I'm so honored that close to 400 of you have already joined my upcoming masterclass, Master the Art of Personal Style™! This is something I have dreamed of doing for a long time. I’ve always wanted to create an in-depth, step-by-step course for those who want to go deeper, and I can’t wait to see all the transformations! Doors close on July 12! Grab your seat at: www.dearlybethany.com.
I went into a very male dominated field. I would tell myself that you don't need to hide your femininity to be respected. Spent years in jeans and boots to fit in until met an amazing woman in the same field who didn't. I'll be forever grateful to her.
I am 21 years old and I am going through a similar phase.Sometimes I feel uncomfortable wearing chic or feminine clothes and force myself to wear only hoodies and leggings ,I'm going to change it this year. It is inspiring to see you !
My fashion tips for my 20-year-old self would be -There's more to pants than jeans! -Try tucking in tops (Finally learnt this by copying a cute mannequin outfit when I was 24!) -Shop for outfits, not items -Your body is great - wear crop tops already! -And stop buying so much clothing! Sleep on every purchase
tucking in tops is awesome, and I knew it was when I was a teenager but my friends would just laugh at me, telling me I looked like a nerd. But now I do it all the time in my 20s :)
I'd tell my 20 year old self: when buying a new piece of clothing, think about the rest of the pieces in your wardrobe! Dont just go around buying things you like but which are not cohesive with the things you already own! Your wardrobe is about a personal "collection" and every collection is neccesarily cohesive.
I would remind myself: dress for the body you have TODAY and for the position you want TOMORROW. In other words, do not refrain from investing in your wardrobe just because you're not at your ideal weight, and give yourself permission to dress more thoughtfully than your colleagues.
I would tell my 20 year old self and to anyone else who needs this: stop caring about what others would think! Just wear whatever you like , you only live once :) Lots of love Bethany, you've helped me a lot!
I would absolutely LOVE to see a video where you do something like go through old photos or yourself and evaluating your old style and things you’ve learned since! Not sure how exactly but I’d love to learn more about your own journey even before you started to rediscover your personal style 😊
A major problem I have concerning my wardrobe is definitely comparing my beginning with someone’s middle and hearing you talk about it absolutely brightened my day. Thank you so much for the tips.
I'm a 21 y/o college student and I always get dressed up for exams. It helps me feel more confident going into them and taking that little bit of time before the exam to get ready helps me decompress and mentally prepare myself to do my best.
I loved hearing that dressing even SLIGHTLY differently can affect people's perception in a positive way. It's exciting to realize that, since both my husband and I have a few unique twists to our everyday wardrobe. :)
I'm turning 20 this year and sometimes I think that everything is getting weirder but your words are so comforting. It made things less scary. Thank you so much❣️
2nd comments, i was wandering if you could make a full video about “outfits for college students” and perhaps some hacks on how to not spend so much money on clothes since most of collage students (like me) are broke af 😅
I am 19 and I will try to make sure that I regret less or not regret at all about my 20. you people set the example for us not to repeat the mistakes you did in past. I would like to thank everyone who gave their piece of advice. i am grateful that i am living in this kind of world.
I'm 27, graduated Graphic Designer from Buenos Aires. And I wish I could tell my 20 year old self to dress however I want without having the fear of people staring at me.. people over here wear the same, everywhere, it's boring, so thank you Bethany, you encouraged me to dress in other ways, and speaking about that, last week I bought a hat just because of you, thank you 🖤✨
Hey Agustina! I'm 20 and also live in Buenos Aires, I'll take your advice and be more risky and I think hats are amazing, I adore design and if you studied in fadu I'll say people there are so diverse in fashion, that's how I got to met Bethany's channel. Good luck on your fashion journey!
Use accessories to spice up a classic wardrobe, wear sunscreen and avoid cafeteria food that’s high carb processed.🍕 Most important: avoid taking on debt, apply for grants, work part time or on paid internships.
Bethany - you're like my style big sister that always offers pearls of wisdom! As someone who turned 20 a year before the pandemic began, and now spending my early 20s in the midst of the pandemic, everything seemed to turn on it's head.. Learning about style and discovering my own personal style with your help has really helped root me in something I enjoy and find breathing space in! ❤️ Even though I'm only 22, I think one thing I would tell my younger self 20 years ago is to take time with the process and to enjoy it - not too jump in too quickly to style trends or just mindlessly listening to other style influencers and buying into what -they say- I MUST have! And being thoughtful about my purchases, to not let style envy of -someone else's middle of their journey-, cloud my judgment of what my beginning should be like! To that end, I'm so thankful to have discovered your channel a year and a half ago - your content is always so refreshing and heartfelt, definitely one of my favourite channels (one of the rare channels I leave comments on!). I'm so looking forward to the Masterclass! It's going to be my breath of fresh air in a busy month up ahead ☺️ Much love to you and Zack! Always looking forward to your uploads!
Emily! This SO made my evening. I cannot thank you enough for taking the time to write such an amazing comment and I’m truly honored you follow my channel. You have such a bright future ahead, girl! Much love to you! ❤️
I'm 23 and I've been learning english since I was 16. When you mentioned the quote about not comparing your beginning with someone else's middle I instantly thought about the languague journey. Because when you are a beginner or even when you are an intermediate learner we tend to compare ourselves with people who has a higher level in certain language. But the truth is that we don't know anything about their journeys. And we see pretty much just the tip of the iceberg. I'm sure that behind that perfect English there is a lot a hard work and discipline. And I think the same is true for style and fashion. We should focus more on our own journey. Thanks Bethany :)
I am 20 years old and just found this video, in a time where I am figuring out my personal style. I would like to thank you Bethany and everyone that has posted helpful advice on this video!!! 🥺💗✨Ever since I was 14 my style has always being gravitating more towards elegant and vintage chic, mixed with casual lol if that makes sense .😅Especially in this day and age with social media I felt a lot of pressure that I do not dress and genuinely like most mainstream trends on myself as it does not represent me or make me comfortable ( I think those trends look great on others and style is something entirely personal) but this video helped me understand even more that it is okay to have my own unique style. Every person should dress in clothes that are comfortable, make them feel like themselves and most of all HAPPY! Thank you, Dearly Bethany💌
Thank you for your helpful knowlegde. I do realise that when I wear casual clothes, people treat me like I am a child because I am 5 foot 1 and I am Asian so I am quite small. So I try to wear clothes which are more distinct, and I can tell you that I saw people treat me differently, I hate the way they treat me because of my clothes, but sadly I cannot change that. I cannot agree with you more about the society respects well-dressed person, my mind just blows when you mention this because it is so true
I second that! I am 5 foot 3, not all that small, but still tiny enough for looking like 16 yo (while having 25) when dressed very casually with jeans and sneakers. I can absolutely see how different people act. I spotted the difference already in high school when I was a teen, clothes really sneakily change so many things in people's perception of others.
I’m 22! Love this, thank you!! I gotta remember it’s a journey, I wish things could be perfect right now but even those I admire are probably still in their ‘middle’ too! 😅 How ever I can’t wait until I have the funds to truly invest in my wardrobe 😎
I would tell my younger self to appreciate the younger body that you have and that you look great!! I feel like I would compare myself to my very thin friends to a point but I look back at photos now and think wow I looked good when I didn't always necessarily feel that way. Feels like kind of a waste to not have appreciated my body as much as I could have. I think this plays in to how you dress and carry yourself.
I’m turning 21 this year. I’ve been subscribed for 2 years now and I have to say that your channel help me tremendously. Before that my outfits would look quite childish no matter how hard I try! I’m still at my beginning and hope to learn about my fashion taste more.
I’m 31 now, and I would tell my 20s self: don’t buy things just because they’re on sale, prioritize quality over quantity, and you don’t need a special occasion to look/feel your best! Thanks for these awesome videos. It’s beautiful to see how they resonate with so many women!
I'm 23, petite and I'm in college and I work from home. Since I discover your channel a year ago, I started my journey to discover my personal style. Elevating my outfits was one of the first things I started to do. Thank you for all your advices!
I’m currently 20 and am still struggling to find my personal style. It’s difficult for me to try out different styles and colour palettes with a tight budget, but I’m learning and building my closet up slowly ❤️ thanks fir the advice!
Hi Bethany, I'm currently 22 right now and I was introduced into minimalism and chic fashion last year. I was feeling frustrated lately because I'm still not satisfied with my closet despite being extra careful and mindful of the pieces that I buy. I just couldn't ask anyone about so this video of yours is really a great help. Thank you! Keep safe 🤍
I would tell my younger self to stop waiting to have the so-called "perfect body". There were so many times when I said to myself I can't wear a certain piece of clothing until I gained/lost weight. Of course it's nice to know how you can choose what's the most flattering for you, but at the end of the day I think building your own wardrobe should be something fun, a way to experiment and express yourself. Fashion has no size. 🤍
Would love to see a video on enclothed cognition. I realized a few years ago how much clothing affects my confidence and mood and put way more effort into my style now.
I'm turning 21 in two weeks and this video was very comforting. While I don't actually regret my fashion choices throughout my life (I feel like they were made according to my age and my budget), I sometimes feel like I'm always behind everyone else. I could always do better, like everyone around me who is 25+. And that's just not true, everyone has their own timing and goes through their own learning process. So take it calmly, everything comes in life with time and patience. "You can't expect your beginning to be someone else's middle." Loved it.
Hello friend I mostly wear t shirts and jeans/pants/joggers but but I wanted to shift to some nice dresses I could wear but still being in my comfort zone.... You already helped me a lot and thank you soo much for that 🙏🏼😊✨
Love these ideas and I 100% agree! My dad used to tell me that the most successful people in life dress for their success. I’d always try my best in college to look professional while maintaining my quirks 🥰
You’re so articulate and well-spoken! Your videos are well-made and I love listening to you talk. I normally watch videos on 2x speed, but with yours I slow down and take the time.
I don't comment often, but this video is so well made, and every bit of it is so amazingly made that I felt the need to say that this deserves recognition!
I have been watching your channel for over a year now, and your videos are so comforting as well as reliable to find my own sense of fashion! I just introduced my baby sister (who is turning 13) with this video. With social media constantly surrounding her, she wants to change her style but doesn't know where or what to start with. I can only say so much, but viewing your style, she really appreciates the quotes you added and advice!
I would tell myself in past to try out different kinds of clothes as much as possible. It's really hard to tell what kind of clothes fit me or what color compliment me unless I go through many trials and errors. I've had a bunch of clothes I thought would look pretty on me but did not end up wearing them, I don't consider them as waste of money but it's more of a tuition to learn what kind of clothes fit me.
I'm 20. I already think that I make really wise choices when it comes to fashion, but a few other tips won't hurt! I'm happy that I stumbled across this video.
I'm 20 YO and I totally love your video. Can you make a video on the classic clothing items that everyone should have so that we don't have to buy a lot of fast fashion items, we could just mix and match those for everyday.
My mom always wanted me to experiment and i hushed her saying i was fine the way i was. I liked being in my comfort zone. Now that I’m in college I’ve realised how right she was. To my younger and future self, Never. Stop. Experimenting. And. Learning.
Loved the video 🥰 I guess something to take in consideration as well is the fact that when we’re younger and developing our style, we might take other people’s opinions, seeking for that external validation, when in reality it should start within ourselves, it’s a hard process and the majority of time it comes with age. Experimenting with clothing shouldn’t feel “weird”, it should just be a process of getting to know yourself :)
Yass! Thrifting is my best friend especially im in my early 20s. My fashion sense is quite ok(im not into sweat pants or jacket bc too hot and not too good for my framework). I absolutely love your advices although I already found my style (which are parisian chic lady/soft pastels outfits). But now, I’m still struggling with confidence in my own body. I’m petite and has belly fats and Im not confident with them but im already minimize my food intake and will start exercising next month! Hope u upload more inspirational vids for all women 💓💓💓
I bought a mini steamer, because legit steamers can be *very* expensive. It takes a bit longer to use but SO worth it. Now I am on the hunt for an iron and ironing board for those items too wrinkled for my steamer lol.
You are 100% right about tailoring. I learned back in college that a good tailor is worth his/her weight in gold. I have a similar figure as you (petite and curvy) and most clothes do not fit without tweaking the fit and/or design.
I spent too much time trying to be like other and ‘fit in’ while in college to be accepted and liked, and later realized that translated in my choice of outfits. Finding your style independently of what’s trending or certain expectations is so freeing! As always, Great tips! 💕
I am mid 20s now, but I have a love for older vintage clothing, especially the “Granny floral.” I just enjoy it so much as growing up my parents didn’t buy me color clothing and made me shop in the women’s section as a child. I am not really pressed to look taller in dresses, i like the more cozy appearance they give me when paired with a solid oversized cardigan.
I'm so thankful for this video, I'm 24, still learning about fashion. I really like to have a sexy vibes around me but sometimes I'm afraid I look vulgar. This video has really good recommendations, specially not feeling pressure and be gentle to ourselves. We all do what we can with what we have ❤️
I wish I knew about the capsule wardrobe concept in my early 20s, I feel like I would have had a more cohesive wardrobe with less clothes but more outfit combinations. Also, I wish I wore more cute skirts to university!
I LOVED this video, i feel like I’m still on my journey and I’m in my mid twenties but the advice I’d give to my 20 year old self would be don’t be afraid to step out your comfort zone and experiment, try new places and go for more staple pieces. Being 4ft 10, it’s always been difficult but there are a lot more brands out there to suit being shorter than there were when I was 20, which is amazing!! 💓
I am 20 and Im glad I found your channel. I feel plain and boring in my fashion sense. I keep repeating the same style. I'm kinda sad that I can't explore something new. Suddenly, I saw this. Thank you for existing. 💖
i have always wondered what others would think if i try outfits different than what i usually wear but your point about psychology of fashion gave me the little boost and confidence that i needed so thank you for this video
Honestly Bethany, my style journey began 3 years ago when I found your channel. I was 23 at the time and had no real connection with my wardrobe. For a year or so, I pretty much copied your outfits but over the course of the last two years, I have truly developed my own sense of style and now I feel more confident in my clothes than I had ever felt. And of course, it's always nice when my friends ask me for fashion advice because I'm such a "fashionista" haha. I rarely leave comments on videos and I know you probably won't see this, but THANK YOU!
I'm 20 and love your videos, the way you express love for fashion had made me fall for sense, and expression of fashion. I hope I find my style soon. Your fashion is truly inspiring. ❤️
I just turned 30 this September. I would probably tell my twenty year old self what I’m saying now: have more confidence with what you wear , care less about what others think and try out the styles (wearing lipstick) and looks that scare you. Haha. I have always been a casual “tomboy” dresser that’s how I feel most comfortable but right now I’m finding ways to stay true to that side while aging up and maturing my look. Great video and amazing advice for any age ❤️
The thumbnail is so on point lmao. The left style was pretty much exactly how I dressed between the ages of 14 and 21. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I wish I would have started to step out of my comfort zone earlier on in my life. I missed out on so many cute outfits for the sake of familiarity.
I heard a quote in my early 20’s that has always stayed with me: “Dress for the job you want, not for the job you have.” It was said in the context of dressing like you’re in management even if you’re in an entry-level position. I took that advice to heart, and really do believe it helped me to be taken seriously and to consistently advance in my workplace. Now in my mid-30’s, I share this advice with every young woman I mentor.
Being a 21 year old myself, this video was really helpful, thank you! The two tips I really loved were don’t be afraid to elevate your outfits and you don’t have to fit in, standing out is actually more preferred. Also thanks so much for all the quotes you shared 😊 So true about how what you’re wearing affects how you feel and think.
I would tell myself to get rid of weird clothes that don’t fit! I grew up thinking it was wasteful to declutter and that I should just make things work (and not even for budgetary reasons lol), but really I just had a ton of strange stuff that didn’t work for my body. Learning discernment with what to keep/toss was life changing in my late 20s.
I opened myself to exploring (and trying out) new fashion aesthetics, elements, and styles that I haven't tried before. I have seen items that I had thought I would never wear, but when I tried them on, I would grow into them. I think this opens so many doors that help you richen your unique sense of style and change your perspective in how you see fashion.
Haha many style mishaps happened in the 20s but I think going to art school, I still leaned into uniqueness. I'm SO excited for your new course, I feel like it'll be so helpful to people and I think I'll also have to sign up to support
Tip on a steamer, if you can’t afford to get one, turn on the shower and make the water really hot. Then stick your piece in the bathroom and close the door. In a few minutes it should be good
I love that you started with the word of encouragement. I’m a new mom, majority of my clothes are wearing out I hate what’s left, and feel like I can’t wear cute outfits because 7 months old are messy 🥲
Great advice! I would tell my 20 year old self that just because something looks good on you doesn’t mean you have to buy it. I ended up with wayyy too many clothes in my early 20’s that looked good on me but were uncomfortable and/or not cohesive with the rest of my clothes.
All throughout high school, the teachers kept demanding us to tuck in our shirts. I never liked my shirt tucked in as I was overweight and self-conscious of my belly. I went to a bad school where kids would bully others for the littlest things (one classmate sniggered at the safety pin that held my trouser zip together), so I kept my school blazer buttoned up. Only now, at the age of 34, I've started to tuck my top in, and I never felt so confident in my body. I completed my weight loss journey years ago, but this little clothing adjustment made me realise how far I had come.
I have loved watching my style evolve over time and I completely agree with you. There are so many lessons I wish I knew or could tell myself. Loved this one Bethany, got me thinking more about my own personal style!
I'm 20 now and the main thing that has caused change in my wardrobe is poshmark and thrifting. It makes such a huge difference because it's cheaper and I don't have to buy the crazy trendy pieces that fill the stores. Really let me widen my horizons.
You have helped me so much to find my style. Here are some tips I would give my 20 year self 1. Less is more 2. Buy 1 piece that is high quality insteadof buying 10 low quality pieces. 3. Buy clothes that you feel comfortable in 4. Neutrals are the best thing you will invest in.
Entering my 30's I finally stopped caring about dressing differently than the general public in my area. I've always been a confident person, but looking different than everyone else is scary! Now that I've embraced looking different my personal style has completely bloomed and I've never been happier! Plus my wardrobe has significantly shrunk because when you know what you love there really isn't any room for sub-par.
It’s so true in high school I loved clothes and dressing up and wearing beautiful clothes but in college everyone were wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts to class and I felt like I was too overdressed so I ended up dressing more casual. And honestly I felt bummy all the time and a disinterest in clothes actually. I’m now so excited to get back to exploring my style and just wearing whatever I want to feel good
I needed these suggestions as I'm going to college next month for the first time.... Thank you so much ❤️ It felt like my elder sister giving me advises.
Thank you so much Bethany. I'm 25 years old. I already have 1 baby girl and watching your video is so relief. I am petite also and conscious about my body. Your videos really help me so much.
I'm pretty satisfied with my wardrobe at 20, it came out I still wear my 20 year old jeans sometimes. It's crazy how they were able to survive.))) And yeah, I would tell myself to stop thinking that my body would do impossible things.
Your thumbnail really spoke to me, I consider myself the person on the left but actually I want to be the person on the right. Feeling motivated right now:)
Thank you for your wise words. Ive always been very individualistic when it comes to style. But now in my early 30's im fine tuning my wardrobe w/chic,good quality items i know i will love forever. This simple process has definitely made me more confident.
One piece of advice I’d give my younger self is to never go with what everyone else is wearing. Although my sense of fashion hasn’t always been what one could even call fashion, the only things I really truly regret are the times that I tried to fit in with how everyone else looked. Don’t follow trends, wear what you want and discover things for yourself!
I'm 18 and I recently got my first job a few months ago so I'm trying to invest in quality classic pieces. It's a little nerve-wracking when I'm spending more than I usually would but your channel has helped me a lot in figuring out what the best thing for me is.
Yesterday i went to zara i was able to pick up my clothes which is quite similar to your i really love your videos they are able to make my own style through them Thankyou very much😊🦋🌼🌻
I seriously just found your channel yesterday but immediately subscribed halfway through the video. (The first video I watched was- 5 things to avoid if you have short legs) Your videos gave me inspiration.❤ Keep up the good work❤
I'm so honored that close to 400 of you have already joined my upcoming masterclass, Master the Art of Personal Style™! This is something I have dreamed of doing for a long time. I’ve always wanted to create an in-depth, step-by-step course for those who want to go deeper, and I can’t wait to see all the transformations! Doors close on July 12! Grab your seat at: www.dearlybethany.com.
I would tell my younger self that quality is over quantity and don’t try to follow trends and focus on timeless pieces that fit my body the best
yes! finally, someone understands! 🥰
Yes!!! Thankyou:) but the trendy cloths are so tempting
@@Hairprincess1.1 you can join in trends if you want but only if you genuinely like it a lot and can see yourself wearing it time and time again
I would've told myself not to get that tattoo.
exactly trying to adopt this
Don't compare my start to someone else's middle! This is the quote that I needed to hear! Thank you Bethany
Yea for sure! Jon Acuff is an amazing writer 🙌
Agreed thank you!
Yeah i need it
I went into a very male dominated field. I would tell myself that you don't need to hide your femininity to be respected. Spent years in jeans and boots to fit in until met an amazing woman in the same field who didn't. I'll be forever grateful to her.
I am 21 years old and I am going through a similar phase.Sometimes I feel uncomfortable wearing chic or feminine clothes and force myself to wear only hoodies and leggings ,I'm going to change it this year. It is inspiring to see you !
Which field if you don’t mind me asking ?
This is so true!
Omg. This is inspiring
My fashion tips for my 20-year-old self would be
-There's more to pants than jeans!
-Try tucking in tops (Finally learnt this by copying a cute mannequin outfit when I was 24!)
-Shop for outfits, not items
-Your body is great - wear crop tops already!
-And stop buying so much clothing! Sleep on every purchase
Same! Wish I knew about tucking in tops in my early 20s. And jeans, oh jeans… I’m glad so many other types of pants are in style now!
I love the "shop for outfits, not items" tip! I usually buy without thinking about the overall outfit🤦♀️
@@zahra_ptv8137 Me too! For years and years! And then I could never match things well and looked such a mess!
tucking in tops is awesome, and I knew it was when I was a teenager but my friends would just laugh at me, telling me I looked like a nerd. But now I do it all the time in my 20s :)
Yes about the crop tops 😻
I'd tell my 20 year old self: when buying a new piece of clothing, think about the rest of the pieces in your wardrobe! Dont just go around buying things you like but which are not cohesive with the things you already own! Your wardrobe is about a personal "collection" and every collection is neccesarily cohesive.
THIS. My wardrobe is full of clothes that look cute on their own, but totally not mix-n-match friendly. Kinda regret it rn :((
@@pro.fessionalcomplainer it is always a good moment to start decluttering!!! U' ll get there!!! Never regret any of ur purchases!
I would remind myself: dress for the body you have TODAY and for the position you want TOMORROW. In other words, do not refrain from investing in your wardrobe just because you're not at your ideal weight, and give yourself permission to dress more thoughtfully than your colleagues.
I would tell my 20 year old self and to anyone else who needs this: stop caring about what others would think! Just wear whatever you like , you only live once :)
Lots of love Bethany, you've helped me a lot!
I would absolutely LOVE to see a video where you do something like go through old photos or yourself and evaluating your old style and things you’ve learned since! Not sure how exactly but I’d love to learn more about your own journey even before you started to rediscover your personal style 😊
+1
I'm 21 now and still in college. Thank you for inspiring a lot of women to become more aware of what they really want in life. This is so uplifting
These were so eye-opening, Bethany! You're a lifesaver.
You are also lifesaver 🥰💙
Omg a Queen supporting another queen 👑
Totally missed this! Thanks Kaiti! 🤗
A major problem I have concerning my wardrobe is definitely comparing my beginning with someone’s middle and hearing you talk about it absolutely brightened my day. Thank you so much for the tips.
I'm a 21 y/o college student and I always get dressed up for exams. It helps me feel more confident going into them and taking that little bit of time before the exam to get ready helps me decompress and mentally prepare myself to do my best.
I loved hearing that dressing even SLIGHTLY differently can affect people's perception in a positive way. It's exciting to realize that, since both my husband and I have a few unique twists to our everyday wardrobe. :)
I'm turning 20 this year and sometimes I think that everything is getting weirder but your words are so comforting. It made things less scary. Thank you so much❣️
for sure! Life is always uncertain, and definitely weird. but stay grounded in truth and it will all be okay ❤️
@@bethanyleonardo Thank you again! It helps a lot. ❣️
2nd comments, i was wandering if you could make a full video about “outfits for college students” and perhaps some hacks on how to not spend so much money on clothes since most of collage students (like me) are broke af 😅
I think many people would watch that. I also like her make up it looks so natural.
Classic /versatile pieces!
yes, espacially summer clothings
Just because one item didn't fit me or flatter my body doesn't mean I am not beautiful, I just picked the wrong one.
I am 19 and I will try to make sure that I regret less or not regret at all about my 20. you people set the example for us not to repeat the mistakes you did in past. I would like to thank everyone who gave their piece of advice. i am grateful that i am living in this kind of world.
I'm 27, graduated Graphic Designer from Buenos Aires. And I wish I could tell my 20 year old self to dress however I want without having the fear of people staring at me.. people over here wear the same, everywhere, it's boring, so thank you Bethany, you encouraged me to dress in other ways, and speaking about that, last week I bought a hat just because of you, thank you 🖤✨
Love this, Agustina! Rock that hat!
Good for you! It takes quite some courage to wear hats 😊 You rock! 😎
@@oceanbreeze9248 How lovely, thank you 🖤
Hey Agustina! I'm 20 and also live in Buenos Aires, I'll take your advice and be more risky and I think hats are amazing, I adore design and if you studied in fadu I'll say people there are so diverse in fashion, that's how I got to met Bethany's channel. Good luck on your fashion journey!
You have made a large change in my life by giving it a clear classy taste which I was searching from so long!! Thanks a lot!!!
So happy to hear that! 💛
Sanika chavan.. So true yaaa!! 😍😍
Use accessories to spice up a classic wardrobe, wear sunscreen and avoid cafeteria food that’s high carb processed.🍕 Most important: avoid taking on debt, apply for grants, work part time or on paid internships.
I loved how when she said fashion lessons she actually meant legit life advice based on her experience and knowledge and not just styling tips.
Totally here for all of it!
Bethany - you're like my style big sister that always offers pearls of wisdom! As someone who turned 20 a year before the pandemic began, and now spending my early 20s in the midst of the pandemic, everything seemed to turn on it's head.. Learning about style and discovering my own personal style with your help has really helped root me in something I enjoy and find breathing space in! ❤️
Even though I'm only 22, I think one thing I would tell my younger self 20 years ago is to take time with the process and to enjoy it - not too jump in too quickly to style trends or just mindlessly listening to other style influencers and buying into what -they say- I MUST have! And being thoughtful about my purchases, to not let style envy of -someone else's middle of their journey-, cloud my judgment of what my beginning should be like! To that end, I'm so thankful to have discovered your channel a year and a half ago - your content is always so refreshing and heartfelt, definitely one of my favourite channels (one of the rare channels I leave comments on!). I'm so looking forward to the Masterclass! It's going to be my breath of fresh air in a busy month up ahead ☺️
Much love to you and Zack! Always looking forward to your uploads!
Emily! This SO made my evening. I cannot thank you enough for taking the time to write such an amazing comment and I’m truly honored you follow my channel. You have such a bright future ahead, girl! Much love to you! ❤️
I'm 23 and I've been learning english since I was 16. When you mentioned the quote about not comparing your beginning with someone else's middle I instantly thought about the languague journey. Because when you are a beginner or even when you are an intermediate learner we tend to compare ourselves with people who has a higher level in certain language.
But the truth is that we don't know anything about their journeys. And we see pretty much just the tip of the iceberg. I'm sure that behind that perfect English there is a lot a hard work and discipline. And I think the same is true for style and fashion.
We should focus more on our own journey.
Thanks Bethany :)
I am 20 years old and just found this video, in a time where I am figuring out my personal style. I would like to thank you Bethany and everyone that has posted helpful advice on this video!!! 🥺💗✨Ever since I was 14 my style has always being gravitating more towards elegant and vintage chic, mixed with casual lol if that makes sense .😅Especially in this day and age with social media I felt a lot of pressure that I do not dress and genuinely like most mainstream trends on myself as it does not represent me or make me comfortable ( I think those trends look great on others and style is something entirely personal) but this video helped me understand even more that it is okay to have my own unique style.
Every person should dress in clothes that are comfortable, make them feel like themselves and most of all HAPPY! Thank you, Dearly Bethany💌
Thank you for your helpful knowlegde. I do realise that when I wear casual clothes, people treat me like I am a child because I am 5 foot 1 and I am Asian so I am quite small. So I try to wear clothes which are more distinct, and I can tell you that I saw people treat me differently, I hate the way they treat me because of my clothes, but sadly I cannot change that. I cannot agree with you more about the society respects well-dressed person, my mind just blows when you mention this because it is so true
I second that! I am 5 foot 3, not all that small, but still tiny enough for looking like 16 yo (while having 25) when dressed very casually with jeans and sneakers. I can absolutely see how different people act. I spotted the difference already in high school when I was a teen, clothes really sneakily change so many things in people's perception of others.
@@PegasStar So true
I’m 22! Love this, thank you!! I gotta remember it’s a journey, I wish things could be perfect right now but even those I admire are probably still in their ‘middle’ too! 😅
How ever I can’t wait until I have the funds to truly invest in my wardrobe 😎
For sure, exactly!
I would tell my younger self to appreciate the younger body that you have and that you look great!! I feel like I would compare myself to my very thin friends to a point but I look back at photos now and think wow I looked good when I didn't always necessarily feel that way. Feels like kind of a waste to not have appreciated my body as much as I could have. I think this plays in to how you dress and carry yourself.
What's that saying: "You don't know what you have till its gone" I feel that same way
I’m turning 21 this year. I’ve been subscribed for 2 years now and I have to say that your channel help me tremendously. Before that my outfits would look quite childish no matter how hard I try! I’m still at my beginning and hope to learn about my fashion taste more.
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I’m 31 now, and I would tell my 20s self: don’t buy things just because they’re on sale, prioritize quality over quantity, and you don’t need a special occasion to look/feel your best!
Thanks for these awesome videos. It’s beautiful to see how they resonate with so many women!
I'm 23, petite and I'm in college and I work from home. Since I discover your channel a year ago, I started my journey to discover my personal style. Elevating my outfits was one of the first things I started to do. Thank you for all your advices!
I’m currently 20 and am still struggling to find my personal style. It’s difficult for me to try out different styles and colour palettes with a tight budget, but I’m learning and building my closet up slowly ❤️ thanks fir the advice!
Okay, so tucking the t-shirts in the pants is the trends of 60s, 90s, 2020, so do not worry about that
Hi Bethany, I'm currently 22 right now and I was introduced into minimalism and chic fashion last year. I was feeling frustrated lately because I'm still not satisfied with my closet despite being extra careful and mindful of the pieces that I buy. I just couldn't ask anyone about so this video of yours is really a great help. Thank you! Keep safe 🤍
I would tell my younger self to stop waiting to have the so-called "perfect body". There were so many times when I said to myself I can't wear a certain piece of clothing until I gained/lost weight. Of course it's nice to know how you can choose what's the most flattering for you, but at the end of the day I think building your own wardrobe should be something fun, a way to experiment and express yourself. Fashion has no size. 🤍
Me too ❤️❤️❤️
So true!!!
yes yes yes....im battling this with myself even NOW!!! Thank you
Would love to see a video on enclothed cognition. I realized a few years ago how much clothing affects my confidence and mood and put way more effort into my style now.
Babe you teach us like our elder sister 🥺❤️
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I'm turning 21 in two weeks and this video was very comforting. While I don't actually regret my fashion choices throughout my life (I feel like they were made according to my age and my budget), I sometimes feel like I'm always behind everyone else. I could always do better, like everyone around me who is 25+. And that's just not true, everyone has their own timing and goes through their own learning process. So take it calmly, everything comes in life with time and patience. "You can't expect your beginning to be someone else's middle." Loved it.
Hello friend
I mostly wear t shirts and jeans/pants/joggers but but I wanted to shift to some nice dresses I could wear but still being in my comfort zone....
You already helped me a lot and thank you soo much for that 🙏🏼😊✨
I’d invest in more chic flats for work. Flats are easier to walk in and stand in and it’s easier to focus on work.
so true, love that
Love these ideas and I 100% agree! My dad used to tell me that the most successful people in life dress for their success. I’d always try my best in college to look professional while maintaining my quirks 🥰
You’re so articulate and well-spoken! Your videos are well-made and I love listening to you talk. I normally watch videos on 2x speed, but with yours I slow down and take the time.
I don't comment often, but this video is so well made, and every bit of it is so amazingly made that I felt the need to say that this deserves recognition!
I have been watching your channel for over a year now, and your videos are so comforting as well as reliable to find my own sense of fashion! I just introduced my baby sister (who is turning 13) with this video. With social media constantly surrounding her, she wants to change her style but doesn't know where or what to start with. I can only say so much, but viewing your style, she really appreciates the quotes you added and advice!
Love this! Thanks Jacqui 🤗
I would tell myself in past to try out different kinds of clothes as much as possible. It's really hard to tell what kind of clothes fit me or what color compliment me unless I go through many trials and errors. I've had a bunch of clothes I thought would look pretty on me but did not end up wearing them, I don't consider them as waste of money but it's more of a tuition to learn what kind of clothes fit me.
Bethany, I’m 20 and will be in college this Fall. The timing of this video couldn’t have been more perfect. Thank you ☺️
I'm 20. I already think that I make really wise choices when it comes to fashion, but a few other tips won't hurt! I'm happy that I stumbled across this video.
I'm 20 YO and I totally love your video. Can you make a video on the classic clothing items that everyone should have so that we don't have to buy a lot of fast fashion items, we could just mix and match those for everyday.
My mom always wanted me to experiment and i hushed her saying i was fine the way i was. I liked being in my comfort zone. Now that I’m in college I’ve realised how right she was. To my younger and future self, Never. Stop. Experimenting. And. Learning.
Loved the video 🥰
I guess something to take in consideration as well is the fact that when we’re younger and developing our style, we might take other people’s opinions, seeking for that external validation, when in reality it should start within ourselves, it’s a hard process and the majority of time it comes with age. Experimenting with clothing shouldn’t feel “weird”, it should just be a process of getting to know yourself :)
When I was younger I used to wear a lot of clothes with logos and brands on them and now I like plain clothes no logos no brands
Yass! Thrifting is my best friend especially im in my early 20s. My fashion sense is quite ok(im not into sweat pants or jacket bc too hot and not too good for my framework). I absolutely love your advices although I already found my style (which are parisian chic lady/soft pastels outfits). But now, I’m still struggling with confidence in my own body. I’m petite and has belly fats and Im not confident with them but im already minimize my food intake and will start exercising next month! Hope u upload more inspirational vids for all women 💓💓💓
i’m 20 right now, and I work a sales job. you can directly see how much more business you get just by dressing well rather than boring
So true, Samantha! 🙌
I bought a mini steamer, because legit steamers can be *very* expensive. It takes a bit longer to use but SO worth it. Now I am on the hunt for an iron and ironing board for those items too wrinkled for my steamer lol.
You are 100% right about tailoring. I learned back in college that a good tailor is worth his/her weight in gold. I have a similar figure as you (petite and curvy) and most clothes do not fit without tweaking the fit and/or design.
I spent too much time trying to be like other and ‘fit in’ while in college to be accepted and liked, and later realized that translated in my choice of outfits.
Finding your style independently of what’s trending or certain expectations is so freeing!
As always,
Great tips! 💕
So true, Elyse!
I am mid 20s now, but I have a love for older vintage clothing, especially the “Granny floral.” I just enjoy it so much as growing up my parents didn’t buy me color clothing and made me shop in the women’s section as a child. I am not really pressed to look taller in dresses, i like the more cozy appearance they give me when paired with a solid oversized cardigan.
I loved this video, I'm not in my twenties yet but this definitely helps me now in my teenage years and will help me in my twenties 💕.
I'm so thankful for this video, I'm 24, still learning about fashion. I really like to have a sexy vibes around me but sometimes I'm afraid I look vulgar. This video has really good recommendations, specially not feeling pressure and be gentle to ourselves. We all do what we can with what we have ❤️
I relate to this too!!
I wish I knew about the capsule wardrobe concept in my early 20s, I feel like I would have had a more cohesive wardrobe with less clothes but more outfit combinations.
Also, I wish I wore more cute skirts to university!
I LOVED this video, i feel like I’m still on my journey and I’m in my mid twenties but the advice I’d give to my 20 year old self would be don’t be afraid to step out your comfort zone and experiment, try new places and go for more staple pieces. Being 4ft 10, it’s always been difficult but there are a lot more brands out there to suit being shorter than there were when I was 20, which is amazing!! 💓
very true! lovely advice
I am 20 and Im glad I found your channel. I feel plain and boring in my fashion sense. I keep repeating the same style. I'm kinda sad that I can't explore something new. Suddenly, I saw this. Thank you for existing. 💖
i have always wondered what others would think if i try outfits different than what i usually wear but your point about psychology of fashion gave me the little boost and confidence that i needed so thank you for this video
Honestly Bethany, my style journey began 3 years ago when I found your channel. I was 23 at the time and had no real connection with my wardrobe. For a year or so, I pretty much copied your outfits but over the course of the last two years, I have truly developed my own sense of style and now I feel more confident in my clothes than I had ever felt. And of course, it's always nice when my friends ask me for fashion advice because I'm such a "fashionista" haha. I rarely leave comments on videos and I know you probably won't see this, but THANK YOU!
Love all of this, girl! So happy! Thanks for following so long! 💛
Thank you Bethany.. I'm 20 and I'm changing my closet trying to find my personal style.. Please do more videos like this♥️
I'm 20 and love your videos, the way you express love for fashion had made me fall for sense, and expression of fashion. I hope I find my style soon. Your fashion is truly inspiring. ❤️
Thank you so much, you're so kind!
I'm 19, about to turn 20 in September. This is super valuable! Thank you Bethany!
I just turned 30 this September. I would probably tell my twenty year old self what I’m saying now: have more confidence with what you wear , care less about what others think and try out the styles (wearing lipstick) and looks that scare you. Haha. I have always been a casual “tomboy” dresser that’s how I feel most comfortable but right now I’m finding ways to stay true to that side while aging up and maturing my look. Great video and amazing advice for any age ❤️
I feel blessed to watch this because I will turn twenty in like, three months 🥲
Thank you, Bethany! ❤️ Shine, you beautiful lady.
I am turning 20 in September and I ABSOLUTELY love this.
The thumbnail is so on point lmao. The left style was pretty much exactly how I dressed between the ages of 14 and 21. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I wish I would have started to step out of my comfort zone earlier on in my life. I missed out on so many cute outfits for the sake of familiarity.
There are so many valuable quotes in this video. I'd def spent my time watching it over time.
I'll be 20 in a few months And I'm now we'll equipped with super helpful tips.. Thank you ❤️
I heard a quote in my early 20’s that has always stayed with me: “Dress for the job you want, not for the job you have.” It was said in the context of dressing like you’re in management even if you’re in an entry-level position. I took that advice to heart, and really do believe it helped me to be taken seriously and to consistently advance in my workplace. Now in my mid-30’s, I share this advice with every young woman I mentor.
Being a 21 year old myself, this video was really helpful, thank you! The two tips I really loved were don’t be afraid to elevate your outfits and you don’t have to fit in, standing out is actually more preferred. Also thanks so much for all the quotes you shared 😊 So true about how what you’re wearing affects how you feel and think.
I would tell myself to get rid of weird clothes that don’t fit! I grew up thinking it was wasteful to declutter and that I should just make things work (and not even for budgetary reasons lol), but really I just had a ton of strange stuff that didn’t work for my body. Learning discernment with what to keep/toss was life changing in my late 20s.
I opened myself to exploring (and trying out) new fashion aesthetics, elements, and styles that I haven't tried before. I have seen items that I had thought I would never wear, but when I tried them on, I would grow into them. I think this opens so many doors that help you richen your unique sense of style and change your perspective in how you see fashion.
Haha many style mishaps happened in the 20s but I think going to art school, I still leaned into uniqueness. I'm SO excited for your new course, I feel like it'll be so helpful to people and I think I'll also have to sign up to support
Thanks friend! Hope you can join! 🤗
Tip on a steamer, if you can’t afford to get one, turn on the shower and make the water really hot. Then stick your piece in the bathroom and close the door. In a few minutes it should be good
I love that you started with the word of encouragement. I’m a new mom, majority of my clothes are wearing out I hate what’s left, and feel like I can’t wear cute outfits because 7 months old are messy 🥲
Great advice! I would tell my 20 year old self that just because something looks good on you doesn’t mean you have to buy it. I ended up with wayyy too many clothes in my early 20’s that looked good on me but were uncomfortable and/or not cohesive with the rest of my clothes.
All throughout high school, the teachers kept demanding us to tuck in our shirts. I never liked my shirt tucked in as I was overweight and self-conscious of my belly. I went to a bad school where kids would bully others for the littlest things (one classmate sniggered at the safety pin that held my trouser zip together), so I kept my school blazer buttoned up. Only now, at the age of 34, I've started to tuck my top in, and I never felt so confident in my body. I completed my weight loss journey years ago, but this little clothing adjustment made me realise how far I had come.
I have loved watching my style evolve over time and I completely agree with you. There are so many lessons I wish I knew or could tell myself. Loved this one Bethany, got me thinking more about my own personal style!
Love it, Amanda! ❤️ For sure, a time machine would be very helpful!
I'm 20 now and the main thing that has caused change in my wardrobe is poshmark and thrifting. It makes such a huge difference because it's cheaper and I don't have to buy the crazy trendy pieces that fill the stores. Really let me widen my horizons.
You have helped me so much to find my style.
Here are some tips I would give my 20 year self
1. Less is more
2. Buy 1 piece that is high quality insteadof buying 10 low quality pieces.
3. Buy clothes that you feel comfortable in
4. Neutrals are the best thing you will invest in.
Entering my 30's I finally stopped caring about dressing differently than the general public in my area. I've always been a confident person, but looking different than everyone else is scary! Now that I've embraced looking different my personal style has completely bloomed and I've never been happier! Plus my wardrobe has significantly shrunk because when you know what you love there really isn't any room for sub-par.
That last statement is a firecracker, Kaitlyn! SO true. 💛
It’s so true in high school I loved clothes and dressing up and wearing beautiful clothes but in college everyone were wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts to class and I felt like I was too overdressed so I ended up dressing more casual. And honestly I felt bummy all the time and a disinterest in clothes actually. I’m now so excited to get back to exploring my style and just wearing whatever I want to feel good
Yes! Excited for you 🙌
I needed these suggestions as I'm going to college next month for the first time.... Thank you so much ❤️ It felt like my elder sister giving me advises.
Thank you so much Bethany. I'm 25 years old. I already have 1 baby girl and watching your video is so relief. I am petite also and conscious about my body. Your videos really help me so much.
I'm pretty satisfied with my wardrobe at 20, it came out I still wear my 20 year old jeans sometimes. It's crazy how they were able to survive.))) And yeah, I would tell myself to stop thinking that my body would do impossible things.
In 6 months i am 20, I actually struggle with my style and everything... Thank you for the video it will be helpful !
Your thumbnail really spoke to me, I consider myself the person on the left but actually I want to be the person on the right. Feeling motivated right now:)
Thank you for your wise words. Ive always been very individualistic when it comes to style. But now in my early 30's im fine tuning my wardrobe w/chic,good quality items i know i will love forever. This simple process has definitely made me more confident.
I really liked the encouragement to dress more classy than casual. I want to get to the point where my casual clothes are classy in some way.
One piece of advice I’d give my younger self is to never go with what everyone else is wearing. Although my sense of fashion hasn’t always been what one could even call fashion, the only things I really truly regret are the times that I tried to fit in with how everyone else looked. Don’t follow trends, wear what you want and discover things for yourself!
I'm 18 and I recently got my first job a few months ago so I'm trying to invest in quality classic pieces. It's a little nerve-wracking when I'm spending more than I usually would but your channel has helped me a lot in figuring out what the best thing for me is.
Yesterday i went to zara i was able to pick up my clothes which is quite similar to your i really love your videos they are able to make my own style through them
Thankyou very much😊🦋🌼🌻
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Pls share some party outfit ideas that are classy and elegant also for the petite size
I seriously just found your channel yesterday but immediately subscribed halfway through the video. (The first video I watched was- 5 things to avoid if you have short legs)
Your videos gave me inspiration.❤
Keep up the good work❤
Really love your videos its like fashion healing understanding oneself n a push to be confident