Alcoholic interview-Johan

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Комментарии • 556

  • @fearsomebeard4290
    @fearsomebeard4290 Год назад +331

    As an alcoholic gay man who got sober 12 years ago at 47 years of age in Southern California, I wish to encourage Johan to put the drink down and honestly try to get sober. My life now is so good that it’s way beyond what I could have ever imagined. I don’t regret having been an active alcoholic, but am incredibly grateful that I’m now a sober alcoholic. Life is so much better now. Sobriety is truly the easier, softer and more fulfilling way.

    • @gmanzano89gm
      @gmanzano89gm Год назад +37

      From one sober alcoholic to another, I applause you’re sobriety. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +17

      That's awesome that you quit drinking. I was married to an alcoholic and I know how difficult it is to quit when it's so socially accepted and there's a bar or pub on every block. Unfortunately, this guy has absolutely no desire or intention of ever quitting, much like my ex-husband.

    • @derrick8224
      @derrick8224 Год назад +15

      Well said. AA saved my life.

    • @kyrahirsch4367
      @kyrahirsch4367 Год назад +11

      always an easier, softer way. congrats ❤

    • @jeanniearnold6726
      @jeanniearnold6726 Год назад +13

      I’m also a friend of Bill and Bob

  • @DonnDenisse
    @DonnDenisse Год назад +271

    Was addicted to heroin and drinking of alcohol for over 7 years. Also suffered severe depression. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. After trying out a psilocybin treatment, I will be 2 years clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

    • @laurj09
      @laurj09 Год назад +4

      I've been looking to try shrooms, just very difficult to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @Caroljoyce-mp8sk
      @Caroljoyce-mp8sk Год назад +1

      Hey! Yes very sure of Dr.benshrooms. my first shrooms trip was really awesome. It felt like I was deep into the sea

    • @Wimruther-hk4zn
      @Wimruther-hk4zn Год назад +6

      I've done microdosing for help and it works does cut depression out it's been the best remedy I've ever had. Psilocybin being illegal is actually a crime against humanity!

    • @JohnGeorge-pw2xo
      @JohnGeorge-pw2xo Год назад

      Yes he's dr.benshrooms. Isd and psilocybin are amazing teachers along its dmt mah dudes.have safe trips all. Shrooms are blessings from nature.

    • @FrankMorrison-vu2kc
      @FrankMorrison-vu2kc Год назад +4

      was addicted to what i called a trifecta Meth, Opium, Alcohol. I also suffered severe depression i went to a party and consumed about 2 eights of shrooms i was lost in my head for 2 days but when i came back my depression and addiction to my trifecta was gone. I didn't realize it at the time. The psychedelic experience is temporary but many people have good permanent results

  • @CassieBee88
    @CassieBee88 Год назад +172

    Completely misjudged him from his still. This is why I love this channel, it constantly challenges me to face my own biases.

    • @manifestdestiny12
      @manifestdestiny12 Год назад +9

      I agree this chanel proves you can't judge a book by its cover. Maybe a certain situation can be predicted with stereotypes. But not marks still photos. Amazing

    • @lmn1966
      @lmn1966 Год назад +1

      I've been following Mark for years now. I find him very gentle with his interviews. He's done a remarkable job! ❤

    • @aarondavid5866
      @aarondavid5866 Год назад

      oh you thought he was better than drinking himself into social security at 45. Yep he defied your big standards. wtf fuck you

    • @aarondavid5866
      @aarondavid5866 Год назад +1

      oh and he's gay now real winner

    • @redrooster1908
      @redrooster1908 Год назад

      That's cool. Great comment😊

  • @robheon144
    @robheon144 Год назад +161

    I love how well-spoken and honest he is. Not a mean or bitter guy, either.

    • @davidhocevar8510
      @davidhocevar8510 11 месяцев назад +1

      until he is drunk, many of people like him, they cast this hell upon themself...

    • @timothyslaughter476
      @timothyslaughter476 11 месяцев назад

      ​@davidhocevar8510 still I'd trust him before these con men on here selling shrooms!!!

    • @davidhocevar8510
      @davidhocevar8510 11 месяцев назад

      @@timothyslaughter476 ofc, i didnt say he is bad or anything, it is just sad that addiction will destroy him...

    • @timothyslaughter476
      @timothyslaughter476 11 месяцев назад

      @davidhocevar8510 I know I just get pissed at these dirt merchants on y tube selling their shit shrooms on a channel where people are bearing their souls and struggles so maybe some people will look and say I don't want that to be me. Fucking tripping aint the answer. Not from some hack. Sobriety is. California sober??? Yeah right ...California shit!!

  • @ayejay5603
    @ayejay5603 Год назад +23

    I'm an alcoholic who has been struggling for years recently. I stopped drinking for about 5 years. 25 to 30. I'm 40 now. It ruined many things in my life. Selfish behavior that I am ashamed of. One quote that always hit me is, 'alcohol gives you the wings to fly, then takes away the sky.'

    • @Sloppy7ths
      @Sloppy7ths 11 месяцев назад

      All the love and strength to you.♥

    • @mastershake8018
      @mastershake8018 11 месяцев назад

      I'm not at the point I experience DT but I drink a six pack of 10 percent beers 2-3 times a week and that's what gets me. Alcohol turns the normal reserved, man-of-few-words me into a lively, talkative person and I love it. I dance when I drink, you wouldn't catch me dancing sober, EVER. It gives me wings... but it can take everything else.
      It's hard to reconcile with that fact sometimes and VERY easy to embrace the illusion.

    • @Samsontickletip
      @Samsontickletip 8 месяцев назад

      @@mastershake8018 smoke some loud cuh

    • @mastershake8018
      @mastershake8018 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@Samsontickletip Weed is for kids.

  • @taylorlibby7642
    @taylorlibby7642 Год назад +108

    Fought a losing battle for over a decade to keep my father from killing himself with alcohol. The absolute smartest, most accomplished, and most empathetic man I've ever known. But he couldn't escape the demons of his past. Took me a long time to accept that I had been dealing with two very different people, and that I never really had a chance of affecting the eventual outcome.

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +21

      There's absolutely no way anyone can get an alcoholic to quit. You're beating your head against the wall. They are the only ones who can do it.
      I was naive thinking my ex-husband would quit because we were so in love. I knew he drank before I married him, but I could fix that. Oh, how blind I was!!

    • @taylorlibby7642
      @taylorlibby7642 Год назад +6

      @@baublesanddolls I was like the little boy putting his finger into the damn to try and stop the flood. I felt like I had to try, no matter how hopeless the attempt, or I wouldn't be able to repect myself. That kind of thinking came very close to pulling me down too.

    • @manifestdestiny12
      @manifestdestiny12 Год назад +1

      That's wise. All that can be done is giving unconditional love.

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +7

      @@taylorlibby7642 I know exactly what you went through. My ex-husband was the kindest, caring, empathetic, smartest man I ever met. He was two completely different people and I had a hard time separating the two. He almost killed me mentally and physically because stress does a number to your body. I swear I aged 20 years. If I had stayed with him, I'd be dead right now. I couldn't take what he turned into when he drank, and he drank a lot and often. I hate alcohol. I'd rather see heroin legal than alcohol.

    • @cryptojoecoin5480
      @cryptojoecoin5480 Год назад

      I’m sorry that you had to endure that. This life is full of trauma. You did the right thing by trying, and you should be commended for that. A caring person is hard to find these days. I wish you the best!

  • @beckwil0852
    @beckwil0852 Год назад +72

    What a sweet man. I’m sorry that his background led him to this. I wish him well.

    • @lilyzhang6849
      @lilyzhang6849 7 месяцев назад

      Yes, he is so kind and he's so relaxed

  • @bitchysweetness
    @bitchysweetness Год назад +20

    A wounded soul. A beautiful wounded soul. He is well spoken and has good insight. I wish that he felt worthy of a better life.

  • @InSeshion
    @InSeshion Год назад +95

    Johan seems very put together compared to other SWU interviewees. Hoping him getting his own place again will give him some structure.

    • @InSeshion
      @InSeshion Год назад +4

      I see a lot of people saying he has a responsibility problem. I do agree but I can't begin to imagine what the trama from being assaulted like that from the age of 5 would do to a man. I'd say, given that he's more well adjusted than most. I think he could benefit from medical assistance with the alcohol issue as well as CBT.

    • @InSeshion
      @InSeshion Год назад +3

      @Broskisnowski most alcoholics I know are totally off the rails, I do know some functioning herion and pill users tho, guess it just depends on where you're from and who you know

  • @copperlapislazuli4156
    @copperlapislazuli4156 Год назад +30

    He's so well-spoken and genuine. Johan is one of the most honest persons I've seen on SWU. He doesn't hide or minimalize his addiction and that's good, because with good introspection, people can see their mistakes and change for the better. I wish him well and I would like to see a second part with him and see his progress. Thank you for sharing his story with us Mark.

  • @breathnstop
    @breathnstop Год назад +24

    It's a terrible illness. What a nice man. So sorry for him. I lost two beloved family members to alcohol, both of them good men, brilliant successful but heart breaking things happened, my step father's youngest son died in a car accident. My uncle was an engineer for Nasa and was laid off after Apolo was cut. Depression and alcohol are fatal.

  • @MyNordstromwishlist
    @MyNordstromwishlist Год назад +14

    I’ve legitimately blacked out on several occasions. Zero memory. Insanely bad hangovers that lasted days. (Sober now for 23 years). Maybe try treatment. You are put together and should be able to get a job. You are likable and hire-able! You can spend your days finding a job. Keep up with the meds and hang in there!

  • @Marey2060
    @Marey2060 Год назад +19

    Johan you made me cry when you started to cry 😢I hope it all works out for you and I really hope you return to Germany one day
    You still laugh at your life despite your struggles
    Good luck dear 🇬🇧❤

  • @familylifescienceeducation5227
    @familylifescienceeducation5227 Год назад +47

    He's accountable. Here's the evidence: 1) I was making really bad decisions when I was drinking. 2) Some of my drinking was self-medicating. 3) Am I proud of this? No. But it's part of my life. 4) I was so busy drinking, I didn't know that the time was passing. 5) Between my bills and the dog, everything else is alcohol.

    • @jq2147
      @jq2147 Год назад +1

      Well he blamed the USA for his drinking habit.

    • @MarioGomez-nd2mx
      @MarioGomez-nd2mx Год назад +4

      ​@@jq2147Saying that doesn't out weight his whole story overall imo

    • @mattsteinle2182
      @mattsteinle2182 Год назад +1

      Johan - Was hast du getan!

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 Год назад

      @@jq2147Yeah, me too, and I’m American.

    • @jq2147
      @jq2147 Год назад +2

      @@Toonces666 Sad excuse.

  • @jayywatchesjapan3612
    @jayywatchesjapan3612 Год назад +16

    Im clean 6 years it's difficult. Be Strong. Life is an adventure its up to you how you want to explore.

  • @realresident1890
    @realresident1890 Год назад +20

    Animals will show you the way, Johan.
    Find your peace in helping animals. ♥️

  • @nathanhuffines
    @nathanhuffines Год назад +9

    Im an alcoholic. Have been since i was about 6 years old. Im 46. Im not leaving las vegas alchoholic but i drink every day. Every day for the past 30+ years. Its a burden. Induces depression. Lost a marriage. Tons of guilt. Its overwhelming. I want to stop but due to the stress of everyday life i continue to numb myself. And on goes this madness of life.

    • @Alpha-Mike-Foxtrot
      @Alpha-Mike-Foxtrot Год назад +2

      I'm right there with ya

    • @linniefish
      @linniefish 10 месяцев назад

      The Naked Mind is a good book. Helped me quit

    • @blazefairchild465
      @blazefairchild465 10 месяцев назад

      Sorry to hear this , my friend was able to quit at age 52 that was 12 years ago. He started at age 11 , he is most likely ADHA and a few other things ,but never diagnosed and only self medicated . He drank because he never felt right sober. It was hard for him to quit it took a few times.

    • @gregtannermedia
      @gregtannermedia 4 дня назад

      @@Alpha-Mike-Foxtrothow r u now?

  • @sallyjones9387
    @sallyjones9387 Год назад +22

    Lieber Johan, ich wünsche Ihnen alles erdenklich Gute! Sie sehen meinem ehemaligen Tierarzt sehr ähnlich, ich kann sofort vorstellen, wie großartig Sie sich um Ihren Hund kümmern.
    Ich hoffe Sie kommen eines Tages zurück nach Deutschland, wir können hier mehr empathische und ehrliche Menschen gebrauchen.
    Lots of love from Germany

    • @ILTOMBA
      @ILTOMBA 3 месяца назад

      Süß

  • @carsonwatkins1973
    @carsonwatkins1973 Год назад +12

    You can always tell when Mark shows more interest in some interviews than others. This man could be anyone's friend and fit in. A humble wise soul. I hope he breaks free from his alcoholism one day. ❤

  • @tomwatson7626
    @tomwatson7626 Год назад +41

    Crazy to think that this guy, by most people's standards, is hammered on booze in this interview, but because of dependence and tolerance it makes him appear really lucid and switched on.

    • @hnorrstrom
      @hnorrstrom Год назад +13

      Yes, It's really weird that this is his normal state. Some alcoholics I have met seem more drunk when sober than when they are drunk..

    • @anvilaberdeen1289
      @anvilaberdeen1289 Год назад +1

      He mentioned that he drank some days more and somedays less, and before this interview he was on liquor.
      Being an alcoholic myself most of my adult life, some phases sober, it reminded me of the beginning of a binge after a crash and when you get some pep your step so the say. Like a few days after a hard crash.
      What you said is a real thing, As much as the cycle part. At least the kind of use he described.

    • @bastardchildofdecay
      @bastardchildofdecay Год назад +4

      I was drinking a half gallon a day of vodka unless they smelled it they couldn't tell.
      Completely functional held a job until my liver quit.

    • @lisadavie5819
      @lisadavie5819 Год назад +2

      Yeah my brother was drinking 10 super strength lager a day 8.5 per cent alcohol and he wasn't even drunk at all. His tolerance was so high.

  • @chrysalis711
    @chrysalis711 Год назад +17

    I really feel for him. He is so genuine and gentle. Coming from a family of alcoholics and breaking the cycle, I can confidently say alcoholism and drug abuse is an illness. They aren't necessarily bad people, they need help.

  • @lisakuntzman7017
    @lisakuntzman7017 Год назад +25

    Thanks Mark for bringing so many important issues to us. It means the world to me.

  • @isabelltecaxco-yd3lw
    @isabelltecaxco-yd3lw Год назад +29

    I really can relate to this guy quite a bit, because I was born in the 60s I learned to survive and I thank God I had my older brothers to hang on to. I was thrown out of my house and I was only 15, I learned to drink, and self medicate for decades but back then I didn't know what else to do? I was a kid, I was molested when I was 6-7yr kid and my life has been a rollercoaster from hell!! I'm alive still but I still struggle with addiction and I'm used the way it is nowadays doctors don't really help,they get you on pain killers and cut you off!! I'm so screwed up and all I wanted was to be helped... but everyone I know is dead my dad died when I was 11, and mom died when I was 23 and all my brothers passed at young ages, all friends are dead from suicide and od and I only have one sister left and she's 67, last year our oldest sister died last July..me and my sister just wonder 🤔
    "Who's next?!. No one is left anymore.. God bless everyone watching and struggling, thank you Mark for sharing with us. I'm watching you from Tucson Arizona

  • @sq12r28
    @sq12r28 Год назад +6

    This channel really shows how many people have had such messed up lives. As someone who has had their struggles it really opens your mind up to how many people had messed up childhoods that ultimately lead to on going problems that last a lifetime.

  • @redeyezero
    @redeyezero 5 месяцев назад +2

    Johan seems like a very intelligent man. I wish the best to him and his family on his path in life.

  • @brendablais6138
    @brendablais6138 Год назад +11

    Anyone that loves animals is a good person in my book. Johan I hope your future gets better. Best wishes to you, your dog and your husband. 💜🙏🙏💜

  • @taylorlibby7642
    @taylorlibby7642 Год назад +10

    He looks so different in the interview compared to the thumbnail picture. Really very striking.

  • @derrick8224
    @derrick8224 Год назад +39

    I am a recovering alcoholic. AA saved my life.

  • @lmn1966
    @lmn1966 Год назад +4

    Johan you are such a humble, honest, kind gentleman. I completely understand what you are going through. This alcohol addiction, my father died of alcohol poisoning. We lived through this very difficult time. Talking to Two different people when under the influence. Pretty scary for his kids.
    I truly hope that you receive the help you need with your health issues. So relieved to see you are here.
    Thank you for sharing your story. Stay strong ❤💪🏼
    Thank you Mark

  • @Sloppy7ths
    @Sloppy7ths 11 месяцев назад +2

    What an intelligent, kind, and introspective man. Like many of the others, he was broken as a little boy. Poor soul.
    I hope Mark keeps in touch with Johan and revisits him in another interview after some time. He said he no longer has anything productive to offer, but it certainly sounds like he has a very marketable freelance skill. I hope he realizes that if he can accept the help he'll need to quit drinking (and the desire to do so), he has many more fruitful years ahead of him. And if he outlives his older husband, hopefully one day he goes back home to Germany and spends his final years with his elementary school soulmate, home where his heart is.
    Great interview, Mark.

  • @maxkijek6639
    @maxkijek6639 Год назад +13

    Good luck to you, Johan. You seem like a very nice man and I think you deserve a better life. You can do it.

  • @Whiskey_Jane
    @Whiskey_Jane Год назад +10

    Thanks for sharing, it's nice to think my father knew deep down what he did when he was drunk. The worst raging alcoholic I have ever seen, he is now 61 over 300 lbs and I believe he has alcohol related dementia. Hope you kick that can man. ✌

  • @tomasaguirre1764
    @tomasaguirre1764 Год назад +29

    Nice guy, interesting, good interview. I know what he means about how having nothing to do leads to drinking. Boredom is a big factor in alcoholism.

    • @missolesoul
      @missolesoul Год назад +2

      In all drugs and bad habits. Boredom will cause trouble if you don't know how to channel the frustration of it.

  • @johnangelo75
    @johnangelo75 Год назад +15

    Addiction..heard it all before, talk a good game, blame, AA made me want to drink more, I am nice guy but piss me off and I will pick up a knife..keeping a dog for company...this is all very classic addictive behaviours...the reality - probably left a trail of destruction behind him and is homeless on the streets..

  • @BeautifuluglyDTES
    @BeautifuluglyDTES Год назад +58

    It's incredible how much damage alcohol can do to a person's life,and it's all legal,just like cigarettes. There's still more alcohol related deaths each year, than there are drug related one's, because alcohol is socially acceptable,and readily available. I'm Scottish, and alcohol was never locked up,and I never had a problem with it,in fact I don't drink.

    • @venetia6296
      @venetia6296 Год назад +4

      Pain relief.

    • @clairestephens4916
      @clairestephens4916 Год назад

      Decades ago the ones making the laws legalized the wrong thing with alcohol. We would've been all better off if Mary Jane, Shrooms, Truffles Kratom, Peyote & other natural plant based substances had not been labeled "illegal".

    • @joshsantistevan896
      @joshsantistevan896 Год назад +9

      Good shit. Ive flat-lined twice and was in a coma for 15 days when I went cold turkey. It scares me now.

    • @carolmcfadden7923
      @carolmcfadden7923 Год назад

      Just wait till pot starts rolling in with its death rates.

    • @ceeaitch11
      @ceeaitch11 Год назад +4

      im againstAlcohol also personally, but it's interesting to see all these comments on this channel usually being all pro-hero*n and stuff, but a comment like yours againstAlcohol gets a good amount of likes.
      "oh it's not the drugs fault blah blah blah".
      like i said i don't drink, but at least it's better than stuff like hero*n and m*th

  • @jordanweir4867
    @jordanweir4867 Год назад +27

    His candour is priceless. All the best.

  • @Rochelle721
    @Rochelle721 Год назад +28

    Good morning everyone. It is just after 3:00 a.m. here in Northern California USA, where it is currently 61 °.
    Wherever this finds you, I hope that you are safe, comfortable & well. 💜

    • @stolenmemesfr
      @stolenmemesfr Год назад +4

      indeed it is, it’s quite quiet here in los angeles, hope everyone have a blessed night

    • @Gram72534
      @Gram72534 Год назад +2

      Hi Roc, great to see you, have a great day my friend!!!!!!!

    • @Rochelle721
      @Rochelle721 Год назад +2

      @@Gram72534 Hello Gram! Good to see you too, thanks friend! Sending some mad California love your way ✌🏽🙃💜

    • @user-kw4xb9ky6s
      @user-kw4xb9ky6s Год назад +3

      HEYYYYY ITS BOUT 5:35 A.M ROUND HERE IN
      MEMPHIS TN AND 80°.
      ALL LOVE IS RETURNED GREATLY AND WE ALL HOPE THAT YOU ARE SUPER DUPER SAFE N COMFORTABLE!
      (Even tho we barely survivin'! But still Havin fun!)
      LOVE YAAAA. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

    • @dayzofrust9985
      @dayzofrust9985 Год назад +2

      Ya All is well... ❤️‍🩹

  • @johnlittle3430
    @johnlittle3430 Год назад +11

    Wow. Two years older than me, and he's on social security and has a business run by his son. Meanwhile, I'm wondering if I'll be ready to settle down and have kids at some point in the next five years. Life sure is different for different people.

  • @ow3wells
    @ow3wells Год назад +17

    Like people always said, alcoholics have to own up to their problems, when confronted, they consider themselves to be happy drunks even while they are destroying every one or thing around them.

  • @davidmatthews9088
    @davidmatthews9088 Год назад +5

    Think he should go back to Germany. It’s his home. Worth a go. Love this man.

  • @endtimesninja1235
    @endtimesninja1235 Год назад +9

    I was a heroin addict for 3 years at a time and an alcoholic for 3 years at a time for almost 20 years. Never at the same time but both completely comsumed me when using them. I'd much rather be on opiates than alcohol if i didn't have a choice to be completely abstinent. Alcoholism is a slow burn to hell.

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 Год назад +2

      I love that last sentence.

    • @gelonmyshit9803
      @gelonmyshit9803 Год назад +2

      Sound like me. I never mixed the 2 things together, but for many years Id swing off and on between the 2. booze, then H for a few months binge, then back to booze and so on. quit H 7-8 years ago, cant remember, quit booze 2.5 years ago. and agreed, would rather be on opiates than booze. However, I cannot stand opiate withdrawls. i have had to take pills here and there after surgeries. I get withdrawls after 3-5 days of use not abuse. Never triggered or even gave me the slightest inclination to get back on H. H is over with, especially ow that Fent is only thing out there. I smoked black tar, never shot. I hated the constipation more than anything. opiates are like an airtight cork in my guts. I can handle the withdrawls, something cathartic about a intense H withdrawl. Pure misery and pain, you feel reborn when you come out the other side. Being sober is the best though, good sleep, healthy guts, regular bowel movements, higher focus and general happiness.

    • @nickapalooza861
      @nickapalooza861 Год назад +1

      Alcohol is the worst drug on the planet, I was a alcoholic with times if sobriety for 20 years... Sober and 37 now and working on staying that way

  • @missteak11
    @missteak11 Год назад +34

    I’m an addict in recovery. Clean and sober for 6 years now. I’m 42. Got diagnosed with cirrhosis, end stage liver disease at 36. Had a liver transplant at 38. Everyone said “you’re too young for this” And so on but ADDICTION DOESN’T CARE! Addiction doesn’t discriminate. Alcohol is not looked down upon whereas herion/crack/fentanyl etc is. Alcohol Is everywhere. EVERYONE deserves to live a healthy, sober, happy life and it’s in your hands! YOU have the power to stop even if it doesn’t feel like you do. YOU ARE NOT ALONE, WE DO RECOVER! One day at a time. ❤

    • @lizstorck8851
      @lizstorck8851 Год назад +4

      Congratulations so proud of you I just hit my one year SOBER July 17th you are an inspiration for the rest of us 💖

    • @missteak11
      @missteak11 Год назад +2

      @@lizstorck8851 congratulations! 👏❤️

    • @dayciajtalk88
      @dayciajtalk88 11 месяцев назад +2

      Wow, I’m having some liver issues as well I’m 34, I have been drinking 3 glasses of wine or beer every night for 5 years, I got sick 3 weeks ago I ended up in the emergency room, I was told I was having alcohol withdrawal symptoms. I said no I’m a working mom I go to work every day I take care of home and myself and my kids, I never thought it was a problem. I started therapy and I’m taking Naltrexone for the past two weeks I have not drink. But I’m happy for you keep it up!

    • @robheon144
      @robheon144 11 месяцев назад +2

      Young quite often just means you still have the energy to destroy yourself quickly. I'm glad you're still here! Alice Cooper always said that the problem with drinking was that alcohol is so accessible. I heard that years ago and it always stuck.

    • @missteak11
      @missteak11 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@robheon144 so true! Thank you for the kind words.

  • @amber76OH
    @amber76OH Год назад +17

    He is quite smart. Im sure at this point the alcohol is keeping him alive both chemically, and emotionally. This world is so full of fcking pain.

  • @stevesteiner6844
    @stevesteiner6844 Год назад +4

    Alcoholism is no joke. It ruins people's lives. A lot of people can suffer from one person's alcoholism.

  • @dimpleza
    @dimpleza Год назад +7

    Lieber Johan, ich wünsche Ihnen alles erdenklich Gute und viel Glück für Ihren weiteren Lebensweg. Möge Gott Sie beschützen.

  • @rmj7306
    @rmj7306 Год назад +5

    "If one day you end up old and alone and im old and alone just come home"

  • @katiempojer
    @katiempojer Год назад +7

    As an alcholic in recovery I get this man

  • @nancywareham979
    @nancywareham979 5 дней назад +1

    I wish Johan peace and blessings in his future. He’s a sweet soul.

  • @silver911100
    @silver911100 Год назад +4

    Drinkers always have a reason to drink. It’s sunny out let’s drink, it’s raining let’s drink etc etc etc. learned that when dating an alcoholic

  • @semiramismunoz8948
    @semiramismunoz8948 Год назад +8

    I'm alcoholic and a immigrant. No family here in USA. I know. Thank you for sharing.

    • @phyllysanantonio
      @phyllysanantonio Год назад

      He has a husband and he takes care of their friend. He is not alone!!!! 6:50

    • @semiramismunoz8948
      @semiramismunoz8948 Год назад +1

      @@phyllysanantonio I have three adult children and grandchildren but I know what he said, no culture, and the family we are coming from is not here.

    • @minigirl6839
      @minigirl6839 Год назад

      Can you not leave and go back where you have family? What is stopping you from doing that?

    • @phyllysanantonio
      @phyllysanantonio Год назад

      @@minigirl6839 free money!!!

    • @semiramismunoz8948
      @semiramismunoz8948 Год назад

      @@minigirl6839 it stopped him and I because of shame, being broke, being failures, defeated. Sicks and addicts.

  • @northerngirl1637
    @northerngirl1637 Год назад +6

    "Don't talk to me while I'm watching Jeopardy"...that'll piss anybody off!😂

  • @mikefixac
    @mikefixac Год назад +1

    Johan, I hope this comment finds you in a better place. I'm struck by your kindness, thoughtfulness, and reasonableness. These qualities are a testament to your strong character and provide a foundation for hope in the face of your current challenge. I understand that alcoholism is a difficult battle that requires both resilience and determination to overcome. You have already displayed these qualities by acknowledging your alcoholism and seeking a way forward. It takes immense courage to admit our vulnerabilities and take decisive steps towards healing. Although you have been away from your home country for the most part, I believe that the good man I see in this video has the resilience to rise above this challenge.

  • @tammic2016
    @tammic2016 Год назад +10

    Seems like a very kind and intelligent man. Drinking has been a huge part of his life for so long and he seems to not have suffered a lot from it that the only that I think that might get him to stop is if his husband forces him to. Johan you can accomplish so much more. I encourage you to get into a program and get sober and live your life to the fullest!

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +2

      There's absolutely no way on earth that his husband, or anyone, can force him to stop. There's also no way that he's going into any type of program because he has no intention of getting sober.

  • @Siouxsie-72
    @Siouxsie-72 Год назад +6

    Laut einer aktuellen Studie, hat hier in Deutschland jeder Vierte eine Alkoholabhängigkeit. Eine schlimme Krankheit.
    Für Johann alles Gute 🌻

  • @danrobertson8311
    @danrobertson8311 Год назад +2

    What a voice, he could be doing voice over work. Quite easy to listen to, entertaining and insightful. I would recommend Johan to put himself out there, perhaps create his own YT channel as I for one would like to hear much more from him, as I've rewatched this interview a few times and each time I find it more fascinating. If you see this Johan, know that you have value and potential and to keep pushing forward. This is just one phase of your life's journey and doesn't have to define you.

    • @danrobertson8311
      @danrobertson8311 11 месяцев назад

      I disagree. Its rather dumb for you to make such a useless reply to my comment, Caitlyn (or Caitlyn's mom). If you're the kid, I can understand your primitive and pointless comment.
      If you're the mom I can also understand it as most Americans are idiots- but try not to be so GD stupid for the kid's sake. @@squiggletree5080

  • @riley.schmit
    @riley.schmit Год назад +4

    This is so well spoken and honest, both Mark and Johan.

  • @cryptojoecoin5480
    @cryptojoecoin5480 Год назад +3

    I hate to hear how this guy fears being alone. It breaks my heart to know that SO many people are all alone. No one should be lonely with so many people around. We live in a selfish and wicked world.

  • @marthaoschwald1277
    @marthaoschwald1277 Год назад +3

    I agree with his comment about being in Germany vs. America as someone who's lived in both places. When people run into problems here, there are fewer reliable services to help them overall.

    • @dpelpal
      @dpelpal 4 месяца назад

      There are no resources here in America. Pretty much none. The social services that exist *really* exist just to provide jobs for the people that run them. If you don't have money in America, you could literally die on the street and nobody would care one single bit.

  • @kingpin3795
    @kingpin3795 Год назад +5

    Johan - for your sake, your husband’s sake, and most of all the sake of your children - please get sober. You are worth it and you can do it. There is help if you look for it. AA has helped some people but it’s not for everyone. There are other alternatives. Best of luck

  • @Eric-de5sq
    @Eric-de5sq Год назад +1

    Glad you could open up Mr Johan. I bet it feels good to tell your story. Praying for you

  • @triciahamel5414
    @triciahamel5414 8 месяцев назад

    He is so honest and well spoken. I can relate to his alcohol dependency. I just recently went into treatment after 3 decades of drinking. I still struggle with sobriety and getting to meetings. Its a struggle for me. I just recently was prescribed naltrexone tablets and it is helping me a lot and cuts the cravings. I hope and johan can get some positive support

  • @jillhamster246
    @jillhamster246 5 месяцев назад +1

    This man reminds me of my X boyfriend. I had warm n fuzzy feelings towards my X. when it ended, it was heart breaking. They are who are . I hope he gets , sober .

  • @davecaldwell445
    @davecaldwell445 Год назад +4

    So, the million-euro question . . . why doesn't he go back to Germany? He was happier there. He has friends and support there. He and his husband can have a more pleasant life together there. He'd be busier there, with less incentive to drink. He could make it happen. It would be tragic for a smart and funny man to just . . . fade away.

  • @erincraig9109
    @erincraig9109 Год назад +17

    💚 I thoroughly enjoyed listening to him, wishing him health peace and happiness and he’s right he’ll leave the apartment WAY better than it was 🤣

  • @99pcast
    @99pcast Год назад +6

    I don't blame him one bit for wishing he stayed in Germany. He would be way better off in a country that actually cares about its poor and desperate citizens.

  • @whoisharo4689
    @whoisharo4689 17 часов назад

    He seems like a great guy. I didn't want this one to end.

  • @Hollysays
    @Hollysays Год назад +7

    I’m curious, he says he’s drinking out of boredom because he’s just sitting in the tiny house all day…what’s going to change when he gets the apartment? He’s just going to be sitting in an apartment, so I’m wondering what the difference is.

    • @nes123ification
      @nes123ification Год назад +2

      Totally fair question. He will just be in a bigger space, bored still. It’s what you make it.

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +1

      Yep!! Wherever you go, there you are!

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 Год назад +1

      Because when he gets the apartment, his husband can move back in with him and he won’t be lonely.

  • @TheBigSheesh
    @TheBigSheesh Год назад +1

    Johan
    You got this, dude!
    You want to be sober. I can hear it in your voice. Get some help!!!!
    You have a huge community praying for you, rooting for you!!!

  • @kunstkammer
    @kunstkammer Год назад +6

    I like this guy. And what I'm really glad to hear is that he takes good care of his dog. I have an issue with homeless people having animal companions, although I get it. And he's got a good sense of humor. I wish him well.

  • @kerrymcclaren3082
    @kerrymcclaren3082 10 месяцев назад

    It's good to know that you're aware as an alcoholic that it has an effect on the non existent relationship that you have with your children. It helps me to understand a perspective I never thought to consider in my own life. Thank you for sharing Johan.

  • @jennymcbain486
    @jennymcbain486 Год назад +3

    Finding things you like to do is depressing- everyone needs a purpose. Probably the reason I can’t retire - being bored I think I would need drugs or alcohol - horrible truth when you are not so fond of people…

  • @jackinthebox6143
    @jackinthebox6143 Год назад +9

    AA isn't going to help anyone who doesn't have a sincere desire to stop drinking. I understand this guy and where he's coming from but AA will be there when he loses it and the people to support him will be there. Meetings will always be boring to the person who still has a bellly full of booze.

  • @jessicahanley5080
    @jessicahanley5080 Год назад +4

    We know you can do it, Johan! We love you and are pulling for you❤

  • @camhaines
    @camhaines 2 месяца назад +1

    What a great interview. I hope the best for Johan.

  • @wishingwell5954
    @wishingwell5954 4 месяца назад +1

    I have been drinking to get drunk almost every day since 1997. I have probably gone 24 hours without drinking less than 30 times in almost 30 years. But I usually am sober for work. I don't know how people can be drunk 24/7. I would die.

  • @WhiteoutMonster
    @WhiteoutMonster Год назад +11

    When I was an alcoholic I would wake up to a four Loko or joose to get out of the withdrawal stage feel good enough to go to work. I would have to have another one around noon after work and then whatever else I wanted to drink at home. When you're drinking that much it is very likely that you actually blackout I've done that multiple times. I think you're actually blacked out when you're waking up in jail and not knowing why you're there but being told what you did. Or the temporary blackout swear you blocked out and wake up on the floor after having your ass beat because for some reason you thought it was a good idea to stand up and try to fight someone randomly. I'm glad I'm no longer an alcoholic it was definitely the hardest part of my life, I drink to get drunk as quick as possible cuz I enjoyed the feeling. I am very lucky to still have my family to this day. Had my wife had the ability to leave I know she would have. I don't smoke it but what stuns me is marijuana ever being illegal and still being illegal in some places. Alcohol can downright destroy your life or end it if you let it I'm about five years sober from alcohol now. I've been lucky to never have a DUI so now I have my CDL. I never made it a habit of driving drunk but when you're an alcoholic and your body relies on alcohol to function, you're going to be over the legal limit at all times but that's your normal.

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад

      That's awesome that you quit, however you're still an alcoholic, and always will be. Congratulations on quitting, as I know it can be difficult. 👏
      It sounds like you never went to AA or any type of recovery or counseling because you definitely would have learned that once and alcoholic, you're always one. It's one day at a time. I sure hope you stay sober, and I wish you all the best in your recovery. 😊

  • @brainworthy
    @brainworthy Год назад +3

    Hi Johan. You’re a smart man. You can quit drinking alcohol.
    You’ll figure it out if you really want to.

  • @walterbradthau9525
    @walterbradthau9525 11 месяцев назад

    Was I the only one whose jaw hit the floor when he said he was gay?
    Had to come back- this is one of the most transparent people Mark has interviewed in my opinion. I genuinely like this dude.

  • @leanneadams2549
    @leanneadams2549 Год назад +4

    WHY are the hard working people responsible for this guy who despot even TRY to change !!! Hard earned money out of my check for this !!!!!!!

  • @manifestdestiny12
    @manifestdestiny12 Год назад +5

    I can relate to his experience at an aa meeting. This channel is similar to one. Very depressing and alot of sobbing. I love this channel and i love you mark. But the rawness and insanity of some people's experiences are not things that will encourage soberiety. But I don't think it's even about sobriety. I think it's about love and peace and being a decent human being.

  • @bigfoot7323
    @bigfoot7323 Год назад +8

    If he tries to put that bottle down, he will probably die. He needs to be medically detox

    • @amber76OH
      @amber76OH Год назад +2

      Most definitely. He would experience seizures, almost certainly 😢

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +2

      No worries about that. He's not going to put the bottle down, ever!!

  • @Mark-gn5rw
    @Mark-gn5rw Год назад +4

    I've kicked alot of addictions ( 30 years worth )
    Crack/ heroin/ Oxy/percs/ Fetty ..on and on..4.7 years clean off that. I still drink?
    I think it's tuffest to kick
    If u know u know. Great interview
    Thnx Mark

  • @mannylamont5757
    @mannylamont5757 Год назад +3

    I wish him well. Hope he can overcome the addiction.

  • @myeyeswentdeaf6213
    @myeyeswentdeaf6213 Год назад +11

    Good Morning Aybody!👋🤕 or whatever time’a day it is from ya in ya part’a da world. Peace and Love from 6:45am Brooklyn NY🇺🇸to you and yours and you’re part of the world🌍, my SWU fam.

    • @Toonces666
      @Toonces666 Год назад

      Peace and love returned, dear Eyes! I hope you had a good day. 8:00 PM here in godforsaken Ohio and the damn fireworks have just started in my redneck neighborhood. Love you, buddy!

  • @joelashadali
    @joelashadali Год назад +1

    I havent smoked or drank in a few years. I can tell you I think about smoking way more than drinking

  • @kimgarcia8012
    @kimgarcia8012 Год назад +6

    Black out drunk is very very real. Speaking from experience

  • @RE-pn5yq
    @RE-pn5yq Год назад +2

    I really enjoyed this interview. For once not wallowing in their muck but some pride in who they are, warts and all. Inspiring.

  • @Piortruths12
    @Piortruths12 Год назад +1

    Nothing is easy in life. We all are walking around with demons on our shoulders. Never let them settle too long and never carry more than one at a time. Drugs, Alcohol, sexuality and idleness. It’s a heavy load to carry.

  • @Summernovii
    @Summernovii Год назад +6

    Can we please get an update on Rebecca?!

  • @KY-jb4vd
    @KY-jb4vd Год назад +1

    Johan we see your worth. Please get help. You have so much life still to live and live well. Pulling for you!

  • @theresaskrzynski9916
    @theresaskrzynski9916 Год назад +6

    Blackout drunk is a real thing

  • @lizstorck8851
    @lizstorck8851 Год назад +3

    Johan you deserve snd can have a sober life hang in there you are beyond intelligent so much potential please font waste it.

  • @DoradoBoxing808
    @DoradoBoxing808 10 месяцев назад

    When he said his dad was sixties and died. That’s old to me. I just had my liver removed at 52. I’d be dead. Total liver failure, cirrhosis and varicies. I went through a lot. It’s too bad I know wat is about to put him through. It’s aweful and lonely death.

  • @smuckersmurfbarnes9932
    @smuckersmurfbarnes9932 Год назад +6

    He just stated what I was going to say he's a functioning alcoholic my mother's partner (we called her aunt) was one, my dad was but he was sober for 20+ years, my sister and so is my husband. Thank goodness me and my brother are more like our mom and we aren't drinkers.

  • @tashidelek9576
    @tashidelek9576 Год назад +9

    I think this guy is a sweetheart

    • @baublesanddolls
      @baublesanddolls Год назад +3

      A real sweetheart when you can't speak to him when Jeapordy's on (there's a mute button), and he can't be around people when he's drinking, which is every day, because he's so uncontrollably angry.

  • @tremendobeats73
    @tremendobeats73 7 месяцев назад +1

    Johan, that was insightful. Thank you for being truthful.

  • @mombear2749
    @mombear2749 3 месяца назад +1

    The denial here is very real. He says he’s a functioning alcoholic. Losing your job, family and home to alcohol is not “functioning”.

  • @jlcmsw
    @jlcmsw Год назад +1

    There is a common thread among all the addicts I’ve seen so far: they all have such potential that they don’t fulfill because of their substance abuse. It’s obvious Johan could make a good life for himself if it weren’t for the alcohol. I’m pray he finds motivation to get sober.

  • @vocaloidsrock6987
    @vocaloidsrock6987 4 месяца назад +1

    This video was worth watching imo!! It is very informative!!

  • @kittyfriend9888
    @kittyfriend9888 Год назад +7

    he has a good heart