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Alyson Bullock, MFT & Relationship Coach
Добавлен 10 апр 2023
I teach couples how to empathize & connect through clear communication & self-awareness. Speaker - Creator - Therapist. See alysonbullock.com for more.
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Both things can be true: The need for safety when sharing vulnerable things, AND the need for
Both things can be true:
The need for safety when sharing vulnerable things, AND the need for honesty regardless of discomfort.
Dishonestly should never be justified in a relationship.
(Sorry for the bad audio quality on this one!)
Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This will not apply to everyone.
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The need for safety when sharing vulnerable things, AND the need for honesty regardless of discomfort.
Dishonestly should never be justified in a relationship.
(Sorry for the bad audio quality on this one!)
Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This will not apply to everyone.
#communication #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #couplestherapy #couple #dating #marriage #marriageadvice #mft #mentalhealth #wellness #love #problemsolving #negotiation #conflictresolution #conflict
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Ooooof
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Ooooof. This one’s a doozy. Are her expectations too high? Or is partner A conveniently getting away with doing less? What do you think?? Let me know in the comments! ⬇️ Mismatched expectation are common. We form our expectations of a partner from things like our parents relationship, movies and tv, pop culture, societal norms, trending pop psychology language. There is no one size fits all, bu...
Watch until then the end for the explanation of when/how excuses and explanations CAN be
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Watch until then the end for the explanation of when/how excuses and explanations CAN be
Dating advice is triiiiicccckkkkyyyyyyyy but remember: you can’t not communicate
Просмотров 648Месяц назад
Dating advice is triiiiicccckkkkyyyyyyyy but remember: you can’t not communicate
We all know that assuming makes an @$$ outa you and me! Here are 5 ways you can ask to STOP
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We all know that assuming makes an @$$ outa you and me! Here are 5 ways you can ask to STOP
Went live for at home date-night - reading the intro to Til Stress Do Us Part by @lizlistens ! We
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Went live for at home date-night - reading the intro to Til Stress Do Us Part by @lizlistens ! We
…those are moments when you may be starting to abandon yourself in the relationship
Просмотров 95Месяц назад
…those are moments when you may be starting to abandon yourself in the relationship
Do you know why you get so defensive? Comment “WORKBOOK” and I’ll send you the link to find out
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Do you know why you get so defensive? Comment “WORKBOOK” and I’ll send you the link to find out
If you’re new here…we’re not talking about ♟️
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If you’re new here…we’re not talking about ♟️
Talking with @lizlistens about her new book Til Stress Do Us Part! Pre-order anywhere where books
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Talking with @lizlistens about her new book Til Stress Do Us Part! Pre-order anywhere where books
Some of the hardest conversations in a relationship are the ones when you have to own up to behavior
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Some of the hardest conversations in a relationship are the ones when you have to own up to behavior
Talking about “chess” after a big life event like a pregnancy can be so difficult, especially when
Просмотров 362 месяца назад
Talking about “chess” after a big life event like a pregnancy can be so difficult, especially when
Relationships take effort and intention
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Relationships take effort and intention
Contempt, disdain, disregard, superiority, eye rolling
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Contempt, disdain, disregard, superiority, eye rolling
Is everything gaslighting? How do you know when something is truly a memory issue, difference of
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Is everything gaslighting? How do you know when something is truly a memory issue, difference of
(♟️PART 3) Want to play more chess? ♟️ Make sure BOTH PARTNERS are enjoying themselves: - take the
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(♟️PART 3) Want to play more chess? ♟️ Make sure BOTH PARTNERS are enjoying themselves: - take the
Things change when you take ownership for your part in the problem
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Things change when you take ownership for your part in the problem
Hear me out…Are we saying fluffy nice things to our partner like “I’m so proud of you” and “I’m so
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Hear me out…Are we saying fluffy nice things to our partner like “I’m so proud of you” and “I’m so
Negative Sentiment Override can be overcome!
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Negative Sentiment Override can be overcome!
*Sometimes it will take more than 10 minutes or more than once a day. Everybody is different.
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*Sometimes it will take more than 10 minutes or more than once a day. Everybody is different.
Continuation of last week’s reel on ♟️♟️♟️ It takes effort
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Continuation of last week’s reel on ♟️♟️♟️ It takes effort
Let’s get ahead of infidelity! It starts with a crush
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Let’s get ahead of infidelity! It starts with a crush
Comment “DECK” for the link to the free couples card deck! So many couples struggle with dividing a
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Comment “DECK” for the link to the free couples card deck! So many couples struggle with dividing a
Antidotes to defensiveness: ✨curiosity ✨reflective listening ✨breathing through uncomfortable emot
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Antidotes to defensiveness: ✨curiosity ✨reflective listening ✨breathing through uncomfortable emot
Is this relatable or….📱📳🤳 Also this isn’t a gendered thing
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Is this relatable or….📱📳🤳 Also this isn’t a gendered thing
No matter how you feel about porn use, what is important is that you and your partner both feel sexu
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No matter how you feel about porn use, what is important is that you and your partner both feel sexu
Both things can be true: The need for safety when sharing vulnerable things, AND the need for honest
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Both things can be true: The need for safety when sharing vulnerable things, AND the need for honest
Send this to your partner if you want to try one of these techniques! 1
Просмотров 4685 месяцев назад
Send this to your partner if you want to try one of these techniques! 1
The kid is focused on eating!!
Well done
This
I could say so much behind this video. Some may see corny or dumb but imagine if u always gave ur partner the blame but u never took the blame. Balance it out
I love the way the man expressed his feelings .This was a good example of a couple talking it out and being honest of their feelings. They are learning and wud have a better marriage and be better parents if they stay mindful of what they say and how they say it.
Your kids are going to be the best people fr, this is perfect, liked and subscribed 🔥
Cringe 😂😂😂😂
Gay
Guide
Who talks like that 😂
Gay
4 things to get going More intimacy on the male side Better food on the woman side Frequent sex Respect each other enough to be vulnerable together
What a threatening statistic, if you do ehat i say im 80% leas likely to leave you
Agreed.. fuck women's opinions... happy wife no life
I honestly like your content but the approach is so robotic it honestly is kinda funny and a little cringe. The message is good, just say it like normal humans, not alien robots lmaoo 🤣🤣
Gay
Love watching this channel. Love that i will never be in a relationship again
No wrong answer=you're a baby just a wittle baby
That passive aggressive method infuriates me more. It’s like saying “no offense” when it’s clear it’s not. Plus if he was real he would have answered the same way, just depends on how his day was going.
Why didn’t she still offer to pick up the toilet paper lol
"No wrong anwser" sers people up to think something important related to blame is going to get brought up, it creates tension ehen there is no need to.
Oh ef that! Listen people! Marriage is a points system! You gotta earn those points by being right/proving them wrong or doing something nice.
This is a perfect example of passive aggression. Just ask “Did you get toilet paper?” If you are speaking to someone about if they have done something, there is no need speaking to them about their internal state when they did or did not do something or they made a decision.
Why not just start out saying, "I think that I forgot to write TP on the shopping list." At least THAT is not condescending. Just the truth. Then the couple can decide who has time to stop & get some. No "incorrect" answers. Taking responsibility. No transferring blame.
no wrong answer is condescending
it depends. If the first person often tries to shift blame - the reaction of second person is justified. If this is just a meaningles, random phrase "did you remember" when there was nothing for him to remember (the second person was not aware TP is needed because they were not aware TP at home is running low) then the reaction of second person is not justified, although possibly understandable. There is also third option. The man was aware TP is running low and the girl knew this. Then they both have a challenge before them: discuss the topic honestly. My take: both are equaly responsible for "remembering" something, used by both, needs restocking. Ergo - the man reaction is definitely not justified. UNLESS the guy has a valid reason he can be excluded from remembering what he clearly knew (memory issues, relevant health issues, some kind of previous agreement e.g. "I keep forgeting about this stuff - please remember for me and I'll make you your favored diner once a week. Deal?")
Oh my god, what utter trash
No wrong answer is actually quite annoying and condesending.
Always heighten your tone and overuse pet names (I realize this only really applies to familial/romantic relationships). Ex: My love, did you get the toilet paper?
My moms like this but I think no wrong answer would make her mad
Nope, thats when you say you'll get it next time and just use some from the secret stash
This is great. And a perfect reminder for me to stop setting expectations. They only lead to disappointment.
If youre actually happy to be back itll boost your mood.
Human emotion is more complex than that. And if you live your life thinking it's that simple, all of your relationships will fail. I was treated rather unfairly by my niece celebrating her 18th birthday yesterday. She was overwhelmed by her parent's divorce and having to spend the day away from her mother. According to you, if she were happy and grateful for the party we threw, her mood would have been boosted. Sometimes another situation (like being stressed and drained from a trip, or dealing with a stressful family situation) trumps the good stuff. Or might even make the good stuff painful. For example, the woman in this video might be upset because she's too tired to enjoy something she was looking so forward to. I'm saying this as someone who genuinely cares... unsimplify the way you perceive human emotions. It will help you a lot.
Fair vs TRUTH. I'll take truth any day
I cry a lot and it can make things difficult when we communicate. This was really helpful to see how it could make my man feel, and how I can do better in those moments. Thank you.
Lol
Hello, your good name is apostle right.
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boomers not getting it in the comments in 3...2...1.....
This example is toxic. Nothing to do with which parent it is, a meeting beats “cleanup break”. The healthy thing to do here is for the parent who does not have a meeting to support the one who does have a meeting by dealing with the kid even though this was “meeting parent’s day” by agreement. And this should be the dynamic both ways. If “cleanup parent” had a meeting and it was their day, the other parent should have covered as well. In summary: Dynamic partnesrhip > strict agreement > one default parent
We have 3 kids under 4. When my husband comes home he does the dinner for the toddlers while I care for the baby. He used to put the toddlers in bath, but my little girl is yelling at the top of her lungs for me the eldest boy also craves my attention. So I do have to be there for all of them even though my husband would take the burden off my shoulders if it was possible. So he does the housework as it doesn't whine and yell that I must complete it.
Naa you juat need to teach the dad to do it like you do it and then set the boundary to the children that dad does it also with them
@@vop4813 I don't need to teach him anything. He has done it for months because my baby was high risk and for the last trimester of my pregnancy he did it fine. The children need their mother. Nothing wrong with that.
Woah this video has gotten some weird comments. In this skit both parents are working parents even tho they may both be work from home parents and one parent is pushing their agreed upon shifts unto the other parent. Also alot of people are assuming one parents job is more important then anothers? Implying the mother is the defult parent. Ill give you an example of how this skit applies in my life. I am the defult parent 90% of the day, but when my husband comes home from work, to the point he goes to sleep, i shift the role over to him so i can have a break. After he goes to bed i am the on call parent through the night so he can sleep for work. But when he says, can you do this or help with this because im tired/you didnt work as hard as i did today. Or when he says he cant change a poopy diaper by himself? I do all the parenting by myself 9:30pm to 5:30pm everyday and even more when my husband is on call
How is your at home tasks more important than a work meeting?? Delusional
if I was a guy, I’d leave someone acting like that😅. Your boundaries sound like you hate being a mother. I hope these videos are jokes lol
This is so silly! Im a momma, and im going to pick up our sick child. It's not an issue. Im the primary caregiver in my family. We dont share parenting dynamics 50/50.
That's nice for your family. Doesn't mean it's silly that that's not how it works in another family
Grumpy Mcgrumpster and telling my hubby to change his mood would lead him to fly off the handle lol! But all of these other ones are fabulous. Different strokes for different folks!!
Hmm I mean yes but what if the breadwinner gets reprimanded for missing the meeting? They don’t miss the meeting then the kid has to wait in the office for the entire duration of the meeting? Respectfully black and white things don’t work when the world is full of grays.
Workers are expected to parent either way. If you don't want to parent, don't knock people up.
They're both winning bread
Thank you for illustrating this dynamic with this skit. It's really eye-opening.
Oops, you accidentally called your husband "teammate" 😅
Love this content... you're also really pretty ❤😄
I don't get it.
I really don't know about this. Life is too messy, and an unwillingness to compromise can easily lead to resentment. This example really didn't help either. Sick kid and an important meeting seems like pretty good reasons to consider being a little flexible about the schedule. I know parent B is supposed to come off as the correct one, but it honestly came off as a little patronizing.
This is the compromise it used to be only one parent was doing things, and this is their way of fixing it. Also, they can ask ways change it if they feel the goal of removing the “default parent” has been achieved
It’s a slippery slope though when “that one meeting” starts popping up more and more often. Ask, and if the answer is no then that’s the answer.