Love this!!! Been watching your youtube for years and the content is amazing! Love Mak and Ashley too! I just love the family! Thank you for this queer incredible content 🙏
I love how in this podcast Ashley is like "we've got ten minutes for this" and "we gotta get to the question" and "stick to the question" and in We're Having Gay Sex it's like "oh, we're 40 minutes in, we should probably introduce ourselves."
On the topic about the lip watching, a girl told me "why are you looking at my lips like that" in a flirty way and I became red and then she kissed me... That was gay panic at it's finest
Ok, I'm gonna try to explain what I love about these 3 doing a pod together. First Ashley funny as hell but also has a broad intelligence to hold a conversation. Alayna her life experience from straight to bisexual to lesbian and overall intellect on lots of topics. Mak younger then previous mentioned. Mak brings the insightful thoughts of younger queer humans. All 3 together learn from each other and We the viewer learn from All of them!
Mak's comments on hooking up really helped me feel less alone/embarrassed. I'm the same age as Mak, and have yet to be intimate with anyone. I'm not really comfortable with the thought of sex without a considerable emotional connection, and because of this I often feel like the odd man out in these conversations. Thank you for your vulnerability Mak. I think a lot of queer discussions about sex don't touch on just how intimate it is for some people, and that that's not something wrong or embarrassing. With that, if y'all are wanting to have guests at the dinner table, I would greatly appreciate Ace perspectives. I think queer conversations around sex/relationships/dating are greatly lacking in this area. And I think it could help many people (myself included) feel less alone/broken for not experiencing sexuality the way I've seen most people in these conversations talk about it. Also I literally never go out ever, but now I want to just so I can tell someone they're cute.
Alayna constantly validating everyone is the best thing ever. This friendship is so positively queer. Makes me feel very comfortable and relaxed I appreciate your guy’s energy.
Okay, this might be cheesy, but I heard someone else say this a few days ago, and it stuck with me. The agony of dating, the absolute misery of being vulnerable and putting yourself out there, means you're alive. It means you're human. It's not going to kill you. How lucky we are to be alive and experience this discomfort for we are not too cold to want to let someone be close to us. We're out there living.
hi, as someone with a auditory processing disorder: i'm not looking at your mouth because i want to kiss you, i'm looking because i'm reading your lips 😂
As a hearing impaired person I hated it when the woman thinks because I am not making constant eye contact and not enough distance between us she thinks I am looking at her breasts. Embarrassing then I have to rush an explanation so she doesn't think I'm a perv.
The family dynamic is so on point but also deeply problematic, like divorced parents that still sit down to eat dinner together with their son who is shipped all over the internet with the mum
I really appreciate that they actually discuss things and don't sugar coat things or kind of tip toe around topics. Funny but almost educational in a way
I've been a fan of Alayna and Ashley for a long time now and as a very insecure straight cis guy I really appreciate the chosen family modeling healthy flirting. Because as Ashley said, I do get nervous about possibly creeping a girl out. It's nice to hear what you have to say. You are my role models!
Just trying to help you with this comment! You'll never be creepy for shooting your shot! Give a sweet compliment about her eyes, her clothes, her hair, tell her you think she's cute, would you want to get a drink? If she says yes, awesome, no? Take that, accept it and wish her a good day and move on. Just take the answer she gives and respect it, if you do that, you won't be seen as creepy😊
Definitely relate to Mak when it comes to hookups, vulnerability and physical touch. I need to have a substantial emotional connection with someone before becoming physically intimate. I feel like people around me don't have the same hang-ups, and it makes navigating sexuality and adult relationships kinda weird for me.
Honestly this is such good info to have because as a trans guy I'm always worried about coming off as a creepy cis dude to women but I don't want to out myself in a potentially unsafe environment. It's equally as difficult if not more so to flirt with men because they could potentially be violent so it's rough.
You know that feeling when you compliment someone and can tell it made their day? I've complimented four other girls this year and each time I got butterflies.
As a straight cis woman I love this! And I love all of you and this trio podcast feels like the universe made it so that you three met each other to do this. It's so funny, relaxed/natural feeling, easy to listen to and as a straight gal that follows all of you because, yes that is possible, I am very sure about my sexuality, and I don't care that I love following these three amazing people, just because I like their personality and the messages they share because I stand behind the same viewpoints. And the fact that this wil help so many (young) queer people is just a big plus. So happy that you found each other and are now like the best online supertrio!
You absolutely need to make the “tell her she’s cute/tell them they’re cute” merch! Also I appreciate this episode a lot because I am an anxious baby gay and I’m terrified of those first few steps to asking people out so you guys remind me to just go for it
I know it was a small part of the podcast but literally the same think with Mak on staying in her state to make sure it doesn’t go to shit and that another voice is there, currently in the same position in Texas.
I just found this podcast and it is simply the BEST 😂 Also hearing Mak talk about the serious issues that are happening in Missouri (my home state as well) made me happy to hear/see a queer influencer speak out about the injustices going on. It’s a scary time for everyone everywhere all for different reasons. Stay safe everyone ❤️
You all are what I so desperately needed when I was a baby gay (one of you would have been 9 at the time so not you all specifically, but you know what I mean) I am so happy for the present and future baby gays to have good representation and actual, useful advice. Thank you for your service ;p 💜
the whole hook-up and vulnerbility coversation was so good and reassuring, so thank you. i'm not in a place were i am emotionally able to hook-up so my experience is super limited (also total baby gay here) and i'm slowly inching towards my first relationship. she's coming over next week for a night and i've been excited but super nervous because vulnerbility really is not something i'm well practiced in. i really appreciated that you guys have also experienced similar feelings. so thanks for this very parental/familial conversation that i wouldn't have gotten otherwise. sorry for rambling in the comments, love you guys!!
Hey guys, loved the podcast! Can't wait to make this a weekly habit. Just had one thought, can the video version have all three videos in one frame? Would love to see them talk and react simultaneously Also I don't know how the tech behind this works so maybe this is a random request 🙈
Listening to this at work and I laughed so hard with the steamed corn riffs that my manager had to come to my desk to check on me, we sit on opposite sides of the office 😂
I love that you you guys don’t hold back on your opinions. It’s so great to here the “bickering” because it shows both sides and that it’s okay to have differing opinions. Absolutely loving this podcast
I'm really glad to hear that there are people my age who don't feel comfortable sleeping with strangers.. Also guys don't waste one thought about making women uncomfortable when talking with them..and they do!!!!!
the way my eyes widened when mak said they should make merch for "tell her she's cute". would pay in a heartbeat (as long as its a reasonable price broke queers exist)
Thank you for this impactful episode. So much of the social scripting we are fed growing up goes out the window when we are queer. I didn't have examples of wlw stuff growing up, so thank you for the script we never got on what it looks like to approach a woman and flirt. It is simple when you guys break it down, thank you for the foundation.
You will always look super impressive if you make the first move. Even if you're super embarrassed, being willing to put yourself out there is a compliment. As long as you're respectful of the person, you won't look dumb.
I think I have to tell this story as it's the PERFECT example of what *not* to do if someone hits on you (for anyone reading this who is worried about hitting on someone and this scares you, I explain my reaction as best as possible which will hopefully calm any worries). Apologies for the length, it's a whole thing. It's pre-covid, Halloween night, I'm out with a group of friends in a club, not drunk at all. My friend's partner asks who wants shots, I'm all for it because I've had quite a few drinks and nothing has hit me in 3 hours. I down about 7 in a row (bad idea, don't try this at home). I sit back down on the sofa with my guy friend, we're checking a woman out when the shots hit. I'm *out of it*. Note to add, I was dressed as a low-effort Hades; I used blue eyeshadow for my contour and blush etc to match with the Disney version, but I was also carrying a 3-headed skeleton dog as a nod to Cerberus. Whilst I'm spinning out on the sofa, a woman walks over and sits next to me on the sofa. She tries to talk to me but I'm completely sidetracked - she's sat on my dog! So I tell her "hey, you're sat on my dog!" "you brought your dog to the club?" "of course - [insert drunken babble about him and me being Hades]". I stick my hand under her leg and grab him, pulling him out (again, not a good thing to do, I was incredibly drunk and wasn't thinking about what I was doing). She's confused but laughing and when she sees Cerberus she audibly "awww"s and scratches his chin. I ask if she's okay because the dog is made of plastic; it definitely could have scratched her legs up as she was wearing a short dress. She says she's fine and we laugh. She then says to me "I'm just going to come out and say it; I came over to speak to you because I think you're really hot." Now here's the thing you most definitely shouldn't do: I, in shock, laugh as loudly as possible, fold in half cackling and start cry-laughing on my guy friend's chest. When I realise what I've done was not the "normal" reaction, I look up and she's gone. We look over to our left and she's making out with the woman my friend and I were checking out. I have NEVER been hit on by a woman. I was openly pan at the time (now identify as queer), but had only been hit on and dated men. I was (and still am) in a relationship with a man. It was pure gay panic. I was drunk at the time, and generally I'm INCREDIBLY socially awkward. And to top it off, I remember thinking that this woman was so so beautiful (I was so drunk so I no longer remember what she looked like). I was so confused and the panic set in, I laughed thinking it was funny she thought *I* was hot when she was a 15/10. I still, to this day, feel so bad with how I reacted. It was a genuine reaction to thinking she was joking with me (I really do not find myself attractive). I could have absolutely crushed her confidence by reacting that way, when I know if I wasn't drunk I likely would have just blushed, thanked her, apologised, turned her down gently and explained that I was in a relationship. So three things to take from this: 1. Don't laugh in their face, unless you're quick enough to tell them you're laughing at yourself and not them. 2. If you hit on someone and they laugh, please don't let it hurt your confidence too much. Chances are they're just shy and caught off guard (or also incredibly drunk????) 3. Don't down 7 shots in a row and expect to feel "tipsy" 😌 If, by any chance in the universe, the woman who told me I was hot is reading this and recognises me/the situation, I'm so freaking sorry and I promise I wasn't laughing at you. I'm just a dork who was very drunk and didn't know how to react to a woman hitting on me. If you've read all of this, props to you. It was a long one.
I have to say I didn't expect this to turn into a motivational speech from Ashley about how I can pull, but I really needed to hear that right now so thanks 😂
all of this flirting advice reminds me of the first date I had with my current girlfriend 🥰 we met on a dating app. I took her through this annual Christmas light display since we both like Christmas and it was this time last year. didn't think she wanted to see me a second time because we were so awkward during the actual date. we kept trying to find a place to grab dinner after but gave up after the first place was only open for 10 more minutes and the second was supposed to be open only for us to get there and find it closed. I walked her to her car. she hugged me goodbye, and while her arms were around my neck, I said that it's ok if she doesn't want to but I asked if I could kiss her goodnight... and she said yes! it was very timid and short, but sweet. and we were both grinning like idiots when I pulled away. THAT'S how I knew I would probably get a second date. we'll have been together for a year in about 2 weeks 😍 I found out months later that she was so awkward on the date because *I* was so awkward and she thought I was acting that way because she's trans; *I* was being so awkward because she was prettier than I was prepared for (sometimes people look good in pictures but then you see them in person and it's like wow damn you're even hotter than I mentally prepared myself for) and stumbled over my words and such all night. both of us learning what really happened that first night was a whole other cute memory by itself 💕 it's funny how things kinda work out that way.
Lmao my first girlfriend legitimately got me on the “I’ve never been so nervous around somebody” line. It was genuine but it was so absolutely adorable that I decided to date her even when I had told myself that I was not going to seriously date anyone. It is ridiculous how well that works.
I cannot tell you how much I am loving this podcast - though I've decided that I'm always going to watch and never just listen because half the treat is all the eye candy.
Loving the channel! So cool to see you all. Im gay my sister is trans and half of my extended family is lesbian, having a representation like yours online is so important! Cant wait for more vids.
I can't even tell you how much I love your podcasts. I've always been really shy and introverted and overall, felt really uncomfortable around new people. But this video just makes me wanna go out and meet new gals and have fun. The way you can give great advice and still be funny af is just amazing. Thank you!
Good job! You’re all are on track for a great podcast and the dynamic is perfect. Super proud to be apart of this community and to have you represent it 💚
Fellas, you're actually talking about either the shit we've all done, the shit we've all thought about, or moreso for me, the shit I did that I haven't thought about in a long time lol...plus I haven't nearly pissed my pants laughing so hard hahaha. This is excellent, I'll show up everytime!!
I’m a virgie and I talk about wanting to have sex a lot but I know damn well when it actually happens I’m going to cry I was too shy to talk to a girl I thought was cute so I tried to pass her a note, but then I was too shy to actually give her the note so now I just carry it in my purse to remind myself of my failure until I’m confident enough to try again (This has happened TWICE. I have TWO SEPARATE NOTES in my purse for two different girls) Edit: I’m pretty sure my little sister’s friend (who’s my age) is flirting with me. I mean she called me pretty but maybe she’s just being friendly idk
Thank you Mak for sharing your experience with relationships so honestly and openly! I’ve struggled to understand myself when it comes to relationships but really identified with your feelings about not being able to and not even wanting to hook up with someone unless you’re in a trusting relationship with them. It helps a lot to hear that many other people feel the same way ❤
I love this so much, It made me feel so much better about my flirting skills, i thought i was barely doing anything. but hearing them talk about this and saying all the things i normally do or look for, just makes me feel so much more comfortable in my flirting
I wanna know so bad what Ashley was gonna say about kissing 😂 she’s got me out here yelling at a prerecorded video to TELL USSSSSS it was so helpful to me when I was a younger baby gay to hear people’s ways of doing things
I will say as someone with adhd, idk why this helps, but as an effort to listen better I often look at people's lips just to decipher what they are saying not necessarily cause I'm attracted to them 😅 that being said, it's very obvious if I do find someone attractive because I will refuse to keep eye contact for fear of a panic attack 😂
Mak, as a prospective mental health counselor living in Florida, I am with you on the feeling that you have to stay in your conservative southern state for those who can't leave. I too want to work with queer and trans youth, and with the Don't Say Gay bill and other violent legislation, it's going to be an uphill battle. But I'm here to do the work because someone has to.
As a baby gay who recently lost all their queer support , I am so incredibly happy yall love to do this podcast bc , honestly its so healing and helpful for me. So you (all but in this case, Alynna) really helps me when you do take it so seriously. Bc I am an anxious bean. But I love the chaotic humor as well. Idk xoxoxoxox ill buy all ur merch
OMG i already love this podcast, you are my 3 favorite "influencers/youtubers" so I am really excited for every episode! Thank you for the advice, I really feel in good hand as a baby gay:))
While Alayna is all AAwwwwww at mack's confession,,, Ashley almost explodes in laugh! ahaha!! i love the chemestry between you all! :) PS A little hi from Quebec/Canada
I like this! Honestly think it's kind of a great premise (without you advertising it as such) that you're kinda 3 generations of gay in this podcast.. also your personality styles are really contrary to eachther which makes for a fun listen..
Ashley’s lighting: 🥯🔆🌾🤠
Alayna’s lighting: 💗🌸💅🏻✨🌾
Mak’s lighting:🐺🖤⛓️🥀
I almost choked to death laughing at the cowboy emoji in the first one
ashley looks exactly like the cowboy emoji 100%
this is so so true
Honestly feels surreal that this is out and you're all now seeing it!!
Love this!!! Been watching your youtube for years and the content is amazing! Love Mak and Ashley too! I just love the family! Thank you for this queer incredible content 🙏
Feels surreal watching you all together. It seems to good to be true!
& it feels ethereal hearing our favourite holes flap in the wind 🥲💐😌
I’d buy all the shirts
@@stephe1506 (bows gracefully)
* Alayna trying very hard to overcome interruption to make a serious point *
Ashley: AND THEN YOU SCISSOR RIGHT THEN AND THERE
A perfect illustration of their dynamic 😂😂
😂
Then mak in the background like: 💕😶👍
I love how in this podcast Ashley is like "we've got ten minutes for this" and "we gotta get to the question" and "stick to the question" and in We're Having Gay Sex it's like "oh, we're 40 minutes in, we should probably introduce ourselves."
Sounds like herero relationships theres even a country song about it: “I dont even know his last name “or whatever i don’t listen to country
ahaha it’s awesome that you mention this because in a recent podcast the chosen family did this too lmaooo
On the topic about the lip watching, a girl told me "why are you looking at my lips like that" in a flirty way and I became red and then she kissed me... That was gay panic at it's finest
That's literally adorable
Please make the “Tell Her She’s Cute” / “Tell Them They’re Cute” merch!!! I would buy that as a shirt or a pin for my backpack 🤓
I would get it as a 3 xl hoodie so I could swim in it (metaphorically)
Yeah a pin or a sticker would be cute
Yes!!
"tell her/she's cute"
"tell them/they're cute"
yes i need this
Ok, I'm gonna try to explain what I love about these 3 doing a pod together. First Ashley funny as hell but also has a broad intelligence to hold a conversation. Alayna her life experience from straight to bisexual to lesbian and overall intellect on lots of topics. Mak younger then previous mentioned. Mak brings the insightful thoughts of younger queer humans. All 3 together learn from each other and We the viewer learn from All of them!
This is the perfect synopsis!!
Their dynamic really is balanced and amazing to watch
The only thing I learnt here they are all 3 from broken families.
Mak's comments on hooking up really helped me feel less alone/embarrassed. I'm the same age as Mak, and have yet to be intimate with anyone. I'm not really comfortable with the thought of sex without a considerable emotional connection, and because of this I often feel like the odd man out in these conversations. Thank you for your vulnerability Mak. I think a lot of queer discussions about sex don't touch on just how intimate it is for some people, and that that's not something wrong or embarrassing.
With that, if y'all are wanting to have guests at the dinner table, I would greatly appreciate Ace perspectives. I think queer conversations around sex/relationships/dating are greatly lacking in this area. And I think it could help many people (myself included) feel less alone/broken for not experiencing sexuality the way I've seen most people in these conversations talk about it.
Also I literally never go out ever, but now I want to just so I can tell someone they're cute.
Yes I feel the same way, I’m really glad Mak shared her perspective
This!
I’d also love to hear ace perspectives in some of these conversations!
we so need more ace people's perspective
As a demi/acespec human I feel you. I didn't date or was intimate til 19. It's a LOT. You're not alone at all.
This seriously gives off the exact same energy as hanging out with my gay aunt! This is peak gay family content
Seriously, Alayna Joy walking across the bar. OMG.
I have a gay aunt too 😏
I wish I had a gay aunt
*everyone changes their clothes to make us think it’s a different day*
*Ashley leaves her random pile of things in the background exactly the same*
🤣
Ashley + Alayna topping each other energy is THE BEST.
Alayna constantly validating everyone is the best thing ever. This friendship is so positively queer. Makes me feel very comfortable and relaxed I appreciate your guy’s energy.
Ashley's vulgar jokes during serious conversation are everything,
I DEFINITELY WANT THE "TELL HER SHE’S CUTE" SHIRT
*slams my wallet on the table* GIMME THAT "Tell Her/Them that they're cute" SHIRT RIGHT NOW
Okay, this might be cheesy, but I heard someone else say this a few days ago, and it stuck with me. The agony of dating, the absolute misery of being vulnerable and putting yourself out there, means you're alive. It means you're human. It's not going to kill you. How lucky we are to be alive and experience this discomfort for we are not too cold to want to let someone be close to us. We're out there living.
I love this, thank you for sharing Mary :)
@@enaaa1427 you're welcome 😊
Well said, very true! Once you've put yourself out there often enough it becomes not a big deal!
I love this ❤ Thank you
I LOVE how much Alayna calls Ashley out lol like a true ex wife
Mak is the sweetest most innocent person ever, protect her at all costs.
“Sitcom broken”
You three are all individually funny, but as a whole you’re just… beyond!
I love it!
(And the wholesome is awesome too.)
THIS 1000%!
"we're like sitcom broken" was such a good line oh my god
hi, as someone with a auditory processing disorder: i'm not looking at your mouth because i want to kiss you, i'm looking because i'm reading your lips 😂
Same. Or I'm looking at your lips to avoid eye contact lol.
omg same
Damn I never thought about the fact that I do this lol
I'm glad I'm not the only one LMAO- i always feel weird doing it but like- i just can't process what people are saying without the captions man 😭
As a hearing impaired person I hated it when the woman thinks because I am not making constant eye contact and not enough distance between us she thinks I am looking at her breasts. Embarrassing then I have to rush an explanation so she doesn't think I'm a perv.
literally all women want a women to go up to them and tell them “you look pretty” it’s a dream come true MAKE SOMEONES DREAM COME TRUE
Mak calling Ashley "dad" gives me life 😂
Ashley: "that's what i was like when i was your age"
Alayna missed the chance to say, "see, you got it from your dad."
Ngl you guys this really does feel like a family- The occasional idk "hun" "I dad" moments bring me joy yk?
The family dynamic is so on point but also deeply problematic, like divorced parents that still sit down to eat dinner together with their son who is shipped all over the internet with the mum
I really appreciate that they actually discuss things and don't sugar coat things or kind of tip toe around topics. Funny but almost educational in a way
I've been a fan of Alayna and Ashley for a long time now and as a very insecure straight cis guy I really appreciate the chosen family modeling healthy flirting. Because as Ashley said, I do get nervous about possibly creeping a girl out. It's nice to hear what you have to say. You are my role models!
I love this comment :)
@@EternalGalaxies thank you. I'm struggling with abandonment and entitlement and it's nice to know that's okay.
Read that as "you are my role noodles."
Just trying to help you with this comment! You'll never be creepy for shooting your shot! Give a sweet compliment about her eyes, her clothes, her hair, tell her you think she's cute, would you want to get a drink? If she says yes, awesome, no? Take that, accept it and wish her a good day and move on. Just take the answer she gives and respect it, if you do that, you won't be seen as creepy😊
Definitely relate to Mak when it comes to hookups, vulnerability and physical touch. I need to have a substantial emotional connection with someone before becoming physically intimate. I feel like people around me don't have the same hang-ups, and it makes navigating sexuality and adult relationships kinda weird for me.
Honestly this is such good info to have because as a trans guy I'm always worried about coming off as a creepy cis dude to women but I don't want to out myself in a potentially unsafe environment. It's equally as difficult if not more so to flirt with men because they could potentially be violent so it's rough.
You know that feeling when you compliment someone and can tell it made their day? I've complimented four other girls this year and each time I got butterflies.
As a straight cis woman I love this! And I love all of you and this trio podcast feels like the universe made it so that you three met each other to do this. It's so funny, relaxed/natural feeling, easy to listen to and as a straight gal that follows all of you because, yes that is possible, I am very sure about my sexuality, and I don't care that I love following these three amazing people, just because I like their personality and the messages they share because I stand behind the same viewpoints. And the fact that this wil help so many (young) queer people is just a big plus. So happy that you found each other and are now like the best online supertrio!
Alayna says sweetheart and Ashley melts.
You absolutely need to make the “tell her she’s cute/tell them they’re cute” merch! Also I appreciate this episode a lot because I am an anxious baby gay and I’m terrified of those first few steps to asking people out so you guys remind me to just go for it
I know it was a small part of the podcast but literally the same think with Mak on staying in her state to make sure it doesn’t go to shit and that another voice is there, currently in the same position in Texas.
I just found this podcast and it is simply the BEST 😂 Also hearing Mak talk about the serious issues that are happening in Missouri (my home state as well) made me happy to hear/see a queer influencer speak out about the injustices going on. It’s a scary time for everyone everywhere all for different reasons. Stay safe everyone ❤️
Still in awe three of my favorite lesbians made a podcast I didn’t even know y’all were friends
You all are what I so desperately needed when I was a baby gay (one of you would have been 9 at the time so not you all specifically, but you know what I mean) I am so happy for the present and future baby gays to have good representation and actual, useful advice. Thank you for your service ;p 💜
Loved the conversation about approaching people! Alayna was spot on! (“And then you scissor!” -Ashley 😂😂😂)
the whole hook-up and vulnerbility coversation was so good and reassuring, so thank you.
i'm not in a place were i am emotionally able to hook-up so my experience is super limited (also total baby gay here) and i'm slowly inching towards my first relationship. she's coming over next week for a night and i've been excited but super nervous because vulnerbility really is not something i'm well practiced in. i really appreciated that you guys have also experienced similar feelings. so thanks for this very parental/familial conversation that i wouldn't have gotten otherwise. sorry for rambling in the comments, love you guys!!
Hey guys, loved the podcast! Can't wait to make this a weekly habit.
Just had one thought, can the video version have all three videos in one frame? Would love to see them talk and react simultaneously
Also I don't know how the tech behind this works so maybe this is a random request 🙈
Agreed!!
yes yes yes
It would actually be less work for the editor lol which is good for them!
Y’all don’t even KNOW how excited and pleased I am to have this new content
Not Alayna’s little stutter making it sound like she said ‘vulvulnerability’
Listening to this at work and I laughed so hard with the steamed corn riffs that my manager had to come to my desk to check on me, we sit on opposite sides of the office 😂
I love that you you guys don’t hold back on your opinions. It’s so great to here the “bickering” because it shows both sides and that it’s okay to have differing opinions. Absolutely loving this podcast
I'm really glad to hear that there are people my age who don't feel comfortable sleeping with strangers..
Also guys don't waste one thought about making women uncomfortable when talking with them..and they do!!!!!
the way my eyes widened when mak said they should make merch for "tell her she's cute". would pay in a heartbeat (as long as its a reasonable price broke queers exist)
This is a dream come true. My three favourite LGBTQ+ content creators doing a podcast?! I couldn't be happier. So excited for the future episodes!!
Thank you for this impactful episode. So much of the social scripting we are fed growing up goes out the window when we are queer. I didn't have examples of wlw stuff growing up, so thank you for the script we never got on what it looks like to approach a woman and flirt. It is simple when you guys break it down, thank you for the foundation.
YOUR CHEST?! 😂😅🤣 This group could not be more well rounded! 🤌
You will always look super impressive if you make the first move. Even if you're super embarrassed, being willing to put yourself out there is a compliment. As long as you're respectful of the person, you won't look dumb.
Honestly I can't finish when I'm alone either so that's comforting
You guys are hilarious and I love how Ashley is always “referring to the rules” and making sure she does her dad duties.
The super confident part of Ashley and the super nervous part of Ashley are constantly fighting each other.
I think I have to tell this story as it's the PERFECT example of what *not* to do if someone hits on you (for anyone reading this who is worried about hitting on someone and this scares you, I explain my reaction as best as possible which will hopefully calm any worries). Apologies for the length, it's a whole thing.
It's pre-covid, Halloween night, I'm out with a group of friends in a club, not drunk at all. My friend's partner asks who wants shots, I'm all for it because I've had quite a few drinks and nothing has hit me in 3 hours. I down about 7 in a row (bad idea, don't try this at home). I sit back down on the sofa with my guy friend, we're checking a woman out when the shots hit. I'm *out of it*.
Note to add, I was dressed as a low-effort Hades; I used blue eyeshadow for my contour and blush etc to match with the Disney version, but I was also carrying a 3-headed skeleton dog as a nod to Cerberus.
Whilst I'm spinning out on the sofa, a woman walks over and sits next to me on the sofa. She tries to talk to me but I'm completely sidetracked - she's sat on my dog! So I tell her "hey, you're sat on my dog!"
"you brought your dog to the club?"
"of course - [insert drunken babble about him and me being Hades]". I stick my hand under her leg and grab him, pulling him out (again, not a good thing to do, I was incredibly drunk and wasn't thinking about what I was doing). She's confused but laughing and when she sees Cerberus she audibly "awww"s and scratches his chin.
I ask if she's okay because the dog is made of plastic; it definitely could have scratched her legs up as she was wearing a short dress. She says she's fine and we laugh. She then says to me "I'm just going to come out and say it; I came over to speak to you because I think you're really hot."
Now here's the thing you most definitely shouldn't do: I, in shock, laugh as loudly as possible, fold in half cackling and start cry-laughing on my guy friend's chest. When I realise what I've done was not the "normal" reaction, I look up and she's gone.
We look over to our left and she's making out with the woman my friend and I were checking out.
I have NEVER been hit on by a woman. I was openly pan at the time (now identify as queer), but had only been hit on and dated men. I was (and still am) in a relationship with a man. It was pure gay panic. I was drunk at the time, and generally I'm INCREDIBLY socially awkward. And to top it off, I remember thinking that this woman was so so beautiful (I was so drunk so I no longer remember what she looked like). I was so confused and the panic set in, I laughed thinking it was funny she thought *I* was hot when she was a 15/10.
I still, to this day, feel so bad with how I reacted. It was a genuine reaction to thinking she was joking with me (I really do not find myself attractive). I could have absolutely crushed her confidence by reacting that way, when I know if I wasn't drunk I likely would have just blushed, thanked her, apologised, turned her down gently and explained that I was in a relationship.
So three things to take from this:
1. Don't laugh in their face, unless you're quick enough to tell them you're laughing at yourself and not them.
2. If you hit on someone and they laugh, please don't let it hurt your confidence too much. Chances are they're just shy and caught off guard (or also incredibly drunk????)
3. Don't down 7 shots in a row and expect to feel "tipsy" 😌
If, by any chance in the universe, the woman who told me I was hot is reading this and recognises me/the situation, I'm so freaking sorry and I promise I wasn't laughing at you. I'm just a dork who was very drunk and didn't know how to react to a woman hitting on me.
If you've read all of this, props to you. It was a long one.
I always like to say "am i allowed to kiss you?" because then i've made my intentions clear and the ball is entirely in the other persons court
Yeah, i could imagine me Going to kiss girl without asking!!! And this is before i look to what consent means.
Listening to the podcast while watching this on mute for double engagement. Love you all!
I have to say I didn't expect this to turn into a motivational speech from Ashley about how I can pull, but I really needed to hear that right now so thanks 😂
I would absolutely buy a tshirt that says "tell them they're cute"
Amazing episode, I love the pod already!!
all of this flirting advice reminds me of the first date I had with my current girlfriend 🥰 we met on a dating app. I took her through this annual Christmas light display since we both like Christmas and it was this time last year. didn't think she wanted to see me a second time because we were so awkward during the actual date. we kept trying to find a place to grab dinner after but gave up after the first place was only open for 10 more minutes and the second was supposed to be open only for us to get there and find it closed.
I walked her to her car. she hugged me goodbye, and while her arms were around my neck, I said that it's ok if she doesn't want to but I asked if I could kiss her goodnight... and she said yes! it was very timid and short, but sweet. and we were both grinning like idiots when I pulled away. THAT'S how I knew I would probably get a second date.
we'll have been together for a year in about 2 weeks 😍 I found out months later that she was so awkward on the date because *I* was so awkward and she thought I was acting that way because she's trans; *I* was being so awkward because she was prettier than I was prepared for (sometimes people look good in pictures but then you see them in person and it's like wow damn you're even hotter than I mentally prepared myself for) and stumbled over my words and such all night. both of us learning what really happened that first night was a whole other cute memory by itself 💕 it's funny how things kinda work out that way.
Maks impression of ashley HOLY FUCK SPOT ON
Lmao my first girlfriend legitimately got me on the “I’ve never been so nervous around somebody” line. It was genuine but it was so absolutely adorable that I decided to date her even when I had told myself that I was not going to seriously date anyone. It is ridiculous how well that works.
I cannot tell you how much I am loving this podcast - though I've decided that I'm always going to watch and never just listen because half the treat is all the eye candy.
*voice cracks "your chest?!?!" 💀 literally hearing Ashley voice my thoughts 💀💀💀 laughed so hard my back spasmed
Loving the channel! So cool to see you all. Im gay my sister is trans and half of my extended family is lesbian, having a representation like yours online is so important! Cant wait for more vids.
I'm here in Missouri with you Mak! Stay and let's fight!
The Tell Them/Her She's Cute merch NEEDS to be dropped. Love this podcast so much!!!
I can't even tell you how much I love your podcasts. I've always been really shy and introverted and overall, felt really uncomfortable around new people. But this video just makes me wanna go out and meet new gals and have fun. The way you can give great advice and still be funny af is just amazing. Thank you!
Yeah I want the shirt. Also as a large, awkward, not quite ugly cis guy, not being a creep is super easy.
“Sitcom broken” needs to be a thing now 😂😂😂
And yes you should come to Canada!! The east coast is great during the summer 😂
Good job! You’re all are on track for a great podcast and the dynamic is perfect. Super proud to be apart of this community and to have you represent it 💚
Binge watching those episodes on a very chill saturday is just amazing! Listening to you guys just feels so wholesome :)
Fellas, you're actually talking about either the shit we've all done, the shit we've all thought about, or moreso for me, the shit I did that I haven't thought about in a long time lol...plus I haven't nearly pissed my pants laughing so hard hahaha. This is excellent, I'll show up everytime!!
I’m so happy these three are collaborating. Some of my favorites and all powerhouses in their own way with great chemistry
Alayna calling Ashley "hun" when she wants her to chill 😂
I would totally buy the ''Tell Them They're Cute'' merch !! 😀
The tell her your cute idea sounds great. You should totally do it! It would also be nice to do tell a masc she's cute too.
I’m a virgie and I talk about wanting to have sex a lot but I know damn well when it actually happens I’m going to cry
I was too shy to talk to a girl I thought was cute so I tried to pass her a note, but then I was too shy to actually give her the note so now I just carry it in my purse to remind myself of my failure until I’m confident enough to try again
(This has happened TWICE. I have TWO SEPARATE NOTES in my purse for two different girls)
Edit: I’m pretty sure my little sister’s friend (who’s my age) is flirting with me. I mean she called me pretty but maybe she’s just being friendly idk
Thank you Mak for sharing your experience with relationships so honestly and openly! I’ve struggled to understand myself when it comes to relationships but really identified with your feelings about not being able to and not even wanting to hook up with someone unless you’re in a trusting relationship with them.
It helps a lot to hear that many other people feel the same way ❤
I'll be honest I blushed when Ashley did the look up & down 🙈
Honestly thank you so much for validating the creepy feeling when wanting to approach a girl. Even if I know their gay! Thought I was the only one.
I'm really thankful for thus episode, I struggle a lot talking to girls, can't wait to try Ashley's tips 😂
I need a sweatshirt with “tell her she’s cute” on it asap
I love this so much, It made me feel so much better about my flirting skills, i thought i was barely doing anything. but hearing them talk about this and saying all the things i normally do or look for, just makes me feel so much more comfortable in my flirting
I wanna know so bad what Ashley was gonna say about kissing 😂 she’s got me out here yelling at a prerecorded video to TELL USSSSSS
it was so helpful to me when I was a younger baby gay to hear people’s ways of doing things
I love this so much🥰 can't stop smiling the whole time 🥰
Also I need that merch!!!
I will say as someone with adhd, idk why this helps, but as an effort to listen better I often look at people's lips just to decipher what they are saying not necessarily cause I'm attracted to them 😅 that being said, it's very obvious if I do find someone attractive because I will refuse to keep eye contact for fear of a panic attack 😂
I love my chosen family 🥲❤️
We love you!!
Me too ❤️🏳️🌈
Very appreciative of the Oxford comma being used in the banner. Doing the lord's work
Mak, as a prospective mental health counselor living in Florida, I am with you on the feeling that you have to stay in your conservative southern state for those who can't leave. I too want to work with queer and trans youth, and with the Don't Say Gay bill and other violent legislation, it's going to be an uphill battle. But I'm here to do the work because someone has to.
This just keeps getting better and better. I love you ladies.
As a baby gay who recently lost all their queer support , I am so incredibly happy yall love to do this podcast bc , honestly its so healing and helpful for me. So you (all but in this case, Alynna) really helps me when you do take it so seriously. Bc I am an anxious bean. But I love the chaotic humor as well. Idk xoxoxoxox ill buy all ur merch
starting a podcast with double zero is a POWERFUL move
OMG i already love this podcast, you are my 3 favorite "influencers/youtubers" so I am really excited for every episode! Thank you for the advice, I really feel in good hand as a baby gay:))
While Alayna is all AAwwwwww at mack's confession,,, Ashley almost explodes in laugh! ahaha!! i love the chemestry between you all! :)
PS A little hi from Quebec/Canada
I like this! Honestly think it's kind of a great premise (without you advertising it as such) that you're kinda 3 generations of gay in this podcast..
also your personality styles are really contrary to eachther which makes for a fun listen..
hard yes to the merch… it’s crewneck szn y’all 👀👀👀
I love in almost ever podcast vid Alayna calls Ashley sweetheart and she blushes and has a gay panic
steamed corn as the very first reaction to mentioning it was a steamy episode was hilarious
The color scheme of the chosen family icon is really impactful.