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You are really a coach??? Lol Over 40 dont men desperate. Who wants a man over 40 who cant afford to date??? No wonder why that guy is online. You get what you pay for and desperate guys who only want sex are online. I value my self more than to give it away for free and vd is real. No thank you
Realistically, unless someone is homeless, we can all afford to buy ourselves a meal. It’s not about the meal, it’s about the effort made and the gesture. If a man doesn’t think I’m worth taking to a nice restaurant on a first date and paying the bill, he’s saying I’m not worth that level of effort. That’s all it means to me because I’ve worked my whole life and paid for everything I have so I can buy my own meal. I don’t expect it but when a guy does it, I respect it and he gets extra points in my mind.
Two can play this game!! REALISTICALLY...money isn't necessary to connect with someone. If a woman LIKES you, or WANTS TO GIVE A MAN A CHANCE...she doesn't need him to take her to a 'nice restaurant on the FIRST date AND pay the bill.' You sound really normal, but when we read your comment, it still sounds like you are about money. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel what about looks? If money isn’t necessary, sexual chemistry and attraction isn’t either. It’s OK for men to want women for sex and looks, but not OK for women to want to be treated well.
The dating landscape is exhausting! I give up. The best advice is to work on yourself, focus on goals, fitness, health, travel, spend quality time and just enjoy your life!!
Maybe even better advice is to do all those things and don't be a bitch and give up!! (Not calling you a bitch, but that's how I speak and I hope you get what i mean!) - Mario I'm with you on everything, I just want people to realize that what they want is the most valuable thing in the world, and it's not supposed to be easily qualified for and earned.
Why is it dating online discourages me so much. Feels like ppl size you up in print and decide immediately you’re too old for anything serious but ok for fun especially if you’re good looking. Not sure if this is the right forum for women over 40 as it encourages a sense of desperation. Any thoughts?
Thoughts: 1) You are displaying YOUR belief that "(Online Dating) encourages a sense of desperation." - Did you realize that?? Now consider, what sort of experience WOULD you expect with such a belief?? (Hint...not a good one.) 2) YES, you are correct about how Online Dating allows people to size each other up quickly. But um...this is EXACTLY what happens in person, too. And always has! So here's the thing. The Game of Love has NEVER been easy. Never. It's risky, and those who have desirable qualities have a bettere experience, right? (But there isn't any rule in this game that says YOU can't improve your desirable qualities...so are you taking advantage of thishack? Make sure you are! Improve yourself. Get better. Get better at the Game of Love (which you're investing in watching this channel and video!). BOTTOM LINE...something so important as a happy and fulfilling love life SHOULD be challenging. You SHOULDN'T win just because you show up, right? So stay positive, keep improving yourself, and if you need any help fast-tracking your success and pleasure in the Game of Love, you're invited to reach out to me with your challenges at mario@thegameoflove.us - Mario
I find it interesting to read men's comments must be a woman who cares about her body, on shape and they are clearly needing to purchase a new mirror. Men often want you to look one way and they don't have a clear visual on themselves. I am 5'8 and 120 pounds and even my ex would make comments about women being fat and this or that. He was way overweight and I would in my mind think...have YOU looked in the mirror lately.
Maybe we might point out...you're saying he was fat... and he got/kept you. I get it. Double standard. But men and women desire and reward different things. - Mario
@Mario there will always be a woman who settles for a guy and a guy who settles for a woman. Doesn't mean he is a great guy. Some women would rather be with any guy than be single. Does her partner deserve a medal?
I don’t know how this came on my timeline since mostly just listen to political podcast, but this is so desperate. Gee. Get off the dating websites, focus on you, get to the gym, work on your self esteem, find a hobby, be better person every day for you and just smile to people (homeless people included :) You will meet people in real life, don’t believe that there are no good men out there or that they want only young women. And remember there will be always someone older than you. Have fun with dating (no sex) why rush to commitment with any guy. Life is very long with the wrong person. I hope you win (because you can) ❤
Nice input! I think all that can be done WHILE increasing the odds of success by consciously trying to meet others in person AND online. When you don't have the success you can't avoid trying, right? Love how you remind folks to work on themselves, too. - Mario
Alot of shitty advice here. He is telling us to compete. No. Compete with yourself, yes. He is telling us that we should help pay for first dates, no, I will be a lady and allow myself to be courted if a cordial date is on the table.
Yes, COMPETE. And I love how you insert your own interpretation into my LITERAL WORDS. Good luck, but you probably won't like shit on my channel because I don't tell people what they want to hear, I tell them what they NEED to hear. Thanks for the hate. Means I'm doing something right if I'm upsetting people with your position. You're EXACTLY why I do what I do. - Mario
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1. Try online dating 2. Lower expectations on being wined and dined 🤧 3. Develop your text game 4. Don't focus all your attention on one person 5. Compete (win or lose it's okay to compete for the guy you want)
@@annbess5800 is there a specific argument you want to make because I expect more from Internet trolls. That was weak af. Have a take. Have something to say. I'm quite comfortable with debate and defending my positions. - Mario
@@jenniferslocks7981 when you're over 40, a level of maturity and accountability is expected. Clearly, the woman who watches this video and responds, "Ok, be desperate" does not have that capacity (yet). That's too bad. But you are clearly the problem if that's your interepretation. Meanwhile, many others can take a healthy dose of reality without being triggered into a corner because it means, "OMG, I'm gonna have to work on myself and improve my total package...just like I do for my job!" - Mario
Online dating is exactly like digging through the trash for treasure. I rather take my chances and not meet someone at all in person than meet trash online.
Says the person watching a video about dating...on RUclips (online). Look...stop being bitter. You need to get BETTER. All that you're talking...I've heard that shit before. It's insecurity and a lack of confidence because...I DOUBT you know what the fuck you're doing. And that's ok...but I'm not the one to sugarcoat it and let you talk shit and act like Online Dating is the problem. No...you just don't know how to navigate it well...or you would. (And you HAVE tried. And now you're a lil bitter!!) Rooting for ya, but let's be real...the problem isnt' Online Dating. You just aren't LANDING the quality from Online Dating. My question to you would be, "Why?" And the real answer is what I told you. Rooting for you...but you do want to be able to use Online Dating. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel now imagine she was your wife and you'll be talking to her this way? Yikes!!. im a lady , I'm a flower, I'm feminine, I'm love, I'm compassion. me and all women are. treat women this way, it's not the other way around. men is kindness, protection, safety, security. I don't see you fitting neither a lady or a gentleman nature.
Ladies...never lower your standards or values. I’d rather be single than lower my standards or values just to be with a man. First meeting - coffee. It’s affordable and dating is about meeting people, not about who spends what.
YOU: "Ladies, never lower yout standards or values." ALSO YOU TWO SENTENCES LATER, "lower your standards, have a First Meet of coffee..." (We're on the same team, I just don't have the moral conflict to stand behind my position ;) ) - Mario
The Game Of Love Thats an interesting point but I disagree. My standards have never been to start with a dinner date as I feel like that’s too long for a first date and if there’s no connection then I may end up stuck with a person I don’t want to spend all that time with. The first date when you meet someone from online is really just a meeting - it’s not exactly a date to me. But, after coffee, if I’m interested in him then yes, second date I want an actual date. He could take me on a picnic lunch at minimal cost - its still romantic. At least we both know if there’s chemistry by then. But that’s my standard. Other ladies may have different standards and for different reasons. I do feel like once chemistry has been established a woman looks for some type of investment from a man that’s non sexual. She will have values and a set of standards that she wants him to meet...and if he doesn’t ...next! 😊 Perhaps this is why I’ve been single for 4 years 🤷♀️ 😂. Most men don’t get past the first coffee date with me. The shit detector is strong in this one lol! 😄
You should watch videos of old people’s advice and regrets when dying alone. Good luck and don’t be the person that regrets everything later on in life because of your pride, but you can do what you want it’s your life and you live once. You’re only getting older by the day.
From my experience as a single woman for over 3 years and after chatting with many people...in this video I agree with all you're saying. It's what I've learned. Times have changed overall. Best to have a healthy self-esteem, be humble by accepting your best and not so good traits, but also be realistic. This isn't for everyone. You must have a certain level of maturity, security in one self, and not take anything personal. Yet, be firm, respectful, friendly or nice, but NOT weak. It does take work, in the process, you learn from others and you get to know yourself even better. Most times, I enjoy the dating process. Much better, now a days, to meet people online. You just got to be cautious and know what your doing. Don't go into it trying to find a partner .. won't work. Dangerous to do it that way. Just enjoy chatting and meeting or making new friends. I've met really nice guys that stay as just friends, other I got to date. It doesn't have to be a love interest all the time. It can be just great conversations. You can learn so much this way. With time, you'll find the person you wanna try a relationship with. It can happen online or in a party. Doesn't matter. Good tips 👍🏻.
Linda!!! Great comment and thank you for sharing your experiences! You and I are definitely seeing things the same way. Acknowledging reality, recognizing there are things we can learn or do to improve our odds, and realizing that Online Dating is about making new connections with POTENTIAL...but we shouldn't go into it thinking, "I'm getting sex, dates, or a relationship." What I teach about Online Dating, is that most people don't even know what "winning" at Online Dating is. Because it's NOT sex, dates, or a relationship. It's just getting to a FIRST MEET an connecting in person with someone you met online and discovering the strength of the connection. Glad you appreciated the content, and your comment was very much appreciated. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel You welcome! Yes, true too. So many people go into it with expectations. We need to go in with NO expectations at all. The way I see it! I go in with an open-mind, I just want a nice smart conversation...then if all goes well, in time you can meet that person personally in a safe environment. I've learned so much from conversing with people online and tradicional way too. Some are still my friends today. I classify online guys. I filter what I don't want or don't trust nor calls my attention. I response only to guys I'm curious about after studying their profile and greeting style. I try not to waste my time nor anyone's. I do it when I have time only. Many stay in greetings. All part of it. No rush. Yet the idea is to eventually meet in person. I've also learned that online dating, for me it's safer and time efficient. If you know what you'll doing and have your personal standards clear. Gotta have them. People that turn out to be jerks online will be equally so in person, except that you discover it sooner, safer, and faster online than meeting the person the traditional way. Nice day!🌻
If I start dating a man who is dating several women at the same time in various stages of his relationships, not my idea of finding a future in him...I just found another player and being in my 40s, I am too old for that bullshit! Most guys can't handle dating one woman and keeping it honest, so why in the world would I date someone who date's multiple women at the same time and trust his honesty?! Are you even in your 40s? 😆
So...you want a guy who has attractive, desirable qualities...but you EXPECT this guy to not be dating anyone when you meet him, and you expect a monogamous dating life from Day 1 of meeting and dating him. From what I'm reading, just a couple thoughts. You're frustrated. It isn't hard to recognize. You want the Dating Game to be played on your terms. But you didn't create, and you don't manage this game. It exists, and if you want to play it, there are better strategies that align for a smoother, more successful experience. BUT IF YOU WANT TO PLAY BY YOUR OWN RULES...you can. But doing so, you're going to keep getting the same results you've BEEN getting. Easy things I'd suggest. 1. Become aware of the negative energy you have towards dating. It's gonna repel the men you want to attract and keep. 2. Stop blaming men for pursuing their options. Every man or woman can, and should. Logically, you can't really make a case that any man you just met and started dating should have no on in his life he's getting to know, dating, and possibly even having sex with. 3. If you want to play by your rules, and with your strategies...you're welcome to. But you're also going to find EXACTLY what you're (actually) looking for...a guy with no fucking options from Day 1. Appreciate you sharing, and hope you can take in these thoughts, however you desire. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I appreciate your feedback and will take this into consideration in the future. I know right now I am not ready to date anyone and am working on me. I'm newly divorced and yes bitter about my past marriage. I have not healed from being married to a habitual liar of 9 years. I was just curious on the expectations of dating now, so I came across your video. Gave me some perspective. Thanks
@@LB-by6us I appreciate the open mind. I know receiving feedback isn't always easy, and I tend to be direct in what I say for the sake of efficiency (for all of us). Just know you're not the first person in the world in your shoes, and you're also not allowed to give up. Rooting for you, and here if you need anything. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Thank you and I appreciate you not being fake and telling it like it is!...Not giving up, it's not an option! Just taking time to breathe😉
Your video was very interesting and you raised some very good points. Thank you. There are so many free or cheap things to do when getting to know someone. I‘v gone for long walks in beautiful parks with take away coffee on first meets. Usually my suggestion. Much better then sitting in a boring restaurant. And I’d rather be chilling out at home with the guy, over some wine, a joint and music, just chatting, getting to know one another. Better then being in a bar.
If other women's advice worked so well...you'd be using IT, though. ;) - Mario (I don't tell people what they want to hear, I tell them what they NEED to hear.)
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I completely agree Kathleen. I cringed the whole time I was watching this. Makes me want to give up. How could women over 40 ever compete with women in their 20s and 30s? It seems like every man in his 40s only wants to date women in their 20s and 30s.
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel it’s obvious why he asked, because you exhibit feminine characteristics , you are a beta male. A simp , not trying to be nasty but it’s painfully obvious.
@@cansee0 so...I'm judged by a RUclips troll who has the predictable and cliche profile pic that's not them (no surprise), and the language "beta," and "simp." Because men using that language are badasses. I missed that memo. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel no memo’s, it’s the way a man should be - you reply as women do, using passive aggressive language in an attempt to shame to silence detractors.
@@cansee0 there was nothing passive about it, homie. I think you're a cliche troll. And that's funny that you have a take on what it is to be a man. I wonder how many of those qualities you check off? Hmmm. Anyway, thanks for being you and looking for help on RUclips (because you clearly don't have them based on the results in your life) and finding my video. If the video didn't resonate, maybe being confronted by your reality will one day inspire you to think beyond "beta" and "simp" language. I mean shiiiiittt...ONE OF US has what the other person wants in life. I'd pay more attention to THAT guy. But again, good luck, but if you don't succeed, or like anything I have to say...it doesn't bother me. I never pretend to give a fuck about everyone. - Mario
I dated an Arab guy in which he paid for all the dates. He never allowed me to pay for anything, well maybe I only paid for like 2 cups of coffee in 2 years and even that he didn’t want me to pay! Not to mentioned the spoiling with- massages, facials, self pampering and gave me generous gifts he told me in he’s culture it’s offensive for a women to pay. He took me to fancy restaurants and to less fancy expensive restaurants. I never complained or showed him that I wasn’t appreciative of him. I agree there are too many people who are entitled, self absorb, and have big egos these days! Having standards is good but don’t act like your some God that everywhere you walk the floor should be kissed!
What you shared in your comment speaks volumes to your self-awareness and to the humbleness. Very attractive qualities to most any man, and I can see why a man with money didn't mind spending it on you and shared experiences. Life is for living and experiencing with those that make it better, right? Seems like he felt things were better WITH you. Awesome. Thanks for sharing that perspective and experience. - Mario
Women expect men to pay for dates because men couldn’t afford to pay for multiple women if they were cheating/sleeping around. It is a good gesture that a MAN provides that he is loyal and a gentleman. Women don’t need to pay for dates with men... lol that’s insane. But I’ll give you credit, nice try!
Interesting take. But doesn't it sound "transactional" to you? Is this a feminist perspective, do you think, that "Men pay for dates because they couldn't afford to do this to other women." CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW MANY WOMEN WOULD GET PLAYED IF SPENDING MONEY WERE REWARDED (AS YOU SHARE)? I also wonder if this is your perspective, what do you then think is a good gesture from women? Accepting gifts? Reducing themselves economically, socially...because..."it's a good gesture"? Walking a pretty fine line here I'd say! "Women don't need to pay for dates with men." Funny, did I proclaim that as a rule? If so, please point it out. (nice try!) What I did, was speak to reality and how men AND WOMEN can't expect the sun, moon, and stars...without deserving it, and just because they feel entitled. Lol, feminism goes both ways, not just the direction you like when it's convenient. And the truth is, your old fashioned approach...probably wouldn't get you the guy YOU ACTUALLY WANT. But by all means, go forth and expect old-fashioned strategies (that never worked) to work for you in 2021. Good luck! - Mario
The men who paid were serious. The men who didn't were not or couldn't. You make a great point about the cost of multiples. I was literally thinking tonight about what a turnoff it was to date men who only took me to cheap restaurants or wanted to split the bill. Nah. I'd rather sit at home and watch crazy shit on Amazon Prime. Like Shadow in the Cloud. Ha!
@@jlryder97 first off, why would men who barely know why you're interesting or of value spend a ton of money? I know the movies and TV, and even society gave you this story...but it's a poor strategy for ANYONE, male or female, to invest in whatever way in someone BEFORE they identify the value of that person. The truth for you might be, and can help you in maybe some perspective. Guys might have taken you to cheap restaurants, because 1) that's all they could afford, but wanted to take action to get to know you. Money, expensive meals don't equal connection and compatibility, wouldn't you agree? And 2) maybe guys took you on cheap dates because it was early on, so why WOULD they spend a lot? This is a TERRIBLE strategy in business, and also in our personal lives. And 3)...maybe you get taken on cheap dates and YOU ATTRACT men who want to split the bill (more often with you than other women) BECAUSE...well you answer, "What value is so unique and special that YOU bring to the table?" It gets REALLY FUCKING QUIET when I challenge people (men and women) to express WHY they're so damn important. What's UNIQUE and SPECIAL about YOU that you're so valuable to men, and not easily replaceable? Looking forward to your response. This topic isn't so black and white, huh? - Mario
@mario there is nothing wrong with being transactional. For many centuries marriage was transactional. The difference between that and prostitution is the parties love each other and choose to be together. Man chooses to spend money on woman and woman chooses to spend time with him. I have dated two multimillionaire guys, and guys who spoiled me with many expensive gifts early on but I wasn't feeling it after a few dates so didn't see them again. Did they pay for me and my time? Of course. But did I choose to enter into selling my time and attention with them? Equally yes. But at the end of the day it wasn't enough so I left. That is the difference with prostitution, choice and emotions (and no, I didn't sleep with them nor any man I was not married to). My advice to guys is don't spend loads of money, first date dinner or coffee is great because it is long enough to know the person. After that it's OK to split the bill unless she offers to get some. Dating is expensive. But so is marriage and having a family (or, if yiu are over 40, picking up chicks with kids from a prior marriage)
Way till you find out about this thing called "makeup"! I'm joking, but that's also a relevant point. You know, most men and women of ALL dating ages complain they don't have enough "usable" pics for Online Dating. Here's the thing. This game is YOUR responsibility. What I mean is, as awesome and convenient as Online Dating is, it doesn't do all the work for you. It's up to you to look at profiles and better recognize filters that make skin look flawless and younger, it's up to you to question why there aren't any full body pics, and it's also up to YOU to make solid connections ONLINE...and then see if they check out in person in a First Meet (NOT "First Date"). When you get into this mode, you better enjoy the game of Dating and Online Dating, because you don't have the EXPECTATION that everything is 100% accurate, you know? There is far greater advantages to Online Dating than disadvantages, we just have to become better in our awareness and competency for game play and better strategies. I cover everything you NEED to know in my Online Dating 101 playlist (rules, how to play better), and then the follow up course teaches all the better strategies A-Z for Online Dating. Definitely recommend you checkout the playlist. Watching a few videos can shift your experience, for the better. Thanks for stopping by the channel and if you have issues with anything, reach out. Tons of free resources as well as contact info available at www.thegameoflove.us - Mario
Ladies in your 20’s and 30’s, quit the dating apps. You’ll end up on a never ending quest for mr perfect that never comes. Then you’ll end up watching videos like these. Trust me.
Quitting is not an option. (Not a good one) GET BETTER. Do you want help? Shit...it's YOUR life? And I dare say, NOTHING is more important to you than a happy and fulfilling love life. mario@thegameoflove.us if you want help. - Mario
Number five is terrible advice that just sets each of the people up for failure. Buck the competitive edge because all people are going to do is pretend to be something that they're not and then when reality sets in later it'll be a real bummer. Date lots of people, yes, but be yourself. To be anything other than that is total deception and it's totally wrong. It is a disservice to yourself and to everyone around you.
Interesting. So you have a problem with #5, telling people to compete? You're telling me...telling people to compete is setting them up for failure?? I appreciate the input, but disagree. Do you also believe competing is to pretend to be something you're not? Or...is that how YOU understand "competing" to be?? Interesting how you believe competition doesn't matter in something that qualifies as a "game" in definition, action, and outcome. If you don't believe in competition, why do you bathe, iron your clothes, wear certain outfits which go beyond self-gratification, and into the land of...attempting to impress others. I think we agree more than disagree, but thanks for stopping by and for the input. - Mario
I guess I'm just different. Pepole can get really crazy when they feel like they have to compete. I feel like if you live your best, full life, you are more likely to naturally attract someone who aligns with you. For some, being competitive is part if that and natural for them, but that isn't everyone. To me, competing is trying to one-up the competition under some ideal standard. If you are authentic, you don't have to do this. The people you date will either be a match or they want. No big deal.
But then again, you call your channel "Game of Love". For you it might be a game. I'm probably in the wrong place. Just looking more for advice on moving through the dating world as I am coming out of an 18 year long relationship. Dating now is way different than 20 years ago!
I'm trying to tell you. It's competitive. You just don't like that message! Trust me, after 18 years you're rusty and behind...which is ok and normal. Take my Intro to Game course. It's free for now, from my website. I'll bet I convince you to view things differently, and i promise it will change the course of your actions and life. On my website, free for now. It's where someone like you should start. - Mario
Nice try. If a man is a man then he will take a woman out on a real date whether it is a picnic, restaurant, movie, theater, grab food and walk in the park, whatever. Ladies, ditch the losers that are too poor or insecure or damaged to take a woman out & try to impress them. I stopped listening after that #2 comment since I feel the video lost its credibility. (Note: I'm not over 40 but this is bogus)
So are you saying women are supposed to sleep with multiple men until someone takes us seriously? Not classy for a woman over 40. I would think that is also a turn off for men, especially if they are looking for a woman who is trustworthy. Agree with the financial thing though. If a man is splurging on dinners, then in my eyes, he's not sensible with his money and he doesn't follow a budget.
Lynn, DID I SAY THAT?? If so, where? (I didn't. Stay with what I said, not what might be concerning...I get it. I do!) The Big Idea is you have to be competitive, always work on becoming a BETTER version of yourself, and understand...is it really about meeting a great connection, or is it about a man spending money on things you could yourself, but want HIM to... Heavy thoughts. - Mario
@@lynnm7463 I'm sure you keyboard warrior the shit outta RUclips, Facebook, and social media...without challenge or consequence. But on this channel, I'll call your ass out for making shit up. You did. Get over it. Your attempts to gaslight are noted, and discarded. - Mario
I don't think it's ever been about "the guy paying for the date". I think it's always been part of polite society that if you ask someone out - that there is just no expectation that person would then have to pay some unknown amount. Maybe men are starting to understand that if they're seeking hookups or quick dates that they aren't necessarily worth it
I hear what you're saying, and appreciate your perspective. I think we WANT dating to adhere to common sense norms, right? But...when we look back in our history, has dating not been (all too often) EXACTLY what you mention..."someone paying an unknown amount"? I think so. It's not totally black and white, but...ask men and I'd believe the majority would say, "Yeah, that describes dating for me and men...we DO have expectations to pay an unknown amount on dates!" Now the other thing you mention. I'm in agreement. Yes, (SOME) men are understanding that they're not trying to invest the full way for someone they ONLY view as say a hookup, or just "hanging out." But those men are still very much the exception. I think the BIG IDEA we need to return to, FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN...is that dating SHOULD be about getting to learn about compatibility. Paying for the date, and spending lots of money...not the most important thing here. I know it's BEEN done that way...but it also hasn't been a surefire path towards success now, either!! (And for me, I promote that money and superficial things may HELP... but they all aren't the most important things, or qualities, and can be overcome with better Dating Game, and having a solid "total package" to offer the world and romantic partners. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I think it kind of still goes back to my point, if someone - anyone - invites me to do or go somewhere with them I would not expect to pay or offer to pay because I would think that's rude. (I might offer to pay my half if I was asked out and really didn't enjoy my time and i would expect that to be a clear message that the date did not go well and i did not enjoy the company). But if it's the financial aspect is discussed in advance that's different. When a man used to ask a lady out it maybe was more likely that he truly wanted "the pleasure of her company", possibly more likely that he knew her or at least knew her social circle. So in my mind the difference is the volume of asking out strangers. Maybe the lady is pretty selective and doesn't agree to many dates, and say she expects she's being asked because the guy is really interested in her. But maybe he's just going for quantity- they have two sets of standards and expectations. And these days it's much more likely that a first date is essentially strangers. Maybe just cut out all the crap and either get to know someone better first or just be up front. Or be more creative on dates. Just my opinion. Feel like I need to give an example- "I'd love to take you to dinner" 100% implies the asker is treating. "Would you like to go Dutch to dinner" is a different question. Or "would you like to go to the game with me" is different than "I have tickets in x location to the game, if you'd like to come tickets.com still has seats next to mine available "
@@sagefi1 Totally agree. If a guy asks me out I expect him to pay. If we go Dutch, I regard him as friendzoned, purely because that's how it feels. Also, if he's taking me to a specific place I expect him to know roughly how much it will cost, so it won't be a shock in any way. I no longer do hook-ups, but 'dating' with a see-how-it-goes attitude.
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel muskndusk brought up a good point also. A person should have some idea of what they're going to pay if they're asking someone out. Like - Burger King is maybe $5-15/each vs some fancy restaurant which could be easily $200/each. Plus, he has some control over that, not in what she's going to order necessarily but in what the price points are. Say the gal orders a third drink at dinner - he could shut it down or at least get the check before #4. He can have an idea of an after dinner activity- walk in the park vs going to a bar, for example. I still also think that women are always going to appreciate men who spend more on them more than guys who don't. It's showing they are putting their resources into the relationship.
EXAMPLE OF GIVING ADVICE YOU DON'T FOLLOW. You realize, you're saying give up while watching MY video about NOT giving up, and getting better...so that you can get better results. If this is your attitude, YOU are your biggest enemy. And what man wants to sign up for a woman with THIS MENTALITY? Think about that. It's unattractive. I'm just saying...you're getting the expected results. It's PREDICTABLE the way you're playing the game of Love! - Mario
The Game Of Love love is not a game 1st and for most...second, being realistic about life is better than live in a fantasy world. An reality isn’t after certain age women are not dating material, and the sooner women learn this and start to enjoy their single status the better for them. False expectations are the recipe for frustration.
@@ivonnewhitaker08 1. I have a complete video on my website breaking down Life and Love as games. If you would like to debate me, I challenge you to watch that video and then give it another go. 2. You're saying "get real" and then tell everyone YOUR VERSION of reality. The truth is, you're speaking about YOURSELF. Maybe YOU don't have enough to offer to be dateable at ANY age, but that's a YOU problem. Your limiting belief is wrong and if you want to believe it, fine. But if you want to pass if off on my channel as if it's reality, I gotta call you out on some bullshit. You know what leads to MORE FRUSTRATION than expectations??? Being entitled and thinking you're owed shit you never qualified for and earned. (Some tough love, here, but necessary for you and others to hear where I stand). - Mario
I have a lot of men ask me out I’m 39 A LOT old young and in between idk why women don’t. Men are going to be men regardless of whatever anybody tells you . Women get left for younger women all the time always have always will. But I am glad I got married but there are a lot of good guys out there. Idk why all these issues exist
Thanks for sharing that. Something I get out of your comment is that you're not looking at men with a negative perspective from the start. Yes, "Men will be men." You're right. We're always gonna appreciate (young) beauty. But SO WHAT?? Like you allude to, we still have to continue, right? Appreciate you just being someone who mentions that there are a lot of good men out there. THERE ARE. Most, in fact, would love to be in relationships. COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS. (Most men are incapable of pulling off the playboy lifestyle. It's not an option) - Mario
Men over 40 are controlling the dating scene. Sex is abundant. They aren’t having to invest much to gain access to sex, your time, or love/attention. They have many options. Women are quick to do wifely duties for these men without the title and many men are receiving these benefits from more than one woman. Why commit to marriage these days if they have their freedom and all the wife benefits without having to provide and protect 100% of the time?
I think you're the first person to ever say "men over 40 are controlling the dating scene." Men...don't we wish?? IN OUR DREAMS!!! Abundance goes to the Top 20% of the Dating community. And women are generally attracted to the (same) Top 20%. Meaning, you need to understand the guys YOU LIKE...are desirable, have good qualities (and many of them)...AND HAVE OPTIONS. That doesn't mean ALL MEN over 40, or that ALL men have these options. It's like saying, "women under 30 are controlling the dating scene." 80% of the women under 30 would like at you and say, "I WISH!!"" i think...and correct me if I'm wrong...but it just sounds from your comment that you're frustrated with the men you like...not reciprocating as much, or how you'd like. Tough. But that's the Attraction Game!! We all (men AND women) go through it!!! Chin up, keep working to improve yourself so you can attract even better, and I'll be rooting for you. Thanks for stopping by the channel! - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Mario, first, loved the response- on point, not rude, respectful, and informative. Thank you. I was actually thinking similar after posting this.,, thinking out loud made me analyze so thank you for confirming. Being 43 and attractive, I feel like I always have options but I’ve chosen the wrong type because you are right, they have many other options. I’ve currently stepped back and looking at who to entertain. Kind of the mindset of, “dad bods or beer gut with a good heart step up!” You get my point though. Again, thanks a bunch! This 43 year old is figuring it out slowly.
Yes, reduce expectations! What? Women, do you want trash hobo? Let him get up to your level! Man, my advise, stop coaching and keep admiring her self in a mirror.
I believe if YOU were at that level...you could pay for the "wine and dine" experience that CLEARLY YOU CANNOT, but expect a stranger to. Small wonder why you're still single! - Mario
I'm in that age bracket, and would agree! Especially if you take care of your body. Healthy body and wise mind...makes for a pretty good life (provided your love life is satisfying). A happy life NEEDS a happy love life!! Funny how we were taught 40 is old and it's all downhill. Nope. Not at all. - Mario
If the guy was paying for my time it would cost much more than the price of a curry (I don't drink, so that's not a cost) which would cost around £20. Escorts charge far more for two hours - and it's the time you pay for, not the 'service' this would cost approx £200 or more.
Thanks for sharing. Do you not think that (in a way) men "pay" for a woman's time? I get that you disagree, but that doesn't mean this dynamic does not exist in the dating world. I'd love for it to not be true, but I accept that a form of it is. I'm not really trying to discuss escorts, but you're saying your curry meal is a much cheaper option than the time/services of an escort. To that EVERY GUY would say, "Escorts charge more than the price of curry for a simple reason. Because they...." Again, talking about escorts isn't really what I'm trying to do here. Anything about the topic of the video, "Dating Tips for Women Over 40" that you'd like to comment on? - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Paying the bill, for a meal, drinks, whatever, is the man's job; it's part of the courtship process. Many older women, like myself, expect it. It touches on a primeval instinct which says that this man is a potentially good provider. Personally, I can't feel romantic or sexual about a man if we split the bill - he then feels like a friend, not a potential lover or partner. It's bad news for a man if I offer to pay for my half; it means he's either been friendzoned or I won't be seeing him again.
Sure, men CAN pay for dates. And they do. Nothing wrong with making sure an investment of one hundred dollars or much more, plus the time IS WORTH IT and DESERVED. Honestly, your advice is the typical bullshit that gets women in fucked up positions. That's awesome you're taking the moral high ground on your perch, but in reality my message is pretty grounded in reality and tact. My guess is your anonymous profile is hiding a single woman over 40 who doesn't see that her own results don't support her feeling so strong that she's right about dating. But what would I know...I'm sure you've made it your mission to specialize in understanding this part of Life, right?? - Mario
How many first date dinners have you had in the last three months? Why are you so amazing? What qualities do you posssess that are both UNIQUE and VALUABLE? I'm pretty confident when I discuss dating and the expectation of dinner, it's because TIMES HAVE CHANGED. Online Dating, the Internet, transportation...women AND men have more choices than ever. And they have to figure out WHO to invest in. Because of this, First Dates are becoming, and I RECOMMEND...replacing First Dates with First Meets. If it goes well...then you invest further...an "official" date, with greater investments of all parties. Might I also share, funny how you want a man to pay for dinner, but in the same breath you're the type of woman who proclaims that "Men shouldn't expect sex if they take a woman to dinner." (Oh how that double standard blows up in your face) Not to be attacking you, I do understand where you're coming from...but I made a lot of sense in this video. I didn't say anything that was ridiculous. In the games of Love, the people who succeed the most are the ones who recognize it's a game, has rules, and better strategies. And then they work within them. Others...reject rules and strategy, due to what they FEEL is "right." Make sure you don't trap yourself by your emotions clouding logic. Or, if you want to really point out something stupid I said, quote me and offer a timestamp. I'll take a look and see what you're talking about. - Mario
I understand your frustrations, but can we be real, the real issue isn't the existence of fakes. They DO exist. And will always exist. So what are you gonna do?? (Hint: It's clear you've not entirely given up on Online Dating) So why not IMPROVE your awareness of how this Online Dating Game is played, and its better strategies? You know...work on developing skills like identifying and avoiding fake profiles, and investing in better connections...that would be a good idea, right? Awesome! I knew you'd agree. So look, it's clear you need a little online dating help. I've considered men and women like you, and you should check out my Online Dating 101 playlist, which is designed to help you better aunderstand and manuever your way in this game. Check it out, it's an organized curriculum to help you fill in your foundations so you can have a MUCH BETTER online dating experience. Let me know what you think. There's also the free resources in the OD 101 Appendix which you can find at www.thegameoflove.us/theonlinedating game Hope this helps you level up your Online Dating Game AND results! There are a TON of great singles over 40 out there, too! (Gotta have good bait to catch good stuff, remember that!) - Mario
No, they shouldn't be talking to YOU. But since you're here watching the video...you've clearly experienced that phenomenon. I get it...you have to respect yourself, blah blah blah. YOU MISSED THE POINT OF THE VIDEO. If you want to be upset, blame men for not spending money...WHAT DOES IT ACCOMPLISH??? Improve yourself!! You call yourself "Queen T" so...why don't you share with us in RUclips land WHY you're such a queen, catch, and worthy of a man's investment IMMEDIATELY please? I know we all want to know. I find it's a great exercise for men and women who get triggered in the game of Attraction to actually explain to me WHY they're the sh** and WHY they should have men swooning. Bottom line: you talking trash to men not spending money isn't the issue...becuase they will spend it on SOMEONE they believe is worthy of the investment. (So I'm really curious to hear how you qualify, because I expect to be impressed, right? I mean...I want you to have things going on for you...but I know how this exercise usually goes...it's HARD for men and women to actually justify WHY they're a catch.) - Mario
You really need to listen to your video and listen to yourself giving the advice you come across condescending and you don’t realize the value of a woman.You could get further by just saying take time to speak with the person prior to going out on a dinner date to find out if you have enough of a connection to spend your money that would be more appropriate than the way you described it it’s all in your tone and delivery you come across as cheap,entitled ,not valuing a woman and you cursing in your videos please stop!
just because you are always on fours doesn't make you the table. why the fuck anyman would spend a single cent on a woman who have entitled mindset. why the fuck would a man want to have his kid have a mother like that.
When you were young yes. But calling a older lady the table and spending money on her would be dumb. You have to meet in the middle or whats the point?
LOL...I think we found someone who calls in to Kevin Samuels to get roasted for what value she does NOT bring to the table. Ironically, self-proclaimed "Queen." Wonder when was the last time a man called her that, if ever. GTFOH with this toxic entitlement. This comment is the sort of bullshit that helps us quickly realize why you're single.
This man is sugarcoating it for you ladies 40+, but is correct. Men are reacting to modern times. If you are not strong and independent to go 50-50 you are not looking a man but an ATM. You should also be traditional to expect traditional. And traditional means 20yo cooking and doing the housework.
I definitely DID try to share my message in a way that more women would hear it. And many have, judging by the comments of appreciation. And some don't want to get it. And think that what they PREFER is reality. It's not. And bottom line, let's live for our own happiness. Love is for everyone. Thanks for sharing your thoughts my guy. - Mario
Glad you liked it!! It's tough to share information that is tough to hear, but necessary. I also like to think that with that reality dose in this video, I hope compassion was conveyed, because I know for many over 40 dating is so intimidating and fruitless (but it doesn't have to be). Women over 40 are amazing, too. 40 is the new 30! - Mario
@@dixonlineberger3312 I'm no pilled. That's a basic position. I recognize reality, logic, and facts...wherever they lead. Which is why I'm not Red Pill. I'm about better strategies, alignment of morals, and going after what you want. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Yeah but you hit on some concepts of the black and red pill. But I get that you don't want to identity with that. You just believe in observable reality and what is reasonable. Most pickup artist type channels do the exact opposite. They tell men and women they can get people out of their league with "tricks" and "hacks" that supposedly no one knows about.
@@dixonlineberger3312 whatever pills...all of them hold some truths. The problem is, many just do the same BS as in politics of creating an identity that's too concrete and rigid (flawed) in its basic, and simple belief without allowances for exceptions, nuance, reason, and other variables. It's good to know you can recognize that I'm influenced, but not UNDER the influence. - Mario
I'm pretty sure you're having this "never date you" relationship with the rest of the men in the world. But it's fine if you need to express your frustrations with your love life towards me, as if I'm the problem. The funny thing is, you chose to not dispute ONE POINT I made. I mean, I gave you a clear platform to debate and criticize. Instead...all you had was telling me you would never date me (a powerless statement that only sounds good as you keyboard warrior on RUclips). - Mario
I'm sure there's long list of men who wouldn't date you - that you like to instead say, "I would never date you," AS IF IT'S YOUR CHOICE. 😬 Pretty sad that you need to lash out against me because of your shortcomings in the games of Love. But I'm sure it made you feel good in the moment to let something out, right? Just like a child. How...attractive...(could you sense the sarcasm??) - Mario
Dude I'm 39 not 60. If a guy cant call me and text only then just no. I don't want a 20 yr old lol. Being 39 I'd like to date older than me not younger. You're giving advice as if we know nothing and are baby boomers trying to date 20 somethings. I'm watching this because I e been single almost a year after a relationship with a narcissist. I'm a widower prior to my ex.
You don't have to like it, but it's reality that you're in a texting culture. If you think the world will revolve around your preferences...it might. (Depending on how desirable a man views you.) I'm not sure there's a question in what you wrote that I'm to respond to, is there? - Mario
Your so funny 😆 really good tips what l do is if someone pays for dinner l buy the drinks l find it hard to keep up with 3 or 4 conversations cause l have kids and I’m busy
Ha! Someone (else) thinks I'm funny!! (Flattery works on me) That's great that you chip in. It really helps men view dating with a more positive lens, and also gives a man some indication you enjoy spending time with him. (Guys suck at knowing if you are!) I think that you're CONSIDERATE is appreciated, and whether we all agree about women contributing to a date, it's ALWAYS a "good move" to show appreciation. (And I get it. It IS hard to get invested and maintain multiple convos. That sounds about right for most. Just make time for it because it's worth it!) - Mario
@@priyamalhotra5794 If you appreciated the video, you should visit our website www.thegameoflove.us and check out the "Choose Your OWN 'Game" Adventure" experience. If you're ready to level up your Game and your love life! - Mario
How do I know if I should text a man who showed plenty of interest at first and does respond if I text but - am I chasing someone who’s not really feeling it or is it he’s just so busy and is used to getting so much attention he’s not going to be necessarily trying to reach me even if he were interested ? I guess what happened was he put lots of energy into mtg then the first two dates and expressed he just wants to get off the online dating and that it’s brutal for his self esteem - however he is a race car driver so I know he gets attention. However, he is almost 50 so I know he knows younger women are more about his $. I am 43 , have an easy time finding dates, make lots of $, no kids, have a super great life and don’t just date one man. But I did like him the most
The convo holds most of our clues here. I suspect there are things to notice, improvements, maybe even red flags. Would you want a professional opinion? - Mario
What it's awesome about this video. I think it's that it looks exactly and literally the way all Unmarried man think. But when they are 20 they wanted to hide it. Fortunately after marriage comes experience, meaning they either overcame this mindset which it's the main reason marriages fail. Or they never will learn. Now u will know who to stay away from. My advice. If you have been married . Now u should know what matters . And going through what you already did wich is being married to this mind set it's not worth it. There are people who have grown as much as u have.
That's interesting. You think men have things "figured out" when they're 20. I'd disagree. I'd say men AND women don't know shit about Life and/or Love when they're 20. But I'm then further lost when you advocate marriage as a form for developing an understanding for what matters. I'd disagree, because marriage is such a vast and sacred commitment. Instead I'd say "Yes, lessons need to be learned about Life, Love, and priorities...but these lessons should be learned from teachers and experience BEFORE marriage." I know it's tough to know one's entire position from just a few sentences, and we're probably on the same page for many things, but here we're on different pages. But it's good to hear your input, thanks. - Mario
You don't like dogs!! Well cross me off the list!! But seriously, we all have our quirks and preferences. If you don't like dogs or pets...well you're you, but not everyone meshes with that (which is perfectly fine). Just know what YOU value, and you want to connect with those who align with those values. (And not every guy has a dog!) - Mario
Wow! Have women always been this entitled and confused? These comments are crazy! Lol. I give you credit for making this video, its honest and very accurate. I work in a male dominate field and hear these opinions all the time! And most of them are very logical. I think if a woman wants a caretaker she expects, if she wants a partner she shares.
No, women aren't this entitled and confused. But too many are who are watching this video and unhappily single. And you know how the Internet and RUclips are the land of negativity and pessimistic comments. (But this doesn't make them right) Honestly, entitlement, a lack of competitiveness, and a lack of the courage to overcome fears holds back many men and women who are unhappily single. They just keep thinking shit is gonna be handed to them. Like a great love life is just handed out, and not earned! Nope. I appreciate you commenting and sharing your perspective. Your being open minded and hearing the side of men is beneficial, and instead of negating this side because it makes you uncomfortable with what it means, your understanding improves your perspective, and I'd guess your results. This video is NOT offensive. It just shares some tough truths. And what we have to remember is that our friends and family avoid saying anything tough to us, but we need people to tell us what's what, because life is too short. I'd rather be tough in my approach and message than yet another enable who contributes to men and women living unhappily without the love life they desire. - Mario
Really crappy, cringy video, I must say. Don't take this man's advice... it reeks of desperation. Work on yourselves, be positive, be respectful of people, go out and meet wonderful people. Enjoy life and be a blessing to others. You will (may) meet someone special and even if you don't, you will still be living your best life. Not all internet coaches are great coaches. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
Didn't actually mention one thing she disagreed with. Interesting. Not all internet comments from a cook qualify as having any sort of expertise in say...something else. You mentioned a lot of great things, things I wouldn't disagree with...but you need to just spit out whatever TRIGGERED YOU. Especially since so many older women have found the message to be authentic and well, not 'cringe.' Have a great day, though. And all the best. I hope you're crushing it as a cook and personally with a great romantic relationship and just decided to watch my video out of curiosity, and not necessity. - Mario
Lol! Something tells me this guy is too broke to date and is also being rejected online and in person with all that trying to alter the dating experience.
Interesting take from someone we would all "predict" is 1) single, 2) looking for answers/help. Understand, I KNOW you don't think an believe the things I do. For you...you need to follow "conventional" paths. Which...aren't necessarily successful strategies (or you wouldn't be here watching this video, right?). But if you can get over your LIMITING BELIEFS, you might just find it possible to believe that attraction, even love, are NOT driven by money. But what do I know, right?? All I do is teach people how to find what they want without throwing money at a problem and instead, developing awareness, competency...skill for a GAME. I think you might also benefit from recognizing the "dating experience" is flawed because of...conventional dating advice, which you adhere to (unsuccessfully). Maybe this video just isn't for you, which is fine. But it IS for many others who have benefited from my pragmatic and logical advice. You're free to do whatever you want, even troll. But I'm not the one looking for answers because I'm not satisfied as a woman over 40 dating...that's you. Rooting for ya. - Mario
Not one person has cosigned this. Pretty sure no one thinks I'm trying to "alter the dating experience" as much as I'm trying to tell women like you another perspective. I know you're triggered, but attacking me isn't gonna get you a man, a date, sex, or any attention from a quality man. This is the cliche example of the triggered woman who doesn't make one logical point in her attack. I'm a Rationalist. If you make sense, I pay attention. If you say/do dumb shit...I treat you accordingly. You...say dumb shit because you didn't have any valid points to make against mine. I put mine down on video. Feel free to offer a proper rebuttal. - Mario
Man, bringing the heat on that one Jason!! Yeah...a lot of men and women develop regrets later in life because they (often) realize (too late)...that those non-physical/tangible characteristics really ARE important. Something I realize with greater depth more than ever, is the importance of your partner "seeing" you. Not the simple "I see you." But the understanding of who you are, how you operate...and the value of what you have to offer. But for sure, pretty good addition with Tip #6 Jason! - Mario
Can you add some context? Because I'm pretty damn certain nowhere did I say anything about that. Really...can you tell me at what minute and second marker you're referencing? (That way you also get a chance to see if you're putting words in my mouth and creating a meaning and message not mine) - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel btw... I know you make money on this things .. Brutal reality.. beautiful women have men and viceversa;; without this quality you need money.. charm last for a little while
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel ...also , suggesting online dating : a place where you learn to swipe right or left and be swiped right or left: make ugly people (because beautiful ones are there for other reasons than dating) is to encourage them to face many problems ...yes it can happen that you find someone,it can... But there is only one secret and one good thing you said.. Secret: beauty and money Lowering the expectations for the ugly ones (translation be content who ever you find) That is the truth
@@igormenchetti7561 yeah...what are you talking about? At 1:40 there's NOTHING THAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. Are you really challenging me saying that Online Dating allows you to meet people that you otherwise wouldn't in the real world? (Because you'd never cross paths). Really???
Me neither. I've never played by those rules...and still won. It's like how a guy CAN dress up, be rich, look clean and pressed with his appearance...but really, those things HELP...but aren't necessary (if your Game is strong enough...if you have enough perceived value from the other person). Convo, personality, and well...attractive qualities do wonders more than paying. Paying for time and attention...yeah you DON'T have to play by those rules, and you can still crush it. You just can't NOT pay and NOT have much to offer...that's a terrible combo. - Mario
It's pretty simple to disagree with you, too! I get what you're saying...women make decisions based on physical/tangible qualities in their youth, and then later grow in appreciation for the (more important) non-physical qualities. Here's the deal. If you suck at dating, if you have no awareness or competency for the game of Dating...then you're not going to have good options, regardless of your age bracket. And if you DO have awareness and skill...at ANY age you will be able to compete for the best options out there! This goes for men AND women. If you can only connect with the worst options and you think it's because of age...you're lying to yourself, or don't know enough to know better. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel there's 2 types of women hot one that are not attracted to me and ugly ones that are not attracted to me...that's how it works ..women who are unattractive settle but are never actually attracted to the guy they settle for ....typically its a toxic situation and she is never happy cause she didn't get captain america or who ever.
@@lewissteely927 ok, so basically you're fucked. Okay! Give up. Call it quits. Wrap it up. GAME OVER. Observation. You have a lot of insights you're overly confident in. I say "overly confident" because you're speaking to an expertise in women your results...don't support. Just keeping it real. You think unattractive women (your subjective opinion) have to settle for unattractive men? I understand you think this is reality because...it's YOUR reality, but it's not. Does being attractive help? Absolutely. Are you fucked if you're not a perfect physical specimen? Absolutely not. (By the way, I'm just under 5'9". Wouldn't being a short(er) man screw me over? Yet it doesn't, and has never been a major issue. Most people aren't perfect physical specimens...yet still have the opportunity to connect and land a romantic relationship with someone THEY find physically attractive. You know, you have a lot of sour grapes on display in your comments. I appreciate you being real about what you feel/think...but if I were working with you your mouth would be shut more and your ears would be doing the work. I'd literally tell you to shut the F up because what you're saying has no expertise, and most importantly...NO HOPE. With that perspective, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because the pity party extended too long. You're not perfect. So effin what? You're ugly, broke, broken...whatever. Pick yourself up and put yourself back together again better than ever, and if you need help, GET HELP! Life is too short to miss out on the most important part of having a happy life...a happy love life. - Mario
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You are really a coach??? Lol Over 40 dont men desperate. Who wants a man over 40 who cant afford to date??? No wonder why that guy is online. You get what you pay for and desperate guys who only want sex are online. I value my self more than to give it away for free and vd is real. No thank you
Interesting YOU inserted the interpretation of "desperate." Now we know what is in your mind.
@adrienne3682 have fun with your cats.
Realistically, unless someone is homeless, we can all afford to buy ourselves a meal. It’s not about the meal, it’s about the effort made and the gesture. If a man doesn’t think I’m worth taking to a nice restaurant on a first date and paying the bill, he’s saying I’m not worth that level of effort. That’s all it means to me because I’ve worked my whole life and paid for everything I have so I can buy my own meal. I don’t expect it but when a guy does it, I respect it and he gets extra points in my mind.
Two can play this game!! REALISTICALLY...money isn't necessary to connect with someone. If a woman LIKES you, or WANTS TO GIVE A MAN A CHANCE...she doesn't need him to take her to a 'nice restaurant on the FIRST date AND pay the bill.'
You sound really normal, but when we read your comment, it still sounds like you are about money. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel what about looks? If money isn’t necessary, sexual chemistry and attraction isn’t either.
It’s OK for men to want women for sex and looks, but not OK for women to want to be treated well.
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel the short answer is… I have never heard a man of means say this or complain about paying… ever.
The dating landscape is exhausting! I give up. The best advice is to work on yourself, focus on goals, fitness, health, travel, spend quality time and just enjoy your life!!
Maybe even better advice is to do all those things and don't be a bitch and give up!! (Not calling you a bitch, but that's how I speak and I hope you get what i mean!) - Mario
I'm with you on everything, I just want people to realize that what they want is the most valuable thing in the world, and it's not supposed to be easily qualified for and earned.
100% Regan
Why is it dating online discourages me so much.
Feels like ppl size you up in print and decide immediately you’re too old for anything serious but ok for fun especially if you’re good looking.
Not sure if this is the right forum for women over 40 as it encourages a sense of desperation. Any thoughts?
Thoughts: 1) You are displaying YOUR belief that "(Online Dating) encourages a sense of desperation." - Did you realize that?? Now consider, what sort of experience WOULD you expect with such a belief?? (Hint...not a good one.) 2) YES, you are correct about how Online Dating allows people to size each other up quickly. But um...this is EXACTLY what happens in person, too. And always has! So here's the thing. The Game of Love has NEVER been easy. Never. It's risky, and those who have desirable qualities have a bettere experience, right? (But there isn't any rule in this game that says YOU can't improve your desirable qualities...so are you taking advantage of thishack? Make sure you are! Improve yourself. Get better. Get better at the Game of Love (which you're investing in watching this channel and video!). BOTTOM LINE...something so important as a happy and fulfilling love life SHOULD be challenging. You SHOULDN'T win just because you show up, right? So stay positive, keep improving yourself, and if you need any help fast-tracking your success and pleasure in the Game of Love, you're invited to reach out to me with your challenges at mario@thegameoflove.us - Mario
I find it interesting to read men's comments must be a woman who cares about her body, on shape and they are clearly needing to purchase a new mirror. Men often want you to look one way and they don't have a clear visual on themselves. I am 5'8 and 120 pounds and even my ex would make comments about women being fat and this or that. He was way overweight and I would in my mind think...have YOU looked in the mirror lately.
I'm with you.
Maybe we might point out...you're saying he was fat... and he got/kept you. I get it. Double standard. But men and women desire and reward different things. - Mario
@Mario there will always be a woman who settles for a guy and a guy who settles for a woman. Doesn't mean he is a great guy. Some women would rather be with any guy than be single. Does her partner deserve a medal?
Thank you so much for these wonderful words of discouragement and shallowness
Which ones, specifically? Let's hear them, detailed, please. Thanks!! - Mario
I don’t know how this came on my timeline since mostly just listen to political podcast, but this is so desperate. Gee.
Get off the dating websites, focus on you, get to the gym, work on your self esteem, find a hobby, be better person every day for you and just smile to people (homeless people included :) You will meet people in real life, don’t believe that there are no good men out there or that they want only young women. And remember there will be always someone older than you. Have fun with dating (no sex) why rush to commitment with any guy. Life is very long with the wrong person. I hope you win (because you can) ❤
Nice input! I think all that can be done WHILE increasing the odds of success by consciously trying to meet others in person AND online. When you don't have the success you can't avoid trying, right? Love how you remind folks to work on themselves, too.
- Mario
Alot of shitty advice here. He is telling us to compete. No. Compete with yourself, yes. He is telling us that we should help pay for first dates, no, I will be a lady and allow myself to be courted if a cordial date is on the table.
Yes, COMPETE. And I love how you insert your own interpretation into my LITERAL WORDS. Good luck, but you probably won't like shit on my channel because I don't tell people what they want to hear, I tell them what they NEED to hear. Thanks for the hate. Means I'm doing something right if I'm upsetting people with your position. You're EXACTLY why I do what I do. - Mario
👉 *READY TO LEVEL UP YOUR 😐"MEH" LOVE LIFE?* (🙋♂️May I help?) In the description, I organized a collection of 💯🆓 RESOURCES and SHARE the "3️⃣ Actions in 3️⃣ Minutes" you need to take, RIGHT NOW. 👊🏼 - 🦸 *Mario*
1. Try online dating
2. Lower expectations on being wined and dined 🤧
3. Develop your text game
4. Don't focus all your attention on one person
5. Compete (win or lose it's okay to compete for the guy you want)
;) - Mario
Is there a puke emoji in here?
@@annbess5800 is there a specific argument you want to make because I expect more from Internet trolls. That was weak af. Have a take. Have something to say. I'm quite comfortable with debate and defending my positions. - Mario
🤣 Ok, be desperate 🤣
@@jenniferslocks7981 when you're over 40, a level of maturity and accountability is expected. Clearly, the woman who watches this video and responds, "Ok, be desperate" does not have that capacity (yet).
That's too bad. But you are clearly the problem if that's your interepretation. Meanwhile, many others can take a healthy dose of reality without being triggered into a corner because it means, "OMG, I'm gonna have to work on myself and improve my total package...just like I do for my job!"
- Mario
Online dating is exactly like digging through the trash for treasure. I rather take my chances and not meet someone at all in person than meet trash online.
Says the person watching a video about dating...on RUclips (online). Look...stop being bitter. You need to get BETTER. All that you're talking...I've heard that shit before. It's insecurity and a lack of confidence because...I DOUBT you know what the fuck you're doing. And that's ok...but I'm not the one to sugarcoat it and let you talk shit and act like Online Dating is the problem. No...you just don't know how to navigate it well...or you would. (And you HAVE tried. And now you're a lil bitter!!) Rooting for ya, but let's be real...the problem isnt' Online Dating. You just aren't LANDING the quality from Online Dating. My question to you would be, "Why?" And the real answer is what I told you. Rooting for you...but you do want to be able to use Online Dating. - Mario
Let's hold out hope that the negativity and pointing fingers elsewhere changes, for the future cat's sake 😅
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel now imagine she was your wife and you'll be talking to her this way? Yikes!!. im a lady , I'm a flower, I'm feminine, I'm love, I'm compassion. me and all women are. treat women this way, it's not the other way around. men is kindness, protection, safety, security. I don't see you fitting neither a lady or a gentleman nature.
Ladies...never lower your standards or values. I’d rather be single than lower my standards or values just to be with a man. First meeting - coffee. It’s affordable and dating is about meeting people, not about who spends what.
YOU: "Ladies, never lower yout standards or values."
ALSO YOU TWO SENTENCES LATER, "lower your standards, have a First Meet of coffee..."
(We're on the same team, I just don't have the moral conflict to stand behind my position ;) ) - Mario
The Game Of Love Thats an interesting point but I disagree. My standards have never been to start with a dinner date as I feel like that’s too long for a first date and if there’s no connection then I may end up stuck with a person I don’t want to spend all that time with. The first date when you meet someone from online is really just a meeting - it’s not exactly a date to me. But, after coffee, if I’m interested in him then yes, second date I want an actual date. He could take me on a picnic lunch at minimal cost - its still romantic. At least we both know if there’s chemistry by then. But that’s my standard. Other ladies may have different standards and for different reasons. I do feel like once chemistry has been established a woman looks for some type of investment from a man that’s non sexual. She will have values and a set of standards that she wants him to meet...and if he doesn’t ...next! 😊
Perhaps this is why I’ve been single for 4 years 🤷♀️ 😂. Most men don’t get past the first coffee date with me. The shit detector is strong in this one lol! 😄
You should watch videos of old people’s advice and regrets when dying alone. Good luck and don’t be the person that regrets everything later on in life because of your pride, but you can do what you want it’s your life and you live once. You’re only getting older by the day.
From my experience as a single woman for over 3 years and after chatting with many people...in this video I agree with all you're saying. It's what I've learned.
Times have changed overall. Best to have a healthy self-esteem, be humble by accepting your best and not so good traits, but also be realistic.
This isn't for everyone. You must have a certain level of maturity, security in one self, and not take anything personal. Yet, be firm, respectful, friendly or nice, but NOT weak.
It does take work, in the process, you learn from others and you get to know yourself even better. Most times, I enjoy the dating process. Much better, now a days, to meet people online. You just got to be cautious and know what your doing. Don't go into it trying to find a partner .. won't work. Dangerous to do it that way. Just enjoy chatting and meeting or making new friends. I've met really nice guys that stay as just friends, other I got to date. It doesn't have to be a love interest all the time. It can be just great conversations. You can learn so much this way.
With time, you'll find the person you wanna try a relationship with. It can happen online or in a party. Doesn't matter.
Good tips 👍🏻.
Linda!!! Great comment and thank you for sharing your experiences! You and I are definitely seeing things the same way. Acknowledging reality, recognizing there are things we can learn or do to improve our odds, and realizing that Online Dating is about making new connections with POTENTIAL...but we shouldn't go into it thinking, "I'm getting sex, dates, or a relationship."
What I teach about Online Dating, is that most people don't even know what "winning" at Online Dating is. Because it's NOT sex, dates, or a relationship. It's just getting to a FIRST MEET an connecting in person with someone you met online and discovering the strength of the connection.
Glad you appreciated the content, and your comment was very much appreciated. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel
You welcome! Yes, true too.
So many people go into it with expectations. We need to go in with NO expectations at all. The way I see it! I go in with an open-mind, I just want a nice smart conversation...then if all goes well, in time you can meet that person personally in a safe environment. I've learned so much from conversing with people online and tradicional way too. Some are still my friends today.
I classify online guys. I filter what I don't want or don't trust nor calls my attention. I response only to guys I'm curious about after studying their profile and greeting style. I try not to waste my time nor anyone's. I do it when I have time only. Many stay in greetings. All part of it. No rush. Yet the idea is to eventually meet in person.
I've also learned that online dating, for me it's safer and time efficient. If you know what you'll doing and have your personal standards clear. Gotta have them. People that turn out to be jerks online will be equally so in person, except that you discover it sooner, safer, and faster online than meeting the person the traditional way.
Nice day!🌻
Hi Linda can I talk with you
If I start dating a man who is dating several women at the same time in various stages of his relationships, not my idea of finding a future in him...I just found another player and being in my 40s, I am too old for that bullshit! Most guys can't handle dating one woman and keeping it honest, so why in the world would I date someone who date's multiple women at the same time and trust his honesty?! Are you even in your 40s? 😆
So...you want a guy who has attractive, desirable qualities...but you EXPECT this guy to not be dating anyone when you meet him, and you expect a monogamous dating life from Day 1 of meeting and dating him.
From what I'm reading, just a couple thoughts. You're frustrated. It isn't hard to recognize.
You want the Dating Game to be played on your terms. But you didn't create, and you don't manage this game. It exists, and if you want to play it, there are better strategies that align for a smoother, more successful experience.
BUT IF YOU WANT TO PLAY BY YOUR OWN RULES...you can.
But doing so, you're going to keep getting the same results you've BEEN getting.
Easy things I'd suggest.
1. Become aware of the negative energy you have towards dating. It's gonna repel the men you want to attract and keep.
2. Stop blaming men for pursuing their options. Every man or woman can, and should. Logically, you can't really make a case that any man you just met and started dating should have no on in his life he's getting to know, dating, and possibly even having sex with.
3. If you want to play by your rules, and with your strategies...you're welcome to. But you're also going to find EXACTLY what you're (actually) looking for...a guy with no fucking options from Day 1.
Appreciate you sharing, and hope you can take in these thoughts, however you desire.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I appreciate your feedback and will take this into consideration in the future. I know right now I am not ready to date anyone and am working on me. I'm newly divorced and yes bitter about my past marriage. I have not healed from being married to a habitual liar of 9 years. I was just curious on the expectations of dating now, so I came across your video. Gave me some perspective. Thanks
@@LB-by6us I appreciate the open mind. I know receiving feedback isn't always easy, and I tend to be direct in what I say for the sake of efficiency (for all of us). Just know you're not the first person in the world in your shoes, and you're also not allowed to give up. Rooting for you, and here if you need anything. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Thank you and I appreciate you not being fake and telling it like it is!...Not giving up, it's not an option! Just taking time to breathe😉
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Your video was very interesting and you raised some very good points. Thank you. There are so many free or cheap things to do when getting to know someone. I‘v gone for long walks in beautiful parks with take away coffee on first meets. Usually my suggestion. Much better then sitting in a boring restaurant. And I’d rather be chilling out at home with the guy, over some wine, a joint and music, just chatting, getting to know one another. Better then being in a bar.
this is completely opposite of other advice from women
If other women's advice worked so well...you'd be using IT, though. ;) - Mario
(I don't tell people what they want to hear, I tell them what they NEED to hear.)
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I completely agree Kathleen. I cringed the whole time I was watching this. Makes me want to give up. How could women over 40 ever compete with women in their 20s and 30s? It seems like every man in his 40s only wants to date women in their 20s and 30s.
Did you have a dad growing up?
Why do you ask?
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel it’s obvious why he asked, because you exhibit feminine characteristics , you are a beta male. A simp , not trying to be nasty but it’s painfully obvious.
@@cansee0 so...I'm judged by a RUclips troll who has the predictable and cliche profile pic that's not them (no surprise), and the language "beta," and "simp." Because men using that language are badasses. I missed that memo. - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel no memo’s, it’s the way a man should be - you reply as women do, using passive aggressive language in an attempt to shame to silence detractors.
@@cansee0 there was nothing passive about it, homie. I think you're a cliche troll. And that's funny that you have a take on what it is to be a man. I wonder how many of those qualities you check off? Hmmm. Anyway, thanks for being you and looking for help on RUclips (because you clearly don't have them based on the results in your life) and finding my video. If the video didn't resonate, maybe being confronted by your reality will one day inspire you to think beyond "beta" and "simp" language. I mean shiiiiittt...ONE OF US has what the other person wants in life. I'd pay more attention to THAT guy. But again, good luck, but if you don't succeed, or like anything I have to say...it doesn't bother me. I never pretend to give a fuck about everyone. - Mario
I dated an Arab guy in which he paid for all the dates. He never allowed me to pay for anything, well maybe I only paid for like 2 cups of coffee in 2 years and even that he didn’t want me to pay! Not to mentioned the spoiling with- massages, facials, self pampering and gave me generous gifts he told me in he’s culture it’s offensive for a women to pay. He took me to fancy restaurants and to less fancy expensive restaurants. I never complained or showed him that I wasn’t appreciative of him. I agree there are too many people who are entitled, self absorb, and have big egos these days! Having standards is good but don’t act like your some God that everywhere you walk the floor should be kissed!
What you shared in your comment speaks volumes to your self-awareness and to the humbleness. Very attractive qualities to most any man, and I can see why a man with money didn't mind spending it on you and shared experiences. Life is for living and experiencing with those that make it better, right? Seems like he felt things were better WITH you. Awesome. Thanks for sharing that perspective and experience. - Mario
So....date an Arab guy?
Sounds like he's a keeper. Are you still together?
Yes most Arab men are like that even if they’re not interested lol they still feel it’s their job to do that makes them feel masculine lol
Women expect men to pay for dates because men couldn’t afford to pay for multiple women if they were cheating/sleeping around. It is a good gesture that a MAN provides that he is loyal and a gentleman. Women don’t need to pay for dates with men... lol that’s insane. But I’ll give you credit, nice try!
Interesting take. But doesn't it sound "transactional" to you? Is this a feminist perspective, do you think, that "Men pay for dates because they couldn't afford to do this to other women."
CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW MANY WOMEN WOULD GET PLAYED IF SPENDING MONEY WERE REWARDED (AS YOU SHARE)?
I also wonder if this is your perspective, what do you then think is a good gesture from women? Accepting gifts? Reducing themselves economically, socially...because..."it's a good gesture"?
Walking a pretty fine line here I'd say! "Women don't need to pay for dates with men."
Funny, did I proclaim that as a rule? If so, please point it out. (nice try!)
What I did, was speak to reality and how men AND WOMEN can't expect the sun, moon, and stars...without deserving it, and just because they feel entitled. Lol, feminism goes both ways, not just the direction you like when it's convenient.
And the truth is, your old fashioned approach...probably wouldn't get you the guy YOU ACTUALLY WANT. But by all means, go forth and expect old-fashioned strategies (that never worked) to work for you in 2021.
Good luck!
- Mario
The men who paid were serious. The men who didn't were not or couldn't. You make a great point about the cost of multiples. I was literally thinking tonight about what a turnoff it was to date men who only took me to cheap restaurants or wanted to split the bill. Nah. I'd rather sit at home and watch crazy shit on Amazon Prime. Like Shadow in the Cloud. Ha!
@@jlryder97 first off, why would men who barely know why you're interesting or of value spend a ton of money? I know the movies and TV, and even society gave you this story...but it's a poor strategy for ANYONE, male or female, to invest in whatever way in someone BEFORE they identify the value of that person.
The truth for you might be, and can help you in maybe some perspective. Guys might have taken you to cheap restaurants, because 1) that's all they could afford, but wanted to take action to get to know you. Money, expensive meals don't equal connection and compatibility, wouldn't you agree? And 2) maybe guys took you on cheap dates because it was early on, so why WOULD they spend a lot? This is a TERRIBLE strategy in business, and also in our personal lives. And 3)...maybe you get taken on cheap dates and YOU ATTRACT men who want to split the bill (more often with you than other women) BECAUSE...well you answer, "What value is so unique and special that YOU bring to the table?"
It gets REALLY FUCKING QUIET when I challenge people (men and women) to express WHY they're so damn important.
What's UNIQUE and SPECIAL about YOU that you're so valuable to men, and not easily replaceable?
Looking forward to your response. This topic isn't so black and white, huh?
- Mario
I would sooner get a hotel and just give you the cash. Just as transactional and saves a lot of time
@mario there is nothing wrong with being transactional. For many centuries marriage was transactional. The difference between that and prostitution is the parties love each other and choose to be together. Man chooses to spend money on woman and woman chooses to spend time with him. I have dated two multimillionaire guys, and guys who spoiled me with many expensive gifts early on but I wasn't feeling it after a few dates so didn't see them again. Did they pay for me and my time? Of course. But did I choose to enter into selling my time and attention with them? Equally yes. But at the end of the day it wasn't enough so I left. That is the difference with prostitution, choice and emotions (and no, I didn't sleep with them nor any man I was not married to). My advice to guys is don't spend loads of money, first date dinner or coffee is great because it is long enough to know the person. After that it's OK to split the bill unless she offers to get some. Dating is expensive. But so is marriage and having a family (or, if yiu are over 40, picking up chicks with kids from a prior marriage)
#2 the other issue is that if it is over a dating app. There is a high chance the women’s pictures are either old or edited.
Way till you find out about this thing called "makeup"! I'm joking, but that's also a relevant point. You know, most men and women of ALL dating ages complain they don't have enough "usable" pics for Online Dating.
Here's the thing. This game is YOUR responsibility. What I mean is, as awesome and convenient as Online Dating is, it doesn't do all the work for you. It's up to you to look at profiles and better recognize filters that make skin look flawless and younger, it's up to you to question why there aren't any full body pics, and it's also up to YOU to make solid connections ONLINE...and then see if they check out in person in a First Meet (NOT "First Date").
When you get into this mode, you better enjoy the game of Dating and Online Dating, because you don't have the EXPECTATION that everything is 100% accurate, you know? There is far greater advantages to Online Dating than disadvantages, we just have to become better in our awareness and competency for game play and better strategies. I cover everything you NEED to know in my Online Dating 101 playlist (rules, how to play better), and then the follow up course teaches all the better strategies A-Z for Online Dating. Definitely recommend you checkout the playlist. Watching a few videos can shift your experience, for the better.
Thanks for stopping by the channel and if you have issues with anything, reach out. Tons of free resources as well as contact info available at www.thegameoflove.us - Mario
Ladies in your 20’s and 30’s, quit the dating apps. You’ll end up on a never ending quest for mr perfect that never comes. Then you’ll end up watching videos like these. Trust me.
Quitting is not an option. (Not a good one) GET BETTER. Do you want help? Shit...it's YOUR life? And I dare say, NOTHING is more important to you than a happy and fulfilling love life. mario@thegameoflove.us if you want help. - Mario
Number five is terrible advice that just sets each of the people up for failure. Buck the competitive edge because all people are going to do is pretend to be something that they're not and then when reality sets in later it'll be a real bummer. Date lots of people, yes, but be yourself. To be anything other than that is total deception and it's totally wrong. It is a disservice to yourself and to everyone around you.
Interesting. So you have a problem with #5, telling people to compete? You're telling me...telling people to compete is setting them up for failure?? I appreciate the input, but disagree.
Do you also believe competing is to pretend to be something you're not? Or...is that how YOU understand "competing" to be??
Interesting how you believe competition doesn't matter in something that qualifies as a "game" in definition, action, and outcome.
If you don't believe in competition, why do you bathe, iron your clothes, wear certain outfits which go beyond self-gratification, and into the land of...attempting to impress others.
I think we agree more than disagree, but thanks for stopping by and for the input. - Mario
I guess I'm just different. Pepole can get really crazy when they feel like they have to compete.
I feel like if you live your best, full life, you are more likely to naturally attract someone who aligns with you.
For some, being competitive is part if that and natural for them, but that isn't everyone. To me, competing is trying to one-up the competition under some ideal standard.
If you are authentic, you don't have to do this. The people you date will either be a match or they want. No big deal.
But then again, you call your channel "Game of Love". For you it might be a game. I'm probably in the wrong place. Just looking more for advice on moving through the dating world as I am coming out of an 18 year long relationship. Dating now is way different than 20 years ago!
But how many people are REALLY authentic to their true self??
I'm trying to tell you. It's competitive. You just don't like that message! Trust me, after 18 years you're rusty and behind...which is ok and normal. Take my Intro to Game course. It's free for now, from my website. I'll bet I convince you to view things differently, and i promise it will change the course of your actions and life. On my website, free for now. It's where someone like you should start. - Mario
Nice try. If a man is a man then he will take a woman out on a real date whether it is a picnic, restaurant, movie, theater, grab food and walk in the park, whatever. Ladies, ditch the losers that are too poor or insecure or damaged to take a woman out & try to impress them. I stopped listening after that #2 comment since I feel the video lost its credibility. (Note: I'm not over 40 but this is bogus)
Yes, you stopped listening, because you haven't really disagreed with me. Kind of speaks to how much I should value your comment.
So are you saying women are supposed to sleep with multiple men until someone takes us seriously? Not classy for a woman over 40. I would think that is also a turn off for men, especially if they are looking for a woman who is trustworthy.
Agree with the financial thing though. If a man is splurging on dinners, then in my eyes, he's not sensible with his money and he doesn't follow a budget.
Lynn, DID I SAY THAT?? If so, where? (I didn't. Stay with what I said, not what might be concerning...I get it. I do!)
The Big Idea is you have to be competitive, always work on becoming a BETTER version of yourself, and understand...is it really about meeting a great connection, or is it about a man spending money on things you could yourself, but want HIM to...
Heavy thoughts.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I think you have a fixed mindset on what women are or want.
@@lynnm7463 so in other words...you can't find where I said the part that you made up. Got it!
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel you need to watch your own video again and also read comments properly. And maybe even lose the attitude with your viewers.
@@lynnm7463 I'm sure you keyboard warrior the shit outta RUclips, Facebook, and social media...without challenge or consequence. But on this channel, I'll call your ass out for making shit up. You did. Get over it. Your attempts to gaslight are noted, and discarded.
- Mario
I don't think it's ever been about "the guy paying for the date". I think it's always been part of polite society that if you ask someone out - that there is just no expectation that person would then have to pay some unknown amount. Maybe men are starting to understand that if they're seeking hookups or quick dates that they aren't necessarily worth it
I hear what you're saying, and appreciate your perspective. I think we WANT dating to adhere to common sense norms, right? But...when we look back in our history, has dating not been (all too often) EXACTLY what you mention..."someone paying an unknown amount"? I think so. It's not totally black and white, but...ask men and I'd believe the majority would say, "Yeah, that describes dating for me and men...we DO have expectations to pay an unknown amount on dates!"
Now the other thing you mention. I'm in agreement. Yes, (SOME) men are understanding that they're not trying to invest the full way for someone they ONLY view as say a hookup, or just "hanging out." But those men are still very much the exception.
I think the BIG IDEA we need to return to, FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN...is that dating SHOULD be about getting to learn about compatibility. Paying for the date, and spending lots of money...not the most important thing here. I know it's BEEN done that way...but it also hasn't been a surefire path towards success now, either!!
(And for me, I promote that money and superficial things may HELP... but they all aren't the most important things, or qualities, and can be overcome with better Dating Game, and having a solid "total package" to offer the world and romantic partners.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I think it kind of still goes back to my point, if someone - anyone - invites me to do or go somewhere with them I would not expect to pay or offer to pay because I would think that's rude. (I might offer to pay my half if I was asked out and really didn't enjoy my time and i would expect that to be a clear message that the date did not go well and i did not enjoy the company). But if it's the financial aspect is discussed in advance that's different. When a man used to ask a lady out it maybe was more likely that he truly wanted "the pleasure of her company", possibly more likely that he knew her or at least knew her social circle.
So in my mind the difference is the volume of asking out strangers. Maybe the lady is pretty selective and doesn't agree to many dates, and say she expects she's being asked because the guy is really interested in her. But maybe he's just going for quantity- they have two sets of standards and expectations. And these days it's much more likely that a first date is essentially strangers.
Maybe just cut out all the crap and either get to know someone better first or just be up front. Or be more creative on dates. Just my opinion.
Feel like I need to give an example- "I'd love to take you to dinner" 100% implies the asker is treating. "Would you like to go Dutch to dinner" is a different question. Or "would you like to go to the game with me" is different than "I have tickets in x location to the game, if you'd like to come tickets.com still has seats next to mine available "
@@sagefi1 Totally agree. If a guy asks me out I expect him to pay. If we go Dutch, I regard him as friendzoned, purely because that's how it feels. Also, if he's taking me to a specific place I expect him to know roughly how much it will cost, so it won't be a shock in any way.
I no longer do hook-ups, but 'dating' with a see-how-it-goes attitude.
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel muskndusk brought up a good point also. A person should have some idea of what they're going to pay if they're asking someone out. Like - Burger King is maybe $5-15/each vs some fancy restaurant which could be easily $200/each. Plus, he has some control over that, not in what she's going to order necessarily but in what the price points are. Say the gal orders a third drink at dinner - he could shut it down or at least get the check before #4. He can have an idea of an after dinner activity- walk in the park vs going to a bar, for example.
I still also think that women are always going to appreciate men who spend more on them more than guys who don't. It's showing they are putting their resources into the relationship.
Dating at 46 is impossible! Best thing is to learn to live alone!
EXAMPLE OF GIVING ADVICE YOU DON'T FOLLOW. You realize, you're saying give up while watching MY video about NOT giving up, and getting better...so that you can get better results. If this is your attitude, YOU are your biggest enemy. And what man wants to sign up for a woman with THIS MENTALITY? Think about that. It's unattractive. I'm just saying...you're getting the expected results. It's PREDICTABLE the way you're playing the game of Love! - Mario
The Game Of Love love is not a game 1st and for most...second, being realistic about life is better than live in a fantasy world. An reality isn’t after certain age women are not dating material, and the sooner women learn this and start to enjoy their single status the better for them. False expectations are the recipe for frustration.
@@ivonnewhitaker08 1. I have a complete video on my website breaking down Life and Love as games. If you would like to debate me, I challenge you to watch that video and then give it another go. 2. You're saying "get real" and then tell everyone YOUR VERSION of reality. The truth is, you're speaking about YOURSELF. Maybe YOU don't have enough to offer to be dateable at ANY age, but that's a YOU problem. Your limiting belief is wrong and if you want to believe it, fine. But if you want to pass if off on my channel as if it's reality, I gotta call you out on some bullshit. You know what leads to MORE FRUSTRATION than expectations??? Being entitled and thinking you're owed shit you never qualified for and earned. (Some tough love, here, but necessary for you and others to hear where I stand).
- Mario
Daniel Mullen no thanks
I'm 46. Boy you ain't kiddin. Bleak bleak bleak.
I have a lot of men ask me out I’m 39 A LOT old young and in between idk why women don’t. Men are going to be men regardless of whatever anybody tells you . Women get left for younger women all the time always have always will. But I am glad I got married but there are a lot of good guys out there. Idk why all these issues exist
Also want to say God blessed me thank you 🙏🏽
Thanks for sharing that. Something I get out of your comment is that you're not looking at men with a negative perspective from the start. Yes, "Men will be men." You're right. We're always gonna appreciate (young) beauty.
But SO WHAT??
Like you allude to, we still have to continue, right?
Appreciate you just being someone who mentions that there are a lot of good men out there. THERE ARE. Most, in fact, would love to be in relationships. COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS.
(Most men are incapable of pulling off the playboy lifestyle. It's not an option)
- Mario
Men over 40 are controlling the dating scene. Sex is abundant. They aren’t having to invest much to gain access to sex, your time, or love/attention. They have many options. Women are quick to do wifely duties for these men without the title and many men are receiving these benefits from more than one woman. Why commit to marriage these days if they have their freedom and all the wife benefits without having to provide and protect 100% of the time?
I think you're the first person to ever say "men over 40 are controlling the dating scene." Men...don't we wish?? IN OUR DREAMS!!!
Abundance goes to the Top 20% of the Dating community. And women are generally attracted to the (same) Top 20%. Meaning, you need to understand the guys YOU LIKE...are desirable, have good qualities (and many of them)...AND HAVE OPTIONS.
That doesn't mean ALL MEN over 40, or that ALL men have these options. It's like saying, "women under 30 are controlling the dating scene." 80% of the women under 30 would like at you and say, "I WISH!!""
i think...and correct me if I'm wrong...but it just sounds from your comment that you're frustrated with the men you like...not reciprocating as much, or how you'd like. Tough. But that's the Attraction Game!! We all (men AND women) go through it!!!
Chin up, keep working to improve yourself so you can attract even better, and I'll be rooting for you. Thanks for stopping by the channel!
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Mario, first, loved the response- on point, not rude, respectful, and informative. Thank you.
I was actually thinking similar after posting this.,, thinking out loud made me analyze so thank you for confirming.
Being 43 and attractive, I feel like I always have options but I’ve chosen the wrong type because you are right, they have many other options. I’ve currently stepped back and looking at who to entertain. Kind of the mindset of, “dad bods or beer gut with a good heart step up!” You get my point though.
Again, thanks a bunch! This 43 year old is figuring it out slowly.
Yes, reduce expectations! What? Women, do you want trash hobo? Let him get up to your level! Man, my advise, stop coaching and keep admiring her self in a mirror.
Can you rephrase? I didn't understand fully what you're trying to say. Thanks! - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel what she's trying to say is women over 40s should still expect a Model looking 6'5 millionaire who drives a ferrari.
I believe if YOU were at that level...you could pay for the "wine and dine" experience that CLEARLY YOU CANNOT, but expect a stranger to. Small wonder why you're still single! - Mario
I want tips on telling if a man is well equipped? What's dating, and dining when basics needs are like tools, are lousy...
Are you asking how to know if he has a big enough dick for you?
The life is much better after 36s to 50 peopleeeeeee🤣😁
I'm in that age bracket, and would agree! Especially if you take care of your body. Healthy body and wise mind...makes for a pretty good life (provided your love life is satisfying). A happy life NEEDS a happy love life!!
Funny how we were taught 40 is old and it's all downhill. Nope. Not at all. - Mario
Lololol
If the guy was paying for my time it would cost much more than the price of a curry (I don't drink, so that's not a cost) which would cost around £20. Escorts charge far more for two hours - and it's the time you pay for, not the 'service' this would cost approx £200 or more.
Thanks for sharing. Do you not think that (in a way) men "pay" for a woman's time? I get that you disagree, but that doesn't mean this dynamic does not exist in the dating world. I'd love for it to not be true, but I accept that a form of it is.
I'm not really trying to discuss escorts, but you're saying your curry meal is a much cheaper option than the time/services of an escort. To that EVERY GUY would say, "Escorts charge more than the price of curry for a simple reason. Because they...."
Again, talking about escorts isn't really what I'm trying to do here. Anything about the topic of the video, "Dating Tips for Women Over 40" that you'd like to comment on? - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Paying the bill, for a meal, drinks, whatever, is the man's job; it's part of the courtship process. Many older women, like myself, expect it. It touches on a primeval instinct which says that this man is a potentially good provider.
Personally, I can't feel romantic or sexual about a man if we split the bill - he then feels like a friend, not a potential lover or partner. It's bad news for a man if I offer to pay for my half; it means he's either been friendzoned or I won't be seeing him again.
Terrible advice. Don’t lower your bar and value. Men can pay for dates. If they can’t then they should’t dating. Especially at 40.
Sure, men CAN pay for dates. And they do. Nothing wrong with making sure an investment of one hundred dollars or much more, plus the time IS WORTH IT and DESERVED. Honestly, your advice is the typical bullshit that gets women in fucked up positions. That's awesome you're taking the moral high ground on your perch, but in reality my message is pretty grounded in reality and tact. My guess is your anonymous profile is hiding a single woman over 40 who doesn't see that her own results don't support her feeling so strong that she's right about dating. But what would I know...I'm sure you've made it your mission to specialize in understanding this part of Life, right?? - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel I actually set the bar higher and I found much more quality men at the same level as my own.
So you guys can ask us for sex but we can’t expect a free meal?
No.
Lower your expectations in regards to if he pays for dinner ? Pssh …
How many first date dinners have you had in the last three months? Why are you so amazing? What qualities do you posssess that are both UNIQUE and VALUABLE?
I'm pretty confident when I discuss dating and the expectation of dinner, it's because TIMES HAVE CHANGED. Online Dating, the Internet, transportation...women AND men have more choices than ever. And they have to figure out WHO to invest in. Because of this, First Dates are becoming, and I RECOMMEND...replacing First Dates with First Meets. If it goes well...then you invest further...an "official" date, with greater investments of all parties.
Might I also share, funny how you want a man to pay for dinner, but in the same breath you're the type of woman who proclaims that "Men shouldn't expect sex if they take a woman to dinner." (Oh how that double standard blows up in your face)
Not to be attacking you, I do understand where you're coming from...but I made a lot of sense in this video. I didn't say anything that was ridiculous.
In the games of Love, the people who succeed the most are the ones who recognize it's a game, has rules, and better strategies. And then they work within them. Others...reject rules and strategy, due to what they FEEL is "right." Make sure you don't trap yourself by your emotions clouding logic.
Or, if you want to really point out something stupid I said, quote me and offer a timestamp. I'll take a look and see what you're talking about.
- Mario
Online dating is the pits! It's awful! You have to be like a ninja spy to work out who's real! 🙄
I understand your frustrations, but can we be real, the real issue isn't the existence of fakes. They DO exist. And will always exist.
So what are you gonna do?? (Hint: It's clear you've not entirely given up on Online Dating)
So why not IMPROVE your awareness of how this Online Dating Game is played, and its better strategies? You know...work on developing skills like identifying and avoiding fake profiles, and investing in better connections...that would be a good idea, right?
Awesome! I knew you'd agree. So look, it's clear you need a little online dating help. I've considered men and women like you, and you should check out my Online Dating 101 playlist, which is designed to help you better aunderstand and manuever your way in this game. Check it out, it's an organized curriculum to help you fill in your foundations so you can have a MUCH BETTER online dating experience.
Let me know what you think. There's also the free resources in the OD 101 Appendix which you can find at www.thegameoflove.us/theonlinedating game
Hope this helps you level up your Online Dating Game AND results! There are a TON of great singles over 40 out there, too! (Gotta have good bait to catch good stuff, remember that!)
- Mario
What do I bring that to the table I am the table.If it’s too expensive for you to find companionship then you should be single
No, they shouldn't be talking to YOU. But since you're here watching the video...you've clearly experienced that phenomenon. I get it...you have to respect yourself, blah blah blah.
YOU MISSED THE POINT OF THE VIDEO.
If you want to be upset, blame men for not spending money...WHAT DOES IT ACCOMPLISH???
Improve yourself!! You call yourself "Queen T" so...why don't you share with us in RUclips land WHY you're such a queen, catch, and worthy of a man's investment IMMEDIATELY please? I know we all want to know. I find it's a great exercise for men and women who get triggered in the game of Attraction to actually explain to me WHY they're the sh** and WHY they should have men swooning.
Bottom line: you talking trash to men not spending money isn't the issue...becuase they will spend it on SOMEONE they believe is worthy of the investment. (So I'm really curious to hear how you qualify, because I expect to be impressed, right? I mean...I want you to have things going on for you...but I know how this exercise usually goes...it's HARD for men and women to actually justify WHY they're a catch.)
- Mario
You really need to listen to your video and listen to yourself giving the advice you come across condescending and you don’t realize the value of a woman.You could get further by just saying take time to speak with the person prior to going out on a dinner date to find out if you have enough of a connection to spend your money that would be more appropriate than the way you described it it’s all in your tone and delivery you come across as cheap,entitled ,not valuing a woman and you cursing in your videos please stop!
just because you are always on fours doesn't make you the table. why the fuck anyman would spend a single cent on a woman who have entitled mindset. why the fuck would a man want to have his kid have a mother like that.
When you were young yes. But calling a older lady the table and spending money on her would be dumb. You have to meet in the middle or whats the point?
LOL...I think we found someone who calls in to Kevin Samuels to get roasted for what value she does NOT bring to the table. Ironically, self-proclaimed "Queen." Wonder when was the last time a man called her that, if ever.
GTFOH with this toxic entitlement. This comment is the sort of bullshit that helps us quickly realize why you're single.
This man is sugarcoating it for you ladies 40+, but is correct. Men are reacting to modern times. If you are not strong and independent to go 50-50 you are not looking a man but an ATM.
You should also be traditional to expect traditional. And traditional means 20yo cooking and doing the housework.
I definitely DID try to share my message in a way that more women would hear it. And many have, judging by the comments of appreciation. And some don't want to get it. And think that what they PREFER is reality. It's not. And bottom line, let's live for our own happiness. Love is for everyone.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts my guy.
- Mario
This was a great video !!!!
Glad you liked it!! It's tough to share information that is tough to hear, but necessary. I also like to think that with that reality dose in this video, I hope compassion was conveyed, because I know for many over 40 dating is so intimidating and fruitless (but it doesn't have to be).
Women over 40 are amazing, too. 40 is the new 30! - Mario
I find this channel absolutely hilarious. Majority of the views are thumbs down soley for the fact that most women don't like to hear the truth. LOL.
"Sugar-coated" truths in this video...
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel LOL. Damn you're even more red pilled than I thought.
@@dixonlineberger3312 I'm no pilled. That's a basic position. I recognize reality, logic, and facts...wherever they lead. Which is why I'm not Red Pill. I'm about better strategies, alignment of morals, and going after what you want.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel Yeah but you hit on some concepts of the black and red pill. But I get that you don't want to identity with that. You just believe in observable reality and what is reasonable. Most pickup artist type channels do the exact opposite. They tell men and women they can get people out of their league with "tricks" and "hacks" that supposedly no one knows about.
@@dixonlineberger3312 whatever pills...all of them hold some truths. The problem is, many just do the same BS as in politics of creating an identity that's too concrete and rigid (flawed) in its basic, and simple belief without allowances for exceptions, nuance, reason, and other variables. It's good to know you can recognize that I'm influenced, but not UNDER the influence. - Mario
I would never date you 😳
I'm pretty sure you're having this "never date you" relationship with the rest of the men in the world. But it's fine if you need to express your frustrations with your love life towards me, as if I'm the problem.
The funny thing is, you chose to not dispute ONE POINT I made. I mean, I gave you a clear platform to debate and criticize. Instead...all you had was telling me you would never date me (a powerless statement that only sounds good as you keyboard warrior on RUclips).
- Mario
I'm sure there's long list of men who wouldn't date you - that you like to instead say, "I would never date you," AS IF IT'S YOUR CHOICE. 😬
Pretty sad that you need to lash out against me because of your shortcomings in the games of Love. But I'm sure it made you feel good in the moment to let something out, right? Just like a child. How...attractive...(could you sense the sarcasm??)
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel you’re pathetic!
Dude I'm 39 not 60. If a guy cant call me and text only then just no. I don't want a 20 yr old lol. Being 39 I'd like to date older than me not younger. You're giving advice as if we know nothing and are baby boomers trying to date 20 somethings. I'm watching this because I e been single almost a year after a relationship with a narcissist. I'm a widower prior to my ex.
You don't have to like it, but it's reality that you're in a texting culture. If you think the world will revolve around your preferences...it might. (Depending on how desirable a man views you.)
I'm not sure there's a question in what you wrote that I'm to respond to, is there?
- Mario
Interesting. Can you tell me at what point in the video I said that?? Literally please tell me what minute and second of the video ;) - Mario
SOUNDS LIKE PEOPLE ARE A LITTLE TO SENSITIVE.
"some" people...sure
Your so funny 😆 really good tips what l do is if someone pays for dinner l buy the drinks l find it hard to keep up with 3 or 4 conversations cause l have kids and I’m busy
Ha! Someone (else) thinks I'm funny!! (Flattery works on me)
That's great that you chip in. It really helps men view dating with a more positive lens, and also gives a man some indication you enjoy spending time with him. (Guys suck at knowing if you are!) I think that you're CONSIDERATE is appreciated, and whether we all agree about women contributing to a date, it's ALWAYS a "good move" to show appreciation.
(And I get it. It IS hard to get invested and maintain multiple convos. That sounds about right for most. Just make time for it because it's worth it!)
- Mario
Lol....no thank You
To each his/her own. ;)
Nice video subscribed to ur channel ☺️
Thanks for subbing! - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel ur video is very helpful👍...thanks for the direction and motivation ☺️
@@priyamalhotra5794 If you appreciated the video, you should visit our website www.thegameoflove.us and check out the "Choose Your OWN 'Game" Adventure" experience. If you're ready to level up your Game and your love life! - Mario
How do I know if I should text a man who showed plenty of interest at first and does respond if I text but - am I chasing someone who’s not really feeling it or is it he’s just so busy and is used to getting so much attention he’s not going to be necessarily trying to reach me even if he were interested ? I guess what happened was he put lots of energy into mtg then the first two dates and expressed he just wants to get off the online dating and that it’s brutal for his self esteem - however he is a race car driver so I know he gets attention. However, he is almost 50 so I know he knows younger women are more about his $. I am 43 , have an easy time finding dates, make lots of $, no kids, have a super great life and don’t just date one man. But I did like him the most
The convo holds most of our clues here. I suspect there are things to notice, improvements, maybe even red flags. Would you want a professional opinion? - Mario
No matter how old a man is, he would rather spend money on young woman for their youth rather than spending money on women over 30
Hi
How are you doing
What it's awesome about this video. I think it's that it looks exactly and literally the way all Unmarried man think. But when they are 20 they wanted to hide it. Fortunately after marriage comes experience, meaning they either overcame this mindset which it's the main reason marriages fail. Or they never will learn. Now u will know who to stay away from. My advice. If you have been married . Now u should know what matters . And going through what you already did wich is being married to this mind set it's not worth it.
There are people who have grown as much as u have.
That's interesting. You think men have things "figured out" when they're 20. I'd disagree. I'd say men AND women don't know shit about Life and/or Love when they're 20.
But I'm then further lost when you advocate marriage as a form for developing an understanding for what matters. I'd disagree, because marriage is such a vast and sacred commitment. Instead I'd say "Yes, lessons need to be learned about Life, Love, and priorities...but these lessons should be learned from teachers and experience BEFORE marriage."
I know it's tough to know one's entire position from just a few sentences, and we're probably on the same page for many things, but here we're on different pages. But it's good to hear your input, thanks.
- Mario
I don't want to date because I don't like his dog anyways. They said they all have dogs.
You don't like dogs!! Well cross me off the list!! But seriously, we all have our quirks and preferences. If you don't like dogs or pets...well you're you, but not everyone meshes with that (which is perfectly fine). Just know what YOU value, and you want to connect with those who align with those values. (And not every guy has a dog!) - Mario
Wow! Have women always been this entitled and confused? These comments are crazy! Lol.
I give you credit for making this video, its honest and very accurate. I work in a male dominate field and hear these opinions all the time! And most of them are very logical. I think if a woman wants a caretaker she expects, if she wants a partner she shares.
No, women aren't this entitled and confused. But too many are who are watching this video and unhappily single. And you know how the Internet and RUclips are the land of negativity and pessimistic comments. (But this doesn't make them right)
Honestly, entitlement, a lack of competitiveness, and a lack of the courage to overcome fears holds back many men and women who are unhappily single. They just keep thinking shit is gonna be handed to them. Like a great love life is just handed out, and not earned! Nope.
I appreciate you commenting and sharing your perspective. Your being open minded and hearing the side of men is beneficial, and instead of negating this side because it makes you uncomfortable with what it means, your understanding improves your perspective, and I'd guess your results.
This video is NOT offensive. It just shares some tough truths.
And what we have to remember is that our friends and family avoid saying anything tough to us, but we need people to tell us what's what, because life is too short. I'd rather be tough in my approach and message than yet another enable who contributes to men and women living unhappily without the love life they desire.
- Mario
Really crappy, cringy video, I must say. Don't take this man's advice... it reeks of desperation.
Work on yourselves, be positive, be respectful of people, go out and meet wonderful people. Enjoy life and be a blessing to others.
You will (may) meet someone special and even if you don't, you will still be living your best life.
Not all internet coaches are great coaches. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
Didn't actually mention one thing she disagreed with. Interesting. Not all internet comments from a cook qualify as having any sort of expertise in say...something else. You mentioned a lot of great things, things I wouldn't disagree with...but you need to just spit out whatever TRIGGERED YOU. Especially since so many older women have found the message to be authentic and well, not 'cringe.'
Have a great day, though. And all the best. I hope you're crushing it as a cook and personally with a great romantic relationship and just decided to watch my video out of curiosity, and not necessity.
- Mario
Lol! Something tells me this guy is too broke to date and is also being rejected online and in person with all that trying to alter the dating experience.
Interesting take from someone we would all "predict" is 1) single, 2) looking for answers/help.
Understand, I KNOW you don't think an believe the things I do. For you...you need to follow "conventional" paths. Which...aren't necessarily successful strategies (or you wouldn't be here watching this video, right?). But if you can get over your LIMITING BELIEFS, you might just find it possible to believe that attraction, even love, are NOT driven by money. But what do I know, right?? All I do is teach people how to find what they want without throwing money at a problem and instead, developing awareness, competency...skill for a GAME.
I think you might also benefit from recognizing the "dating experience" is flawed because of...conventional dating advice, which you adhere to (unsuccessfully).
Maybe this video just isn't for you, which is fine. But it IS for many others who have benefited from my pragmatic and logical advice. You're free to do whatever you want, even troll. But I'm not the one looking for answers because I'm not satisfied as a woman over 40 dating...that's you.
Rooting for ya. - Mario
Not one person has cosigned this. Pretty sure no one thinks I'm trying to "alter the dating experience" as much as I'm trying to tell women like you another perspective. I know you're triggered, but attacking me isn't gonna get you a man, a date, sex, or any attention from a quality man. This is the cliche example of the triggered woman who doesn't make one logical point in her attack.
I'm a Rationalist. If you make sense, I pay attention. If you say/do dumb shit...I treat you accordingly. You...say dumb shit because you didn't have any valid points to make against mine. I put mine down on video. Feel free to offer a proper rebuttal.
- Mario
Tip 6 - Maybe you should not have friend-zoned the guy who was in love with you when you were in your prime
Man, bringing the heat on that one Jason!! Yeah...a lot of men and women develop regrets later in life because they (often) realize (too late)...that those non-physical/tangible characteristics really ARE important.
Something I realize with greater depth more than ever, is the importance of your partner "seeing" you. Not the simple "I see you." But the understanding of who you are, how you operate...and the value of what you have to offer.
But for sure, pretty good addition with Tip #6 Jason!
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel no regrets. I e had great experiences.
so you dont cross path with people that after you end up dating ? where do you live? which galaxy?
Can you add some context? Because I'm pretty damn certain nowhere did I say anything about that. Really...can you tell me at what minute and second marker you're referencing? (That way you also get a chance to see if you're putting words in my mouth and creating a meaning and message not mine) - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel minute 1:40...
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel btw... I know you make money on this things ..
Brutal reality.. beautiful women have men and viceversa;; without this quality you need money.. charm last for a little while
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel ...also , suggesting online dating : a place where you learn to swipe right or left and be swiped right or left: make ugly people (because beautiful ones are there for other reasons than dating) is to encourage them to face many problems ...yes it can happen that you find someone,it can...
But there is only one secret and one good thing you said..
Secret: beauty and money
Lowering the expectations for the ugly ones (translation be content who ever you find)
That is the truth
@@igormenchetti7561 yeah...what are you talking about? At 1:40 there's NOTHING THAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. Are you really challenging me saying that Online Dating allows you to meet people that you otherwise wouldn't in the real world? (Because you'd never cross paths). Really???
Please consider cursing publicly is discrediting
Please consider whether your comment came from your Ego. ;) - Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel ironic
I'm single 🙃
Thanks for sharing, but are you expecting some response from others with that comment?
- Mario
Why is that bad? Focus on yourself
@@rachelahmed5291 like a hippo or elephant
I have never understood why guys pay for the entire date. It seemed strange to me. "I need to pay for everything to be with you?" Why bother?
Me neither. I've never played by those rules...and still won. It's like how a guy CAN dress up, be rich, look clean and pressed with his appearance...but really, those things HELP...but aren't necessary (if your Game is strong enough...if you have enough perceived value from the other person). Convo, personality, and well...attractive qualities do wonders more than paying. Paying for time and attention...yeah you DON'T have to play by those rules, and you can still crush it. You just can't NOT pay and NOT have much to offer...that's a terrible combo. - Mario
Its pretty simple..
Remember all those guys you friendzoned or didn't even notice growing up ...well ...those are you only options now
It's pretty simple to disagree with you, too! I get what you're saying...women make decisions based on physical/tangible qualities in their youth, and then later grow in appreciation for the (more important) non-physical qualities.
Here's the deal. If you suck at dating, if you have no awareness or competency for the game of Dating...then you're not going to have good options, regardless of your age bracket. And if you DO have awareness and skill...at ANY age you will be able to compete for the best options out there!
This goes for men AND women. If you can only connect with the worst options and you think it's because of age...you're lying to yourself, or don't know enough to know better.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel there's 2 types of women hot one that are not attracted to me and ugly ones that are not attracted to me...that's how it works ..women who are unattractive settle but are never actually attracted to the guy they settle for ....typically its a toxic situation and she is never happy cause she didn't get captain america or who ever.
@@lewissteely927 ok, so basically you're fucked. Okay! Give up. Call it quits. Wrap it up. GAME OVER.
Observation. You have a lot of insights you're overly confident in. I say "overly confident" because you're speaking to an expertise in women your results...don't support. Just keeping it real.
You think unattractive women (your subjective opinion) have to settle for unattractive men? I understand you think this is reality because...it's YOUR reality, but it's not.
Does being attractive help? Absolutely. Are you fucked if you're not a perfect physical specimen? Absolutely not. (By the way, I'm just under 5'9". Wouldn't being a short(er) man screw me over? Yet it doesn't, and has never been a major issue. Most people aren't perfect physical specimens...yet still have the opportunity to connect and land a romantic relationship with someone THEY find physically attractive.
You know, you have a lot of sour grapes on display in your comments. I appreciate you being real about what you feel/think...but if I were working with you your mouth would be shut more and your ears would be doing the work.
I'd literally tell you to shut the F up because what you're saying has no expertise, and most importantly...NO HOPE. With that perspective, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because the pity party extended too long.
You're not perfect. So effin what? You're ugly, broke, broken...whatever. Pick yourself up and put yourself back together again better than ever, and if you need help, GET HELP! Life is too short to miss out on the most important part of having a happy life...a happy love life.
- Mario
@@TheGameOfLoveChannel i just get escorts now focus on money life is good
If it was, you wouldn't be watching my video.
get a men that still breed ....
is not only women that benefit from social media .
men want younger women now .
"men want younger women now"? I'm not sure I'm understanding your post.