What about when you can't go no contact - say there are kids involved and she's still the mother of your children, and let's say you were the one who dropped the ball and let relationship go - you blew it and you know it, maybe you weren't man enough, or you just went through too much and reached your breaking point and you broke, and she left you because you screwed up. And let's say she is ill, she is single after being in a short relationship, after you've already been separated for a long time, she got with someone and got abused, and now she is ill and her emotions of pining about the guy who broke her ego coupled with stress are causing her health to deteriorate even more and you are watching her and wondering if she's going to live, there are test and examinations and scans scheduled for the next 6 months, and she already has several health issues, some almost the worst case possible, and let's assume it's her boss or coworker or owner of the company who got her at her most vulnerable and screwed her ego so much she thinks she is in love and she is now pining over him as hard as you are pining over her, and she has to hold on for the sake of her job so she can't go no contact either, and she can't let that job go she is the one who feeds your kids. And you lost everything or had a prenup or are bankrupt and you aren't paying alimony in fact she is helping your sorry ass often because after she left you, your health went to shit, and you don't have anyone else in the world but your kids and her. You've been ill for years, and now you started to recover and are back among the living, but you still have long way to go. How do you go no contact then, how do you "get over her", when you know it's your fault because you weren't man enough, or maybe life was too rough for you, you kept rebuilding and rebuilding, and you'd lose EVERYTHING, rebuild then lose it again because of things out of your control, so you would repeat get back on you feet, over and over too many times for you to bear, ever since you were young and last time you lost it all you lost her because you are the one who dropped the ball. Now you are in your 50s, barely out of the bed after long period of illness which you barely survived and you can't yet work, nor anyone wants to employ you. You would just end it, but you aren't doing it because of the kids who are 7 and 8 years old, how do you go no contact, how do you get over her, how many years more need to pass when you are feeling the worse now then when she left you, because you were already ill and lost everything and everyone dear to you, and you were in shock and you were barely clinging to life for years, never getting over her, but you were tied to bed, useless. What to do then? You want to go forward but the you are longing for her so much it's hampering your progress, often slowing it down to a halt because your heart feels like it's going to burst and you would like to just not wake up because you love her and it was your fault, if you did things only a bit differently everything would be fine. HOW TO SURVIVE THAT, WHEN IT HURTS FOR YEARS AND NOW THAT YOU SURVIVED AGAINST ALL ODDS BUT THIS TIME YOU AREN'T STARTING FROM ZERO - BUT HAVE TO CRAWL OUT OF A DEEP WELL, BUT YOU CAN'T GO NO CONTACT, SO EVERY DAY YOUR HEART FEELS LIKE IT'S GOING TO BURST, AND IT'S NOT ENDING AND IT'S SLOWING YOUR PROGRESS, AND THERE ARE NO MORE MEDICATIONS TO NUMB YOU. NOR YOU WANT THEM. BUT YOU ARE DYING A BIT EVERY DAY BECAUSE YOU LONG FOR AND WORRY ABOUT HER. WHAT TO DO THEN?
But what if the reason she broke up with you is that she cheated and replaced you with someone else while you are still together? Will no contact still be effective since she is at the state of fun with her new one?
That's how it goes for real😂😂 Hey everybody, Do all these people are telling you to do. No contact and working on yourself brutally and doing what makes you "really happy" and especially getting better in life, that will increase your value as a person and trust!
If she wanted to stay she would have never left in the first place. The real woman would never ever leave. So never have a mindset of ‘ she will come back ‘ always think that it was meant to be thats why you’re ahead
To all the guys and girls out there who either have been through no contact or are in no contact right now, I have so much respect for you and y’all should be super proud of yourself. It’s one of the hardest and most painful things you can do as I’m learning now.
I hear ya, I had to break it off with a woman I deeply love. I constantly worry about her wellbeing, she on a self destructive path. I couldn’t help, so I decided I couldn’t watch it either. So painful.
My ex had been driving me crazy for the past few years. Our texting devolved into her either asking me mundane everyday questions like when I'll be home from work, or what's for dinner, or accusing me of cheating, nagging or anything else negative. I found out she cheated on me. I started feeling down a few weeks after our breakup, but reading through our texts reignited my anger at the way she'd treated me. The lies and hypocrisy I was seeing while reading them, now knowing what she was doing all along, reinforced my decision to stay away.
I did this recently when she rejected me and doesn't wanted to communicate with me. So, I removed her from all social media and within one month, I am feeling the freedom. Focus on yourself more.
My wife asked for no contact, she reached out after 8 days asking for divorce. At both intervals I couldn’t have cared less. I told her that my happiness is my responsibility and that I’ve accepted and moved on. She’s bitter about her choice but you never go backwards. Don’t chase after someone who let you go. Remember that the same woman who married you isn’t the same woman divorcing you. Wish them well and move forward, life must go on. Don’t fall into the trap of hurt and negativity, it ain’t gonna help you heal. Accept and let go. It took me two months to learn this. The faster you do this, the better. Make the room for someone better to enter your life.
I'm literally going through this right now. She said she's not sure she loves me anymore and she thinks its done. I packed my bag and left. I haven't spoken to her in 3 days and it is getting easier. I am going to have to go and get the rest of my stuff as we were married for 4 years and living together for over 7.
@@JohnnyTurnerMusic she said to me also the same words bro few months ago .. women are similar .. you have to move on with ur life and accept everything.
Please understand something, we are as women sometimes we behave in indirect ways, I’ll tell you what I mean, I’ve a man in my life and I told him to not talk to me anymore but I didn’t mean that I was hurt and feeling so bad because he doesn’t care about me but still I want him, I wanted him to feel my feelings and ask why then I start explain why but he ignored me while I have a lot of love of him in my heart and always loyal for him, for me the more I love the man the more I get crazy with him, sensitive and drama and even asking for break up always😢💔that’s so hard I wish to change but I can’t please guys understand we are different don’t leave us when we ask you to leave, try to know the reasons and embrace our feelings unless the woman is rude and bad
@@Xk.v123please understand something about us men aswell most men fall in love pretty fast and we get rejected allot through our experiences we have learned that when you really care about someone and they leave the best thing for a healthy man to do is cut contact most men don’t have the time to play this guessing game you break a man’s heart then it’s usually just over nothing we or you can do we guys would do allot for the girl we have feelings for and when we then get the don’t talk to me we cut contact not for how you feel we do this to protect ourselves and move on.
This is so true and so helpful. Going to stop focusing on that one girl who left me in the cold for one misunderstanding and was ready to throw all the magical moments, memories, chemistry and connection we’ve built and shared over the last year. Her loss. Time to love on. I feel free and an endless sea of opportunities in front of me. Thank you Danny, needed to hear that! 🙏😎😊
Im going through the same bro, one misunderstanding and she made 360 degree turn on the relationship.. all the good times went down the drain.. im so lost .. i tried contacting her . , message her how sorry i am , but she never came back to the girl i knew.. shd just kept on pushing me away .. i decided to go no contact and never look back.. had my feelings involve bur it is what it is.. more woman out there .. have to keep it pushing.
Wow...me too....everything that happened over 6 years is flushed down the drain......it was our very first obstacle in the relationship and bam.....she went out cold.....wtf.....3 years on .and I'm still in awe..as to how someone can just go without explanation or even trying to fix things.......
Same! My ex was wanting to get married and have kids. And now im single. Last thing she said since she couldn't find a good reason to breakup. I wish you would have cheated on me would make this easier
Ego/Suffering - 1. What can I prove? 2. What can I protect? 3. What can I perfect? 4. Who can I please? Genuine-Authenticity/Radical-Honesty - 1. What can I create? 2. What can I contribute? 3. How can I connect? 4. What can I cultivate/express?
Getting incarcerated/heartbroken by my first gf of 5yrs was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I’m a month out now and am getting stronger physically, and mentally. I’m also excelling in my sales career, and the results are showing. I’m 22. Sky’s the limit from here. Thanks for sharing brother. Subbed
@@Fashionkillacamm dude nice!! I regret not joining the army after HS. Seeing all the 11b 75th RR stuff is awesome but I honestly don’t know how I would transition after getting out lol. Sales is awesome and I’m just going to milk it from here. Lmk how BCT goes!!
This video is one of the reasons I love this channel Danny. No contact is a powerful tool. I've used it many times in the last 15 years. It was always for me and me alone. I didn't care if they came back. It was for my strength. The times they did come back and yes the same behaviours popped back up it was an instant no contact again. One in particular did several times to the point I had to tell her enough...find someone else. Stay strong men... we have the power. Indeed the ability to walk away without emotion, without explanation is a super power.
You know it's tough to forget about her when everything reminds you of her. Everything from going to Lowe's home improvement, to driving past a flower shop. I even got a reminder of her today from an add on Instagram. Sucks. 5 months no contact.
@@asennde Nothing. Her mother follows me on Instagram watches all of my stories. She only follows a handful of people Her, her son, her husband me and some cat pages. Recently she got engaged to her ex husband. Who always treated her like crap. Then I saw a few times after that she was looking at my Instagram stories as well. But still no real contact from her. 6 months now.
So sorry U listened to this Coward. U should have’d Man up& thanked the girl/ woman 4 that beautiful feeling she made U feel& there is nothing wrong with it! She helped U grow into the Man U R today! 4 some reason a higher power put her in your life, I know it must have’d hurt. It will if U R human, ever hear of the song 2 all the girls I lovedB4.🤭✌️
One of the best and simple explanations for self-love to go for NO CONTACT. Yeah, guys. a girl ain't special unless you see or believe her to be special. She has just got the same assets as any other girl. She is gone for a reason. Don't try to get her back. You have around 4billion women in this world. Do you really think you would get someone better than the one that you let go? Seriously?? Do you really think she is more valuable than you really are? Think and act guys!
Begin to see that it was not even her capacity to love which made me feel special. It was my own, reflected back to me...by her. She's always lied, deceived, cheated on men and left them in the rain like wet dogs. NOT so loving behaviour in the first place...
I think you made lots of good points. I got to that point of being too into my ex, it was addictive like you said. And because of this I lost my sense of self respect and let her push my boundaries too far. I could see this happening and didn't not like that feeling of being to emotionally dependent on another person. No contact allows you to deal with that fear and get a sense of self back. When you get to that place you are much stronger. You need to get to the place where if she comes back you can set your boundaries without fear of walking away if she doesn't Respect them. You basically have to be cool with being alone
I wish I did this two years ago. It would have saved me months of confusion, heartache, and from desecrating my skin with a tattoo out of insecurity. I'm still healing and in a much better place now. Im removing this tattoo now, because it represents that darker time in my life. Once its finally gone, and even if there is permanent scarring, ive left that experience as a much stronger man
I don’t normally reply but loved your post,many things happen in life that we ask a higher power as to the why of it, but Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. It’s her loss!U didn’t coward to the feeling,U captured that feeling & lived. It doesn’t come around very often! U R a true find, absolutely a better man for having the courage to have’d lived, loved🤭✌️🦋
My first gf left me for another guy when I was 19 , it was an instant wake up call to how the world operates. I am now 43 and have never feared a breakup since , guess I’ve been red pill my whole adult life without even knowing it
It's almost more than one month i am in no contact with her and its quite hard but you can actually do it just have faith in urself guys rather than to beg for someone who don't give u same respect n love back...the person who can't see ur efforts towards relationship and being in negative relationship...just focus on growing and learning things..and make urself a better high value man..So be strong just..✌️🤙🔥
'No Contact' is a great way to help you begin the process of ultimately letting someone go. I know it is, in theory, supposed to help 'get them back' but after enough time has passed whereupon you should have taken the steps to improve your life: Exercise, having goals, accomplishing things, you will get to a point where you don't want them back.It's not rooted in hatred or anger, it's the realization that they really weren't that special in the first place.
The most powerful impression I ever left on a woman is going permanently AWOL on her. To this day, I still have these women trying to contact me over a decade later to get an answer as to what they did wrong and I never answer back or give them any closure. Once a woman that you're in a relationship with decides that it's a bright idea to disrespect you or put you through a sh*t test, all you have to do is walk away and cut off contact permanently. Leave her fermenting in her neuroticism and doubt. It's the most powerful way to deal with them. Simply refuse them any info to give themselves any sense of "closure".
Agreed. 💯 Also, don't give them access to a window to your life that they can peek through from a safe distance. Block them so they can't get any updated info on you whatsoever. It drives them even more crazy to not get any answers on how you're doing lately.
it’s been over six months since my six year relationship ended. I ran into this video on month one and I’m here again five months later. I have never been more socially active. I look the best I’ve ever looked physically. and yeah, she definitely reached out twice. My only mistake was being eager to her phone calls. Other than that I just want to say no contact is the best thing you can do for yourself. Forget about your ex it ended for a reason, even if it was your fault, I’m glad I can take the lessons. I’ve learned to meet a better woman with a better version of myself.
A few years ago, I was really into this girl. I took her to movies, restaurants, bought her gifts, and spent two years doing everything I could to show her I cared. I asked her out twice, but each time, she rejected me and put me in the friend zone. After the second rejection, I decided to cut off all communication with her - and it worked like a charm. Now, a few years later, I sometimes think about how lucky I am that things didn’t work out between us. She has messaged me multiple times since, but I haven’t responded. Even though I occasionally reflect on how she led me on during those two years, I genuinely wish her the best and hope she finds someone good. In the end, I know I came out ahead.
the act of getting back with an ex, shows her your scarcity mindset. her respect for you will never go Up, it will only do down more as she tries do do more of the stuff that lead to the initial separation in the first place.
Thank you and this is really helpful for me. It's been three months since my ex had broke up with me and I've been struggling on what I should be doing next. I'm finding being in no contact helping me heal my own wounds and to focus on myself instead of that one girl who left me and I would rather not bother with her since I know who she really is now. It's about time that I should let things go between me and her and to focus on loving myself more than ever now and getting to my purpose.
Left a somewhat quality woman over disrespect only regret is not commmunicating boundaries beforehand (I left after a pattern). Been back and forth a lot lately, Thank you 🙏🏾
Like he said; this doesn't only apply to romantic partners. I'm older. Time is my most precious commodity. I simply don't have time or emotional bandwidth for other peoples drama or negativity. I've learned to see it right away. Watch what people do. Not what they say.
Great video man. I've been dealing with this myself for months and for me its been hard because before this one girl i pretty much shut myself for years not having any interest in relationships and finally taking that leap and trying again it all came crashing down and she got back with her ex and ghosted me and to top it all off I still have to see her from time to time because she works around where i live and I run into her way more then i want so its still a work in progress and anyone else going through it kudos and I have nothing but respect and love for all of you
Hi there, I thought you might like to hear from a woman’s point of view who’s gonna through same; she’s a Coward & did U a favor. Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. For some reason a higher power put her in your life & think of that beautiful feeling U felt; that’s the beauty of LOVE, it only comes around seldomly U had the courage to B all in, U R a rare find, I know it might hurt still but just think of the Man u have grown into B of this experience🤭✌️
Going through the same thing , no contact is the best way to deal with the loss . 😇 . I did it for my mental health . Once you make your mind up to let go , priceless . 🙏🏾👍🏾
Amen brother🎉 Had to do this after the last toxic relationship I was in. Changed my phone number,deleted email she had and didnt let her know my address lol she still reached out to a good mate of mine chatting shxt asking if I wanted stuff I left behind at her place - even though we had already said our goodbyes etc. Apparently she emailed too but I wouldnt know because as I said I deleted it😂. Very glad I did that. I know she only tried to contact me to twist the knife. Anything I left behind she knew I didnt want. Anyway. Great video. P.S. would never recommend moving in with a woman. Have your own place and own space. Js
The only thing I disagree with is dating someone as fast as possible when you're fresh out of a relationship or whatever. You should date someone bc you WANT to, not to get over someone else. That isn't fair for that person bc they may really like you, and you're just doing it to, "see that other women are out there." Everything else is spot on though.
Its okay to love them you just have to live and love your mission more and thats where your strength comes from. If you master that then you wont be on the floor you will be in your mission fully and reaping all the huge rewards from it.
My gf brokeup with me (5year realation) just 2 days ago, we were having already a "disconnection" with eachother from a couple of months already, she has a little girl that now has 8yo, now she want me to be there for her whenever i need her and to her little girl too, (because she afraid that she goes for an "abandoned relation" from me to her little child), and all this thing hit me really hard, more than i even know it could, so i told her a day ago that i understand all of the situations in her life and that she doesnt love me anymore, but i do love her and for that i wanted to cut all conections, chat, calls, photos, everything, its been 2 days but i think i can make it, focusing on work now and trying to understand my feelings everyday and not blaming and more focusing on what not to do and trying to be better, hope it works well. Hugs to every dude in here that's being trough a breakup, be strong, be smart, be better!!! (sorry my english)
i literally deactivated my socials and deleted every photo and video of us, since i caught her with another man at about two weeks ago, the first week was hard, it was so hard that i literally focused on myself so much that i started to exercise and study harder to give my mind a stop, and here i am now, 2 weeks in and i’m feeling better and sharing my redemption as a man as i started to care more about myself and treasure my worth as a loyal man that is starting to build himself from scratch as a lone wolf that is focusing on the present and accepting the past and building my future value as best as i could
This video might’ve just saved my sanity. I’ve been used by women to get the attention of other men, or to lift their spirits up because of my personality, then they leave me hanging once they get what they want. This stops now!Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I needed this badly! God bless you brother
My gf of 2 years did this to me. It’s driving me crazy but I’ve been just focusing on myself. It’s even harder to move on when family and friends don’t wanna listen to you and just tell you to suck it up. Got my dog and that’s it. Just gotta keep going. You’ll love again and the pain is temporary
Cried in New years eve, do to hurt and not understanding what I did wrong! Woke up New Years Day at peace , no longer bothered, he is now last year toxic mess.. I'm so much happier and ready to do me! No contact 2 months 😊 but he's reached out to me and my kids! Setting boundaries..
When she broke it off with me, it was the ultimate F U - but I took it in the chin and did not let it get to me. I deleted our chats right after since I did not want any reminders of her. Deep down I was angry but I turned it into fuel for motivation to do better for myself. I will not sit here and feel sorry for myself - I will get back to work and be the best version of myself.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
This is the absolute best video I've seen on this! You are 100000% right. I can't tell you how many points you hit on that spoke to me and I was honestly quite surprised you hit on those points!
I loved her but I got tired of reading the same ending of our story book. This woman kept lying, cheating, and scheming . I had to let that shit go and walk away. I was stupid to live a lie so long. For better or worse I learned so much and I hope I can move forward and make something positive of my experience. If you’re in this position have the courage to face the truth and help yourself out of that hole someone has and keeps dragging you in . Leave them behind don’t look back you’re not going that way.
I’ve been chatting with someone who I really like. She’s been pretty guarded but has let me in a bit. I wasn’t sure if she liked me as much so stepped back and gave her space. A few days in she messaged asking if I was ok and why I’d gone quiet.
I'm on day 7 of going no contact. There have been a couple times I almoooost reached out but I caught myself and didn't do it. Hasn't been easy but I know I'm doing the right thing.
No contact should never be done to gain the respect of the woman or to prove anything to her, it’s all about your self respect not her respect for you, or to “show her”
Continuing my No Contact because it is the right thing to do but the pain lingers......doesn't even seem to lessen.......I guess it will be a long time before it dissipates.....am keeping busy with some sports and other projects but it is tough.
This is to all my guys who are still thinking of going back when they reach out. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago and I went no contact, there were times she would reach out crying to me early on, and of course I would help her, but it eventually led me to blocking her. Then one day she reached out a final time which led me to eventually break. We tried being friends (her idea) it ended with me being bitter and jealous. I ended telling her that I couldn’t be friends and that it wasn’t for me, she ended up agreeing which confirmed that she had just used me to get over me and find someone else. But at least I still left on my own terms. Don’t do what I did. Move on the minute this person gives you up. Stay strong kings, love yourself and the rest will follow. I wish you all the best that have read this comment
Its the catch 22. Sometimes the relationship gets out of control and you have to hit the brakes. But you must accept she may not comeback. I havent spoken to my gf for about 10 days. While other say she will contact me, I dont think she will. Not all women deal with rejection the same. Some take it personally, that they arent good enough and grab another guy to forget. That being said I recently got a text from another girl I met 3 months ago. She is coming up to see me in Feb. Once you make that no contact you must accept it likely is over and you might as well go hang with other women because she is likely with another guy now. Dont use no contact as a tool to get a girl back odds are 60 per cent plus she is gone if she is reasonably attractive and has options.
NO CONTACT: How to Do It Better. One thing to do is PUT THE PHONE DOWN!! Seriously, leave the phone at home once in a while! Stay off social media. Get a hobby, like archery or crafting; this will occupy your mind. Don't allow her to invade your mind. You honestly think she's so important? Dip your finger in a bucket of water, pull it out, you see how fast that hole fills up. Everyone is replaceable. That's how your mind should be!
After roughly 15-20 years I believe I have realized, no contact is working only on whom operation more from an ego side, especially having anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment "stlyes". Nowadays I philosophizing a lot about theese kind of topics. And the more I think and meditate about it the more I am raising the question to myself: why would anyone want someone "back" where no contact is working?
I should have seen this video a few months ago, I was in a relationship with a disrespectful woman, actually very dysfunctional person (adhd, traumas and insecurities) so I broke up with her multiple times but we had an amazing chemistry and sex life so we got together 5 times one way or the other! Recently I did it for the last time, I was fine but few days later I missed her and reached out to her, she went "no contact" so I'm the one had been wondering what happened but I'm sure I made the right decision breaking up with her 100% I just need to forget her once for all... Your explanation of why they don't deal well with rejection totally makes sense, every time I broke up with her, she went insane with insults Lol... Also I did burn all the stuff I got from her, total detachment! Thanks for the tips
She disrespected me 3 and a half weeks ago, she then went nc, its now christmas, she tried contacting me 1 week ago, again yesterday. Ive decided im better off without her, im maintaining nc, she'll never hear my voice again.
I experienced a traumatic neck injury that affected my ability to speak and sing (singer here). At the same time, I witnessed a past lover-someone who told me she loved me more than her husband-get engaged and married to him. The universe said, no no, you need time for YOU. She keeps messaging me saying she misses me after I stopped talking to her(you’re married!?) Sadly, the truth is, her man is not satisfying her which is why she went to me. Even now that she’s married shes still in the process of realizing her childhood dream of marrying this guy is not really what she wanted. All of her friends telling her not to do it, red flag after red flag that the marriage is already broken -note-when we got intimate I had no idea that she was seeing anyone… But lucky for me, while she figures that mess out, I can be at peace, practicing vocal exercises, building my strength, and doing work that I truly love. I lost myself for many years. Now I know my mission. It had nothing to do with a girl. It had everything to do with me. Rebuilding my magnetic field. With time. Patience. Early mornings. Great books. Great people. And most importantly: gratitude. 🙏
Thank you, man. This is very hard for me, even though my relationship with her was only 8 months. It’s very hard for me to go through this, and I’ve even begged her to come back. Please pray for me to recover quickly from this situation.
Thank you for the advice. I've chosen to lose all contact with this person. It's hard. But I'm tired of being used only for her benefit. Only as a door mat, only as an emotional pillow, Only as a financial pillow. To constantly being disrespected. I'm afraid, but I look forward to a day I look back and tell myself I am so glad I did that. To better days ahead.
Yep I was rejected last year because I developed Peyronie's disease and she didn't want to stick around for me to heal completely while I was going through depression, then I noticed that she was dating someone, so I reached out to her and said wow that was quick, so last November she says oh I have no feelings for him it's you I want, so I started dating her and guess what happened in the last few days... dumped again. Love is a 2 way street.
I miss her so fucking much, she really was the light in my life, its was before her so depressing, i didn’t realise it at the time until she came into my life. I was ready to change and i started to change to show her i loved her but it was to late.
No contact is for getting over someone not for getting someone back. It may work on men but when a woman loses interest in you, cutting off all contact will not work. She will simply move on and find another person because if a woman lost interest in you, you did something wrong and killed the attraction. Not contacting her won’t magically recreate that attraction.
Strongly disagree, I have done this on several woman not so much that I wanted them back it just happened 😂. I lost interest in them, didn't want to break up with them. They got the hint and broke up with me. With in a month they all seem to come back. To any male reading this perhaps it only worked with me. But if u try to implement NC. You must stick to ur Guns and not answer a txt ( cause they will test u) look at their social media anything. You'll know when its time. Dont wait around for her either go work on urselves so next( if she comes back) time. You are not the same little bitch she left
It works either way. I've been in plenty of rejections or rejecting and they have all come back to the point I've had to block a number. NC is a powerful leash and more so on women that understand they are losing something valuable, which, is ultimately what it is. When that positive value is recognized and missed, is when most come running back in a few weeks or months or so time.@@paris8168
yup. gave my number to a girl 7 months ago. she hit me up a month ago ... the "relationship" lasted like 2 weeks until i was bored and had self respect and just made sure she broke up first so she feels guilty and IDC at this point
Great video, I'm still having trouble letting go of my seven-year romance. I can't seem to get over the concept of my ex-significant other, who I truly believed to be the love of my life, leaving me a month ago. Nothing has worked to get him back into my life, and I'm feeling helpless and frustrated. My heart still aches for him, and even though I've made an effort to move on, I can't envision myself with anyone else. Sorry to post this here, but I simply can't seem to get over missing him.
It's tough to let go of someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to get him back. Eventually, I had to turn to a spiritual counsellor for assistance.
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If you were needy and desperate after breakup and they know you want the relationship. Never break no contact ever. It doesn't matter if you're the dumper or dumpee. You'll thank me later.
Excellent advice... I'm 2 weeks into no contact ( I actually blocked her number) why you may ask .. it's because I'm setting a clear boundary and not allowing her in my life anymore. Plus she was a covert narcissist. Never take them back .. whether a narcissist or not ... I completely agree with this guy. They are called ex's for a reason. Don't look back!
I'm a woman n Im going no contact because I have boundaries n self respect. I won't tolerate this man coming in n out of my life making me feel like a doormat. He ghosts me online with Random conversation (not even in a relationship) I move on not giving much thought because it was only online but then this loser comes back after five years Hoping I remw him, plays with my emotions n leaves again. I mean I'm a human being not a plaything. Guys human to human everyone needs to be treated with love n respect not just guys. Period.
I followed this and it helped me a lot I am enjoying the freedom and I don't care anymore , but now the girl is getting obsessed over me and finding ways to contact me , hopefully she sees this video and get over me😂
My problem is that she happens to be my wife with my only son. It's been 14 months with no contact. Not only I miss her every second, I miss my 5 year old toddler every single time. Until today I do not see any end to my pain. The most painful part is praying that 'Please God make me forget her' but still wishing 'Please God bring her back'.
I’m dealing with the same thing far as praying to God to remove her from my heart but at the same time I want to ask him to please bring her back I know I need to keep walking away
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what you say is vague. When a girl 'comes back', how would you know if you've gone no contact? She messages, and you ignore it?
What about when you can't go no contact - say there are kids involved and she's still the mother of your children, and let's say you were the one who dropped the ball and let relationship go - you blew it and you know it, maybe you weren't man enough, or you just went through too much and reached your breaking point and you broke, and she left you because you screwed up.
And let's say she is ill, she is single after being in a short relationship, after you've already been separated for a long time, she got with someone and got abused, and now she is ill and her emotions of pining about the guy who broke her ego coupled with stress are causing her health to deteriorate even more and you are watching her and wondering if she's going to live, there are test and examinations and scans scheduled for the next 6 months, and she already has several health issues, some almost the worst case possible, and let's assume it's her boss or coworker or owner of the company who got her at her most vulnerable and screwed her ego so much she thinks she is in love and she is now pining over him as hard as you are pining over her, and she has to hold on for the sake of her job so she can't go no contact either, and she can't let that job go she is the one who feeds your kids.
And you lost everything or had a prenup or are bankrupt and you aren't paying alimony in fact she is helping your sorry ass often because after she left you, your health went to shit, and you don't have anyone else in the world but your kids and her. You've been ill for years, and now you started to recover and are back among the living, but you still have long way to go.
How do you go no contact then, how do you "get over her", when you know it's your fault because you weren't man enough, or maybe life was too rough for you, you kept rebuilding and rebuilding, and you'd lose EVERYTHING, rebuild then lose it again because of things out of your control, so you would repeat get back on you feet, over and over too many times for you to bear, ever since you were young and last time you lost it all you lost her because you are the one who dropped the ball.
Now you are in your 50s, barely out of the bed after long period of illness which you barely survived and you can't yet work, nor anyone wants to employ you. You would just end it, but you aren't doing it because of the kids who are 7 and 8 years old, how do you go no contact, how do you get over her, how many years more need to pass when you are feeling the worse now then when she left you, because you were already ill and lost everything and everyone dear to you, and you were in shock and you were barely clinging to life for years, never getting over her, but you were tied to bed, useless.
What to do then? You want to go forward but the you are longing for her so much it's hampering your progress, often slowing it down to a halt because your heart feels like it's going to burst and you would like to just not wake up because you love her and it was your fault, if you did things only a bit differently everything would be fine.
HOW TO SURVIVE THAT, WHEN IT HURTS FOR YEARS AND NOW THAT YOU SURVIVED AGAINST ALL ODDS BUT THIS TIME YOU AREN'T STARTING FROM ZERO - BUT HAVE TO CRAWL OUT OF A DEEP WELL, BUT YOU CAN'T GO NO CONTACT, SO EVERY DAY YOUR HEART FEELS LIKE IT'S GOING TO BURST, AND IT'S NOT ENDING AND IT'S SLOWING YOUR PROGRESS, AND THERE ARE NO MORE MEDICATIONS TO NUMB YOU. NOR YOU WANT THEM.
BUT YOU ARE DYING A BIT EVERY DAY BECAUSE YOU LONG FOR AND WORRY ABOUT HER.
WHAT TO DO THEN?
But what if she’s a stripper?
But what if the reason she broke up with you is that she cheated and replaced you with someone else while you are still together? Will no contact still be effective since she is at the state of fun with her new one?
Started no contact with "This will help me get my ex back" ended with "I don't even care anymore".
Real😂
That's how it goes for real😂😂 Hey everybody, Do all these people are telling you to do. No contact and working on yourself brutally and doing what makes you "really happy" and especially getting better in life, that will increase your value as a person and trust!
That's how it should work
Did the same, finally wake up and see the whole Picture
If she wanted to stay she would have never left in the first place. The real woman would never ever leave. So never have a mindset of ‘ she will come back ‘ always think that it was meant to be thats why you’re ahead
To all the guys and girls out there who either have been through no contact or are in no contact right now, I have so much respect for you and y’all should be super proud of yourself. It’s one of the hardest and most painful things you can do as I’m learning now.
Nothing a glass of wine after gym time can’t fix❤️
Update bro?
I hear ya, I had to break it off with a woman I deeply love. I constantly worry about her wellbeing, she on a self destructive path. I couldn’t help, so I decided I couldn’t watch it either.
So painful.
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Cheaters don't have remorse.
Don't read old text messages is a big one
Damn..
Delete all that shit, photos, throw away clothes she bought you, sage your house, move on!
I deleted the number, messages and all pics straight away
I had to erase them
My ex had been driving me crazy for the past few years. Our texting devolved into her either asking me mundane everyday questions like when I'll be home from work, or what's for dinner, or accusing me of cheating, nagging or anything else negative.
I found out she cheated on me. I started feeling down a few weeks after our breakup, but reading through our texts reignited my anger at the way she'd treated me. The lies and hypocrisy I was seeing while reading them, now knowing what she was doing all along, reinforced my decision to stay away.
I did this recently when she rejected me and doesn't wanted to communicate with me. So, I removed her from all social media and within one month, I am feeling the freedom. Focus on yourself more.
Once happened to me
Did she comeback?
Yeah please tell us bro, did she come back..?
@@lars396they always come back in one way or another
@@ReivajLivethey only come back if your replacement leave them
My wife asked for no contact, she reached out after 8 days asking for divorce. At both intervals I couldn’t have cared less. I told her that my happiness is my responsibility and that I’ve accepted and moved on. She’s bitter about her choice but you never go backwards. Don’t chase after someone who let you go. Remember that the same woman who married you isn’t the same woman divorcing you. Wish them well and move forward, life must go on. Don’t fall into the trap of hurt and negativity, it ain’t gonna help you heal. Accept and let go. It took me two months to learn this. The faster you do this, the better. Make the room for someone better to enter your life.
I'm literally going through this right now. She said she's not sure she loves me anymore and she thinks its done. I packed my bag and left. I haven't spoken to her in 3 days and it is getting easier. I am going to have to go and get the rest of my stuff as we were married for 4 years and living together for over 7.
@JohnnyTurnerMusic yea, I think my marriage will go the same way. If I do divorce I dont want to get married again.
@@JohnnyTurnerMusic she said to me also the same words bro few months ago .. women are similar .. you have to move on with ur life and accept everything.
Please understand something, we are as women sometimes we behave in indirect ways, I’ll tell you what I mean, I’ve a man in my life and I told him to not talk to me anymore but I didn’t mean that I was hurt and feeling so bad because he doesn’t care about me but still I want him, I wanted him to feel my feelings and ask why then I start explain why but he ignored me while I have a lot of love of him in my heart and always loyal for him, for me the more I love the man the more I get crazy with him, sensitive and drama and even asking for break up always😢💔that’s so hard I wish to change but I can’t please guys understand we are different don’t leave us when we ask you to leave, try to know the reasons and embrace our feelings unless the woman is rude and bad
@@Xk.v123please understand something about us men aswell most men fall in love pretty fast and we get rejected allot through our experiences we have learned that when you really care about someone and they leave the best thing for a healthy man to do is cut contact most men don’t have the time to play this guessing game you break a man’s heart then it’s usually just over nothing we or you can do we guys would do allot for the girl we have feelings for and when we then get the don’t talk to me we cut contact not for how you feel we do this to protect ourselves and move on.
This is so true and so helpful. Going to stop focusing on that one girl who left me in the cold for one misunderstanding and was ready to throw all the magical moments, memories, chemistry and connection we’ve built and shared over the last year. Her loss. Time to love on. I feel free and an endless sea of opportunities in front of me. Thank you Danny, needed to hear that! 🙏😎😊
Im going through the same bro, one misunderstanding and she made 360 degree turn on the relationship.. all the good times went down the drain.. im so lost .. i tried contacting her
. , message her how sorry i am , but she never came back to the girl i knew.. shd just kept on pushing me away .. i decided to go no contact and never look back.. had my feelings involve bur it is what it is.. more woman out there .. have to keep it pushing.
damn wow if there is ever an update pls let me know. I've been in no contact for a month now and broken up for 4 months. I'm staying strong.
Wow...me too....everything that happened over 6 years is flushed down the drain......it was our very first obstacle in the relationship and bam.....she went out cold.....wtf.....3 years on .and I'm still in awe..as to how someone can just go without explanation or even trying to fix things.......
Same! My ex was wanting to get married and have kids. And now im single. Last thing she said since she couldn't find a good reason to breakup. I wish you would have cheated on me would make this easier
Ouch man. That’s harsh for you Daniel
Ego/Suffering -
1. What can I prove?
2. What can I protect?
3. What can I perfect?
4. Who can I please?
Genuine-Authenticity/Radical-Honesty -
1. What can I create?
2. What can I contribute?
3. How can I connect?
4. What can I cultivate/express?
Getting incarcerated/heartbroken by my first gf of 5yrs was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I’m a month out now and am getting stronger physically, and mentally. I’m also excelling in my sales career, and the results are showing. I’m 22. Sky’s the limit from here. Thanks for sharing brother. Subbed
Hope it’s going well 😊
Facts fam . I’m 21|Cyber security degree|Enlisting in the national guard this summer to waive my student debt. Let’s get it ‼️
@@Cloudyyyy88 late reply but thanks man, still growing and learning! Hope you’re doing good too
@@Fashionkillacamm dude nice!! I regret not joining the army after HS. Seeing all the 11b 75th RR stuff is awesome but I honestly don’t know how I would transition after getting out lol. Sales is awesome and I’m just going to milk it from here. Lmk how BCT goes!!
stay straight... keep it up
This video is one of the reasons I love this channel Danny. No contact is a powerful tool. I've used it many times in the last 15 years. It was always for me and me alone. I didn't care if they came back. It was for my strength.
The times they did come back and yes the same behaviours popped back up it was an instant no contact again. One in particular did several times to the point I had to tell her enough...find someone else.
Stay strong men... we have the power. Indeed the ability to walk away without emotion, without explanation is a super power.
Guys, NO contact WORKS! You know how your mother calls you sometimes mad ass hell because she haven't heard from you.. LOL!
It works if they care. It does not work if they do not care. Family, friends, or otherwise.
This made me crack up 😂🤣
Wow.. how innocent thinking and methodology..!!
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You know it's tough to forget about her when everything reminds you of her. Everything from going to Lowe's home improvement, to driving past a flower shop. I even got a reminder of her today from an add on Instagram. Sucks. 5 months no contact.
And still no sign?
@@asennde Nothing. Her mother follows me on Instagram watches all of my stories. She only follows a handful of people Her, her son, her husband me and some cat pages. Recently she got engaged to her ex husband. Who always treated her like crap. Then I saw a few times after that she was looking at my Instagram stories as well. But still no real contact from her. 6 months now.
Brother I agree with you, but I’m sorry. The “Lowe’s Home Improvement” had me dead, why you say it like that haha
@@asennde not a word. 8 years and now nothing.
@@atrain1k377 we used to do a ton of home improvement projects together. From landscaping to remodeling the house. Tons of gardening.
Amazing. That's what I exactly did. And my energy was finally restored. Finally, I won't tolerate disrespect.
So sorry U listened to this Coward. U should have’d Man up& thanked the girl/ woman 4 that beautiful feeling she made U feel& there is nothing wrong with it! She helped U grow into the Man U R today! 4 some reason a higher power put her in your life, I know it must have’d hurt. It will if U R human, ever hear of the song 2 all the girls I lovedB4.🤭✌️
One of the best and simple explanations for self-love to go for NO CONTACT. Yeah, guys. a girl ain't special unless you see or believe her to be special. She has just got the same assets as any other girl. She is gone for a reason. Don't try to get her back. You have around 4billion women in this world. Do you really think you would get someone better than the one that you let go? Seriously?? Do you really think she is more valuable than you really are? Think and act guys!
Begin to see that it was not even her capacity to love which made me feel special. It was my own, reflected back to me...by her. She's always lied, deceived, cheated on men and left them in the rain like wet dogs. NOT so loving behaviour in the first place...
I think you made lots of good points. I got to that point of being too into my ex, it was addictive like you said. And because of this I lost my sense of self respect and let her push my boundaries too far. I could see this happening and didn't not like that feeling of being to emotionally dependent on another person. No contact allows you to deal with that fear and get a sense of self back. When you get to that place you are much stronger. You need to get to the place where if she comes back you can set your boundaries without fear of walking away if she doesn't
Respect them. You basically have to be cool with being alone
Finally a person with common sense and logic towards dating and relationships.
You’re just a bad researcher. Alexander Grace, Pat Stedman, and TellYourSonThis have been around for years.
I wish I did this two years ago. It would have saved me months of confusion, heartache, and from desecrating my skin with a tattoo out of insecurity. I'm still healing and in a much better place now. Im removing this tattoo now, because it represents that darker time in my life. Once its finally gone, and even if there is permanent scarring, ive left that experience as a much stronger man
I don’t normally reply but loved your post,many things happen in life that we ask a higher power as to the why of it, but Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. It’s her loss!U didn’t coward to the feeling,U captured that feeling & lived. It doesn’t come around very often! U R a true find, absolutely a better man for having the courage to have’d lived, loved🤭✌️🦋
My first gf left me for another guy when I was 19 , it was an instant wake up call to how the world operates. I am now 43 and have never feared a breakup since , guess I’ve been red pill my whole adult life without even knowing it
My first girlfriend left me when I was 18years old,we fell in love when we was both 14years old
Oh and I’m sure that is a fulfilling existence for you with zero depth and intimacy. Sounds like FEAR AND INSECURITY TO ME NOT A MAN
U guys r scaring the shit out of me im 21 with having hard time to move on from my ex
Good video. It's about you. They are gone for a reason. It's not about getting them back. It is about you getting better.
Keep Moving Forward
Algorithm gods, blow this channel up!
They did
It's almost more than one month i am in no contact with her and its quite hard but you can actually do it just have faith in urself guys rather than to beg for someone who don't give u same respect n love back...the person who can't see ur efforts towards relationship and being in negative relationship...just focus on growing and learning things..and make urself a better high value man..So be strong just..✌️🤙🔥
This is the best video on this subject. Pure truth bombs here , Danny!
Thanks brother, appreciate the support
'No Contact' is a great way to help you begin the process of ultimately letting someone go. I know it is, in theory, supposed to help 'get them back' but after enough time has passed whereupon you should have taken the steps to improve your life: Exercise, having goals, accomplishing things, you will get to a point where you don't want them back.It's not rooted in hatred or anger, it's the realization that they really weren't that special in the first place.
Great insight!!! I really needed to read something like this. Thank you so much!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@edithrodriguezsoto1260 glad to hear it, I'm sure you will do great, best of luck 💯
The most powerful impression I ever left on a woman is going
permanently AWOL on her. To this day, I still have these women
trying to contact me over a decade later to get an answer as to
what they did wrong and I never answer back or give them any
closure.
Once a woman that you're in a relationship with decides that it's
a bright idea to disrespect you or put you through a sh*t test, all
you have to do is walk away and cut off contact permanently.
Leave her fermenting in her neuroticism and doubt. It's the most
powerful way to deal with them. Simply refuse them any info to
give themselves any sense of "closure".
Agreed. 💯
Also, don't give them access to a window to your life that they can
peek through from a safe distance. Block them so they can't get
any updated info on you whatsoever. It drives them even more crazy
to not get any answers on how you're doing lately.
it’s been over six months since my six year relationship ended. I ran into this video on month one and I’m here again five months later. I have never been more socially active. I look the best I’ve ever looked physically. and yeah, she definitely reached out twice. My only mistake was being eager to her phone calls. Other than that I just want to say no contact is the best thing you can do for yourself. Forget about your ex it ended for a reason, even if it was your fault, I’m glad I can take the lessons. I’ve learned to meet a better woman with a better version of myself.
A few years ago, I was really into this girl. I took her to movies, restaurants, bought her gifts, and spent two years doing everything I could to show her I cared. I asked her out twice, but each time, she rejected me and put me in the friend zone. After the second rejection, I decided to cut off all communication with her - and it worked like a charm.
Now, a few years later, I sometimes think about how lucky I am that things didn’t work out between us. She has messaged me multiple times since, but I haven’t responded. Even though I occasionally reflect on how she led me on during those two years, I genuinely wish her the best and hope she finds someone good. In the end, I know I came out ahead.
the act of getting back with an ex, shows her your scarcity mindset. her respect for you will never go Up, it will only do down more as she tries do do more of the stuff that lead to the initial separation in the first place.
Thank you and this is really helpful for me. It's been three months since my ex had broke up with me and I've been struggling on what I should be doing next. I'm finding being in no contact helping me heal my own wounds and to focus on myself instead of that one girl who left me and I would rather not bother with her since I know who she really is now. It's about time that I should let things go between me and her and to focus on loving myself more than ever now and getting to my purpose.
Left a somewhat quality woman over disrespect only regret is not commmunicating boundaries beforehand (I left after a pattern). Been back and forth a lot lately, Thank you 🙏🏾
Well spoken and explained,, good advice for many who are being strung along or being used until someone better comes along,,,
One of the better videos that explain why this process is important.
Like he said; this doesn't only apply to romantic partners. I'm older. Time is my most precious commodity. I simply don't have time or emotional bandwidth for other peoples drama or negativity. I've learned to see it right away. Watch what people do. Not what they say.
Great video man. I've been dealing with this myself for months and for me its been hard because before this one girl i pretty much shut myself for years not having any interest in relationships and finally taking that leap and trying again it all came crashing down and she got back with her ex and ghosted me and to top it all off I still have to see her from time to time because she works around where i live and I run into her way more then i want so its still a work in progress and anyone else going through it kudos and I have nothing but respect and love for all of you
Hi there, I thought you might like to hear from a woman’s point of view who’s gonna through same; she’s a Coward & did U a favor. Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. For some reason a higher power put her in your life & think of that beautiful feeling U felt; that’s the beauty of LOVE, it only comes around seldomly U had the courage to B all in, U R a rare find, I know it might hurt still but just think of the Man u have grown into B of this experience🤭✌️
Going through the same thing , no contact is the best way to deal with the loss . 😇 . I did it for my mental health . Once you make your mind up to let go , priceless . 🙏🏾👍🏾
Same. Here. Stay strong brother
Stay strong dude. No contact is to help you move on, not to get her back. You don't want her back.
Amen brother🎉 Had to do this after the last toxic relationship I was in. Changed my phone number,deleted email she had and didnt let her know my address lol she still reached out to a good mate of mine chatting shxt asking if I wanted stuff I left behind at her place - even though we had already said our goodbyes etc. Apparently she emailed too but I wouldnt know because as I said I deleted it😂. Very glad I did that. I know she only tried to contact me to twist the knife. Anything I left behind she knew I didnt want. Anyway. Great video.
P.S. would never recommend moving in with a woman. Have your own place and own space. Js
Good job! Did the same. Life has been on the up ever since.
No contact and gym work!
Gym reciprocates with unconditional love❤💪💯
Stay strong champs! Our time will come😎
The only thing I disagree with is dating someone as fast as possible when you're fresh out of a relationship or whatever. You should date someone bc you WANT to, not to get over someone else. That isn't fair for that person bc they may really like you, and you're just doing it to, "see that other women are out there." Everything else is spot on though.
you get to make that abundance mindset, and to that you need to spin plates
Its okay to love them you just have to live and love your mission more and thats where your strength comes from. If you master that then you wont be on the floor you will be in your mission fully and reaping all the huge rewards from it.
Day 13 no contact, it gets easier fellas, I have now seen other girls, no one interesting enough but I'm doing me.
How long did it take? I’m really going through it. I don’t know how to take my mind off it
Stop counting days guys
13 days and already “seen other girls” your ex is better off without you
@@merys333 😂😂
@@merys333 cope
powerful, no contact, was and is a relief, thank you so much
Bravo man! I just left mine and can walk away but I still love her after 4 years. But I’m walking, what will be will be.
My gf brokeup with me (5year realation) just 2 days ago, we were having already a "disconnection" with eachother from a couple of months already, she has a little girl that now has 8yo, now she want me to be there for her whenever i need her and to her little girl too, (because she afraid that she goes for an "abandoned relation" from me to her little child), and all this thing hit me really hard, more than i even know it could, so i told her a day ago that i understand all of the situations in her life and that she doesnt love me anymore, but i do love her and for that i wanted to cut all conections, chat, calls, photos, everything, its been 2 days but i think i can make it, focusing on work now and trying to understand my feelings everyday and not blaming and more focusing on what not to do and trying to be better, hope it works well. Hugs to every dude in here that's being trough a breakup, be strong, be smart, be better!!! (sorry my english)
how’s it going bro bro
i literally deactivated my socials and deleted every photo and video of us, since i caught her with another man at about two weeks ago,
the first week was hard, it was so hard that i literally focused on myself so much that i started to exercise and study harder to give my mind a stop, and here i am now, 2 weeks in and i’m feeling better and sharing my redemption as a man as
i started to care more about myself and treasure my worth as a loyal man that is starting to build himself from scratch as a lone wolf that is focusing on the present and accepting the past and building my future value as best as i could
This video might’ve just saved my sanity. I’ve been used by women to get the attention of other men, or to lift their spirits up because of my personality, then they leave me hanging once they get what they want. This stops now!Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I needed this badly! God bless you brother
I learned this lesson about 13 years ago now. It’s easy for me to move on when the time has come. Everything this guy is saying is spot on.
My gf of 2 years did this to me. It’s driving me crazy but I’ve been just focusing on myself. It’s even harder to move on when family and friends don’t wanna listen to you and just tell you to suck it up. Got my dog and that’s it. Just gotta keep going. You’ll love again and the pain is temporary
Keep your head up. I'm going through the same shit.
Cried in New years eve, do to hurt and not understanding what I did wrong! Woke up New Years Day at peace , no longer bothered, he is now last year toxic mess.. I'm so much happier and ready to do me! No contact 2 months 😊 but he's reached out to me and my kids! Setting boundaries..
Always remember that TIME HEALS everything. I’ve been wrecked so many times by women over the decades and all that works is time. Trust me
Time doessnt heal anything...it will only teach yoi how to live with pain
@@Dmzhkm That’s deep. Maybe you’re right
When she broke it off with me, it was the ultimate F U - but I took it in the chin and did not let it get to me. I deleted our chats right after since I did not want any reminders of her. Deep down I was angry but I turned it into fuel for motivation to do better for myself. I will not sit here and feel sorry for myself - I will get back to work and be the best version of myself.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Excellent advice 👌 Thank you, Sir. And all the best to those who are struggling. You will get over it. ❤
This is the absolute best video I've seen on this! You are 100000% right. I can't tell you how many points you hit on that spoke to me and I was honestly quite surprised you hit on those points!
Your channel will grow fast! Awesome quality in all aspects. You know what you are doing. 👊
Thank you bro 🙏
Bruv I was doing all these things without knowing officially. To be honest , if you’re doing this , Chin up boy , You’re one of the strongest men ❤️
I loved her but I got tired of reading the same ending of our story book. This woman kept lying, cheating, and scheming . I had to let that shit go and walk away. I was stupid to live a lie so long. For better or worse I learned so much and I hope I can move forward and make something positive of my experience. If you’re in this position have the courage to face the truth and help yourself out of that hole someone has and keeps dragging you in . Leave them behind don’t look back you’re not going that way.
I’ve been chatting with someone who I really like. She’s been pretty guarded but has let me in a bit. I wasn’t sure if she liked me as much so stepped back and gave her space. A few days in she messaged asking if I was ok and why I’d gone quiet.
I'm on day 7 of going no contact. There have been a couple times I almoooost reached out but I caught myself and didn't do it. Hasn't been easy but I know I'm doing the right thing.
I crumble after 3 days it is so hard
*No contact is such a powerful tool for self-healing and regaining control.*
Wow, best take on this subject I've come across so far 😮
Spot on!!! Going all out with no contact really helps in getting over someone.
No contact should never be done to gain the respect of the woman or to prove anything to her, it’s all about your self respect not her respect for you, or to “show her”
super video and big like and i want to say this to everyone going through a breakup LOVE URSELF AND PAY 110% ATTENTION TO YOURSELF. good luck to yall
Continuing my No Contact because it is the right thing to do but the pain lingers......doesn't even seem to lessen.......I guess it will be a long time before it dissipates.....am keeping busy with some sports and other projects but it is tough.
Keep going it gets better
How are you now?
How's it going bro?
@@TheHamburgler123 i can tell you that you start to forget that person, two months ago I felt heartbroken but its get better
This is to all my guys who are still thinking of going back when they reach out. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago and I went no contact, there were times she would reach out crying to me early on, and of course I would help her, but it eventually led me to blocking her. Then one day she reached out a final time which led me to eventually break. We tried being friends (her idea) it ended with me being bitter and jealous. I ended telling her that I couldn’t be friends and that it wasn’t for me, she ended up agreeing which confirmed that she had just used me to get over me and find someone else. But at least I still left on my own terms. Don’t do what I did. Move on the minute this person gives you up. Stay strong kings, love yourself and the rest will follow. I wish you all the best that have read this comment
Its the catch 22. Sometimes the relationship gets out of control and you have to hit the brakes. But you must accept she may not comeback. I havent spoken to my gf for about 10 days. While other say she will contact me, I dont think she will. Not all women deal with rejection the same. Some take it personally, that they arent good enough and grab another guy to forget. That being said I recently got a text from another girl I met 3 months ago. She is coming up to see me in Feb. Once you make that no contact you must accept it likely is over and you might as well go hang with other women because she is likely with another guy now. Dont use no contact as a tool to get a girl back odds are 60 per cent plus she is gone if she is reasonably attractive and has options.
Best no contact advice I have heard yet
I'm learning not to want someone thats bad for me .. I like how he says it . Exactly what I've been thinking. ... just be happy, single, guys .
Block them and then delete their contact. Even if you wanted to unblock them, you wouldn’t know which blocked number is theirs.
NO CONTACT: How to Do It Better. One thing to do is PUT THE PHONE DOWN!! Seriously, leave the phone at home once in a while! Stay off social media. Get a hobby, like archery or crafting; this will occupy your mind.
Don't allow her to invade your mind. You honestly think she's so important? Dip your finger in a bucket of water, pull it out, you see how fast that hole fills up. Everyone is replaceable. That's how your mind should be!
I broke no contact and I and I fucked up, now its time to really move on an dcontinue with no contact.💪🏼
After roughly 15-20 years I believe I have realized, no contact is working only on whom operation more from an ego side, especially having anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment "stlyes". Nowadays I philosophizing a lot about theese kind of topics. And the more I think and meditate about it the more I am raising the question to myself: why would anyone want someone "back" where no contact is working?
I should have seen this video a few months ago, I was in a relationship with a disrespectful woman, actually very dysfunctional person (adhd, traumas and insecurities) so I broke up with her multiple times but we had an amazing chemistry and sex life so we got together 5 times one way or the other! Recently I did it for the last time, I was fine but few days later I missed her and reached out to her, she went "no contact" so I'm the one had been wondering what happened but I'm sure I made the right decision breaking up with her 100% I just need to forget her once for all... Your explanation of why they don't deal well with rejection totally makes sense, every time I broke up with her, she went insane with insults Lol... Also I did burn all the stuff I got from her, total detachment! Thanks for the tips
She disrespected me 3 and a half weeks ago, she then went nc, its now christmas, she tried contacting me 1 week ago, again yesterday. Ive decided im better off without her, im maintaining nc, she'll never hear my voice again.
Good lad keep it up!
What did she say to disrespect you?
Asking to see if I can relate 🤔
this is all true, but it fucking hurts, its a sacrifice to let go your dreams with that person.
Agreed
I experienced a traumatic neck injury that affected my ability to speak and sing (singer here). At the same time, I witnessed a past lover-someone who told me she loved me more than her husband-get engaged and married to him.
The universe said, no no, you need time for YOU. She keeps messaging me saying she misses me after I stopped talking to her(you’re married!?)
Sadly, the truth is, her man is not satisfying her which is why she went to me. Even now that she’s married shes still in the process of realizing her childhood dream of marrying this guy is not really what she wanted. All of her friends telling her not to do it, red flag after red flag that the marriage is already broken -note-when we got intimate I had no idea that she was seeing anyone…
But lucky for me, while she figures that mess out, I can be at peace, practicing vocal exercises, building my strength, and doing work that I truly love. I lost myself for many years. Now I know my mission. It had nothing to do with a girl. It had everything to do with me. Rebuilding my magnetic field. With time. Patience. Early mornings. Great books. Great people. And most importantly: gratitude. 🙏
I am actually doing these to a man as a woman. Thanks!
if he breaks it first then he’s no man.
this site is for men only
We dgaf
Great clarity, keep posting content!
bro looks like deadpool
Literally😂
Thank you, man. This is very hard for me, even though my relationship with her was only 8 months. It’s very hard for me to go through this, and I’ve even begged her to come back. Please pray for me to recover quickly from this situation.
Woman getting rejected is insane. Its even worse if shes coming onto you and you say not right now 😅
In this situation rn waited 5 years for her to change her attitude now she tells me she feels rejected
I rejected a chick bc she ate McDonald’s before she came over and had stank breath. Told her I wasn’t feeling it and that she should leave 😂
Thank you for the advice. I've chosen to lose all contact with this person. It's hard. But I'm tired of being used only for her benefit. Only as a door mat, only as an emotional pillow, Only as a financial pillow. To constantly being disrespected. I'm afraid, but I look forward to a day I look back and tell myself I am so glad I did that. To better days ahead.
Needed to hear this man. Instant sub
The content and the delivery was A1! I love this and watched it 3x’s !
I'm doing this already and I agree with most of what you said, but I remember following you for mens fashion lol .. I didn't expect this content.
Yep I was rejected last year because I developed Peyronie's disease and she didn't want to stick around for me to heal completely while I was going through depression, then I noticed that she was dating someone, so I reached out to her and said wow that was quick, so last November she says oh I have no feelings for him it's you I want, so I started dating her and guess what happened in the last few days... dumped again. Love is a 2 way street.
I miss her so fucking much, she really was the light in my life, its was before her so depressing, i didn’t realise it at the time until she came into my life. I was ready to change and i started to change to show her i loved her but it was to late.
No contact is for getting over someone not for getting someone back. It may work on men but when a woman loses interest in you, cutting off all contact will not work. She will simply move on and find another person because if a woman lost interest in you, you did something wrong and killed the attraction. Not contacting her won’t magically recreate that attraction.
Strongly disagree, I have done this on several woman not so much that I wanted them back it just happened 😂. I lost interest in them, didn't want to break up with them. They got the hint and broke up with me. With in a month they all seem to come back.
To any male reading this perhaps it only worked with me. But if u try to implement NC. You must stick to ur Guns and not answer a txt ( cause they will test u) look at their social media anything. You'll know when its time. Dont wait around for her either go work on urselves so next( if she comes back) time. You are not the same little bitch she left
@@Tabooza Yeah but it was YOU who lost interest in the first place, not them. So basically you rejected them.
It works either way. I've been in plenty of rejections or rejecting and they have all come back to the point I've had to block a number. NC is a powerful leash and more so on women that understand they are losing something valuable, which, is ultimately what it is. When that positive value is recognized and missed, is when most come running back in a few weeks or months or so time.@@paris8168
@@BlackNinja2630 the moment you apply NC she goes for the chad & Tyrone’s - will she comb back i doubt it
@@comparecards5688 alWhy did you ping me???
All of this applies for women as well….truth
yup. gave my number to a girl 7 months ago. she hit me up a month ago ... the "relationship" lasted like 2 weeks until i was bored and had self respect and just made sure she broke up first so she feels guilty and IDC at this point
Longest journey you can make is from your heart to your head. Grieving someone who's not dead is the most messed up thing.
7:04 this one is the most powerful in my opinion because you're distracted thats why those people left you are normally move on faster than you
Great video, I'm still having trouble letting go of my seven-year romance. I can't seem to get over the concept of my ex-significant other, who I truly believed to be the love of my life, leaving me a month ago. Nothing has worked to get him back into my life, and I'm feeling helpless and frustrated. My heart still aches for him, and even though I've made an effort to move on, I can't envision myself with anyone else. Sorry to post this here, but I simply can't seem to get over missing him.
It's tough to let go of someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to get him back. Eventually, I had to turn to a spiritual counsellor for assistance.
How did you find a spiritual counsellor, by the way, and how can I get in touch with him?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual advisor with the ability to bring your ex back.
Father Obah Eze is who he is; he can assist you and possesses amazing powers.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
What we're missing in this society is not more 'roids or fake strength.
It's more kindness and understanding.
Strengths unto themselves.
If you were needy and desperate after breakup and they know you want the relationship. Never break no contact ever. It doesn't matter if you're the dumper or dumpee. You'll thank me later.
Excellent advice... I'm 2 weeks into no contact ( I actually blocked her number) why you may ask .. it's because I'm setting a clear boundary and not allowing her in my life anymore. Plus she was a covert narcissist. Never take them back .. whether a narcissist or not ... I completely agree with this guy. They are called ex's for a reason. Don't look back!
I'm a woman n Im going no contact because I have boundaries n self respect. I won't tolerate this man coming in n out of my life making me feel like a doormat. He ghosts me online with Random conversation (not even in a relationship) I move on not giving much thought because it was only online but then this loser comes back after five years Hoping I remw him, plays with my emotions n leaves again. I mean I'm a human being not a plaything. Guys human to human everyone needs to be treated with love n respect not just guys. Period.
This was such a well made video! Thanks for sharing
I followed this and it helped me a lot I am enjoying the freedom and I don't care anymore , but now the girl is getting obsessed over me and finding ways to contact me , hopefully she sees this video and get over me😂
My problem is that she happens to be my wife with my only son. It's been 14 months with no contact. Not only I miss her every second, I miss my 5 year old toddler every single time. Until today I do not see any end to my pain.
The most painful part is praying that 'Please God make me forget her' but still wishing 'Please God bring her back'.
Came back to your wife. Be a men. Take care the your family ...
I’m dealing with the same thing far as praying to God to remove her from my heart but at the same time I want to ask him to please bring her back I know I need to keep walking away