LEAN BEAF PATTY ON HOW TO PICK UP GIRLS AT THE GYM
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Probably don't try to ask her out or get her number off rip. Introduce yourself, make some conversation, and then fuck off until the next time you see her, just keep the interactions casual and light until you've established some rapport. Better to slow roll it if you're likely to run into her a bunch
Basically what I do is just get talking to the women the same way I do with the dudes.
Someone has read The Game
@@CaptainAcab5366 nah, I got this from Denmo. I assume he's ready it, though.
@synergyrevolution2332 I'm fine doing that with girl I just want to be friends
@@ben0789 if that's the case, more power to you, just remember one of the worst things you can do is lie to yourself
Asking a lesbian what kind of guys she prefers
stop headcannoning about real people. this isn't your fanfic.
She said "partner" first red flag. Like Kevin Samuels said when he was alive...if a woman uses the word partner just run don't even bother.
We aren't equals and most men aren't looking for a partner...they want a help mate.
It’s more like if you’re approaching someone mid workout then obviously they’re not going to be happy
Tbh alot of it is generational. Gen z and younger seem so terrofied of actual conversation and interation that it makes trying to approach any woman under 35 feel like youre walking into a hostage negotiation
when i was younger i never went anywhere other than the gym and met my current gf
regardless of what u see on social media girls aren’t gonna call u creepy for shooting your shot lmao (assuming she’s normal)
How long was that big man?😅
She thinks men shouldn’t hit on girls at gym but dont realiZe most ppls social life is the gym then they go home cook and eat she just a hater cause she hates men
And assuning the guy is also normal and can take a no, I've seen many babies lashout in anger whenever they get turned down, going as far as talking shit to the girl for simply disengaging, so yeah some girls can be mean but at least if a girl is mean you know you most likely won't get punched unlike with guys
@@sirirond1990Both extreme are wrong true
@@xtalpax902 totally, i just hate how guys get so offended girls don't want to be talked to, I get it, for them its like having a seller come up to you whenever you are outside, it gets annoying pretty quick, so be normal lol and approach people, sure but read the room, if they seem like they don't want to get approached, or are cutting the convo quick, that's a sign to move on, be a man
I never talk to girls at the gym just feels too awkward but im acoustic
If you keep at it, you might be electric one day.
@@PixelatedTony :)
It's much easier to talk to other dudes, that's for sure.
Are you also dyslexic?
i dont mind getting approached at the gym by male or female, some people are cool and interesting
That's.... kinda gay, dude.
Women just dont get it because they have unlimited options and are the ones being pursued. For men, you have to get rejected a bunch of times before finally getting a yes.
So? They don’t owe you shit
@@amulet2235 Projecting much? Clown 🫵🤡
@@amulet2235 spoken like a true feminist clown 🫵🤡
@@amulet2235you missed the point completely, well done bozo
@@benitocamela174 no I didn’t. The point is jsut wrong. You’re just an incel who thinks it’s women’s fault that you get no ass 😂
With Brad on this one. I really don’t get why it’s a big deal to ask girls out at the gym.
Its like asking out a girl thats in a boxing match or mma. Thats the problem, theres bigger things to deal with
I say do it; I met my husband and now we're married with a 3 year old. You meet your common interests where you are!!
@@earthphoenix7068 wrong what if your only social life is going to the gym you dont go out drink ect? Most of our parents growing up met at libraries, movies, stores, and the fucking gym. Grow up
I think we are far more visual than women, so at the gym, most of us see exactly what we want. Women in the other hand are slightly more attracted to verbal skills, charisma, confidence, etc, and a gym is not the best place to show them. Women are more willing to be approached at a social event, or a club, or someplace where people interact. Long story short, it would never be easy for men, gym or not.
It’s just how you do it I guess.
So I missed the part where they talked about “How to pick up girls at the gym.” 💩
bro I don't even get as far as looking at women. I actively look down or away to avoid eye contact just so I don't seem creepy. wtf is wrong with me it's just another human.
If you believe in evolution, it's actually pretty explainable why eye contact is avoided.
In apes and monkeys it's seen as a form of aggression and you should always avoid eye contact unless you want a fight.
Weird legacy behaviors that we still have.
Trying to tell what age someone is at my gym is hard sometimes cuz they all look high school age but there’s this one I know she’s 28 but she looks 16 so I’m just like you know what nah I’m good.
this dudes shorts are shorter than the lady across from him ...
Lol
Cause they're pants
He’s 260
so its my mom's fault that I'm single......it all makes sense
Nah you just suck haha jk buddy
She did not handle this conversation well ngl
I’d think it would be awkward to ask a girl out at the gym because if either A) it’s a no then it might be awkward for one person to always be seeing each other in the same place consistently or b) she says yes but doesn’t work out but you still end up seeing each other in the same place
That's exactly what Patty's line about not shitting where you eat means. Same reason I don't flirt at work, as a rule.
Bradley Martin finally brought someone on his podcast that he could "beat in a street fight..." What a goober.
Btw she gave no indication as to whether she is speaking about males or females in this conversation. Just something to consider.....
Yea she doesnt like males or females clearly shes weird asf like yea your mom will introduce you to a possible date? Like what if you only go to gym and work you have no way of socializing in a place to meet a possible partner she hating on getting hit on in gym like get over yourself
You too wanna be “woke”. Clearly she’s talking males. Since that’s how majority of the population works.
good observation 🙈😂
Pretty obvious she's not into dudes imo
@@tinaferrNot from this short
I had this one gal absolutely beaming at me once when we crossed paths exiting the gym (I almost tripped over her, apologized and held the door for her), and then on two separate occasions when I walked into the weight room and there were no benches, she popped up like mid set and gave me her bench. The second time she basically growled at this other dude that was b-lining for her bench as she got up (I had only just walked into the room, he had probably been waiting, poor guy), and was clearly offering it to me specifically.
Somehow I still flubbed it and didn't manage to follow through. Just smiled at her, commented that I think that's the second time she did that for me and thanked her -- then just carried along with my workout.
Haven't seen her around in a while now. Honestly it just didn't register in those moments that she may have been interested, even if looking back it's obvious. She just seemed so out of my league, wouldn't even have seen her as an option... Veeeeeery appealing figure, big dark eyes brunette, always comes to the gym with her hot friends and seems to have a big, bubbly and intense personality. Which is to say, at first glance anyways, likely the sort of lass that pulls some pretty impressive men.
Another time more recently I had this comely petite young woman with whom I was only making very casual conversation (I asked her to help pick out flowers for my grandmother that I was gonna have delivered to her after her surgery) start asking me what my plans were for the weekend. I literally told her I intended to finish my book and cook a stew. 2 days later I'm driving in the car like "I was supposed to ask her out!! Wtf man???"
So my advice is to stay alert and actually notice when they drop hints, because they do it more than you would think. Also I think taking the headphones off in the gym more isn't a bad idea - it's good to interact with the other regulars.
But I do often notice dudes approaching some of the regular women and if I can be blunt - the sorts of dudes that do this tend to be a bit... off. Overhearing their attempts can be excrutiating sometimes. I nearly felt like interrupting once because the guy just had no shame at all, every possible signal coming from the girl he has basically cornered was a polite "thanks but no thanks". Tbf she didn't seem uncomfortable so much as mildly annoyed - but I was at the rack next to her and the cringe was almost too much for me to take. Then you get those dudes trying to recommend a workout plan to women who obviously know what they're doing...
So what's my point - I think there are plenty of women who go to the gym open or even wanting to find dates, but I think as dudes we should wait for them to make some kind of hint or move first. I think theres a lot of dudes who just don't bother to read body language or ease into it at all and just plow right through - and hell that probably works for them a fair bit - but I think the more civilized way to do it is to either find or allow for some sort of more organic and casual interaction to take place, and then look for some cues or hints within that interaction to get a green light to actually make your intentions clear.
You should at least have smiled and said hello to a gym crush a couple times before you start trying to get her number or something. I know the orthodoxy is that the bold "hey excuse me can I get your number" is the chad way to do it, but in practice the dudes who do this (at gyms anyways) seem like socially inept weirdos to me.
But that's the other thing, though; if you're not the sort of dude that runs around doing this all the time (and to girls out of your league probably) - then you're (probably) not the sort of dude who makes them uncomfortable and who they complain about online and whatnot. So you might actually so alright if you decide to be bold for a change.
Good post.
Is she straight or gay?
Neither
100% sure gay feminist like other women or gold digger like most women😂😂
Maybe there's a level of insecurity around a gym environment for women. Obviously not as absolute factor. But like I've seen a lot of women debate looking sexy at a gym because committing to the gym takes mental discipline, a morale of boost of looking good motivates some of them to show up. So even in a place where you're suppose to be sweaty and stinky and making ugly faces some women use beauty to bring some positive reinforcement to keep the gym engaging.
So I mention insecurity because working out won't look cute at some points, hair out of place/loud breathing/armpit shirt stains/wedgies and then some dude roles up to shoot their shot when they're not there for that and not looking their best. I guess I should say self conscious (not insecure). I think that plays a part because in recent years I've noticed some women claim they think men's compliments are empty because they think we're opportunist plus we give them so frequently. So couple that logic with a man showing interest when she's not trying to attract one feels she looks attractive at the moment, I can see why doesn't feel the same as being hit on at a bar.
I agree. You nailed. 💯
No one wants to be interrupted mid workout that’s it
Getting to know someone is fine, being too forward about it is the wrong way. It’s not a bar, people are there to better themselves.
She's obviously not into men. haha :) But Martyn is clueless.
She is but she has had some rough relationships.
Wow what a click bait title
I am legit confused now and idk what the answer is anymore….
Lean beef = 🥜
Honestly, I’m a guy and I don’t like talking to «anyone» at the gym-yeah, there are cute girls there, but I’m at the gym for myself and myself alone, I don’t want to get distracted
Why does he forcely say "guy" we dont know what she likes.
You gay
I don't know but my intuition says that Patty is.. okno
Subtle fishing for the answer to a question he cannot ask.
I’d like to think Patty doesn’t want to reveal too much about herself, even her mate interests. Not everyone is comfortable talking about what kind of person they are interested cuz then those kinds of people will approach her. Or rather she’s more focused on herself and doesn’t want to date but since we talking about dating, she is handling the topic in a way that doesn’t make her a target but still answer his question.
Because the cultural conversation is about men approaching women at the gym not women approaching other women
I think it's the environment feeling very individual. Even if you're in a class with students and instructor you're all on one bike or matt. Gyms are definitely like those silent parties where people dance together but have different music in their head phones. Most of the social efforts are for sharing equipment or talking a the front desk or talking with friends that came along. Everyone is collectively working out because they don't have home gyms. So approaching a woman working out is like asking someone something when they have in earbuds listening to music. It stops the flow state. And women that don't like getting hit on when they're done working out for the day? I guess that's a preconceived environment etiquette too. Despite all the online arguments of whether a taken person should like pictures of other people, I've seen a lot of women make posts online saying social media is not a dating app. As though hinge or bumble have no overlap with Instagram or twitter. To me, almost any public space with appropriate timing is fit for dating interactions. Social media is a digital public space, but maybe some women just compartmentalize some spaces as a one-dimensional purpose.
This kinda helps me with my confusion so far. Thanks.
Wow... I clicked on this video because of the thumbnail featuring a scene from my favorite childhood mermaid movie Aquamarine. What two 12 year old girls whispering to each other about getting a mermaid to fall in love with their school crush so they can get a wish granted to stay friends forever and keep one of them from moving away has to do with this vid escapes me LMAO!
If you met someone you like, you ask them out, or you can let life just pass you by, like me on my phone on a Friday night…(though it’s been raining all day from remnants of a hurricane passing through
Women: “I don’t want to shit where I eat”
Guys: “Hellooo Lovely Lady! 😍”
Going by that logic you can't ask anyone no matter where you are. Women complain they can't find a guy, but when a guy approaches them they reject him.
When a woman just will not tell you what body type of men they prefer, the translation is: I'm a lesbian, dude.
Back when moms were the wingmans of finding girls for you damn
Quick, someone give me this chick's mom's number. I need to get introduced!
I'm with her, I don't like working out with other people. That's one of the main reasons I would hesitate to date someone from the gym. Invariably we'll end up working out together, or at the very least be distracted by one another during the workouts. I don't go to the gym to socialize. I want to get in, do my work, and get out as quickly as possible. I also don't want to be with a woman who feels the need to infiltrate every aspect of my life. The gym is my time. When I observe partners working out together, they almost ALWAYS look self conscious and uncomfortable. What are the chances I find a partner who's going to make my workouts better? Unless she's a personal trainer or something, pretty slim. All that said, I wouldn't turn away a relationship with the right girl just because we go to the same gym. That would be stupid. But I'm not going out of my way to pick up women, that's not why I'm there.
If you look good you can approach where you want
TIL I should be trying to meet more moms at the gym.
Who tf is chompin their gum
😂😂😂😂 CHOMPIN
I don't get the shitting and eating analogy.... How's that related connecting with people and working out???? Why would you need your mom to introduce you to somebody you don't know when you can connect with someone related to what you're interests are???
It's this idea that girls go to gym to seek attention t hat puts most women off.
People tend to use that phrase to mean they don't date people at their job to avoid the drama that it comes with. Her job is literally to work out and how uncomfortable would it be to go to work (out) and see your exes?
basically means you can get reported etc so dont do it as a man
I think the reason many gym girls and women in general are lukewarm on workout bods is because the market has been over saturated with steroid junkies. It’s like big fake boobs or duck lips, but men edition. I’m natty and in good shape, and it just looks different somehow. Not as cartoonishly bulbous, more real. And girls notice!
Nah she's just chatting shit. A nice physique is like top 1% of all guys. Still very desirable.
So there's a chance 😏😂
Just make friends with people there. The date will follow. Cold approaching is always creepy.
listening to patty ... mmm hmn, mmmhmn, mmmhn ... starting to agree and listen ... THEN seeing YAKKO
Dating apps exist y'all, I know, breaking news. If you're going to hit on someone, just be respectful and don't be creepy, respect personal spaces and learn to take a hint and a no, it's not the end of the world.
Dating apps?
You mean kink and simp apps.
Ain't no chick getting on an app to be invited to coffee and simply meet people.
Pick up girls at the gym? No thanks. I prefer to avoid accusations of being a perve and a creep. I'll stick to working out thank you very much.
You don't need to hit on women. Just talk to them. You gotta try to figure out if you even wanna put up with them first. Especially these days.
I don’t need to be with someone who works out or is super fit. I do need whoever I’m with to at least be physically active and conscious about living a healthy lifestyle. Like don’t be lazy and completely neglect your health.
I don't like talking to anyone when I'm working out and I assume everyone else who is taking it seriously feels the same. So I mind my business and hope that nobody talks to me.
Q: How?
A: Don't. Ever.
Take the hat off and look at yourself
no don't do it guys major risk of ban let her come to you
You just don’t do it is not only not worth it but also you go to the gym to workout
Most people are at the gym to work.
Most people don't like being interrupted and bothered while they're trying to work.
If you have a gym membership you've got time and money sunk into being in that place, and it will suck if awkward people bother you while you're there and make you uncomfortable. You're stuck having to choose between enduring the social discomfort or bailing on the gym. Which, given how annoying it can be to motivate and do the work, makes it pretty obvious why a lot of women said "never".
That being said, clearly there will be some exceptions out there, but given those factors, be chill! Start with a simple smile or nod of greeting. If she smiles warmly at you and doesn't avoid eye contact, maybe a verbal greeting and a casual conversational attempt when you're both between sets is worth trying. But if she seems anything less than warmly enthusiastic about it, back off and don't make it weird.
love that she's so DTE
I just scream slurs at em
hearing that gum chew yikes
Discovered this girl a few weeks ago, she's fucking amazing. Way more authentic than fake Sara Saffari that just tell what guys want to hear
i feel like i borderline offend women trying to go up to them at the gym.even genuinely like damn dude its hard to meet girls anywhere these days
I think it's also a bit of battle of the sexes friction behind it. Like "don't approach me, men approach me when I don't want to be approached". The whole women only gyms discourse has been thrown around often. I think some tiny part of not like advances is just sexist, because there's not a lot of big thriving popular women-only gyms despite the attention of men not being wanted, and lesbians exist. Then the other part of not liking it just preference. People will see each other repeatedly with memberships to places so there's that, which gives it a work element vibe, hence Patty's "don't shit where you eat" point of view. all I know is people can figure out a happy medium for themselves because I hate working out in front of people. Team home workout
probably a case of "I didn't come here to look for dates. I came here to work out". I can respect that
@@greyngreyer5You can say that about almost anywhere. But guess where people meet in the real world. Work, gym, restaurant etc etc
Gyms are for training,there are many places to hook up men and women
Overwhelming number of woman answered "never" to being asked out/flirted at the gym.
Guys in the comment: yea but...
Bro just respect womans boundaries, that simple.
they ansqered never, yet they dress like prostitutes to attract attention from guys, dont buy these women bullshit
No one’s breaking anyone’s boundaries by asking someone on a date. You don’t know that person’s boundaries at all until you meet them. Once they say “no” just kindly excuse yourself and leave. It’s that simple.
You can't have a boundary of people not talking to you when you go outside that antisocial lol
You wouldn't imagine the job opportunities I've gotten from applying when they say bachelors or four year degree required. Same thing applies here, just don't be weird.
Never
It is not her fault , it is Bradley fault to bring her on the show !
Maki Zen'in IRL
"not shitting where you eat" metaphor only works if you are a child. i feel like adults can handle a date not going well/break up and still be in the same space.
This chick is going to vote for kamala.
gay feminist 100%😂
thank fuck
Asking a girl out at the gym is like asking co-worker out. Just don’t do it. 👌
It's hilarious to me how many girls in the comments are like: damn straight, don't do it. While guys in the comments are like "no you're wrong!" or "I'll do what I want."
My dudes.
Try to listen to what they're saying.
She's a lesbian, so this was an awkward convo.
How do you know? She has said it before?
@@CarlosDaMufNo, it's just super obvious with her. She gets awkward anytime someone asks her about guys, and she's very particular about never referring to anyone with a he when it comes to this topic. Here she sighs during it and avoids directly answering the question about guy bods, then responds only with "partner" and "the people" she's dated. Even in her 'my story' video a while back she was super cryptic about her ex "partner" as she kept referring to them as partner only. No one in a straight relationship puts that much thought into intentionally avoiding referring to their ex as a he in the past tense, unless it wasn't a he.
So I'm not saying there's anything wrong, I'm just saying it comes off pretty clear about her so this seemed a bit awkward. In the full interview it's easier to even see how less relaxed she got from this question compared to the discussions before this one.
I assure you she's not gay. She's just awkward about that stuff. I personally know someone that used to date her some time ago. She's from the oc area and was semi into asian dudes at a certain point.
@@mosesmoses8357 she's definitely gay. Her dating history means nothing because most gays have dated someone of the opposite sex before, especially someone like her who isn't openly out.
@@RutgersJRS Dude, it has been exposed that she has a boyfriend that he is also involved in the fitness industry.
I mean here is the thing; is she even into guys, because the advice would be different as well perspective. When someone say partner it’s a flag meaning not into that gender; not always but…… usually. Bradly Martin sucks don’t do his podcast you’re better 😊
When I am at the gym, I am there to work out, I don’t chit chat, socialise or otherwise treat it as a single and mingle scene. Nothing worse than seeing guys, girls and girl and guys sitting around on equipment talking, laughing or otherwise being clowns.
This guy is so vain. I like when queen Patty shut him down right at the first question
Simp harder bro
@@benitocamela174it's okay to simp for LBP but OP is just white knighting ghosts
Lean beef Patty looks great. She should not get any more muscle .she will look to buff. If I had to guess she about 20 years old. She's a doll face ❤
Dam the fall off real