I Feel So Alone… | S09E25
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- Опубликовано: 17 сен 2024
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Sailing the world as a family has been extremely rewarding but it’s also been insanely difficult at times. Last week we sailed into one of the most stunning places in the Mediterranean. The Bay of Kotor in Montenegro is a sailors dream destination and we’ll be staying at Porto Montenegro Marina, which is the perfect home base from which to explore this incredible country. And since Desiree’s mother Xio is visiting, we’re excited to get to share this experience with her.
But just as we begin to fall in love with this beautiful place, we get a few brutal reminders that sailing the world as a family comes at a cost and we’re left wondering if the pros outweigh the cons.
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Just sharing here… after dealing with inconsiderate and pushy staff during my 1st pregnancy, I specifically chose my ob for my 2nd based on my initial interaction with the office staff. I called so many and repeatedly the first question they asked me was “who is your insurance carrier?”
When I called my now ob’s office - I explained I was pregnant and looking for a new ob/gyn and her response was “Congratulations! How are you feeling?”
This told me all I needed to know about how they treat their patients. It was the right call, I ADORE my ob dr. His staff and culture of his office made all of the difference in my experience. I pray that when you get to the US you find the perfect dr and staff for your family ❤️ 🙏
Beautiful video, your mother was a real blessing and truly such a nice person, very few mothers would go half way around the world on a sailboat to,help baby sit , besides the weather and water is hard for many people but your mother was a true trooper and blessing!
Isabella is just so adorable!💖
I cheered with joy when I saw momma Deziree got an air conditioner! Good job, Jordan 👏 You're a great husband/father. Keep up the hard work, Desiree. Baby Isabella looks like a beautiful, healthy, happy baby. Wishing you all the best! 😘
So happy the baby is healthy, I know that relieves a lot of stress. Having another beautiful baby like Isabella will be wonderful 🥰❤️
Fantastic to see so much of Montenegro in your video - I'm loving your take on the country. Isabella is wonderful and I'm sure things will go well for baby #2. You will be fine! Fair winds for your stay
I enjoy your videos so much. Each Saturday morning I take a break and live with you for a few minutes. I get to watch such a nice family and see parts of the world at the same time. Thank you for sharing your life with me.
I cracked up at that romantic interlude with the air conditioner
Isabella cracks me up! I love the look of delightful surprise when Jordan splashed her in the fountain. Isabella couldn't have two better parents! Have a great week y'all.
Love you guys! So sorry to see Xio leave. Oso too. Safe travels. ❤
Tommy is the ultimate dog whisperer. Oso will be well loved in Germany ❤
So true!
To watch Isabela smile, walk and grow so much is one of the great joys of watching your channel. Espero que tu tienes un buen viaje a España.
33 yrs ago my hubs wanted to buy a sailboat and do what you’re doing. I was pregnant at the time & as afraid so we didn’t. Watching you guys with Isa (& soon with #2 👶🏼) fills me with what ifs. Not for nothing, if you move to the US, one of you will have to work full time so the other will be mostly an 9 hr per day single parent. Food 🍱 for thought🕊️ Until then Saturday mornings with PA remains my favorite way to start my weekends🤍
Hi you all, I know it's sometimes not easy but you two just keep on going and never give up living the life you now live is the best life anyone can wish for.
That AC Jordan was a good move, well-done brother. Keep mum comfy Bob's your uncle
As a many year RUclips follower it is so great watching your family evolve, love the weekly content look forward to it every Saturday 😊
Oh my, I had tears in my eyes this episode. I feel for you so much. At such a time why can’t people be kind even if they have to say no, you can explain things kindly, be gentle, and perhaps even RELAX your rules!! Jordan should absolutely be with you, I just don’t understand that at all! And then, saying goodbye to Desiree’s mum and Oso. Really want to give you guys a big hug. I live on the other side of the world from my family, so I get how hard that is. Take care you lovely people.
Happy the pregnancy is going well and I agree, not a very friendly visit to the doctors office. Through all of the trials and tribulations you share with us in your videos, it all turns super bright and happy when we get to see Isabella. WHAT A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING! She just seems to be so content and happy all of the time... very happy for you guys. Glad to see you got some Air Conditioning..... being hot in an enclosed space is not pleasant, at all! Thanks for sharing guys, be well, sail safe.
Another heart warming video.
Isabella is such a cutie. Adorable seeing her splash in the fountains.
@Des, thanks for being so brutally honest (to the doc and us). I can’t imagine sharing every moment of our lives with the world. 🌎 you guys are amazing! Chin up and know that you’re not alone, you have a massive RUclips family rooting for yawl!😊
It's very awesome for your mom to be there and help.
Got to love family.
Thank you for the video.
We know what it's like to not have support from family while raising the little ones. We are not isolated on a boat in the Mediterranean, unfortunately, but we are isolated on our homestead in the middle of the wilderness of Wisconsin's Great Lakes area. The kiddos go everywhere with us and it's much harder to accomplish things that way but I think in the long term it builds connectivity in the family; an interdependence that can't be synthesized any other way. Lessons in keeping up the farm, or boat, or whatever, are ingrained in the children and will teach them self sufficiency, independence, and irreplaceable critical thinking skills. You two are building such a beautiful experience for your children and they will never forget this time with you. I'm certain it will be some of their fondest memories; even in their old age when you are no longer around to remind them. Much love to you all and know you are always in our prayers. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!
You guys have always been our favorite! The videos are fantastic every time! Great job, and I'm so sorry that you went through that negative experience.
WOW !!! Montenegro is so beautiful, like heaven on earth and now I want to travel from Tampa and see it ! Isabela is so cute and watching her grow and walk is amazing. You truly have had a great adventure traveling the world and the four of you handle things as they come. Thank you for the Lumen mention as I'm going to order one as it's just what I need. Have fun, take care and thanks for your great adventure.
What a lovely video. Of course every Saturday morning us such thrill to wake up and find you here from my phone. Yay! I’m sorry to see your mom leave but know she’s been a huge help and as well enjoyed boat like. Goodbye Oso and see you all next month
Beautiful family ❤ family is everything when we have good family surrounding us ❤ precious times x
That’s sucks you had that experience Desiree but very happy to hear the baby is healthy. Hang in there guys. It’s a life style not made for the feint or weak of heart. But you guys are doing it. Stay strong and resolute.
Desiree, I am sorry that things didn’t go as you expected, and that your appointment was so difficult for you. The reasons that they gave were interesting at a minimum and can understand why the situation was upsetting. I will let you know that no one else in the room for most of the ultrasound happens elsewhere. I have had a bunch of pelvic ultrasounds. Where I live in Canada, most are done through a clinic, not at a doctor’s office. There are big signs in the waiting room, that once they have finished doing the core requirements, they will get your husband or other person from the waiting room, and do a brief version with them present. The stated reasons relate to them having full concentration on what they are doing, the time to get it done and have the specialist check and redo anything needed and space needed for them as many of the rooms are tiny. Of course because a tech, they are giving limited information to the patient. Anything important would be later from the dr.
Another excellent video 📹 . See you on the next one adventurers 😊😊😮😮🎉🎉❤❤❤.
Kept a tower A/C unit on Miss McKenna for several years, on an Allied Seawind 30 , I set it up on the starboard sette and vented it out the portal light. It did an awesome job keeping saloon and V birth comfort in the hottest of days.
I’m sorry you had a negative experience with the staff at your appointment. 💗 You did a great job advocating for yourself. Glad all is good with your health and the baby’s! Another great video! Thank you. ☺️
We love Kotor! We only cruised there once but fell in love with it.
Hope Oso can bark in German! Nice change for Ceo and Oso....and you guys as a family have gone full circle and a third! Now you get to enjoy Big family time!! Very Happy for you sailors!!🎉❤
Some people are very rude and a little power for some people is something they abuse to make them feel better. You’re good, blessed and will be just fine. Enjoy.
I am from Serbia, Monte Negro or as we call it Crna Gora used to be a part of Serbia. Beautiful Country, unfortunately the people can seem unfriendly. Don’t take it personal, it’s just how they are. Hope you enjoy your time though, and you have to try pećenje. Can’t wait to see more of your videos, love you guys.
"Don't take it personally."
Yes, it’s a cultural remnant of communism and will take several generations to eliminate. My family is from Croatia, and unfortunately I have found the same issues there when travelling. Very unfortunate, because it’s such a beautiful country.
Just like Serbia was once Ottoman territory and sovereignty.
Wait, what? Montenegro was part of Serbia? You mean Yugoslavia?
Loved the jokes though. Fiery people.
Well done navigating that crazy road! Beautiful country. (I cried when Xio and Oso left! 😢)
Great video as always, the changes your video shows are incredible. Fifty years ago I travelled through Yugoslavia as it was called on my Vespa. Gasoline was subsidised by the then Tito government and real cheap. None of the infrastructure you experienced was available then. I remember staying in a "B&B in one coastal city and when I woke up in the morning, there were 3 other men still sleeping in the room. Breakfast was a piece of homemade bread and water. I think the total cost was around a few dollars. If memory is correct I think the city was Dubrovnik. Even then the people were very friendly and kind. I had a wonderful time with several friends tenting on the shore of Lake Peice(sp). It was on the border of Yugoslavia and Albania, which at the time was an absolute , No Go Zone . It's incredible to see the transformation that has taken place in 52 years. Stay safe you three. Looking forward to your next video.
Calvin and Karen watching from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦..
Feeling upset about the appointment...😢
So good u had your mom.for awhile...
Isabella so precious fun watching her walking in the water...
Looking forward to the newborn..❤
You guys are the Best!
Always looking forward to you next video... and the inspiration.
You are truly blessed!
Nice episode 👏 thanx for sharing your life with us
Des, I can't give advice only share experiences - I'm a guy, my wife called me the pregnancy spirit animal. What I can say is I have 3 healthy wonderful kids. Each pregnancy was full of stress and worry from the doctors. There was real worries - we lost my daughters twin due to TTTS, and my youngest was born deaf. BUT!!! All 3 are still healthy and striving! My words for you - the baby will be fine. Believe that and own that. Even when there are problems to worry about, believe in the miracle that every woman does when MAKING a baby. You'll do your job just fine and the baby will fight for life, fight for health. Remember you are a miracle worker and be proud. By the way, your daughter is just so cute. You've already done a great job once. No tears, be proud and happy!!!!!
That was an amazing episode. Really beautiful all around, people and places. Ahoy!
Desiree, I totally agree that they should have let Jordan at minimum into your appointment. I was pregnant in 2020 with my youngest and was extremely disappointed when they refused to allow my husband into the appointments with me. We did donor egg IVF to get pregnant and he should have been allowed into my appointment. It was all bogus. Like, they wanted us to wear masks and distance, but yet that wasn't good enough for him to join the appointment. Then, when I gave birth, i had a c section and i had to do it alone. Then 6 hours later, my husband was told he was no longer allowed in the hospital and i was left caring for a newborn while i couldn't even care for myself. I felt like i was in jail. The dumbest part, they had two different nurses for two different patients in the same room, but when i transferred to a private room, my husband still wasn't allowed. I really hope you have a better experience going forward. You are not alone in how it feels to be alone for those appointments, and you have a right to be angry and upset about it. It took two of you to make the baby, why is it only one is allowed to be at the appointments?
That is one of the reasons to come home. You can appreciate the U.S.A
We hope that at the end your family is ok.
best wishes,
You were treated horribly! I hope that stuff never happens again.
I'm new to your channel, and went searching madly for signs of Oso! Phew, now I know the story. Sorry about your experience with the ultrasound! Isa is a stunning child, and sooooooo cute.
Thanks for another sweet video! I’ve been watching since y’all started the channel, first time commenting. I have to say the warmth you guys exude in these videos and your gentle style of story telling has me still hooked on SPA! Happy travels!
Hey Buds, Sorry for the late comment. I think we told you when we met you in Poros that there is a lack of feeling of friendliness in Montenegro (maybe more like all business). We were not impressed with general medical care there, but I did get to know a couple of people in the medical industry very well and they felt as though OBGYN and Dentistry are very strong there.
Loved the video!
I have an awesome hack for your ac. I have one just like yours. The ac creates negative draft pulling hot air into the boat from the back of the unit, and is loud. You can make your boat cooler and quieter by putting it outside and making positive air pressure inside.Take a large black bag like Home Depot contractor bag, cut one bottom corner like a big triangle. The bag will look like a dance cap on top of your ac with the hose popping out, Cut the tip off and run the 6” hose through that tip of the bag and tape. Tape the bag to the ac. Clear packing tape works well, avoid duct tape. You may need to put a little wedge piece to keep the ac fins on top open for assurance. My boat dropped 10 degrees when i did this idea I thought of. It really works amazing. First I cut a piece of foam board insulation and sits in place of bottom two companion way boards, so you can still step over. I later went to starboard for security and strength. Trace the hose and push it through, then aim it wherever you want it to blow. Stay cool! Cheers!
It really does takes a village!!✌️💜
I did same thing I bought a 12 awg extension cord for my air and portable heat in winter......all marinas have a 20 amp receptacle, so it's on its own
Its been great to watch you both go from working to get the first boat, then now the second boat, along with the dog and daughter. Lots of fun when baby number 2 arrives...Thannks for sharing all of it.
What a very joyful episode (except the jerks at the OB appointment anyway)! I felt so happy for you after getting the portable ac unit. It must have felt so good to actually need to use blankets. I could feel the cold air!
Awesome video. Isa walking 😊 yea. Thanks for sharing. ❤
In the sixties as a young kid i read a book about a couple who built a trimaran and sailed around the world and had two children on the way. They always had a nanny for the children. There seemed to be an endless stream of suitably qualified nanny's who wanted to have a sailing experience and would do a leg or some time on the boat and nanny the children in exchange. This maybe something you could look at because if it is hard cruising with one child then try it with two. Just something you could think about. Love your channel and all the best. 😊👍 🐟
That was sooooo cute at the end, Isabella is a bright light!! I'm so sorry you had to experience that negative Dr visit, but grateful that everything is OK. Thx for another wonderful episode!! 🤗💞
Yeah got your air conditioner Desiree ❤. Things are moving along, glad you are feeling better too. Goodbye to Gramma & Ozo. Isabella doesn't seem little anymore, a big girl. Jordan love your hat lol ❤
Hi you f o u r, really love your tours and a long time subscriber❤❤❤❤
Glad you got some vacation time home with family. The virus might be on the rise again I certain places, don’t get to upset. It’s emotional but hang in there ok. Glad to see your daughters growing and big and healthy baby guys.
Nice video, Isabella is a very pretty baby.
We are happy that you are having fun. we look forward to your video in Florida and your new baby.
With our best wishes,
Raul and Joan Bryan, Texas
Such adorable family! ♥
great camera work and editing you guys thanks
Thank you
Things have really changed in my 80 years. When my first was born there was none of this. And I wasn't even allowed on the same floor during delivery.
Great Video……Alain!🎉
Beautiful views! Sorry your appointment was a bit of a negative experience, that was a very sad story. 😢 Happy the baby is healthy! Best wishes always PA family.
Another fantastic video! Keep it up guys
Great video. Isabella is adorable. My two boys were born 30 years ago. I was on my own at most of dr appointments I feel your nerves. Hopefully you will get to a place where you can relax and Jordan won’t be turned away. Sorry to see mama and O go so too😢
Hi guys I'm glad you love Kotor, it really is one of the most spectacular bays. On the health appointments experience, you have to understand in developing countries whilst the doctors are usually as well trained as in America that level of knowledge is not very deep. Culturally many of the disease phobias from the first half of the 20th century still hold strong. That is certainly the case in Malta (despite them having some truly world class professionals) and in the Balkans.
I love one of the comments, the people can seem unfriendly. Don't take it personally, it's just the way they are! Hahaha! Fascinating area. Thank you so much for sharing your adventures!
thank GOD for moms grandmas right !!! safe trip grandma and guys we continue ciao !!!
Good Morning SPA. I’m sorry that you are having to go thru all of this with doctors. I don’t want to be negative but don’t set your expectations too high for medical care in the states either.
I can’t imagine having doctor’s appts at different places.. it’s stressful to be pregnant with a little one and traveling all the time. Maybe you want to be land based for a few years? Nothing wrong with that. Make this time the most simple and enjoyable as possible. It all goes by so quickly. 💝🙏
Indiana Jones looking to retrieve the holy relics of Montenegro. Your job is done.
Shame we didn’t see you in Portonovi always followed your channel hence our trip from the uk on our Moody 38 cc
Safe travels you three nearly 4
Awesome video that water is amazing
I don't know the details about the Malta experience, but I think part of both of these problems with European medical staff might just have to do with culture. We Americans naively sometimes think that surely everyone thinks like I do, but my experiences in Turkey awakened me to people on a whole different wave length to anything I could ever imagine.
I can’t believe it took you guys this long to finally break down and get some a/c. People in hot countries usually live in stone houses which stay cool in the summer. They also take a siesta in the middle hottest part of the day. If you don’t have a stone house and take a siesta, you need a/c!
Greetings from Ireland.Great news all going well with pregnancy
Raising kids with just you and your husband, with no family around is hard. Been there! That’s why my husband and I moved in with my daughter and her family this past year. To help with the grandkids and hanging out with my daughter! It’s bliss!
Sorry u had a __ experience but also celebrating a healthy baby. I know of hospitals that have lots of covid cases. In a few health care situations had to wear a mask again. So excited to see Isabella walking. Always appreciate taking us to sites 🇨🇦 ❤
I’m so sorry that was your experience! Ooh you should make a parenting app for cruisers. With solid tips on where to go?
Glad you were finally able to get some relief from the heat. The sheer happiness and contentment on everyone's face after a cool night's sleep was awesome to see! Love your videos ❤❤
Didn't realize that Montenegro is such a great place to visit.
Such a beautiful place, but such rudeness from the Dr. office was un called for in my humble opinion. I don't understand why such ones think they have the authority or whatever, to treat others' that way. Otherwise, a very beautiful story and excellent scenery! Be safe always, and keep up the great videos.
Desiree, sorry your first prenatal visit wasn't great. But, so glad you and the baby are Ok!!! Jordan, watch those crypts bro.
I have one that looks identical to that, it is a Midea, 10,000 BTU I believe, maybe a bit bigger but we put it in our older house upstairs master bedroom. It puts out very cold air but cycles on and off and won't stay on, even with an extra fan circulating air. I think the thermostat must be too close to the output, so the unit cools off before the room does. Hope it works so you can sleep at least...
I don't think it's because I have drones that I notice how much your drone shots add to your productions, but I can appreciate the extra time and effort it takes probably more than most.
Jordan I’m so happy that you were able to get you guys some air conditioning for the boat. I don’t know how you guys stayed in the boat when it’s been so so hot.
Hi, you probably already know this..butt. There is another RUclips family that is based in Montenegro, Feel The Breeze. They have had two children there. Maybe they can help you out a little. To be honest, they have been quiet for about a year. Good luck, wishing you the best. Enjoy all your videos, and I've been her from the very beginning. You have come so far.😊😊
We have spent some time in Montenegro and you are right. The people are the problem. Not all of them but a larger proportion than most countries make a significant effect on the general feel of the country and definitely prevent people from returning to such a beautiful place. I'm not sure what it is that makes people like it but I think it is an authoritarian government in the past has normalised the unfriendly attitude in the general population of montenegro. Buck uo Montenegro, the surrounding countries such as Croatia Italy and Greece are the warmest and friendliest to be in as visitors. I won't be going back to Montenegro in a hurry.
It would be great if we could nottate how old Isa is in each video. Thank you for the wonderful videos.
its their country they can do what they want. Stay in a place where you are comfortable.
Stay off the boat if needed. Your expectations do not apply.
Firstly a big hug, from us in the uk 🇬🇧 it's never nice for women to be alone, and it would not have hurt for your husband to have come in with you my loverly, these people should be able to comfortable especially if caught lying , any way remain strong 4 each other gays. 😀
Marine store have ac units that slide thru your hatch ,, may want to try that also
Wishing you had a Catamaran to store crew or family to give y'all breaks. You need a break. Air conditioner is worth so much mental capacity😂 one bad night of sleep takes so long to recover. Blessings❤
As an excuse for Isabella - my son (first born) was also not fond of walking. Later I understood: He was a baby with hardly other young kids around. Around were many very tall people - he could hardly look at their Kneecap. It was far more convenient at dads arm - very high above others.
I think his frequent word is universal "arm" 😘
❤️ hang in there guys. You’re great parents doing a great job
The restrictions on who could view the ultrasound reminded me of my daughter’s birth. The nurses said my wife could have one “guest” to hold her hand during the emergency C-section. Her mother or me. We used the golden rule. I was paying for whatever my insurance wasn’t, so I won.
The grandmother had been present when an older grandchild had been born, it was my first
LOL, assume the suck! Glad all is good with the new baby.
Wow! How could you leave your dog for such a long time?