Hello I am from Istanbul and I just would like to thank you millon of times. And I always keep saying your book should be a course book in the high schools of Turkey. Thank you :)
Oh I so wish I had this teaching and knowledge before... This little video is so full of richness! I can't express enough! From experiencing the lack of has been devastating to my person! I am praying I can fully recover from the abuse of others I allowed!
About 20 years ago a therapist put BOUNDARIES in my hand and it changed my life! BOUNDARIES completely revamped how I view myself and relationships. I have given away many copies and recommended this video. Thank you so much.
Loved your analolgy! I think if others understood the idea of taking care of whats in your yard (life) and keeping what shouldn't be in your yard (life), we would be so much happier and content with our lives and relationships!!
Love all of the LPV's! Great ways to engage in practical, yet highly effective methods of becoming all God intended us to be that others may see His love!
Lol Dr. Cloud! I watch your videos everyday and I love how you give such great examples. Your visualization is spot on, except for one small detail. Having worms in your yard is actually a good thing. It’s the termites in that rotting tree that are so destructive 😉
I was in a toxic relationship. I became toxic. Things are going to be different. I went through a mini meltdown today, reached out where I shouldn’t have, just me being desperate. I have a lot of past hurt that I caused myself, dumped onto others instead of leaving the situation. I have healing and growing to do, but on my time. I haven’t been in control of myself, just raw reactions, no filter, wounded, that’s not anyone’s fault, just me reacting. Moving forward. I’m here for me. There won’t be any more triggers.. Healing, growing, learning. I’ve been hurt and out of control for a while, feeling defensive and ready to attack. I lost people I love because I stayed with my ex too long. There won’t be any more issues. I won’t have any more distractions. I’m stepping out of my own way. I became toxic with my reactions. Thank you, good mirror, just raw pain. I knew it was wrong to reach out to a stranger for comfort, just the shock of everything. On me know, distractions have been removed. Healing and learning. My relationship with Jason ended because I couldn’t deal with his family. I ended it, not him.
There is some great art drawing you could do for kids, letting them draw a castle and drawing who gets to live in the nice rooms and who goes into the dungeon etc. Search the internet
Hello doctor Cloud, over the past 2-3 years I've realized with the help of therapy just how dysfunctional my family of origin is. My mother has been schizofrenic since I was about 10. My father is very narcissistic, so much so, that I believe he has NPD. My brother who was 8, when our mom got sick, seems to be passive-aggressive as does his wife. I've even discovered that my 93 year old demented grandmother is willing to be my father's "flying-monkey". I have read your boundry book 3 times. It has helped me very much in general. Setting boundries with so many dysfunctional boundryless people is very time consuming and exhausting.
Thank You nice work, pray for connections in body of Christ self esteem is who we are in Christ family of God realizing this and building the Body is in need , pray for the trauma and those in isolation family Of God mended and brought together. from the beginning from the fall mending and connection restoration is in need and I have been praying. Thank you..
What can the "trees" look like? What kinds of things should we be trying to look for that people are letting fall in our yard (or maybe putting there on purpose)?
So simplified, it's great. I understood boundaries, common sense. Well, I ended up with someone so controlling, who wouldn't compromise, and went against all reasonable common sense, I lost control of my own life and was forced to live his. Now, after 2 years apart with a perm p/o in place, all his garbage is in my head and his flying monkeys make sure that I know he's still in control of my life. My civil rights are gone and so too my dignity. Everyone hates me, though I'm the only one who doesn't have a clue. I was always there for him and all he wanted/wants is my suffering. It sucks. I just want it over and my life and privacy back. He's made sure that I don't recover and that I cannot ever trust him again. I'm in constant survival mode because of the mockers/baiters/posers. There's no escape. Yet, I hate no one. I should, but I don't. I hate what he's done and doing, but he's more messed up than me and I pray for him and hope he gets help. What else can I do?
Gina, Overcome by the Blood of the Lamb, the word of your testimony, and loving not your life unto death ~ The Blood of the Lamb is the Word of God - the Spirit and the Word give life. I pray for you to be a loving overcomer, in Yeshua's Name --- Quick to forgive, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Forgiveness is so powerful. God's mercies are new every morning. All the best to you and your forever future as a beautiful believer with His Kingdom in your heart. Guard your heart, and do not step foot on the path of the wicked. This life is just a vapor. Be kind to yourself and others, and lmk if I can be a friend and encourager, Susan
man you are the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you should be making MANY Videos you are great, just sit and talk who cares i bet ull say some great things, helps me out! thank u
They should really teach this in elementary school because then I wouldn't have been through all I have over the years! Somehow I got the impression to be a Christian was to be passive and this was a HUGE mistake on my part. People have been trampling over my boundaries for years! ugh.
How often can I alter my boundaries before they're not really boundaries any more? How to tell when it's ok to alter my boundary and how to do it so the other person understands there is still a boundary?
Hi Dr Henry Cloud, I'm enjoying your videos. I would like to know what I can do with my 16 year old teenage daughter who is dating and wants to go to her boyfriend every day. What do I do or tell you? That at 6 pm or earlier, she should be at home, because it's cold and neither I nor her mother like her to walk alone until late. I'm also afraid that the grades at school will go down, due to this relationship. What can I do? It would be interesting to make a video on how to set limits with teenagers. Thanks for your help.
"Boundaries" can be used as a euphemism for "walls." When someone refuses to communicate with us about something or be engaged about something, they are erecting a wall. If it's a good wall, we call it a "boundary" if it's a "bad" wall, we call it a wall; for example, if I have an issue with someone's inappropriate behavior toward me and I want to discuss it but the other person dismisses it or refuses to discuss it or cuts off communication with me, he could label it a "boundary." At the same time, because I DO want to discuss it, I see the refusal as bad -- a wall. Semantics is important.
Go away. I went to a hotel for a night... That warning shot was enough in my case. You may have to go away for longer, or what ever... The thing is, they have to understand that your are done, you don't live this way anymore. Less talking is the key.
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Your work is literally life saving and life changing! My life has been so blessed to learn about boundaries! Thank you and God Bless You
Hello I am from Istanbul and I just would like to thank you millon of times. And I always keep saying your book should be a course book in the high schools of Turkey. Thank you :)
Oh I so wish I had this teaching and knowledge before... This little video is so full of richness! I can't express enough! From experiencing the lack of has been devastating to my person! I am praying I can fully recover from the abuse of others I allowed!
I super need this.. it really confirms God’s word for me last week about guarding my heart. Thanks so much Dr. Cloud
About 20 years ago a therapist put BOUNDARIES in my hand and it changed my life! BOUNDARIES completely revamped how I view myself and relationships. I have given away many copies and recommended this video. Thank you so much.
I appreciate you reminding me in a simple way. Thanks
Loved your analolgy! I think if others understood the idea of taking care of whats in your yard (life) and keeping what shouldn't be in your yard (life), we would be so much happier and content with our lives and relationships!!
Love all of the LPV's! Great ways to engage in practical, yet highly effective methods of becoming all God intended us to be that others may see His love!
Lol Dr. Cloud!
I watch your videos everyday and
I love how you give such great examples. Your visualization is spot on, except for one small detail. Having worms in your yard is actually a good thing. It’s the termites in that rotting tree that are so destructive 😉
These LPD's helped save my life... mental health wise. Thank you Dr. Cloud
I was in a toxic relationship. I became toxic. Things are going to be different. I went through a mini meltdown today, reached out where I shouldn’t have, just me being desperate. I have a lot of past hurt that I caused myself, dumped onto others instead of leaving the situation. I have healing and growing to do, but on my time. I haven’t been in control of myself, just raw reactions, no filter, wounded, that’s not anyone’s fault, just me reacting. Moving forward. I’m here for me. There won’t be any more triggers.. Healing, growing, learning. I’ve been hurt and out of control for a while, feeling defensive and ready to attack. I lost people I love because I stayed with my ex too long. There won’t be any more issues. I won’t have any more distractions. I’m stepping out of my own way. I became toxic with my reactions. Thank you, good mirror, just raw pain. I knew it was wrong to reach out to a stranger for comfort, just the shock of everything. On me know, distractions have been removed. Healing and learning. My relationship with Jason ended because I couldn’t deal with his family. I ended it, not him.
I'd like to teach this for kids... Hard when their guardians are the ones violating their boundaries
There is some great art drawing you could do for kids, letting them draw a castle and drawing who gets to live in the nice rooms and who goes into the dungeon etc. Search the internet
Hello doctor Cloud, over the past 2-3 years I've realized with the help of therapy just how dysfunctional my family of origin is. My mother has been schizofrenic since I was about 10. My father is very narcissistic, so much so, that I believe he has NPD. My brother who was 8, when our mom got sick, seems to be passive-aggressive as does his wife. I've even discovered that my 93 year old demented grandmother is willing to be my father's "flying-monkey". I have read your boundry book 3 times. It has helped me very much in general. Setting boundries with so many dysfunctional boundryless people is very time consuming and exhausting.
Thank You nice work, pray for connections in body of Christ self esteem is who we are in Christ family of God realizing this and building the Body is in need , pray for the trauma and those in isolation family Of God mended and brought together. from the beginning from the fall mending and connection restoration is in need and I have been praying. Thank you..
What can the "trees" look like? What kinds of things should we be trying to look for that people are letting fall in our yard (or maybe putting there on purpose)?
So simplified, it's great. I understood boundaries, common sense. Well, I ended up with someone so controlling, who wouldn't compromise, and went against all reasonable common sense, I lost control of my own life and was forced to live his. Now, after 2 years apart with a perm p/o in place, all his garbage is in my head and his flying monkeys make sure that I know he's still in control of my life. My civil rights are gone and so too my dignity. Everyone hates me, though I'm the only one who doesn't have a clue. I was always there for him and all he wanted/wants is my suffering. It sucks. I just want it over and my life and privacy back. He's made sure that I don't recover and that I cannot ever trust him again. I'm in constant survival mode because of the mockers/baiters/posers. There's no escape. Yet, I hate no one. I should, but I don't. I hate what he's done and doing, but he's more messed up than me and I pray for him and hope he gets help. What else can I do?
Gina, Overcome by the Blood of the Lamb, the word of your testimony, and loving not your life unto death ~ The Blood of the Lamb is the Word of God - the Spirit and the Word give life. I pray for you to be a loving overcomer, in Yeshua's Name --- Quick to forgive, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Forgiveness is so powerful. God's mercies are new every morning. All the best to you and your forever future as a beautiful believer with His Kingdom in your heart. Guard your heart, and do not step foot on the path of the wicked. This life is just a vapor. Be kind to yourself and others, and lmk if I can be a friend and encourager, Susan
man you are the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you should be making MANY Videos you are great, just sit and talk who cares i bet ull say some great things, helps me out! thank u
I'm reading your Bounties book right now. Excellent book. I'm highlighting parts and will read and reread the book .
Your book the Law of Happiness and this video are a direct answer to my prayers. Thank you. Be encouraged!
Though provoking video, and so relevant to every day life! Thank you. I've shared it with several friends so far.
Yes, very clear, concise and very pleasant approach... Thank You.
Love it, helpful to understand about ownership.
Thank you very much for your helpful video! You are saving many people's lives ♥️
The best video on setting boundaries I've seen yet, thank you.
Great illustration!!
Thank you for invaluable input into my life!
I am from the Netherlands and preparing a presentation for a student group based on your boundaries teachings and book. Thank you
They should really teach this in elementary school because then I wouldn't have been through all I have over the years! Somehow I got the impression to be a Christian was to be passive and this was a HUGE mistake on my part. People have been trampling over my boundaries for years! ugh.
ha!!! I absolutely beyond a shadow get-it. Same here.
@@fgbowen IT starts in the family :( Wrong boundaries setting up.
Exactly! Amen!
Very good thanks Doc, I will be reading the book soon
Have the need to clean my yard of others junk. You brought it into sight.
How often can I alter my boundaries before they're not really boundaries any more? How to tell when it's ok to alter my boundary and how to do it so the other person understands there is still a boundary?
Hi Dr Henry Cloud, I'm enjoying your videos. I would like to know what I can do with my 16 year old teenage daughter who is dating and wants to go to her boyfriend every day. What do I do or tell you? That at 6 pm or earlier, she should be at home, because it's cold and neither I nor her mother like her to walk alone until late. I'm also afraid that the grades at school will go down, due to this relationship. What can I do? It would be interesting to make a video on how to set limits with teenagers. Thanks for your help.
Thank you 😊
great visual aid
love it dr.cloud!!!
Thank you so much for your video.
"Boundaries" can be used as a euphemism for "walls." When someone refuses to communicate with us about something or be engaged about something, they are erecting a wall. If it's a good wall, we call it a "boundary" if it's a "bad" wall, we call it a wall; for example, if I have an issue with someone's inappropriate behavior toward me and I want to discuss it but the other person dismisses it or refuses to discuss it or cuts off communication with me, he could label it a "boundary." At the same time, because I DO want to discuss it, I see the refusal as bad -- a wall.
Semantics is important.
this is awesome thank you very much
Dr. Cloud: PLEASE MAKE MORE VIDEOS.
Very clear and concise
haven't been this condescended to since the third grade.
HOWWWWW do i get it back in their yard though ??????
Go away.
I went to a hotel for a night... That warning shot was enough in my case. You may have to go away for longer, or what ever...
The thing is, they have to understand that your are done, you don't live this way anymore.
Less talking is the key.
I would say the 9 people that gave this video a "thumbs-down", probably aren't used to boundaries hahaha
I love🪻🪷🪻your books so much 💭
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Whats up CCU students watching this video
Dear Henry...Will you marry me? Love, Roxsan....