Lance cheated on Mia so much, and it hurt her. He even admitted he wouldn’t have cared if Mia had sex with someone else. When Lance found out Mia had sex with Harper, he finally got to feel a magnitude of the pain he had caused her.
Yeah definitely. I wouldn’t have called him a simp as much as I would have called him a lucky A-hole. Because she certainly could have left him alone long ago for the stuff that he did.
Honestly, I don't think Lance was a simp. I call them both even. Although in real life, they would definitely have to pray for trust and forgiveness of each other. Lance had been cheating on Mia for years, and Mia had cheated on Lance with his best friend. Two wrongs don't make a right. But the level of betrayal for both parties, in my opinion, was even.
Wait if that's the Case then Mia would be a simp for even staying with Lance after all the cheating he did. Dudes need to stop all this double standard bs
@HeitCheri she slept with someone that's in his immediate circle ..not some old high school flame who wasn't around anymore its a complete difference on that level of cheating
@@rnew6399 cheating is cheating and hurts no matter who its with…and if we do wanna do that math i would honestly say a slew of randoms could absolutely equal 1 familar 😂😂 some like 100 pennies some like the bill..its still $1
I think people have misused that word for years. He already HAD Mia. He mistreated her and lost her for a moment. It’s not the same as desperately chasing and pining after someone who doesn’t want you and never will. 😂
I’m just now 30, don’t forget Lime Wire😂 once the digital era took off it could be hit or miss but sometimes you’d find hidden gems. I have young parents so I got to go through the burnt CD, bootleg DVD, n cassette era! 😂
I always wondered why Harper dedicated his novel to Lance & Mia. He probably didn’t think Lance would read the book given his busy life with football. did Harper want to paint a real picture to display the truth? I guess his mindset was after they are married Everything prior don’t matter… I just thought both were wrong 😑 Lance cheated Mia wasn’t vocal or being firm with Lance about her standards Mia also was aware of Jordan’s love for Harper - straight up betrayal That’s why Jordan stayed away. No one ever held Mia or Lance accountable Harper was definitely wrong 😑
Also the part where you guys talk about small town/big time dating I’m in Tennessee myself close to ft Campbell army base so it’s like sometimes people know people because of that sometimes but most times it’s like how you’d think even In Hollywood the infamous song performed by Ray J’s friend off of For the Love of Ray J Danger she smashed the homie sometimes it’s all about social status and how people know people and run in the same known or semi known or not known until something occurs circles
It’s Bobby Womack I wish he didn’t trust me so much! With his boy Sam Cooke he was seeing his wife behind him then he died he comes to his funeral in his suit with his widow sams brothers put hands on him for doing that then Bobby smashed sams widows daughter she walked on him smashing she tried to shoot dude he broke out!! Wild story
i always loved this movie, but in my big age, lance was my least favorite character. cheating on mia while they dated and throwing around religion to cover his guilt. he put her on this pedestal, and when she shattered his outlook of her, he was ready to call it quits. i mean, a woman can only be fed up for so long. but i felt they both settled. he thought marriage would stop his heaux ways, and that's a big red to me. but harper is just as trash as lance too proposing to robyn at the wedding knowing it was guilt smh 😆 🤣
My best friend from my toddler years slept with my man when I went away to college and I found out by walking in on them at my best friend house when I made a surprise visit from school. Needless to say I haven’t had a female friend since.
Lance deserved it. He had Mia, was dating her already in college, and was cheating on her cuz he was a "FoOtBaLL sTaR". And instead of Mia getting mad, she got even. Lance is the PINNACLE of men who can dish it but can't take it. Mia literally went "anything u can do I can do better"😂😂😂
Lance was a serial cheater who didn’t deserve to married in the first place. If he truly loved Mia, he wouldn’t have been cheating on her. As for her, she was wrong for sleeping with Harper.
DETAILED WRITER another great episode and I guess the obvious follow up is how Lance and Harper never fully reconciled and of course Mia admitting that Lance should have blamed her and Heit had me cracking up when he said that was '"revolutionary" 😂 and I can see the connection to Why Did I Get Married and Best Man and y'all would be great at making connections like that and as far as songs the one that played when Lance read the book at the bachelor party by D'Angelo was perfect 😂
Man, y'all took me back with mix tapes, bootleg movies and recording songs off the radio. I still have a box full of those tapes. 😂 Oh, the nostalgia! Shortly after college I experienced being betrayed by a close friend who slept with my boyfriend at the time and had a baby! Needless to say, I didn't ever want to see them again. 😂 Shout out to Heit. As for Lance, he simply reaped what he sowed, but I do think Harper was shady as hell for what he did. And Mia, you could've chosen anybody to get your lick back with. Why Lance's best friend? This is a messy friend group, but I love this movie.
DETAILED WRITER. I would love for you guys to cover the scene when they were all at the wedding rehearsal dinner. I had no idea that Beyonce sung the song that was played at the wedding & i would love for you guys to cover music. Here comes the fun facts: Morris Chestnut & Monica Calhoun were also in The Ernest Green Story, Taye Diggs appeared on the short lived series Rosewood starring Morris Chestnut & Morris Chestnut appeared on All American.
I see it as both people didn't need to be together and it just somehow worked out because of money and having kid to distract them, along with using religion to keep up appearances. The ideal life is what held them together. I feel they got caught up in being the perfect couple, perfect family and then she got cancer and it overshadowed the cheating on both ends that was never worked out. I doubt they ever even tried to work on their problems.
Bobby Womack was supposed to be dating Sam daughter but somehow he ended up sleeping with the wife then they was just rocking after that😂 man went to the funeral and all
Lance doesn't marry Mia in real life lets be honest who marrying somebody's that slept with a member of there crew and is a best friend no way in hell any man gonna feel comfortable going through with that ...thats like duck from five heartbeats still marrying tanya after he found out she use to sleep with his brother J.T
Lance kept everyone away for years after they got married The next movie she said This the best Christmas I’ve ever had 😢 They just moved on with life without discussing this Until it was too late
He wasn't a simp, just an arrogant young man. A simp in my opinion is a man pursuing a woman. She still hasn't agreed to be his girl yet, so he keeps chasing her. A good example of a simp is Dwayne Wayne pursuing Denise in A Different World. He stopped simping for her after he discovered that she was married and later on found love with someone else Side note: I wasn't even born when A Different World was airing. I discovered it when the internet said Dwayne and Whitley were couple goals, a great example of black love...so I decided to watch it and it's an iconic sitcom. I recommend my generation to watch it
Exactly. And his reaction to finding out about what Harper did with Mia (years ago), even if it was through a novel, was overly dramatic and unnecessary. But...the movie wouldn't attract moviegoers if Lance took accountability for his past actions and simply was like, "You know, it's my turn, I deserve this." It wouldn't be salacious enough for the Hollywood vibes.
@@TheRetroWoman80 see thing is tho his reaction was half correct 😂 calling off the wedding and not even telling the bride is wild BUT harper deserved every bit of that ass whuppin 😂😂 lance asked harper if him and mia was a thing and he said no they are just friends but clearly had it in the back of his mind and simply because mia wanted to get back at lance does not mean harper had to let it be with him and having the audacity to write about it and dedicate it to lance and mia is NASTY work 😂😂😂
Gordon Chambers wrote "After All Is Said and Done". He's an incredible writer I've actually had the honor of working with. He also wrote "Missing You" (Set It Off) He's excellent at conveying those type of emotions through his lyrics and melodies. In regard to songs in that vein of UNCLE SAM, you should check out JAGGED EDGE'S "BEST MAN" and DAY 26's "ANYTHING"
@@HeitCheri I'm a non-practicing singer/songwriter. I co-wrote the title song to Gordon's album SINCERE. I haven't worked on anything in a while though. (LIFE BE LIFIN)
I don't think Lance had a problem with Mia cheating, he also said he wouldn't even question her because of his beliefs. The problem comes in place that it was his best friend/man, that she cheated with.
Detailed Writer I think I may have told this story before but I can’t remember. However, when I was in high school I had a friend who we will call Cici. Cici’s boyfriend slept with one of her best friends who we will call Aaliyah. Cici find out because after her boyfriend cheated on her he decided to come clean after he did it. She ended up confronting Aaliyah (they didn’t fight) but are no longer friends. Cici and the boyfriend ended up getting back together but broke up again.
Forrest Gump was a simp for Jenny which was sad on so many levels and before anyone gets mad, I am not talking about his IQ. Lance was just a hypocrite and problematic and it only showed as the 2nd and 3rd movies of the franchise continued.
Lance cheated on Mia so much, and it hurt her. He even admitted he wouldn’t have cared if Mia had sex with someone else. When Lance found out Mia had sex with Harper, he finally got to feel a magnitude of the pain he had caused her.
Yeah definitely. I wouldn’t have called him a simp as much as I would have called him a lucky A-hole. Because she certainly could have left him alone long ago for the stuff that he did.
@@jtcooper1033ding!!!!!!! Thank you sir.and he cheated so u sleep With his best friend???? Hell naw
Honestly, I don't think Lance was a simp. I call them both even. Although in real life, they would definitely have to pray for trust and forgiveness of each other. Lance had been cheating on Mia for years, and Mia had cheated on Lance with his best friend. Two wrongs don't make a right. But the level of betrayal for both parties, in my opinion, was even.
I found out this week that the main song from the best man is sang by Jaguar Wright
Wait if that's the Case then Mia would be a simp for even staying with Lance after all the cheating he did. Dudes need to stop all this double standard bs
We certainly don't think he was a simp either. 😊
Oh she was 😂😂 it was just a bag involved…honestly by definition she lowkey a city girl but Mia conducted herself properly so it was overlooked
@HeitCheri she slept with someone that's in his immediate circle ..not some old high school flame who wasn't around anymore its a complete difference on that level of cheating
@@rnew6399 cheating is cheating and hurts no matter who its with…and if we do wanna do that math i would honestly say a slew of randoms could absolutely equal 1 familar 😂😂 some like 100 pennies some like the bill..its still $1
@@DTowns1FinestDidn't know City Girls stay faithful in long-term relationships 🤔
I think people have misused that word for years. He already HAD Mia. He mistreated her and lost her for a moment. It’s not the same as desperately chasing and pining after someone who doesn’t want you and never will. 😂
Agreed
I’m just now 30, don’t forget Lime Wire😂 once the digital era took off it could be hit or miss but sometimes you’d find hidden gems. I have young parents so I got to go through the burnt CD, bootleg DVD, n cassette era! 😂
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I always wondered why Harper dedicated his novel to Lance & Mia. He probably didn’t think Lance would read the book given his busy life with football. did Harper want to paint a real picture to display the truth? I guess his mindset was after they are married
Everything prior don’t matter… I just thought both were wrong 😑
Lance cheated
Mia wasn’t vocal or being firm with Lance about her standards
Mia also was aware of Jordan’s love for Harper - straight up betrayal
That’s why Jordan stayed away.
No one ever held Mia or Lance accountable
Harper was definitely wrong 😑
I want to see y’all talk about Harper & Robyn, specifically the opening scenes showing how incompatible they are.
Also the part where you guys talk about small town/big time dating I’m in Tennessee myself close to ft Campbell army base so it’s like sometimes people know people because of that sometimes but most times it’s like how you’d think even In Hollywood the infamous song performed by Ray J’s friend off of For the Love of Ray J Danger she smashed the homie sometimes it’s all about social status and how people know people and run in the same known or semi known or not known until something occurs circles
It’s Bobby Womack I wish he didn’t trust me so much! With his boy Sam Cooke he was seeing his wife behind him then he died he comes to his funeral in his suit with his widow sams brothers put hands on him for doing that then Bobby smashed sams widows daughter she walked on him smashing she tried to shoot dude he broke out!! Wild story
I remember wedding favors were mixed CDs 💿 - couple favorite songs lol ☺️
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I always said when I watched this movie karma is a b* ; a few nights of passion can lead to a lifetime of pain…. Detailed Writer 🎉
It always is!
Della Reese said that to Martin in A Thin Line Between Love and Hate. Only difference was she said "one night."
Lance had to bite the bullet and let it ride. If he didn’t all Hell would’ve broke loose.
i always loved this movie, but in my big age, lance was my least favorite character. cheating on mia while they dated and throwing around religion to cover his guilt. he put her on this pedestal, and when she shattered his outlook of her, he was ready to call it quits. i mean, a woman can only be fed up for so long. but i felt they both settled. he thought marriage would stop his heaux ways, and that's a big red to me. but harper is just as trash as lance too proposing to robyn at the wedding knowing it was guilt smh 😆 🤣
My best friend from my toddler years slept with my man when I went away to college and I found out by walking in on them at my best friend house when I made a surprise visit from school. Needless to say I haven’t had a female friend since.
Oh wow!
He was a huge hypocritical ass. Yeah Harper was in the wrong but Lance started it by cheating on Mia and basically handing her the reason she needed.
I feel like the show must go on but I probably wouldn’t be friends with my former bestie anymore
I feel you. Either way, you can't have em both after that.
Actually in the book, Harper says he didn’t sleep with her. What gave him away was him mentioning the “kiss on her frontal lobe”.
A song by Randy Hall I've been watching u(Jamie girl). Written and produced by Ray Parker Jr
Lance deserved it. He had Mia, was dating her already in college, and was cheating on her cuz he was a "FoOtBaLL sTaR". And instead of Mia getting mad, she got even. Lance is the PINNACLE of men who can dish it but can't take it. Mia literally went "anything u can do I can do better"😂😂😂
I know this is off topic and not movie related but i would love to hear you guys reaction to all the stuff happening in the music industry right now 😂
Lance was a serial cheater who didn’t deserve to married in the first place. If he truly loved Mia, he wouldn’t have been cheating on her. As for her, she was wrong for sleeping with Harper.
Bobby Womack - I Wish You Didn't Trust Me So Much, Kelly Price - Friend of Mine 😕😕
Harpo was the one who wasn't on the religion tip. Remember in college, Lance dragged him to his knees to pray with him about his wicked ways.
Detailed Writer
Oh yeah, that Kelly Price hit hard!
DETAILED WRITER another great episode and I guess the obvious follow up is how Lance and Harper never fully reconciled and of course Mia admitting that Lance should have blamed her and Heit had me cracking up when he said that was '"revolutionary" 😂 and I can see the connection to Why Did I Get Married and Best Man and y'all would be great at making connections like that and as far as songs the one that played when Lance read the book at the bachelor party by D'Angelo was perfect 😂
Man, y'all took me back with mix tapes, bootleg movies and recording songs off the radio. I still have a box full of those tapes. 😂 Oh, the nostalgia! Shortly after college I experienced being betrayed by a close friend who slept with my boyfriend at the time and had a baby! Needless to say, I didn't ever want to see them again. 😂 Shout out to Heit. As for Lance, he simply reaped what he sowed, but I do think Harper was shady as hell for what he did. And Mia, you could've chosen anybody to get your lick back with. Why Lance's best friend? This is a messy friend group, but I love this movie.
Yes a messy movie for sure!
I agree with resentment
Omg spot on 💯 % True
Detailed Writer. The songtrack was sooo good!
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DETAILED WRITER. I would love for you guys to cover the scene when they were all at the wedding rehearsal dinner. I had no idea that Beyonce sung the song that was played at the wedding & i would love for you guys to cover music. Here comes the fun facts: Morris Chestnut & Monica Calhoun were also in The Ernest Green Story, Taye Diggs appeared on the short lived series Rosewood starring Morris Chestnut & Morris Chestnut appeared on All American.
Hey Marlon! Thanks for the suggestions and fun facts as always! 🙂
@@HeitCheri You’re welcome. 😊
Yessss I'm here on time 🎉❤
Yessss!!!
I see it as both people didn't need to be together and it just somehow worked out because of money and having kid to distract them, along with using religion to keep up appearances. The ideal life is what held them together. I feel they got caught up in being the perfect couple, perfect family and then she got cancer and it overshadowed the cheating on both ends that was never worked out. I doubt they ever even tried to work on their problems.
Bobby Womack was supposed to be dating Sam daughter but somehow he ended up sleeping with the wife then they was just rocking after that😂 man went to the funeral and all
What a story! 😮
@@HeitCherifrom the 80s a song by Randy Hall I've been watching u (Jamie's girl)Written n produced by Ray Parker Jr
Then eventually slept with the daughter after he married womacks ex wife.
Lance doesn't marry Mia in real life lets be honest who marrying somebody's that slept with a member of there crew and is a best friend no way in hell any man gonna feel comfortable going through with that ...thats like duck from five heartbeats still marrying tanya after he found out she use to sleep with his brother J.T
The crazy part this movie is based on true story. The director Malcolm this about him
Lance kept everyone away for years after they got married
The next movie she said
This the best Christmas I’ve ever had 😢
They just moved on with life without discussing this
Until it was too late
He wasn't a simp, just an arrogant young man. A simp in my opinion is a man pursuing a woman. She still hasn't agreed to be his girl yet, so he keeps chasing her. A good example of a simp is Dwayne Wayne pursuing Denise in A Different World. He stopped simping for her after he discovered that she was married and later on found love with someone else
Side note: I wasn't even born when A Different World was airing. I discovered it when the internet said Dwayne and Whitley were couple goals, a great example of black love...so I decided to watch it and it's an iconic sitcom. I recommend my generation to watch it
Nah getting married was fine but he was an egotistical simp for thinking mia never cheated 😂😂😂
Exactly. And his reaction to finding out about what Harper did with Mia (years ago), even if it was through a novel, was overly dramatic and unnecessary.
But...the movie wouldn't attract moviegoers if Lance took accountability for his past actions and simply was like, "You know, it's my turn, I deserve this."
It wouldn't be salacious enough for the Hollywood vibes.
@@TheRetroWoman80 see thing is tho his reaction was half correct 😂 calling off the wedding and not even telling the bride is wild BUT harper deserved every bit of that ass whuppin 😂😂 lance asked harper if him and mia was a thing and he said no they are just friends but clearly had it in the back of his mind and simply because mia wanted to get back at lance does not mean harper had to let it be with him and having the audacity to write about it and dedicate it to lance and mia is NASTY work 😂😂😂
@@DTowns1Finest Good point lol...drama all around that could have been avoided if the book was not written.
Gordon Chambers wrote "After All Is Said and Done". He's an incredible writer I've actually had the honor of working with. He also wrote "Missing You" (Set It Off) He's excellent at conveying those type of emotions through his lyrics and melodies. In regard to songs in that vein of UNCLE SAM, you should check out JAGGED EDGE'S "BEST MAN" and DAY 26's "ANYTHING"
Are you a songwriter? Musician? 😊
@@HeitCheri I'm a non-practicing singer/songwriter. I co-wrote the title song to Gordon's album SINCERE. I haven't worked on anything in a while though. (LIFE BE LIFIN)
I don't think Lance had a problem with Mia cheating, he also said he wouldn't even question her because of his beliefs. The problem comes in place that it was his best friend/man, that she cheated with.
He has a problem with her being with anyone else, and it compounded the issue that it was his friend. He says this in multiple scenes of the film. 😊
Thank you for the video good evening ❤
Hey Deja! 😀
@@HeitCheri hello🩷🩷
0:01 Dude is looking real hard at Lance. He like, "You better not mess this ceremony up."
Detailed Writer
I think I may have told this story before but I can’t remember. However, when I was in high school I had a friend who we will call Cici. Cici’s boyfriend slept with one of her best friends who we will call Aaliyah. Cici find out because after her boyfriend cheated on her he decided to come clean after he did it. She ended up confronting Aaliyah (they didn’t fight) but are no longer friends. Cici and the boyfriend ended up getting back together but broke up again.
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@@HeitCheri Yeah it was very messy now looking back😂
Detailed Writer♥️!! Great review!
Thank you so much!
I love this movie so much ❤
Kelly Price and Mr Biggs 😭😭😭
Yes
You forgot Jaheim-Hush
Kelly Price. She was a friend of mine
Love your takes on these videos because nowadays yes Lance would be seen as super soft and Kitty whipped
Times change and these characters would definitely be viewed differently today! 😊
@@HeitCheri definitely agree this was definitely a movie I wore out on my dvd player I’ll tell ya that.
Yes 😂
Haven't watched it yet but, no he isn't a simp. But he better than me tho 😂
Wish he didn't trust me so much😂😂😂
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Detailed writer idk that's a tough situation to be in lol
Lance was the true villian and and unimaginative writer. Why would you put your own dirt in the book.
Harper was the one who wrote the book though. You're talking about Harper?
He definitely was a SIMP!!! AIN'T NO WAY!!!!
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Forrest Gump was a simp for Jenny which was sad on so many levels and before anyone gets mad, I am not talking about his IQ. Lance was just a hypocrite and problematic and it only showed as the 2nd and 3rd movies of the franchise continued.
No he wasn’t a simp he could of been more mad at Mia out of all the guys you could of slept with you slept with his best friend.
he's wasn't a simp but I wouldn't of married her 😂😂
Why not, you're even at this point
@@material-cheshirekhatter2413 nah smashing on the homies is another level too contaminated after that she gotta kick rocks 🤷🏿♂️🤣😭
@@material-cheshirekhatter2413tit for tat?