I have beaten myself up over this so many times. Sometimes I get a bright spot of being happy with doing something important *to me*. Rinse and Repeat. I wish you peace in knowing that while you may not think you've accomplished something important, there are things you're allowed to be proud of even if you haven't won a Nobel Prize or have artwork hanging in museums.
When I sought my diagnosis, my doctor asked me why I wanted it. I said, "Because I'm either all of the horrible things I keep saying to myself, or I have ADHD." 💔
The things I've been told by my abusive family, including my younger siblings.....I'll never get closure, though. They never apologised, how could they now, that I am AuDHD? They would have to face the fact that they bullied a disabled person. I beat myself up and hated myself for 52! years.....damn
@lindsaybagwell7988 I can only say it from my own experience. I left an abusive man, learned about narcissistic abuse which I've endured since childhood, understood I had CPTSD, made changes in my life like recognising red flags, found the first healthy partner/ person I've ever had in my life and healed quite quickly from certain things. After a sick leave I was at home for several weeks and we got a new cat during this time and I got weird meltdowns. I all.of a sudden realised I had issues due to not having a regular daily schedule and that my hard physical work is litteraly my stimming. Also, things were quite difficult with our new cat which stressed me additionally. That's how, also looking back at my issues since I was little and understanding how Autism and ADHD show in women, made me be able to distinguish between my trauma and my AuDHD
@@lindsaybagwell7988 It's true, PTSD or ADHD was definitely something I considered. I did ask my mom for feedback related to symptoms in childhood before my appointment. When I asked her she just kept saying I was such a good kid and she didn't know of any. Then I gave her a ton of symptoms and she was able to give me specific examples of me having those symptoms, even things I didn't remember or wouldn't have realized on my own. It was very helpful. So perhaps having a solid history for so much of my life helped. I've also had trauma therapy, prior to getting diagnosed, so that could have also helped clear things up too.
Anxiety. But procrastination actually causes anxiety for me. I don't consider myself a procrastinater att alll. It gives me anxiety & makes me anxious if ik I have 10 things to do in two days. Anxiety, yes, I was Dx with severe generalized anxiety disorder.
And then as an adult after all the "if you just tried harder" "why do you take everything so personally?" Those same people will never know how hard you really tried even when it was never enough.
+daytradersanonymous9955 I think I was in my mid 20's when I learned not to taking anything personally unless it's people I care abt. esp. when it comes to friendships. But this video matches me to a T. Now, I understand why I get frustrated easily when there are times I feel like they don't understand me. Ex: I'll try to explain something to my mom, but she won't let me finish to properly explain what I'm trying to explain to her. Ironically though, I have a tendency to interrupt others a lot more than I should. Not all the time ofc, but when I do get a little frustrated esp. at home, I have a little bit of a "groan-growl" if that makes any sense, but that's when I feel like others aren't quite understanding me.
@@jessicacoates1611 don't use my great to the fifth generation uncle's final words to justify ableism. "Such is life" was a call out to the irony of a corrupt "justice" system, as Ned Kelly was Australia's Robin Hood. Not an ableist way of saying que sera sera (which isn't even the correct way to say it, but I digress). Yes, we all have our afflictions, however neurodivergence isn't something to sniff at. Especially executive dysfunction caused by ADHD. I was born with a myriad of disabilities: a visual impairment, a back shaped like a bendy straw, joints which don't stay in place, a brain that doesn't pick up on social cues or my own emotions very well, yet ADHD is my toughest challenge. ADHD objectively makes life harder than the vast majority of those without the disorder, especially when coupled with poverty, limited education and medical access, and ab*sive parents. One cannot "just deal". Dealing with it as an adult undiagnosed is like playing Elder Scrolls on max difficulty. For everyone else, life is Minecraft hardcore. For me, it's like playing the most obscure, jank coded, retro game from the 80s on expert. There is no winning when you have to play by the rules of a corrupted game.
@@mlewis8579 LOVE that. My other BFF is a Nurse so, I can't forget her either..lol. She and I have the greatest and to some weird relationship. We'll go for months without talking. Then one of us will randomly get in touch with the other and it's like no "gap" ever happened. It's like we just continue filling each other in about what's been going on like no time has past. I am blessed to have them both let me tell ya!
Made me cry, it described me perfectly…every single word was spot on and hit hard. He is correct, and late in life is correct, and suddenly everything makes sense…. All correct. Doesn’t make it any easier, the guilt sucks.
My whole life I felt like I was a defective product. Like I could never be enough compared to others who appeared to existed so effortlessly in life. Getting a later in life diagnosis has allowed me to feel less isolated knowing I am not alone but it also has left me grieving the life I feel I could have had if I was diagnosed as a child. This video really hit me and I feel you nailed what it is like being a women with ADHD
I’m 47 and finally have an appointment to get tested. Seeing my ‘personality flaws’ being described as symptoms in this video is sad and enlightening at the same time. If the test comes back the way I think it will, maybe I can be a little less hard on myself.
I'll tell you how I got past the grief: I looked at the family and world I was raised in. If I had been diagnosed as a child, I probably would have been raised to believe that I had a disability. As an adult, I don't believe that. In some ways I am lucky I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. There are good and bad possibilities in every situation. What are the positives in getting a late-in-life diagnosis?
Not diagnosed officially until 50, and all of this is spot on. I'm just so glad that informative content like yours is finally getting out to the masses. I can't suddenly feel alright with myself after decades of wondering why I was such a failure, but this kind of acknowledgement is a start.
@marlenegold280 think of menopause as a development as radical as puberty. It doesn't undo puberty, it launches us into a third life stage. The blessing being that once the hormones have stopped knocking us sideways they fall to low but constant levels. Its very calm and peaceful. Thankfully.
@@michellebyrom6551 You are right. That calmness happens when you are healthy. But if you have autoimmune diseases, insulin resistance, T2D, Metabolic syndrome, inflammation, nutritional deficiencies, poor diet, are sedentary, on statins, on prescription meds, etc. then things get worse.
As a woman with ADHD, all of these are correct except that I've managed to work my way out of the low self-esteem. I'm freaking awesome! I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and that's okay. I never really wanted to be a cup of tea anyway. I mean, if I were a cup of tea I would probably be licorice tea. It's sweet, but licorice is a very polarizing flavor.
This felt like a personal attack, currently exhausted lying on the sofa, scrolling after an overwhelming day of trying to keep my brain on the board room not on the bird box outside the window
This hits so hard. Literally took me all morning to decide which shop would be best to get the few things I needed. So frustrating. Wasted time and then beat myself up about losing time and then having to rush! It’s exhausting. I really should try get diagnosed but keep gaslighting myself that I’m being ridiculous
You are NOT being ridiculous! Here’s what you can do- go see someone and ask for help with a diagnosis. Maybe you have it or maybe not but either way you will be armed with information, not assumptions, and that helps guide your next steps. You are never blowing anything out of proportion when advocating for your own health. I wish you well and I hope you at the very least talk to a professional about your concerns. Sending hugs and encouragement!! xoxo
Grieving the person I could have been if only I had known. Luckily I have a great deal to appreciate today. I'm proud of having the strength to just be myself and live my life my way. Hugs to all ❤
😢you’re spot ON!! You just described my life in 25 seconds!? 46 and still undiagnosed… but I know I have ADHD! I will go through the official diagnosis just to make it official… but the extreme exhaustion and stress that I face daily makes it hard to prioritize going to the doctor! Just getting through my days feels like a feat within itself! The only thing that truly helps me feel better is starting out my day with a daily guided meditation 🧘♀️ to allow my brain to try its best to slow down and focus inside my body for healing… really really does help to ease my anxiety and make me feel calmer going into my days! Highly recommend it to anyone reading this!!!! Feel better, you all deserve it!!! ❤
I hope you get your diagnosis soon... I am on medication now and can actually sit down and work now, complete tasks and the brain chatter is decreased.
I wanted to try emdr therapy after many storms incl tr experience with s violence. But when i saw a contract to sign for treatment i felt sn instant burn out sensation plus pain as if I'm profiled for someone else's crime. I also constant feel i neef more room and space with nothing at all. I found a new job but in office ahd i feel so unhappy all i wajt is to be home work from my safe place
Thank you so much for this. Every word is true. Just got diagnosed 3 months ago at 32. I'm grieving but also so grateful for finally getting diagnosed. I hope i will be able to let go of the narrative that i am a failure and not enough, being "too sensitive and emotional" had me learn to push down ALL my emotions all the time except when i am alone, til the point that i can't even let them out when i want to open up. My hyperactivity also does'nt come out in movement just in thoughts and talking. So people really don't see my struggle cause everything is internal, even my emotions. Because i always believe that I am the problem, i am too ashamed to admit that I am not okay or even ask for help when i am failing at basic life stuff again. I always hear how much potential i have but i can make NOTHING come from it. I really just want to learn to unmask and be myself so i can accept myself and figure out who she really even is..
@michellehendricks5686, You are fortunate. You have 26 more years than I did in establishing values, prioritizing goals and making clear multi-step plans. I wish you well in your life, you have less years, though they were formative, to grieve. I am replying to you b/c at 32 I was ready to give up on everything, I didn’t know where to turn and was really uncomfortably numb about life. The first flush of schooling and trying to gain traction in my career was not working very well, much less finding someone who “got” me. The terminology and testing just wasn’t as well known or being applied to women. Fast forward 17 years and I finally meet the right someone who sees the struggle and validates the adhd. I had been searching for answers for a very long time. The best of luck to you in meshing life to your brain and vice-versa 😁. I wish you well. ☮️
Was diagnosed as a child, ... still didn't realize until recently things like this was due to my ADHD and not me being lazy, useless, near-crazy etc.... because the only thing they ever talked about when I was a kid was "You need medicine to focus at school" and "You cannot be so aggressive towards people who tease you " [*You cannot say F off to people who have called you names, stolen your things, told you how ugley and weird you are every recess all year ]
Have tears I have never felt so seen The labels and misdiagnoses, being put on meds that I should have never been put on to begin with... Sir thank you
So true. Diagnosed at 35, at a point, where I usually isolate myself because I was so tired of beeing misunterstood without being able to change. Still feel like an alien most of the time, hiding myself from others, trying to act normal but failing. It‘s kind of cruel, being able to understand feelings in other people so well, while nobody seems to understand you.
I'M GETTING TESTED TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! almost 50. You and Rich&Rox and Olivia on You Tube actually brought this to my attention. I felt seen. EDIT: got the date wrong it's not tomorrow it's the day after 😂
Even though I was diagnosed with ADD at 13, the only “tools” I was given was Adderall. My parents (mainly my mom) tried their very best to help and it’s only thanks to my mom I was even diagnosed! I’m now 31 and I’m still struggling with understanding why I do certain things or why I am the way that I am. These videos as well as others are helping me realize so many “awful” things about me are just characteristics of being neurodivergent. Thank you for putting into words what I’ve never been able to articulate and thank you for making me feel seen and understood ❤❤
I wish I could put this video in a Time Machine and send it back to myself as a early teenager. Or even before. I think it would’ve been so beneficial especially with self hatred and self esteem issues. Plus the internal gaslighting before I even knew what that was.
When I was newly married, with a toddler and a newborn- and my mother had just died from a 9 mos. battle of lung cancer. I had spent last year driving 4 hours big pregnant with a toddler to help take her to chemo, etc. My now ex-husband told me to “stop acting overwhelmed”!!! I was 25 years old. I would not even realized I had it and get my diagnosis until my daughter was diagnosed in high school. We both have Inattentive type- which can be even harder to get diagnosed. I am so thankful for meds and good docs! Yoga, meditation and running were helpful ways go cope before meds and evenmoreso in combination. I do have days where i Think about who I could have been if id had support and knowledge. But, if it would have meant I would not have my two same children, I would go through it all again. If I could keep them- Id choose to not have ADHD . i think id be such a better parent if i was more “neuro- normal” . I feel bad for them having to have me for their mom. Geez. Could not have been easy. I hate it when people say you are “too much” 🎉😂 they have zero clue! Good luck to all of us for brighter futures.🎉
I’m surprised and dumbfounded by the level at which my life has been impacted by my ADHD. I am sad for all the years of joy and success I may have had but those struggles helped make me who I am today. I just wish it wasn’t so painful.
I was diagnosed in 6th grade, as back then ADD. I Grew up with no help. As i got older i thought it go away because it was just bad child behavior. I went on in life going insane as i was just a failure. At 28 i went to my doc and said lets cut the crap, ive been looking into ADHD and i want to try adderall. My life has changed tremendusly in the past year! Im taking my life over again
Ahh I love you for this!! I have ADHD and also have 4 kids and a husband and they criticize me a lot specially for the exhaustion and the paralysis and the sudden focus on one task and I remember before getting diagnosed I would even get so frustrated with myself by the days end I would be sitting there on the floor crying and in a disaster just wishing I could be normal or they would understand what's going on with me I mean literally awful and an awful feeling. I got diagnosed with ADHD and OCD about a year ago and found out this is why I am the way I am. We really are so very hard on ourselves and no one but us knows our internal struggle daily so the best thing someone can do for us is to be as supportive as possible, offer help, distraction is awesome, but the worst thing you can do is criticize honestly!! Thank you so much for sharing the info as well!! You are awesome ❤
I realized I have ADHD when we assessed our son. I ticked all the boxes. I have spent the last 2 years having new revelations about my childhood. It's like I've been living in a movie, playing a character that wasn't really me.
I am really lucky had EMDR for suicidal thoughts due to Childhood SA. Reallised that happiness was actually a real thing. But as some things got slowly better. Lots of other things I had struggled with got much worse, had no executive function. My insomnia got much worse, and could not stop talking, and hyperfocusing on politics. People I loved told me to stop talking about politics, it was all I could talk about. Eating became more erratic was eating 1 meal at night then binging my current obsessive food. My daughter and grandson both diagnosed with ADHD and Autism said. You do know you have ADHD, I was like no I have CPTSD thats enough for me. I was emotionally in many ways much happier and lots of my triggers just stopped triggering me. I expected to be able to get on with my life, but it became harder for me to motivate myself to do anything. I was also going through menopause. I am now awaiting an ADHD assesment. I filled in the official ADHD forms and scored really highly. Looking back on my life, I have realised there were so many things that pointed to ADHD innatentive type, but I think I was more hyperactive as a child. I believe that the CPTSD made me mask really really really hard. Because standing out is very dangerous. When I got the CPTSD under control I think I list the main subconcious motivation for masking. Combine that with the fact that Menopause quite often exaserpates ADHD in many women and it all kicked off. I had always. had real issues with social norms all through my life, I always tried to explain why my writing in school was so bad, because my hand could not keep up with my brain. I was a terrible sleeper all my life. From my earliest memories. My other earliest memory was being dead happy in my baby bouncer, bouncing and spinning. I always buy a baby bouncer for family babys. I was always in trouble for not keeping track of time, always late, always loosing things, clumsy. I had a big CPTSD, and ADHD wipeout in my 20s. Was at times unable to physically lift my covers of me. I had hyper focuses of 2 or 3 days where I would for example think of an idea for a business, plan it all, design all the stationary packaging. Buy all the stock and then lose my confidence and never do anything else. Write half a book, I once hired a skip for a day and emptied half the house into it whilst on a tidying binge. I'd read a book a day.. Now I literally cannot focus on a book. I am currently trying to find ways to move forward. But I now am a little less hard on myself, as my life now makes so much sense.
Fascinating, thank you for sharing. I exhibit many of the same traits you mentioned in the beginning. I went through that as a child. Sorry to hear about yours. But So happy to hear you have a lovely family now. How do you get help for adhd? My doctor in Florida didnt take me seriously when i bring it up : (
@@33sugaD@33sugaD visit a psychiatrist rather than an MD (GP) if you haven't already. Look up CHADD online for info.. Some doctors think ADHD is overdiagnosed and can be dismissive, but it's horribly under-diagnosed in girls and women. Often because they are more likely to have the inattentive type and not the hyperactive type that is more common in boys, so their symptoms are more subtle to the onlooker.
This is my exact story! Diagnosed last year at 51. First time I took the meds and there was silence in my head, I was in awe that it could be like that!!
The "whole life suddenly making sense" part is actually the most painful. I could handle people just thinking ill of me and having to navigate social interactions with those "flaws" in mind. But, now I know that people are going to still see me negatively without any regard for my condition, and I now know that i cant help it or explain it a way that anyone cares. Completely different vibe than just doing what your mom says and just " dont care what others think"... when its constantly on YOUR mind, its hard not to think ots also on the minds of others. Peace
I've been diagnosed with all kinds of different things. I just smiled after awhile. This is dead on. I was just down for two week of "rest". I still do every day things but bigger projects are on hold. Sometimes it's because I need to step back and look at it from another angel. I drive my self nuts.
OMG 😳 wow I had to listen to this more than once... I have a lot of these issues, I don't have low self-esteem though.. I do seem to procrastinate on following through with things I should do.. I've had people ask if I could be ADHD... I'll be 54 on 10--13... I do appreciate coming across this video.. need to make me an appointment for sure 💯 💜 ♎ 🙏
And I’m still trying to keep my own life in order, and managing to keep up with my Husbands life. I’m cautious about having children , how is it managing yourself, spouse & children?
Thank you for this Alex - made me cry - happy tears - as this is so on the money in terms of what it felt like for me finding out at 56 that there was a reason why I struggled so much - I thought everybody had all this stuff going on in their heads all the time too but assumed they were all just better at processing it than me. I still have as much stuff going on but at least now I can cut myself some slack 😀x
All of the above box 😂😂 Find out all those personality flaws are... symptoms 😂 even though i cant get away from it, at least now i know, i can stop trying to 'make them better' 😂😂
Now, if I can just get over the anxiety of going to doctor. It's so overwhelming. For years, I've known I have it, and daily, I keep saying I will do something tomorrow.
100 % right, also for many men ❤ Yes, I used to eat mountains of chocolate and drink a lot of coffee to feel more awake and to concentrate better 😅 at office (it got more and more ). I knew I have AD(H)D since I was 12 years old, but went to get the diagnose when I was 48 years old to get medications because chocolate and coffee weren't enough anymore to fight cognitive decline around 50: change of hormons make all of it much more challenging 💪 .
Just got my diagnosis at 40 after my 7 year old daughter was diagnosed ADHD/ASD. This is exactly me. Lived my whole life trying to hide my deficits after all of the criticism I experienced as a child and especially a teen. So smart, but irresponsible, unmotivated, spacey, messy. It took a huge toll on my self esteem. I have so many coping mechanisms, but I would always fall short. Knowing I have this changes my story about myself. I am heartbroken for my younger self but so hopeful for the future and for my daughter. It won’t be easy, but I hope she will not grow up carrying the shame that I did.
You also described me, I'm a male. I can explain the scrolling through social media... it's about stimulus. We need something that engages our brain, we need a dopamine hit because it lack dopamine and thankfully to social media and video games, they are incredible for dopamine hits thus the reason why we can spend so many hours during it and not get anything done. It's also called paralysis but some people struggle to accept this term.
ADHD isnt always physically hyperactive, so yes, men would share some of these symptoms too. We're all in the same boat here :) it's just that women get the short stick when it comes to diagnosis, just like with many other medical disorders
Male here getting dx in his mid 30s. Inattentive type AuDHD. Finally some resolve for my scattered livelihood. The validation is everything right now. I even joined an adhd group at uni.
There are lost generations of women boomers, X and millennials who are flying under the radar and running into walls their entire lives. So much potential has been lost in the hamster-wheel day to day struggle. It’s sickening. The medical field should be appalled at how much it has dismissed and underserved women.
Thank you for all the wonderful people speaking english like you here or like Jessica McCabe producing you tube videos about AD(H)D , because in my country, Germany, people believe to much in doctors and that they know everything, but AD(H)D is not taken seriously here. I work in a health state insurance and tell you, you have to tell doctors you suffer anxiety disorder and depression otherwise you get nearly nothing when you argue you suffer because of AD(H)D symptoms ❣️❣️❣️❣️
How dare you make me cry while watching a quick short during dinner prep! Just diagnosed at 42, trying to figure out if maybe I’m just not cut out for homeschooling my ADHD 6 year old, even though I want to SO much…
Homeschooling is such a great option for neurodiverse kids. It’s normal to have self-doubt, so acknowledge it, but then let it go. So many have done it and are doing it and never looked back. In fact, wished they’d started sooner. There is a lot of support if you look for it. There is even a FB group I believe for ADHD homeschooling Mums. Go for it, you’ve got this 💪🏻😊
Yes, and is much more common among women, and adhd in general is WAY more often NOT diagnosed in women. So shining a spotlight on women specifically is important.
@@AnnekeOosterink I was legit looking thru the comments to see if i was to only guy that had these symptoms. I think it's reassuring that guys can have this too, so I'm not alone in this regard. If I hadn't found this comment, I would have questioned my identity further.
I just turned 44 and was Dx 3 months ago. I can’t tell you the weight that has been lifted after receiving that validation. I understand myself better and don’t beat myself up constantly. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to feel seen.
Danke für dieses Video das alles auf den Punkt bringt... Ich bin vor meiner Diagnose auf diese Videos über ADHS gestoßen... Alles passt... Ich weiß endlich warum ich so bin wie ich bin... Und kann hoffentlich meinen Frieden machen mit dem Wunsch jemand anderes zu sein 😢
"... that they own life suddenly makes sense ". Yes, late diagnostic here: first diagnosis at 49, still waiting for exacter and complete diagnosis) and I'm 50. But all of a sudden I don't feel guilty and stupid the whole time. I'm still moved: everything makes sense.
I am 40 years young, my 2 kids at my side. I feel THIS so much. All my life I felt like the biggest looser on earth. Studied but no exam, intelligent and stupid at the same time, no partner at my side.. Always exhausted.. But it will get better I know❤ And since 2 years I know why all is struggle in my life
I’m like this.. since I was a kid. I’ve been going to doctors and psychologists but no one seems to diagnose me, or maybe I don’t have this.. but always felt like I was different. My brain does not stop
ADHD isn't a personality disorder though. It comes from a biologically underestimulated prefrontal cortex, amongst other things. It's also relatively easily diagnosed with the choice between a few 45 minute pencil and paper assessments available, along with a psychiatrist's observations during a conversation with the patient.
Thank you for this video. I'm crying right now...I'm 37 and still waiting on official testing (about 60 weeks to go), but my therapist says there is no way it's not ADHD.
i think i just got kindly roasted in 25 seconds
Same here. 😂
Ahahahha, right?!
Same. I don't think I've ever ticked all the boxes before
Same lol.
😂 totally
And then I critically internalize, "why haven't I done something important with my life?" 😢
I have beaten myself up over this so many times. Sometimes I get a bright spot of being happy with doing something important *to me*. Rinse and Repeat. I wish you peace in knowing that while you may not think you've accomplished something important, there are things you're allowed to be proud of even if you haven't won a Nobel Prize or have artwork hanging in museums.
I’m currently struggling with this. Feel like such a failure sometimes
All the time 😢
@@StefanStuart1I am going thru this too. Have been crying for nearly 2 weeks about it.
@@StefanStuart1 same
When I sought my diagnosis, my doctor asked me why I wanted it. I said, "Because I'm either all of the horrible things I keep saying to myself, or I have ADHD." 💔
The things I've been told by my abusive family, including my younger siblings.....I'll never get closure, though. They never apologised, how could they now, that I am AuDHD? They would have to face the fact that they bullied a disabled person. I beat myself up and hated myself for 52! years.....damn
all these symptoms are trauma so how does a person tell the difference?
@lindsaybagwell7988 I can only say it from my own experience. I left an abusive man, learned about narcissistic abuse which I've endured since childhood, understood I had CPTSD, made changes in my life like recognising red flags, found the first healthy partner/ person I've ever had in my life and healed quite quickly from certain things. After a sick leave I was at home for several weeks and we got a new cat during this time and I got weird meltdowns. I all.of a sudden realised I had issues due to not having a regular daily schedule and that my hard physical work is litteraly my stimming. Also, things were quite difficult with our new cat which stressed me additionally. That's how, also looking back at my issues since I was little and understanding how Autism and ADHD show in women, made me be able to distinguish between my trauma and my AuDHD
How did you go about finding the right doctor?
@@lindsaybagwell7988 It's true, PTSD or ADHD was definitely something I considered. I did ask my mom for feedback related to symptoms in childhood before my appointment. When I asked her she just kept saying I was such a good kid and she didn't know of any. Then I gave her a ton of symptoms and she was able to give me specific examples of me having those symptoms, even things I didn't remember or wouldn't have realized on my own. It was very helpful. So perhaps having a solid history for so much of my life helped. I've also had trauma therapy, prior to getting diagnosed, so that could have also helped clear things up too.
And anxiety on top of that. And battling procrastination habits...
Anxiety. But procrastination actually causes anxiety for me. I don't consider myself a procrastinater att alll. It gives me anxiety & makes me anxious if ik I have 10 things to do in two days. Anxiety, yes, I was Dx with severe generalized anxiety disorder.
This is my wife through and through, and I would not change a thing about her. She is perfect ❤
That's lovely
Every ADD woman wishes her partner was/ or had been the author of this response. ❤
Thank you!!!
that is the Sweetest thing to say about your wife... to be loved flaws and all is every woman's desire
❤
Started crying watching this. Thank you for spreading awareness.
Me too...😢
Me too!
Me too
Yes, me too. This is me to the T.
Me to. Hugs ladies
And then as an adult after all the "if you just tried harder" "why do you take everything so personally?" Those same people will never know how hard you really tried even when it was never enough.
@@jessicacoates1611 and you show that you didn't understood the video and the comment, congratulations!
+daytradersanonymous9955 I think I was in my mid 20's when I learned not to taking anything personally unless it's people I care abt. esp. when it comes to friendships.
But this video matches me to a T. Now, I understand why I get frustrated easily when there are times I feel like they don't understand me. Ex: I'll try to explain something to my mom, but she won't let me finish to properly explain what I'm trying to explain to her. Ironically though, I have a tendency to interrupt others a lot more than I should. Not all the time ofc, but when I do get a little frustrated esp. at home, I have a little bit of a "groan-growl" if that makes any sense, but that's when I feel like others aren't quite understanding me.
@@jessicacoates1611 don't use my great to the fifth generation uncle's final words to justify ableism. "Such is life" was a call out to the irony of a corrupt "justice" system, as Ned Kelly was Australia's Robin Hood. Not an ableist way of saying que sera sera (which isn't even the correct way to say it, but I digress).
Yes, we all have our afflictions, however neurodivergence isn't something to sniff at. Especially executive dysfunction caused by ADHD. I was born with a myriad of disabilities: a visual impairment, a back shaped like a bendy straw, joints which don't stay in place, a brain that doesn't pick up on social cues or my own emotions very well, yet ADHD is my toughest challenge. ADHD objectively makes life harder than the vast majority of those without the disorder, especially when coupled with poverty, limited education and medical access, and ab*sive parents.
One cannot "just deal". Dealing with it as an adult undiagnosed is like playing Elder Scrolls on max difficulty. For everyone else, life is Minecraft hardcore. For me, it's like playing the most obscure, jank coded, retro game from the 80s on expert. There is no winning when you have to play by the rules of a corrupted game.
Yep, Gaslit by so many people ended up internalizing the narrative.
That is my whole life. I was never enough.
I'm 54...I was diagnosed with ADHD at 45...I have ONE person in my life that actually understands me and my "quirks" and he's a blessing.
Someone I worked closely with called me "adorably disorganized". That's not how I felt, but what grace she gave me!
@@cicir423 I totally understand how you feel!
Mine are my two beloved BFFS
@@mlewis8579 LOVE that. My other BFF is a Nurse so, I can't forget her either..lol. She and I have the greatest and to some weird relationship. We'll go for months without talking. Then one of us will randomly get in touch with the other and it's like no "gap" ever happened. It's like we just continue filling each other in about what's been going on like no time has past. I am blessed to have them both let me tell ya!
I wish I could find that person.🙃
Add in chronic pain and it’s a whole mood over here.
Same
Yes….
Tell me about it!!
Spoonie and neuro-spicy... totally true.
And add in so many other comorbidities . . .
You've just described my whole life.
Thank you🙏
For the first time in my life, I feel so attacked yet so undeniably understood. Thank you for making me feel ok about myself.
Diagnosed at 62. You are spot on.
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I’m 62 and now trying to find a reputable affordable private assessor (while sitting impatiently on a 6-year-long NHS list). Are you in the UK?
@clarewillison9379 No, I'm in the US, so sorry!
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Same. ❤❤❤
Made me cry, it described me perfectly…every single word was spot on and hit hard. He is correct, and late in life is correct, and suddenly everything makes sense…. All correct. Doesn’t make it any easier, the guilt sucks.
My whole life I felt like I was a defective product. Like I could never be enough compared to others who appeared to existed so effortlessly in life. Getting a later in life diagnosis has allowed me to feel less isolated knowing I am not alone but it also has left me grieving the life I feel I could have had if I was diagnosed as a child. This video really hit me and I feel you nailed what it is like being a women with ADHD
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I’m 47 and finally have an appointment to get tested. Seeing my ‘personality flaws’ being described as symptoms in this video is sad and enlightening at the same time. If the test comes back the way I think it will, maybe I can be a little less hard on myself.
Same here my dear... same here. Hope the grief is just a process and foundation for how I life now that I know.
I'll tell you how I got past the grief: I looked at the family and world I was raised in. If I had been diagnosed as a child, I probably would have been raised to believe that I had a disability. As an adult, I don't believe that. In some ways I am lucky I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. There are good and bad possibilities in every situation. What are the positives in getting a late-in-life diagnosis?
Same ❤ Still grieving here 🤚
Not diagnosed officially until 50, and all of this is spot on. I'm just so glad that informative content like yours is finally getting out to the masses. I can't suddenly feel alright with myself after decades of wondering why I was such a failure, but this kind of acknowledgement is a start.
Menopause can make things worse.
@marlenegold280 think of menopause as a development as radical as puberty. It doesn't undo puberty, it launches us into a third life stage. The blessing being that once the hormones have stopped knocking us sideways they fall to low but constant levels. Its very calm and peaceful. Thankfully.
@@michellebyrom6551
You are right.
That calmness happens when you are healthy.
But if you have autoimmune diseases, insulin resistance, T2D, Metabolic syndrome, inflammation, nutritional deficiencies, poor diet, are sedentary, on statins, on prescription meds, etc. then things get worse.
As a woman with ADHD, all of these are correct except that I've managed to work my way out of the low self-esteem. I'm freaking awesome! I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and that's okay. I never really wanted to be a cup of tea anyway. I mean, if I were a cup of tea I would probably be licorice tea. It's sweet, but licorice is a very polarizing flavor.
😂 lol, I think I’d like to be Chai Tea with French Vanilla Creamer. 😂
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Love your content, you're describing each step of figuring out I have ADHD. (dx at 54) Thank you for your hard work.
Watching this while feeling ostracized at work... now fighting back the tears.
This felt like a personal attack, currently exhausted lying on the sofa, scrolling after an overwhelming day of trying to keep my brain on the board room not on the bird box outside the window
I am 60, and you have just hit the nail on the head!!
This hits so hard. Literally took me all morning to decide which shop would be best to get the few things I needed. So frustrating. Wasted time and then beat myself up about losing time and then having to rush! It’s exhausting.
I really should try get diagnosed but keep gaslighting myself that I’m being ridiculous
You are NOT being ridiculous! Here’s what you can do- go see someone and ask for help with a diagnosis. Maybe you have it or maybe not but either way you will be armed with information, not assumptions, and that helps guide your next steps. You are never blowing anything out of proportion when advocating for your own health. I wish you well and I hope you at the very least talk to a professional about your concerns. Sending hugs and encouragement!! xoxo
Grieving the person I could have been if only I had known. Luckily I have a great deal to appreciate today. I'm proud of having the strength to just be myself and live my life my way. Hugs to all ❤
Finally someone gets me.. 😢
Diagnosed at 32. Now 50. Diagnosis matters & Self Acceptance is a journey. ❤❤❤
Yes, and change of hormons and general cognitive decline because of getting older make life much more challenging around 50 💪🏆👋🥇 Good luck 🍀🍀🍀
😢you’re spot ON!! You just described my life in 25 seconds!? 46 and still undiagnosed… but I know I have ADHD! I will go through the official diagnosis just to make it official… but the extreme exhaustion and stress that I face daily makes it hard to prioritize going to the doctor! Just getting through my days feels like a feat within itself! The only thing that truly helps me feel better is starting out my day with a daily guided meditation 🧘♀️ to allow my brain to try its best to slow down and focus inside my body for healing… really really does help to ease my anxiety and make me feel calmer going into my days! Highly recommend it to anyone reading this!!!! Feel better, you all deserve it!!! ❤
I was diagnosed at that age.
I hope you get your diagnosis soon... I am on medication now and can actually sit down and work now, complete tasks and the brain chatter is decreased.
Same.
I wanted to try emdr therapy after many storms incl tr experience with s violence.
But when i saw a contract to sign for treatment i felt sn instant burn out sensation plus pain as if I'm profiled for someone else's crime.
I also constant feel i neef more room and space with nothing at all.
I found a new job but in office ahd i feel so unhappy all i wajt is to be home work from my safe place
This hit me really hard because it is so very true... Thank you....
Well this wasn’t on my bingo card of “what will make me cry today.”
Oo, new bingo game card time. Also - yeah, just yeah.
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Like a cut, this hit right into the spot I've tried to hide in 62 years.
Thank you.
64 for me.
Me too, I am 62
Me 65,and feel I never fit in
It feels like nobody truly understands and i feel so alone. However I'm glad videos like this exist because i guess at least i understand myself
Thank you so much for pointing that out. Was in tears listening to you
Thank you so much for this. Every word is true. Just got diagnosed 3 months ago at 32. I'm grieving but also so grateful for finally getting diagnosed. I hope i will be able to let go of the narrative that i am a failure and not enough, being "too sensitive and emotional" had me learn to push down ALL my emotions all the time except when i am alone, til the point that i can't even let them out when i want to open up. My hyperactivity also does'nt come out in movement just in thoughts and talking. So people really don't see my struggle cause everything is internal, even my emotions. Because i always believe that I am the problem, i am too ashamed to admit that I am not okay or even ask for help when i am failing at basic life stuff again. I always hear how much potential i have but i can make NOTHING come from it. I really just want to learn to unmask and be myself so i can accept myself and figure out who she really even is..
@michellehendricks5686, You are fortunate. You have 26 more years than I did in establishing values, prioritizing goals and making clear multi-step plans. I wish you well in your life, you have less years, though they were formative, to grieve. I am replying to you b/c at 32 I was ready to give up on everything, I didn’t know where to turn and was really uncomfortably numb about life. The first flush of schooling and trying to gain traction in my career was not working very well, much less finding someone who “got” me. The terminology and testing just wasn’t as well known or being applied to women. Fast forward 17 years and I finally meet the right someone who sees the struggle and validates the adhd. I had been searching for answers for a very long time. The best of luck to you in meshing life to your brain and vice-versa 😁. I wish you well. ☮️
This made me smile,thank you
Was diagnosed as a child, ... still didn't realize until recently things like this was due to my ADHD and not me being lazy, useless, near-crazy etc.... because the only thing they ever talked about when I was a kid was "You need medicine to focus at school" and "You cannot be so aggressive towards people who tease you " [*You cannot say F off to people who have called you names, stolen your things, told you how ugley and weird you are every recess all year ]
Have tears
I have never felt so seen
The labels and misdiagnoses, being put on meds that I should have never been put on to begin with... Sir thank you
So true. Diagnosed at 35, at a point, where I usually isolate myself because I was so tired of beeing misunterstood without being able to change. Still feel like an alien most of the time, hiding myself from others, trying to act normal but failing. It‘s kind of cruel, being able to understand feelings in other people so well, while nobody seems to understand you.
I feel that.
You sound like an INFJ
The piano music makes it really easy to focus on this video
Yes, thats me. Recently diagnosed with inattentive/impulsive ADHD at the age of 58.
I will show this to my husband on a loop 😉
Thank you so much 💝
Man i am 40 year old girl and just stumbled upon your channel. It just makes me cry because it's me
I'M GETTING TESTED TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! almost 50. You and Rich&Rox and Olivia on You Tube actually brought this to my attention. I felt seen.
EDIT: got the date wrong it's not tomorrow it's the day after 😂
I don't consider them flaws but the spice of life.
I just got diagnosed and I am 41 year old woman. Content creators like you made me ask my Psych for an evaluation. So many things make sense now
Even though I was diagnosed with ADD at 13, the only “tools” I was given was Adderall. My parents (mainly my mom) tried their very best to help and it’s only thanks to my mom I was even diagnosed! I’m now 31 and I’m still struggling with understanding why I do certain things or why I am the way that I am. These videos as well as others are helping me realize so many “awful” things about me are just characteristics of being neurodivergent. Thank you for putting into words what I’ve never been able to articulate and thank you for making me feel seen and understood ❤❤
Every single spoken word is true
Diagnosed at 27 and this is accurate for me.
Yes to all of this.
Diagnosed 2 years ago at 45.
Now seeing all of the same characteristics in my mom and sisters.
I wish I could put this video in a Time Machine and send it back to myself as a early teenager. Or even before. I think it would’ve been so beneficial especially with self hatred and self esteem issues. Plus the internal gaslighting before I even knew what that was.
Ptsd and mental issues share same symptoms, so it is better visiting a specialist for a diagnosis.
Overwhelm. Sums it up. Like I'm downloading 25 updates at once, and my hard drive gets congested. So, i have to "restart" my computer.
When I was newly married, with a toddler and a newborn- and my mother had just died from a 9 mos. battle of lung cancer. I had spent last year driving 4 hours big pregnant with a toddler to help take her to chemo, etc. My now ex-husband
told me to “stop acting overwhelmed”!!! I was
25 years old.
I would not even realized I had it and get my diagnosis until my daughter was diagnosed in high school. We both have Inattentive type- which can be even harder to get diagnosed.
I am so thankful for meds and good docs!
Yoga, meditation and running were helpful ways go cope before meds and evenmoreso in combination.
I do have days where i
Think about who I could have been if id had support and knowledge.
But, if it would have meant I would not have my two same children, I would go through it all again.
If I could keep them- Id choose to not have ADHD . i think id be such a better parent if i was more “neuro- normal” . I feel bad for them having to have me for their mom. Geez. Could not have been easy.
I hate it when people say you are “too much” 🎉😂 they have zero clue!
Good luck to all of us for brighter futures.🎉
Wow that hit deep ❤❤❤
I’m surprised and dumbfounded by the level at which my life has been impacted by my ADHD. I am sad for all the years of joy and success I may have had but those struggles helped make me who I am today. I just wish it wasn’t so painful.
I was diagnosed in 6th grade, as back then ADD.
I Grew up with no help. As i got older i thought it go away because it was just bad child behavior.
I went on in life going insane as i was just a failure.
At 28 i went to my doc and said lets cut the crap, ive been looking into ADHD and i want to try adderall. My life has changed tremendusly in the past year!
Im taking my life over again
Ahh I love you for this!! I have ADHD and also have 4 kids and a husband and they criticize me a lot specially for the exhaustion and the paralysis and the sudden focus on one task and I remember before getting diagnosed I would even get so frustrated with myself by the days end I would be sitting there on the floor crying and in a disaster just wishing I could be normal or they would understand what's going on with me I mean literally awful and an awful feeling. I got diagnosed with ADHD and OCD about a year ago and found out this is why I am the way I am. We really are so very hard on ourselves and no one but us knows our internal struggle daily so the best thing someone can do for us is to be as supportive as possible, offer help, distraction is awesome, but the worst thing you can do is criticize honestly!! Thank you so much for sharing the info as well!! You are awesome ❤
I realized I have ADHD when we assessed our son. I ticked all the boxes. I have spent the last 2 years having new revelations about my childhood. It's like I've been living in a movie, playing a character that wasn't really me.
I'm not a woman but this was spot on for me :D Diagnosed a month ago at 33.
I am really lucky had EMDR for suicidal thoughts due to Childhood SA. Reallised that happiness was actually a real thing.
But as some things got slowly better.
Lots of other things I had struggled with got much worse, had no executive function. My insomnia got much worse, and could not stop talking, and hyperfocusing on politics. People I loved told me to stop talking about politics, it was all I could talk about. Eating became more erratic was eating 1 meal at night then binging my current obsessive food.
My daughter and grandson both diagnosed with ADHD and Autism said. You do know you have ADHD, I was like no I have CPTSD thats enough for me.
I was emotionally in many ways much happier and lots of my triggers just stopped triggering me. I expected to be able to get on with my life, but it became harder for me to motivate myself to do anything. I was also going through menopause.
I am now awaiting an ADHD assesment. I filled in the official ADHD forms and scored really highly.
Looking back on my life, I have realised there were so many things that pointed to ADHD innatentive type, but I think I was more hyperactive as a child.
I believe that the CPTSD made me mask really really really hard. Because standing out is very dangerous. When I got the CPTSD under control I think I list the main subconcious motivation for masking. Combine that with the fact that Menopause quite often exaserpates ADHD in many women and it all kicked off.
I had always. had real issues with social norms all through my life, I always tried to explain why my writing in school was so bad, because my hand could not keep up with my brain.
I was a terrible sleeper all my life. From my earliest memories. My other earliest memory was being dead happy in my baby bouncer, bouncing and spinning. I always buy a baby bouncer for family babys.
I was always in trouble for not keeping track of time, always late, always loosing things, clumsy.
I had a big CPTSD, and ADHD wipeout in my 20s. Was at times unable to physically lift my covers of me.
I had hyper focuses of 2 or 3 days where I would for example think of an idea for a business, plan it all, design all the stationary packaging. Buy all the stock and then lose my confidence and never do anything else. Write half a book, I once hired a skip for a day and emptied half the house into it whilst on a tidying binge. I'd read a book a day.. Now I literally cannot focus on a book.
I am currently trying to find ways to move forward. But I now am a little less hard on myself, as my life now makes so much sense.
Other than my being diagnosed very early on, (back when they thought puberty would cure it), i can very much identify with your story. Hang in there.
Fascinating, thank you for sharing. I exhibit many of the same traits you mentioned in the beginning. I went through that as a child. Sorry to hear about yours. But So happy to hear you have a lovely family now.
How do you get help for adhd? My doctor in Florida didnt take me seriously when i bring it up : (
@@33sugaD@33sugaD visit a psychiatrist rather than an MD (GP) if you haven't already. Look up CHADD online for info.. Some doctors think ADHD is overdiagnosed and can be dismissive, but it's horribly under-diagnosed in girls and women. Often because they are more likely to have the inattentive type and not the hyperactive type that is more common in boys, so their symptoms are more subtle to the onlooker.
This is my exact story! Diagnosed last year at 51. First time I took the meds and there was silence in my head, I was in awe that it could be like that!!
Diagnosed at age 50, last week. You know me too well! Lol!
The "whole life suddenly making sense" part is actually the most painful. I could handle people just thinking ill of me and having to navigate social interactions with those "flaws" in mind. But, now I know that people are going to still see me negatively without any regard for my condition, and I now know that i cant help it or explain it a way that anyone cares. Completely different vibe than just doing what your mom says and just " dont care what others think"... when its constantly on YOUR mind, its hard not to think ots also on the minds of others. Peace
100%. Thank you
You just described my entire life.
I'm undiagnosed but everything seems to make sense when i started doing research on adhd
My thoughts jam up in my head and keep me from actually speaking sometimes. It's as if multiple keys in an antique typewriter got stuck mid-action.
I know what you mean. Dumbstruck. Afterwards I can think of loads of things I could or should have said.
I have trouble speaking unless I'm with just one person...and then I often "over-share".
It is exhausting inside my head
I've been diagnosed with all kinds of different things. I just smiled after awhile.
This is dead on.
I was just down for two week of "rest". I still do every day things but bigger projects are on hold. Sometimes it's because I need to step back and look at it from another angel.
I drive my self nuts.
OMG 😳 wow I had to listen to this more than once... I have a lot of these issues, I don't have low self-esteem though.. I do seem to procrastinate on following through with things I should do.. I've had people ask if I could be ADHD... I'll be 54 on 10--13... I do appreciate coming across this video.. need to make me an appointment for sure 💯 💜 ♎ 🙏
Thank you!
It's extra difficult for women because society expects women to be super organized and keep their spouses and children's lives on track.
And I’m still trying to keep my own life in order, and managing to keep up with my Husbands life. I’m cautious about having children , how is it managing yourself, spouse & children?
Omg this is so true. I was exploding with effort trying to remember everything and got so frustrated and angry with my husband
Stop.
Society can well and truly go and do one!
You know you don't have to keep their lives on track. Stop doing it, just dare to live your own life. ❤
Why did this make me cry?
💯 thank you
Spot on. All of it. I am 72 years old and was diagnosed in April.
Thank you for this Alex - made me cry - happy tears - as this is so on the money in terms of what it felt like for me finding out at 56 that there was a reason why I struggled so much - I thought everybody had all this stuff going on in their heads all the time too but assumed they were all just better at processing it than me. I still have as much stuff going on but at least now I can cut myself some slack 😀x
Got tears in my eyes watching this😢 ñot diagnosed, as it is hard in my country to be diagnosed also it is a taboo to even go to a therapist 😞
Women? This is me, 55 yr old man, just diagnosed. This has been my life.
Truth 🎉 I feel so seen right now. 😊 thank you
All of the above box 😂😂 Find out all those personality flaws are... symptoms 😂 even though i cant get away from it, at least now i know, i can stop trying to 'make them better' 😂😂
Awww thank you so much. 😢
Now, if I can just get over the anxiety of going to doctor. It's so overwhelming. For years, I've known I have it, and daily, I keep saying I will do something tomorrow.
100 % right, also for many men ❤ Yes, I used to eat mountains of chocolate and drink a lot of coffee to feel more awake and to concentrate better 😅 at office (it got more and more ).
I knew I have AD(H)D since I was 12 years old, but went to get the diagnose when I was 48 years old to get medications because chocolate and coffee weren't enough anymore to fight cognitive decline around 50: change of hormons make all of it much more challenging 💪 .
As a woman diagnosed with ADHD at 29 years old, thank you for spreading awareness. This is so painfully true.
Just got my diagnosis at 40 after my 7 year old daughter was diagnosed ADHD/ASD. This is exactly me. Lived my whole life trying to hide my deficits after all of the criticism I experienced as a child and especially a teen. So smart, but irresponsible, unmotivated, spacey, messy. It took a huge toll on my self esteem. I have so many coping mechanisms, but I would always fall short. Knowing I have this changes my story about myself. I am heartbroken for my younger self but so hopeful for the future and for my daughter. It won’t be easy, but I hope she will not grow up carrying the shame that I did.
This beings me to tears. I'm not sure if they are happy or sad ones.💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
You also described me, I'm a male. I can explain the scrolling through social media... it's about stimulus. We need something that engages our brain, we need a dopamine hit because it lack dopamine and thankfully to social media and video games, they are incredible for dopamine hits thus the reason why we can spend so many hours during it and not get anything done. It's also called paralysis but some people struggle to accept this term.
Not just women - you described my mind as well.
ADHD-I is much more common in women than men, but there is also crossover (me too :) )
Word for word described my life 😭
ADHD isnt always physically hyperactive, so yes, men would share some of these symptoms too. We're all in the same boat here :) it's just that women get the short stick when it comes to diagnosis, just like with many other medical disorders
Male here getting dx in his mid 30s. Inattentive type AuDHD. Finally some resolve for my scattered livelihood. The validation is everything right now. I even joined an adhd group at uni.
There are lost generations of women boomers, X and millennials who are flying under the radar and running into walls their entire lives. So much potential has been lost in the hamster-wheel day to day struggle. It’s sickening. The medical field should be appalled at how much it has dismissed and underserved women.
Thank you for all the wonderful people speaking english like you here or like Jessica McCabe producing you tube videos about AD(H)D , because in my country, Germany, people believe to much in doctors and that they know everything, but AD(H)D is not taken seriously here. I work in a health state insurance and tell you, you have to tell doctors you suffer anxiety disorder and depression otherwise you get nearly nothing when you argue you suffer because of AD(H)D symptoms ❣️❣️❣️❣️
How dare you make me cry while watching a quick short during dinner prep! Just diagnosed at 42, trying to figure out if maybe I’m just not cut out for homeschooling my ADHD 6 year old, even though I want to SO much…
I’m also 42 and just figuring all this out. And I have a nine year old son with ADHD. And I’ve been looking into homeschooling.
@@stephaniemartin8087 I hope you can figure it out! Big hugs for you, the challenge is real, and can be so overwhelming...
Homeschooling is such a great option for neurodiverse kids. It’s normal to have self-doubt, so acknowledge it, but then let it go. So many have done it and are doing it and never looked back. In fact, wished they’d started sooner. There is a lot of support if you look for it. There is even a FB group I believe for ADHD homeschooling Mums. Go for it, you’ve got this 💪🏻😊
Yes, sums it up completley!
Nailed it. Thank you 🩷
omg yes spot on sitting here between happy with theinfo being out there and also big ball of sadness inside
You described the inattentive sub type, which can affect men also.
Yes, but he's not talking about men right now.
@@SeRialRedHeaD miss the point much..!
exactly, i'm a guy and these are all the specific ADHD issues i struggle with. I don't relate to most ADHD except the inattentive.
Yes, and is much more common among women, and adhd in general is WAY more often NOT diagnosed in women. So shining a spotlight on women specifically is important.
@@AnnekeOosterink I was legit looking thru the comments to see if i was to only guy that had these symptoms. I think it's reassuring that guys can have this too, so I'm not alone in this regard. If I hadn't found this comment, I would have questioned my identity further.
God bless you for posting the truth how it looks to others and how isolated one is because no one gets it 👍👍😳👍👍😳👍👍👍
I just turned 44 and was Dx 3 months ago. I can’t tell you the weight that has been lifted after receiving that validation. I understand myself better and don’t beat myself up constantly. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to feel seen.
Danke für dieses Video das alles auf den Punkt bringt... Ich bin vor meiner Diagnose auf diese Videos über ADHS gestoßen... Alles passt... Ich weiß endlich warum ich so bin wie ich bin... Und kann hoffentlich meinen Frieden machen mit dem Wunsch jemand anderes zu sein 😢
"... that they own life suddenly makes sense ". Yes, late diagnostic here: first diagnosis at 49, still waiting for exacter and complete diagnosis) and I'm 50. But all of a sudden I don't feel guilty and stupid the whole time. I'm still moved: everything makes sense.
This man just called out me out in under a minute! LOL
"How to diagnose women with ADHD in 25 secs", "they will be diagnosed later in life".
Diagnostic day at 47yrs, in four weeks! 💪🏻
I am 40 years young, my 2 kids at my side.
I feel THIS so much.
All my life I felt like the biggest looser on earth. Studied but no exam, intelligent and stupid at the same time, no partner at my side.. Always exhausted.. But it will get better I know❤
And since 2 years I know why all is struggle in my life
I’m like this.. since I was a kid. I’ve been going to doctors and psychologists but no one seems to diagnose me, or maybe I don’t have this.. but always felt like I was different. My brain does not stop
Thank You So Much! I know I have ADHD but I couldn't find a way or the words to tell people. Thank You So So Much! 🙏🙏🙏
A partener once said to me, having gained some insight into the workings of my mind, " it must be exhausting being you."
Sounds like so many other personality disorders therefore so hard to diagnose .
ADHD isn't a personality disorder though. It comes from a biologically underestimulated prefrontal cortex, amongst other things. It's also relatively easily diagnosed with the choice between a few 45 minute pencil and paper assessments available, along with a psychiatrist's observations during a conversation with the patient.
Now I understood why I am the way I am
Thank you for this video. I'm crying right now...I'm 37 and still waiting on official testing (about 60 weeks to go), but my therapist says there is no way it's not ADHD.
Official testing for ADHD is going to take a year plus, for what??