Marriage Struggles, We decided to take a break // An Update
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Marriage Struggles, We decided to take a break// An Update
I hope I didn't over share and regret this, but I'm tired of hiding the things that affect me so much. Hopefully my honesty will help someone out there that is going through something similar. idk if this is the end of us or just another challenge we face but as of right now this is my reality.
IG / lizabeth.rebecca
If he’s comfortable with a “break” and not fixing it then something else is happening. Wish you the best. Be strong
Obvio ahora ya tiene novio ella🥺
Let me just say this now . If he doesn’t fight for this marriage he will 100% regret it . There isn’t many women out there like you , loyal , respectful, strong , hard working , being an amazing mother . Sad part most men that let they’re wife go and then she decides to move on and be 10x happier with someone else, that’s when they realize they made a huge mistake , it’s sad to say most men don’t realize they lost a good one till they see them move on and happy . Stay strong ❤ and you just focus on yourself . Because what it seems like he’s the one that needs to change and fight for you.
Hh
I know many loyal, respectful, strong, intelligent & wonderful women.. maybe not in your environment but you can’t just generalize and say there aren’t just bc of your personal experience
U don't know her... all u know is what she shows u...
There 2 sides of the story... maybe she didn't give him sex or maybe she was always nagging after working so many hrs nd providing that roof she has over her head... he's obviously over it cuz he found someone else... maybe she just wanted his money cuz she'd go buy all this crap for his house... come on let's be real men need to be taken care of as well... goes both ways maybe she just neglected him
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Once you feel the need to delete stuff, it’s cheating. I’m sorry Liz, you have so many people that love you and are here for you. You deserve respect and loyalty. I pray you guys heal and be better wether that may be together or apart. God bless you sweet heart ♥️.
To u
Well said ❤
I went through the same thing.. he says till this day that it was nothing, yet text messages were deleted and I was pregnant. I let it slide and 10 years later here we are still having problems, went through the separation and all. He decided to change once my heart was out. Only YOU know what you go through and only YOU can make that decision. And don’t do it for the kids. YOU need that happiness ❤️
“He decided to change once my heart was out” !!!!!!!!!
Second you
Amen to this comment!!!!
Omg yes!! I did the same thing “for the kids” I realised all I did was damage the kids unknowingly.
Now the kids ask for a separate home, mind you my eldest is only turning 6 . Kids deserve a healthy mother and environment .
They’ll always know when you’re hurting , even if they’re quiet .
Emotional connections are so much worse than physically cheating. It hurts on a deeper level, I know. I suggest marriage counseling, Liz. If you BOTH want your marriage to work- it can. I have been married for almost 16 years, I know your pain mama. But trust me, you are stronger than you believe. One day at a time.
PS
This is not your mistake to fix. Eric has to make the constant effort to win back your trust and respect. It CAN be done ❤️
Yes!
Completely agree!! Beautifully said.
We’ll said 😢❤
Agreed and marriage counseling will help too prayers your way liz
Yes! This! My husband and I have been together for about 15 years. Definitely had our share of ups and downs…heartbreak that I thought would be the end of us. We went to counseling and it truly transformed our relationship. He has to make it up to you if he wants the relationship to work but it can be done if he’s committed to it. Praying for you guys and your kids!
I'll be married for 10 years in June. One of the things we have made a priority is communication. We talk about everything and anything. Above all, God first. I'll be praying for you, Liz! I love your family
Same here 10 years this year. Had a tough season like 3 months ago. Heart break anger but we both prayed and prayed and we both have made significant changes and have decided to heal together. Key is prayer ❤️
Best advice 💕🙏
@@Gm-xr6iv I can testify to this praying together. We went through a really rough patch and even while my husband was going through cancer treatment. Almost separated but we prayed about and we prayed to be healed during that rough season.
@@bev.chvz87 amen !! I was so heartbroken I really thought it was the end or that he wouldn’t change which of course I also had to make changes
But God is rich in mercy and he will work wonders!!!!!
@@Gm-xr6iv God is good and faithful 🙏🏼🕊️
Balancing yourself as a mom, partner, wife is HARD. With marriage you have to go through the waves of change…but choosing each other and finding a middle ground will keep you together. Hope you’re able to find that ❤❤❤❤❤
Just being in front of social media talking about your life personal problems shows how strong of a woman you are not just a mom, wife, but un general so i think you'll eventually end up doing what's right for not just your kids but your self hope you and your husband are able to resolve the problems and work thru it together ❤
I know this pain. With time it will be better but it take some time..
It’s so hard 😢
My heart ❤ Honey that’s cheating…… being sneaky and confiding in her is cheating. Hope all will go well with y’all. You both know what will be best for your self and your kids. ❤
Right. That's emotional cheating.
I agree it is cheating. And it's even worse because he's emotionally cheating on her☹
The thing is you never share your relationship issues or whatever to anyone , not your parents, Friends or anyone. You have to protect your spouse, She/he is still your spouse . When you open up your issues about your spouse with other people , people will automatically give their advice and that advice could be bad and influence the way you think about your spouse and affect your decision. No one knows your spouse more than you do, when u share it with other people they’re only hearing your side and not your spouse’s side so the advice they give could be biased.
How else will she get help, that’s the problem, a lot of females are going through so much even abuse and they keep it to their self and becomes depressed, some even can not function 😢
Yes we want to protect them
BUT speaking out gives some people peace
@@shaneasy214 of course I agree! When it comes to that we have to speak up and find someone we trust to tell what we are going thru. But when it comes to marital issues like misunderstandings , miscommunication in our marriage , people tend to open up their issues with other people before opening up to their spouse . When they feel upset with their spouse instead of fixing and communicating first with their spouse , they go to the wrong people. I’m not talking about liz , I am talking about how the husband open up their relationship issues with other woman and building that connection with the so called friend instead of communicating with liz and work with that connection w/ her
Nice coment
Sitting here crying with you because I have always admired you guys and so seeing you hurt makes my heart sad. You’re such a strong woman and not sure what Eric is going through but I hope that y’all decide what is best for you two..whether it’s a permanent “break” or just time to work it out. Your transparency is appreciated, we all love and support you always!!
Yes👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This comment 🫶🏼
@@ruanag8184 ❤️
Couldn’t agree more with this ❤
I feel like I’m listening to myself , it’s gonna be 7 years and let me tell you, the change never comes the deceit grows, the lies continue, the kids get affected because eventually he starts to verbally and emotionally abuse everyone , “you’re always nagging about change, you stuck on the past blah blah, you’re controlling “
It does nothing but ruin you .
The love you thought url shared , you’ll eventually realise that’s IT WAS ALL YOU.
🤦🏻♀️ so I really hope he bucks up now and if he doesn’t I pray you have the strength to choose yourself ♥️
You just described my life … after almost 21 years of marriage I decided I was done …. And every time I would go back and believe his lies that he’s gonna change he got worse and worse why because he did what he did and went back showing him that it was ok to do whatever he wanted and I was gonna still be there … after 20 years I decided it’s my time to write my own story .. I don’t care if he thinks I’m being selfish! He did what he wanted for 21 years and now we are down to this … and once again he is saying I can’t live with out u and blah blah blah!!! I don’t believe half a word he tells me !! But anyway God bless all that are going thru this ❤ cause it’s hard but is never impossible to start over and to love us more than anything first ❤
@@vanesacuevas1433 may god make it easy for you too hun🥹🤍. They only want to keep us to use us , they know that no one else will put up with their nonsense .
We forget ourselves and our own worth , I’m definitely not sticking around for even 10 years . 7 itself is too much.
We keep trying to prove ourselves but what for ? They know what we’re worth, they very well know everything but would rather be selfish and enjoy watching the suffering we go through then man up and be worthy. All the best ♥️
So sorry Liz ❤ the deleted texts is really suspicious and even though it’s not physical cheating, emotional cheating is still a thing. 😞
Not necessary. I won't like my husband reading my messages with my friends. But I don't delete anything because he never touches my phone.
@@NatureXXLover you're saying something completely different from what she's saying. He's intentionally deleting the text messages while you're not. If there was nothing to hide he wouldn't delete them. That's my opinion.
@@NatureXXLover so would you delete some messages and some you wouldnt?? What you are saying is out of context sorry sis
@@NatureXXLover huh???
@@NatureXXLover I get what you’re saying and we all like our privacy, but I think in Liz’s scenario - she was already suspicious and the fact that he deleted the texts makes it seem like he’s hiding something. If he wasn’t - he could’ve just shown her. But he didn’t. And that says a lot.
personally, i feel like as young women it's easy to fall into the idea that your "first love" is your forever love. not many ppl talk about this or prepare us for this when we're young. getting married young is so easy, but staying married to someone you met and developed a relationship with when you were both still very young and immature can be sooooooo hard. a lot of the dynamic changes as you get older, especially once you start having kids. sometimes your partner will have a hard time maturing with you and sometimes you may have a hard time maturing with them and a multitude of problems can arise from that dynamic becoming toxic.
relationships are hard work, but that's why I always tell all of my younger friends to just take their time, there is no rush and if he's meant for you then it'll work out regardless. I also think having kids young is another added stress that ppl just love to ignore and chalk it up as a blessing or what's to be expected. I know for me there was so much pressure to become a wife and mother as a young girl that it gave me anxiety and prevented me from being able to develop lasting bonds with men bc of the pressure. not saying that you jumped into marriage due to societal pressure or anything, but I have noticed that in many cases when young teens marry its due to some sort of pressure or internal belief system that may not take into account the realities of such a huge life decision. All I can say is that it's OK if things don't work out and you shouldn't force a relationship that neither of you are willing to change for.
He will never find another woman like you. Mark my words.
Let him go sis, I know it's hard. But I promise you, you deserve greatness and will have it one day.
Thank you for being so raw and telling us all of this. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Honestly, I don’t believe you can have friendships with opposite sex. It will always lead to something more than friendship.
💯 agree
@The Blessed Aspie ya it might seem like that way to some people , but i guess some people agree to the fact !
@The Blessed Aspie you’re absolutely welcome to your opinion. Agree to disagree. Have a beautiful day.
I mean not every friendship with the opposite gender will lead to more. Thats not alwayd the case
@@veronicareka there’s a chance of flirting tho.. and that leads to feelings.. and more so for men.. they tend to get attached to females easily especially when alone
Praying for you Liz✨ Marriage is hard, don’t let anyone say different. You know what you will and won’t put up with. Sometimes we get with someone when we are young and we settle down and have kids, get a house , a car. All the things. And we lose ourselves. We forget about our wants,our dreams. We give to everyone, husbands, children etc. And if we say a thing we are looked down on. But remember you cannot give from any empty cup. If you are not getting the love, the respect, the support you need. Then you take a step back and see what you want. You are an amazing mother, wife, and friend. Take some time for yourself. Pray about it , ask for wisdom. Seek good counsel if possible. Just don’t make life decisions based on seasons. There are seasons of ups and downs. And it feels like it will never get better but keep going. Just know you are loved and wanted✨ Praying for you sweet friend✨
Anyone going through the same situation you are should definitely read your comment section. You have such amazing and supportive followers 💖
I agree! You all are the best 💗
I've never commented on your videos but I've been a subscriber of yours for years and I love your content. I just wanted to say we have your back no matter what Liz and you are not alone in this. There are alot of women that have gone through this and will go through this, including me. Whatever you decide to do, I am here for you girl cheering you on ❤️
We are here for you
@@MsYann11 ❤️
Praying for your marriage!!!! God can restore ANYTHING!!!! Do not give up on your family!!! Marriage is an emotional journey and it's a journey of our own spiritual awakening! Go to church together, pray together. Keep God as your center focus because honestly, without God my husband and I would have never made it this far. It's a lot easier to give up than to work on it. Pray for him. God bless you guys ❤️
I totally agree with this . God restore my marriage . God does amazing things if you actually believe in him . ❤❤❤
He was connecting with her in a emotional relationship with her. Which is a type of “cheating” as a women, a man creating a emotional relationship is harder to come back from
It's hard to realize that your spouse can be untrustworthy. You're doing the right thing to protect your heart and take time to find out what YOU need to do. Sending love and good vibes your way ✨️ 💛
my marriage has been like this from the beginning it sucks. I dont even know who i married. I didnt even know he smoked he completely changed after we moved in together. He was selling drugs behind my back even while i was pregnant.We been married for almost 3 years, and i have found out so many things he wasnt honest about prior to getting married. He was talking with other women while i was pregnant he would go out and not even sleep at home. I found alot of messages of him flirting with other women and asking them out
@@abyrivera4929 then why are you with him?
To me it is cheating if he is deleting messages.. major red flag . He shouldn’t be sharing his marriage problems with another women ever. He is the one in the wrong.
The enemy is a liar! He almost broke my marriage and I got convinced to take a break it only hurt more. You both love eachother and you can get thru this! Praying for your family 🙏
Amen !!! The enemy attacked our marriage just 2 months ago it was so so painful and I just got up and fought! And we prayed and prayed and finally over came and our 10 year marriage is better then ever
I agree the Devil came to kill and destroy. He hates Family structure. 2 is better than one and with God it's a mighty Strong thing.
Yes 🙌 amen!!! My husband and I divorced and it’s made things so much worse. Unfortunately we had infidelity on both our parts. Fortunately, we are in the process of redemption. Yes, There was so much verbal and emotional abuse on his end and it made me seek elsewhere instead of going to Jesus and getting counseling. If I knew back then what I know now things wouldn’t have gotten out of hand. If I could give advice to anyone that needs it I would say get help. Talk to your church, a friend, a trusted counselor, etc. ask for guidance.
The grass is not greener on the other side. I hurt myself, my family, and friends. Regardless of what my husband was doing I didn’t have to retaliate. I should have chose to save my marriage any healthy way I could have. Including giving the choice to my husband to get the help that he needed. If I had a chance to do it all again, I would.
Also, I had my husband on the pedestal where Jesus needed to be that first most was my main problem. If I had loved myself enough to not put up with any abuse I wouldn’t be picking up the pieces that I am now. Praying 🙏 for you all. Stay strong Liz, God will guide you.
@@mia6089 this I needed !!!!!! Thank you for sharing !!!!!
@@mia6089 we need a group chat on all of this !!! I love to hear ppls testimonies and motivation 😔
Our stories are SO similar. My high school sweetheart cheated on me with a coworker 3 years ago when our firstborn was a few months old. I was endlessly loyal and was completely blind sighted. Her name was saved as “EMT bud” in his phone because I knew her name and had my eye on her already. Nothing physical happened to my knowledge but they worked together everyday for months and would text and send TikTok’s after work until I caught it. It nearly broke me but with a lot of effort from both sides, we are honestly stronger and closer than before. You did NOT deserve this and this says more about him than it does about you. You deserve respect and loyalty and I hope you find happiness in whatever you choose to do.
I’m 35 and have been married for 16 years, we started dating when I was 14. The first 8 years of our marriage were so freaking hard!! He cheated on me with a female coworker. I’m so sorry your going through this, it is a pain I will never forget! I wanted to believe him when he would say it’s not a big deal, we work together…blah blah blah. When your husband is cheating you know, even if you don’t want to believe it. I am glad I stayed and fought for our marriage, but I would never want to go through that pain again! I also want to say it’s not wrong to stay and try to make it work, do what is best for your family. I know the people around us can treat us like we are crazy for not leaving. I will be praying for you! 💗
Good on you!! Respect!!
Did he actually stop? Or did he get smarter and hides it from you? What’s the incentive to stop if your going to keep taking him back? Curious, as a person going through something similar.
Sorry but the way l see it is…when your man cheats on you and you forgive him, that opens the door for him to do it again, and for him to be more careful the next time he does it. I respect your decision, but that is not an advice l would give my daughter.
i’m sorry but you at 35 should not know not give that advice to anyone. cheating isn’t just morally wrong it’s putting your partner at risk health wise you should’ve left the first time
I'm going through the same thing. But in my opinion anytime you need to hide something from your spouse it's cheating, disrespectful,embarrassing and selfish.I understand what you are feeling. I feel more for our little ones. We as adults will move on. But for our children its not easy. They know they see they hear
I wish nothing but the best! Stay strong!
I know you know it in your soul, but deleting stuff is definitely a sign of something more. It may not have been physical but it was definitely emotional. If not you don’t delete stuff. Everyone takes their own time to come to terms with things, but trust your gut. It hurts if it was something. Don’t fall into patterns. I myself have & forgiven so much & when you know you know. 💓
Harmless flirting(seeing it from the point of maybe it’s not intentional from the person, but someone else can see it like that), can become harmful.
Pray for your marriage. Lean into God. He’s the only one that can open your eyes and see the truth. Don’t give up to easy.. lately I see a lot of couples making their relationship a compared one to “tik tok” couples, and a lot of harm can grow from that.
You guys have worked hard for the life you have, so don’t let go too easy. Best wishes ❤️
What he did is a form of cheating and based on the fact that he’s not making changes he is checked out from the marriage. I’ve been married for 22 years and the 7 and 10 yr mark are the hardest… stay strong and think about your kids when you make decisions…
Thank you for opening up about your personal relationship. I am also going through a rough time with my marriage. Having kids makes it more hard to make a decision of what to do next. Stay strong Liz.💖
I’m praying for you and your marriage Jenny! 🙏🏻
I agree😔
I just clicked, but I'm glad you're opening up. My husband and I of 7 years are going back to marriage counseling because things are unveiling themselves. Everyone thinks we're a power couple, but I told him I'm done pretending we're okay. Now when someone compliments our marriage, I tell them we're not and it oddly feels good letting the truth out about our marriage status.
Thanks for being relatable
I understand. Been there. Am there. It's hard. Married life is truly trying. You're not alone. Thank you for your honesty. ❤️
This is tough. I'm not going to compare my situation to your because you have been with your husband for a long time. My ex, would text a coworker of his as well and vent about us to her. Needless to say, they ended up together. Things happen, I knew instantly that he was no longer into me and I chose to leave. The difference is, you know you husband, you know him better than we do. If you trust he isn't cheating, that's your right. Take this time to think about what you ultimately want to gain out of this break and whether or not he is ready to acknowledge your feelings. At the end of the day, your happiness is just as important as anyone else. I wish you the best. Stay strong and sometimes the best decisions are the hardest to make.
Hi Liz. The deleting texts are very suspicious. If there was nothing going on, nothing would need to be deleted. It could just be an emotional thing and not physical but I feel like problems in our relationships need to be addressed with each other. I've been with my hubby since I was 15 as well. We got married at 25 and have 2 kids together. He was my first everything. We went through ALOT. Growing together from children to adults. Even as adults in our 30s we are trying to still learn about ourselves. I think the minute you lose that trust... thats where we have to step back and reevaluate the relationship. I hope in the end you do whats best for you and you come out happy.
Toxic me would get the text from my phone company but than again I’m like I’m not “trusting him” but at the same time if he had nothing to hide then why delete it 👀😤
You will get through it. He will get through it. Y’all will get through this rough patch at the end of the day. Maybe y’all will walk out at the end of this together, perhaps not. You just have to trust that in the end everything that’s meant for you will come to you and everything that’s not meant for you will become apparent and work out for the better.
I went through a similar thing.. sometimes no matter how long you know someone and how long you've been together, you never truly know them. They can surprise you at any time. I think you're doing the right thing. Deleting texts sounds very sneaky and suspicious, he knew it was wrong and did it anyway, then hid it. Focus on u and the kids. You'll be okay. You deserve to be happy and the kids deserve a happy home not a sad/toxic/uncertain one x
I’ve been a subscriber since Emma and Ethan were toddlers. My heart hurts for you 💔. I know how painful it is…You’re a strong woman! Praying for clarity, peace, and comfort. 🙏🏻 💕
Sameeee!!
I give you props for talking about it. Thank you. This helps the rest of us. You are not alone. We all have problems in our marriage. Some worse than others. I hope things work out for you and your family.
I never write comments on RUclips but God is tugging on me to do so. My husband and I just got back together from a one month separation about two weeks ago. And I can see a huge difference in us both trying to reconcile things. We’ve as well had have the same issues for years. I got tired and finally was like something needs to change. The separation was great in the sense of us having time to reflect on things on our own, but I will say the last two weeks we were 100% done and the fighting was continuing even being apart. Trust is hard, especially when it’s been broken. But I will say the more you guys are apart and not communicating the enemy will use that as his leverage to destroy your marriage completely. Being apart makes it harder to connect. It’ll push you or him in the arms of someone else or resent one another. If there’s still a little bit of hope that is more than enough to keep trying, if he is a trying man and willing to respect your boundaries to prove to you he wants to be with you and fix things. Then you should give him that opportunity. If he flat out doesn’t care that’s totally different. Christ has forgiven and loved us unconditionally and we should do the same. Especially if there’s a willing to try on his end and remorse. The Bible says a mustard seed of faith is enough, the Bible also says a wife should not leave her husband if he still wants to be with her. Obviously there is some things that are an exception, like abuse, constant cheating, drug addiction, danger to children etc.
Take some time for yourself, but not too long, and sit down as adults, tell him what you expect and need from him and let him prove himself or not. Go from there. I recommend biblical counseling as well. A marriage without God is nothing. Praying for y’all and those babies ❤
I also think spending too much time apart will only finish the marriage. The best thing would be maybe a few days and then seeing a marriage counselor/ therapist.
I’ve seen this happen so many times where the partner starts talking to a co worker about his/her relationship and I completely agree with you it is disrespectful and sometimes leads to cheating or some sort of relationship that is inappropriate for a married person. The thing is it’s hard to tell it could just become a very close friend relationship or lead to more but the fact that he was deleting messages just messes with my mind I would definitely be having a hard time trusting what he says as well. But I also agree with the fact that you don’t really know if there was cheating involved or just the inappropriate texting. Praying for you and hopefully you can make a decision that ends with you being happy whether it is together or apart. ❤
So sorry to hear but thank you so much for sharing. I have been married for 13 years and going through the same troubles!!! I know it feels embarrassing but it’s refreshing to hear. I’m not the only one
Me too girl me too😔
Thank you for being vulnerable! I know it’s so hard especially sharing your life for everyone! We really don’t know what people are going through silently. I know it took a lot of courage to even post this video. So I applaud you for that! Co dependency is a real thing esp being with someone for so long we lose ourselves sometimes. But remember you matter and your mental health matters as well. We have to take care of ourselves! I wish you nothing but the best on your healing journey! It will be tough but there is light at the end! Sending you so much love and positivity!! ❤
My husband works construction where it’s minority men he works with. But there is ONE women he communicates with the office and even that one women he has conversation about our everyday life, and home renovation, what he ate that day or sharing jokes that I feel are inappropriate . The way I see it is if it’s a coworker it should be kept only work related. I to agree it’s not cheating but it’s disrespect. Because even “IF” they do not intend for a friendship to evolve into something other than friendship…. That’s how it begins. Rule of thumb if you feel your spouse cannot see certain text to the point you need to delete them , then it’s wrong. I give you props for the courage to put yourself first because I’m sure you got to a point in your life that you didn’t like who you were becoming because of the mistakes of your loved one. Becoming a domino effect with your kids. We mother sometimes don’t see how our relationship effects us so much that we get distracted from being the best mom possible to our kids.
I’m going to share my experience, my ex baby daddy, had a woman coworker who he told everything we went going through and at the end he ended up having a 3 year relationship with her while he was with me and he would always said she was just a friend 😢 so I do advise you to talk to him and put everything out on the table and go to counseling if you really want your marriage to workout, mine ended up last year since he never stopped that “friendship “ so that’s my advice ❤❤ hope your kids are ok and don’t take it the wrong way 😢
Liz, you are so strong for sharing this with us. I have always thought you were a superwoman, but I know that you have your struggles just as we all do.
You are so right in saying that if someone else is not making you happy, your life is not over, you can make yourself happy. You are strong and you and the children will get through this ❤ Take whatever time you need for yourself, we support you.
Hey Liz I’ve been with my sons father for 12 years and he has never friended a girl coworker and neither have I friended a guy coworker. If he is texting a girl coworker and sharing his personal life especially about your relationship problems there is definitely something going on or the start of something…RED FLAG. That is just so wrong why can’t he be up front… it’s very selfish and disrespectful.
I really never thought of Eric to do that I am shocked. I know this have been tremendously hard on you and even harder for you to express this to your RUclips community. I can’t imagine sharing it with the world if I had problems in my relationship. You are so brave, truly.
I just hope YOU find your happiness, because you deserve it. ❤
We are here to support you and excited to see on your self love journey.
Xoxo
I really admire you Liz, going to through this and sharing it with us, takes a lot. I appreciate you for that, my prayers are with you, put yourself first, the fact that he felt the need to delete the texts and that you feel insecure about him, that says it all. You are a strong beautiful women ❤
You can tell She is totally broken, but iam so happy that she soon gets to understand to eliminate the toxic side and get stronger day by day 💪🏼 She rocks this i knew it, because everyone here under the comments would do this to ! You deserve better and you will get it, rock it Girl 💪🏼
This hit deep Liza!. I just ended a 11 year marriage (I’m 33) and it’s a HUGE decision. People don’t believe what we go through mentally, emotionally, everything before we get to the decision of wanting a break, or to split up. Go with your gut, and your heart…. That’s what I did in the end, my heart wasn’t in the marriage anymore, I was so resentful of him not respecting me and changing for me (to stop the things that hurt me), so it needed to end .
Much love and a pray you make the right decision whatever that may be 🫶🏼
My heart dropped when I saw the title, I am so sorry for whatever you are going through. Any of us who are/ have been married know that there are so many struggles that come with it. But I hope you get through it & do what’s best ❤️❤️
I can definitely relate, he didn’t cheat but it feels as if he did and if you have to delete messages it’s because there is something that you shouldn’t be saying.
I pray you guys work it out and Eric steps up and takes action in fixing the relationship because your one badass wife he would definitely take a big loss not having you !
Sending you a big hug ❤
As a long time subscriber of yours I see you as my friend and im so heartbroken to hear this. I hope Eric fights for you and his family, trust is so fragile but if there is an effort on his end to make it work and he can rebuilt the trust he lost, seek counseling and make it work. However, like you said we can't force anything on anyone and unfortunately sometimes silence is an answer. Praying for you and your beautiful family 💛 you all deserve to feel love and respected.
Praying for your marriage to work out in any way. Its an effort at both ends not just one sided. You have beautiful family don't just let it to break. Children are the one who gets effected and the scar is for life time 😔
i feel ur heartbreak and pain, i am going through the same thing right now, my 18 years of marriage has come to an end, my husband told me he’s working away it’s now 5 months and he’s not back, he txt me to say he has realised he dsnt want a future with me and he wants to end the marriage, i have 4 children eldest is 12 years old and youngest is 3 years old, i am devastated and broken and my children are also traumatised, i am now having to leave my home and move 100 miles back to my parents house with 4 children, i am living in hell and i am broken and going through what feels like death.
he has blocked my number after txting me and no1 can get hold of him he’s a coward and i am broken, my children are emotional and upset as they were very close to their dad, he has also stopped all connection with the children and i think once i leave with my children he will come out of hiding as no1 can find him, i am a dead person right now only living for the children as they dnt have anyone else
i just hope God helps me and my children through this trauma in our life😭😭
I had this same problem of my husband deleting messages about over a year ago. He said he never cheated and he deleted messages cause he didn't want me to get upset over something that someone said to him that he had no control over. We had a serious talk when that was going on and he has changed. I've changed too. I realized I was not being the best wife for him. I used to have an attitude about everything and now my attitude with him has changed for the better. There are women who are snakes and like to ruin other relationships. If you love him don't let her win don't let her get in your relationship. But of course he has to be willing to change. We only see a glimpse of your relationship but both of you seem like good people that love each other. I hope everything works out for the best. 💕
It’s not a woman’s fault if a husband cheats. Putting the responsibility of your partner’s lack of faithfulness on another woman is weird AF and misogynistic. It’s the husband’s responsibility to never cross that boundary with another woman.
@@lavieenrose_marie you sound immature and naive. Totally missing the point. Our actions can contribute to feelings of isolation, sadness, resentment...in the same way that a husband's treatment towards his wife can do the same.
@@mbwilson8592 you sound like a dummy. The other woman is NOT responsible for a man stepping out. Unless she is friends with the wife she has no loyalty to her point blank period. Especially as many men who cheat, do not disclose the fact they are in a committed relationship. Regardless, putting MORE blame on the woman, saying clown shit like, “don’t let her win” is misogynistic and foolish as it is HIS responsibility to remain faithful in a relationship. The woman gets the title snake and the cheating husband gets ‘I hope he changes.’ HUH???? Sadly after the last baby announcement and his reaction I felt like something was off between them. I hope she makes the decision best for her and her children. But it’s literally pick me clown logic to blame a woman for a man cheating, when his ass didn’t want to be in the relationship.
Liz, I'm really sorry to hear this from you n I'm sorry about that. U know, u guys were such a inspiration to me. Anyways, life doesn't always give us a good sail but trust in Jesus and ull soon find a smooth landing after this rough journey. Remember, nothing is permanent, you'll get through all this. Prayers assured 🙏
I went through this exact same thing except he met her online on a gaming platform. Together over 10 years & 3 kids. He deleted the texts and Iike you i never entertained any man. I was heartbroken. It happened a few times even after I forgave him. I ended up ending things. It hurt but it’s been almost a year and I’m starting to feel happy and accept being single.
Here for support lizz my heart breaks for you definitely understand u never know who needed to hear this ❤
You guys have always seemed like the greatest couple, I have been watching you guys since Emma was born, no one knows what really goes on in relationships, I feel for you Liz, be strong❤️my husband has been texting women for years, your brave
Your mom is looking out for you Liz. ❤ You’re amazing and deserve the absolute best❤ don’t settle for less 🙏🏾 I’m sorry😢
Ughhh i don’t know if should write this but here it goes. You can go to your cellphone carrier and they will print out all the messages and calls for the past 3 months. Now Liz I don’t know what seeing all the text messages can cause. Only thing I can say is go to church and pray to God to guide on making the best decision for your soul and kids. Definitely mass heals you 🙏🏼 un abrazo fuerte amiga 🙏🏼
Liz, it’s okay
Once trust is broken in a relationship and it cannot be built again; Honestly, there is no purpose to continue. There is always going to be doubt about situations.
Keep continue to be strong and rely on your babies to be a better woman and better mom ( not that your not, your awesome 😊)
Love you 🥰
I hope that you both can fix and salvage your marriage... I really wish that if he commits mistakes he own up to it admit to you and say sorry and choose you and your kids. He might not know what he would loose if he gives up on your family. You're such a picture of a perfect family. Happy and fun. Will pray for your family..
So so so bummed to hear!
I started watching last year when I became a mom of four!
I have been married 20 years and have been to the brink before we sought help and healed.
I hope you all can get strategic, expert help to revolutionize your marriage too!
You are a strong mama and will soldier on!
God bless you chica!
I’m going through a separation now . 15 years together! Married 9 with three kids !
I was 14 when we got together & im 28 now ! sometimes a break is okay . Especially when kids are involved marriage is hard ! I’m with you Liz ❤ love you guys !
I went through the exact same thing when we reached the 10 yr mark. I can totally relate. The betrayal of trust is excruciating pain. I wish you the best and yes please seek healing because it’s the best thing you can do right now.
Us girls always know when somethings off! Unfortunately there are things called emotionally cheating and it is not ok! Not saying this is what happened to you bc only you know your relationship. Prayers to you and your family. ❤
I would be DEVASTATED if I found messages between my husband and a coworker. I wish you the best Liz! ❤
When ur together for that long, it tends to get repetitive in life so of course one will end up getting bored. You two are all you know and with eachother practically everyday. So Im sure one of the other will seek outside to see what he or she is missing. Its either physically, or emotionally or evn both.
You two need to make time for eachother, go on dates once a month, spice things up intimately and etc. Marriage can be very routine so I think thats all u two are missing
You are so beautiful. You will get through this and be a stronger woman for it.. You shared your thoughts and words and gave encouragement by uploading this video.. Take it minute by minute at a time if you need to, the come back is beautiful and beautiful you already are!!!
That is an emotional affair unfortunately:( even if it’s not physical. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can really relate to this video though, together for ten years and definitely having some struggles. You are NOT alone!
Haven’t watched but praying for you and your family. Marriage is hard and you’re not alone even though if feels like it. ❤ I feel like we as women deserve so much better. The first time should be a mistake. Second time it’s a choice. He didn’t think about your feelings 💕
Don't worry gurl. Marriage is hard. Litterally soul draining. I'm going through it.
I agree with you on the texting another women, like I'm not the jealous type but when there is things being deleted even though it " wasn't anything bad" makes you feel some type of way 😔 Of course there is so much more to you having to decide to get to this point but don't feel guilty for trying to be better for you and your kids♡ Whatever is meant to be will be and it will only get better from here❤️ Much Love!
I'm not married but have been struggling with my relationship. Now that we have a son is just...... hard. Expectations are higher and idk. I'm here for you Liz.... ❤
He did wrong ... Maybe the coworker is the one making him feel unsure... You are beautiful and independent, love yourself and your kids.
Pray for your marriage Liz. There are demonic forces that are coming against your marriage. Their assignment is to break your family apart. Pray and fast for your marriage. Hope you guys get through this. I've been married 7years and we have been through some hard things but one thing I can do is pray for God's protection over my marriage. All the best xx
Agree! Ephesians 6:12
@@bev.chvz87 Absolutely!! Such a powerful verse. Putting on the spiritual armor of God to keep yourselves protected from demonic forces and that come to steal, kill and destroy which is always the enemies goals!! It's a spiritual battle.
@@hoifuamahe974 that verse saved my marriage and helped me to build a relationship with Christ on January 2021. There are trials that still goes on in our marriage but glory to God, He helped us surrender our worries and problems to Him
@@bev.chvz87 Praise God! Absolutely Jesus saved my marriage too. Alot of people don't understand is that this is a spiritual battle and not physical. There are demonic outside forces that are at work here. Their main goal is to break up marriages. That's why it's so important to know Jesus & to read his word so you know how to pray against these principalities. The devil only comes to steal, kill and destroy!!
@@hoifuamahe974 YES!! Amen!!
No cheater ever said that i am cheating. If he felt the need to delete texts , thats a red flag.
I’m speechless. I’m crying for you. Cause I’ve been there, many times and don’t feel bad for thinking about staying either and never feel embarrassed beautiful. The second a man gravitates towards another woman about your marital issues and deleting those marriages. An emotional connection is the deepest cut. I’m so sorry. By I’m still praying for you, your family, your marriage and your healings 🤍
And if he tries to come back, don’t take him back because he’s only coming back because his interest didn’t work out.
Now is the time to seek The Lord, put God above all things and you'll see how things will start to fall into place.. I seen a comment about there being demonic forces attacking marriages lately and it's true, the devil is here to steal, kill and destroy and he'll make that marriage end if you allow him. Stay strong mama and now is the time to put that faith in our Lord Jesus Christ✝️ many prayers headed your way🙏
I am going through the same thing. It is so hard to trust in a person after they betray your trust. Especially, when they confide on another female it destroys you completely. Trust issues are no joke 😞 even if it’s a friend from work IT IS NOT OKAY!
Please don't be embarrassed. You have NOTHING to be embarrassed about. I'm praying for you and your family. I hope you guys all find happiness and peace; whether it's together or separate. I've been married 3 and a half years and I've been with my husband for 6 years total. Marriage is really hard sometimes. Anyone who tells you they "never fight" are probably lying. We've had issues in our relationship before as well. There was a solid year where we had the same fight over and over and OVER again. It was so frustrating.
Ultimately, what worked for us is that we both listened to our own relationship podcasts. We both had different youtubers who's relationship advice we really felt inspired by. I'd compare it to a form of couples counseling, but not directly. Us being able to take some time away during the day and process things by ourselves really helped. I'm not sure if you'll find doing this helpful, but I wanted to share. You're not alone. My husband's parents went through a 5 year period where they absolutely HATED each other. And now, they're one of the strongest couples I know. I'm not saying this to say you should or should not stay with your husband. I just want you to know that you're not alone. And again, you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
WoW! Never did I imagine you were going thru this! I am sorry and hope you find peace and heal with time.
Thank you for sharing , many of us go thru things and never talk about it. I believe it’s good to talk and vent to someone or even out loud to yourself.
My husband and I are also raising 4 kids under 7 and I am a SAHM and he works it’s HARD .. we have issues communicating but keep trying for our kids….
I feel like I understand a bit what you are going thru , do share your journey because this is a very common topic it’s life there’s good but there is also bad .
I hope you find your HAPPY.
How are y’all holding up? It’s been a year since this comment and I too have 4 little kids and thinking about separating because I can’t take his poor communication anymore. It’s very hard as I’m home all day (work part time from home and go to college part time also) then the kids. He works and then comes home and sometimes he still plays video games and soccer. I’m over it.
I can relate, my fiance was talking to his coworker and told me he didn't love me as much as he use to. I left him that night 3 weeks before our wedding, she moved in 2 weeks later. This happened to me in 2018. I'll be praying for u. ❤
Wowwww
Omg I’m soo sorry girl 😮😮
Are they still together ?
Oh wow Liz. I am so sorry you are going through this. We are here for you. Thank you for being so honest with us during this difficult time. 😢❤
Please seek counseling! Both for yourself and as a couple. Even if it doesn’t resolve the marriage. It will help! Here for you! ❤
I'm sorry you're going through this. I would highly recommend marriage counseling.
I know this probably was not easy to share but just know that your helping people by sharing this. Honestly what he did was the pre cursor of cheating. That’s how it all starts is confiding in a female coworker who is your “friend.” That is how it starts. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you for being so raw and real ❤️. I’m going through the exact same thing. Been with my ex since I was 15, I’m 27 now, we have 2 kids. He’s the only person I’ve ever been with and it’s so hard learning to be on my own. Sending good vibes your way✨
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! You don’t deserve this, and don’t feel bad for feeling bad and needing your own space to figure it out !! This was definitely a blow to the heart, he was disloyal and basically broke your trust. And TRUST is a vital piece in a marriage. I feel for you girl, at the end of the day do what is best for YOU, wether that’s staying and fighting for your marriage or calling it quits, do it for you and only you!!! Having a HAPPY mom is better than having an unhappy mom in a broken marriage. Praying for you girl!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
WE are with you for this. I feel like you needed to vent to us and you have so many people who love you. YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN AND A GREAT MOM. praying for you guys ❤
Been in a toxic relationship for the past 5 years with a narcissist and let me tell if ur feelings aren’t being validated and no changes are being made it’s time to do you! Move in silence, heal and realize u deserve better!
Yooo 😂😂😂 when you said “I’ve been so loyal loyal loyal loyal (etc.) to him through everything… dating, marriage, up until now”… WELL NOT NOW 🤣😏 (with a smirk) I’m dying!!
It’s really difficult to see another woman (or man) go through such a difficult time but I’m so glad to see you so strong and positive about it! You KNOW what you want and what you deserve! Good for you!
IT IS CHEATING AND HE WAS WRONG IT HURTS DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO HEAL AND BE A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR KIDS
Eric is good man and good father, if you not for 100% that he’s cheating on you, don’t break up guys, you guys have a 4 kids, they need both parents think about it, I understand it’s not easy buy both of you have to try to make this family happy again, you’re good couple 😊😊 everyone have a problem but need to work on it, more important thing is you love each other and both you can go through and fix everything, don’t not break up guys
Praying for your marriage!!! You both will get through this❤God is in control🙏
I have literally been in the same exact situation. My husband and I were high school sweethearts and basically grew up together and of course that had its struggles. We got pregnant, married, and moved four hours away from family all within a few months and that took a huge toll on our marriage as well. He had also confided in a friend of the opposite gender and would do it behind my back because I know he didn’t like it more then once! I was no saint as I suffer from anxiety and I j we that wasn’t making our relationship any better so I sort of put the blame on myself. The last time I found out I had enough and was ready to go. He assured me many times they were only friends and he just needed someone to talk to as he didn’t feel he could talk to me. Crazy enough my gut instincts believed him every time and although it has taken me so long to trust him we are finally at a point in our marriage where we are happier then ever. I still have some triggers here and there that make me believe something is up but he will let me ask or see anything I need to to clear any doubt and I think that’s helped a lot! Do what your heart feels Liz❤
My heart breaks for you because your such a great person with a beautiful soul. You don’t deserve this. Girl to fully heal you need to part ways because that scar”cut” of knowing he did this will keep hurting you no matter how hard you try. Heal but heal separate ways. If he was texting her it’s because he’s looking for something else and not happy or checked out of the relationship so let him go and figure it out and think of what he did to you and not just you but your family.
This is such an emotional topic for me. Married 10 years but together 13 years. I’ve been down this road. He felt emotionally neglected and did exactly the Same thing. He said he needed advice so he was texting another girl. Not all men but most men do these things. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you . He’s just Brocken and hurt people hurt people. Maybe he’s going through a midlife crisis. A lot of men loose themselves and start doing shady things to fulfill their needs. Don’t let this break a marriage. I almost broke a lifetime of love over text messages. Watch how he moves and see if he’s coming from a place of regret . ♥️