Just started dating an entrepreneur. Found this super helpful. I do find myself feeling lonely and I need reassurance because I want to be there for him every step of they way while I'm also working hard for my own success. It's just hard sometimes when he's vague about scheduling time with me or doesn't seem concerned about it. I know he cares for me and I also know I also know this is just the pains of the beginnings for him. Your video clarified that for me. Thanks!
You are right on, I have an entrepreneurs mentality. We are very creative and think outside of the box. Many times we get laughed because of an idea we might have, people think it's crazy or won't work. I've had to back off from sharing my thoughts with relatives because they don't understand.
True story: my ex wife couldn't handle me, she wanted me to be 9 to 5 and it didn't work I tried for 12 years. She drowned me. Now I met my perfect soulmate she's just like me!!! I'm very happy, we are working on it 👊🏻
Wow, I am so glad for you. I wish my husband is more out going as I am. We are just an opposite, but I love him for his many good qualities. This man of mine was there at one time, but his ex-wife took it all from him. The Samson got his hair cut, and he is no longer the same.
I honestly didn't think I would watch this video because of the title because I am personally not dating an entrepreneur. I am the entrepreneur in my relationship. The things that I learned about myself in this video is absolutely incredible. It's crazy to see that other people think alike. The fact that I zone out and think about things while my wife is talking to me is just spot on. Patrick, thank you so so much for your videos. Super appreciated!
As much as I understand the entrepreneurial mindset, and I really do because I am not a 9 to 5 person either: Once any event is in the calendar with an alarm and on your daily plan, it is your responsibility as an adult, no reminders. Not everyone else is your assistant, especially not your family and partner. They are your support system, but they don't manage your life and they are not your audience either. And your assistant is not supposed to manage your private life, assistants are there to schedule your business life. They help you with your private life as a bonus, and be very thankful for it if they do. If your business constantly becomes more important than the most important people in your life, you don't need them.
Patrick, your relationship content has blown my perspective wide open. I've struggled with this in relationships, not just intimate, where I know and feel I operate differently. At some point, I started to think my mentality was wrong. I'm just wired differently. I love others for their differences from me and I need to keep searching to be loved and respected for who I am.
This is one of the best self-awareness checks I’ve ever had! I think I can articulate my needs and noise in my brain better for watching this. Thanks, Pat. You are one of my favorite teachers!
entrepreneurs are a little all over the place emotionally, they're in it for the long term, time alone is much needed due to high stress, schedule your relationship, they're always thinking and a little in their heads, the business will always be a top priority for them, it will be the business over events especially in the beginning, most talk to other people a lot, they question things, the majority can not understand and entrepreneurial relationship, they have strong opinions, hate laziness, like growing mentally
This is life changing. I maintain an unhealthy relationship for long. I used to be questioning my entrepreneurial spirit because I didn't know any entrepreneurs. You confirm my choice to choose the right partner instead of quitting my dreams. Thanks
Everything he said was absolutely threading the needle. Absolutely true. I have ADHD. I get up in the morning, before I turn the water on for the shower, my mind is already racing with ideas. I get off work, spend hours and hours at home studying. My fiance would tell me she feels like the business is taking over and she has to "compete" for my time. I am doing this partly for her. A few years of pain, a lifetime of pleasure. Had we both seen this video and the followup video for this, we would still be together.
Omg, this is so true, like, literally, every single thing you mentioned..., at least for me. Many times I questioned myself, is there really something wrong with me ? I feel better now : )) And, indeed, a capitalist cannot stand with a socialist. Many women tend to have socialist leanings, unfortunately, and it might be coming from their protective nature, which I can understand up to a point. The most awkward moment is when you go on a date with a woman and she starts telling you how communism is a great idea, and why we should increase taxes so people will contribute with their fair share. When I experience these moments, I want to stand up and leave from the restaurant... : )) Also, I despise, those who change their plans short notice, after I, damn, had to book time for them in my busy schedule with 2 weeks in advance. They don't realise how much of an effort that is. They think we'll just meet a few hours later or the next day..., just like that. only because they're incapable to manage their time or they don't really know what they want from life as they get easily distracted with other things and let you down. Now, I learned to treat dates like business meetings. I force people to commit to a certain time and date.
Why don't you explain to them why it doesn't work instead of avoiding them as a whole. Saying this because I got into politics in less than a year and I never went full on one side bc I didn't know about either naturally I am more of the Idea of being a democrat but something about the Dems themselves seemed fishy. So I did research and only last week I watched the china video on this channel and later on Friday my brain went on forever and I realized why socialism leads to communism and my views on socialism changed. I already knew communism wasn't good it's fairly obv but also that video showed other ppl see it that way too.
Never have I ever been in a relationship with an entrepreneur until now and he motivates me to become an entrepreneur as well. We’re working on things and this video is helping a lot for me to realize things
So glad I found you, now I don't feel so strange 😉 you totally described everything about me. Guys just don't get me at all, especially the grind, single minded focus & solitude. I'm the queen of schedules & I fcking hate surprises & time wasting. I sleep irregular hours, guys always tell me I have mood swings & I get accused of flirting/cheating ALL THE TIME. Hands down this is the best dating advice I've EVER heard. Thanks man, you're a legend
Dating an entrepreneur here. We’re both young and this experience has changed me in so many ways but it definitely isn’t easy. Dating an entrepreneur is like a long term investment. He’s so driven and focused i havent met anyone like him. In some ways his characteristics have rubbed off on me and i understand so much of these points and the wording in this video is amazing. Although i must admit it feels very lonely and your friends and family will most likely not understand you. I try my best to support him in all the ways i know how to because i really believe in him and want to see him succeed. I understand in the beginning of their business they are spending a lot of time and energy dedicated to it but it really seems at times that im not even a priority and it makes me feel unwanted. I’m want to make it work but is it worth it if it feels like im the only one trying?… any advice for this?
I do enjoy this video. In Jamaica the average woman don't want to build with ambitious guy. They see you as broke all your life but when you are successful. They act like they was with you through the rough ride of startup. Thanks Patrick for the video.
Interesting. Wish I had known this earlier. My husband is surely an entrepreneur at heart. He was a 9-5er. He just decided to fulfill the entrepreneur dream and I have always been struggling to understand his behavior. Now I know so I'll adjust so he can be the entrepreneur he desires to be and be me! Thanks Pat! Really appreciate this! Really appreciate this video!
I have fed my mind with soo much information from your videos. God created you to do great things. You are changing lives and masses of ppl with your knowledge and developing not just your own children but all around the world by installing entrepreneurship in adults and parents. Thank you for going deep into detail clarifying the actions NEEDED to take to really be true to your legacy. God bless you. You've definitely grabbed my attention and a loyal follower. As a single mom I feel like there's a breathe of fresh air and I can pass this along to my 6 year old son. Keep em coming. 💪👏💪
I've already been married for 7 years but I sent this to my husband anyways. There's still a lot of valuable info that can help a spouse understand more about the behavior of a entrepreneur when they're in start-up mode.
I agree with 99,9% of what you say in your videos, but being an entrepreneur at the beginning, it's about money 10 out of 10, it's about financial freedom then, after you secure yourself and you are comfortable with the business and the money that you make then it's about wanting more, creating, being the best ta ta ta. :)
This is SO SO TRUE! My mind is always churning! I'm a real estate investor and I'm a young guy so when I come across women they want dates but I'd rather be thinking of marketing methods for my business. I don't have a kid but I feel like my business IS my baby. I don't wanna make time for shit else BUT my business, not even make time for me! And they always want me to be available for their 9-5 lifestyle but when they call, text or FaceTime call me I'm ALWAYS with my face in my laptop working. I LOVE being wired this way lol. It's a blessing for me but a curse for everyone else. I rather be alone and happy than force myself to be with someone and not be free to be the entrepreneur I truly am!
I have been dating my current boyfriend for 9 months. Never been with an entrepreneur. He's a real estate broker/investor and flips homes. He is just like you. Me being that I've never dated a man wired like him in the begining I felt extremely neglected bc he is never in the present and seemed off. I also did understand that he's a man on a mission and his passion kept me patient. I just needed to learn that his hiis constant withdrawing and his distance made me want to understand his mind more. So I just started reading a bunch of books and even ran across this video lol. Being in a relationship with a entrepreneur is not for every woman but I am adaptable and he challenges me to be a better woman as well. I've ready learned so much from him that now I respect him more as the time progresses!
I would have been better off with an Entrepreneur. I am from a 4th generation family of them --even my brother has his own business and I have had several. I married a man who was not that and he could not understand the mindset. I tried and after 15 years we divorced. We had no children thank God for that. It is true that one must understand the mindset and character of a person building their business....it can be very exciting.
I enjoy all of your videos, being 21 and an upcoming entrepreneur I find your material very inspiring. And from reading other books, I found that every intelligent person tends to have the same habits and has similar advices. Now about your video; I've had to push my ex a lot because he was content and lazy.... and it drove me nuts.... and had to explain to him why I am always up and going.... I thought I was abnormal but this shows that I am not .. :)
I've never felt described so accurately in my entire life!. Thank god my wife is a wonderful wonderful woman who totally support me. Sometimes we are joking and i tell her "Entrepreneurs we are so crazies but even more insane by far are his wives". God bless entrepreneurs wives or husbuands.
Weird that I'm crying while watching this. I'm a 9 to 5 woman who's currently dating a very busy person that handles several projects simultaneously. And I recognize that face he makes when he gets a message about a bad day in the office while we're out. Thank you for this video. I'm working on understanding him more.
Thank you so much for this video!!!! It taught me so much about myself. Now I know why I am the way I am. Growing up I was always labeled as the weird girl and socially awkward. It used to bother me until I got older and realized that I love being different and weird. What's normal anyway and why should I be like everybody else!! I love me!!! This video is one of my favorites!!! I am so grateful for them all!
I’m the partner, and I’m an artist! My partner is the Entrepreneur, this video just gave me sooooo much insight on my relationship that I’ve been trying to figure out for years. I think I’m having a better understanding of who my partner really is. And yes it’s hard. And the point you made about considering the source when looking for advice, man that resonates with me so much. I wish I could go into detail, but I’m watching this video for a reason. And I know now how I need to look at things. So thank you
Pat, I AM YOUR BIGGEST FAN! GREAT video! I have turned on at least 500 people to your channel! This video in particular struck a chord. I always thought that I was "weird", and that I was not desirable as a woman, because I was always in a "man's" role, as an entrepreneur. When you are an entrepreneurial woman, it's SSSSOOOO MUCH harder to find that special man, because you have to display so many masculine traits in the business world. This can be very unflattering, and frankly a big turn off to most men. Like 9.9% of all men can't stand women who run their own companies, make a lot of money, and are confident in themselves. I always ended up with men who were broke, needy, and very feminine. This is why I was always alone for years and years. Even when I was with a man, he was always wondering why I was always in the spotlight, and not him. You nailed it right on the head in this video. Bravo!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 It wasn't until recently that I found a similar "entrepreneur" but I had to really hide my "masculine" nature around him to get him to marry me! But he is the right one. Finally. It took 48 years to find him. What type of advice would you give a woman, who is in a man's world? I am very curious, what you have to say. I have heard the opinions of others, but since I consider you my new mentor, I am absolutely extremely curious as to what you have to say. I truly enjoy all your videos! They kick me in the ass every day! I cannot go one day without watching you! Keep them coming!-Your biggest fan, Edie, the Salsa FREAK!!
Thank you. This video meant so much. I was starting to feel like a freak a little bit cuz I let other people’s opinions get in my head. You helped reaffirm that I’m really just an entrepreneur at heart. All of this was so accurate that it was kinda scary. Anyways, thank you so much.
This is the best thing I've seen. I'm 27 years old. Been driven by my passion for the past several years... explanation of this to past girlfriends has been non-existent... simply unable to find words to explain my "affliction" of living a passion and making a living from it. I have never had more fire for what I do than I do now. Like many many others, I have questioned my "sanity"... I now see that the "ups, downs, and erratic emotions" are a product of our unique genius for whatever we all are going for. I remember being called bipolar several....hundred...times. I chuckle at it now. I know what I am going for has ultimate sustainability, and its up to me. No one will stop me. Hats of to you, sir, for developing such an "on-point" video describing our unique selves.
Thank you for this amazing video, it took me an entire day to watch the whole thing because I am an entrepreneur haha! I just recently had to break up with someone I loved because I knew my business was at risk at this time. I am comforted with knowing that other entrepreneurs can understand the hardships of dating an entrepreneur. Definitely a lesson learned.
You really hit the nail on the head with this video, I struggled for just over a year trying to help my partner understand my grinders and entrepreneur and business owner. But all they want to do was change me… The relationship is no more, for the better. But after watching this video I couldn't help but smile at so many things that you brought to light.
I really enjoyed this video. everything is spot on. I'm a 19 year old CEO. I just took over my dads company and now it's all mine and already it's been crazy trying to handle everything and my boyfriend now watched this video with me and now it seems like he understands what it's like for me a bit more now. So thanks a ton for making this video.
+PercyMcYo McYo Congrats. It's great to have your Father as an example to go to for council but nothing beats you deciding to become absolutely curious and obsessed about becoming a better entrepreneur. Keep getting better.
Thanks Patrick, your video came to my rescue because I was hurt that my dad was upset coz of the "No" that I said to the stuffs he asked me to do. The reason behind my No is that what he asked me to do was going to pull me out of my focus of my craft & I am a absolute practicer of Focus. Patrick in past I tried to share the knowledge of the reason of my way of life or my way of thinking by suggesting him some books ('Rich dad Poor dad' & 'Think & grow rich') but he procrastinated to read that because of his addiction to distraction (Tv & other stuffs), patrick I think I did my part to make him understand humbly but he didn't executed on it Well Thank you patrick for all your knowledge sharing
Deb pramanik I know how you are feeling. My 3 year long relationship is mutually coming to an end because of my lifestyle and goals. Im really at the point where I recognize how important it could be to your success if you just stay single. Then you won’t have to go through bad relationships that’s dying because our understanding is off.
I am not an entrepreneur as yet but well on my way. I am speaking with someone who is and because I understand how much he will be gone, I was a bit worried. But in my opinion its simply being goal oriented..I swear, entrepreneurs have the best regimins are pretty predictable. After seeing this is opened my mind to alot.. and therefore I believe that I can handle it. I think communication plays such a huge part in it. I also saw the video from your wife a while ago and she too gave amazing tips. You are a life saver, thank you very much
You are so special strong, brave, and full of God giving wisdom. She must have been the big diamond to cut the big diamond like you, so that you can be shine force to the world around you. Proud to meet you Pat. Business life are lonely when we are crimping the road to success and seeing our selves on the top of the tallest mountain, and on the way there we all need companion to give us supports while we are trying to get there. "Two are better than one", said the Lord. "For wisdom is a defense, and money is a defense: but the excellence of knowledge is, that wisdom give life to them that have it." Ecc 7: 12. And you are one of them Pat.
This video describes my date perfectly. Strong opinions, spontaneous, curious. And it’s nice that I can resonate with the video a lot myself. Glad that we share the same interests and wired the same way
Thank you for this video. I've been dating an entrepreneur for 4 moths now, and he is wired so differently than what I am used to. This helps me to understand him a bit more from a outside source. I thought I was going crazy, but I just needed to understand his point of view a bit more. Do what you do.
TheCandyoung hi I’m dating an entrepreneur for about a couple months now.. and I have been trying so hard to be understanding. I have had really bad relationships in the past which affected my trust in men but with this one I am trying be fair and not bring my past insecurities and project on him. He has been very patient with me trying to show me his world of entrepreneurs by explaining to me in details of his everyday life as an entrepreneur.. I appreciate him doing this but at times find myself slipping into depression b’coz this is all new to me but am determined to support him..
I thought I might share this. This may not be related to "someone interested in dating an Entrepreneur" but still in the category of relationship and dating. As a single entrepreneur myself, I find it very hard to be actively looking for a relationship with a woman and the reason is because i'm so focus on how to create a business that generate revenue to that point where my business is more interesting than the woman. Usually the woman doesn't create enough interests to steal my attentions...beside their stunning look of course, which is most of the case. I have always thought that it is hard to find a woman that's an entrepreneur themselves because they are too...as well caught up in their own ideas where I wouldn't be interesting enough to grab their attention. Because of those reasons... my parents or relative will always ask "Do you have a gf yet? Why not? Why aren't you looking? Are you gay?" lol i'm serious, my mom actually thought I was gay because I was always with my business partner testing out new ideas. I am curious if there are people like this too. Now i'm very interested in woman and I have always want one where we can build a business and live a dream together. But through out my life, they seem to be a rare breed to find. My questions to you and the rest of the readers would be this. If you are to actively look to get into a relationship with a woman or man who's an entrepreneur, where would you look and how would you grab their attentions? Or would it be just... "go with the flow and you'll find the right one." Thanks.
BboyApacheEntertainment Thank you for sharing that, it is really interesting! I'm not an enterpreneur, I will be, well, at least something like it. I'm still researching and clearing up the ideas in my head. Anyways... I feel like MY problem to find a guy would be non other than me being set on a combo of things I just can't get over, lol, things that in it of themselves aren't a big deal, but I wonder if I'll ever find a combination of ALL in one person. Of course, I might change my mind on some, but... idk. I want to have this deep relationship with someone, this intimate, inlove, best friend kind of thing, this person beside you you enjoy, enjoy supporting in their passions, their failiours, ect., so even if I get caught up in my work I know I'll notice the people who have the potential to build that with me. At least I think so... I guess I can't know for sure. But since it's a legit desire that I have I think I'm prone to seeing the potential for it even if I'm not actively pursuing it. Which is the case right now. I love talking to people, I love getting to know them and, as you can conclude from my reply here as well, I like sharing - I don't mind and even like sharing types of things that others seem to find too private to share so quickly. I like discussing all kinds of things, I like talking about relationships whether they'd be romantic, frienships or other types, I like talkig about life's choices, major views, little habits and quircks - I'm just like that, I enjoy that. And that reeeeally makes me feel like I'll somehow naturally find a person I click with, lol. I can already imagine meeting a random person at a mutual friend's birthday party I almost didn't go to and hitting it off about something we have in common just because I talk so much that I hit the nail on the head with this ONE thing I over-shared, or started talkig about even though it had little to no relation to the coversation going on previously. It's happened, but only in a platonic way so far, haha. My point here is 1. I wanted to share all this so I did, haha and 2. being very open, up-front and talkative lets you (unexpectedly) bond with people. It has worked for me in terms of friendship, to me that means it could for a future partnership as well. So, that's my tip for you to simply consider - oversharing. Just kidding, I mean being open and talkative and all. :D I'm no expert though, so please just treat this as food for thought. And last but not least - ask Pat how he met and hit it off with Jen - he's a "crazy" enterpreneur all caught up in it and he found her and has been building a family with her! :) I apologize if my reply is chaotic, I hope it's understandable and it helps you in some way. Wish you all the best. :)
+VALUETAINMENT right it's personality if you complete each other in life & business that's great if you can find how to grow from each other that's a great life deal you'll have 2 in 1 👍
Need to show this to my wife!!!! Omg!!! Thank you Patrick!!! Hahaha! Ive been laughing most times while watching this video! I relate myself so much! Hahaha!
Patrick you were on the point man. It is amazing to see someone express that effectively, Most of it was dam related. I have Never Read any comments before , i was surprised seeing these many stories which were relating on this . Dude you have developed something great with this.
Oh my gosh Patrick, you stroked a cord with me when you mentioned the time when you were broke and some girls refused to date you! Man, I can relate to this... this is such a rough moment! You feel like shit! All your bright ideas are not making sense to them when you have zero in the account! 😂😂😂 my gosh!
If your partner engages in schedule sabotage, starting arguments as you are preparing for the next day's appointments or before you leave... that is not a partner, that is a liability. Cultivate assets, eliminate liabilities.
I truly love what you do and all of your videos! It's this one thing that I am not convinced and don't agree on. Even if they are wired like this, you can do something about it... making boundaries for yourself. We can tell that they are like this and I know a bunch of entrepreneurs who are like this. Constantly thinking. In fact, I am like this. When something comes to my mind I feel like I want to add it immediately to my career and I am on my phone for a long time. But making that boundary, that when I am with my loved one, I will only only do that for max 20-30 sec, writing down the main idea only, not the entire concept in propositions, is something else. If it happens too many times, you can also make something about it. It is self awareness. Plus the communication with your partner, you have to let her know that sometimes this will happen, but you are working on it, just like you said. Love your work!
This is totally true I mean 100% true I have been going through this with my partner (boyfriend)he is the one who is an entrepreneur and till I watch this video I thought I was loosing it ...it's actually not easy but then I keep encouraging him to work hard at a point it's really not easy cause everyone around you is living the great life with its 5 to 9 partner but then with an entrepreneur it's different you build yourself too when In the relationship
16 year old entrepreneur here, I think this specific video is true yet funny haha. As a teenager I am a lot different than other teenagers and I am proud of it and I like where I am. I laughed so hard at 1:16 keep up the great videos.
absolutely. I didn't have a mentor in my growing up years. and I REALLY wish I did. my father is a long distance truck driver, has been for many many years. most of my growing up time. But he also had a very Mennonite mindset. that means you just have to work very hard at a job, do overtime when possible, don't invest your money in this and this and that. it really, REALLY sucked growing up. I wanted so much more and all my dreams were crushed by this bs mindset. now, it's very difficult to change. I don't like it, but this is how it is. I'm trying, and it's definitely not easy. But I'm working on it.
My parents are classic lazy ass people. Prefer the News over positive motivation but im into a marketing gig and we lunch our product in january #excited.
Alvin Dueck I get what you mean that the mindset you grew up receiving from your parents has influenced you and it's hard to change. (If I understand you correctly.) I'm going through something similar, which actually I think is mostly my own fault, cause it wasn't so much my parent's mindset, but their situation and how they HAD to deal with it that somehow shaped in me a model of thinking and for some reason I thought that everything that's different than that model is just not for me. With no reason at all, just automatically - I really didn't even realize I was thinking that way! One proof of that is simply how long I was thinking about finding an already excisting job/profession, a position to be *hired* in when I was thinking about my work future. I was so frustrated! That's one example.
finally somebody that understands me and a video that can explain me !!! My mom before she passed always told me I get bored easy lol I knew I was add lol but every point in this video matched me completely. I'm going to require anybody that wants to date me to watch this video first . Thanks so much for this wonderful video
Shared across the board! NAILED IT! Very well articulated and could have not have said it better my self... Think of the entrepreneur who awakens already in a marriage and then working through this with a spouse!
I agree with everything you said. I feel like nobody understands me as entrepreneur in the barber industry. I've talked to this one girl in the life insurance industry and I feel like we connect even though we are in different fields but I understand what she's going through. Hopefully she understands things from my angle except in a different business.
Maybe only entrepreneurs listen to this. And when they present this to the one they are dating isn't an entrepreneur. They dont completely understand or listen. I thought this was extremely great and on point because it fits perfectly but the 9-5 person can hear it but and understand the complexity of our minds. Sometimes I wish I had a simple mind because they look so complete with what they have, driving their simple little cars living a simple little life. But then I realize there's so much more. It's tough
this was awesome! My wife and I literally just had this discussion and she said she wish she could understand me better. You nailed it with this video. I'm going to send this to her now. I really appreciate your channel and the value you add. Really glad I stumbled upon your channel! thank you!!!!
I just came across your FB page last night, and i have literally seen all of your videos, ALL OF THEM! they're super great. i just finished a 5 years relationship with my ex, as you know it can be very hard to stay focused since we lived together and were very used to each other... For some reason watching all of your videos made me feel alive again, and ready to move on to my busy schedule. Thank you so much for the motivation and the support. What you're doing is amazing, and it means a lot to people like me. You got yourself a student that will always look up to you. i hope i get to meet you and do business with you day =) God Bless.
I am definitely a true entrepreneur. When I was five years old I decided I wanted to be an artist when I grew up. I am always on the hunt, my brain is always working and thinking about how I can creatively side hustle and dreaming so so big. My husband tells me I should think smaller, and I’m thinking I should think bigger because that simplifies it more for me LOL
Its like im talking to myself everytime I watch your videos. Amazing amazing amazing I need to socialize with more like minded people, this gives me so much energy
It's hard to date a businesswoman especially if she had a child or children cause she has to work and take care of the child or children and they don't have free time. A woman I like she cancelled on me twice cause she had something come up at the last minute. Now I just want to be friends with her now, cause now I'm in stock market and own ETFs so I'm looking after my investments, studying books on finances, and the own free time I have is on the weekend and holidays which I don't celebrate anyway. It's hard to be with someone who always busy and working.
This explains soooo much! Forgetting everything, always being late, the constant random conversations, the spot light issue, the family members and friend loving them or hating them. Thank you Thank Thank you!!
As a women entrepreneur when dating, it seems men can't handle my independent/free spirit mindset. They want to try and control me by using jealousy or just undermining my needs. They want "dominance." Many times they are just trying to make me feel less than because of their own insecurities. It doesn't matter if they are an employee or if they own a million dollar business!! THEY DON'T FEEL SECURE. So in turn they try to dim my light....BUT little did they know it actually adds fuel to my fire. They actually makes me even stronger! hahaha I honestly don't know how to find a strong confident man. I don't conform to intimate "relationship" stigma. Its wayyy over thought these days. Its just a best friendship with a dose of sexual tension. He should do his thing and i should be able to do mine respectfully. And at the end of they day come together without the bull shit. Full openness of the good and the bad. Male and females are different..but are meant to compliment one another. They balance each other out. So people need to quit whatever it is they are doing that sets the dynamic off balance. I guess the relationship my creative mind envisions is not "normal" these days. I'm looking for my male unicorn. So to all the "men" trying to keep me capped for your own shortcomings-step out the way. I don't stop and wont stop😜 xoxo IBUT little do they know, it only adds fuel to my fire and i become even stronger! ; )
Thank you for taking the time to make this and other videos! I appreciate you! All 15 points are spot on. Further to your points, one worth mentioning is unflinchingly positive, almost to the point of annoying. Thanks again Patrick! Ryan
I like to think of it as aware with a smile:) You may not know, but you've helped me through a lot! Everything from being stagnant to almost giving up. Thanks for that
I am on a break with my boyfriend right now who is an entrepreneur. This explains some of the issues I've had with recent events. But I do have a lot more to learn and we do have a big age difference and we have been long distance for the last 6 months of the relationship. So we had a lot of factors in there. Some things could definitely change though and I hope that we're able to find a way to physically be together soon.
A woman leaving an entrepreneur can be so liberating at times. Kinda why a lot of entrepreneurs stay single because its unfair to their partner to spend so much time away from each other because the entrepreneur is building and creating 16 hours a day, sometimes even in his sleep while dreaming, hence why some walk up in the middle of the night with an idea. We naturally have insomnia and when we crash, we pass out for half the day but its worth it. The world is our play ground, its like kids with so much energy, they can play all day, all night. We don't even see weekends as weekends. We see weekends as the slow days of the week and we cant wait for Monday to show up. Weekends are for anyone and everyone else, not for entrepreneurs. You can't turn it off. It is what it is!
Financial motive must prevail . When your running your own business . You seem bipolar to other folks . Only your keeping several plates spinning , sometimes a plate loses momentum and shatters to pieces . Then the others stay going . You have octinal amount of things on your mind at once . So when you get asked a question and people can’t under stand you or your current mind state . That’s only for the fact , you can’t always give others your full attention when they expect an answer . Nothing to do with being bipolar 😂
Thank you for this video. I am experiencing all of these things since i started my business. You nailed every event that i am going through, i felt as if you were spying on me. Haha
I wish I had been able to communicate all of this about my entrepreneurial self to my ex-girlfriend. I was still fully discovering who I was as far as entrepreneurship goes. I didn't 100% understand it at the time, and that's why we didn't work out. I still haven't really forgiven myself for not being a better boyfriend. That was 4 years ago. If I had understood myself better and been able to tell her this I think it would have worked out.
My husband and I are entrepreneurial. My husband first then me later. But I bore with and supported his business and all the crazy moves and long hours, he bore with and supported my businesses. The solitude one is spot on and the not 9 to 5 is very spot on. We ask each other for space to think or work or sleep and we get that. He will never have a 9 to 5 but he is more flexible and abides by calendar schedules I send him.
This helps a lot. I'm dating an entrepreneur who is also a single dad of athletic children. I came into this with an open mind and hope of building together but this is a true struggle. I seem in every 2 weeks and he is terrible about using a phone.
Appreciate all your videos. I needed a very grounded practical view on my journey so far and have gotten just that. I'm also narrowing my focus thanks to you. I didn't even noticed how stretched I was mentally. Thanks alot
Thank you for this video. I just sent it to my girlfriend. Hopefully she'll understand me now. I don't blame her though, until I saw this video, I also thought I had issues. Great to see I've got a family just like me across the globe 😁
Great video Pat! I wish I had had this info years ago, it's great ammo to explain "why" I'm not what she (probably) expected! I kinda always knew I thought differently about things to other people, and I often wondered why my mind was always working, thinking, planning etc; this vid helped clarify it and tell me why! Gracias 👍
wow this is bone chilling spot on! Definitely helped me also understand myself more as an entrepreneur! I'm pretty sure the relationship that I'm in is going to end soon especially when he hears how I will never stop being wired this way because I'm the creating type you described. unfortunately he is the only supporter I have left then it will just be my two kids and I. I'm 32 and this has been the worst year of my life I'm starting to hate who I am. I'm either a bad mom from how much I work so then I'll slip into a depression where I'm stuck in bed and then I'm a vulnerable financial burden I don't know how to win anymore 😩
I dated a successful entrepreneur for several years, but the downside for me was his inability to take a vacation or any time off. He hadn't taken a vacation in almost 10 years. And on top of that, he didn't want me to go on vacation without him. That didn't work for me. I have generous vacation leave from my 9-5, and I love to travel.
Hey Pat, thanks as always for this amazing video! I'm actually living with an entrepreneur and I couldn't wish for better. He is the best I can dream of (yes, even if sometimes it's very challenging). I can feel what you're talking about. All of these weird things are part of my partner, and probably it's why I like him so much. I truly support him and I think we are gonna have a lot of happiness in front of us...:) My only "frustration" is not to grow as he's growing financially wise. I'm not having, as a woman, the same success that he is having and even if I'm very proud of him and I'm really his first fan, I really, really want to be pair with him regarding this. I'd like to watch more videos from your wife and other biz women ;) Thanks again for what you are teaching us.
Since you are with an entrepreneur, why don't you take advantage of it and make him your mentor??? If he grows, you should grow as well to become a power couple building an empire.
Currently I'm dating one and it's the hardest thing ever in my life and the worst part we're in a long distance relationship I'm watching this video because I'm trying learn how to cope / get some clarity about the life he might be living.
Mr Patrick, I’m a 26 year old insurance broker. Been watching you since you had 300k subs. I went from $18k to $125k then brought my wife on as my secretary. Year to date I’m already at $220k. So needless to say I’m a lot busier than I was when she came on. During what I consider to be work day 7:30/8am to 6/6:30pm my wife loves to come into my office and chat or call me and chat. I get very little down time and when I do I want to just sit there and not talk to anyone. Today I tried telling her the little chitchat stuff needs to stop during the work day. She’s normally very supportive and lets me do whatever I think will further the business, so our lives I want but with this I can tell it offends her. Like I don’t want to talk to her or I don’t care. Im a Marine, my father (also a marine) who went and got it in his own field raised me to be very direct while working and get to the point. Work is work, play is play. Idk if I’m approaching this correctly. She goes along with anything I think will help the business, so our lives but with this I seem to be hitting a soft spot. Any advice?
Entrepreneurs are all curious, things fascinate them or even turn them off completely. Their spouse would need to be patient and allow them to be sometimes.
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Just started dating an entrepreneur. Found this super helpful. I do find myself feeling lonely and I need reassurance because I want to be there for him every step of they way while I'm also working hard for my own success. It's just hard sometimes when he's vague about scheduling time with me or doesn't seem concerned about it. I know he cares for me and I also know I also know this is just the pains of the beginnings for him. Your video clarified that for me. Thanks!
Ask him how you can help him with his business while you’re free
In the initial stages how many texts did you get a week or how many dates per week ?
@lucasmason2256 For the first time in my life, I found a video that describes me. I haven't found a real date for over 10 years because of this 😢
You are right on, I have an entrepreneurs mentality. We are very creative and think outside of the box. Many times we get laughed because of an idea we might have, people think it's crazy or won't work. I've had to back off from sharing my thoughts with relatives because they don't understand.
+oceanpearl777 They eventually will, once you win big....
Bang on man,so true
True story: my ex wife couldn't handle me, she wanted me to be 9 to 5 and it didn't work I tried for 12 years. She drowned me. Now I met my perfect soulmate she's just like me!!! I'm very happy, we are working on it 👊🏻
congrats! :)
superpeluso1 its so important to have someone to be supportive because you function even better and are happier. I am happy for you.
superpeluso1 Man I can relate so much!! My ex was same...
thats awesome!
Wow, I am so glad for you. I wish my husband is more out going as I am. We are just an opposite, but I love him for his many good qualities. This man of mine was there at one time, but his ex-wife took it all from him. The Samson got his hair cut, and he is no longer the same.
I honestly didn't think I would watch this video because of the title because I am personally not dating an entrepreneur. I am the entrepreneur in my relationship. The things that I learned about myself in this video is absolutely incredible. It's crazy to see that other people think alike. The fact that I zone out and think about things while my wife is talking to me is just spot on. Patrick, thank you so so much for your videos. Super appreciated!
I mind was blown too, like what, you mean we’re a tribe? 🤯
As much as I understand the entrepreneurial mindset, and I really do because I am not a 9 to 5 person either: Once any event is in the calendar with an alarm and on your daily plan, it is your responsibility as an adult, no reminders. Not everyone else is your assistant, especially not your family and partner. They are your support system, but they don't manage your life and they are not your audience either. And your assistant is not supposed to manage your private life, assistants are there to schedule your business life. They help you with your private life as a bonus, and be very thankful for it if they do. If your business constantly becomes more important than the most important people in your life, you don't need them.
Patrick, your relationship content has blown my perspective wide open. I've struggled with this in relationships, not just intimate, where I know and feel I operate differently. At some point, I started to think my mentality was wrong. I'm just wired differently. I love others for their differences from me and I need to keep searching to be loved and respected for who I am.
I feel you brother. Searching for same.
This is one of the best self-awareness checks I’ve ever had! I think I can articulate my needs and noise in my brain better for watching this. Thanks, Pat. You are one of my favorite teachers!
entrepreneurs are a little all over the place emotionally, they're in it for the long term, time alone is much needed due to high stress, schedule your relationship, they're always thinking and a little in their heads, the business will always be a top priority for them, it will be the business over events especially in the beginning, most talk to other people a lot, they question things, the majority can not understand and entrepreneurial relationship, they have strong opinions, hate laziness, like growing mentally
This is life changing.
I maintain an unhealthy relationship for long. I used to be questioning my entrepreneurial spirit because I didn't know any entrepreneurs.
You confirm my choice to choose the right partner instead of quitting my dreams.
Thanks
Everything he said was absolutely threading the needle. Absolutely true. I have ADHD. I get up in the morning, before I turn the water on for the shower, my mind is already racing with ideas. I get off work, spend hours and hours at home studying. My fiance would tell me she feels like the business is taking over and she has to "compete" for my time. I am doing this partly for her. A few years of pain, a lifetime of pleasure. Had we both seen this video and the followup video for this, we would still be together.
Omg, this is so true, like, literally, every single thing you mentioned..., at least for me.
Many times I questioned myself, is there really something wrong with me ?
I feel better now : ))
And, indeed, a capitalist cannot stand with a socialist. Many women tend to have socialist leanings, unfortunately, and it might be coming from their protective nature, which I can understand up to a point.
The most awkward moment is when you go on a date with a woman and she starts telling you how communism is a great idea, and why we should increase taxes so people will contribute with their fair share.
When I experience these moments, I want to stand up and leave from the restaurant... : ))
Also, I despise, those who change their plans short notice, after I, damn, had to book time for them in my busy schedule with 2 weeks in advance. They don't realise how much of an effort that is. They think we'll just meet a few hours later or the next day..., just like that. only because they're incapable to manage their time or they don't really know what they want from life as they get easily distracted with other things and let you down. Now, I learned to treat dates like business meetings. I force people to commit to a certain time and date.
Peter Istrate on point!
Peter Istrate I am as liberal leftist as it gets. With every intention of becoming a BBBBBillionaire.
Why don't you explain to them why it doesn't work instead of avoiding them as a whole. Saying this because I got into politics in less than a year and I never went full on one side bc I didn't know about either naturally I am more of the Idea of being a democrat but something about the Dems themselves seemed fishy. So I did research and only last week I watched the china video on this channel and later on Friday my brain went on forever and I realized why socialism leads to communism and my views on socialism changed. I already knew communism wasn't good it's fairly obv but also that video showed other ppl see it that way too.
I'm a capitalist all the way. There are still some women out there that gets it.
Never have I ever been in a relationship with an entrepreneur until now and he motivates me to become an entrepreneur as well. We’re working on things and this video is helping a lot for me to realize things
So glad I found you, now I don't feel so strange 😉 you totally described everything about me. Guys just don't get me at all, especially the grind, single minded focus & solitude. I'm the queen of schedules & I fcking hate surprises & time wasting. I sleep irregular hours, guys always tell me I have mood swings & I get accused of flirting/cheating ALL THE TIME.
Hands down this is the best dating advice I've EVER heard. Thanks man, you're a legend
I am owner of 2 business I just don’t have A person that it really helps me but thank God I’m grown every day
Dating an entrepreneur here. We’re both young and this experience has changed me in so many ways but it definitely isn’t easy. Dating an entrepreneur is like a long term investment. He’s so driven and focused i havent met anyone like him. In some ways his characteristics have rubbed off on me and i understand so much of these points and the wording in this video is amazing. Although i must admit it feels very lonely and your friends and family will most likely not understand you. I try my best to support him in all the ways i know how to because i really believe in him and want to see him succeed. I understand in the beginning of their business they are spending a lot of time and energy dedicated to it but it really seems at times that im not even a priority and it makes me feel unwanted. I’m want to make it work but is it worth it if it feels like im the only one trying?… any advice for this?
Entrepreneurs think differently, many times we are working for a bigger cause, a bigger meaning and takes someone who gets that to be with you!
I do enjoy this video. In Jamaica the average woman don't want to build with ambitious guy. They see you as broke all your life but when you are successful. They act like they was with you through the rough ride of startup. Thanks Patrick for the video.
Not only in Jamaica and not only women believe me there are men who do same exact thing ☺️
@@RollaMekidiche in T&T too:)
Interesting. Wish I had known this earlier. My husband is surely an entrepreneur at heart. He was a 9-5er. He just decided to fulfill the entrepreneur dream and I have always been struggling to understand his behavior. Now I know so I'll adjust so he can be the entrepreneur he desires to be and be me! Thanks Pat! Really appreciate this! Really appreciate this video!
You surely described my husband throughout this video. I've got work to do!
I have fed my mind with soo much information from your videos. God created you to do great things. You are changing lives and masses of ppl with your knowledge and developing not just your own children but all around the world by installing entrepreneurship in adults and parents. Thank you for going deep into detail clarifying the actions NEEDED to take to really be true to your legacy. God bless you. You've definitely grabbed my attention and a loyal follower. As a single mom I feel like there's a breathe of fresh air and I can pass this along to my 6 year old son. Keep em coming. 💪👏💪
+Jennifer Bufford will do. Much 💜 to you. Keep being a GREAT MOM.
I've already been married for 7 years but I sent this to my husband anyways. There's still a lot of valuable info that can help a spouse understand more about the behavior of a entrepreneur when they're in start-up mode.
I agree with 99,9% of what you say in your videos, but being an entrepreneur at the beginning, it's about money 10 out of 10, it's about financial freedom then, after you secure yourself and you are comfortable with the business and the money that you make then it's about wanting more, creating, being the best ta ta ta. :)
This is SO SO TRUE! My mind is always churning! I'm a real estate investor and I'm a young guy so when I come across women they want dates but I'd rather be thinking of marketing methods for my business. I don't have a kid but I feel like my business IS my baby. I don't wanna make time for shit else BUT my business, not even make time for me! And they always want me to be available for their 9-5 lifestyle but when they call, text or FaceTime call me I'm ALWAYS with my face in my laptop working. I LOVE being wired this way lol. It's a blessing for me but a curse for everyone else. I rather be alone and happy than force myself to be with someone and not be free to be the entrepreneur I truly am!
I have been dating my current boyfriend for 9 months. Never been with an entrepreneur. He's a real estate broker/investor and flips homes. He is just like you. Me being that I've never dated a man wired like him in the begining I felt extremely neglected bc he is never in the present and seemed off. I also did understand that he's a man on a mission and his passion kept me patient. I just needed to learn that his hiis constant withdrawing and his distance made me want to understand his mind more. So I just started reading a bunch of books and even ran across this video lol. Being in a relationship with a entrepreneur is not for every woman but I am adaptable and he challenges me to be a better woman as well. I've ready learned so much from him that now I respect him more as the time progresses!
It’s tough but the growing a business you started from the ground up is mandatory 🌹
I would have been better off with an Entrepreneur. I am from a 4th generation family of them --even my brother has his own business and I have had several. I married a man who was not that and he could not understand the mindset. I tried and after 15 years we divorced. We had no children thank God for that. It is true that one must understand the mindset and character of a person building their business....it can be very exciting.
I enjoy all of your videos, being 21 and an upcoming entrepreneur I find your material very inspiring. And from reading other books, I found that every intelligent person tends to have the same habits and has similar advices. Now about your video; I've had to push my ex a lot because he was content and lazy.... and it drove me nuts.... and had to explain to him why I am always up and going.... I thought I was abnormal but this shows that I am not .. :)
+Angelina McEwen lol
Patrick's advice is very good, he knows what he's talking about. watch tai Lopez on RUclips, he's another very good motivational/intellectual speaker
Good for you! You are a very smart young lady...
I've never felt described so accurately in my entire life!. Thank god my wife is a wonderful wonderful woman who totally support me. Sometimes we are joking and i tell her "Entrepreneurs we are so crazies but even more insane by far are his wives". God bless entrepreneurs wives or husbuands.
Weird that I'm crying while watching this. I'm a 9 to 5 woman who's currently dating a very busy person that handles several projects simultaneously. And I recognize that face he makes when he gets a message about a bad day in the office while we're out. Thank you for this video. I'm working on understanding him more.
Hi. How did it turn out for you? I'm also dating an entrepreneur for 2 years. I'm trying my best to understand.
Thank you so much for this video!!!! It taught me so much about myself. Now I know why I am the way I am. Growing up I was always labeled as the weird girl and socially awkward. It used to bother me until I got older and realized that I love being different and weird. What's normal anyway and why should I be like everybody else!! I love me!!! This video is one of my favorites!!! I am so grateful for them all!
+Ruby White 💪👍 You got it. Glad it brought you value.
I’m the partner, and I’m an artist! My partner is the Entrepreneur, this video just gave me sooooo much insight on my relationship that I’ve been trying to figure out for years. I think I’m having a better understanding of who my partner really is. And yes it’s hard. And the point you made about considering the source when looking for advice, man that resonates with me so much. I wish I could go into detail, but I’m watching this video for a reason. And I know now how I need to look at things. So thank you
Pat,
I AM YOUR BIGGEST FAN!
GREAT video! I have turned on at least 500 people to your channel!
This video in particular struck a chord. I always thought that I was "weird", and that I was not desirable as a woman, because I was always in a "man's" role, as an entrepreneur. When you are an entrepreneurial woman, it's SSSSOOOO MUCH harder to find that special man, because you have to display so many masculine traits in the business world. This can be very unflattering, and frankly a big turn off to most men. Like 9.9% of all men can't stand women who run their own companies, make a lot of money, and are confident in themselves.
I always ended up with men who were broke, needy, and very feminine.
This is why I was always alone for years and years.
Even when I was with a man, he was always wondering why I was always in the spotlight, and not him. You nailed it right on the head in this video. Bravo!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It wasn't until recently that I found a similar "entrepreneur" but I had to really hide my "masculine" nature around him to get him to marry me!
But he is the right one. Finally. It took 48 years to find him.
What type of advice would you give a woman, who is in a man's world?
I am very curious, what you have to say. I have heard the opinions of others, but since I consider you my new mentor, I am absolutely extremely curious as to what you have to say.
I truly enjoy all your videos! They kick me in the ass every day! I cannot go one day without watching you! Keep them coming!-Your biggest fan, Edie, the Salsa FREAK!!
Thank you. This video meant so much. I was starting to feel like a freak a little bit cuz I let other people’s opinions get in my head. You helped reaffirm that I’m really just an entrepreneur at heart. All of this was so accurate that it was kinda scary. Anyways, thank you so much.
I like when men are that open and honest. Makes life much easier. I only met 3-4 men like that and two are in my family.
This is the best thing I've seen. I'm 27 years old. Been driven by my passion for the past several years... explanation of this to past girlfriends has been non-existent... simply unable to find words to explain my "affliction" of living a passion and making a living from it. I have never had more fire for what I do than I do now. Like many many others, I have questioned my "sanity"... I now see that the "ups, downs, and erratic emotions" are a product of our unique genius for whatever we all are going for. I remember being called bipolar several....hundred...times. I chuckle at it now. I know what I am going for has ultimate sustainability, and its up to me. No one will stop me. Hats of to you, sir, for developing such an "on-point" video describing our unique selves.
Two books I recommend you read:
1. Hypomanic edge
2. First rate madness
I am totally with you on the point that hardworking people disguise lazy people.
I relate on every point..... I love my Weirdness the most♡ #Entrepreneurship
Thank you for this amazing video, it took me an entire day to watch the whole thing because I am an entrepreneur haha!
I just recently had to break up with someone I loved because I knew my business was at risk at this time. I am comforted with knowing that other entrepreneurs can understand the hardships of dating an entrepreneur. Definitely a lesson learned.
Same I’ve listen to this video in many parts while working 😂😂😂
You really hit the nail on the head with this video, I struggled for just over a year trying to help my partner understand my grinders and entrepreneur and business owner. But all they want to do was change me… The relationship is no more, for the better. But after watching this video I couldn't help but smile at so many things that you brought to light.
+Spencer Stephenson 👍🏼👊🏼 Make sure your the next partner watches this video to understand you.
I really enjoyed this video. everything is spot on. I'm a 19 year old CEO. I just took over my dads company and now it's all mine and already it's been crazy trying to handle everything and my boyfriend now watched this video with me and now it seems like he understands what it's like for me a bit more now. So thanks a ton for making this video.
+PercyMcYo McYo Congrats. It's great to have your Father as an example to go to for council but nothing beats you deciding to become absolutely curious and obsessed about becoming a better entrepreneur.
Keep getting better.
Thanks Patrick, your video came to my rescue because I was hurt that my dad was upset coz of the "No" that I said to the stuffs he asked me to do. The reason behind my No is that what he asked me to do was going to pull me out of my focus of my craft & I am a absolute practicer of Focus.
Patrick in past I tried to share the knowledge of the reason of my way of life or my way of thinking by suggesting him some books ('Rich dad Poor dad' & 'Think & grow rich') but he procrastinated to read that because of his addiction to distraction (Tv & other stuffs), patrick I think I did my part to make him understand humbly but he didn't executed on it
Well Thank you patrick for all your knowledge sharing
Deb pramanik I know how you are feeling. My 3 year long relationship is mutually coming to an end because of my lifestyle and goals. Im really at the point where I recognize how important it could be to your success if you just stay single. Then you won’t have to go through bad relationships that’s dying because our understanding is off.
I am not an entrepreneur as yet but well on my way. I am speaking with someone who is and because I understand how much he will be gone, I was a bit worried. But in my opinion its simply being goal oriented..I swear, entrepreneurs have the best regimins are pretty predictable. After seeing this is opened my mind to alot.. and therefore I believe that I can handle it. I think communication plays such a huge part in it. I also saw the video from your wife a while ago and she too gave amazing tips. You are a life saver, thank you very much
You are so special strong, brave, and full of God giving wisdom. She must have been the big diamond to cut the big diamond like you, so that you can be shine force to the world around you. Proud to meet you Pat. Business life are lonely when we are crimping the road to success and seeing our selves on the top of the tallest mountain, and on the way there we all need companion to give us supports while we are trying to get there. "Two are better than one", said the Lord. "For wisdom is a defense, and money is a defense: but the excellence of knowledge is, that wisdom give life to them that have it." Ecc 7: 12. And you are one of them Pat.
This video describes my date perfectly. Strong opinions, spontaneous, curious. And it’s nice that I can resonate with the video a lot myself. Glad that we share the same interests and wired the same way
Thank you for this video. I've been dating an entrepreneur for 4 moths now, and he is wired so differently than what I am used to. This helps me to understand him a bit more from a outside source. I thought I was going crazy, but I just needed to understand his point of view a bit more. Do what you do.
TheCandyoung hi I’m dating an entrepreneur for about a couple months now.. and I have been trying so hard to be understanding. I have had really bad relationships in the past which affected my trust in men but with this one I am trying be fair and not bring my past insecurities and project on him.
He has been very patient with me trying to show me his world of entrepreneurs by explaining to me in details of his everyday life as an entrepreneur.. I appreciate him doing this but at times find myself slipping into depression b’coz this is all new to me but am determined to support him..
I thought I might share this.
This may not be related to "someone interested in dating an Entrepreneur" but still in the category of relationship and dating.
As a single entrepreneur myself, I find it very hard to be actively looking for a relationship with a woman and the reason is because i'm so focus on how to create a business that generate revenue to that point where my business is more interesting than the woman. Usually the woman doesn't create enough interests to steal my attentions...beside their stunning look of course, which is most of the case. I have always thought that it is hard to find a woman that's an entrepreneur themselves because they are too...as well caught up in their own ideas where I wouldn't be interesting enough to grab their attention.
Because of those reasons... my parents or relative will always ask "Do you have a gf yet? Why not? Why aren't you looking? Are you gay?" lol i'm serious, my mom actually thought I was gay because I was always with my business partner testing out new ideas. I am curious if there are people like this too.
Now i'm very interested in woman and I have always want one where we can build a business and live a dream together. But through out my life, they seem to be a rare breed to find. My questions to you and the rest of the readers would be this.
If you are to actively look to get into a relationship with a woman or man who's an entrepreneur, where would you look and how would you grab their attentions? Or would it be just... "go with the flow and you'll find the right one."
Thanks.
+BboyApacheEntertainment I'm sure many people relate to you.
This is me in a nutshell... I love women, but I'm always so caught up in creating that I lose interest in dating.
BboyApacheEntertainment same!
BboyApacheEntertainment Thank you for sharing that, it is really interesting! I'm not an enterpreneur, I will be, well, at least something like it. I'm still researching and clearing up the ideas in my head. Anyways...
I feel like MY problem to find a guy would be non other than me being set on a combo of things I just can't get over, lol, things that in it of themselves aren't a big deal, but I wonder if I'll ever find a combination of ALL in one person. Of course, I might change my mind on some, but... idk.
I want to have this deep relationship with someone, this intimate, inlove, best friend kind of thing, this person beside you you enjoy, enjoy supporting in their passions, their failiours, ect., so even if I get caught up in my work I know I'll notice the people who have the potential to build that with me. At least I think so... I guess I can't know for sure. But since it's a legit desire that I have I think I'm prone to seeing the potential for it even if I'm not actively pursuing it. Which is the case right now.
I love talking to people, I love getting to know them and, as you can conclude from my reply here as well, I like sharing - I don't mind and even like sharing types of things that others seem to find too private to share so quickly. I like discussing all kinds of things, I like talking about relationships whether they'd be romantic, frienships or other types, I like talkig about life's choices, major views, little habits and quircks - I'm just like that, I enjoy that. And that reeeeally makes me feel like I'll somehow naturally find a person I click with, lol.
I can already imagine meeting a random person at a mutual friend's birthday party I almost didn't go to and hitting it off about something we have in common just because I talk so much that I hit the nail on the head with this ONE thing I over-shared, or started talkig about even though it had little to no relation to the coversation going on previously. It's happened, but only in a platonic way so far, haha.
My point here is 1. I wanted to share all this so I did, haha and 2. being very open, up-front and talkative lets you (unexpectedly) bond with people. It has worked for me in terms of friendship, to me that means it could for a future partnership as well. So, that's my tip for you to simply consider - oversharing. Just kidding, I mean being open and talkative and all. :D
I'm no expert though, so please just treat this as food for thought. And last but not least - ask Pat how he met and hit it off with Jen - he's a "crazy" enterpreneur all caught up in it and he found her and has been building a family with her! :)
I apologize if my reply is chaotic, I hope it's understandable and it helps you in some way. Wish you all the best. :)
I'm in the same exact boat you are in, my friend.
How about an entrepreneur dating an entrepreneur ?
Meteors colliding : ))
+Peter Istrate I've seen stranger things but it's more about personality types instead of being an entrepreneur.
+VALUETAINMENT right it's personality if you complete each other in life & business that's great if you can find how to grow from each other that's a great life deal you'll have 2 in 1 👍
Came to the comments to ask the same thing. This is my situation and we are learning these traits everyday. Never a dull moment.
That is interesting ones!
This is the most ORIGINAL topic I've seen this year. And I watched hundreds of business videos. Keep up the good work !!!
Need to show this to my wife!!!! Omg!!! Thank you Patrick!!! Hahaha! Ive been laughing most times while watching this video! I relate myself so much! Hahaha!
Patrick you were on the point man. It is amazing to see someone express that effectively, Most of it was dam related.
I have Never Read any comments before , i was surprised seeing these many stories which were relating on this .
Dude you have developed something great with this.
Oh my gosh Patrick, you stroked a cord with me when you mentioned the time when you were broke and some girls refused to date you! Man, I can relate to this... this is such a rough moment! You feel like shit! All your bright ideas are not making sense to them when you have zero in the account! 😂😂😂 my gosh!
If your partner engages in schedule sabotage, starting arguments as you are preparing for the next day's appointments or before you leave... that is not a partner, that is a liability. Cultivate assets, eliminate liabilities.
I truly love what you do and all of your videos! It's this one thing that I am not convinced and don't agree on. Even if they are wired like this, you can do something about it... making boundaries for yourself. We can tell that they are like this and I know a bunch of entrepreneurs who are like this. Constantly thinking. In fact, I am like this. When something comes to my mind I feel like I want to add it immediately to my career and I am on my phone for a long time. But making that boundary, that when I am with my loved one, I will only only do that for max 20-30 sec, writing down the main idea only, not the entire concept in propositions, is something else. If it happens too many times, you can also make something about it. It is self awareness. Plus the communication with your partner, you have to let her know that sometimes this will happen, but you are working on it, just like you said.
Love your work!
PLEASE do more video's like this! I can't tell you how many times i've listened to it because it helps me keep sane on creative manic days!
Only an entrepreneur can understand this. The other can listen but can't fathom. Pbd you explain this very well.
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This is totally true I mean 100% true I have been going through this with my partner (boyfriend)he is the one who is an entrepreneur and till I watch this video I thought I was loosing it ...it's actually not easy but then I keep encouraging him to work hard at a point it's really not easy cause everyone around you is living the great life with its 5 to 9 partner but then with an entrepreneur it's different you build yourself too when In the relationship
16 year old entrepreneur here, I think this specific video is true yet funny haha. As a teenager I am a lot different than other teenagers and I am proud of it and I like where I am. I laughed so hard at 1:16 keep up the great videos.
+Joe Pizzo as a teenager, the sooner you can be self aware of yourself, the sooner you'll be able to use your talents and enjoy life.
absolutely. I didn't have a mentor in my growing up years. and I REALLY wish I did. my father is a long distance truck driver, has been for many many years. most of my growing up time. But he also had a very Mennonite mindset. that means you just have to work very hard at a job, do overtime when possible, don't invest your money in this and this and that. it really, REALLY sucked growing up. I wanted so much more and all my dreams were crushed by this bs mindset. now, it's very difficult to change. I don't like it, but this is how it is. I'm trying, and it's definitely not easy. But I'm working on it.
My parents are classic lazy ass people. Prefer the News over positive motivation but im into a marketing gig and we lunch our product in january #excited.
Alvin Dueck I get what you mean that the mindset you grew up receiving from your parents has influenced you and it's hard to change. (If I understand you correctly.) I'm going through something similar, which actually I think is mostly my own fault, cause it wasn't so much my parent's mindset, but their situation and how they HAD to deal with it that somehow shaped in me a model of thinking and for some reason I thought that everything that's different than that model is just not for me. With no reason at all, just automatically - I really didn't even realize I was thinking that way!
One proof of that is simply how long I was thinking about finding an already excisting job/profession, a position to be *hired* in when I was thinking about my work future. I was so frustrated! That's one example.
You just described me! I laughed at certain things throughout because u just absolutely nailed it!
finally somebody that understands me and a video that can explain me !!! My mom before she passed always told me I get bored easy lol I knew I was add lol but every point in this video matched me completely. I'm going to require anybody that wants to date me to watch this video first . Thanks so much for this wonderful video
+Diamond Bag Entertainment lol. That's what many are doing with this video.
Number 5 and 14 are just spot on. A lot of the things you have said are on point. Love the video.
This is the best description I've ever heard of why we are how we are! Thank you for this content!
+Dave Daniel You got it.
I just started dating one and seeing the challenges already. Wish me luck! ❤
Man you inspire with every Talk you make after Listening to your Videos almost daily I pushed to work more than Previous Self Thanks
Shared across the board! NAILED IT! Very well articulated and could have not have said it better my self... Think of the entrepreneur who awakens already in a marriage and then working through this with a spouse!
+John Ferguson Choosing the right spouse is the key.
+VALUETAINMENT yes it is! Thank you for your reply
I agree with everything you said. I feel like nobody understands me as entrepreneur in the barber industry. I've talked to this one girl in the life insurance industry and I feel like we connect even though we are in different fields but I understand what she's going through. Hopefully she understands things from my angle except in a different business.
Maybe only entrepreneurs listen to this. And when they present this to the one they are dating isn't an entrepreneur. They dont completely understand or listen.
I thought this was extremely great and on point because it fits perfectly but the 9-5 person can hear it but and understand the complexity of our minds.
Sometimes I wish I had a simple mind because they look so complete with what they have, driving their simple little cars living a simple little life.
But then I realize there's so much more. It's tough
That's why I want to meet your wife! I am sure she is a super strong woman! I wish you would do an interview with her! Special lady, I'm sure!
this was awesome! My wife and I literally just had this discussion and she said she wish she could understand me better. You nailed it with this video. I'm going to send this to her now. I really appreciate your channel and the value you add. Really glad I stumbled upon your channel! thank you!!!!
+Ty Kalandyk 👊🏼 did she end up watching it? What was her reaction?
Valuetainment It's funny how they never answer the question no matter who you ask.
I just came across your FB page last night, and i have literally seen all of your videos, ALL OF THEM! they're super great. i just finished a 5 years relationship with my ex, as you know it can be very hard to stay focused since we lived together and were very used to each other... For some reason watching all of your videos made me feel alive again, and ready to move on to my busy schedule. Thank you so much for the motivation and the support. What you're doing is amazing, and it means a lot to people like me. You got yourself a student that will always look up to you. i hope i get to meet you and do business with you day =) God Bless.
+anell santos You got it. Thanks.
I am definitely a true entrepreneur. When I was five years old I decided I wanted to be an artist when I grew up. I am always on the hunt, my brain is always working and thinking about how I can creatively side hustle and dreaming so so big. My husband tells me I should think smaller, and I’m thinking I should think bigger because that simplifies it more for me LOL
Its like im talking to myself everytime I watch your videos. Amazing amazing amazing
I need to socialize with more like minded people, this gives me so much energy
It's hard to date a businesswoman especially if she had a child or children cause she has to work and take care of the child or children and they don't have free time. A woman I like she cancelled on me twice cause she had something come up at the last minute. Now I just want to be friends with her now, cause now I'm in stock market and own ETFs so I'm looking after my investments, studying books on finances, and the own free time I have is on the weekend and holidays which I don't celebrate anyway. It's hard to be with someone who always busy and working.
This explains soooo much! Forgetting everything, always being late, the constant random conversations, the spot light issue, the family members and friend loving them or hating them. Thank you Thank Thank you!!
+Safiya Hudson 👍🏼👊🏼
As a women entrepreneur when dating, it seems men can't handle my independent/free spirit mindset. They want to try and control me by using jealousy or just undermining my needs.
They want "dominance."
Many times they are just trying to make me feel less than because of their own insecurities. It doesn't matter if they are an employee or if they own a million dollar business!! THEY DON'T FEEL SECURE. So in turn they try to dim my light....BUT little did they know it actually adds fuel to my fire. They actually makes me even stronger! hahaha
I honestly don't know how to find a strong confident man. I don't conform to intimate "relationship" stigma. Its wayyy over thought these days. Its just a best friendship with a dose of sexual tension. He should do his thing and i should be able to do mine respectfully. And at the end of they day come together without the bull shit. Full openness of the good and the bad. Male and females are different..but are meant to compliment one another. They balance each other out. So people need to quit whatever it is they are doing that sets the dynamic off balance.
I guess the relationship my creative mind envisions is not "normal" these days. I'm looking for my male unicorn. So to all the "men" trying to keep me capped for your own shortcomings-step out the way.
I don't stop and wont stop😜
xoxo
IBUT little do they know, it only adds fuel to my fire and i become even stronger! ; )
Thank you for taking the time to make this and other videos! I appreciate you! All 15 points are spot on. Further to your points, one worth mentioning is unflinchingly positive, almost to the point of annoying. Thanks again Patrick!
Ryan
+Ryan Hammar True for most. Sometimes entrepreneurs can be very paranoid.
I like to think of it as aware with a smile:) You may not know, but you've helped me through a lot! Everything from being stagnant to almost giving up. Thanks for that
I am on a break with my boyfriend right now who is an entrepreneur. This explains some of the issues I've had with recent events. But I do have a lot more to learn and we do have a big age difference and we have been long distance for the last 6 months of the relationship. So we had a lot of factors in there. Some things could definitely change though and I hope that we're able to find a way to physically be together soon.
+sigreddasparks16 I understand. It’s not for everyone. By the way, you also may want to watch the video “who to marry & how to marry”.
Valuetainment I will for sure. I was looking at it to watch later. Thanks for the suggestion.
Hey, how are things going? M dating an entrepreneur too and I wonder how I can keep handling the lonliness and busyness
6 years later and your videos still have alot of information... Hats off to Pat💯
A woman leaving an entrepreneur can be so liberating at times. Kinda why a lot of entrepreneurs stay single because its unfair to their partner to spend so much time away from each other because the entrepreneur is building and creating 16 hours a day, sometimes even in his sleep while dreaming, hence why some walk up in the middle of the night with an idea. We naturally have insomnia and when we crash, we pass out for half the day but its worth it. The world is our play ground, its like kids with so much energy, they can play all day, all night. We don't even see weekends as weekends. We see weekends as the slow days of the week and we cant wait for Monday to show up. Weekends are for anyone and everyone else, not for entrepreneurs. You can't turn it off. It is what it is!
One of your best, Pat. Gave me so much encouragement and hope as an Entrepreneur!!
Financial motive must prevail .
When your running your own business .
You seem bipolar to other folks .
Only your keeping several plates spinning , sometimes a plate loses momentum and shatters to pieces .
Then the others stay going .
You have octinal amount of things on your mind at once .
So when you get asked a question and people can’t under stand you or your current mind state .
That’s only for the fact , you can’t always give others your full attention when they expect an answer .
Nothing to do with being bipolar 😂
WOW the best video ever!! everything you said is trueeee
Can you do part 2 please?
Thank you PAT
This has given me so much clarity! Great content!
Thank you for this video.
I am experiencing all of these things since i started my business.
You nailed every event that i am going through, i felt as if you were spying on me. Haha
Awesome Video!
I think something can be added is the constant self development and changes to improve themselves (entrepreneur)
I wish I had been able to communicate all of this about my entrepreneurial self to my ex-girlfriend. I was still fully discovering who I was as far as entrepreneurship goes. I didn't 100% understand it at the time, and that's why we didn't work out. I still haven't really forgiven myself for not being a better boyfriend. That was 4 years ago.
If I had understood myself better and been able to tell her this I think it would have worked out.
My husband and I are entrepreneurial. My husband first then me later. But I bore with and supported his business and all the crazy moves and long hours, he bore with and supported my businesses. The solitude one is spot on and the not 9 to 5 is very spot on. We ask each other for space to think or work or sleep and we get that. He will never have a 9 to 5 but he is more flexible and abides by calendar schedules I send him.
This helps a lot. I'm dating an entrepreneur who is also a single dad of athletic children. I came into this with an open mind and hope of building together but this is a true struggle. I seem in every 2 weeks and he is terrible about using a phone.
How did things go? Are u still with him
Me and my girlfriend watched this I think it brought much needed clarity. Hopefully it helps us understand each other.
+William Crowley II That's exactly the purpose of the video. Thanks for sharing the story.
Appreciate all your videos. I needed a very grounded practical view on my journey so far and have gotten just that. I'm also narrowing my focus thanks to you. I didn't even noticed how stretched I was mentally. Thanks alot
I had to drag my gf around the country to do trade shows, it was fun lol
+A1EX lol
Thank you for this video. I just sent it to my girlfriend. Hopefully she'll understand me now. I don't blame her though, until I saw this video, I also thought I had issues. Great to see I've got a family just like me across the globe 😁
5:30 your product is PEOPLE
7:20 who is entrepreneur. Those who are always going. Always in the hunt. Always attracting.
Great video Pat! I wish I had had this info years ago, it's great ammo to explain "why" I'm not what she (probably) expected! I kinda always knew I thought differently about things to other people, and I often wondered why my mind was always working, thinking, planning etc; this vid helped clarify it and tell me why! Gracias 👍
wow this is bone chilling spot on! Definitely helped me also understand myself more as an entrepreneur! I'm pretty sure the relationship that I'm in is going to end soon especially when he hears how I will never stop being wired this way because I'm the creating type you described. unfortunately he is the only supporter I have left then it will just be my two kids and I. I'm 32 and this has been the worst year of my life I'm starting to hate who I am. I'm either a bad mom from how much I work so then I'll slip into a depression where I'm stuck in bed and then I'm a vulnerable financial burden I don't know how to win anymore 😩
Just try your best ❤️
Don't give up. You were born with a purpose. Even if you can not yet see it.
Please don't ever give up. You don't know whose lives are going to change/be changed/be positively affected by your actions/purpose.
I believe in you and many others do as well. More then you know.
I dated a successful entrepreneur for several years, but the downside for me was his inability to take a vacation or any time off. He hadn't taken a vacation in almost 10 years. And on top of that, he didn't want me to go on vacation without him. That didn't work for me. I have generous vacation leave from my 9-5, and I love to travel.
Oh it's sad to hear it didn't work out
@@samanthamakhafola3014 well, no one was right or wrong. We just had different values.
Almost 4 years now for this video, so relevant. Would love to see this as micro content ❤️
I love your outfit patrick.that man was a childhood hero of mine(Senna).him along with Davey Allison were my heros while I was growing up.
Hey Pat, thanks as always for this amazing video! I'm actually living with an entrepreneur and I couldn't wish for better. He is the best I can dream of (yes, even if sometimes it's very challenging). I can feel what you're talking about. All of these weird things are part of my partner, and probably it's why I like him so much. I truly support him and I think we are gonna have a lot of happiness in front of us...:) My only "frustration" is not to grow as he's growing financially wise. I'm not having, as a woman, the same success that he is having and even if I'm very proud of him and I'm really his first fan, I really, really want to be pair with him regarding this. I'd like to watch more videos from your wife and other biz women ;) Thanks again for what you are teaching us.
Since you are with an entrepreneur, why don't you take advantage of it and make him your mentor??? If he grows, you should grow as well to become a power couple building an empire.
Currently I'm dating one and it's the hardest thing ever in my life and the worst part we're in a long distance relationship I'm watching this video because I'm trying learn how to cope / get some clarity about the life he might be living.
To find yourself helps you define your life... Finding myself feels so good...😃😎
Mr Patrick, I’m a 26 year old insurance broker. Been watching you since you had 300k subs. I went from $18k to $125k then brought my wife on as my secretary. Year to date I’m already at $220k. So needless to say I’m a lot busier than I was when she came on. During what I consider to be work day 7:30/8am to 6/6:30pm my wife loves to come into my office and chat or call me and chat. I get very little down time and when I do I want to just sit there and not talk to anyone. Today I tried telling her the little chitchat stuff needs to stop during the work day. She’s normally very supportive and lets me do whatever I think will further the business, so our lives I want but with this I can tell it offends her. Like I don’t want to talk to her or I don’t care. Im a Marine, my father (also a marine) who went and got it in his own field raised me to be very direct while working and get to the point. Work is work, play is play. Idk if I’m approaching this correctly. She goes along with anything I think will help the business, so our lives but with this I seem to be hitting a soft spot. Any advice?
Entrepreneurs are all curious, things fascinate them or even turn them off completely. Their spouse would need to be patient and allow them to be sometimes.
This is my first comment on your content, I have been following you for several years and you are so good. I really relate and appreciate you