Serena Williams raises awareness about financial abuse
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- Tennis champion Serena Williams is a powerhouse when it comes to her sport, her fashion line and motherhood. But she's also using her status as a force for good. Williams is now the national ambassador the Allstate Foundation Purple Purse program. They released a PSA which sheds light on financial abuse, a serious issue that's affected a close friend of hers. Jericka Duncan reports.
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Financial abuse is not limited to domestic abuse/relationships. It applies to family members, caregivers, etc.
Lots of folks in the comments saying their own parents financially abused them...so sad :(
That is what " domestic" means, its just got so popular within" love"relations, if someone has that effect on your finances, they r that close, it makes it domestic, this is def Narcissism at its highest! If not its just your boss or the "system" this is VIOLENCE. No hitting needed
It probably occurs more so with caretakers and children
@@ecclairmayo4153 meaning their mothers
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Parents can also financially abuse their children.
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This is the worst! I've heard of people using their kids social security numbers
@Cherry Muse I hope and pray The Lord will help and vindicate you.
Absolutely
@Alexis Co.
It's called, "Singlemotherhood."
This form of abuse is when one intimate partner has control over the other partner's access to economic resources, which diminishes the victim's capacity to support themselves and forces them to depend on the perpetrator financially. Economic/Financial Abuse also includes the control of someone's present or future earning potential by preventing them from obtaining a job or education.
Having one child as a single mother and the household is operating under one sole income stream, not to include government assistance, it does not help when the same mother creates an additional child or two, with some more than that. The child's or children's future eaning potential is at stake due to dropping out of high school, teen or unadult ill advised pregnancy, not being taught the basics life skills needed for proper transition through adulthood, and many other factors.
We see it everyday with the number of adults who came out of broken or unstable household child or teen, all to do nothing more than continue the cycle as an adult and inflict it upon their children.
Financial abuse is just another form of power and control.
Yup. It looks like maybe the first step to physical abuse
Exactly. Been since the beginning of time. And its up to YOU to control and take power for yourself. In other REAL news the cops are shooting innocent Black people through their own damn windows!!! Im waiting to hear about some celebrity to HAVE THE GUTS to "lend their voice" to those kind of REAL ISSUES!!!
And women are the most guilty not men in modern times
I had been the victim of this abuse for 26 years. I finally divorced him for 4 years now. Praise God.
Carole Elijio Thank God you got out 🙌🏾
Carole Elijio amen! How are you coping
Good for you 🍯
Bianca Lord Well that first experience have taught me well to look for better qualities in a guy - handling of finances was one of them. I now have a wonderful husband who lets me keep 90% of my salary to myself. I only help out with 2 of the utilities and fuel for my car 😇
Keisha0306 Amen. I was so young and naive and was destined to have a man by my side for all the wrong reasons. I have been matured and learned to love me first!
I’m a victim of financial abuse from my Job.
Me to!!!
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I recently joined a company and I'm still in training and something just isn't adding up. I feel exploited and I'm worried it's a scam but I'm desperate for a job
@@zusiphesikayi2390 I feel you! Don't give up looking for better job.
Cherry Muse
That's why there's also a choice to stay on that side of the border use that talent, gusto, commitment fix YOUR homeland, so we can sneak in clog up your highways, Wal-Mart, Menards, restaurants etc,.
Being single is nice
Not really! Just budget your money and don't abuse it my over draft charges and credit card abuses! Never Co-sign for anyone!
I love being single. It's so much easier!!
IKR I thought being single was lonely, but it’s stress free, peace of mind, and keep your sanity from all the pain, and drama free. F**k relationships they’re so fake now these days.
Being single *and* living by yourself!
@@ecclairmayo4153 Absolutely!
There is also women who financially abuse men too. This is not just a women's issue.
Tommye Sardin yeah it’s called the family court system and child support.
My father did this to my mother for soooooo long that it broke my heart. I'm happy she now controls her own finance.
In so glad she found the strength and means to get out of that relationship
@@ecclairmayo4153 it took an affair for it to happen. I also just give her money to have cause of her struggle still haunts me.
Daniella Your father wouldn’t let your mother have any money?
@@genevawelch9865 it's common
Can a man be a victim of Financial Abuse when his woman constantly spends all the money ect.
Women dont want to here about that
Absolutely. Not sure if it’s abuse? Maybe. Marital Robbery maybe ? Lol But seriously if someone you trust/love is putting you in a bad financial situation, that could leave you homeless or hungry or lots of other things taken away and that’s not ok! They say the #1 reason for divorce is finances. 😕
If the spending is causing fights, bills not to be paid on time, lying about money it's definitely abuse.
Yes
Yes
I've been divorced, and I'm a survivor of financial abuse, domestic violence, etc.
I'm so glad you found the means and the strength to get out!
@@ecclairmayo4153 Thank you so very much. It took years of educating myself to understand what domestic violence, and abuse, really means. I something was wrong, but couldn't understand what the problem was. The more I educated myself, and learned self love, I walked away and never looked back after being married for 16 years, with 4 children, and physically disabled. It's not always easy to see, my heart and prayers goes out to all those who are currently still struggling.
Same
Have you heard of Andrew Yang? He is running for president and has a plan to provide every adult with $1000/month income with no strings attached. This is income that travels with you. He often talks about what this would mean to women in abusive relationships. Yang2020.com
My parents did this to me. God himself sent my my husband, who basically gave me the power to take what was mine and leave the situation. Thank you Serena for bringing awareness to this!
Alex my parents did this to me too. A lot of people do not know this can happen with narcissistic parents. Congratulations on leaving. I'm so thankful that I left too.
My parents did so too. It took me years to finally leave them for good but it wasn’t easy.
Cherry Muse I totally get you. Both my parents were Narcs too. I was the scapegoat in my family so I had to cut them off. I made the decision in 2016.
I wanna be sent a husband or atleast a boyfriend 🙁
I'm so sorry to hear this happening from the people who you trust the most on this entire world: parents. That is a special kind of evil
Does college loans count as financial abuse??? 🤔
I know someone who would make the children take out more loans than they needed so the parent could spend the refund check.
Lol
they wont answer that lol
Yes that’s the real abuse!
It can be but you really should be smarter than that.
We don't talk about this enough.
I dont think we talk about this ever.
@@camilogomezkeep2324 we're talking about it rn. Keep up
Agreed
You right men dont talk about this enough. But time has change and men are opening their mouths
We also don’t talk about women who use sex to abuse men by withholding it from their partners as punishment or to manipulate
Financial abuse is part of those who are narcissist, sociopathic or psychopaths. I'm glad people are talking about all this to stop these sick folks! 👏👏👏👏👏 great job Serena🌷🌷
It's the first step to physical abuse I believe
33ladyRAM Get your own money.
33ladyRAM Yes because they are all about power & control
You mean people like you women
We need to talk about women who use or withhold sex in relationships to control their partners behavior. That is abusive as well
This is why it's very important for women to have their own money and never be manipulated into thinking that it's a man's job to be in charge of finances.
Always gave a separate stash just in case his true colors start to show...
Vic Wilson tell em again they wanna be taken care of on their terms Mann so sad how women are being manipulated nowadays
@Vic Wilson - more than 85% of domestic abuse victims are women
Or to let a man take care of you lock, stock, and barrel. It limits your freedom and allows you to be controlled.
Men should not be scammed into marriage. It has no benefit for them. Women want to be taken care of and control the finances.
Serena looks great keep this look and the soft brown eyebrows
It's still a MTF...
That's was the first thing I noticed was how good Serena looked! Motherhood and marriage clearly has been good for her. She has never looked better. More importantly this is a shining example why it's important for celebrities/athletes to lend their voices for a cause. I had never heard the term "financial abuse" it has made me aware and question some of my habits and behavior. I got here because I saw Serena and said DAYUM!!!
Ben Fardin the same reason Rhonda Rousey has that shape, they’re athletes who work out constantly! Why don’t you try it?
No she dont.
EYES WIDE OPEN 😆
Financial Abuse needs to be defined, identified, isolated and categorized in the LAW, as per the legal system so a person whom falls victim to any predator which inflicts, accruse, creates or imposes this kind of particular abuse can be identified and prosecuted in accordance of federal laws.
What can we do? How can you regulate that?
@the LOGICian - theBeofox that is exactly why, females and males fall pray, that is why there needs to be regulations put in place.
I'm so glad people are speaking up about this ...
Is she controlling or managing. There's a difference
@@msphasha6321 what are you talking about ? You dont know what people been through we are talking about women who cant leave abusive relationships because of the abuser controlling the money..TF
Me too, I'm sure a lot of pwoppe6are delong with this silently
I know a women going through this so sad that she doesn’t realise it’s happening 😔
Rebecca Richardson ahh she can leave
Naw she's probably terrible with the money.
Send her the video anonymously
Are you also sad when men are abused with alimony and child support? Women take more than half of a man's assets, even the children. Men have been getting raped for years, can't say that I'm sorry for the small percentage of women classified as "financial abuse victims."
Financial abuse is real! I’m glad I clicked on this video.
me to
Good they are finally shedding light on this
This campaign must be spread around the world.
African women are financially abused to the core.
I have been trough this.....
Thrown?
True
I'm willing to bet it's just as bad here in the states, but its kept so quiet...
@@ecclairmayo4153 that's what makes me afraid of this blind exploitation.
Here in Africa most ladies are the ones who go to the market for sale or to the field and once they get some money they are robbed by their husbands for some money for cigarettes or drink.
There is some subtle form now because of the massive unemployment where the male are at home then they don't help because culturally it's not acceptable and then they end up drinking a lot not helping beating the only one who works taking the money and we to keep them happy and we also want to keep a man who will give us a name we just keep quiet about everything and anything.
So it's not so different from any African state the problems are the same with different names and color... We women end up with our kids and having to support them by ourselves some prefer to do it with their husbands by their side but they are the ones who support the family and their husbands addiction.
@@TheNewTomboy my English lol I'm thinking in Portuguese and writing in English.
Help me out with a better word.
Spread?
Thank you Serena and AllState for making this public! Financial Abuse is a real situation with some family and friends that I know.
I'm glad somebody is finally bringing this to light as well, because many times it's the first step to physical abuse
My friend is going thru this right now.
Show her this video!!
What's sad is if you tell her, she probably would get upset with you instead of face the fact that she is being abused :(
This happens with a lot of immigrants too..
Yes! Probably their way of handling things in their country! The women didn't work and stayed home to care for the kids and kept the home up! She is lucky if she got any money! He made it, he spent it! 🙄
I was a victim and l know what this does to one mentally.
So having an allowance as an adult affects one negatively?
People under the age of 16, living with their parents or guardian have allowances. Every healthy adult is capable of managing money.
@@jodrew1845 dont you mean under 18. my parents gave us allowances until we were adults.
@@allstr8peopledeservetodie10 No I do not. I've interacted with many people of varying ethnicities, whose parent's repeatedly began reducing certain support mechanisms around the age of 16. One of those being weekly allowances. Now this doesn't mean that when their child needs something, funds are still withheld. It simply means that this is many times, especially when the child is working, the parent is injecting some deeper understanding of austerity and budgeting into the conversation. This allows for an earlier preparation for leaving the nest, after all college is right around the corner. If you don't know how to manage your fund's, college can become a very uncomfortable experience. I cannot tell you how blatantly obvious it is to meet people who were not trained this way. They're generally financially unstable and spend money like water. That's been my experience.
Been there and I completely agree.
Before people get married they need to have an agreement in writing. You dont have to give up your financial freedom.
This agreement doesnt mean crap. Judge will throw it out and favor this woman needs
My goodness! Serena, speaks the truth! I've known women in this situation! That's why I have always had my own accounts! 🙄
Always! Never be dependent on anyone else
And what about financial abuse when you put money to the side for bills and your SO spends it! Or they keep over-drafting the account?? They got left a long time ago but that definitely exists as well. If I can’t make money with you, save, or trust your spending habits we can’t be together. I dealt with one relationship after college with those issues and moving forward I just refuse. If you’re not adding to the equation you are part of the problem...
I was once friends with a young lady...her boyfriend would intimidate or punk her for her money....he once spent their rent money causing the family to become evicted.
AMEN🌷🌷 I wished I had learned that early on instead of spending 12 years with someone who financially manipulated the entire relationship.. I pray people watch for the red flags as they are there if you acknowledge what you see is true.
Many women ruin their marriage by overspending. Loose women seek excuses to shake their butts before the masses. They call it twerking. I love you Serena and all but stop playing and follow Jesus Christ everyone. Amen.
As for the video:
Just another wicked excuse of the Jezebels to continue to promote their anti-Christ agenda. It's another scheme of the enemy that has destroyed America and the world. Jesus Christ gave specifics concerning why divorce is allowed and such madeup social construct called "financial abuse" is NOT a righteous reason to divorce.
Jezebels hate obeying their husbands and seek to find a million ways around it. So sad and shameful it is. Repent and follow Jesus Christ everyone. The blessed Lord shall soon return. Amen.
Apostle Thaddeus
The Ministry of Pure Truth
All glory be to God. Amen.
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love Grace 😂🤣 ok, sure jan
I know my Indian coworker is!! she doesn’t have control over her own paycheck... she would sometimes pay for all our meals using her card so she can have cash!!!
Can happen in any culture. A lot of white woman who call themselves free are in financially abusive marriages. A lot of Indian women control their husbands through money. Don’t spread extra racist rhetoric, the world doesn’t need it.
Now! That is sad!!😥
A A Indian is not a race btw.
A topic we all need to know about.
Just another wicked excuse of the Jezebels to continue to promote their anti-Christ agenda. It's another scheme of the enemy that has destroyed America and the world. Jesus Christ gave specifics concerning why divorce is allowed and such madeup social construct called "financial abuse" is NOT a righteous reason to divorce.
Jezebels hate obeying their husbands and seek to find a million ways around it. So sad and shameful it is. Repent and follow Jesus Christ everyone. The blessed Lord shall soon return. Amen.
Apostle Thaddeus
The Ministry of Pure Truth
All glory be to God. Amen.
Sounds like "they" dont want men to be financially responsible in the household.
Good information. Wake up people. Control is not good in any relationship or system.
This type of thing leads to physical abuse too
Looks like a lot folks in the comments still don’t know financial abuse is. I see a lot comments about if a woman just gets a job, she wouldn’t be financially abused🙄. Google is your friend, dummies🥴
They are learning!
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Literally, they just explained it on the freaking video. Some people just don't use their brain 🤦
EcClair Mayo learning to be lazy and use google wtf grow up google isn’t research it knows based off your past and views what you want to see and gives you that that’s why relationships and families are failing because everyone just wants to feel good and be told what they wanna hear
What about a woman who takes a mans hard earned money away from him is that financial abuse?
That's a warning sign that I definitely pay attention to. When a man starts talking about how I spend MY MONEY, they gotta GO! Separate finances, bank accounts etc, PERIOD!
ALWAYS!! Unless you both are into sharing and agree to what is spent; keep him out of your accounts!
@@Chutney1luv If that's the case you might as well remain a girlfriend.
@@Chutney1luv this is not ideal for marriage. perfect for girlfriend/ boyfriend type situation
I'm financially abused everytime I give my wife my credit card.
You gone be even more financially abused when she files for divorce
🤣😂😂yo
Im the only one tocontrol my money.
Lewis Lemons III for what?
Excellent!
Doesn't this apply to sports college students making the college tons of money?
The college students should be studying and taking a financial courses; while there! Financial abuse, that Serena is speaking of is for couples! College is a Institution!
@Kessa R yea but thats only a very very small percentage. And I agree it's wrong but alot of those athletes are also dropping the ball. Free college education and connections and most of them don't even take advantage of that.
How about when someone's always in a crisis and keeps on needing money when in reality they dont they just dont want you to have any money it's not just controlling the finances its guilt tripping too
That's definitely financial abuse tied to control
Domestic abuse is not only between romantic partners but also family as well. I was being abused by my parents and they both emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially abused me for years. I didn’t know I was being abused or that I was experiencing domestic violence until I sought help. I come from a line of bipolarism, schizophrenia, and Narcissistic Personality Disordered people on both sides. I wouldn’t wish what I went through on my worst enemy.
Parents, children, aunts uncles. I've heard of all types of financial abuse stories
I went through it it..disorders that are unchecked...living with evil that is kept hidden..its my Ernest can be life saving to anyone who is going through this and doesn't have a support from outside..THIS IS REAL .AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE..
This has opened my eyes, kudos to person who said google it. I never knew or heard of this in way of being abused. Thank you
This is why I don’t believe in shared accounts and our money. You should have a common “bills” account but keep separate accounts to use your money how you want to use it.
My ex would shut off credit cards and bank accounts and say that I was the one who was financially irresponsible. Yet he would be buying stuff.
You are leaving out some of your story.
H1GHD3FF Like what? That he was the financially irresponsible one. But would blame and abuse me
Some men knows this too well, its call child support!!
Child support is to help raise the child. If the woman is keeping you from your child or trying to manipulate you for more money than yes that's also financial abuse
"At least he doesnt hit you..." What?!?! I cant believe people actually say that to other human beings.
I hear that all the time from old folks. It all depends on your circle.
@@Domeng09pran plenty of folks from the '40s '50s '60s subscribe to this ideology.
Get a job cut before i slap yah with this $1000 watch i bought with MY MONEY
This is exactly why I’m working so hard to have financial stability ON MY OWN! Part of the reason I created my own RUclips channel. I do not want to suffer from this. I pray for the ladies (and maybe men too!!) who have and are experiencing this 💗
Money is only one of the issues. Mental stimulation and preparation are things people overlook. Rich or broke you have to spot signs of abuse.
Bro james yes I understand that! I was Just commenting on the subject of the video 💗
Excellent reporting.
SERENA, the greatest athlete......ever!! Period....
Agreed!!!!
@Terry Kowalewski name another athlete at a individual level who has dominated like her. Also who gave birth came back and won more championships also who had a life-threatening disease came back won more championships...... I'll wait
@@illa6247 Wow. The most dominant athlete ever. She isnt even a top 1000 athlete all time. Imagine actually thinking this lmaaao
@@BlackOwnedDollars Name another athlete at an individual level that has been as dominate and consistent as long as she has
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Thanks to this video am now aware of what
Financial abuse 🤔...
thanks for the knowledge..
Please lobby about this issue here in Colombia.
Yes I love it now do something about child support financial abuse.
Find more forums for this topic, please!!
They always say it’s a friend I no
I lived thru this! It's a nightmare.
How? Didn't you have a job? Was his name on your Bank account or your Credit Card? How can someone else control your own money that you earned and is in your own name & account. Or do you think that his money that he earns is your right and you are entitled to it? Your partners money is your partners money and your money is your money. It is not possible for someone else to control money you earned unless you are thinking money he earns belongs to both of you.
I'm so happy you were able to find the means and the strength to get out!
My father was financially abusive among other things. He was taking half of my paycheck when I was a teenager. I was never allowed to drive and had to pay him gas money.
Good Lord! He pimped you out and made you pay for living there & being his daughter! Where was your Mom? 🙄
Cecilie Noble she passed from a heart attack.
I'm so glad you are able to get out of that situation and move on with your life. Its especially sad because your parent is supposed to be the one person you trust the most
EcClair Mayo thank you 🙏 I appreciate it. Telling my story is healing
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U were forced to help out. Thats not financial abuse
My friends ex used take his credit card and say she was going out for groceries or bills but would go shopping.
This sounds like "let me spend the money how I see fit, ain't no man gonna tell me what I can and can't buy" ... 🤑😁.
That’s exactly what it is.
Exactly. We officially live in bizarro world.
ExtraOrdinary MUSIC
True that's the immature, unreasonable mindset of delusional females these days.
The Tough Group 👍
Malcom Sazon 👍
Oh here I thought this was awareness on anger management.
I noticed something in Asian culture that made me question this. The person earning the money gives all of it to the one who stays at home. The one who stays at home then gives pocket money to the one who brought in the income. Sometimes gender is irrelevant, but where does this go? Is it part of abuse?
Coz America, you pick causes that are truly valid, yes. But your implementation of change sucks big time, you use them to mess up many cultures that you have no history about. You verbalize and condemn some things, so I feel that this should be treaded on very carefully.
Each culture is different, on how they handle their finances! Finances are on an individual basis! Most of Asia, got their wealth from America and not paying back loans to America! Thanks to Nixon! 🙄
@@Chutney1luv your reply didn't even make sense. Just some propaganda. You conparing a whole country to individual ideals. American family structure is almost non existent. We should start taking ideas from other cultures to be honest.
@@brotherLee340 I was not condemning, I was saying that this should be treaded on carefully coz America in general not just on this topic have picked causes, which frankly are valid, but they don't take time to learn about how in other cultures it might be differently treated or accounted for. So they start condemning that culture. The Asian thing is just one example.
The implementation of change is what they should be very careful with. Coz, for another person, such a thing might be construed as too archaic and then what?! In other like myself, I think that Asian culture is amazing coz it gives reasons for couples to actually talk about finances and its management.
Remember, I explained it how best I knew in English. If it doesn't make sense, it the loss in translation form the mother tongue in my head to paper
@@marzadky4934 i agree with you
Awesome video
Break every chain💥🙏🏾☝️And still happens in divorce. Many times bills aren’t paid totaling in the thousands, leaving that partner in the dark and bankrupt!!!!
Sounds like a nightmare!
Thank God I am out of it now
I'm so glad you found the means and strength to get out!
It's not so easy to just leave because that's when victims are most at risk. It's important to have a plan first.
Yes B..! My grandmother always had a rainy day fund! Money put away; just in case some mess happened! It never happened and she had a full cookie jar of money!!😅
@@Chutney1luv - my mom did the same
Ridiculous, men should just lock themselves in cages. I was accused of this crap. Not only that we were on a budget together for the months we were together. Insane
It’s literally become a fad to place blame
Interesting, I was just praying about this very thing several days ago for those in abusive relationships. It is about time that attention is brought to this for those in this situation.
Very important topic. When we depend on a person for economy it’s like a total enslavement
Never be totally dependent on someone else. People show their true colors
Not a person we depend on corporate America which then turns this into a never ending rat race
Sad. You women are unbelievable
I was in the same situation and had to account for every penny spent. It was a very controlled situation and had to ask for permission to spend my own money. Thanks for highlighting this as it's an issue most women can't talk about
Thank you very much 😢😢😢
How can I get help?
NY Nurse call me
I'm being financially abused by a narcissist. I am disabled as a result of a near fatal car accident. I divorced him, He was ordered to pay a certain amount of money and because he is a narcissist he defies the court system and does exactly how he pleases. He has been starving me financially for many years now, And he loves every minute of it.
I have pay pal info if you really want to help. Every day is a struggle.
In The state of Missouri, when you get a divorce And the court's order alimony which is called maintenance if the person leaves the stage they basically don't have to pay it.
The state of Missouri will not go after them if they have left the state. If they remain in the state and refuse to pay they will be arrested for contempt of court.
The authorities will only come after you regardless of what state you're in if you commit a homicide, But not for defying the courts if you are outside the state limits.
If you want to reach out to me on one of my videos on yt, I can give you PayPal or give you GoFundMe info.
Thanks hon.
@@tranquility9325 If you divorce him. that means he doesn't owe you anything. you wanted to free of him .so top asking for money
The UN has brought this up
I dodged it, thank goodness
So glad you are not dealing with thism I personally believe physical abuse status with this
Black tax too.
Good for you Serena... hope they will listen... women who do get married... protect yourself... emotionally... physically.... mentally and financially...
It's a great message
That is a real problem including ex friends relatives or classmates think you should never have a job or good paying job - & to spend all money on things that will not create wealth.
Parents too
My mother is in this situation and it's horrible
This type of abuse is disgusting because then they sometimes start to physically abuse people. I'm hoping your mom finds a way our of that relationship
My mother always taught me as a women have my own secret bank account that whoever I’m with doesn’t know about
Ernest Ward lol
Is this why you & your are single to this day🤔 just wondering.
Y’all sound salty lmao. It’s called being smart
go girl , that's clever!!
@ Mary A. not salty, just wondering why go into the relationship with apprehension such has those. I don't believe in controlling an individual purse 👜 string. Go Dutch on everything except bills.🤔
Many parents have financially abused their kids since they were babies by racking up debt, taking out loans, financing items, getting apartments in their names, government aide,etc by using their SSN so by the time or before they’re teenagers, their credit is completely ruined😩
This happens to both men and women on relationships / family members. It's definitely not one sided.
If it appears that way, one side is just more open about it.
This is a really good topic bcuz some women are in a relationship like this some chalk it up to old school ways but theres a difference between handling finances for the household where both partners are involved versus total control of all finances and partner livelihood
It’s amazing how amazing everything is now an abuse!
Never give power over your finances to someone else.
These are the dramas that make me not motivated to marry 🤦♀️🤦♀️ in my 10 year relationship the few years i stayed with him.. I never bought anything he used to buy instead unless he's abit broke would chip in... However, i have a neighbour who is like that infact he was nick named (economy) cz of that funny enough his wife got used to it and sees nothing wrong... Anything she wants he buys it himself she has been a housewife all her life... Even grocery even if it's one vegetable he will go buy it himself.
It boils down to who you marry. Marriage isn't the issue
This makes me nervous about men too. There is always something manipulative and abusive they are doing in relationships
@@ecclairmayo4153 when was the last time you had a man?
I wish this was brought up more often! #PurplePurse
It’s the worst thing that could ever happened to you, it can also affect you emotionally and mentally.
Ladies this does happen but for every woman that goes through this there is three men going through the same thing. Really!
This is awesome
I used to be so humiliated. I wasn't even allowed to have 20$ in my pocket. When I would be with family and friends, I couldn't even get a soda. He gave me like 20$ three times and acted like he was doing me a service. I didn't have clothes that fit. I didn't have a cell phone or car. I was basically isolated in our loft and miserable for years.
What happens more often, and I’ve been a victim of this as a man, is that one person works, and the other person contributes less and less financially and otherwise over time, even acting irresponsibly because they have no accountability. When I went through trying to recover from my ex’s financial irresponsibility and poor character, I immediately became susceptible to this false victim narrative. This video basically proves that when you realize that you have a non-contributing spouse, you should leave them immediately. America is bassackwards and biased against men in this regard, because we have inconsistent, antiquated chivalrous standards. Gale said in the video, a lot of people don’t know they’re being abused, and just think a persons taking care of them. Please explain to me why marriage makes any sense in the victim culture of America for a man.
Women complaining about being abused financially? Now that's rich. 🙄
Yes, there are dirty controlling men, who will take advantage of you and not give you any money to buy for the kids or to buy simple products for up keep. Then you have some silly women who will spend the rent or utility money on frivolous things, why they do such, I don’t know, but maybe they not getting enough love and attention.There are ways to abuse a person without laying a hand on them, or hurt them under clothes for it not to be exposed, but you have to be careful abusing others cause what goes out does come back to you one way or another.
I see what you did there😂
Go Serena
She is great!
This is more important than where you are getting married. Finances need to be agreed upon and set up long before that wedding ring is on your finger. Both parties need to be happy with the agreement.
The Sister knows she about to pay some significant alimony. Setting the stage to her benefit.
That's a HUGE Assumption.......or do you know that for sure?
I will be scheduled to work and my bf will schedule himself on the days I am scheduled. It wouldnt be an issue if it wasnt for us having to balance childcare. He expects me to buy him a 24,000 dollar atv since hes helping me while I am in college ( I only work part time).
I have student loans, and credit card debt..
Is this a sign?
I have been poor before and survived it. I will be poor b4 I let someone abuse me in any way.
Self-esteem is the reason many of these women don't leave abusive relationships
They love the idea of a relationship more than they love themselves
@@ecclairmayo4153 I agree.
To be honest, I've only personally seen women do this to their husbands. And for this video to focus on women doesn't show the whole picture.
I've seen a couple of men do it too
Yeah!!! Go Jerricka!
Taxes can be financial abuse.
Very true. I've witnessed this first hand as a child growing up in different households where women had to steal the money to get some form of Self care and caring for their kids. This type of abuse leads a lot of women to immune breakdown.
My job is abusing me financially
That's why I got my own