@@eh86055 there are plenty of men who say they want a Christian girl, but aren’t Christian. They simplify being Christian to a traditional woman with family values, respect for their husbands, and (maybe) with less of a sexual past.
I’d prefer a Christian wife because women are already generally more religious than men and research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may explain why and I personally think religious women are more feminine (and the science backs it)
@@aleksey6151 yeah they're still around, you just can't buy 'em anymore thankfully. Generally an indulgence is attached to certain prayers, or going to the sacraments at certain times.
I’m a mother how did this young guy become so wise? He also understands u have to value girls. Everything he says is true:) Sometimes u will just meet someone & connect instantly both of u. It’s called chemistry! 😉
I am happy sometimes that us zoomers have some good eggs among us :) Christ redeems. It requires a lot of “self-raising” later in life than we would have wanted, but it works wonders for the mind, body, and soul. The lockdowns were also grueling times. Made us realize our fragility and made us remember our death.
Coming from a female eastern orthodox christian with divorced parents and a non existent relationship with my father, I believe that what you said about avoiding girls having a bad relationships with their fathers was sad to hear. Not every girl with bad relationships with their father seeks male validation and affirmation, they just want someone that loves them. Please be more considerate in your advice about these things in the future. God bless you, and thank you for still making a great video.
My best friend also has a non-existent relationship with her father, but she doesn’t fit the stereotype in the least. I don’t think so an estranged relationship to the father ought to be taken as a red flag, but everyone should be judged without any preconceived stereotypes, and judgements.
I married a girl that had terrible family baggage, and she's a wonderful wife and motivated me to become a better man and husband. It was VERY complicated and not everyone is emotionally ready for such a compromise, but God has been with us every step of the way. I agree with reformed zoomer on a lot of things, but that was a bad take.
Facts. I have met more girls who are respectable and innocent with absent or mostly absent fathers than those who are not. Especially in the context of relationships generalisations are not something you want to base what you do off of, they can be indicators but when it comes down to it, it is who they are that matters.
I watched this video some months ago. Ever since then I tried to do everything you say: fight off gaming (and other unhealthy) addiction, go out more, focus on other things like my career, I even started a side business while working on my fulltime job. And I dove deeper into the study of religion, I fell in love with the church. Wouldn't you know it, now I'm blessed to have such a kind soul as my girlfriend. Wouldn't have made it without you 😊
The advice about socializing and making friends with the opposite gender is so real for both guys and girls. From my own experience as a girl, I tend to only hang around other girls, and now it feels difficult making friends with guys
I'm a Christian male in a mostly male family, with zero to none contact with the other sex for most of my teens. They were these ethereal, mysterious specimen for me. It wasn't until I actually got female friends in church when I finally went back to church at age 16 when I, years later, was mature enough to meet and marry my current wife. About half of my closest friends are girls, and it's never been weird. I realized that these ethereal beings were just human, like you and me, we can agree and disagree on many things, enjoy the same things together, respect their opinion and hang out, but I only met my SO when I distinguished her from other girls.
I’m a Christian Male who has no friends and no social life, not even an online social life. Yes, I talk to people, but I’ve never had a friend since I was 10 that I was actually sure I could trust.
It's simple: Go outside Touch grass Buy a comically large net Go into a mall (the females natural habitat ) Put high heel, hot cheeto, iPhone 15, and pumpkin spice in middle of hall (that is what all girls are attracted to (obviously)) Wait Profit
Step 1: dig hole slightly too deep for girlfriend to climb out of unassisted Step 2: bait with delicious tacos Step 3: hide behind a tree and make a call like a wounded taco.
As a 16 years old Christian girl, I agree with about 90% of what he said. Only thing is, when complementing a girls looks, HOW you say it is very important and the phrasing used to deliver the meaning. For example: “That’s a beautiful dress you’re wearing Jessica” Vs “Damn girl, you look stunning in that dress” One implies that you’re thinking about how she looks pretty and the other implies that you’re thinking about her body. It’s best to compliment anything from the neck up, but overall, it’s best to avoid complimenting looks if you’re a Christian, because Proverbs 31:30 says that looks aren’t important for a woman. Also, I don’t agree with avoiding girls who have a bad relationship to their fathers. If she checks literally all the other boxes, but she doesn’t have a good father, then that’s not her fault.
To most guys, using your examples the first one implies that the dress is beautiful and the second one that Jessica is. To be fair still could be said better or not at all.
@@DakotaJones-nn2oi That's your perspective as a man. As a woman, I'm more likely to be touched by the comment about the dress and I'm more likely to put efforts into looking like this again. If the goal is to find a girlfriend or a wife, talk to us in ways we respond to.
The point of dating after friendship I COMPLETELY agree with. Literally why I hate the concept of hookup culture and that sort of thing not to mention that it makes one rush into relationships that they don't know if will work or not and if it doesn't one just becomes more heartbroken over time due to not finding the right person.
Yes definitely. Priests are not monks, their entire raison d'être is to connect the holy and the secular world. I really hope you can someday use this to guide people to find meaningful relationships.
@@Sartricis Where is it dead? Arte released an entire documentary on the topic recently and it turns out things were a lot worse than we thought. We shouldn't look for reasons to put any denomination down but we shouldn't keep quiet on evil either. People would be a lot more vocal if a close one or themselves were one of the victims.
please make one for girls! or at least, give us tips! i have a lot of conservative ideas and i’d like to convert to some kind of christianity, and i think it’s hard to meet guys with the same values. i’m definitely gonna try to go to church so i can meet new friends!! edit: yes!! be best friends with girls! we really just want someone to listen to and hang out with, at least for me!
Umm religious men aren’t particularly “masculine”, research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more which may explain why women are generally more religious than men. If your a woman and pursuing religion than great: I know I personally would prefer a religious partner over a secular especially since atheistic women are an abomination biologically speaking like if you a woman and your not religious or don’t believe in the supernatural you might as well be a dyke I’m sorry 😅
@@redeemedzoomer6053seeing how they behave with kids is such great advice! If they're kind, gentle, and patient with children, it shows you so much about their character
I agree with the idea of having a friendship before dating, but not best friends. Personally, I don’t think you should ever be best friends with a girl that you aren’t already dating, just inviting a lot of tough emotional situations onto yourself. I think, based on my experience it is very plausible to not know a person very well, but perhaps know some people that know them, etc. and start a very good relationship.
@@nick-wy7fg Friends, perhaps, but brothers in Christ are essential along the way. Let us remember that not everyone is called to marriage, but all are called to fellowship in the body. Scripture has many beautiful examples of how the strong same sex friendships benefit us. Consider David and Jonathan, or Paul and Barnabus. I don’t think we should focus too much of our attention on finding a girlfriend/wife. We should seek first God’s kingdom and then if the Lord has someone to work alongside you for his kingdom, fantastic.
Praying God brings me a wife one day. I know I'm not ready yet. Gonna move out of my home for the past 3 years. Gonna need to look for a new job. Get a car. I'm gonna be 25, and it's like I'll have to start all over again. I know it won't be easy, but I pray it'll go smoothly. I've never had a girlfriend before. Virgin. No first kiss. Never felt a woman's touch. It's like I want something, but I don't even know what it is. But whatever happens... I know I can trust God.
I have recently endend a bad well made marriage, she left me and run away. Being single as a recent converted Christian its like very chagelling and difficult, its important not being hurried about it, some of your advices are very good.
im 21 and have never had a gf. I know it's because im ugly and boring and have a poor "personality". im not addicted to video games or porn, I go to church regularly and work, etc.I know the problem lies with me. all I can do and what I do at this point is pray that God have mercy on me and forgive me for asking something so selfish like getting a gf
@Adrastus, I’ll bet you’re not as ugly as you think you are and you’re only 21. Try taking Ballroom dance lessons. It can really help you have more confidence and you meet new people. The ballroom dances are very elegant dances not raunchy. Whatever awkwardness you have will go away. And of course the advice you’re getting right now on this RUclips is good advice.
I’m a mother here is what I heard u saying: I’m ugly I’m boring Poor personality The problem lies in me All I can do is pray Forgive me Selfish My fault I don’t have a girlfriend. Here is what I would tell u if u were my son? First u are none of those things your a joy & God loves u. My advice: Each day find one good thing u have or do & believe it. Something positive Tell your self your worth it that u matter. That no one is better then u & no one is lower then u we are all the same. Empower yourself. Start talking to girls with a complement because girls look to kindness above anything else. Never give up young man your a treasure😘
My advice would be to focus on things you can change. Start working out, grow a beard if you can. Finding a hobby that involves other people might help you with your personality. And dont forget to pray about it as well.
I've legit been binge watching your vids all day. And I'm gonna watch this one even though I'm a girl and I'm straight so I know what are good traits to have in a relationship.
this presby kid who is just around my age playing minecraft and talking abt christianity has just become my favorite youtuber, me, a colombian charismatic girl kfkdkskd
In my case, both me and my gf were secular atheists with left-wing tendencies (although she was more than me), but not the blue-haired twitter user weed smoker type. She was more like a heterosexual feminist and i was a libertarian (the "people can do whatever they want" kind) She always liked to read, so i tried to develop this habit too. Eventually I stumbled up Philosophy, but not the good one: it was Nietzsche. Then, for some miracle, I realized that to correct way to study Philosophy is to start from the start and not from some dubious author only popular among nihilists teenagers. So I started to read Plato, Aristotle etc and discovered Objective Truth, and then it was a matter of time for me to turn into a conservative and adhere to Christianity. As you may expect, this caused a lot of troubles between me and her. I was with her way before my values changed, and we liked each other very much, so I really didn't want to break up. Well, this almost happened a couple of times. But as we went through the fights and conflicts together and I started to take more care of my self (I was really sedentary and lazy), she naturally started to admire me and involuntary stick to my values. Now she views me as a symbol of intelligence and reason; she admires that I can rationally defend my opinions (as i like philosophy) and she despises woke culture. It seems that all it needed is for her to have a man of good values by her side. Today, although she is not religious as me, she went from a convinced atheist for someone who believes in God, although being completely uneducated on Theology. I am sad that she still is slightly feminist on some topics (like female pastors), but she is far from the kind who despises being a wife and being a mom. And, the most important of all, she absolutely loves me and wants to stay with me for the rest and for her life and have kids with me (although I have autism so I prefer to adopt than have biological children), and I feel the same for her. She is the person who supports me the most, cherishes for me the most, and makes me the happiest, while I was a good example on her life (as she was for me too, as she did incentive me to stop being lazy and sedentary). This is was I think that God has a purpose for us: if it was a not for this, the relationship would be doomed, as there were so many red flags.
I had a girlfriend for four years, last friday we broke up. I find it hard at times, but on other times I am completely neutral because we were so different. The grandest difference were our views on the world and lifestyles. She was clearly not Christian, which I have been on and off, but now I AM Christian. I was told for a long time that our love wouldn't stand a chance, which it ultimately didn't. Now as a single for one week, life feels free. I can bond with God, I read frequently in the Bible and I pray almost every night. The best part is that I don't need to feel shame for it. I am not going to seek a girlfriend as of right now, but my future girlfriend shall be a woman of God!
That is part of the process! You tried, and that is what matters most (plus you've gained experience). God will give you her when the moment is right. Keep on improving yourself and your relationship with God! ;)
as a girl, I think you were mostly on point but I will say I think the idea of girls wanting support rather then adventure isn’t always true. There are many girls, myself included, who love to put ourselves out there and make our own lives. The opposite can be true with men, it’s best to not assume
Additional note on taking no for an answer. If you don’t and continue to pursue them when the girl says they are not interested not only do you get labeled the creepy guy by her. You also get labeled that by all of her friends, even the ones who might have thought you were cute prior to you trying to get with their friend. Also is that a public server? Looks fun.
Your timing is kind of insane that you uploaded this literally the day after my gf broke up with me. I'll watch it, and many thanks, I already know it will be a great video as always
@valen0276 Sorry to hear it. More than anything else, understand that however difficult it may be the feeling. Will make you a much stronger person as long as you survive it. Time helps, but realize that this is the actual stuff in life that defines who we are. What we can be. I wish you luck.
May God help you and give you strenght. I was engaged and when all fell apart It almost destroyed me. But that made me come closer to Christ and become a better christian. In the end, our Lord and Saviour is the greatest treasure and delight that the human heart could ever find
Say that again for those in the back: BE A GOOD LISTENER. All the girls that have expressed interest in me have cited my conversation skills as a major factor
The #1 way is to just go to church, be faithful, set goals and work toward them, and participate in ministries. I met my wife by playing on the worship team. My sister met her husband doing VBS. My best friend met his wife doing prayer meetings. Just be active in your faith and God will place someone with you.
I enjoy video games but as a girl I have learned the hard way to not play online LOL and even a lot of the guys I have tried to meet and socialize with over video games and stuff treat me differently I feel, almost excluding me or being super competitive- I just play for fun so hard to find people with similar interests
I never had internet growing up, so I couldn't play the online multi-player games, and from what I've seen, I'm glad I didn't. They're so competitive it stops being fun, and the language gets really coarse.
My best friend is a girl, and we play almost daily. And we get constantly harassed by guys, and sometimes it becomes unbearable. I always thought, the statistics on female harassment in gaming were over-stated, but after meeting her I feel they are grossly under-stated.
Very timely. I am an Orthodox Christian Teenager, and I recently had my first love. If I can even get her, I really hope she is Christian at least, but I probably won’t be able to even get her, so I must pray for her. Also, I would rather find a girl at my Church who is already Orthodox Christian, but unfortunately there are literally NO teenage girls my age in my Church, so I fell in love with a girl at school, I love her so much.
Hello friend. If you are american, and not slavic, greek, or romanian, you have 0 zero reason to be orthodox. It's time for you to turn off the internet, drop the larp, and read the KJV bible. There are no orthodox zoomer christian girls in America, and if there were they're taken. Stop caring about being "trad". Take the greek paintings off your wall. It's time for you to go to a real baptist church - Walterus.
Another tip, ask her out in person probably not over text. Sometimes you've gotta be upfront about things and it'll do you no good to hide behind your phone.
Redeemed Zoomer: 'If you're Christian you need to date a girl who's Christian. If you're Atheist you need to date a girl who's Atheist.' Me: If you're white you need to- (my lawyer advised me not to finish this statement)
Ummm but atheist women are too masculine and toxic, according to studies when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may also explain why women are generally more religious than men. I’m a skeptical and rational minded person and I’d prefer a religious partner (and a Christian one so she doesn’t waste my money on stupid, useless, snake oil shit like crystals and psychics) over a secular one especially since according to the Bible wives are suppose to submit to their husbands so a devoted wife is much better even though sometimes a woman’s zeal and piety can piss you off like women’s poor taste in music (I don’t like three minute pop songs, okay 😅? I’m a Haken and Thank You Scientist guy)
Everyone God will give u a Girlfriend. I was blessed 44 yrs before my husband past last yr. True story as my husband was to be buried in the coffin my 7 yr. old grandson handed me a pair of grandpa’s sunglasses saying, give grandpa these. Me, won’t the coffin be dark? Then he goes no its for him when he gets to heaven:)
you don't get to bring the items in your coffin with you when you go to the after life. your son sounds less like a christian and more like a worshipper of the old gods of egypt. get your house in order
I finally asked her out bros… I’m going out on a date feeding birds with her 2 days from now. I met her through a mutual friend a few months and finally worked up enough courage to ask her after getting to know her. Just shut off your doubts for a few seconds and ask her out, no matter what she says it’s like the greatest weight being pulled off your chest.
@@redeemedzoomer6053It played some part for sure, your bit about the importance of being able to be friends with them beforehand stuck with me. Glad I found your channel a while back.
Only ONE part of the video I disagree on (sort of): Becoming her best friend first before dating. If you’re as deeply called to marriage as I have been, you’ll take anyone who presents no red flags, shows a DEEP respect for faith, for herself, and for the institution of marriage, and you fall in love with her as you date. This is extremely rare of course, and this is definitely the Catholicness of our relationship on full display, but this is proving itself to me in real time.
I never would have expected to run into you here lol, this is hilarious 🤣 I would agree with zoomer tho, I think the "one flesh" and "naked and not ashamed" refer to physical, emotional, and spiritual things, and getting to know someone in those ways outside of a romantic relationship is really important, I think you should at least be friends, but thats my two cents :)
As a female Christian, I don't agree with your point about avoiding girls that have bad relationships with their fathers. Yes, it can be a bad thing, but each case is different. I had to cut contact with my dad at 13 because of the absolutely awful things he was doing, and I don't want a boyfriend just for male affirmation. I just want a godly and loving husband like everyone else. It makes me sad that good men might see it as a red flag that I don't speak to my father, through no fault of my own. I know that was a lot but other than this I think this was a great video with really solid advice. I just didn't agree with that one point you made.
I came across your videos in the latter half of my final semester of college. Now that I'm back home, I'm going to the 1st Presbyterian Church in Colorado Springs tomorrow! I want to participate in the Reconquista as well as improve my character by seriously going to church and getting a social life. I thank God for pushing your videos to my attention in his perfect timing!
I’m a member of a RPCNA church and married to an originally Non-Denom wife. I was mostly here for the part where RZ talks about dating someone who is Christian but a different denomination 😂
I would also add that a man should be straightforward in a relationship. Don’t ask a woman if she wants to “hang out,” instead tell her plainly you want to go on a date.
You're off on the Gen Z haircut embodying not caring about anything, it's worse. It's the concept of "the only thing I care about is putting forth the image that I don't care about anything" That's all I can gather from a conscious choice to pay someone to style your hair in a way that is harder to maintain and still looks like something a family of rats would call home.
My advice: 1. Don't try to "get a girlfriend/boyfriend", rather put yourself in situations where you're likely to meet someone you might like. 2. Don't overgeneralize. For example, one person might have a difficult relationship with their father but that experience actually matures them. 3. Share values 4. Have complimentary personalities. When you're low, they help. When you're happy, they make you more happy. It should be mutual too. 5. Take things slow. There's no rush. If it's meant to be, things will happen without too much effort. 6. Recognize that neither of you are perfect no matter how good of a match you are. Be prepared to communicate and trust. 7. Choose to love. 8. Be with someone you respect and admire and who feels the same towards you! 9. Find someone that YOU want to be with, not someone you think others would like. 10. Don't let shame or fear keep you from being attached to someone you love and who loves you.
For any nerdier/geekier guys that want to get in shape and want to have an active/more interesting hobby I can't shout this louder: GO ROCK CLIMBING Find your local bouldering gym and just go with your friends and have fun, then make a habit out of it. It's an incredibly rewarding activity, and ends up as a full body workout but doesn't feel like it. It's also great for dates. Bouldering genuinely changed my life, made me so much more confident, and in better shape. I've met a ton of friends there and even met my first gf there
I am very attractive, and entering senior year of highschool. Ive talked to maybe 10-15 girls, and dated 2. Pay attention to the girls out there, most of them aren't good. You have to actually look.
You mean personality wise? Because according to a poll I think men view 80% of women as physically attractive whereas women viewed only 20% of men physically attractive which makes a lot of sense when you look outside. Also women generally tend to be more religious than men and studies show that when old men were given testosterone they LESS religious, not more, which may explain why. That’s why I prefer a religious partner over a non-religious one: biologically and scientifically speaking there more feminine
18 years, kissless male, Presbyterian and Brazilian. I agree with everything you've said and 90% of what I've listened I actually (and consequently happily) have already listened to. God bless you buddy.
Honestly I still have never found a single man that has a sense of purpose to his life, and that is what I'm holding out for. I can't support him to fulfill his goals if he doesn't have any vision for his future. At the same time I'm also on a quest to find my own purpose in life. I don't think it's right when people make their family their reason for living but they don't even have one yet.
You know a RUclipsr is entertaining when you watch his “how to get a good gf” video even when you’re a) a girl and b) in a committed Christian relationship
This I feel was a great video for the most part, I just heavily disagree with one bit in particular at 21:37. I don't think that a girl having a bad relationship with her father is a 'red flag', there is a whole meme about that on the internet but it shouldn't take it seriously. I say this because I didn't have particularly good relationships with my parents either in my younger years especially, it's stabilized quite a lot since then but it still had a large impact on my childhood. When you grow in that environment you're more likely to seek emotional support and that ok IMO. A woman being extremely clingy and needing male validation isn't correlated due to her upbringing, it's more just rooted in narcissism. The real problem is that if she surrounds herself with bad people and there is no one to look out for her, but if she meets someone who has her best interest at heart, I feel that a healthy relationship will certainly work, and at least I feel that is better for the girl in the long run. Other than that I feel the video does have some oversimplifications but to be fair, you really can't give relationship advice like this without making some generalised statements, but it is something everyone should be mindful of.
Before I state my disagreements, I want to say that I really love this channel, and have learned a lot from it! Thank you for putting so much work into this channel! While it may be true that guys have played more video games in the past, I think that trend is changing. Women are playing video games more than they used to. I definitely want to end up with someone who can share my love for video games. Also, I'd argue that EQ is more nurture vs nature. Men and women might express EQ differently, but they share the same capacity. I'd take a lot of this with a grain of salt. A lot of the points in this video generalize very complicated things.
mmmm really good advice. There is a girl that I have wanted to marry for 12 years now, but she recently got engaged. I haven't been able to cope with that fact tho, and part of me still hopes that things will go my way at some point. But as you said, just movie on
Yikes this sounds like me, the girl I liked for 12 years got married last year, she invited me for her wedding, I've moved on as well it was tough tho, but we move
About the good listening thing, dig deeper. It’s the best thing I learned in middle school in the worst way possible. Our relationship was ruined because I didn’t get it. Don’t try to fix the problem on the surface. Dig for the deeper issue and get her to see the underlying problem. Promise you, it’ll work great!
20:12 Thanks to this video, there are now 4 different descriptions of “20 Highlighter Girl” in Urban Dictionary and they all came out within a day of this video being published
I WAS JUST THINKING THAT. That is so absurdly necessary. Of course, you just don't ask it straight away, but it is important to bring that subject up when necessary (like before starting the relationship itself); I don't think it is a good idea to be with someone who couldn't even preserve themselves in the first place.
What's a girlfriend?? I wish Redeemed Zoomer used less complicated Calvinist terms
beats me bro
Dude just read the bible man. You would understand these theological words if you were smarter.
God predetermined them to only some men
Lmfao
Girlfriend = "a help meet for a man"
“I’ve seen guys that look like Chernobyl victims and still managed to get pretty girls.”
-Redeemed Zoomer, 2023
thing is Chernobyl victim bf hardly ever gets anything better than a hiroshima survior gf. or a moby dick gf.
@@velDANTe lol
what a savage but hilarious statement
based
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Well duh. Ugly people usually date other ugly people. How else would it be done?
The "wants a Christian gorgeous wife, but isn't even a Christian Man" one hit like a mule. Great point, mr. Zoomer
I felt personally attacked by it, but the logic is irrefutable.
Does that really happen? I feel like religious affiliation is, like, a irreconcilable difference. There's no way you could get along long-term.
I'm going to devote 15 minutes to my life to sit through this tripe of a video to find out if he said this
12 minutes. Can't do it.
@@eh86055 there are plenty of men who say they want a Christian girl, but aren’t Christian. They simplify being Christian to a traditional woman with family values, respect for their husbands, and (maybe) with less of a sexual past.
Guys, just because she’s Christian too doesn’t mean she’s destined for you.
As I’ve said many times, It’s true because it rhymes
nope i refuse to believe it
I’d prefer a Christian wife because women are already generally more religious than men and research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may explain why and I personally think religious women are more feminine (and the science backs it)
Most “Christian” women are not really Christian, they go dance away the night on Saturdays and then go to Church the following Sunday.
As a heretic, I believe no one is destined for me. 🙃
As a Catholic, I think the Catholics on this server really need to step up their building game and get some classic cathedrals going, also W video
We are trying, we just have most of our efforts directed in a different town. Also the plots are very small and hard to work with.
well that town isn't protected, so y'alls guys should just stick to manplatten
Reinstate indulgences
@@aleksey6151 What do you mean reinstate, they never went away.
@@aleksey6151 yeah they're still around, you just can't buy 'em anymore thankfully. Generally an indulgence is attached to certain prayers, or going to the sacraments at certain times.
This is slowly turning in one of the most based channels on all of RUclips.
Turning into? As if it wasn’t already from the start
he needs to talk to JLP a lot more though. He has good points, but major fundamental problems
@@streetchronicles5693 Jesse Lee Peterson is the 🐐
hello fellow linux user
Once he sees that the earth is flat then we’ll be all set
I’m a mother how did this young guy become so wise? He also understands u have to value girls.
Everything he says is true:)
Sometimes u will just meet someone & connect instantly both of u. It’s called chemistry! 😉
I am happy sometimes that us zoomers have some good eggs among us :)
Christ redeems. It requires a lot of “self-raising” later in life than we would have wanted, but it works wonders for the mind, body, and soul.
The lockdowns were also grueling times. Made us realize our fragility and made us remember our death.
@@dylangtech 📮
I'm getting baptised tommorow friends, God bless you all ❤🕊️
I'm getting baptized today as well. May the Lord bless you and keep you always
Congratulations, and welcome home!
Congratulations, my brother in Christ
Praise the name of the LORD!
Hallelujah
"those that pray together, stay together" bars 💯
Speaking from experience, not always 😢😅
You are realllllly funny bro. “Guys that look like Chernobyl victims” said so nonchalantly is hilarious.
Also "my face looked like a crime scene"
Coming from a female eastern orthodox christian with divorced parents and a non existent relationship with my father, I believe that what you said about avoiding girls having a bad relationships with their fathers was sad to hear. Not every girl with bad relationships with their father seeks male validation and affirmation, they just want someone that loves them. Please be more considerate in your advice about these things in the future.
God bless you, and thank you for still making a great video.
My best friend also has a non-existent relationship with her father, but she doesn’t fit the stereotype in the least. I don’t think so an estranged relationship to the father ought to be taken as a red flag, but everyone should be judged without any preconceived stereotypes, and judgements.
woah are you me? why are we so alike.
God bless, a fellow orthodox sister.
Just be normal
Also hope that you get someone good and that you overcome your problems
- Walterus
I married a girl that had terrible family baggage, and she's a wonderful wife and motivated me to become a better man and husband. It was VERY complicated and not everyone is emotionally ready for such a compromise, but God has been with us every step of the way.
I agree with reformed zoomer on a lot of things, but that was a bad take.
Facts. I have met more girls who are respectable and innocent with absent or mostly absent fathers than those who are not. Especially in the context of relationships generalisations are not something you want to base what you do off of, they can be indicators but when it comes down to it, it is who they are that matters.
I watched this video some months ago. Ever since then I tried to do everything you say: fight off gaming (and other unhealthy) addiction, go out more, focus on other things like my career, I even started a side business while working on my fulltime job. And I dove deeper into the study of religion, I fell in love with the church.
Wouldn't you know it, now I'm blessed to have such a kind soul as my girlfriend. Wouldn't have made it without you 😊
That makes me so happy! Mind if I share this on my Instagram story?
@@redeemedzoomer6053 not at all. Go for it!
🤯
"Boys that look like Chernobyl victims", "my face looked like a crime scene"
🤣🤣🤣🤣
- Redeemed Zoomer 2023
That chernobyl joke caught me so off gaurd lol
Yeah Ukrainian men aren’t the best looking 😂
@@evanevanf4033 yo that one there was a violation personally I wouldn't have it
@@DCUEmp_prinzy my mom is Ukrainian (by the way the ugly guy in the profile picture is not me, that’s my dad, and my name’s not Evan either)
Based
"The vast majority of guys have the emotional intelligence of a toaster" - Redeemed Zoomer 2023
The advice about socializing and making friends with the opposite gender is so real for both guys and girls. From my own experience as a girl, I tend to only hang around other girls, and now it feels difficult making friends with guys
I'm a Christian male in a mostly male family, with zero to none contact with the other sex for most of my teens. They were these ethereal, mysterious specimen for me.
It wasn't until I actually got female friends in church when I finally went back to church at age 16 when I, years later, was mature enough to meet and marry my current wife.
About half of my closest friends are girls, and it's never been weird. I realized that these ethereal beings were just human, like you and me, we can agree and disagree on many things, enjoy the same things together, respect their opinion and hang out, but I only met my SO when I distinguished her from other girls.
@@Dairunt1 Well said Froakie
I can relate too. I grew up talking to a lot of boys, and I'm pretty uncomfortable near girls (I'm working on having female friends)
I’m a Christian Male who has no friends and no social life, not even an online social life. Yes, I talk to people, but I’ve never had a friend since I was 10 that I was actually sure I could trust.
It's simple:
Go outside
Touch grass
Buy a comically large net
Go into a mall (the females natural habitat )
Put high heel, hot cheeto, iPhone 15, and pumpkin spice in middle of hall (that is what all girls are attracted to (obviously))
Wait
Profit
*The Benjamites will remember this*
Step 1: dig hole slightly too deep for girlfriend to climb out of unassisted
Step 2: bait with delicious tacos
Step 3: hide behind a tree and make a call like a wounded taco.
I love how much the kingdom craft chat is buttering you up.
bro bout to drop 5 point girlfriendism
As a 16 years old Christian girl, I agree with about 90% of what he said. Only thing is, when complementing a girls looks, HOW you say it is very important and the phrasing used to deliver the meaning. For example:
“That’s a beautiful dress you’re wearing Jessica”
Vs
“Damn girl, you look stunning in that dress”
One implies that you’re thinking about how she looks pretty and the other implies that you’re thinking about her body. It’s best to compliment anything from the neck up, but overall, it’s best to avoid complimenting looks if you’re a Christian, because Proverbs 31:30 says that looks aren’t important for a woman.
Also, I don’t agree with avoiding girls who have a bad relationship to their fathers. If she checks literally all the other boxes, but she doesn’t have a good father, then that’s not her fault.
Women who check the boxes but have bad fathers are the exception and not the general rule.
To most guys, using your examples the first one implies that the dress is beautiful and the second one that Jessica is.
To be fair still could be said better or not at all.
Speaking as a man, both of those statements mean exactly the same thing. "I like that dress" is just a manipulative, roundabout way to say it.
@@DakotaJones-nn2oi That's your perspective as a man. As a woman, I'm more likely to be touched by the comment about the dress and I'm more likely to put efforts into looking like this again. If the goal is to find a girlfriend or a wife, talk to us in ways we respond to.
The point of dating after friendship I COMPLETELY agree with. Literally why I hate the concept of hookup culture and that sort of thing not to mention that it makes one rush into relationships that they don't know if will work or not and if it doesn't one just becomes more heartbroken over time due to not finding the right person.
I’ll be a Catholic priest some day, but this video’s definitely worth my time
Yes definitely. Priests are not monks, their entire raison d'être is to connect the holy and the secular world.
I really hope you can someday use this to guide people to find meaningful relationships.
@HyperGravityWave dead meme.
@@hypergravitywave7069 who laughed?
@HyperGravityWave This is *active* discrimination.
@@Sartricis Where is it dead? Arte released an entire documentary on the topic recently and it turns out things were a lot worse than we thought. We shouldn't look for reasons to put any denomination down but we shouldn't keep quiet on evil either. People would be a lot more vocal if a close one or themselves were one of the victims.
OK just uninstalled League of Legends, lets see if this works.
Trying to convince my friends to do the same. That game is evil
Take a shower too and don't replace that game with some other vice.
@@gazenmedia my friend got into that game. Very sad, havent seen him in months.
He needs to read the KJV and be a normal person again
- Walterus
Play Rocket League
Thanks for the kind words on my Brick Congregationalist Church. It took forever gathering all the clay.
please make one for girls! or at least, give us tips! i have a lot of conservative ideas and i’d like to convert to some kind of christianity, and i think it’s hard to meet guys with the same values. i’m definitely gonna try to go to church so i can meet new friends!! edit: yes!! be best friends with girls! we really just want someone to listen to and hang out with, at least for me!
Want a good man, find him at church! ONLY choose a man who goes to church every week.
P.S. See how he is with kids
I'm trying to go to church so I can socialize too!
Umm religious men aren’t particularly “masculine”, research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more which may explain why women are generally more religious than men. If your a woman and pursuing religion than great: I know I personally would prefer a religious partner over a secular especially since atheistic women are an abomination biologically speaking like if you a woman and your not religious or don’t believe in the supernatural you might as well be a dyke I’m sorry 😅
@@redeemedzoomer6053seeing how they behave with kids is such great advice! If they're kind, gentle, and patient with children, it shows you so much about their character
@@redeemedzoomer6053thank you 🙏
I agree with the idea of having a friendship before dating, but not best friends. Personally, I don’t think you should ever be best friends with a girl that you aren’t already dating, just inviting a lot of tough emotional situations onto yourself.
I think, based on my experience it is very plausible to not know a person very well, but perhaps know some people that know them, etc. and start a very good relationship.
I concur. If you’re a man your best friend should be male. Women are great, but they can’t take the place of a brother when you’re in a rough spot.
@@buckarooben7635 your best friend should be your future wife, she is the one you will spend your life with, meanwhile friendships can come and go.
@@nick-wy7fg Friends, perhaps, but brothers in Christ are essential along the way. Let us remember that not everyone is called to marriage, but all are called to fellowship in the body. Scripture has many beautiful examples of how the strong same sex friendships benefit us. Consider David and Jonathan, or Paul and Barnabus.
I don’t think we should focus too much of our attention on finding a girlfriend/wife. We should seek first God’s kingdom and then if the Lord has someone to work alongside you for his kingdom, fantastic.
i agree. best friend makes it really akward.
Praying God brings me a wife one day. I know I'm not ready yet. Gonna move out of my home for the past 3 years. Gonna need to look for a new job. Get a car. I'm gonna be 25, and it's like I'll have to start all over again. I know it won't be easy, but I pray it'll go smoothly. I've never had a girlfriend before. Virgin. No first kiss. Never felt a woman's touch. It's like I want something, but I don't even know what it is. But whatever happens... I know I can trust God.
May you be blessed, that is a great attitude.
Let's go.
I have recently endend a bad well made marriage, she left me and run away. Being single as a recent converted Christian its like very chagelling and difficult, its important not being hurried about it, some of your advices are very good.
im 21 and have never had a gf. I know it's because im ugly and boring and have a poor "personality". im not addicted to video games or porn, I go to church regularly and work, etc.I know the problem lies with me. all I can do and what I do at this point is pray that God have mercy on me and forgive me for asking something so selfish like getting a gf
@Adrastus,
I’ll bet you’re not as ugly as you think you are and you’re only 21. Try taking Ballroom dance lessons. It can really help you have more confidence and you meet new people. The ballroom dances are very elegant dances not raunchy. Whatever awkwardness you have will go away.
And of course the advice you’re getting right now on this RUclips is good advice.
I’m a mother here is what I heard u saying:
I’m ugly
I’m boring
Poor personality
The problem lies in me
All I can do is pray
Forgive me
Selfish
My fault I don’t have a girlfriend.
Here is what I would tell u if u were my son?
First u are none of those things your a joy & God loves u.
My advice:
Each day find one good thing u have or do & believe it. Something positive
Tell your self your worth it that u matter. That no one is better then u & no one is lower then u we are all the same.
Empower yourself.
Start talking to girls with a complement because girls look to kindness above anything else.
Never give up young man your a treasure😘
At first I was like wow 21, that's old. Then I remembered I'm about to be 25.
My advice would be to focus on things you can change. Start working out, grow a beard if you can. Finding a hobby that involves other people might help you with your personality. And dont forget to pray about it as well.
first of all, drop the freakin anime avatar.
I've legit been binge watching your vids all day. And I'm gonna watch this one even though I'm a girl and I'm straight so I know what are good traits to have in a relationship.
this presby kid who is just around my age playing minecraft and talking abt christianity has just become my favorite youtuber, me, a colombian charismatic girl kfkdkskd
In my case, both me and my gf were secular atheists with left-wing tendencies (although she was more than me), but not the blue-haired twitter user weed smoker type. She was more like a heterosexual feminist and i was a libertarian (the "people can do whatever they want" kind)
She always liked to read, so i tried to develop this habit too. Eventually I stumbled up Philosophy, but not the good one: it was Nietzsche. Then, for some miracle, I realized that to correct way to study Philosophy is to start from the start and not from some dubious author only popular among nihilists teenagers. So I started to read Plato, Aristotle etc and discovered Objective Truth, and then it was a matter of time for me to turn into a conservative and adhere to Christianity. As you may expect, this caused a lot of troubles between me and her. I was with her way before my values changed, and we liked each other very much, so I really didn't want to break up. Well, this almost happened a couple of times. But as we went through the fights and conflicts together and I started to take more care of my self (I was really sedentary and lazy), she naturally started to admire me and involuntary stick to my values. Now she views me as a symbol of intelligence and reason; she admires that I can rationally defend my opinions (as i like philosophy) and she despises woke culture. It seems that all it needed is for her to have a man of good values by her side. Today, although she is not religious as me, she went from a convinced atheist for someone who believes in God, although being completely uneducated on Theology.
I am sad that she still is slightly feminist on some topics (like female pastors), but she is far from the kind who despises being a wife and being a mom. And, the most important of all, she absolutely loves me and wants to stay with me for the rest and for her life and have kids with me (although I have autism so I prefer to adopt than have biological children), and I feel the same for her.
She is the person who supports me the most, cherishes for me the most, and makes me the happiest, while I was a good example on her life (as she was for me too, as she did incentive me to stop being lazy and sedentary). This is was I think that God has a purpose for us: if it was a not for this, the relationship would be doomed, as there were so many red flags.
I had a girlfriend for four years, last friday we broke up. I find it hard at times, but on other times I am completely neutral because we were so different. The grandest difference were our views on the world and lifestyles. She was clearly not Christian, which I have been on and off, but now I AM Christian. I was told for a long time that our love wouldn't stand a chance, which it ultimately didn't. Now as a single for one week, life feels free. I can bond with God, I read frequently in the Bible and I pray almost every night. The best part is that I don't need to feel shame for it. I am not going to seek a girlfriend as of right now, but my future girlfriend shall be a woman of God!
That is part of the process! You tried, and that is what matters most (plus you've gained experience). God will give you her when the moment is right. Keep on improving yourself and your relationship with God! ;)
as a girl, I think you were mostly on point but I will say I think the idea of girls wanting support rather then adventure isn’t always true. There are many girls, myself included, who love to put ourselves out there and make our own lives. The opposite can be true with men, it’s best to not assume
Agree 100%
Additional note on taking no for an answer.
If you don’t and continue to pursue them when the girl says they are not interested not only do you get labeled the creepy guy by her. You also get labeled that by all of her friends, even the ones who might have thought you were cute prior to you trying to get with their friend.
Also is that a public server? Looks fun.
Your timing is kind of insane that you uploaded this literally the day after my gf broke up with me. I'll watch it, and many thanks, I already know it will be a great video as always
@valen0276 Sorry to hear it. More than anything else, understand that however difficult it may be the feeling. Will make you a much stronger person as long as you survive it. Time helps, but realize that this is the actual stuff in life that defines who we are. What we can be. I wish you luck.
May God help you and give you strenght. I was engaged and when all fell apart It almost destroyed me. But that made me come closer to Christ and become a better christian. In the end, our Lord and Saviour is the greatest treasure and delight that the human heart could ever find
My recommendation to you is to heal up first and grow stronger before getting back to find a new girlfriend.
I pray and wish you the best.
Say that again for those in the back: BE A GOOD LISTENER.
All the girls that have expressed interest in me have cited my conversation skills as a major factor
wrong. be someone worth listening to. being s good listener is jus code for being a simp lmao
@@Jose-oq5wqboth, both is good
@@Jose-oq5wq if your girl aint interesting enough for you to listen to her then she aint good enough
@@DeeStewI’ve never met an interesting woman. I’ve hardly met an interesting man.
@@Lycidas777 well that's cool too! maybe you're just better off single. focus on yourself
Not even 15 seconds in, and the roasting starts. In all seriousness though, I am loving this channel.
The #1 way is to just go to church, be faithful, set goals and work toward them, and participate in ministries. I met my wife by playing on the worship team. My sister met her husband doing VBS. My best friend met his wife doing prayer meetings. Just be active in your faith and God will place someone with you.
Lifting weights also helps a lot; there's lots of women who don't mind or even prefer you being kinda chubby if you have big shoulders.
I enjoy video games but as a girl I have learned the hard way to not play online LOL and even a lot of the guys I have tried to meet and socialize with over video games and stuff treat me differently I feel, almost excluding me or being super competitive- I just play for fun so hard to find people with similar interests
Same here. It’s hard for us girl gamers because there’s not many girls who game, and some even look down on it 🙃
I never had internet growing up, so I couldn't play the online multi-player games, and from what I've seen, I'm glad I didn't. They're so competitive it stops being fun, and the language gets really coarse.
I got a buddy who will scream at the top of his lungs then run away whenever a girl joins our games. It's pretty funny.
My best friend is a girl, and we play almost daily. And we get constantly harassed by guys, and sometimes it becomes unbearable. I always thought, the statistics on female harassment in gaming were over-stated, but after meeting her I feel they are grossly under-stated.
@@AbuBakar-wp7rw I think those places are so competitive that they turn away all the casual gamers.
Very timely. I am an Orthodox Christian Teenager, and I recently had my first love. If I can even get her, I really hope she is Christian at least, but I probably won’t be able to even get her, so I must pray for her.
Also, I would rather find a girl at my Church who is already Orthodox Christian, but unfortunately there are literally NO teenage girls my age in my Church, so I fell in love with a girl at school, I love her so much.
Hello friend. If you are american, and not slavic, greek, or romanian, you have 0 zero reason to be orthodox.
It's time for you to turn off the internet, drop the larp, and read the KJV bible.
There are no orthodox zoomer christian girls in America, and if there were they're taken. Stop caring about being "trad". Take the greek paintings off your wall. It's time for you to go to a real baptist church
- Walterus.
@@Kaapenaar47 Thanks. I agree with you.
Seek godly love not lust remember
Another tip, ask her out in person probably not over text. Sometimes you've gotta be upfront about things and it'll do you no good to hide behind your phone.
Redeemed Zoomer:
'If you're Christian you need to date a girl who's Christian. If you're Atheist you need to date a girl who's Atheist.'
Me:
If you're white you need to- (my lawyer advised me not to finish this statement)
I agree. Based.
@@Person16384 at least use Н which is N in Cyrillic lol
Ummm but atheist women are too masculine and toxic, according to studies when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may also explain why women are generally more religious than men. I’m a skeptical and rational minded person and I’d prefer a religious partner (and a Christian one so she doesn’t waste my money on stupid, useless, snake oil shit like crystals and psychics) over a secular one especially since according to the Bible wives are suppose to submit to their husbands so a devoted wife is much better even though sometimes a woman’s zeal and piety can piss you off like women’s poor taste in music (I don’t like three minute pop songs, okay 😅? I’m a Haken and Thank You Scientist guy)
@@pigglesworth1027 Race mixing is cringe. Civilisation is incommunicable.
"the vast majority of guys have the emotional maturity of a toaster"
truer words never said 😂
Everyone God will give u a Girlfriend. I was blessed 44 yrs before my husband past last yr.
True story as my husband was to be buried in the coffin my 7 yr. old grandson handed me a pair of grandpa’s sunglasses saying, give grandpa these.
Me, won’t the coffin be dark? Then he goes no its for him when he gets to heaven:)
you don't get to bring the items in your coffin with you when you go to the after life. your son sounds less like a christian and more like a worshipper of the old gods of egypt. get your house in order
Stop playing video games
Stop being an awkward goober.
Start working out.
Be more social.
Have goals.
Do stuff with your life.
thank you for the summarization
Preach🙌
Aight the awkward goober part of my routine is getting removed
I finally asked her out bros… I’m going out on a date feeding birds with her 2 days from now. I met her through a mutual friend a few months and finally worked up enough courage to ask her after getting to know her. Just shut off your doubts for a few seconds and ask her out, no matter what she says it’s like the greatest weight being pulled off your chest.
Did you ask her out in part cuz of this video? I know it will feed my ego if you say yes, but I would really like to know
@@redeemedzoomer6053It played some part for sure, your bit about the importance of being able to be friends with them beforehand stuck with me. Glad I found your channel a while back.
ok, there was a CIVIL WAR??? Yeah we need a KingdomCraft lore video ASAP
Only ONE part of the video I disagree on (sort of): Becoming her best friend first before dating.
If you’re as deeply called to marriage as I have been, you’ll take anyone who presents no red flags, shows a DEEP respect for faith, for herself, and for the institution of marriage, and you fall in love with her as you date.
This is extremely rare of course, and this is definitely the Catholicness of our relationship on full display, but this is proving itself to me in real time.
I never would have expected to run into you here lol, this is hilarious 🤣
I would agree with zoomer tho, I think the "one flesh" and "naked and not ashamed" refer to physical, emotional, and spiritual things, and getting to know someone in those ways outside of a romantic relationship is really important, I think you should at least be friends, but thats my two cents :)
As a female Christian, I don't agree with your point about avoiding girls that have bad relationships with their fathers. Yes, it can be a bad thing, but each case is different. I had to cut contact with my dad at 13 because of the absolutely awful things he was doing, and I don't want a boyfriend just for male affirmation. I just want a godly and loving husband like everyone else. It makes me sad that good men might see it as a red flag that I don't speak to my father, through no fault of my own. I know that was a lot but other than this I think this was a great video with really solid advice. I just didn't agree with that one point you made.
I came across your videos in the latter half of my final semester of college. Now that I'm back home, I'm going to the 1st Presbyterian Church in Colorado Springs tomorrow! I want to participate in the Reconquista as well as improve my character by seriously going to church and getting a social life. I thank God for pushing your videos to my attention in his perfect timing!
I like how you’re casually walking through and appreciating your Minecraft server while dissecting my flaws one by one
I think I just found my favorite channel. I've been struggling with my faith recently, and there's so much to unpack with that.
I laughed so hard at the girls play chess and men play checkers while talking. It’s super true
Im married and yet here I am listening lol. Its just satisfying to hear good advice, its always useful so that you can give it
I’m a member of a RPCNA church and married to an originally Non-Denom wife. I was mostly here for the part where RZ talks about dating someone who is Christian but a different denomination 😂
"The Catholics always change their rules and then act like they don't". Haha, that's so true.
I would also add that a man should be straightforward in a relationship. Don’t ask a woman if she wants to “hang out,” instead tell her plainly you want to go on a date.
You're off on the Gen Z haircut embodying not caring about anything, it's worse. It's the concept of "the only thing I care about is putting forth the image that I don't care about anything" That's all I can gather from a conscious choice to pay someone to style your hair in a way that is harder to maintain and still looks like something a family of rats would call home.
Other names for it are:
Bird's nest
Berry Bush
Ice Cream Cone
I'm a girl watching this video to better prepare myself for a boyfriend/husband. I could use y'all's prayers 😅
Look up “Ben Stuart single dating engaged married”. Some good stuff. Blessings to you.
My advice:
1. Don't try to "get a girlfriend/boyfriend", rather put yourself in situations where you're likely to meet someone you might like.
2. Don't overgeneralize. For example, one person might have a difficult relationship with their father but that experience actually matures them.
3. Share values
4. Have complimentary personalities. When you're low, they help. When you're happy, they make you more happy. It should be mutual too.
5. Take things slow. There's no rush. If it's meant to be, things will happen without too much effort.
6. Recognize that neither of you are perfect no matter how good of a match you are. Be prepared to communicate and trust.
7. Choose to love.
8. Be with someone you respect and admire and who feels the same towards you!
9. Find someone that YOU want to be with, not someone you think others would like.
10. Don't let shame or fear keep you from being attached to someone you love and who loves you.
The opening statement is amazing, lol.
Perhaps performing a server sabbath would ensure that these men can not be on your server constantly.
For any nerdier/geekier guys that want to get in shape and want to have an active/more interesting hobby I can't shout this louder:
GO ROCK CLIMBING
Find your local bouldering gym and just go with your friends and have fun, then make a habit out of it. It's an incredibly rewarding activity, and ends up as a full body workout but doesn't feel like it. It's also great for dates. Bouldering genuinely changed my life, made me so much more confident, and in better shape. I've met a ton of friends there and even met my first gf there
Is she Christian?
I am very attractive, and entering senior year of highschool. Ive talked to maybe 10-15 girls, and dated 2. Pay attention to the girls out there, most of them aren't good. You have to actually look.
You mean personality wise? Because according to a poll I think men view 80% of women as physically attractive whereas women viewed only 20% of men physically attractive which makes a lot of sense when you look outside. Also women generally tend to be more religious than men and studies show that when old men were given testosterone they LESS religious, not more, which may explain why. That’s why I prefer a religious partner over a non-religious one: biologically and scientifically speaking there more feminine
18 years, kissless male, Presbyterian and Brazilian. I agree with everything you've said and 90% of what I've listened I actually (and consequently happily) have already listened to. God bless you buddy.
God is great man. I just asked this question to my paster.
Man you are a couple years younger than I am but you're so much more mature than I was. It's impressive frankly.
maturing fast is also a good way to get a gf. but thats just genes.
how old is he
@@blackforestt3717 I'm guessing 16
sometimes i can hear your new york accent leak through
this is good advice
The most troubling variation of the problem of evil: how can a loving God not give gf? Therefore, no God! Checkmate
Honestly I still have never found a single man that has a sense of purpose to his life, and that is what I'm holding out for. I can't support him to fulfill his goals if he doesn't have any vision for his future. At the same time I'm also on a quest to find my own purpose in life.
I don't think it's right when people make their family their reason for living but they don't even have one yet.
Bro you are the most trustable guy I know. You say things so sharply and we'll. Love yall
As a girl I approve of this message
You know a RUclipsr is entertaining when you watch his “how to get a good gf” video even when you’re a) a girl and b) in a committed Christian relationship
Laughed for a straight minute when he said "guys have the emotional intelligence of a toaster"
"I would just completly, avoid commenting on any womens looks, ever" amazing
"The friendzone is a myth" THANK YOU
I want to thank you for this video. Even though I have a disdain for Iconoclasts you are a genuine guy.
Finally the video I've been waiting for
To get a good girlfriend you better make sure you’re a good man.
This I feel was a great video for the most part, I just heavily disagree with one bit in particular at 21:37.
I don't think that a girl having a bad relationship with her father is a 'red flag', there is a whole meme about that on the internet but it shouldn't take it seriously. I say this because I didn't have particularly good relationships with my parents either in my younger years especially, it's stabilized quite a lot since then but it still had a large impact on my childhood. When you grow in that environment you're more likely to seek emotional support and that ok IMO. A woman being extremely clingy and needing male validation isn't correlated due to her upbringing, it's more just rooted in narcissism. The real problem is that if she surrounds herself with bad people and there is no one to look out for her, but if she meets someone who has her best interest at heart, I feel that a healthy relationship will certainly work, and at least I feel that is better for the girl in the long run.
Other than that I feel the video does have some oversimplifications but to be fair, you really can't give relationship advice like this without making some generalised statements, but it is something everyone should be mindful of.
Couldn't have said it better❤
As an introvert who does not have any friends, and has never really wanted any friends, it was hard to hear all this talk about making friends.
so you're saying you don't want friends, but you do want a girlfriend?
@@redeemedzoomer6053 Yes.
I think he's just scared of making friends bc he's an introvert
I thought the girfriend thing was a joke
And i thought they didn't exist anymore.
Can confirm, my best "wingman" is my future sister-in-law
Before I state my disagreements, I want to say that I really love this channel, and have learned a lot from it! Thank you for putting so much work into this channel!
While it may be true that guys have played more video games in the past, I think that trend is changing. Women are playing video games more than they used to. I definitely want to end up with someone who can share my love for video games.
Also, I'd argue that EQ is more nurture vs nature. Men and women might express EQ differently, but they share the same capacity.
I'd take a lot of this with a grain of salt. A lot of the points in this video generalize very complicated things.
Yooo I’m not the only one that calls it broccoli hair 😂
Change the title to how to get a wife at this point 😂😊.
"How to um, like, um get a like, um girlfriend - UmCraft"
Better to remain single, marry if you can't control your lust.
mmmm really good advice. There is a girl that I have wanted to marry for 12 years now, but she recently got engaged. I haven't been able to cope with that fact tho, and part of me still hopes that things will go my way at some point. But as you said, just movie on
Yikes this sounds like me, the girl I liked for 12 years got married last year, she invited me for her wedding, I've moved on as well it was tough tho, but we move
@@DCUEmp_prinzy *pain intensifies*
Well if y’all are offering courting advice maybe I *will* convert!
Golly, Thank you Zoomer! This Video's advice is pretty solid.
Wing women are so much more helpful than wingmen.
Dude, me and my mum also call it broccoli hair! Can't believe there are others out there!
About the good listening thing, dig deeper. It’s the best thing I learned in middle school in the worst way possible. Our relationship was ruined because I didn’t get it. Don’t try to fix the problem on the surface. Dig for the deeper issue and get her to see the underlying problem. Promise you, it’ll work great!
Everyone out here trying to get a GF... I'm out here wanting a WIFE.
the frame rates on his videos have finally gone up😂😂
"Women play chess, men play checkers." Incorrect.
Women play chess, men play tic-tac-toe.
Nah we just stare at the game with no clue how to play it
20:12 Thanks to this video, there are now 4 different descriptions of “20 Highlighter Girl” in Urban Dictionary and they all came out within a day of this video being published
You forgot the most important thing Don't take The girl seriously if she isn't a virgin no hymen no diamond
I WAS JUST THINKING THAT. That is so absurdly necessary. Of course, you just don't ask it straight away, but it is important to bring that subject up when necessary (like before starting the relationship itself); I don't think it is a good idea to be with someone who couldn't even preserve themselves in the first place.