Talking about “chess” after a big life event like a pregnancy can be so difficult, especially when

Talking about “chess” after a big life event like a pregnancy can be so difficult, especially when partner’s have desire discrepancies.
Some tips for how this conversation could have gone better:
- Partner A probably shouldn’t have listed all the ways chess decreased over time - this automatically put Partner B on the defensive. Instead, they could have said: “I’ve been thinking about how much I love playing chess with you, and I’m missing it. Can we talk about how to bring it back into our relationship?”
- Partner B could have asked some questions of their own before jumping into defensiveness. Things like: “What made you think of this right now?” “What do you miss most?”
In the end, they agreed to talk about this at a later time when emotions aren’t so high. What is most important is that they really stick to that plan! It can be easy to push something off until it disappears, and we don’t want that to happen with something so vulnerable.
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