection with someone, there's hardly any opportunity for me to meet new people, and when i do i dont have the social experience to take it to the next level and the few times i did try i just get friend zoned, or I'm met with "it'll happen someday" by people who are already in relationships, they don't know what it's like to be alone that way for over a decade. Therapy is no good because they suggest everything that doesn't apply to me and my circumstances, my hobbies are things most of the population doesnt involve themselves with.
Why do they always assume that its stems from childhood? My childhood was great! I felt loved by both parents and extended family, friends. I am just unloveable to anyone who is not them. Lol I just feel like a spectacular, someone invisible who is on the outside looking in, watching everyone else confidently live their lives and find love, feel love and can openly express there love. Im 4 decades into life and honestly I dont think i will ever truly be loved.
Man I have no idea what the hell happened to me because I relate to some of this but I can’t remember anything that would’ve happened to make me feel this way
I'm paused at 1:45. I used to have a reoccurring dream of me floating in the ocean far under the water where only a small amount of light reached me. I wore a white dress and had long blonde hair. The feeling has always stuck with me but it was around a time where I was being abused physically mentally and s*exually. I felt drowned. Suffocated and wanted a way out. I looked up why I feel unlovable today because i can't find a proper connection in a relationship and feel I can never truly be loved by anyone. It still feels suffocating even when I am awake. I wish it would all go away and it's hard to deal with. This video already tells me what I knew even though it helps, and moves me, I can't help but feel I should just simply be alone. I'm only 21. I don't know how to fix this soon enough before I finally discover how to love myself too late in life and feel as if I've missed out. It's hard.
It’s a really difficult topic for me. I know I’m far too old to be dealing with these feelings, but I’ve found myself trapped in a situation that I can’t find a way out of. In a nutshell, im now the primary caregiver for my parent who psychologically and emotionally abused me all through my life. It’s lead me to a place where I’ve had to step away from nearly every relationship I’ve ever had with people my own age in order to provide 24 hour care for someone who has told me numerous times that I don’t get to have a life other than the one she wants for me. I know im unlovable because I empowered this situation. I can barely handle it myself, let alone drag someone else into this. I just wish I could have been stronger when I had the chance to put this behind me, but I’m hardwired for guilt and empathy, and the thought of hurting her is something I just can’t do. Yet I still dearly wish I could have had the chance to have a mutual loving relationship….
I just finished watching your video and it hit close to home for me! I have one other sibling and she's "The golden child" ..... According to my parents, always the problem child, the trouble maker, instigator, the never do anything wrong nor admit she's done anything wrong, and the baby!!! Me ... The oldest child, the quiet child, the stays mostly out of trouble child, dependable one, reliable one, trustworthy one ..... And got pushed a side years ago. Forgotten about and abandoned at a young age, when my parents and sister "want me in their lives" or "want something from me"! So yeah I know the feeling of unwantedness very well sadly! 💔😢
@@mr.ghetto Thank you! Unfortunately I had to learn how to survive at a young age and fend for myself, fortunately I found a great woman in my mid 20's and married her. So I'm a survivor! ♥️
Being authentic in this mentally ill world invites a torrential storm of judgement. Which, in my case, brought shame. But you HAVE to be authentic. There's no other path to fulfillment other than authenticity, so no matter how bad the judgement and consequential shame are, it will pass. And you will start to become the best version of yourself, and live an amazing life. Just remember, ALL that judgement you are getting from everyone around you when you choose to be authentic, is precisely because all those people rejected their own authenticity for conformity or to be loved. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. So shine on and live your best life, and pity those judging you for it, because secretly, they wish they had your courage.
I got broken up with by my first love around a month ago, and i've been feeling intense emotions recently of feeling unworthy or undeserving of love. It's still hard to believe that i'll be able to find someone to unconditionally love me and fight for me, but this video really does help me out. thank u psych2go
It's so difficult to tell yourself you deserve something that can only be given to you by some else. On top of that, if you don't have the feeling of having done anything to deserve it, it becomes even harder. I am not an interesting person and I have trouble having good conversations with people. How is anyone ever going to be interested in a person like that? And even if I did deserve to be loved, that doesn't mean anybody will ever love me. Deserving something doesn't always mean that you will get what you deserve.
After all these years I already know it, I'm cursed, there's no other explanation, there's no way someone can have such bad luck in love, everytime I try to reach for it, it's denied.
Hey… i know this coment is seven months old now but it just… i feel need to ask you how your life is doing after this time… Did enything got better? If yes, thats great, but if no… I believe one day it will. Just keep going and i wish you good luck.
This video is relatable. I grew up wired into believing that I was just a burden. I struggle with believing that I have any value or importance to anyone. Which is why I'm thankful for my emotional support animal. I have no one to turn to except for one friend and I vow to cherish that one friend til the end of time.
If you want to be loved you have to learn to love yourself. This really opened my eyes, suddenly i don't really need external validation anymore. Im happy and feeling loved my own ;)
I am unlovable because I keep my eyes forward, absolutely show no expressions in public, never speak to others unless I am addressed first, and I treat everyone exactly the same, no matter who they are. This very blank approach to life assures I will not draw the attention of anybody. I have no friends, no girlfriend, no aquaintences. I am impossible to be used, get betrayed, then be painfully a abandoned. That is worth any price. Nobody needs to be social to exist. It is, just a luxury. Many live life alone.
Your videos helps alot, I can't go and tell my problems to anybody because I feel so uncomfortable to tell about my feelings and problems but your videos help even without saying a word to anyone ❤
It’s hard for me cause lately i’ve really realized the root of why i feel depressed and anxious and honestly it’s a mix of all three. I don’t wanna throw a pity party, but i feel unlovable and hate myself because of how i was treated and still sorta am. My mom was controlling and my dad was absent, add to that i constantly moved houses and never really had any stable bonds. I wasn’t taught how to regulate my emotions either and it’s something i struggle with. I have no real guide in my life, except myself. This video really touched me and is helping me, i’m really trying to address those internal beliefs distorted that were caused before right now in my life. Sometimes I cry alone in my room for hours hoping that it goes away, and maybe instead of feeling empty inside i can feel loved by everyone, but most importantly, me. I’m done running from myself and want to cherish myself as i only have me in this life and i only get one life.
I kinda just accepted that I’m unlovable and that’s okay. At least if I’m around, I’ll try my best to not make anyone feel unloved or unwanted. It’s easier to live that way than for me to keep hoping something out of people. Hehe ^^
This relates to me (this helped me a little bit). Looking for likes crazily. Hope none of these happen to you and have a lovely time. Remember there will always be someone out their loving you! And keep up the good work. And I will share this u definitely got my attention here Timestamps. 1. 0:43 an early defining moment 2. 1:39 rejection and abuse 3. 2:18 shame 4. 3:03 how to heal? Hope this helps
damn why didn't I think of "just be loved 4head"!?seriously like the advice given is "just get therapy and new relationships" as if I haven't been doing that for years.
I feel like I can be liked, but I’ll always be the second one.. my brother was almost priority, and I’m the friend who people hang out when they have no one else to hang out with.… people may like me, but just… not enough to be important in their life..
Thanks for the video… It really touched me. I feel unlovable at times because I was born witn Oculocutaneous Albinism and low vision. My family members blamed me and didn’t treat me nicely for my disability. 😭💔
Well, I'm happy I've come a long way from feeling this way to understanding the opposite. I wish all folks having the same issue I used to have to heal from it. You deserve to be loved no matter what.
I *am* unlovable.I'm even past living as a poltergeist.Rejections from people I legit only wanted to be friends with,getting cheated on,manipulated,dumped for an ex bf because he cared less,abuse,even to physical trauma and starving like Africans.I've seen it all.I could just say "I'm fine",no one would care.Not like if I write a whole essay here would matter.The sole reason of this rant is that I had enough and there are many like me.Even a prophet's patience wouldn't endure such torture we all call "life".I just want you to know that I completely lost it but to *you* dear reader,you *must* keep going.Showing off emotions like I'm doing is no sign of weakness.An outcast's life is never easy.Even if there's no one to listen to your issues there will be at least some form of feedback with a somewhat fake concern that'd be forgotten tomorrow.Still salvagable.To sum it all up,I just wanted to say "You can do it" if that'd comfort you.As for me,the internet is gonna have itself a new Tate.
I found out that there are actually people that like me and spend time with me. They also invite me to do stuff together or see that something I do is "cool", or they can see the good in me meanwhile I don't even think there is in the first place and that surprised me. I want to feel more secure about myself and I wish I can be more confident about what I do and it sucks that, when someone ask me to hang out and I didn't expected it, the first thing that cames to my mind is demanding myself if they are asking me because others said no to them or whatever and then I start to feeling anxious and overthink... Lately I'm hating my human need to socializing, I really wish it wouldn't be so important to the well-being of a person...
Throughout my childhood, I was subject to abusive behaviour from my parents, and they always maintained that no one would help me as much or better than they did. They said that no one would ever love me more, and convinced me that in order for them to love me, I had to work hard and not feel sorry for myself. Years later, despite my objective understanding of the consequences of such relationships, I still find it difficult to ask others for help, much less hope for someone else's love for me. In this way, I push away anyone who tries to get close to me, for I fear that they will bring me as much pain as my parents did. If it wasn't for your videos, it would have been much harder for me to sort myself out. Thank you, and have a nice day!
First of all, many thanks to thé while team for all your videos and the work you do to create these, and also for how active you are on this channel Concerning the video itself, and the one about personnal redflags, you've confronted me to my reality. I'm shaming myself all the time for mistakes I've made, and I'm putting myself down suite frequently. I identified these problems within me long ago, yet I wasn't actively looking for help, despite needing it. So, after I'll finish the mission I'm currently doing, when I reach home, I'll start a therapy Thank you again for reminding us that we aren't beyond Hope, and that we shouldn't hesitate to look out for help
I didn't expect that, "We love you at the end." And it hurt a bit. Mostly because I know/feel it isn't true deep inside. Probably because I have gone through every trauma listed in this video. >.> On a side note, I appreciate the videos you all put out. Please keep it up. :3
Yep, unlovable and unlikeable has been with me for a long time. I think it stems from my father being a perfectionist and me being bullied at school about my essential tremour which developed into a anxiety disorder. Things that happen in childhood have a huge influence as an adult, and if left untreated can fester over a lifetime. You don't need to suffer get help
I can kind of relate... My stepdad always thought he was the leader of me, and when I didn't want to study because I've been studying for like an hour or so (I was lazy), he'd go like "ah, I see so you want to be a worthless piece of shit without education and just have a job for idiots?!!" I feel like it has a ton of negative effects on me, but I'm happy I went through that because I'm more aware of the world now and I think my life is a solid 9.5/10 now
@Langyage great to hear things are going well, as a kid we are so impressionable, only after I went to therapy I realised how warped my perception was of the world and the absolute crap we are told and taught as a kid. Especially When alot of what people say is based on thier own self hatred.
There's a difference between being unlovable and feeling unlovable, people who feel unlovable are able to have relationships and sex but are just really insecure, but people who ARE unlovable will never have love of any kind because they were born to be lonely. LOVE ISN'T FOR EVERYONE
the worst part is that, even after accepting that i *am* lovable and i deserve love and care… i still don’t have it. it somehow hurts more now that i allow myself to want loving, stable relationships. believing that i was unlovable was like a shield. it was a painful thought, but it allowed me to feel less lonely because then i had a *reason* to be alone and not have any deep, supportive relationships. now, i feel much more isolated and alone because i allow myself to want the love that i give to other people. it kind of sucks a bit.
☁️ I feel this way sometimes too, but remember someone always loves you and just by subscribing to this channel you’re in a wholesome, loving community.🩷Thank you Psi I don’t know what we’d do without you! 🌱 Edit: OMG I never thought I’d be this person but tysm for the likes 👍 most I’ve ever gotten!
Unlovable huh? I know that I am. It's weird because im the one friend who says the opposite to those that need to feel loved or are giving up on it. I tell them that exactly this video said, "Everyone in this world is born to be loved or love. It comes eventually. No one in this world is born to be alone." While crying on the inside because i wish I could believe those words myself. My brother's have they're families and my mom has my stepdad. Im the only lonely one but i don't show it because I don't want to worry them. But when i need to cry, i do it softly and quietly so no one can hear me. I see everyone around me having someone they love and sometimes I have to be step away because my heart clenches when i see the love i wished i had. There were two times though where i believed i had found love. The first one hehe was just a dare. I could still hear words when i wanted to give her a promise ring, "Haha you think i want that!? All of this was just a dare by my friends! Who would ever want to be with you!?" As she left laughing with her friends while my heart had broken into a million pieces. Had to pick up those pieces and out them back together. The second one went well and i honestly thought i had found someone who truly loved me, but 😢 the day i was about to ask her if we could take it further, she called me her best friend. My broken heart was cracking again but i accepted with a smile. Years passed and she found her now husband. I was even invited to the wedding. That was the hardest day of my life because i had to watch with a smile and holding together my broken heart as she married someone else. "Sigh" its why i have given up on love I just don't want to be hurt anymore, i can't handle a third heartbreak. Being unlovable affects you when you let it. Its why i try to model my emotions like those of Rick Sanchez from Rick and Morty. Just being apathetic and not caring, without the whole jerk thing. Sorry for the long rant. Great video by the way
Reaching out and needing connection equals pain
This hits deep.
I feel like this might have codified the Hedgehog’s Dilemma, or the other way around
@@nataleynakata3687 looked up the theory. It’s more people in general scare me, wasn’t like this before tho. Seen some awful things to all types of good innocent people for no reason
So much pain. But I've come across it I need someone but they're not there..... It's just these people who think I'm a good for nothing. But I'll keep on beleiveing.
I always avoid tell others my problems cuz then i feel like i shouldnt have told them that. So i always keep things to myself
Yes it does, strips it right down to the core. It's remarkable in a way, I'm almost 50 and I've realized how numbed I am to it. I have moments I mourn the loss of connection. However, most of the time I just exist, work and one day when the end comes, I'll go down on the floor and be found 3 or 4 days later. In a nutshell, that's my remaining days.
Speaking as someone who feels undeserving of love, it's difficult to convince someone they're deserving of love because they don't understand why or how. You can't just say no one is unlovable or that someone out there loves you because often the question that'll be brought up is "what makes me lovable?" "Why do i deserve love?" "What would people like about me?" If you want to explain to someone why they're lovable, using real-world examples in regards to who they are and what they do can further cement the idea that maybe they do deserve love.
I want to leave the planet so badly sometimes. I just feel I’m not meant to experience the happiness I desire, and if I’m not, I don’t want to continue suffering here
Hello there. You matter, so much! I'll keep you in my thoughts, even tho we don't know each other and it might seem strange, I just feel the need to tell You these words. It does gets better! I know it does and I'm sure it will
I want to leave life itself so badly either. But it's just would sound very silly and dumb to others. they'll say "that guy suicide just to run away from the pain of being unloved or unwanted. What a pathetic". Which makes me reconsider. Cuz I know someone there cares for me...or at least did or will do.
The point is: you are loved by many people. You might not know them,but they do and care. And if you wanna be friends, I wouldn't say no cuz I feel you.
@@CaroLine-tj3qb I wish more people like you exist for all of us. Thank you for caring for our dude 💔🙏
Same, for me it stems from a deep rejection of myself. Even if others want to love me. I often don’t feel worthy of being loved by them.
I can’t even develop a relationship with God because I ask myself what did I do to deserve his Grace, Love and Mercy
I’m a Pos I don’t even deserve Gods love
@@RWQFSFASXC-17BP They do exist hahah And I would know, because I've concidered unaliving myself some time ago as well. I would wish every day to be stronger and happier the day after that. Life just goes its own way, and sometimes the way for us to be stronger, is to meet hardships on our way. Once we do that, happiness does comes along, in its timing, but it does
No one is unlovable, but it seems that there are people for whom love does not happen. It's not that it can't happen, just that it continues to not happen.
This. But also charisma. Charisma attracts love, even if it's not meant to happen. Seen some of the lowest humans gather such people around them, by simply having a little charisma.
There’s no such thing as love. It’s all just physical attraction. people deny it all the time but it is the truth.
@@Kumar-bg6nr People who love their dogs and cats can't feel the same about humans ?
No I'm pretty unlovable. Despite being a good person inside, it doesn't matter no one is willing to look past skin deep.
@@GrekeFenris Well the way I see it, without knowing you of course; the effect your attitude has on other people will always come back in the same tonality. Maybe it's not what's inside but what's shining through.
Ok wait this one has my attention… it’s just too relatable. Take care of yourselves guys, you need to find ways to promote self-love, especially when others can’t love and accept you for who you are.
Thank you for sharing your insight. It can be difficult to love ourselves especially when people around us don't seem to accept or love us. However, it's critical at times like that to love ourselves and understand that we are still worthy of love :)
@@UnstableYT-u7k Baby don't hurt me.
@@captsiro233 Don't hurt me.
@@marsmeadiuvat2439No more.
@@UnstableYT-u7k I wanna know 사탕처럼 달콤하다는데
I wanna know 하늘을 나는 것 같다는데
I wanna know, know, know, know
What is love?
Relatable... I feel that I am only valuable when I do things that my peers and parents want me to do at 100%. If I dont do that myself as a person is worthless and unworthy of love. I am only loved when I work hard. I am not useless, I am worthless because anyone can replace me.
this hits really hard ;A; I feel you
This is relatable. I couldn't get enough marks in science and maths and my family started hating me for it. It was as if they stopped giving me that little bit of love i used to get from them. Although things have now improved i still can't get over it. My family always tries to make themselves look good in front of other people. They make excuses about my mental problems and always make me feel like I'm a burden to the family and that I never should've been born. I just envy those who have healthy relationship with their family and loved ones
That sounds really rough... We hope you know that you are more than just your accomplishments in academics and that you are loved regardless of how much you accomplish. How are you doing now? How has your relationship with your family been?
@@Psych2go I'm still having a tough relationship with my family. They are simply over narcissistic and hypocrites. Their presence in a room brings a negative vibe. I feel a lot better when i go to the gym. It's a major problem cause I'm an introvert with few friends that I don't even talk to.
@@nicholasleipzig5448 Dw I am going through it to but hope you are ok !! xx
@@nicholasleipzig5448 this type of family is way too common in China, I can confirm this
@@nicholasleipzig5448 oh my god you just described my life. I'm in the process of leaving but it's a really tough decision. I feel less alone now. Thank you for sharing, and I hope it gets better soon🙏❤️ is there a way we can connect privately rather than the comment section?
Timestamps
1). An early defining moment 0:41
2). Rejection and abuse 1:36
3). Shame 2:18
4). How to heal 3:03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Helpful as always :)
@@Psych2go happy to help
It does ❤️❤️💖
@@sonjakrsmanovic4470 not a problem happy to help
@@A55a551n ❤️
It's also important to realize that, apart from being loved, you are love.
No, I'm stupid 😂
@@Niuskayz and i'm hunger
I'm 'I don't give a darn go to hell'
I was never in an abusive relationship. I WAS the abusive relationship. My feeling of being unloved comes from hating myself. Being bitter and ashamed of the things ive done. Feeling like ive betrayed life itself and now it will punish me for the rest of my days by keeping me with a perpetual feeling of loneliness.
I think the problem is more like being unloved than being unlovable
Timestamps
0:41 An early defining moment
1:39 Rejection & Abuse
2:18 Shame
3:03 How to Heal?
That's it
Hope it helps!
So helpful! Thank you!
damn I have all of these. Not from my parents thankfully, but from a lot of other people...
"Make you believe you're unworthy of love." Im 65 now. 100% alone. Scary.
This is probably the most common kind of thoughts that wake me up in the middle of the night preventing me from getting back to sleep.
This one made me cry because it's so true to me. I was rejected from the beginning and often in my life. It's hard to heal but I am trying.
prayers and God's love are with you ❤
@@lindabusan4415 Thank you. God Bless you.
Today I reached out to my girlfriend whom I haven't heard from in a while, and told her I miss her and hope to see her soon. Shortly after, I had a mental image of my mom being annoyed or frustrated from when I was younger and would ask for her in some way, and saw very clearly one of the things that makes me afraid to ask for my girlfriend which makes me feel like I am intruding or being a burden.
I feel that way too. Do you get anxious and scared?
@@SuprEmpth No, I just feel a natural inclination to have not even tried in the first place, like it will be useless or just cause more issues
i guess i'm not the only one who is feeling like this, right?.. it' hard to believe that you deserve love or that someone loves you...
thanks for the video !!
I think many of us feel this way from time to time. But it's always nice to be reminded that we are loved :) Thank you for watching!
When I like someone, then they hate me back. When someone likes me, I don’t like them. Why is love so difficult
40 years of therapy, and I still feel unlovable. It's not easy to overcome
That's true. I felt unworthy of love almost my whole life and then I met a person (no not romantically, for anyone who's single and stuck in a mentality that they'll never find love) who appreciated me for me. Loving relationships can TRULY rewire your brain. I don't know how long it'll last but I'm happy someone finally showed me that I'm lovable and helped me with my self-esteem in such easy way.
Have a nice day, everyone. Remember that you're loved no matter what :)
Aw what a lovely sentiment! Thank you so much and hope you also remember that you're loved no matter what! :)
Thx I needed that
Loved by whom?
@@UnstableYT-u7k you see, it could be from anyone. maybe you haven't found the right person yet but don't worry because god have plans and he will let you meet the right person eventually so remember to be patient :)
Nice words but all they are is words because I'm not loved just abused
I always feel unloved, unworthy, worthless. I love everyone but no one loves me. Or so i feel like that is the case
I am 67 years old. I have never had a loving relationship with a woman in my lifetime. The words "there's someone for everybody" just agrevates me. I stopped looking for "the one" aged 30/35. There isn't a miss right in the world for me. Self-esteem and self-confidence were bullied out of me at school from ages 5 to 16.
Wym
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In islam, it is said that people who don't marry on this earth, will marry on the next. It's beautiful. But, hey, don't u lose your happiness please. I'm sure if you do good, it'll come back to you, in beautiful ways. Have hope, and faith. Take care
This is so relatable. My mind was telling me, that I don't deserve love from anyone, that's where the depression comes from. Now, I'm going to therapy and I'm also taking meds to help me feel better about anything. I almost always write about love in my poetry because I'm INFP-T, and I watch and read ROM COMS a lot, also sone funny comics, too.
So sweet, so true. No matter how tough and impenetrable we think we are, we need love...just as we did when we were very young.
I wanted to thank you guys for your videos. they truly get me through so much and is my comfort channel. thank you
Thank you so much for watching! We're so glad that our content gives you comfort when you need it. Did you learn something new from the video?
This video makes me think of Heinz Doofenshmirtz from Phineas and Ferb. His whole life, his parents emotionally abused him and never loved him for not being good enough, they replaced him with better sons like Roger and only son. Heinz was told that he was a failure by his professor and that he makes her sick, and his own daughter Vanessa is completely unable to love him despite of how nice he is to her and everything he does for her. Also Linda broke up with Heinz Doofenshmirtz just like everyone else got mad at him and hated him for being a failure who messes up all the time.
They sending him to America was the best desicion they ever made
That guy is actually the most traumatised person in the entire cartoon world I guess.. neither of his parents showed for his birth
I definitely identify with this as someone with abandonment issues but therapy, self-reflection and dating have helped me to combat these feelings better. To anyone reading this: You matter, you are loved and you are not what those persons made you feel like. ^_^
Dating only confirmed my thoughts of being unlovable.
@@kristijan8518 Same, but I would suggest linking with a therapist and do an autopsy of your past relationship(s). That will help you to avoid certain patterns and learn the areas you need to either affirm yourself in or set stronger boundaries in. Love is not easy but it’s not (as) hard when you know how to love yourself. 😘 I believe in you.
I felt this way for a long time and videos like this one helped me realize, I am actually more lovable then I gave myself credit for. I actually was loved I was just so in this melancholy and hopeless emotional state that I couldn't see that there were people around me that actually cared and possibly loved me. I just needed to look up and recognize what they were trying to show me to see it. So, I am very grateful for what I am learning from these videos and it is helping me redefine my surroundings and how to better read the people around me. I still have a long way to go but it has helped me make progress even though at times I feel like I was rather dumb when I let my emotions run my life but that realization helps me become better. Now I wish I can find those people that did try to show they cared and thank them for trying to help me. I don't know if I can but as long as I live my life the way it should be I guess that can be thanks enough to them.
Sometimes, I feel unlovable because there are others that think I’m not good enough. And I keep doubting myself. I realized that it’s not the case.
this video was released at the right time as what I'm feeling rn, thanks Psi
As Maslow wrote years ago, love genuinely is a foundational experience toward thriving at all levels. When Paul McCartney and John Lennon sang, in 1967, "all you need is love," they totally nailed it.💙💙
Chads get to have it. Sub-5's don't.
And Lennon abused his wife. Physically and verbally. Apparently he also needed to smack some females as well, not only love.
@@bobbruce4135 don't play games🚩
Self love helps too. I'm finally building mine back up. I'm finally learning I'm worthy of healthy reciprocated love.
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My Narc mother made sure I understood very early that I wasn't and never will be good enough and worthy of love.
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I have been really struggling with this due to the circumstances that I am in. This video lists most of what makes me feel like I am unlovable but I have been working on that. Great video as usual and thanks a lot to the team at Psych2Go for the amazing videos you guys make. I have learnt a lot about myself and others through your content and really appreciate the work you guys are doing 😄❤️
dear stranger,
I’m glad you found this video and i’m sorry that you’re hurting. know that you’re loved! I hope things get better for you
@@mel_justmel9569 That is so sweet of you 💙 Thanks a lot for your lovely message 😄
A stranger online once told me “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for”. Gotta love 2023
Feeling unlovable started in middle school for me. I was bullied for years over my weight and social quirks. As everyone developed needs for connection, I was bullied for that too. Kids would tell girls I had a crush on them just to embarrass them, watch the disgust on their face. They would act nice to me just to laugh to the themselves if I thought it was genuine. Reaching out wasn't even a thought because I didn't have to say anything to be put down for it. I'm in my mid 20s now and despite years of self care and personal developement the thought of reaching out when I'm lonely or want to socialize makes me scared and angry at those memories. This kind of stuff sticks with you and working through it is a long journey, one that I still have a ways to go on unfortunately.
Thanks for bringing me one step closer to reconciling with myself, folks- I sincerely hope y'all the best for well-being, mentally or physically
Painfully relatable, all of these points. Here's my story if someone wants to read. And before I start I'd like to say, you guys aren't alone and you all have my best wishes. ❤
My family always dismissed me as being too needy and demanding, and any time I'd make some mistake as a kid, they'd always carry on about it for years until it was to the point I developed self-hatred.
That was pretty much my whole life until a few years ago. I'm almost 27 now and I'm slowly but surely healing. I still struggle with feeling unlovable at times, but I'm trying to keep in mind at least I have friends who love and care about me, even if my family is toxic. At the thought of anyone caring about me, I start to cry. But I'm slowly trying to default to positivity. So slowly, but I definitely am.
We need to love ourselves! (: I've found that I can't expect others to fulfill this feeling... It just never works. I have to love myself to truly feel loved. ☀️☀️
My mental health has convinced me that I’m not worthy of love and Am unlovable and no amount of “self love” is able to change that no amount of “healing work” or therapy is gonna help that.
Thank you for giving me ammo to fight my battle. I've struggled with this for a very long time, and this video brought me to tears.
I'll keep going until not only do I feel lovable again, but until I can truly feel the love that the ones I value show me.
Yeah childhood sucked and then adolescence was met with indifference, which is what got me out of if alive, but apathy and shame lead to a wasted 20's. Finally slowly unwinding the misery and sorrow and trying to build someone worthwhile, since thats what i need to love myself, and thats the requirement to be loved.
I think I give up on girls to easy ,maybe? I’m not sure,I’m told I’m good looking but I really suck at getting any attention from women ,I really don’t understand.
This helped me a lot on my understanding, keep up the good work ❤️
This channel is literally like my best friend. Understand me so much because no one else will
Same!
This is relatable. I'm suffering from mental health issues. I have nobody. I'm all alone. I'm taking care of myself 💜
Of all your videos, this one hit me the most and brought me to tears. Crazy how childhood trauma and abuse could really set you up for all these "unlovable" feelings.
as a 35yo, twice divorced man, with 3 kids, lost everything twice.... Been working hard my entire life..... Last ex lied to court and to the expert from child protective services and was caught lying in court... Still won... Judges excuse? The kids had already moved.... Even if she had moved after signing a contract that non of us could move away with the kids.... Take it from me.... There is no "love" in the world worth it..... Its worth less. It will only bring pain, depression and guilt..... The world treat dads like crap..... and thats only what you are left with after... Feeling like crap..
Stay single and happy. NEVER get married, never get kids.
I love my kids to death.... But when they take them away from you, and even it the other person gets caught lying to court..... you wish you didn't have kids so you would not ever know this pain.....
I'm at the coffee shop. my 38 year-old ass... bawling with this video. I relate. but I also look back at everything and how much I've overcome over the past decade. I am in a better place without the abusive people in my life.
3:19 - even after years of therapy, I somewhat struggle to believe this, but I do know I am deserving of love... the ex wife leaving was a huge factor for this... i sustained traumatic brain injury and survived a murder attempt... it wasn't my fault, I didn't know recovery was going to take so long.
For anyone that needs to read this:
You can make it through, I believe in you. Keep going 🥺
This video made me weep and break down in tears! 😪This was exactly me growing up, being abused, and having a family that didn't give a shit, and even now, years later, I still get feelings of: "I'm not good enough for anyone", and "I wish I were not me, but someone else". Being an INFJ doesn't help matters either!
Reaching out and needing someone will always feel painful to me, I'm going to be 30 this year and never shared a loving connection with someone, there's hardly any opportunity for me to meet new people, and when i do i dont have the social experience to take it to the next level and the few times i did try i just get friend zoned, or I'm met with "it'll happen someday" by people who are already in relationships, they don't know what it's like to be alone that way for over a decade.
Therapy is no good because they suggest everything that doesn't apply to me and my circumstances, my hobbies are things most of the population doesnt involve themselves with.
Why do they always assume that its stems from childhood? My childhood was great! I felt loved by both parents and extended family, friends. I am just unloveable to anyone who is not them. Lol
I just feel like a spectacular, someone invisible who is on the outside looking in, watching everyone else confidently live their lives and find love, feel love and can openly express there love. Im 4 decades into life and honestly
I dont think i will ever truly be loved.
Man I have no idea what the hell happened to me because I relate to some of this but I can’t remember anything that would’ve happened to make me feel this way
Something happening before you could remember it can cause all of those issues still even if you don't remember it happening
I'm paused at 1:45. I used to have a reoccurring dream of me floating in the ocean far under the water where only a small amount of light reached me. I wore a white dress and had long blonde hair. The feeling has always stuck with me but it was around a time where I was being abused physically mentally and s*exually. I felt drowned. Suffocated and wanted a way out. I looked up why I feel unlovable today because i can't find a proper connection in a relationship and feel I can never truly be loved by anyone. It still feels suffocating even when I am awake. I wish it would all go away and it's hard to deal with. This video already tells me what I knew even though it helps, and moves me, I can't help but feel I should just simply be alone. I'm only 21. I don't know how to fix this soon enough before I finally discover how to love myself too late in life and feel as if I've missed out. It's hard.
It’s a really difficult topic for me. I know I’m far too old to be dealing with these feelings, but I’ve found myself trapped in a situation that I can’t find a way out of. In a nutshell, im now the primary caregiver for my parent who psychologically and emotionally abused me all through my life. It’s lead me to a place where I’ve had to step away from nearly every relationship I’ve ever had with people my own age in order to provide 24 hour care for someone who has told me numerous times that I don’t get to have a life other than the one she wants for me. I know im unlovable because I empowered this situation. I can barely handle it myself, let alone drag someone else into this. I just wish I could have been stronger when I had the chance to put this behind me, but I’m hardwired for guilt and empathy, and the thought of hurting her is something I just can’t do. Yet I still dearly wish I could have had the chance to have a mutual loving relationship….
I just finished watching your video and it hit close to home for me! I have one other sibling and she's "The golden child" ..... According to my parents, always the problem child, the trouble maker, instigator, the never do anything wrong nor admit she's done anything wrong, and the baby!!! Me ... The oldest child, the quiet child, the stays mostly out of trouble child, dependable one, reliable one, trustworthy one ..... And got pushed a side years ago. Forgotten about and abandoned at a young age, when my parents and sister "want me in their lives" or "want something from me"! So yeah I know the feeling of unwantedness very well sadly! 💔😢
I'm sorry that happened donald.
@@mr.ghetto Thank you! Unfortunately I had to learn how to survive at a young age and fend for myself, fortunately I found a great woman in my mid 20's and married her. So I'm a survivor! ♥️
“No baby on this earth is born undeserving of love”
Well that changed right when I was born
Being authentic in this mentally ill world invites a torrential storm of judgement. Which, in my case, brought shame. But you HAVE to be authentic. There's no other path to fulfillment other than authenticity, so no matter how bad the judgement and consequential shame are, it will pass. And you will start to become the best version of yourself, and live an amazing life. Just remember, ALL that judgement you are getting from everyone around you when you choose to be authentic, is precisely because all those people rejected their own authenticity for conformity or to be loved. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. So shine on and live your best life, and pity those judging you for it, because secretly, they wish they had your courage.
"I know nobody likes me, why must we have a holiday season to emphasize it?" Charlie Brown. That's my current mood, at the moment.
I got broken up with by my first love around a month ago, and i've been feeling intense emotions recently of feeling unworthy or undeserving of love. It's still hard to believe that i'll be able to find someone to unconditionally love me and fight for me, but this video really does help me out. thank u psych2go
When it just gets tedious being nice to people, when it'll only be one sided.
It's so difficult to tell yourself you deserve something that can only be given to you by some else. On top of that, if you don't have the feeling of having done anything to deserve it, it becomes even harder.
I am not an interesting person and I have trouble having good conversations with people. How is anyone ever going to be interested in a person like that?
And even if I did deserve to be loved, that doesn't mean anybody will ever love me. Deserving something doesn't always mean that you will get what you deserve.
This video got me really emotional... Had some tears running down my face..
After all these years I already know it, I'm cursed, there's no other explanation, there's no way someone can have such bad luck in love, everytime I try to reach for it, it's denied.
Hey… i know this coment is seven months old now but it just… i feel need to ask you how your life is doing after this time…
Did enything got better?
If yes, thats great, but if no… I believe one day it will. Just keep going and i wish you good luck.
This video is relatable.
I grew up wired into believing that I was just a burden. I struggle with believing that I have any value or importance to anyone.
Which is why I'm thankful for my emotional support animal.
I have no one to turn to except for one friend and I vow to cherish that one friend til the end of time.
I cant connect with people no matter how hard i try so i just stopped bothering
For me, no matter how much someone loved me, I've always felt this emptiness inside. The key has always been to love and accept yourself first.
If you want to be loved you have to learn to love yourself.
This really opened my eyes, suddenly i don't really need external validation anymore.
Im happy and feeling loved my own ;)
I am unlovable because I keep my eyes forward, absolutely show no expressions in public, never speak to others unless I am addressed first, and I treat everyone exactly the same, no matter who they are. This very blank approach to life assures I will not draw the attention of anybody. I have no friends, no girlfriend, no aquaintences. I am impossible to be used, get betrayed, then be painfully a abandoned. That is worth any price. Nobody needs to be social to exist. It is, just a luxury. Many live life alone.
Your videos helps alot, I can't go and tell my problems to anybody because I feel so uncomfortable to tell about my feelings and problems but your videos help even without saying a word to anyone ❤
I feel this channel is a message from universe. The videos just pops in whenever i'm in the darkest mood❤
It’s hard for me cause lately i’ve really realized the root of why i feel depressed and anxious and honestly it’s a mix of all three.
I don’t wanna throw a pity party, but i feel unlovable and hate myself because of how i was treated and still sorta am. My mom was controlling and my dad was absent, add to that i constantly moved houses and never really had any stable bonds. I wasn’t taught how to regulate my emotions either and it’s something i struggle with. I have no real guide in my life, except myself.
This video really touched me and is helping me, i’m really trying to address those internal beliefs distorted that were caused before right now in my life. Sometimes I cry alone in my room for hours hoping that it goes away, and maybe instead of feeling empty inside i can feel loved by everyone, but most importantly, me.
I’m done running from myself and want to cherish myself as i only have me in this life and i only get one life.
I kinda just accepted that I’m unlovable and that’s okay. At least if I’m around, I’ll try my best to not make anyone feel unloved or unwanted. It’s easier to live that way than for me to keep hoping something out of people. Hehe ^^
This relates to me (this helped me a little bit). Looking for likes crazily. Hope none of these happen to you and have a lovely time. Remember there will always be someone out their loving you! And keep up the good work. And I will share this u definitely got my attention here
Timestamps.
1. 0:43 an early defining moment
2. 1:39 rejection and abuse
3. 2:18 shame
4. 3:03 how to heal?
Hope this helps
Same here I can really relate to this
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damn why didn't I think of "just be loved 4head"!?seriously like the advice given is "just get therapy and new relationships" as if I haven't been doing that for years.
Definitely going to give this a few more watches. Thank you for sharing this 🙂
I don’t “believe” i’m not desirable, it’s just the hard fucking truth.
I feel like I can be liked, but I’ll always be the second one.. my brother was almost priority, and I’m the friend who people hang out when they have no one else to hang out with.… people may like me, but just… not enough to be important in their life..
I really needed this
Thanks for the video… It really touched me. I feel unlovable at times because I was born witn Oculocutaneous Albinism and low vision. My family members blamed me and didn’t treat me nicely for my disability. 😭💔
Well, I'm happy I've come a long way from feeling this way to understanding the opposite. I wish all folks having the same issue I used to have to heal from it. You deserve to be loved no matter what.
Im glad ur here .... because being alone all the time isn't good so just hearing a familiar voice is soothing.
I *am* unlovable.I'm even past living as a poltergeist.Rejections from people I legit only wanted to be friends with,getting cheated on,manipulated,dumped for an ex bf because he cared less,abuse,even to physical trauma and starving like Africans.I've seen it all.I could just say "I'm fine",no one would care.Not like if I write a whole essay here would matter.The sole reason of this rant is that I had enough and there are many like me.Even a prophet's patience wouldn't endure such torture we all call "life".I just want you to know that I completely lost it but to *you* dear reader,you *must* keep going.Showing off emotions like I'm doing is no sign of weakness.An outcast's life is never easy.Even if there's no one to listen to your issues there will be at least some form of feedback with a somewhat fake concern that'd be forgotten tomorrow.Still salvagable.To sum it all up,I just wanted to say "You can do it" if that'd comfort you.As for me,the internet is gonna have itself a new Tate.
I found out that there are actually people that like me and spend time with me. They also invite me to do stuff together or see that something I do is "cool", or they can see the good in me meanwhile I don't even think there is in the first place and that surprised me. I want to feel more secure about myself and I wish I can be more confident about what I do and it sucks that, when someone ask me to hang out and I didn't expected it, the first thing that cames to my mind is demanding myself if they are asking me because others said no to them or whatever and then I start to feeling anxious and overthink... Lately I'm hating my human need to socializing, I really wish it wouldn't be so important to the well-being of a person...
Treat yourself with love and you will feel lovable. It's a practice.
Yes, thank you for this amazing video! Needed to hear this. Love the positivity!! 💖🥰😇🙏
Throughout my childhood, I was subject to abusive behaviour from my parents, and they always maintained that no one would help me as much or better than they did. They said that no one would ever love me more, and convinced me that in order for them to love me, I had to work hard and not feel sorry for myself. Years later, despite my objective understanding of the consequences of such relationships, I still find it difficult to ask others for help, much less hope for someone else's love for me. In this way, I push away anyone who tries to get close to me, for I fear that they will bring me as much pain as my parents did.
If it wasn't for your videos, it would have been much harder for me to sort myself out. Thank you, and have a nice day!
It’s beautiful thank you for helping I needed this video 🥺💘!
First of all, many thanks to thé while team for all your videos and the work you do to create these, and also for how active you are on this channel
Concerning the video itself, and the one about personnal redflags, you've confronted me to my reality.
I'm shaming myself all the time for mistakes I've made, and I'm putting myself down suite frequently.
I identified these problems within me long ago, yet I wasn't actively looking for help, despite needing it.
So, after I'll finish the mission I'm currently doing, when I reach home, I'll start a therapy
Thank you again for reminding us that we aren't beyond Hope, and that we shouldn't hesitate to look out for help
Thank you - I needed this video today.
Thank you very much❤❤❤ this video really helped a lot
I didn't expect that, "We love you at the end." And it hurt a bit. Mostly because I know/feel it isn't true deep inside.
Probably because I have gone through every trauma listed in this video. >.>
On a side note, I appreciate the videos you all put out. Please keep it up. :3
I feel ignored and unloved
Same
Yep, unlovable and unlikeable has been with me for a long time. I think it stems from my father being a perfectionist and me being bullied at school about my essential tremour which developed into a anxiety disorder. Things that happen in childhood have a huge influence as an adult, and if left untreated can fester over a lifetime. You don't need to suffer get help
I can kind of relate... My stepdad always thought he was the leader of me, and when I didn't want to study because I've been studying for like an hour or so (I was lazy), he'd go like "ah, I see so you want to be a worthless piece of shit without education and just have a job for idiots?!!"
I feel like it has a ton of negative effects on me, but I'm happy I went through that because I'm more aware of the world now and I think my life is a solid 9.5/10 now
@Langyage great to hear things are going well, as a kid we are so impressionable, only after I went to therapy I realised how warped my perception was of the world and the absolute crap we are told and taught as a kid. Especially When alot of what people say is based on thier own self hatred.
There's a difference between being unlovable and feeling unlovable, people who feel unlovable are able to have relationships and sex but are just really insecure, but people who ARE unlovable will never have love of any kind because they were born to be lonely. LOVE ISN'T FOR EVERYONE
the worst part is that, even after accepting that i *am* lovable and i deserve love and care… i still don’t have it. it somehow hurts more now that i allow myself to want loving, stable relationships.
believing that i was unlovable was like a shield. it was a painful thought, but it allowed me to feel less lonely because then i had a *reason* to be alone and not have any deep, supportive relationships. now, i feel much more isolated and alone because i allow myself to want the love that i give to other people. it kind of sucks a bit.
A women I have known for along time has my heart,I feel I can’t have her,I think I’m just smitten,so I gave up.
I did find this video helpful, thank you!
☁️ I feel this way sometimes too, but remember someone always loves you and just by subscribing to this channel you’re in a wholesome, loving community.🩷Thank you Psi I don’t know what we’d do without you! 🌱
Edit: OMG I never thought I’d be this person but tysm for the likes 👍 most I’ve ever gotten!
Unlovable huh? I know that I am. It's weird because im the one friend who says the opposite to those that need to feel loved or are giving up on it. I tell them that exactly this video said, "Everyone in this world is born to be loved or love. It comes eventually. No one in this world is born to be alone." While crying on the inside because i wish I could believe those words myself. My brother's have they're families and my mom has my stepdad. Im the only lonely one but i don't show it because I don't want to worry them. But when i need to cry, i do it softly and quietly so no one can hear me. I see everyone around me having someone they love and sometimes I have to be step away because my heart clenches when i see the love i wished i had. There were two times though where i believed i had found love. The first one hehe was just a dare. I could still hear words when i wanted to give her a promise ring, "Haha you think i want that!? All of this was just a dare by my friends! Who would ever want to be with you!?" As she left laughing with her friends while my heart had broken into a million pieces. Had to pick up those pieces and out them back together. The second one went well and i honestly thought i had found someone who truly loved me, but 😢 the day i was about to ask her if we could take it further, she called me her best friend. My broken heart was cracking again but i accepted with a smile. Years passed and she found her now husband. I was even invited to the wedding. That was the hardest day of my life because i had to watch with a smile and holding together my broken heart as she married someone else.
"Sigh" its why i have given up on love
I just don't want to be hurt anymore, i can't handle a third heartbreak. Being unlovable affects you when you let it. Its why i try to model my emotions like those of Rick Sanchez from Rick and Morty. Just being apathetic and not caring, without the whole jerk thing.
Sorry for the long rant. Great video by the way
The only channel who understands me❤
Facts are facts. Just need a way to cope with it
Lol, so to heal feeling unlovable you need to be loved. Woooh mind blown.
I know right! “professionals” always think they know everything and that they’re so experienced, but they never say anything new