I did it! Thank you so much without this video I don’t think I would be able to do it. I did tell them straight up and my mom understood but my dad did not so we will see how the feast of my life will do.
My mum dropped so many hints that she knew, and it STILL took me a year to have the conversation with her - tears and hugs and all. Even when your parents are the most wonderful humans, it can be scary coming out, because our world tells us that we have to. One day that'll change. Until then, remember you are loved, no matter how in or out of the closet you are ♡
@@laurenelloise omg that means so much to me, your videos are great for lgbt youth trying to find their way and I wish I could have found more channels like this when I was finding myself The dragons a prove of your content
I was lucky enough to not have a problem coming out to my parents because I have two gay moms, but my heart goes out to anyone who hasn’t had an easy coming out experience 💕
I came out as Non Binary to my mom a few months ago. At first she didn’t understand and kept calling me she and saying they was plural, but as of yesterday, she ordered me a non binary flag for the pride parade!!! Never give up on ur parents.🖤💜🤍💛🏳️🌈👩👦
when i came out to my dad i had just got a couple flags in the mail and i just showed him, he didnt know what the lesbian one was so i told him and then he asked if i was just supporting. but umm i dont think most allies have a lesbian pride flag in their room.😂
I've know I was lesbian for 3 years and I still haven't told a soul, my parent's have no idea I watch you, lol... Uhm, idk how I'm going to tell them but hopefully I do it this year...
I just watched a film with my mum where gay girls are included. And when they were on screen, I asked her how she sees this lesbian relationship. She reacted very well, and so I came out to her on next day, just telling her I have a crush on a girl and think I'm lesbian. She hugged me and was like: "auuuw, maybe its just a phase, but I hope you know that I love you, no matter what happens." So, my dad gave homophobian hints. I decided to just say it to him, idk if this was the best idea. Still, his reaction was like: "I love you, no matter what. But I hope your not into your Bff this could be hard-"
One thing that helped me was I didn’t just randomly sit my mom down and tell her. I told her when we were talking about something else but it was like relevant to me being gay. So basically she brought me into her room and asked if I wanted to switch schools bc I literally hate the high school I go to and I say that all the time. Like this school is just a bunch of white people who are pro trump catholic homophobic and racist and alllllll that stuff so I don’t fit in literally at all. And my mom was like “if you want to go to a different school you can because I don’t want the school to be the reason you don’t enjoy high school and go to college or the school to simply weigh you down when there are other options that might be better for u” and I said “the reason I hate that school is because I’m gay and you know how that school is not an accepting place for that stuff so if anybody knew they would probably hate me or something” and I don’t have a lot of friends or talk to a lot of people bc I don’t like anyone there besides the people I’m friends with. My mom was accepting which is good but like every person who has come out has said is don’t come out if ur not safe or ready. If u are scared to come out like genuinely scared something bad will happen u don’t have to come out. Come out to the people you feel most comfortable coming out to and u can go from there don’t feel pressured to come out to certain people like your parents or family if you know they won’t accept you they don’t deserve to know
I did something similar and it made it so much easier!! I was already crying to my mum about issues with my dad, and I brought it up like “and another thing that makes me scared he won’t love me and I can’t talk to him about things is because I like girls and I know he’s homophobic” which sorry to trauma dump lmao but yeah would suggest bringing it up somewhat naturally
I just came out at 48. Telling my parents was scarier than telling my husband of 30 years. I was sure they would disown me, as they are ultra conservative. But they surprised me and love me even though they don't accept my sexuality.
This is really helpful. I’ve been wondering how to come out to my parents as gay for awhile and writing a letter/note sounds like an amazing idea! Thank you so so so much for making these kind of videos, they really help me feel welcomed into the community even though I’m not out yet.
My coming out story: I look really gay, so my bigger sister already knew and shipped me with my friends. Also, I write a ton of stories with queer main characters, and, one day, when my dad was listening to me reading one of my stories in the family table, he stopped me an said: "are you gay" There were like 30 seconds of uncomfortable silence until I said yes, and well, then we continued with other conversations and having dinner basically. :)
Also, they weren't the first people I came out, I wore pride flags everywhere and had already told all my friends and allowed them to say it to everyone who asked, so at least 50 people know at that time (and I was comfortable with it)
Im a very young person to know about lgbtq+ to be dating the same gender and being lesbian watching this helped and im going to remember it and come out with Lauren’s advice thank you!
me and my mum have always had very open chats about sexuality. She says that she would define herself as questioning, bisexual or queer, she said once (jokingly ofc) that it's crazy how she ended up basically being a stay-at-home mum in a het relationship... lol. it's always been clear that im a 'tomboy' bc of hobbies etc that i do. I know my parents are very open to the lgbtq+ community, they have some issues with youth being shoved into labels though. I remember taking the census last year and it asked about sexuality and my mum and i both put questioning. I remember gping to ikea a few weeks ago with friends and i basically came out to them as bi saying that "i never knew that not all women find other women attractive, like i thought it was just a given" and my gay friend fully just laughed :') (kinda a have a crush on her but will never say...) I also came out as bi to my other friends by text and they were very chill and accepting, which i knew they would be. I also came out to my brothers months ago out of the blue when they were talking about video games and anime or something and they said a female character was hot so i said "show me" and then i proceeded to say i agree. my brothers were both very chill about it, they are both neeky kinda guys and my older brother is a very sweet feminine guy - still het, even though there was a period when he was questioning that- and my twin brother likes to think hes more macho but he really isnt... Also a week or so ago my mum and i were eating in a cafe and the subject came about, and i just plainly said what i felt when i fully realised that i am gay, basically the same thing as i said to my friends - "i never knew that not all women find other women attractive, like i thought it was just a given" - i remember there being a pause (or maybe thats in my head lol idk) but she pretty much validated my feelings and normalised them, and agreed. So i guess that was my coming out in a way? I know that i am very gay and maybe bi? idk yet so thats why im waiting to find out hehe... maybe i never will? but tbh idm i dont really care for labels. i just want to be comfortable in myself and for others to love me the way i am. maybe ill update when i 'properly' come out... but kinda already have so idk lol (also there is no proper way to come out so dont get stressed about it, do whatever feels right lovely hooomans) thankyou lauren for provding such a safe place for the gays :') have a good one :)))
Be kind to yourself and to your parents but yes I agree give your parents time as well cause it’s taking you time to accept yourself as well. Also be safe as well thank you for this great video and it’s needed I think
I'm coming out to my mom this weekend as a lesbian. I came out to her years ago as ace but realized about a year and a half ago that it was just compulsive heteronormativity. And I also have been questioning my gender a lot and now identify as gender fluid, I think that'll honestly be harder for her to accept than my sexuality. I'm really nervous but mostly I just want the freedom to be myself around her.
This is how i came out: Me: Mom, I like girls. My mom: OK. How long have u been feeling this? Me: my whole life i guess My mom: Well you might just be feeling like all the boys you've ever known are complete idiots and you just don't like them but it gets better sweetie. Me: Mom, you cant convince me to be straight by saying that
I came out to my mom as bisexual a couple of years ago, but now I think I might actually be lesbian, and it's scary to think of coming out to her as that. I grew up with her being homophobic, and even though she's not anymore, I can't get the past out of my brain. And also she's super straight and I kept convincing myself I was bi for the longest time by convincing myself I was attracted to boys, just to have something to talk to my mom about, because it was easier to talk about guy crushes than my real crushes on girls. To think of completely taking that away by coming out as gay is scary, but I think I want to do it, it's just going to take building up my courage all over again.
I just found out around a week ago that I am bi and still question if I am possibly lesbian, but my mom asked me if I liked girls because I was dropping hints for her. I haven’t fully come out to her and I am a little nervous but still working on myself a little bit more before I come out to her fully. Also Lauren I love your videos they helped me SO MUCH when I was trying to figure out all my new feelings.
I can tell that my mom knows because she always makes sure to say "whatever partner you have in the future" instead of just "husband" but I still feel nervous about telling her even tho I know that she won't take it the wrong way probably... she is slightly homophobic tho because she tries to make it clear that she would rather have a stepson than a stepdaughter... my parents are separated tho and I love my dad but I feel like if I'd I came out to him he would lose his mind a little bit because he has slight anger issues- I mean he has to know im a lesbian right I mean I can carry more weight than him without even trying... and he works out hard core
I’m a girl, my mom handed me a bible & (she attempted) a soft, sweet voice while rubbing holywater on my hands. My mom & grandmother are christian.. I currently only have my older brother by my side. But they called it a phase and said I’ll get over it. Little do they know I’m currently being fruity with a woman right now. Gosh she’s gorgeous. +It very much so angers me to hear FAMILY call it a phase. I’m very quiet, so they don’t think about it unless I mention it. (They = Grandmother & Mom.)
i’m not out to my parents but they know. like my dad tells me when he knows people that are lgbtqa+ or allies and i told him about a past crush of mine and lied and used he/him pronouns to describe the crush and he said that like he and my mom would of course support me if it was a girl (i still lied haha) and my mom asks me about the lgbtqa+ terms and i’ve described them and i listen to like girl in red and sweater weather (i’m omni so if i like all the genders i can like all the anthems lol) and my brother is like are they lesbian for girl in red and i just ignore him lol
Here’s an idea for coming out during Christmas time. You frost a cookie to look like your sexuality flag and when someone asks what it is, say “it’s my sexuality flag.”
I’m planning on coming out after watching this video wish me luck😅 I already know my parents are supportive of lgbtq so I’m hoping it will go well❤ thanks for the amazing video
This hit me hard. being Catholic were I'm not supposed to be lesbian plus my parents NOT supporting the LGBTQ+ community, i don't even know if I'm supposed to be lesbian plus I dont really want to let my bi friend that likes me down...
I came out to my cousin as a lesbian first through text and then through his support and encouragement, I came out to my mom through a phone call, I have yet to come out to my dad and family.
I’m still in the stage of life where I don’t even know a thing about myself except my birth gender and my given name. I kinda feel like I might be Lesbian or bi. If I figure out I’m not straight the first person I’d tell is my mom even though that might take a while. My mom is amazing she knows people in the LGBTQ+ community and is there for them. I love her very much! 🥰
same, when i was telling my mom i literally couldnt say it, because she was the first person i told, but i could say other things, so i told her she had to guess.
I'm a little bit too late hahaha. But I still want to share my coming out story bc it could help people :) So it was 3 months ago, at the end of August. I started talking to a girl at the beginning of February with mails, it was at the beginning bc i wanted to improve my german and so my german teacher gave me the mail of this girl and we started to talk. At one moment in the discussion, she told me that she was gay and i was kinda surprise but i didn't know why. And more we were talking, more i felt something for her, it wasn't just as we were friends. I was always thinking about her. And I started questionning myself about it, bc i never felt this before and i remember that i thought that I was maybe gay too. Then a few time later, we really met (it was in August), she comes to France and we spend hours together, and it was wonderful !!! When she goes back to Germany I was so so sad that i cried a lot but my parents didn't know this at this time. A few days after we met, i decided to tell her that i was in love with her, and she said that she already knew this and that it was okay, but she wanted that we stay best friends because of the distance. And I was soooo sad again that i cried the entire evening and my parents were like" what's wrong?" "why are you crying this way?". I thought it was the right time to tell them the story and i just told them that I was in love with this girl. They were very supportive and i'm so thankful for this! So it was my coming out story to my parents ;) I'm sorry for all the mistakes I probably made hahaha, i speak better german and french than english hahahaha! I hope this will help someone !! :)
I came out to my "freinds" first,and then my parents but my parents didn't care all they said was you do you. I think the hardest people to come out to will be my grand parents 😓😨
I haven't come out yet, too scared to be honest. What if they don't accept me? It's just me, mom and dad. I have no escape if I want to flee the situation.
Ur videos r so informative!!! Thank u for creating all of this helpful content... question is 12 too young to know my sexuality?? I told my mom a little bit about how I feel and her basic response was “ur still too young to know for sure”
I am also twelve and I don’t think it is too young to know. It’s actually a good thing to know your sexuality early because you can learn more about yourself earlier than others.Also, you can have more opportunities to be in a relationship.
My mum says the same but I can tell you I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know when she knew she was straight, she just knew you know?. It's the same thing with being gay, you just know
I am not actually out yet but your videos are my constant inspiration!!! I am actually thinking of coming out soon and inspired by your idea of doing it with a letter, I am doing something similar... a powerpoint presentation. I just wanted to say... your videos are awesome!!!
I came out as bi to my parents who were supportive of me, but now I think I’m gay and they are accepting of that stuff. However, my mom wants me to dress girly and have long hair, and whenever I wear button down shirts or beanies she says stuff like “you look like a boy” and she told me not to get a short haircut which I may want in the future. She doesn’t know I’m a chapstick or soft butch lesbian and I’m kind of scared to tell her that. I’ve also been told by others I seem straight which makes me scared to come out as lesbian for the fear of not being accepted. Any advice on how to deal with the things I listed? Also I ❤️ your channel so much 🥺🏳️🌈
My mom always asks me “do you like girls? It’s okay.” But I always get nervous and my heart beats so fast that I just say no because I’m too nervous to say yes.
Because i have religion,it won't work to make them accept me as a bi at the past(i have never told them because i'm afraid and i know i'll get a punishment).but i already changed now.i'm back into straight:)
I feel like my mom knows, but I just can't bring myself to tell her yet. I was planning to tell her during my 16th birthday maybe but idk. She buys me these clothes with rainbows on them and gets me a ton of rainbow stuff, one time she got me a shirt that looks like the Lesbian flag with the colors and the way it's organized on the shirt. She also has a shirt that says: 'Be the change' and it has rainbows and the trans flag colors on it but it's very brief, my older sister is bisexual, I just have a feeling she knows but I just don't know
Me coming out: Mom, dad can you go to the living room Okay Thanks *me started recording bc I was so nervous* um I like girl… Can you please stop recording? *stops* * thinking oh no now the homophobic is coming So we support you but why did you have to record it was annoying *me goes to my room crying of happiness but still feels like they don’t really support me*
I came out in 2017 as gay, I dropped hints and played around til they both got it that I was gay, the one thing that gave them the clue is when I got my Pup Hood and the rainbow/Puppy pride flags. Til this day I’m still with my partner and living at home with my family.
Although I don't think anyone will read this, I just wanna vent to someone else besides my friends. I've been questioning my gender and sexuality for about 4 months now, and I've switched between dozens of labels very often, sometimes even multiple times a day. I've done enough research that I could probably name any pride flag I see. I've made a lot of progress since then and figured out that I'm non-binary. I also think I might be omnisexual and I'm still not quite clear if I'm panromantic or if I'm on the aro spectrum. I'm still questioning, but I've come this far already. And once I've settled on the labels I like best, I'll come out to my parents. I was gonna start dropping hints that I was generally LGBTQ+ to test the waters, but they brought up a transphobic tweet someone made in their own conversation and they both agreed that gender was a construct. It melted my heart and made me smile so wide to hear them say that, and it was so relieving to know they'd accept who I am. Even tho I don't think anyone is reading this, I just want all the people who are questioning themselves to know that you and the struggle you're going through are absolutely valid, and you deserve all the love and respect you could ever get. And when you do find the right labels for you, you deserve to be accepted as you are. Don't worry about fitting or blending in, because if you do then no one might see you. Stand out and above all, love yourself for who you are because you are something that no one else is.
So I have dropping hints to my mom that I am not straight(idk what I am yet) like setting my wallpaper to a tiktok of 2 lgbt female characters that I am crushing on and having a picture of one of my celebrity crushes holding a pride flag as my other wallpaper and she has read my texts to my friend talking about my sexuality and then she just got back from a trip to Disneyland and came back with a pride blanket and stickers for my water bottle and so I think she knows but I’m not ready to tell her yet especially if I don’t know what i am yet but I’m going to wait a little while till I actually tell my parents I have came out as bi for right now because I don’t know and coming out as bi is letting me explore my sexuality but I am going to come out to her as soon as I figure it out
I planned a sleepover with my friend on Saturday, so I can come out through text to my mom at my friends house! I will edit and tell you her response! ❤
I told my sister I was Aroace, (aromantic, asexual) she outed me as aro to my mom, who then said, “You just haven’t met the right person yet” then my mom outed me to my dad who asked a few questions and then they ignored everything they had just learned.
I keep a pride flag in my room, as soon as you walk in you can see it. It’s not like the one you have of your wall it’s smaller it’s like a little hand held one you wave around and if my parents as if I’m lgbt+ I’m going to tell them the truth, but they haven’t yet. Or until Im 100% I’m pan I’ll tell them 💗💛💙
When I came out to my dad (haven’t to my mum yet” I was going to kfc to collect dinner and I said “dad uhh I’m gay he said this “cool, I like woman too” 💀🖐 my dad is the best (btw he is fully supporting
I am still scared, nervous, anxious, etc. I don't know if I can come to my mom. . . Her family is homophobic but I have been holding this secret that I am lesbian from my mom for 3 years 🥲🥲🥲😭😭
I'm trying to pull myself together a`d just come out to my parents so, if someone isn't gay but is pan, aroace transgender etc do you just tell your parents "I'm gay" or would you tell them "I'm [enter pride here]"
Rant lol I cant help but feel like I have to come out soon bc I’ve known that I’m at least not straight since I was eleven. I’ve told my friends ofc and I’ve told my parents my pronouns. I’ve known I’m a lesbian for less than a year probably. My bestie keeps asking me when I’m gonna come out which makes it worse. She just wants to help but it rly doesn’t. I feel like it should be easy. I’ve always been terrible at saying what’s in my mind. Also telling the rest of the family sounds rly scary. Their not homophobic at all so why why WHYYYY am I so scared???
I feel like im to young to know and since i havent dated before im scared encase my parents ask me “how do you know” like what do i say “kizzy eidgel is gorgeous “ like what do i do
In western or gay friendly country, it's easier and more likely you'll be accepted... But in Muslim countries, that's not an easy task.... Even I'm not muslim, but having very religious and traditional mindset it's difficult
So I’ll update this story for when I come out but I’m bis3xul (idk if I should censor or not) and my mom when we were talking about s3xulaitys she said she would say something similar to: “Ok, I don’t believe in that but you can make your own choices” my dad however, when I was like 4 and playing with Barbie’s with my sister (I they were her Barbie’s btw) my dad tried getting me into sports afraid I was gonna be gay….yeah….any tips?
@ConstantMentalBreakdown yeah but it was a phase. the more i thought about it the less i got attracted to boys, so uh yeah, i did come out, but it was just a phase-
Ok so.... I have a girlfriend called isla and were trying to figure out how we tell our parents its so hard because we dont know if there gonna support us im really stuck Please can someone give me some advice that wasnt said in this video! That will be so helpful to me thank you so much ☺️ 👇. 👇
Me :trying to learn my brother handwriting so my parents think my brother is coming out Also me: hopefully they accept him because if they do then I’ll be able to tell them the truth and come out Also also me: 🙃🙃🙃🥲🥲
Hey I'm lesbian it started in high in freshman year I had a best friend and she had a crush on me and she confessed to me on December 27th 2023 and she told me that she said that she likes Me and I was like oh wow and I felt something inside me that I liked it her too that I said to myself wait what if I'm lesbian and I said to her yes I'd o want to be with you and now that were dating I don't know what to say to my mom about !y relationship with her and I love her a lot and she loves me too much and we been together for awhile and she didn't tell her mom either and she told me that her mom was like oh why are you lesbian and why you like girls and stuff and she kept it a secret from her and I did too and I don't know what to tell her do you have Amy advice to help us .
I’ve been out to my friends for about 4 years now, out to my mum for 2 and I still haven’t told my dad because he’s homophobic ): i’m terrified but I just wanna be 100% out so I can find a fucking girlfriend easier smh
I did give my mom some hint and actually told her that’s I’m gay but more like joke way I told her : Mom I’m Gay Then Laugh and said I’m being honest laugh again but my mom look at me confused she’s said I’m crazy but not in serious way I just confused her lol but I’m confused too that’s she’s didn’t know that’s I have told her that I had a crush on girl also I’m wearing man close and told her that’s I will never marry a guy I said it’s too gross it’s so funny that’s she didn’t know I’m gay or maybe she’s pretending because it’s hard for her to accept it’s I find it’s more harder too convince your asian parent especially (Chinese Family Culture ) I was born and raised in Cambodia but my family is Chinese culture it would easier if I was in Khmer culture family But Anyway I’ll keep trying Thanks So Much Lauren For Sharing Love Your Vids 🤍🤍🤍
✨BONUS ✨ 4 THE GAYS VIDEO!!!! Let's open the conversation, how did you come out to your parents? 💘💬 (it might help a fellow gay if u share)
I am gay 0-0
My mom had been asking if I was gay for a while
So I just said yes when she asked
I did it! Thank you so much without this video I don’t think I would be able to do it. I did tell them straight up and my mom understood but my dad did not so we will see how the feast of my life will do.
My mum dropped so many hints that she knew, and it STILL took me a year to have the conversation with her - tears and hugs and all. Even when your parents are the most wonderful humans, it can be scary coming out, because our world tells us that we have to. One day that'll change. Until then, remember you are loved, no matter how in or out of the closet you are ♡
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Your words 🥺 I love you.
My mum said she didn’t care
I’m really sorry..
Omgosh yes!!! I am still not out and I know my parents will support me but I am still scared to actually do it!!!
"Hello humans"
Me an asexual genderfluid enbie:bold of you to assume I am human * turns into a awesome dragon *
damn, ill update my welcome in the next vid to include non-humans too ehehhehe (lol this comment is my fave)
@@laurenelloise omg that means so much to me, your videos are great for lgbt youth trying to find their way and I wish I could have found more channels like this when I was finding myself
The dragons a prove of your content
Me and my asexual friend also are not human, I'm a shapeshifting dragon and she is an alien from Venus
@@ameliatropman9729nice, I’m from Mars ✨💅
I love dragons, and I’m also an asexual, and asexual aromantic lesbian to be specific
I was lucky enough to not have a problem coming out to my parents because I have two gay moms, but my heart goes out to anyone who hasn’t had an easy coming out experience 💕
I came out as Non Binary to my mom a few months ago. At first she didn’t understand and kept calling me she and saying they was plural, but as of yesterday, she ordered me a non binary flag for the pride parade!!! Never give up on ur parents.🖤💜🤍💛🏳️🌈👩👦
Aww congratulations on the progress!!! This is a super sweet story!!!
when i came out to my dad i had just got a couple flags in the mail and i just showed him, he didnt know what the lesbian one was so i told him and then he asked if i was just supporting. but umm i dont think most allies have a lesbian pride flag in their room.😂
awww hahah i love this story!
I’ve got to say I love your mum. She puts a huge smile on my face every time
Awwww :’)
I've know I was lesbian for 3 years and I still haven't told a soul, my parent's have no idea I watch you, lol... Uhm, idk how I'm going to tell them but hopefully I do it this year...
Same here. I've only told my bestie who I found out a week ago was Lesbian as well. Hopefully you can tell them. Good luck:)
Me too I know it’s when I was 4 and I still haven’t told them too
YOU GOT THIS! (If you haven’t already)
im not in a very welcoming place to come out but this makes me feel so much better.
I just watched a film with my mum where gay girls are included. And when they were on screen, I asked her how she sees this lesbian relationship. She reacted very well, and so I came out to her on next day, just telling her I have a crush on a girl and think I'm lesbian. She hugged me and was like: "auuuw, maybe its just a phase, but I hope you know that I love you, no matter what happens."
So, my dad gave homophobian hints. I decided to just say it to him, idk if this was the best idea. Still, his reaction was like: "I love you, no matter what. But I hope your not into your Bff this could be hard-"
One thing that helped me was I didn’t just randomly sit my mom down and tell her. I told her when we were talking about something else but it was like relevant to me being gay. So basically she brought me into her room and asked if I wanted to switch schools bc I literally hate the high school I go to and I say that all the time. Like this school is just a bunch of white people who are pro trump catholic homophobic and racist and alllllll that stuff so I don’t fit in literally at all. And my mom was like “if you want to go to a different school you can because I don’t want the school to be the reason you don’t enjoy high school and go to college or the school to simply weigh you down when there are other options that might be better for u” and I said “the reason I hate that school is because I’m gay and you know how that school is not an accepting place for that stuff so if anybody knew they would probably hate me or something” and I don’t have a lot of friends or talk to a lot of people bc I don’t like anyone there besides the people I’m friends with. My mom was accepting which is good but like every person who has come out has said is don’t come out if ur not safe or ready. If u are scared to come out like genuinely scared something bad will happen u don’t have to come out. Come out to the people you feel most comfortable coming out to and u can go from there don’t feel pressured to come out to certain people like your parents or family if you know they won’t accept you they don’t deserve to know
I did something similar and it made it so much easier!! I was already crying to my mum about issues with my dad, and I brought it up like “and another thing that makes me scared he won’t love me and I can’t talk to him about things is because I like girls and I know he’s homophobic” which sorry to trauma dump lmao but yeah would suggest bringing it up somewhat naturally
I did it with a letter, it really helped cause I was too anxious to hardly speak when I did it.
I just came out at 48. Telling my parents was scarier than telling my husband of 30 years. I was sure they would disown me, as they are ultra conservative. But they surprised me and love me even though they don't accept my sexuality.
This is really helpful. I’ve been wondering how to come out to my parents as gay for awhile and writing a letter/note sounds like an amazing idea! Thank you so so so much for making these kind of videos, they really help me feel welcomed into the community even though I’m not out yet.
Welcome to the community! 🏳️🌈
@@annabeth213 Thank you so much! I really really appreciate it ❤️🏳️🌈
im to scared too tell my mum im thinking abt writing a letter ilove ur vides
it’s okay to be nervous! only do what you’re comfortable with. letters are such a good way to get everything off your chest in a non-confronting way x
same xx
@@gemstone559its been 11 months ended up not doing it
Thanks for posting this Lauren! Videos like this are always really helpful. 💗
You’re so welcome I’m really happy this was helpful to you!!!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
My coming out story:
I look really gay, so my bigger sister already knew and shipped me with my friends. Also, I write a ton of stories with queer main characters, and, one day, when my dad was listening to me reading one of my stories in the family table, he stopped me an said: "are you gay"
There were like 30 seconds of uncomfortable silence until I said yes, and well, then we continued with other conversations and having dinner basically. :)
Also, they weren't the first people I came out, I wore pride flags everywhere and had already told all my friends and allowed them to say it to everyone who asked, so at least 50 people know at that time (and I was comfortable with it)
Im a very young person to know about lgbtq+ to be dating the same gender and being lesbian watching this helped and im going to remember it and come out with Lauren’s advice thank you!
Me too ;^;
same... im 10- lol
@@gemstone559 me too🥲
@@Atarxzhii_hoshi really?! hi but im 11 now but hey :D
me and my mum have always had very open chats about sexuality. She says that she would define herself as questioning, bisexual or queer, she said once (jokingly ofc) that it's crazy how she ended up basically being a stay-at-home mum in a het relationship... lol. it's always been clear that im a 'tomboy' bc of hobbies etc that i do. I know my parents are very open to the lgbtq+ community, they have some issues with youth being shoved into labels though.
I remember taking the census last year and it asked about sexuality and my mum and i both put questioning. I remember gping to ikea a few weeks ago with friends and i basically came out to them as bi saying that "i never knew that not all women find other women attractive, like i thought it was just a given" and my gay friend fully just laughed :') (kinda a have a crush on her but will never say...) I also came out as bi to my other friends by text and they were very chill and accepting, which i knew they would be. I also came out to my brothers months ago out of the blue when they were talking about video games and anime or something and they said a female character was hot so i said "show me" and then i proceeded to say i agree. my brothers were both very chill about it, they are both neeky kinda guys and my older brother is a very sweet feminine guy - still het, even though there was a period when he was questioning that- and my twin brother likes to think hes more macho but he really isnt...
Also a week or so ago my mum and i were eating in a cafe and the subject came about, and i just plainly said what i felt when i fully realised that i am gay, basically the same thing as i said to my friends - "i never knew that not all women find other women attractive, like i thought it was just a given" - i remember there being a pause (or maybe thats in my head lol idk) but she pretty much validated my feelings and normalised them, and agreed. So i guess that was my coming out in a way? I know that i am very gay and maybe bi? idk yet so thats why im waiting to find out hehe... maybe i never will? but tbh idm i dont really care for labels. i just want to be comfortable in myself and for others to love me the way i am.
maybe ill update when i 'properly' come out... but kinda already have so idk lol
(also there is no proper way to come out so dont get stressed about it, do whatever feels right lovely hooomans)
thankyou lauren for provding such a safe place for the gays :')
have a good one :)))
I need this! Thanks!
Glad I could provide 🖤
Be kind to yourself and to your parents but yes I agree give your parents time as well cause it’s taking you time to accept yourself as well. Also be safe as well thank you for this great video and it’s needed I think
Thank you I just came out to my mum and me and my girl friend are closer then ever 😁
congrats on coming out!
I'm coming out to my mom this weekend as a lesbian. I came out to her years ago as ace but realized about a year and a half ago that it was just compulsive heteronormativity. And I also have been questioning my gender a lot and now identify as gender fluid, I think that'll honestly be harder for her to accept than my sexuality. I'm really nervous but mostly I just want the freedom to be myself around her.
That’s so sweet! GOOD LUCK! Even though this was almost a year ago..
This is how i came out:
Me: Mom, I like girls.
My mom: OK. How long have u been feeling this?
Me: my whole life i guess
My mom: Well you might just be feeling like all the boys you've ever known are complete idiots and you just don't like them but it gets better sweetie.
Me: Mom, you cant convince me to be straight by saying that
smart
A lot of mums don’t understand
I came out to my mom as bisexual a couple of years ago, but now I think I might actually be lesbian, and it's scary to think of coming out to her as that. I grew up with her being homophobic, and even though she's not anymore, I can't get the past out of my brain. And also she's super straight and I kept convincing myself I was bi for the longest time by convincing myself I was attracted to boys, just to have something to talk to my mom about, because it was easier to talk about guy crushes than my real crushes on girls. To think of completely taking that away by coming out as gay is scary, but I think I want to do it, it's just going to take building up my courage all over again.
Thanks for these!
You are always welcome!!!
I just found out around a week ago that I am bi and still question if I am possibly lesbian, but my mom asked me if I liked girls because I was dropping hints for her. I haven’t fully come out to her and I am a little nervous but still working on myself a little bit more before I come out to her fully.
Also Lauren I love your videos they helped me SO MUCH when I was trying to figure out all my new feelings.
Same rn :)
Have you told her yet?
Omg thank you!!!!
You’re very welcome 🖤
Wow this is good timing, I’ve been trying to figure out how to do this
Your mum is as supportive as mine is
I can tell that my mom knows because she always makes sure to say "whatever partner you have in the future" instead of just "husband" but I still feel nervous about telling her even tho I know that she won't take it the wrong way probably... she is slightly homophobic tho because she tries to make it clear that she would rather have a stepson than a stepdaughter... my parents are separated tho and I love my dad but I feel like if I'd I came out to him he would lose his mind a little bit because he has slight anger issues- I mean he has to know im a lesbian right I mean I can carry more weight than him without even trying... and he works out hard core
I’m a girl, my mom handed me a bible & (she attempted) a soft, sweet voice while rubbing holywater on my hands. My mom & grandmother are christian.. I currently only have my older brother by my side. But they called it a phase and said I’ll get over it. Little do they know I’m currently being fruity with a woman right now. Gosh she’s gorgeous. +It very much so angers me to hear FAMILY call it a phase. I’m very quiet, so they don’t think about it unless I mention it. (They = Grandmother & Mom.)
i’m not out to my parents but they know. like my dad tells me when he knows people that are lgbtqa+ or allies and i told him about a past crush of mine and lied and used he/him pronouns to describe the crush and he said that like he and my mom would of course support me if it was a girl (i still lied haha) and my mom asks me about the lgbtqa+ terms and i’ve described them and i listen to like girl in red and sweater weather (i’m omni so if i like all the genders i can like all the anthems lol) and my brother is like are they lesbian for girl in red and i just ignore him lol
Here’s an idea for coming out during Christmas time. You frost a cookie to look like your sexuality flag and when someone asks what it is, say “it’s my sexuality flag.”
First! And hello these really help but it’s still hard.
Congrats on being first! 🏆 I’m really glad you find it helpful, I know it’s hard but it will only get easier with time xx
@Itzsoftie I subscribed to you
@@laurenelloise I also found this helpful
@@bubbliee_gacha8801 Aw thanks! That means a lot!
@@prxppy_queenixx7527 Also, i friend requested you on Roblox
I’m planning on coming out after watching this video wish me luck😅 I already know my parents are supportive of lgbtq so I’m hoping it will go well❤ thanks for the amazing video
This hit me hard. being Catholic were I'm not supposed to be lesbian plus my parents NOT supporting the LGBTQ+ community, i don't even know if I'm supposed to be lesbian plus I dont really want to let my bi friend that likes me down...
I came out to my cousin as a lesbian first through text and then through his support and encouragement, I came out to my mom through a phone call, I have yet to come out to my dad and family.
Hello there! I just found out about your channel and I really love it! It is really helpful to me!💕💕💕💕 you’re so cool!
I’m still in the stage of life where I don’t even know a thing about myself except my birth gender and my given name. I kinda feel like I might be Lesbian or bi. If I figure out I’m not straight the first person I’d tell is my mom even though that might take a while. My mom is amazing she knows people in the LGBTQ+ community and is there for them. I love her very much! 🥰
When I told my mum I was trans I had a panic attack and couldn't speak, so I took her computer and google searched transgender
same, when i was telling my mom i literally couldnt say it, because she was the first person i told, but i could say other things, so i told her she had to guess.
I'm a little bit too late hahaha. But I still want to share my coming out story bc it could help people :) So it was 3 months ago, at the end of August. I started talking to a girl at the beginning of February with mails, it was at the beginning bc i wanted to improve my german and so my german teacher gave me the mail of this girl and we started to talk. At one moment in the discussion, she told me that she was gay and i was kinda surprise but i didn't know why. And more we were talking, more i felt something for her, it wasn't just as we were friends. I was always thinking about her. And I started questionning myself about it, bc i never felt this before and i remember that i thought that I was maybe gay too. Then a few time later, we really met (it was in August), she comes to France and we spend hours together, and it was wonderful !!! When she goes back to Germany I was so so sad that i cried a lot but my parents didn't know this at this time. A few days after we met, i decided to tell her that i was in love with her, and she said that she already knew this and that it was okay, but she wanted that we stay best friends because of the distance. And I was soooo sad again that i cried the entire evening and my parents were like" what's wrong?" "why are you crying this way?". I thought it was the right time to tell them the story and i just told them that I was in love with this girl. They were very supportive and i'm so thankful for this! So it was my coming out story to my parents ;) I'm sorry for all the mistakes I probably made hahaha, i speak better german and french than english hahahaha! I hope this will help someone !! :)
I came out to my "freinds" first,and then my parents but my parents didn't care all they said was you do you. I think the hardest people to come out to will be my grand parents 😓😨
By "freinds" I mean fake friends 😐
I haven't come out yet, too scared to be honest. What if they don't accept me? It's just me, mom and dad. I have no escape if I want to flee the situation.
I came out as bi via text, and I’m gonna have to do it again because i’m pretty sure i’m a lesbian now.
Ur videos r so informative!!! Thank u for creating all of this helpful content... question is 12 too young to know my sexuality?? I told my mom a little bit about how I feel and her basic response was “ur still too young to know for sure”
I am also twelve and I don’t think it is too young to know. It’s actually a good thing to know your sexuality early because you can learn more about yourself earlier than others.Also, you can have more opportunities to be in a relationship.
My mum says the same but I can tell you I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know when she knew she was straight, she just knew you know?. It's the same thing with being gay, you just know
I am not actually out yet but your videos are my constant inspiration!!! I am actually thinking of coming out soon and inspired by your idea of doing it with a letter, I am doing something similar... a powerpoint presentation. I just wanted to say... your videos are awesome!!!
I came out as bi to my parents who were supportive of me, but now I think I’m gay and they are accepting of that stuff. However, my mom wants me to dress girly and have long hair, and whenever I wear button down shirts or beanies she says stuff like “you look like a boy” and she told me not to get a short haircut which I may want in the future. She doesn’t know I’m a chapstick or soft butch lesbian and I’m kind of scared to tell her that. I’ve also been told by others I seem straight which makes me scared to come out as lesbian for the fear of not being accepted. Any advice on how to deal with the things I listed? Also I ❤️ your channel so much 🥺🏳️🌈
My mom always asks me “do you like girls? It’s okay.” But I always get nervous and my heart beats so fast that I just say no because I’m too nervous to say yes.
Because i have religion,it won't work to make them accept me as a bi at the past(i have never told them because i'm afraid and i know i'll get a punishment).but i already changed now.i'm back into straight:)
I feel like my mom knows, but I just can't bring myself to tell her yet. I was planning to tell her during my 16th birthday maybe but idk. She buys me these clothes with rainbows on them and gets me a ton of rainbow stuff, one time she got me a shirt that looks like the Lesbian flag with the colors and the way it's organized on the shirt. She also has a shirt that says: 'Be the change' and it has rainbows and the trans flag colors on it but it's very brief, my older sister is bisexual, I just have a feeling she knows but I just don't know
I wish I saw this before I came out
Thanks
Welcome 💗💗💗
Me coming out:
Mom, dad can you go to the living room
Okay
Thanks *me started recording bc I was so nervous* um I like girl…
Can you please stop recording?
*stops* * thinking oh no now the homophobic is coming
So we support you but why did you have to record it was annoying
*me goes to my room crying of happiness but still feels like they don’t really support me*
I came out in 2017 as gay, I dropped hints and played around til they both got it that I was gay, the one thing that gave them the clue is when I got my Pup Hood and the rainbow/Puppy pride flags. Til this day I’m still with my partner and living at home with my family.
Although I don't think anyone will read this, I just wanna vent to someone else besides my friends. I've been questioning my gender and sexuality for about 4 months now, and I've switched between dozens of labels very often, sometimes even multiple times a day. I've done enough research that I could probably name any pride flag I see. I've made a lot of progress since then and figured out that I'm non-binary. I also think I might be omnisexual and I'm still not quite clear if I'm panromantic or if I'm on the aro spectrum. I'm still questioning, but I've come this far already. And once I've settled on the labels I like best, I'll come out to my parents. I was gonna start dropping hints that I was generally LGBTQ+ to test the waters, but they brought up a transphobic tweet someone made in their own conversation and they both agreed that gender was a construct. It melted my heart and made me smile so wide to hear them say that, and it was so relieving to know they'd accept who I am. Even tho I don't think anyone is reading this, I just want all the people who are questioning themselves to know that you and the struggle you're going through are absolutely valid, and you deserve all the love and respect you could ever get. And when you do find the right labels for you, you deserve to be accepted as you are. Don't worry about fitting or blending in, because if you do then no one might see you. Stand out and above all, love yourself for who you are because you are something that no one else is.
So I have dropping hints to my mom that I am not straight(idk what I am yet) like setting my wallpaper to a tiktok of 2 lgbt female characters that I am crushing on and having a picture of one of my celebrity crushes holding a pride flag as my other wallpaper and she has read my texts to my friend talking about my sexuality and then she just got back from a trip to Disneyland and came back with a pride blanket and stickers for my water bottle and so I think she knows but I’m not ready to tell her yet especially if I don’t know what i am yet but I’m going to wait a little while till I actually tell my parents I have came out as bi for right now because I don’t know and coming out as bi is letting me explore my sexuality but I am going to come out to her as soon as I figure it out
I planned a sleepover with my friend on Saturday, so I can come out through text to my mom at my friends house! I will edit and tell you her response! ❤
I want to write a letter but I have no clue how to write letters lol 😂 I mean I can but there really bad 😂
Lmk how it goes ❤
I told my sister I was Aroace, (aromantic, asexual) she outed me as aro to my mom, who then said,
“You just haven’t met the right person yet” then my mom outed me to my dad who asked a few questions and then they ignored everything they had just learned.
I am bisexual but am fraid to come out to my parents because they don't support the LGBTQ community😔😔
Can someone please help me
Hi family i am a Australia I love your videos
Thank you so much!!!
Should I tell my friends first
I keep a pride flag in my room, as soon as you walk in you can see it. It’s not like the one you have of your wall it’s smaller it’s like a little hand held one you wave around and if my parents as if I’m lgbt+ I’m going to tell them the truth, but they haven’t yet. Or until Im 100% I’m pan I’ll tell them 💗💛💙
When I came out to my dad (haven’t to my mum yet” I was going to kfc to collect dinner and I said “dad uhh I’m gay he said this “cool, I like woman too” 💀🖐 my dad is the best (btw he is fully supporting
Love 💖👍
💜💜💜
Hi Lawren your mom rocks
I am very grateful 😇
I am still scared, nervous, anxious, etc. I don't know if I can come to my mom. . . Her family is homophobic but I have been holding this secret that I am lesbian from my mom for 3 years 🥲🥲🥲😭😭
I'm trying to pull myself together a`d just come out to my parents so, if someone isn't gay but is pan, aroace transgender etc do you just tell your parents "I'm gay" or would you tell them "I'm [enter pride here]"
Is perfect
Rant lol
I cant help but feel like I have to come out soon bc I’ve known that I’m at least not straight since I was eleven. I’ve told my friends ofc and I’ve told my parents my pronouns. I’ve known I’m a lesbian for less than a year probably. My bestie keeps asking me when I’m gonna come out which makes it worse. She just wants to help but it rly doesn’t. I feel like it should be easy. I’ve always been terrible at saying what’s in my mind. Also telling the rest of the family sounds rly scary. Their not homophobic at all so why why WHYYYY am I so scared???
I feel like im to young to know and since i havent dated before im scared encase my parents ask me “how do you know” like what do i say “kizzy eidgel is gorgeous “ like what do i do
I am planning to come out in a few days and I am soooo nervous 😩 but what I am doing is making a slideshow
Aww this is such a cute idea! I’m wishing you the best with it 💗💗💗
@@laurenelloise thank you so much you are so kind ❤️❤️❤️ reading this almost made me cry 🥹🥹🥹
@@zooouf_isa_potato5105 awwww
❤️🏳️🌈
Any tips?-
I’ve been so for 4Yrs and still haven’t came out
Yes am young and that’s why am worried due to am not even a teen yet-
In western or gay friendly country, it's easier and more likely you'll be accepted...
But in Muslim countries, that's not an easy task.... Even I'm not muslim, but having very religious and traditional mindset it's difficult
I don’t know if they will still love if I tell them I’m so scared what if they disown me
So I’ll update this story for when I come out but I’m bis3xul (idk if I should censor or not) and my mom when we were talking about s3xulaitys she said she would say something similar to: “Ok, I don’t believe in that but you can make your own choices” my dad however, when I was like 4 and playing with Barbie’s with my sister (I they were her Barbie’s btw) my dad tried getting me into sports afraid I was gonna be gay….yeah….any tips?
@ConstantMentalBreakdown yeah but it was a phase. the more i thought about it the less i got attracted to boys, so uh yeah, i did come out, but it was just a phase-
What if my parents get mad what if they kick me out?
Ok so.... I have a girlfriend called isla and were trying to figure out how we tell our parents its so hard because we dont know if there gonna support us im really stuck
Please can someone give me some advice that wasnt said in this video!
That will be so helpful to me thank you so much ☺️
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my mother just disowned me 2 weeks ago because i used these tips. it’s patched now in the new update. it does not work queens!
I feel like if I told my mom I’m lesbian she’ll be mad because she’s homophobic..
If anyone still watches these videos, I'm thinking of coming out in about a month and was wondering if anyone has any advice
Me :trying to learn my brother handwriting so my parents think my brother is coming out
Also me: hopefully they accept him because if they do then I’ll be able to tell them the truth and come out
Also also me: 🙃🙃🙃🥲🥲
Well if i am a muslim but i genuanly think im lesbian and im not sure what to do..
Hey I'm lesbian it started in high in freshman year I had a best friend and she had a crush on me and she confessed to me on December 27th 2023 and she told me that she said that she likes Me and I was like oh wow and I felt something inside me that I liked it her too that I said to myself wait what if I'm lesbian and I said to her yes I'd o want to be with you and now that were dating I don't know what to say to my mom about !y relationship with her and I love her a lot and she loves me too much and we been together for awhile and she didn't tell her mom either and she told me that her mom was like oh why are you lesbian and why you like girls and stuff and she kept it a secret from her and I did too and I don't know what to tell her do you have Amy advice to help us .
YALL IM GONNA TELL MY MOM I AM BISEXUAL
I’ve been out to my friends for about 4 years now, out to my mum for 2 and I still haven’t told my dad because he’s homophobic ): i’m terrified but I just wanna be 100% out so I can find a fucking girlfriend easier smh
But what if my parnts of homophobic?
Make sure you’re safe first and have a plan, you could have someone like a friend support you
I feel like my parents wouln't care If i'm gay they just wouldn't like it if I look gay or look masculine.
how do you come out one you are 11
I did give my mom some hint and actually told her that’s I’m gay but more like joke way I told her : Mom I’m Gay Then Laugh and said I’m being honest laugh again but my mom look at me confused she’s said I’m crazy but not in serious way I just confused her lol but I’m confused too that’s she’s didn’t know that’s I have told her that I had a crush on girl also I’m wearing man close and told her that’s I will never marry a guy I said it’s too gross it’s so funny that’s she didn’t know I’m gay or maybe she’s pretending because it’s hard for her to accept it’s I find it’s more harder too convince your asian parent especially (Chinese Family Culture ) I was born and raised in Cambodia but my family is Chinese culture it would easier if I was in Khmer culture family But Anyway I’ll keep trying
Thanks So Much Lauren For Sharing Love Your Vids 🤍🤍🤍
You have 669 likes on this video. I kinda don't wanna ruin ittttttt
LOL
Omggggg
@@laurenelloise OMG HOW TF AM I THIS LUCKY THATS THE SECOND (maybe third) COMMENT I GOT FROM A BIG RUclipsRRR
DAMNNNN I AM LUCKYYYY
I hope some day that people don't have to come out of the closet.
Me too, I hope everyone is just accepted for who they are with no questions asked
@@laurenelloise Yes 👍
i have not told mine cause they are homophobic
Well ma mom will kill me if l told her that l was gay
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