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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @officialspoon42
    @officialspoon42 Год назад +2559

    What's a girlfriend?? I wish Redeemed Zoomer used less complicated Calvinist terms

  • @Nguyenzander
    @Nguyenzander Год назад +1683

    “I’ve seen guys that look like Chernobyl victims and still managed to get pretty girls.”
    -Redeemed Zoomer, 2023

    • @velDANTe
      @velDANTe Год назад +57

      thing is Chernobyl victim bf hardly ever gets anything better than a hiroshima survior gf. or a moby dick gf.

    • @Nguyenzander
      @Nguyenzander Год назад +6

      @@velDANTe lol

    • @Marcus-ec1kx
      @Marcus-ec1kx Год назад +26

      what a savage but hilarious statement

    • @Timo0469
      @Timo0469 Год назад +4

      based

    • @localshithead7430
      @localshithead7430 Год назад +14

      @@velDANTe
      Well duh. Ugly people usually date other ugly people. How else would it be done?

  • @andre_lluis
    @andre_lluis Год назад +813

    The "wants a Christian gorgeous wife, but isn't even a Christian Man" one hit like a mule. Great point, mr. Zoomer

    • @lichwood4429
      @lichwood4429 Год назад +42

      I felt personally attacked by it, but the logic is irrefutable.

    • @eh86055
      @eh86055 Год назад +3

      Does that really happen? I feel like religious affiliation is, like, a irreconcilable difference. There's no way you could get along long-term.

    • @OZTutoh
      @OZTutoh Год назад

      I'm going to devote 15 minutes to my life to sit through this tripe of a video to find out if he said this

    • @OZTutoh
      @OZTutoh Год назад

      12 minutes. Can't do it.

    • @saintlylamb
      @saintlylamb Год назад +11

      @@eh86055 there are plenty of men who say they want a Christian girl, but aren’t Christian. They simplify being Christian to a traditional woman with family values, respect for their husbands, and (maybe) with less of a sexual past.

  • @stein5763
    @stein5763 Год назад +974

    Guys, just because she’s Christian too doesn’t mean she’s destined for you.

    • @tedcruz212
      @tedcruz212 Год назад +81

      As I’ve said many times, It’s true because it rhymes

    • @prod.mohomid
      @prod.mohomid Год назад +14

      nope i refuse to believe it

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад

      I’d prefer a Christian wife because women are already generally more religious than men and research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may explain why and I personally think religious women are more feminine (and the science backs it)

    • @YourBoyJohnny94
      @YourBoyJohnny94 Год назад

      Most “Christian” women are not really Christian, they go dance away the night on Saturdays and then go to Church the following Sunday.

    • @ethandominic-13
      @ethandominic-13 Год назад +4

      As a heretic, I believe no one is destined for me. 🙃

  • @IDontRlyKniw
    @IDontRlyKniw Год назад +562

    As a Catholic, I think the Catholics on this server really need to step up their building game and get some classic cathedrals going, also W video

    • @specter8660
      @specter8660 Год назад +72

      We are trying, we just have most of our efforts directed in a different town. Also the plots are very small and hard to work with.

    • @redeemedzoomer6053
      @redeemedzoomer6053  Год назад +127

      well that town isn't protected, so y'alls guys should just stick to manplatten

    • @aleksey6151
      @aleksey6151 Год назад +37

      Reinstate indulgences

    • @specter8660
      @specter8660 Год назад +20

      @@aleksey6151 What do you mean reinstate, they never went away.

    • @elijahwills7331
      @elijahwills7331 Год назад +13

      @@aleksey6151 yeah they're still around, you just can't buy 'em anymore thankfully. Generally an indulgence is attached to certain prayers, or going to the sacraments at certain times.

  • @AlwaysHope_
    @AlwaysHope_ Год назад +391

    I’m a mother how did this young guy become so wise? He also understands u have to value girls.
    Everything he says is true:)
    Sometimes u will just meet someone & connect instantly both of u. It’s called chemistry! 😉

    • @dylangtech
      @dylangtech Год назад +25

      I am happy sometimes that us zoomers have some good eggs among us :)
      Christ redeems. It requires a lot of “self-raising” later in life than we would have wanted, but it works wonders for the mind, body, and soul.
      The lockdowns were also grueling times. Made us realize our fragility and made us remember our death.

    • @MontycelA
      @MontycelA Год назад

      @@dylangtech 📮

  • @robert58
    @robert58 Год назад +522

    This is slowly turning in one of the most based channels on all of RUclips.

    • @korokleafgaming6863
      @korokleafgaming6863 Год назад +26

      Turning into? As if it wasn’t already from the start

    • @streetchronicles5693
      @streetchronicles5693 Год назад +2

      he needs to talk to JLP a lot more though. He has good points, but major fundamental problems

    • @YourBoyJohnny94
      @YourBoyJohnny94 Год назад +1

      @@streetchronicles5693 Jesse Lee Peterson is the 🐐

    • @Silverdev2482
      @Silverdev2482 Год назад

      hello fellow linux user

    • @adamgenord4674
      @adamgenord4674 Год назад +1

      Once he sees that the earth is flat then we’ll be all set

  • @generalalcazar41442
    @generalalcazar41442 Год назад +292

    I'm getting baptised tommorow friends, God bless you all ❤🕊️

    • @EnPeeSee
      @EnPeeSee Год назад +28

      I'm getting baptized today as well. May the Lord bless you and keep you always

    • @huntergallant5655
      @huntergallant5655 Год назад +13

      Congratulations, and welcome home!

    • @deltacream
      @deltacream Год назад +13

      Congratulations, my brother in Christ

    • @soldierofchrist1096
      @soldierofchrist1096 Год назад +10

      Praise the name of the LORD!

    • @DiscipleOfChrist40
      @DiscipleOfChrist40 6 месяцев назад +1

      Hallelujah

  • @valeriaaa-x6l
    @valeriaaa-x6l Год назад +314

    Coming from a female eastern orthodox christian with divorced parents and a non existent relationship with my father, I believe that what you said about avoiding girls having a bad relationships with their fathers was sad to hear. Not every girl with bad relationships with their father seeks male validation and affirmation, they just want someone that loves them. Please be more considerate in your advice about these things in the future.
    God bless you, and thank you for still making a great video.

    • @AbuBakar-wp7rw
      @AbuBakar-wp7rw Год назад +57

      My best friend also has a non-existent relationship with her father, but she doesn’t fit the stereotype in the least. I don’t think so an estranged relationship to the father ought to be taken as a red flag, but everyone should be judged without any preconceived stereotypes, and judgements.

    • @reigenlucilfer6154
      @reigenlucilfer6154 Год назад +37

      woah are you me? why are we so alike.
      God bless, a fellow orthodox sister.

    • @walterusalbus
      @walterusalbus Год назад +6

      Just be normal
      Also hope that you get someone good and that you overcome your problems
      - Walterus

    • @Dairunt1
      @Dairunt1 Год назад +68

      I married a girl that had terrible family baggage, and she's a wonderful wife and motivated me to become a better man and husband. It was VERY complicated and not everyone is emotionally ready for such a compromise, but God has been with us every step of the way.
      I agree with reformed zoomer on a lot of things, but that was a bad take.

    • @athiefinthenight6894
      @athiefinthenight6894 Год назад +20

      Facts. I have met more girls who are respectable and innocent with absent or mostly absent fathers than those who are not. Especially in the context of relationships generalisations are not something you want to base what you do off of, they can be indicators but when it comes down to it, it is who they are that matters.

  • @georgehoyt7879
    @georgehoyt7879 Год назад +140

    You are realllllly funny bro. “Guys that look like Chernobyl victims” said so nonchalantly is hilarious.

    • @kronos_1337.
      @kronos_1337. 5 месяцев назад +1

      Also "my face looked like a crime scene"

  • @skyhawk8739
    @skyhawk8739 Год назад +61

    "those that pray together, stay together" bars 💯

    • @anetpet
      @anetpet 9 месяцев назад

      Speaking from experience, not always 😢😅

  • @patrick.e.mmanuel
    @patrick.e.mmanuel Год назад +61

    I watched this video some months ago. Ever since then I tried to do everything you say: fight off gaming (and other unhealthy) addiction, go out more, focus on other things like my career, I even started a side business while working on my fulltime job. And I dove deeper into the study of religion, I fell in love with the church.
    Wouldn't you know it, now I'm blessed to have such a kind soul as my girlfriend. Wouldn't have made it without you 😊

  • @gracimoore19
    @gracimoore19 Год назад +136

    The advice about socializing and making friends with the opposite gender is so real for both guys and girls. From my own experience as a girl, I tend to only hang around other girls, and now it feels difficult making friends with guys

    • @Dairunt1
      @Dairunt1 Год назад +33

      I'm a Christian male in a mostly male family, with zero to none contact with the other sex for most of my teens. They were these ethereal, mysterious specimen for me.
      It wasn't until I actually got female friends in church when I finally went back to church at age 16 when I, years later, was mature enough to meet and marry my current wife.
      About half of my closest friends are girls, and it's never been weird. I realized that these ethereal beings were just human, like you and me, we can agree and disagree on many things, enjoy the same things together, respect their opinion and hang out, but I only met my SO when I distinguished her from other girls.

    • @MontycelA
      @MontycelA Год назад

      @@Dairunt1 Well said Froakie

    • @rouxgreasus
      @rouxgreasus Год назад

      I can relate too. I grew up talking to a lot of boys, and I'm pretty uncomfortable near girls (I'm working on having female friends)

    • @luigimrlgaming9484
      @luigimrlgaming9484 10 месяцев назад

      I’m a Christian Male who has no friends and no social life, not even an online social life. Yes, I talk to people, but I’ve never had a friend since I was 10 that I was actually sure I could trust.

  • @fatehound2607
    @fatehound2607 Год назад +87

    The point of dating after friendship I COMPLETELY agree with. Literally why I hate the concept of hookup culture and that sort of thing not to mention that it makes one rush into relationships that they don't know if will work or not and if it doesn't one just becomes more heartbroken over time due to not finding the right person.

  • @DCUEmp_prinzy
    @DCUEmp_prinzy Год назад +253

    "Boys that look like Chernobyl victims", "my face looked like a crime scene"
    🤣🤣🤣🤣
    - Redeemed Zoomer 2023

    • @thatboydio
      @thatboydio Год назад +8

      That chernobyl joke caught me so off gaurd lol

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад +5

      Yeah Ukrainian men aren’t the best looking 😂

    • @DCUEmp_prinzy
      @DCUEmp_prinzy Год назад +3

      @@evanevanf4033 yo that one there was a violation personally I wouldn't have it

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад +2

      @@DCUEmp_prinzy my mom is Ukrainian (by the way the ugly guy in the profile picture is not me, that’s my dad, and my name’s not Evan either)

    • @lukethekuya
      @lukethekuya Год назад

      Based

  • @whatthe712
    @whatthe712 Год назад +131

    please make one for girls! or at least, give us tips! i have a lot of conservative ideas and i’d like to convert to some kind of christianity, and i think it’s hard to meet guys with the same values. i’m definitely gonna try to go to church so i can meet new friends!! edit: yes!! be best friends with girls! we really just want someone to listen to and hang out with, at least for me!

    • @redeemedzoomer6053
      @redeemedzoomer6053  Год назад +128

      Want a good man, find him at church! ONLY choose a man who goes to church every week.
      P.S. See how he is with kids

    • @thedorklaird9562
      @thedorklaird9562 Год назад +8

      I'm trying to go to church so I can socialize too!

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад

      Umm religious men aren’t particularly “masculine”, research has shown that when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more which may explain why women are generally more religious than men. If your a woman and pursuing religion than great: I know I personally would prefer a religious partner over a secular especially since atheistic women are an abomination biologically speaking like if you a woman and your not religious or don’t believe in the supernatural you might as well be a dyke I’m sorry 😅

    • @cyndi7232
      @cyndi7232 Год назад

      ​@@redeemedzoomer6053seeing how they behave with kids is such great advice! If they're kind, gentle, and patient with children, it shows you so much about their character

    • @tachyontwo
      @tachyontwo Год назад

      @@redeemedzoomer6053thank you 🙏

  • @traznian
    @traznian Год назад +47

    I love how much the kingdom craft chat is buttering you up.

  • @plazmathunderbolt
    @plazmathunderbolt Год назад +30

    Thanks for the kind words on my Brick Congregationalist Church. It took forever gathering all the clay.

  • @Lanman106
    @Lanman106 Год назад +151

    "The vast majority of guys have the emotional intelligence of a toaster" - Redeemed Zoomer 2023

  • @logosimian
    @logosimian Год назад +108

    Step 1: dig hole slightly too deep for girlfriend to climb out of unassisted
    Step 2: bait with delicious tacos
    Step 3: hide behind a tree and make a call like a wounded taco.

  • @abilioneto6366
    @abilioneto6366 Год назад +41

    I have recently endend a bad well made marriage, she left me and run away. Being single as a recent converted Christian its like very chagelling and difficult, its important not being hurried about it, some of your advices are very good.

  • @eliegbert8121
    @eliegbert8121 Год назад +26

    It's simple:
    Go outside
    Touch grass
    Buy a comically large net
    Go into a mall (the females natural habitat )
    Put high heel, hot cheeto, iPhone 15, and pumpkin spice in middle of hall (that is what all girls are attracted to (obviously))
    Wait
    Profit

    • @zaarongaming8174
      @zaarongaming8174 10 месяцев назад +3

      *The Benjamites will remember this*

  • @defoursee8544
    @defoursee8544 Год назад +75

    OK just uninstalled League of Legends, lets see if this works.

    • @gazenmedia
      @gazenmedia Год назад +19

      Trying to convince my friends to do the same. That game is evil

    • @driver34579
      @driver34579 Год назад +17

      Take a shower too and don't replace that game with some other vice.

    • @walterusalbus
      @walterusalbus Год назад +6

      @@gazenmedia my friend got into that game. Very sad, havent seen him in months.
      He needs to read the KJV and be a normal person again
      - Walterus

    • @Cosmin_TheMusicGuy
      @Cosmin_TheMusicGuy Год назад

      Play Rocket League

  • @Foreign0817
    @Foreign0817 Год назад +42

    Praying God brings me a wife one day. I know I'm not ready yet. Gonna move out of my home for the past 3 years. Gonna need to look for a new job. Get a car. I'm gonna be 25, and it's like I'll have to start all over again. I know it won't be easy, but I pray it'll go smoothly. I've never had a girlfriend before. Virgin. No first kiss. Never felt a woman's touch. It's like I want something, but I don't even know what it is. But whatever happens... I know I can trust God.

  • @redeemed_br
    @redeemed_br Год назад +15

    In my case, both me and my gf were secular atheists with left-wing tendencies (although she was more than me), but not the blue-haired twitter user weed smoker type. She was more like a heterosexual feminist and i was a libertarian (the "people can do whatever they want" kind)
    She always liked to read, so i tried to develop this habit too. Eventually I stumbled up Philosophy, but not the good one: it was Nietzsche. Then, for some miracle, I realized that to correct way to study Philosophy is to start from the start and not from some dubious author only popular among nihilists teenagers. So I started to read Plato, Aristotle etc and discovered Objective Truth, and then it was a matter of time for me to turn into a conservative and adhere to Christianity. As you may expect, this caused a lot of troubles between me and her. I was with her way before my values changed, and we liked each other very much, so I really didn't want to break up. Well, this almost happened a couple of times. But as we went through the fights and conflicts together and I started to take more care of my self (I was really sedentary and lazy), she naturally started to admire me and involuntary stick to my values. Now she views me as a symbol of intelligence and reason; she admires that I can rationally defend my opinions (as i like philosophy) and she despises woke culture. It seems that all it needed is for her to have a man of good values by her side. Today, although she is not religious as me, she went from a convinced atheist for someone who believes in God, although being completely uneducated on Theology.
    I am sad that she still is slightly feminist on some topics (like female pastors), but she is far from the kind who despises being a wife and being a mom. And, the most important of all, she absolutely loves me and wants to stay with me for the rest and for her life and have kids with me (although I have autism so I prefer to adopt than have biological children), and I feel the same for her.
    She is the person who supports me the most, cherishes for me the most, and makes me the happiest, while I was a good example on her life (as she was for me too, as she did incentive me to stop being lazy and sedentary). This is was I think that God has a purpose for us: if it was a not for this, the relationship would be doomed, as there were so many red flags.

  • @valen0276
    @valen0276 Год назад +58

    Your timing is kind of insane that you uploaded this literally the day after my gf broke up with me. I'll watch it, and many thanks, I already know it will be a great video as always

    • @nickjames6813
      @nickjames6813 Год назад +7

      @valen0276 Sorry to hear it. More than anything else, understand that however difficult it may be the feeling. Will make you a much stronger person as long as you survive it. Time helps, but realize that this is the actual stuff in life that defines who we are. What we can be. I wish you luck.

    • @RaphaCramer
      @RaphaCramer Год назад +10

      May God help you and give you strenght. I was engaged and when all fell apart It almost destroyed me. But that made me come closer to Christ and become a better christian. In the end, our Lord and Saviour is the greatest treasure and delight that the human heart could ever find

    • @deltacream
      @deltacream Год назад +1

      My recommendation to you is to heal up first and grow stronger before getting back to find a new girlfriend.
      I pray and wish you the best.

  • @timothysullivan1669
    @timothysullivan1669 Год назад +34

    I agree with the idea of having a friendship before dating, but not best friends. Personally, I don’t think you should ever be best friends with a girl that you aren’t already dating, just inviting a lot of tough emotional situations onto yourself.
    I think, based on my experience it is very plausible to not know a person very well, but perhaps know some people that know them, etc. and start a very good relationship.

    • @buckarooben7635
      @buckarooben7635 Год назад +9

      I concur. If you’re a man your best friend should be male. Women are great, but they can’t take the place of a brother when you’re in a rough spot.

    • @nick-wy7fg
      @nick-wy7fg Год назад +6

      @@buckarooben7635 your best friend should be your future wife, she is the one you will spend your life with, meanwhile friendships can come and go.

    • @timothysullivan1669
      @timothysullivan1669 Год назад +6

      @@nick-wy7fg Friends, perhaps, but brothers in Christ are essential along the way. Let us remember that not everyone is called to marriage, but all are called to fellowship in the body. Scripture has many beautiful examples of how the strong same sex friendships benefit us. Consider David and Jonathan, or Paul and Barnabus.
      I don’t think we should focus too much of our attention on finding a girlfriend/wife. We should seek first God’s kingdom and then if the Lord has someone to work alongside you for his kingdom, fantastic.

    • @mooseman3232
      @mooseman3232 6 месяцев назад

      i agree. best friend makes it really akward.

  • @Ohtiaraa
    @Ohtiaraa Год назад +23

    I've legit been binge watching your vids all day. And I'm gonna watch this one even though I'm a girl and I'm straight so I know what are good traits to have in a relationship.

  • @boxofturtles761
    @boxofturtles761 Год назад +43

    as a girl, I think you were mostly on point but I will say I think the idea of girls wanting support rather then adventure isn’t always true. There are many girls, myself included, who love to put ourselves out there and make our own lives. The opposite can be true with men, it’s best to not assume

  • @danielmads9160
    @danielmads9160 Год назад +23

    I had a girlfriend for four years, last friday we broke up. I find it hard at times, but on other times I am completely neutral because we were so different. The grandest difference were our views on the world and lifestyles. She was clearly not Christian, which I have been on and off, but now I AM Christian. I was told for a long time that our love wouldn't stand a chance, which it ultimately didn't. Now as a single for one week, life feels free. I can bond with God, I read frequently in the Bible and I pray almost every night. The best part is that I don't need to feel shame for it. I am not going to seek a girlfriend as of right now, but my future girlfriend shall be a woman of God!

    • @NaldinhoGX
      @NaldinhoGX Год назад +4

      That is part of the process! You tried, and that is what matters most (plus you've gained experience). God will give you her when the moment is right. Keep on improving yourself and your relationship with God! ;)

  • @calebneff5777
    @calebneff5777 Год назад +12

    The #1 way is to just go to church, be faithful, set goals and work toward them, and participate in ministries. I met my wife by playing on the worship team. My sister met her husband doing VBS. My best friend met his wife doing prayer meetings. Just be active in your faith and God will place someone with you.

  • @Khorne_of_the_Hill
    @Khorne_of_the_Hill Год назад +5

    Lifting weights also helps a lot; there's lots of women who don't mind or even prefer you being kinda chubby if you have big shoulders.

  • @edwinm-m5008
    @edwinm-m5008 Год назад +140

    I’ll be a Catholic priest some day, but this video’s definitely worth my time

    • @garak55
      @garak55 Год назад +33

      Yes definitely. Priests are not monks, their entire raison d'être is to connect the holy and the secular world.
      I really hope you can someday use this to guide people to find meaningful relationships.

    • @Sartricis
      @Sartricis Год назад +55

      ​@HyperGravityWave dead meme.

    • @zettainog7995
      @zettainog7995 Год назад +26

      @@hypergravitywave7069 who laughed?

    • @Jugem16
      @Jugem16 Год назад +28

      @HyperGravityWave This is *active* discrimination.

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx Год назад +7

      @@Sartricis Where is it dead? Arte released an entire documentary on the topic recently and it turns out things were a lot worse than we thought. We shouldn't look for reasons to put any denomination down but we shouldn't keep quiet on evil either. People would be a lot more vocal if a close one or themselves were one of the victims.

  • @wak69
    @wak69 Год назад +7

    Not even 15 seconds in, and the roasting starts. In all seriousness though, I am loving this channel.

  • @jimnicholas7334
    @jimnicholas7334 Год назад +6

    I came across your videos in the latter half of my final semester of college. Now that I'm back home, I'm going to the 1st Presbyterian Church in Colorado Springs tomorrow! I want to participate in the Reconquista as well as improve my character by seriously going to church and getting a social life. I thank God for pushing your videos to my attention in his perfect timing!

  • @MaximusOrthodox
    @MaximusOrthodox Год назад +17

    Very timely. I am an Orthodox Christian Teenager, and I recently had my first love. If I can even get her, I really hope she is Christian at least, but I probably won’t be able to even get her, so I must pray for her.
    Also, I would rather find a girl at my Church who is already Orthodox Christian, but unfortunately there are literally NO teenage girls my age in my Church, so I fell in love with a girl at school, I love her so much.

    • @walterusalbus
      @walterusalbus Год назад +1

      Hello friend. If you are american, and not slavic, greek, or romanian, you have 0 zero reason to be orthodox.
      It's time for you to turn off the internet, drop the larp, and read the KJV bible.
      There are no orthodox zoomer christian girls in America, and if there were they're taken. Stop caring about being "trad". Take the greek paintings off your wall. It's time for you to go to a real baptist church
      - Walterus.

    • @MaximusOrthodox
      @MaximusOrthodox Год назад +2

      @@Kaapenaar47 Thanks. I agree with you.

    • @Abcdefghijajajaja
      @Abcdefghijajajaja Год назад +2

      Seek godly love not lust remember

  • @_bass_clarinet_
    @_bass_clarinet_ Год назад +37

    I enjoy video games but as a girl I have learned the hard way to not play online LOL and even a lot of the guys I have tried to meet and socialize with over video games and stuff treat me differently I feel, almost excluding me or being super competitive- I just play for fun so hard to find people with similar interests

    • @irenicrose
      @irenicrose Год назад +5

      Same here. It’s hard for us girl gamers because there’s not many girls who game, and some even look down on it 🙃

    • @thedorklaird9562
      @thedorklaird9562 Год назад +5

      I never had internet growing up, so I couldn't play the online multi-player games, and from what I've seen, I'm glad I didn't. They're so competitive it stops being fun, and the language gets really coarse.

    • @ghilliedsniper7935
      @ghilliedsniper7935 Год назад +6

      I got a buddy who will scream at the top of his lungs then run away whenever a girl joins our games. It's pretty funny.

    • @AbuBakar-wp7rw
      @AbuBakar-wp7rw Год назад +6

      My best friend is a girl, and we play almost daily. And we get constantly harassed by guys, and sometimes it becomes unbearable. I always thought, the statistics on female harassment in gaming were over-stated, but after meeting her I feel they are grossly under-stated.

    • @thedorklaird9562
      @thedorklaird9562 Год назад +1

      @@AbuBakar-wp7rw I think those places are so competitive that they turn away all the casual gamers.

  • @Adrastus_
    @Adrastus_ Год назад +30

    im 21 and have never had a gf. I know it's because im ugly and boring and have a poor "personality". im not addicted to video games or porn, I go to church regularly and work, etc.I know the problem lies with me. all I can do and what I do at this point is pray that God have mercy on me and forgive me for asking something so selfish like getting a gf

    • @qesther1241
      @qesther1241 Год назад +5

      @Adrastus,
      I’ll bet you’re not as ugly as you think you are and you’re only 21. Try taking Ballroom dance lessons. It can really help you have more confidence and you meet new people. The ballroom dances are very elegant dances not raunchy. Whatever awkwardness you have will go away.
      And of course the advice you’re getting right now on this RUclips is good advice.

    • @AlwaysHope_
      @AlwaysHope_ Год назад +21

      I’m a mother here is what I heard u saying:
      I’m ugly
      I’m boring
      Poor personality
      The problem lies in me
      All I can do is pray
      Forgive me
      Selfish
      My fault I don’t have a girlfriend.
      Here is what I would tell u if u were my son?
      First u are none of those things your a joy & God loves u.
      My advice:
      Each day find one good thing u have or do & believe it. Something positive
      Tell your self your worth it that u matter. That no one is better then u & no one is lower then u we are all the same.
      Empower yourself.
      Start talking to girls with a complement because girls look to kindness above anything else.
      Never give up young man your a treasure😘

    • @Embauss
      @Embauss Год назад +9

      At first I was like wow 21, that's old. Then I remembered I'm about to be 25.

    • @AeroTimYT
      @AeroTimYT Год назад +7

      My advice would be to focus on things you can change. Start working out, grow a beard if you can. Finding a hobby that involves other people might help you with your personality. And dont forget to pray about it as well.

    • @velDANTe
      @velDANTe Год назад +6

      first of all, drop the freakin anime avatar.

  • @CountessRose
    @CountessRose Год назад +56

    Additional note on taking no for an answer.
    If you don’t and continue to pursue them when the girl says they are not interested not only do you get labeled the creepy guy by her. You also get labeled that by all of her friends, even the ones who might have thought you were cute prior to you trying to get with their friend.
    Also is that a public server? Looks fun.

  • @lopa5881
    @lopa5881 Год назад +20

    this presby kid who is just around my age playing minecraft and talking abt christianity has just become my favorite youtuber, me, a colombian charismatic girl kfkdkskd

  • @cesar_br5848
    @cesar_br5848 Год назад +1

    18 years, kissless male, Presbyterian and Brazilian. I agree with everything you've said and 90% of what I've listened I actually (and consequently happily) have already listened to. God bless you buddy.

  • @Coles-bootleg-vids
    @Coles-bootleg-vids Год назад +2

    I think I just found my favorite channel. I've been struggling with my faith recently, and there's so much to unpack with that.

  • @tomcruise2954
    @tomcruise2954 Год назад +9

    I finally asked her out bros… I’m going out on a date feeding birds with her 2 days from now. I met her through a mutual friend a few months and finally worked up enough courage to ask her after getting to know her. Just shut off your doubts for a few seconds and ask her out, no matter what she says it’s like the greatest weight being pulled off your chest.

    • @redeemedzoomer6053
      @redeemedzoomer6053  Год назад +4

      Did you ask her out in part cuz of this video? I know it will feed my ego if you say yes, but I would really like to know

    • @tomcruise2954
      @tomcruise2954 Год назад +3

      @@redeemedzoomer6053It played some part for sure, your bit about the importance of being able to be friends with them beforehand stuck with me. Glad I found your channel a while back.

  • @N8R_Quizzie
    @N8R_Quizzie Год назад +8

    Another tip, ask her out in person probably not over text. Sometimes you've gotta be upfront about things and it'll do you no good to hide behind your phone.

  • @masbucket3083
    @masbucket3083 Год назад +14

    bro bout to drop 5 point girlfriendism

  • @dylangtech
    @dylangtech Год назад +10

    Only ONE part of the video I disagree on (sort of): Becoming her best friend first before dating.
    If you’re as deeply called to marriage as I have been, you’ll take anyone who presents no red flags, shows a DEEP respect for faith, for herself, and for the institution of marriage, and you fall in love with her as you date.
    This is extremely rare of course, and this is definitely the Catholicness of our relationship on full display, but this is proving itself to me in real time.

    • @yeetoburrito9972
      @yeetoburrito9972 Год назад

      I never would have expected to run into you here lol, this is hilarious 🤣
      I would agree with zoomer tho, I think the "one flesh" and "naked and not ashamed" refer to physical, emotional, and spiritual things, and getting to know someone in those ways outside of a romantic relationship is really important, I think you should at least be friends, but thats my two cents :)

  • @ashlandmccallum2490
    @ashlandmccallum2490 2 месяца назад +1

    ok, there was a CIVIL WAR??? Yeah we need a KingdomCraft lore video ASAP

  • @JadenB24
    @JadenB24 Год назад +2

    I like how you’re casually walking through and appreciating your Minecraft server while dissecting my flaws one by one

  • @paigerenee4173
    @paigerenee4173 Год назад +7

    As a female Christian, I don't agree with your point about avoiding girls that have bad relationships with their fathers. Yes, it can be a bad thing, but each case is different. I had to cut contact with my dad at 13 because of the absolutely awful things he was doing, and I don't want a boyfriend just for male affirmation. I just want a godly and loving husband like everyone else. It makes me sad that good men might see it as a red flag that I don't speak to my father, through no fault of my own. I know that was a lot but other than this I think this was a great video with really solid advice. I just didn't agree with that one point you made.

  • @WilhelmEhmke
    @WilhelmEhmke Год назад +3

    Im married and yet here I am listening lol. Its just satisfying to hear good advice, its always useful so that you can give it

    • @rrjt1011
      @rrjt1011 Год назад +1

      I’m a member of a RPCNA church and married to an originally Non-Denom wife. I was mostly here for the part where RZ talks about dating someone who is Christian but a different denomination 😂

  • @SampleText-sb4kh
    @SampleText-sb4kh 3 месяца назад +3

    And now he's got a trad wife before 25yo. So yeah, miracles do exist.

  • @DeeStew
    @DeeStew Год назад +41

    Say that again for those in the back: BE A GOOD LISTENER.
    All the girls that have expressed interest in me have cited my conversation skills as a major factor

    • @Jose-oq5wq
      @Jose-oq5wq Год назад +5

      wrong. be someone worth listening to. being s good listener is jus code for being a simp lmao

    • @oscaradecavalo1246
      @oscaradecavalo1246 Год назад +2

      @@Jose-oq5wqboth, both is good

    • @DeeStew
      @DeeStew Год назад +7

      @@Jose-oq5wq if your girl aint interesting enough for you to listen to her then she aint good enough

    • @Lycidas777
      @Lycidas777 Год назад

      @@DeeStewI’ve never met an interesting woman. I’ve hardly met an interesting man.

    • @DeeStew
      @DeeStew Год назад +6

      @@Lycidas777 well that's cool too! maybe you're just better off single. focus on yourself

  • @KaiserCeaser
    @KaiserCeaser Год назад +5

    I want to thank you for this video. Even though I have a disdain for Iconoclasts you are a genuine guy.

  • @nicholaswheeler507
    @nicholaswheeler507 Год назад +50

    Stop playing video games
    Stop being an awkward goober.
    Start working out.
    Be more social.
    Have goals.
    Do stuff with your life.

  • @Shribble11
    @Shribble11 Год назад +13

    My advice:
    1. Don't try to "get a girlfriend/boyfriend", rather put yourself in situations where you're likely to meet someone you might like.
    2. Don't overgeneralize. For example, one person might have a difficult relationship with their father but that experience actually matures them.
    3. Share values
    4. Have complimentary personalities. When you're low, they help. When you're happy, they make you more happy. It should be mutual too.
    5. Take things slow. There's no rush. If it's meant to be, things will happen without too much effort.
    6. Recognize that neither of you are perfect no matter how good of a match you are. Be prepared to communicate and trust.
    7. Choose to love.
    8. Be with someone you respect and admire and who feels the same towards you!
    9. Find someone that YOU want to be with, not someone you think others would like.
    10. Don't let shame or fear keep you from being attached to someone you love and who loves you.

  • @mudnarchist
    @mudnarchist Год назад +37

    Man you are a couple years younger than I am but you're so much more mature than I was. It's impressive frankly.

    • @velDANTe
      @velDANTe Год назад +2

      maturing fast is also a good way to get a gf. but thats just genes.

    • @blackforestt3717
      @blackforestt3717 Год назад +1

      how old is he

    • @okisee
      @okisee Год назад

      @@blackforestt3717 I'm guessing 16

  • @JoshuaSupeiorToJosh
    @JoshuaSupeiorToJosh Год назад +7

    I am very attractive, and entering senior year of highschool. Ive talked to maybe 10-15 girls, and dated 2. Pay attention to the girls out there, most of them aren't good. You have to actually look.

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад +5

      You mean personality wise? Because according to a poll I think men view 80% of women as physically attractive whereas women viewed only 20% of men physically attractive which makes a lot of sense when you look outside. Also women generally tend to be more religious than men and studies show that when old men were given testosterone they LESS religious, not more, which may explain why. That’s why I prefer a religious partner over a non-religious one: biologically and scientifically speaking there more feminine

  • @B1RKSY
    @B1RKSY Год назад +35

    For any nerdier/geekier guys that want to get in shape and want to have an active/more interesting hobby I can't shout this louder:
    GO ROCK CLIMBING
    Find your local bouldering gym and just go with your friends and have fun, then make a habit out of it. It's an incredibly rewarding activity, and ends up as a full body workout but doesn't feel like it. It's also great for dates. Bouldering genuinely changed my life, made me so much more confident, and in better shape. I've met a ton of friends there and even met my first gf there

  • @2f_2c
    @2f_2c Год назад +10

    This I feel was a great video for the most part, I just heavily disagree with one bit in particular at 21:37.
    I don't think that a girl having a bad relationship with her father is a 'red flag', there is a whole meme about that on the internet but it shouldn't take it seriously. I say this because I didn't have particularly good relationships with my parents either in my younger years especially, it's stabilized quite a lot since then but it still had a large impact on my childhood. When you grow in that environment you're more likely to seek emotional support and that ok IMO. A woman being extremely clingy and needing male validation isn't correlated due to her upbringing, it's more just rooted in narcissism. The real problem is that if she surrounds herself with bad people and there is no one to look out for her, but if she meets someone who has her best interest at heart, I feel that a healthy relationship will certainly work, and at least I feel that is better for the girl in the long run.
    Other than that I feel the video does have some oversimplifications but to be fair, you really can't give relationship advice like this without making some generalised statements, but it is something everyone should be mindful of.

    • @chiaracabala
      @chiaracabala Год назад +1

      Couldn't have said it better❤

  • @moonlitee
    @moonlitee Год назад +8

    "the vast majority of guys have the emotional maturity of a toaster"
    truer words never said 😂

  • @AlwaysHope_
    @AlwaysHope_ Год назад +10

    Everyone God will give u a Girlfriend. I was blessed 44 yrs before my husband past last yr.
    True story as my husband was to be buried in the coffin my 7 yr. old grandson handed me a pair of grandpa’s sunglasses saying, give grandpa these.
    Me, won’t the coffin be dark? Then he goes no its for him when he gets to heaven:)

    • @lasan5744
      @lasan5744 Год назад

      you don't get to bring the items in your coffin with you when you go to the after life. your son sounds less like a christian and more like a worshipper of the old gods of egypt. get your house in order

  • @manofthehour88
    @manofthehour88 Год назад +31

    Redeemed Zoomer:
    'If you're Christian you need to date a girl who's Christian. If you're Atheist you need to date a girl who's Atheist.'
    Me:
    If you're white you need to- (my lawyer advised me not to finish this statement)

    • @MaximusOrthodox
      @MaximusOrthodox Год назад +11

      I agree. Based.

    • @MaximusOrthodox
      @MaximusOrthodox Год назад +1

      @@Person16384 at least use Н which is N in Cyrillic lol

    • @evanevanf4033
      @evanevanf4033 Год назад

      Ummm but atheist women are too masculine and toxic, according to studies when old men were given testosterone they became LESS religious, not more, which may also explain why women are generally more religious than men. I’m a skeptical and rational minded person and I’d prefer a religious partner (and a Christian one so she doesn’t waste my money on stupid, useless, snake oil shit like crystals and psychics) over a secular one especially since according to the Bible wives are suppose to submit to their husbands so a devoted wife is much better even though sometimes a woman’s zeal and piety can piss you off like women’s poor taste in music (I don’t like three minute pop songs, okay 😅? I’m a Haken and Thank You Scientist guy)

    • @manofthehour88
      @manofthehour88 Год назад

      @@pigglesworth1027 Race mixing is cringe. Civilisation is incommunicable.

  • @huskyspin1007
    @huskyspin1007 Год назад

    Bro you are the most trustable guy I know. You say things so sharply and we'll. Love yall

  • @Eloweh
    @Eloweh Год назад +5

    I laughed so hard at the girls play chess and men play checkers while talking. It’s super true

  • @jmartinousIII
    @jmartinousIII Год назад +4

    Perhaps performing a server sabbath would ensure that these men can not be on your server constantly.

  • @buckarooben7635
    @buckarooben7635 Год назад +7

    I would also add that a man should be straightforward in a relationship. Don’t ask a woman if she wants to “hang out,” instead tell her plainly you want to go on a date.

  • @TheNinFan
    @TheNinFan Год назад +15

    Before I state my disagreements, I want to say that I really love this channel, and have learned a lot from it! Thank you for putting so much work into this channel!
    While it may be true that guys have played more video games in the past, I think that trend is changing. Women are playing video games more than they used to. I definitely want to end up with someone who can share my love for video games.
    Also, I'd argue that EQ is more nurture vs nature. Men and women might express EQ differently, but they share the same capacity.
    I'd take a lot of this with a grain of salt. A lot of the points in this video generalize very complicated things.

  • @artemkatelnytskyi
    @artemkatelnytskyi Год назад +3

    The opening statement is amazing, lol.

  • @Finzombie
    @Finzombie Год назад +9

    Well if y’all are offering courting advice maybe I *will* convert!

  • @BramptonAnglican
    @BramptonAnglican 10 месяцев назад +2

    To get a good girlfriend you better make sure you’re a good man.

  • @frenchwsauce2923
    @frenchwsauce2923 Год назад +6

    God is great man. I just asked this question to my paster.

  • @two_point_0805
    @two_point_0805 Год назад +1

    About the good listening thing, dig deeper. It’s the best thing I learned in middle school in the worst way possible. Our relationship was ruined because I didn’t get it. Don’t try to fix the problem on the surface. Dig for the deeper issue and get her to see the underlying problem. Promise you, it’ll work great!

  • @lovelyprincesssarah
    @lovelyprincesssarah Год назад +19

    I'm a girl watching this video to better prepare myself for a boyfriend/husband. I could use y'all's prayers 😅

    • @case.johnson
      @case.johnson 9 месяцев назад

      Look up “Ben Stuart single dating engaged married”. Some good stuff. Blessings to you.

  • @B1RKSY
    @B1RKSY Год назад +9

    Finally the video I've been waiting for

  • @NJHProductions512
    @NJHProductions512 Год назад +16

    mmmm really good advice. There is a girl that I have wanted to marry for 12 years now, but she recently got engaged. I haven't been able to cope with that fact tho, and part of me still hopes that things will go my way at some point. But as you said, just movie on

    • @DCUEmp_prinzy
      @DCUEmp_prinzy Год назад +2

      Yikes this sounds like me, the girl I liked for 12 years got married last year, she invited me for her wedding, I've moved on as well it was tough tho, but we move

    • @NJHProductions512
      @NJHProductions512 Год назад +1

      @@DCUEmp_prinzy *pain intensifies*

  • @noahbarger1
    @noahbarger1 Год назад +4

    sometimes i can hear your new york accent leak through
    this is good advice

  • @robinlazulite3167
    @robinlazulite3167 Год назад +10

    As a girl I approve of this message

  • @canislupusminecraft2670
    @canislupusminecraft2670 Год назад +4

    As an introvert who does not have any friends, and has never really wanted any friends, it was hard to hear all this talk about making friends.

  • @mikedapro
    @mikedapro 9 месяцев назад +1

    Laughed for a straight minute when he said "guys have the emotional intelligence of a toaster"

  • @x12GagexX
    @x12GagexX Год назад +2

    "I would just completly, avoid commenting on any womens looks, ever" amazing

  • @sporadicalx238
    @sporadicalx238 Год назад +4

    You know a RUclipsr is entertaining when you watch his “how to get a good gf” video even when you’re a) a girl and b) in a committed Christian relationship

  • @Halapainyo88
    @Halapainyo88 Год назад +6

    The most troubling variation of the problem of evil: how can a loving God not give gf? Therefore, no God! Checkmate

  • @rrjt1011
    @rrjt1011 Год назад +2

    20:12 Thanks to this video, there are now 4 different descriptions of “20 Highlighter Girl” in Urban Dictionary and they all came out within a day of this video being published

  • @Abcdefghijajajaja
    @Abcdefghijajajaja Год назад +2

    THE BROCCOLI HAIR CUT!!! HILARIOUS! I hate that. (Imma girl)

  • @Nonz.M
    @Nonz.M Год назад +4

    "The Catholics always change their rules and then act like they don't". Haha, that's so true.

  • @kobigreen
    @kobigreen 7 месяцев назад

    I have to say, you have extremely good opinions and takes. They help me to reflect on myself and my life. While I'm not Christian, I will acknowledge this as a W channel.

  • @b7spiderx651
    @b7spiderx651 Год назад +4

    And i thought they didn't exist anymore.

  • @christiantaylor1495
    @christiantaylor1495 Год назад +1

    Finally somebody said it. Be her friend first. My girlfriend was calling me her best friend before she asked me out.

  • @stephen7587
    @stephen7587 Год назад +14

    You're off on the Gen Z haircut embodying not caring about anything, it's worse. It's the concept of "the only thing I care about is putting forth the image that I don't care about anything" That's all I can gather from a conscious choice to pay someone to style your hair in a way that is harder to maintain and still looks like something a family of rats would call home.

    • @kronos_1337.
      @kronos_1337. 5 месяцев назад

      Other names for it are:
      Bird's nest
      Berry Bush
      Ice Cream Cone

  • @TheSlickMachine
    @TheSlickMachine Год назад +2

    "How to um, like, um get a like, um girlfriend - UmCraft"

  • @christiantaylor1495
    @christiantaylor1495 Год назад +1

    14:40
    I didn't once say anything about my girlfriend's looks until being together. Not once.
    Guys, his advice works! I used it before even hearing it 3 years ago and still with her.

  • @nikolas3198
    @nikolas3198 Год назад +12

    I thought the girfriend thing was a joke

  • @lessardo87
    @lessardo87 3 месяца назад +1

    Yooo I’m not the only one that calls it broccoli hair 😂

  • @privateinformation8364
    @privateinformation8364 Год назад +1

    Can confirm, my best "wingman" is my future sister-in-law

  • @Boysermusic
    @Boysermusic Год назад +6

    I feel as if framing the wider narrative of this speech around getting a girlfriend held back some of the areas of conversation. This video lists almost every possible bad scenario in a zoomers life, but centering the speech on
    "Getting a girl"
    Dematured the conversation
    you've still made excellent observations however
    And as far as entertainment goes its perfect

  • @vznscorpy615
    @vznscorpy615 3 месяца назад +2

    No girl would ever want me and it makes me sad. 😢 I had a gf once, she was catholic. I couldn’t imagine a future without her after a few short months and she left me. No other girl has showed interest in me. Only decent looking people will find love. An ltn subhuman like me will never be loved.

    • @LILBEANSTNWA
      @LILBEANSTNWA 3 месяца назад +1

      You will find love in JESUS NAME.

  • @TheJoeschmoe777
    @TheJoeschmoe777 Год назад +5

    "The friendzone is a myth" THANK YOU

  • @monoXcide01
    @monoXcide01 Год назад

    Regarding friendzone, attraction isn't a choice. Friendzone is what happens when you know a girl and she knows you but the attraction isn't mutual. There's nothing either of you can do about it. Attraction happens at first sight and if you mess it up then you either accept friendship or move on.
    When problems arise, ask yourself "how do I" questions. In this case, how do I make myself more attractive? Body language, facial expressions, presentation, voice tone, and extended eye contact are 90% of attractiveness and the words don't matter. In fact, you may be more attractive the less you speak as it gives a bit of mystery to yourself (aka "I don't know what it is about him...").

  • @dragonslayerbh1199
    @dragonslayerbh1199 Год назад +6

    the frame rates on his videos have finally gone up😂😂

  • @jaysmagata3707
    @jaysmagata3707 3 месяца назад

    Dude, me and my mum also call it broccoli hair! Can't believe there are others out there!