Recently I was catching up on a podcast by Hank and John Green and they discussed what Hank was doing last year when he was diagnosed with cancer (now in remission). His brother, John, asked "But Hank, why were you starting so many projects? You had cancer, you could have died from it and left all these projects unfinished" to which Hank's response was "John, we're dying all the time, you will always leave life with unfinished projects. Having cancer made no difference, there was still some good I could do on the days when I felt like I had more energy, so that's what I did". I don't think Hank is a stoic as such, but his response did remind me of Seneca and Marcus, reminding us that life is short and you should try to do good today instead of putting it off until some uncertain future.
Another lesson I learned late is to be humble with oneself when it comes to others, especially when bad agents tell us who they are and all the bad things they want happen. Take people's word for it, don't try to outsmart their history by making up one's own narrative, don't assume you are so superior that you know them better. One type of arrogance premiering our lives today is masochistic martyrdom. This idea that the more horrendous people are to us and the people we care about, the more empathy we owe them, and all the more intellectual resources we must devote to excuse their behavior. The greatest arrogance is pompous humility. Look at people as they are, have boundaries, stand up for what is right even if it may appear antagonistic. True kindness is when you are able to protect kindness, not when you allow your kindness to be a perfect fitting hard boot for the unkind to stomp the kind. True self respect cannot be achieve if one insist to upkeep utmost respect to the people who can't even have one sliver of respect to others, especially when this "other" includes the people you actually respect or ought to respect, which by definition includes yourself.
Really glad i watched this even though I'm not in 20s anymore and i'm a girl - but dude it's epic. Thank you. So accord with your words. And intro. I appreciate your channel when you need 'the pocketbook close at hand' but like Tay Tay, I need to calm down...I can do it with a broken heart. Hit the marks. Love this dude. All of it.
Cảm ơn bạn đã chia sẻ suy nghĩ của mình! Đúng là khi một bài học có thể chạm đến chúng ta theo cách mà cảm thấy như được nói trực tiếp, nó tạo ra một sự kết nối rất mạnh mẽ. Vậy bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những bài học Stoic vào cuộc sống hàng ngày? Có bài học nào bạn đã thử áp dụng và thấy có sự thay đổi nào không?
I'd love to hear more stories from Ryan's 20's. A video where he sits down and narrates some of them, or a compilation from various talks and podcasts where he has shared them.
We don't rise to the standards we have when others are watching. We fall to the standards we have when no one is watching. The only work that really matters is the work that no one sees. It shows you who you really are Rather than who you say you are.
Cảm ơn Ryan. Những lời nhắc nhở của bạn về cách sống mỗi ngày thật sự rất đáng quý. Đúng là có những bài học mà nếu biết sớm thì cuộc sống sẽ dễ dàng hơn nhiều. Bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những nguyên lý Stoic trong việc đối diện với khó khăn? Liệu có phải đôi khi chúng ta quá tập trung vào những điều ngoài tầm kiểm soát mà quên mất sức mạnh của sự tự điều chỉnh?
First discovered Stoicism after being told all my life that I looked “stoic” and just assumed it was lacking emotion. My sister recommended me Ego Is the Enemy, which opened me up to Ryan Holiday, then the true meaning of Stoicism. As a current 20 year old male who hasn’t found his purpose yet, Stoicism thus far has been a wonderful guide to brave this world.
It’s great to hear that Stoicism has been a helpful guide for you in navigating life. It’s often assumed that being "stoic" means being emotionless, but Stoicism teaches us to respond wisely to emotions, not to suppress them. The philosophy helps us focus on what we can control, especially in moments of uncertainty. At 20, it’s completely normal to feel like you haven't found your purpose yet, as many of us go through this phase. Do you think Stoicism has influenced how you approach figuring out your purpose, or has it helped you become more patient with the process of discovery?
He read the effing book. Even he can’t help but put his passion into this. He knows the power of words and uses them wisely rather than for profit. Just think how powerful his persuasive approach is and thank the gods he uses it for the greater good.
a chance click on one of your recent videos made me buy Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, and the first 30 pages already made a big impact. thank you for bringing this to my attention, it is exactly what I need in this moment
Wonderful video. New York has been wearing me down. I did ayahuasca a few times, yet it continues. So I guess I need to do the work and change my perspective.
It's OK to have a morning period and be really angry or really sad. That's important, but then we have to accept the reality and find a path forward. It's taken me too long to learn this!
I’m the opposite- was staunch Republican as young (indoctrination in Christianity), now I’m a progressive Democrat. I feel that I have developed more of an open heart.
My problem with lesson 1 is this. We may not control what is going to happen to us, but we do potentially have influence over it. This is why we worry. Anxiety is a signal to review where we are, and consider taking some action, or change course, to prevent some potential bad future outcome. Of course there is no guarentee that acting will prevent a future catastrophe, but I am uncomfortable with taking a “what will happen, will happen” approach, and ignoring my internal anxiety warning system which is asking me if I want to take some alternative path or action.
I think it's a question of balance. For example, I have a tendency to over-worry, over-prepare, and run through scenarios over and over again in my head until I lose all hope. There comes a point where you have to take a step back and remind yourself that you have already done whatever you can do to be prepared so it's time to move on and see what happens. Critically ask youself "If I replay this problem in my head one more time, will I reach any new conclusions or solutions, something I can implement, or will I just make myself more anxious to no benefit?"
Yes, I agree with you. It is a balance. I just find the distinction between what is controllable and what is not, too binary. While I agree that how we respond to any situation is all that we are fully in control of, there is a big grey middle ground, where we have influence….and this is the source of much of my anxiety, at least
I'm curious about why you say "especially for young men"? I understand why you say "young" person, but why do you believe it applies more to young men than young women? I'm not a hater; I'm actually a big fan who has participated in several of your courses and read all your Stoic books, but I was a little turned off by that statement and I wonder what I'm missing.
Probably an oversight / accident. Ryan's speaking from experience so naturally, inclined to think in male terms. But I have seen many of his videos and many times he's mentioned Stoicism is just as applicable for women and there have been many women throughout history into Stoicism as well.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
I think it's because nowadays there are a lot of people trying to scam young men by appealing to their frustrations (that have increased since the massiveness of the internet) and tend to generate less good social interactions.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
it’s wild how no one talks about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki even though it completely shifts how you see things, but I guess not everyone is ready
@@halimekaya9906plus the book is so obscure and niche I couldn’t find much about it on google. Seems like a terrible book if you ask me. Big with all the posts too 🚩
Learn the lessons make it a positive. "Actively looking for good". Lifes to short to be grumpy.
Thankyou for reminding us
Recently I was catching up on a podcast by Hank and John Green and they discussed what Hank was doing last year when he was diagnosed with cancer (now in remission). His brother, John, asked "But Hank, why were you starting so many projects? You had cancer, you could have died from it and left all these projects unfinished" to which Hank's response was "John, we're dying all the time, you will always leave life with unfinished projects. Having cancer made no difference, there was still some good I could do on the days when I felt like I had more energy, so that's what I did". I don't think Hank is a stoic as such, but his response did remind me of Seneca and Marcus, reminding us that life is short and you should try to do good today instead of putting it off until some uncertain future.
Another lesson I learned late is to be humble with oneself when it comes to others, especially when bad agents tell us who they are and all the bad things they want happen. Take people's word for it, don't try to outsmart their history by making up one's own narrative, don't assume you are so superior that you know them better. One type of arrogance premiering our lives today is masochistic martyrdom. This idea that the more horrendous people are to us and the people we care about, the more empathy we owe them, and all the more intellectual resources we must devote to excuse their behavior. The greatest arrogance is pompous humility. Look at people as they are, have boundaries, stand up for what is right even if it may appear antagonistic. True kindness is when you are able to protect kindness, not when you allow your kindness to be a perfect fitting hard boot for the unkind to stomp the kind. True self respect cannot be achieve if one insist to upkeep utmost respect to the people who can't even have one sliver of respect to others, especially when this "other" includes the people you actually respect or ought to respect, which by definition includes yourself.
Really glad i watched this even though I'm not in 20s anymore and i'm a girl - but dude it's epic. Thank you. So accord with your words. And intro. I appreciate your channel when you need 'the pocketbook close at hand' but like Tay Tay, I need to calm down...I can do it with a broken heart. Hit the marks. Love this dude. All of it.
they way you make it feel like you are talking to me directly is resonating.
Cảm ơn bạn đã chia sẻ suy nghĩ của mình! Đúng là khi một bài học có thể chạm đến chúng ta theo cách mà cảm thấy như được nói trực tiếp, nó tạo ra một sự kết nối rất mạnh mẽ. Vậy bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những bài học Stoic vào cuộc sống hàng ngày? Có bài học nào bạn đã thử áp dụng và thấy có sự thay đổi nào không?
I'd love to hear more stories from Ryan's 20's. A video where he sits down and narrates some of them, or a compilation from various talks and podcasts where he has shared them.
We don't rise to the standards we have when others are watching.
We fall to the standards we have when no one is watching.
The only work that really matters is the work that no one sees.
It shows you who you really are
Rather than who you say you are.
Great channel to refresh my stoic knowledge that I've read through the many books of the greats!
Thank u Ryan. Love ur reminders for living life daily.
Cảm ơn Ryan. Những lời nhắc nhở của bạn về cách sống mỗi ngày thật sự rất đáng quý. Đúng là có những bài học mà nếu biết sớm thì cuộc sống sẽ dễ dàng hơn nhiều. Bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những nguyên lý Stoic trong việc đối diện với khó khăn? Liệu có phải đôi khi chúng ta quá tập trung vào những điều ngoài tầm kiểm soát mà quên mất sức mạnh của sự tự điều chỉnh?
I am reading the daily stoic currently, and have seen positive outcomes from this new perspective. Thanks for the insightful content!
great lessons of wisdom, thank you for your existence, thank you for your generosity in sharing with all
First discovered Stoicism after being told all my life that I looked “stoic” and just assumed it was lacking emotion. My sister recommended me Ego Is the Enemy, which opened me up to Ryan Holiday, then the true meaning of Stoicism. As a current 20 year old male who hasn’t found his purpose yet, Stoicism thus far has been a wonderful guide to brave this world.
It’s great to hear that Stoicism has been a helpful guide for you in navigating life. It’s often assumed that being "stoic" means being emotionless, but Stoicism teaches us to respond wisely to emotions, not to suppress them. The philosophy helps us focus on what we can control, especially in moments of uncertainty. At 20, it’s completely normal to feel like you haven't found your purpose yet, as many of us go through this phase. Do you think Stoicism has influenced how you approach figuring out your purpose, or has it helped you become more patient with the process of discovery?
I've been looking into stoicism lately, thanks for this video😂😂🎉🎉🎉
Really apppreciate your education which is so meaningful to me! I am in my 20's
He read the effing book. Even he can’t help but put his passion into this. He knows the power of words and uses them wisely rather than for profit. Just think how powerful his persuasive approach is and thank the gods he uses it for the greater good.
Thank you.
Ryan, thank you
a chance click on one of your recent videos made me buy Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, and the first 30 pages already made a big impact. thank you for bringing this to my attention, it is exactly what I need in this moment
Many truths found here
you need to find book unveiling your hidden potential by bruce thornwood even if it's the last thing you do in life
Wonderful video. New York has been wearing me down. I did ayahuasca a few times, yet it continues. So I guess I need to do the work and change my perspective.
It's OK to have a morning period and be really angry or really sad. That's important, but then we have to accept the reality and find a path forward. It's taken me too long to learn this!
I’m the opposite- was staunch Republican as young (indoctrination in Christianity), now I’m a progressive Democrat. I feel that I have developed more of an open heart.
I know the history of religion, but hating it because religion trauma when you refuse to work through that trauma is even sadder my guy.
Honestly such a beautiful video
Needed this reminder!
You have uniquely rare perspective😮
Keep up the good work.
Great stuff.
TY
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Brilliant
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thx Ryan
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My problem with lesson 1 is this. We may not control what is going to happen to us, but we do potentially have influence over it. This is why we worry. Anxiety is a signal to review where we are, and consider taking some action, or change course, to prevent some potential bad future outcome. Of course there is no guarentee that acting will prevent a future catastrophe, but I am uncomfortable with taking a “what will happen, will happen” approach, and ignoring my internal anxiety warning system which is asking me if I want to take some alternative path or action.
I think it's a question of balance. For example, I have a tendency to over-worry, over-prepare, and run through scenarios over and over again in my head until I lose all hope. There comes a point where you have to take a step back and remind yourself that you have already done whatever you can do to be prepared so it's time to move on and see what happens. Critically ask youself "If I replay this problem in my head one more time, will I reach any new conclusions or solutions, something I can implement, or will I just make myself more anxious to no benefit?"
Yes, I agree with you. It is a balance. I just find the distinction between what is controllable and what is not, too binary. While I agree that how we respond to any situation is all that we are fully in control of, there is a big grey middle ground, where we have influence….and this is the source of much of my anxiety, at least
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Why is this especially for young men?
Because they're idiots
I'd like to echo this question. I'm merely curious because I would say these principles are universal.
Yes, I had to employ some Stoic philosophy to keep listening after he said that. It was challenging not to stereotype.
most people stay stuck because they avoid books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, which actually show you how to break through
"young men especially" - why?
I'm curious about why you say "especially for young men"? I understand why you say "young" person, but why do you believe it applies more to young men than young women? I'm not a hater; I'm actually a big fan who has participated in several of your courses and read all your Stoic books, but I was a little turned off by that statement and I wonder what I'm missing.
Probably an oversight / accident. Ryan's speaking from experience so naturally, inclined to think in male terms. But I have seen many of his videos and many times he's mentioned Stoicism is just as applicable for women and there have been many women throughout history into Stoicism as well.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
I think it's because nowadays there are a lot of people trying to scam young men by appealing to their frustrations (that have increased since the massiveness of the internet) and tend to generate less good social interactions.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
He probably references young men because he was one himself and that’s the only field of reference he has to work with.
i found this dude out from mark manson, thanks mark and thank you ryan
Which one do you think can be a better guide at this point of your life?
Be honest
can’t believe this is what people focus on instead of reading something like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, maybe that’s why so little ever changes
it’s wild how no one talks about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki even though it completely shifts how you see things, but I guess not everyone is ready
not saying this isn’t interesting, but books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki make this look like child’s play
crazy how much people rely on surface-level ideas when Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki exists, but I guess not everyone is ready for deeper truths
this is good, but if you haven’t read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, you’re only seeing part of the picture
can’t believe this is what people focus on instead of reading something like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, maybe that’s why so little ever changes
most people stay stuck because they avoid books like Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, which actually show you how to break through
crazy how much people rely on surface-level ideas when Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki exists, but I guess not everyone is ready for deeper truths
A new way of advertising i think. At the same moment many people recommends the same book.
@@halimekaya9906plus the book is so obscure and niche I couldn’t find much about it on google. Seems like a terrible book if you ask me. Big with all the posts too 🚩