So much yesss to the “pause” and learning the various ways of saying no. I’ve learned that I can do all this with love. When I was contemplating the origins of this, I think I learned this by observing my family’s behavior, but I’m also sure there was something about selfishness being bad in there. And just like you said, this isn’t about being selfish, it’s about honoring your basic needs and limits. ❤ thank you
@@alinan408 YESSSS! It has helped me so much to have those reframes in my back pocket so instead of feeling like my only choice was an “outright” no (which always led me to say ‘yes’), now I can say something that feels ‘softer’ to my nervous system AND still communicates ‘no.’ Win-win!! 🥳
I really am impressed with your ability to walk and talk and have the camera be steady! I do this half the time I’m out of breath. But thanks for the information and great outdoor footage! 😊
@@AbilityToBeAwesome Hey, thanks! I think the iPhone stabilizer helps a lot bc sometimes I feel like my arm is about to give out holding the selfie stick! 🤣 I like videoing outdoors too - I think it creates interest and is more fun than always being in a house. 🥳
Did you get messages when you were young about what it meant to be good, nice, or SELFISH? Share the messages you received here ⬇️
So much yesss to the “pause” and learning the various ways of saying no. I’ve learned that I can do all this with love. When I was contemplating the origins of this, I think I learned this by observing my family’s behavior, but I’m also sure there was something about selfishness being bad in there.
And just like you said, this isn’t about being selfish, it’s about honoring your basic needs and limits. ❤ thank you
@@alinan408 YESSSS! It has helped me so much to have those reframes in my back pocket so instead of feeling like my only choice was an “outright” no (which always led me to say ‘yes’), now I can say something that feels ‘softer’ to my nervous system AND still communicates ‘no.’ Win-win!! 🥳
I really am impressed with your ability to walk and talk and have the camera be steady! I do this half the time I’m out of breath. But thanks for the information and great outdoor footage! 😊
@@AbilityToBeAwesome Hey, thanks! I think the iPhone stabilizer helps a lot bc sometimes I feel like my arm is about to give out holding the selfie stick! 🤣 I like videoing outdoors too - I think it creates interest and is more fun than always being in a house. 🥳