"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer. Keep it posted in my kitchen as a constant reminder.
Recently I was catching up on a podcast by Hank and John Green and they discussed what Hank was doing last year when he was diagnosed with cancer (now in remission). His brother, John, asked "But Hank, why were you starting so many projects? You had cancer, you could have died from it and left all these projects unfinished" to which Hank's response was "John, we're dying all the time, you will always leave life with unfinished projects. Having cancer made no difference, there was still some good I could do on the days when I felt like I had more energy, so that's what I did". I don't think Hank is a stoic as such, but his response did remind me of Seneca and Marcus, reminding us that life is short and you should try to do good today instead of putting it off until some uncertain future.
At 81, i find i still have much to learn, i can still learn, and i can learn from those far younger than i as well as from wise men of the past. I have been asking and seeking how shall i live in these times, what is my stance to be in the midst of all the noise, the craziness, the divisions, the dangers from fools and circumstance. Ryan, you are a breath of fresh air. I am both learning and remembering, and i thank you.
Don't just read good things, do good things. Be mindful of your actions and the actions of others so you don't react too soon or in a way that isn't constructive. See the good in others and yourself. Get a good sleep routine and use sunscreen.
Cảm ơn bạn đã chia sẻ suy nghĩ của mình! Đúng là khi một bài học có thể chạm đến chúng ta theo cách mà cảm thấy như được nói trực tiếp, nó tạo ra một sự kết nối rất mạnh mẽ. Vậy bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những bài học Stoic vào cuộc sống hàng ngày? Có bài học nào bạn đã thử áp dụng và thấy có sự thay đổi nào không?
You are an inspiring person filled with positivity and insight. Thank you. I also admire your ongoing respect for Robert Greene. Someone who pays tribute to their mentors even after they themselves have "made it" is someone who has truly arrived. Congrats, Ryan. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for sharing such thoughtful reflections. Respecting mentors like Robert Greene indeed shows a deep sense of gratitude and humility, which is admirable. From a Stoic perspective, how do you think acknowledging those who shaped our journey aligns with the idea of focusing on what we can control? Would love to hear your thoughts on this connection.
Another lesson I learned late is to be humble with oneself when it comes to others, especially when bad agents tell us who they are and all the bad things they want happen. Take people's word for it, don't try to outsmart their history by making up one's own narrative, don't assume you are so superior that you know them better. One type of arrogance premiering our lives today is masochistic martyrdom. This idea that the more horrendous people are to us and the people we care about, the more empathy we owe them, and all the more intellectual resources we must devote to excuse their behavior. The greatest arrogance is pompous humility. Look at people as they are, have boundaries, stand up for what is right even if it may appear antagonistic. True kindness is when you are able to protect kindness, not when you allow your kindness to be a perfect fitting hard boot for the unkind to stomp the kind. True self respect cannot be achieve if one insist to upkeep utmost respect to the people who can't even have one sliver of respect to others, especially when this "other" includes the people you actually respect or ought to respect, which by definition includes yourself.
Thanks so much Ryan, awesome. I was taken with the dying thing. Do stuff now even though you know you’re gonna pop off before 18 months. Yes I’ll do it, though at first decided not to bother. Isn’t it sad we only get wisdom when we get older. I would have loved a bit of it in my youth rather than be full of angst. It’s also good to learn from others’ experiences saving yourself a lot of grief but nature steers us to experience it ourselves as that way the learning stays with you. I’m so glad to discover the stoics. 💐🥰 I was over sharing n over emotional but now I’ve found a great balance through stoicism. I now handle things with calm, logic understanding n patience. 8 wish I’d found it years ago
Really glad i watched this even though I'm not in 20s anymore and i'm a girl - but dude it's epic. Thank you. So accord with your words. And intro. I appreciate your channel when you need 'the pocketbook close at hand' but like Tay Tay, I need to calm down...I can do it with a broken heart. Hit the marks. Love this dude. All of it.
Thanks so much Ryan, awesome. I was taken with the dying thing. Do stuff now even though you know you’re gonna pop off before 18 months. Yes I’ll do it, though at first decided not to bother. Isn’t it sad we only get wisdom when we get older. I would have loved a bit of it in my youth rather than be full of angst. It’s also good to learn from others’ experiences saving yourself a lot of grief but nature steers us to experience it ourselves as that way the learning stays with you. I’m so glad to discover the stoics. 💐🥰
I'd love to hear more stories from Ryan's 20's. A video where he sits down and narrates some of them, or a compilation from various talks and podcasts where he has shared them.
You. Make me less afraid. Thank you for making stoicism easy to apply in my life. Some of your talks, I also preach to other people. Im 34 and they say I talk like Im 60 “what the heck happened for you to know this much at 34?" 🤭 I just refer them to your chanell
"You are dying every day". Indeed. I've long remembered a quote attributed to Einstein "The saddest part of life is the little bit of dying we do every day".
Cảm ơn Ryan. Những lời nhắc nhở của bạn về cách sống mỗi ngày thật sự rất đáng quý. Đúng là có những bài học mà nếu biết sớm thì cuộc sống sẽ dễ dàng hơn nhiều. Bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những nguyên lý Stoic trong việc đối diện với khó khăn? Liệu có phải đôi khi chúng ta quá tập trung vào những điều ngoài tầm kiểm soát mà quên mất sức mạnh của sự tự điều chỉnh?
He read the effing book. Even he can’t help but put his passion into this. He knows the power of words and uses them wisely rather than for profit. Just think how powerful his persuasive approach is and thank the gods he uses it for the greater good.
18:58 The Corollary to that ("Make Your Boss Look Good") that has served me well in my career is this: "Keep you boss' boss off of your boss' back". Never let your boss be surprised or find out something about you from somebody other than you. Show discernment - don't go to your boss with every detail but keep them informed about possible land mines that they will need to know. With a good boss it builds trust, respect, and goodwill. If you're unfortunate enough that your boss ends up using that against you for any reason, get out of there. That means they are a terrible boss and you want to abandon that sinking ship immediately.
Wonderful video. New York has been wearing me down. I did ayahuasca a few times, yet it continues. So I guess I need to do the work and change my perspective.
First discovered Stoicism after being told all my life that I looked “stoic” and just assumed it was lacking emotion. My sister recommended me Ego Is the Enemy, which opened me up to Ryan Holiday, then the true meaning of Stoicism. As a current 20 year old male who hasn’t found his purpose yet, Stoicism thus far has been a wonderful guide to brave this world.
It’s great to hear that Stoicism has been a helpful guide for you in navigating life. It’s often assumed that being "stoic" means being emotionless, but Stoicism teaches us to respond wisely to emotions, not to suppress them. The philosophy helps us focus on what we can control, especially in moments of uncertainty. At 20, it’s completely normal to feel like you haven't found your purpose yet, as many of us go through this phase. Do you think Stoicism has influenced how you approach figuring out your purpose, or has it helped you become more patient with the process of discovery?
@ It for sure has. I’ve been overwhelmed with responsibility for as long as I remember and there’s a constant feeling of pressure with most of what I do in a day. Stoicism has helped me channel my thoughts and emotions to focus positively and clearly with my actions, which has improved my self-esteem and patience significantly. I’m also far more understanding of others while still acting true to myself. And at the end of the day, it’s a beacon of light and hope to help navigate me through tough times in life. I’m incredibly grateful for exploring the practice, working on it daily, and I have Mr. Holiday to thank for that.
We don't rise to the standards we have when others are watching. We fall to the standards we have when no one is watching. The only work that really matters is the work that no one sees. It shows you who you really are Rather than who you say you are.
a chance click on one of your recent videos made me buy Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, and the first 30 pages already made a big impact. thank you for bringing this to my attention, it is exactly what I need in this moment
“Another has done me wrong? Let him see to it. He has his own tendencies, and his own affairs. What I have now is what the common nature has willed, and what I endeavor to accomplish now is what my nature wills.” -MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 5.25
Early Christianity had strong connect to Stoicism. In fact, while putting together the NT canon there was a collection of fake letters between Seneca & St Paul. Much of stoicism is in NT. When I quote it to fellow christians, many think I am quoting NT.
Life is gonna put you through it. You'll probably feel like a f*#$@ng loser at some point(s). You can always rebound. While, at least looking back, I LOVED my 20s, many of the things I found challenging and many roads that said "closed" have changed so much. Doors have opened, hills that seemed steep feel flat, life changes if you continue to grow. Enjoy being young, just learn from each failure. Do not be foolish, but never be afraid to fail. If you're not making mistakes, you're not doing anything. Embrace each challenge and setback, it builds character. As for growing more conservative as you age... Well, part of that for me was simply understanding my 150M countrymen voting have no interest in a utopia. What's pragmatic but still maintains my values? That's been a big shift. *Man this is a jampacked video!!!* Finding a job that teaches you... Brilliant. I've learned more from my floating career than I did in college. And I've made a a few hundred K (that's not much spread out) vs spending 100k. You do have time. Don't bank on having forever. I hit 30 and a few weeks later the words "brain cancer" became a common part of my vocabulary. That's been an 11 year fight. Sucks? Definitely. Changed my life for the better? Without question. *The sheer amount of life advice... Dude* 🤯 Make your boss's job easier. I hate brown nosing, both as an employee but even moreso as a manager. However, "anything I can help with?" or "I'm noticing ___ and I'd like to help fix it" go a LONG way. You're gonna deal with a boss, might as well be a positive relationship. And, hey, once I like and trust you, you've got someone helping you move up the ladder. I went from the mailroom to Sr. Project Manager in 3 years with nothing but a film degree and a positive attitude.
My problem with lesson 1 is this. We may not control what is going to happen to us, but we do potentially have influence over it. This is why we worry. Anxiety is a signal to review where we are, and consider taking some action, or change course, to prevent some potential bad future outcome. Of course there is no guarentee that acting will prevent a future catastrophe, but I am uncomfortable with taking a “what will happen, will happen” approach, and ignoring my internal anxiety warning system which is asking me if I want to take some alternative path or action.
I think it's a question of balance. For example, I have a tendency to over-worry, over-prepare, and run through scenarios over and over again in my head until I lose all hope. There comes a point where you have to take a step back and remind yourself that you have already done whatever you can do to be prepared so it's time to move on and see what happens. Critically ask youself "If I replay this problem in my head one more time, will I reach any new conclusions or solutions, something I can implement, or will I just make myself more anxious to no benefit?"
Yes, I agree with you. It is a balance. I just find the distinction between what is controllable and what is not, too binary. While I agree that how we respond to any situation is all that we are fully in control of, there is a big grey middle ground, where we have influence….and this is the source of much of my anxiety, at least
I have always been idealistic with strong morals and principles. People (mostly men) often told me it was cute and unrealistic and it that it would dissipate over time. I’m almost 60 and I continue to be an idealist. I see injustice everywhere and I work towards justice - paricularly for the 80 BILLION land animals bred,confined, transported and slaughtered annually for food. I’ve had successes - as have others working for justice. I believe most people are basically good want a peaceful life unless they are emotionally damaged or depraved in which case they need help and boundaries.
I’m the opposite- was staunch Republican as young (indoctrination in Christianity), now I’m a progressive Democrat. I feel that I have developed more of an open heart.
You developed an ill mind. Something happened to it and you should go see a doctor about it. No rational person grows up conservative and changes willingly to a progressive democrat. What’s ironic is there’s nothing progressive about liberalism. It’s more lunacy than anything.
I was very right wing when I was about 16 to 26. I was certain I could reconcile the inconsistencies I saw in "my camp". While I could ultimately reconcile some of those, it didn't matter because no one else in "my camp" could or wanted to. Now in my 50's I'm definitely middle to left of center.
Something i have really struggled with all of my adult life is how ti bakance being a stoic and a Buddhist wjth being a liberal. Especially now. I am trying to empathize with my wife in the wake if the election, but im alsk trying to makntain my mental health. How do we do this? They seem like opposites.
That's interesting. At age 65I have a lot in common with the young guys who are like turning 2122. Because I'm in a new situation called old age and impanding death. I mean not right away. I hope, but yeah, I'm in the last 25 years, and they're embarking on a whole new thing too, where they've Done some amazing s*** When you think about it, we all did you know that whole break from your parents? Economically, establish your own identity outside of your existing family, determine your sexuality and find your vocation, what you do for money. That s*** is huge, but yeah, these lessons apply to all age groups, and they're easily forgotten. In the shitstorm
Why doesn't Ryan Halliday apologize for his liberal views and COVID non believer Bashing Great guy and I respect him for bringing me into the world of Stoicism But he was completely brainwashed and in stoic like in these times And I think us smart people who were eventually proved right deserve an apology
I'm curious about why you say "especially for young men"? I understand why you say "young" person, but why do you believe it applies more to young men than young women? I'm not a hater; I'm actually a big fan who has participated in several of your courses and read all your Stoic books, but I was a little turned off by that statement and I wonder what I'm missing.
Probably an oversight / accident. Ryan's speaking from experience so naturally, inclined to think in male terms. But I have seen many of his videos and many times he's mentioned Stoicism is just as applicable for women and there have been many women throughout history into Stoicism as well.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
I think it's because nowadays there are a lot of people trying to scam young men by appealing to their frustrations (that have increased since the massiveness of the internet) and tend to generate less good social interactions.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
Has anyone noticed how the text on his cap is so screamiing in your eyes? - when in his other video's he's wearing the cap backwards like a teenager? Oh, yes, I almost forgot: he's a businessman who uses subliminal advertising for his books and products...
All the liberals in here is hilarious. Stoicism and liberalism are basically oxymorons. Stoicism emphasizes personal responsibility, self-discipline, and accepting what cannot be controlled, whereas modern liberalism often focuses on systemic change, collective responsibility, and addressing external injustices. This is definitely contradictory. Stoicism teaches individuals to focus inward, controlling their reactions and finding peace regardless of external circumstances. Liberalism, particularly in its modern form, often seeks to change those external circumstances to create a more equitable society. While stoicism might counsel someone to endure inequality with grace and self-reliance, liberalism might advocate for dismantling the systems causing the inequality. Even if inequality doesn’t exist.
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"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer. Keep it posted in my kitchen as a constant reminder.
Recently I was catching up on a podcast by Hank and John Green and they discussed what Hank was doing last year when he was diagnosed with cancer (now in remission). His brother, John, asked "But Hank, why were you starting so many projects? You had cancer, you could have died from it and left all these projects unfinished" to which Hank's response was "John, we're dying all the time, you will always leave life with unfinished projects. Having cancer made no difference, there was still some good I could do on the days when I felt like I had more energy, so that's what I did". I don't think Hank is a stoic as such, but his response did remind me of Seneca and Marcus, reminding us that life is short and you should try to do good today instead of putting it off until some uncertain future.
We're all born dying.
Learn the lessons make it a positive. "Actively looking for good". Lifes to short to be grumpy.
Thankyou for reminding us
At 81, i find i still have much to learn, i can still learn, and i can learn from those far younger than i as well as from wise men of the past. I have been asking and seeking how shall i live in these times, what is my stance to be in the midst of all the noise, the craziness, the divisions, the dangers from fools and circumstance. Ryan, you are a breath of fresh air. I am both learning and remembering, and i thank you.
I’m about to turn 20 in a month. I’ve had a rough teenagehood but I really hope I can become mentally stronger and better in my 20s.
Do not hope for this command this ❤❤
You can do whatever you set your mind to❤
Don't just read good things, do good things. Be mindful of your actions and the actions of others so you don't react too soon or in a way that isn't constructive. See the good in others and yourself. Get a good sleep routine and use sunscreen.
@@ay2257 and remember to dance more and love more and smell the roses.
Gratitude Ryan for being consistently helpful and giving.
they way you make it feel like you are talking to me directly is resonating.
Cảm ơn bạn đã chia sẻ suy nghĩ của mình! Đúng là khi một bài học có thể chạm đến chúng ta theo cách mà cảm thấy như được nói trực tiếp, nó tạo ra một sự kết nối rất mạnh mẽ. Vậy bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những bài học Stoic vào cuộc sống hàng ngày? Có bài học nào bạn đã thử áp dụng và thấy có sự thay đổi nào không?
You are an inspiring person filled with positivity and insight. Thank you. I also admire your ongoing respect for Robert Greene. Someone who pays tribute to their mentors even after they themselves have "made it" is someone who has truly arrived. Congrats, Ryan. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for sharing such thoughtful reflections. Respecting mentors like Robert Greene indeed shows a deep sense of gratitude and humility, which is admirable. From a Stoic perspective, how do you think acknowledging those who shaped our journey aligns with the idea of focusing on what we can control? Would love to hear your thoughts on this connection.
I am 29 years old and going to be 30 next year I found stoic last year and still learning something new everyday
Another lesson I learned late is to be humble with oneself when it comes to others, especially when bad agents tell us who they are and all the bad things they want happen. Take people's word for it, don't try to outsmart their history by making up one's own narrative, don't assume you are so superior that you know them better. One type of arrogance premiering our lives today is masochistic martyrdom. This idea that the more horrendous people are to us and the people we care about, the more empathy we owe them, and all the more intellectual resources we must devote to excuse their behavior. The greatest arrogance is pompous humility. Look at people as they are, have boundaries, stand up for what is right even if it may appear antagonistic. True kindness is when you are able to protect kindness, not when you allow your kindness to be a perfect fitting hard boot for the unkind to stomp the kind. True self respect cannot be achieve if one insist to upkeep utmost respect to the people who can't even have one sliver of respect to others, especially when this "other" includes the people you actually respect or ought to respect, which by definition includes yourself.
Never too. Late
Thanks so much Ryan, awesome. I was taken with the dying thing. Do stuff now even though you know you’re gonna pop off before 18 months. Yes I’ll do it, though at first decided not to bother. Isn’t it sad we only get wisdom when we get older. I would have loved a bit of it in my youth rather than be full of angst. It’s also good to learn from others’ experiences saving yourself a lot of grief but nature steers us to experience it ourselves as that way the learning stays with you. I’m so glad to discover the stoics. 💐🥰 I was over sharing n over emotional but now I’ve found a great balance through stoicism. I now handle things with calm, logic understanding n patience. 8 wish I’d found it years ago
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I always learn something when I watch your videos. Thank you for today's fix. 😊
Really glad i watched this even though I'm not in 20s anymore and i'm a girl - but dude it's epic. Thank you. So accord with your words. And intro. I appreciate your channel when you need 'the pocketbook close at hand' but like Tay Tay, I need to calm down...I can do it with a broken heart. Hit the marks. Love this dude. All of it.
Exellent video as always!! Thsnk you so much❤❤❤
Thanks so much Ryan, awesome. I was taken with the dying thing. Do stuff now even though you know you’re gonna pop off before 18 months. Yes I’ll do it, though at first decided not to bother. Isn’t it sad we only get wisdom when we get older. I would have loved a bit of it in my youth rather than be full of angst. It’s also good to learn from others’ experiences saving yourself a lot of grief but nature steers us to experience it ourselves as that way the learning stays with you. I’m so glad to discover the stoics. 💐🥰
These videos have helped me and continue to help me so much.
It's surprising how under the radar the book The Secret Doctrine of Wealth is. If you're curious, It is definitely worth a look.
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I'd love to hear more stories from Ryan's 20's. A video where he sits down and narrates some of them, or a compilation from various talks and podcasts where he has shared them.
Thanks. You've become my go to inspiration. (Until the next phase of change - which hopefully you will cover as well so then I won't have to leave!)
Great channel to refresh my stoic knowledge that I've read through the many books of the greats!
I am reading the daily stoic currently, and have seen positive outcomes from this new perspective. Thanks for the insightful content!
You. Make me less afraid. Thank you for making stoicism easy to apply in my life. Some of your talks, I also preach to other people.
Im 34 and they say I talk like Im 60 “what the heck happened for you to know this much at 34?"
🤭 I just refer them to your chanell
Preach?
"You are dying every day". Indeed. I've long remembered a quote attributed to Einstein "The saddest part of life is the little bit of dying we do every day".
A song once said, "We begin to die one second after we're born."
08:23 am, having a black coffee and listening this 15 life lessons has been a gift.
great lessons of wisdom, thank you for your existence, thank you for your generosity in sharing with all
Been following for years Ryan and this is definitely one of your best. Appreciate u man.
Really apppreciate your education which is so meaningful to me! I am in my 20's
Everything you said was amazing and on point, I loved this!!
Thank u Ryan. Love ur reminders for living life daily.
Cảm ơn Ryan. Những lời nhắc nhở của bạn về cách sống mỗi ngày thật sự rất đáng quý. Đúng là có những bài học mà nếu biết sớm thì cuộc sống sẽ dễ dàng hơn nhiều. Bạn nghĩ sao về việc áp dụng những nguyên lý Stoic trong việc đối diện với khó khăn? Liệu có phải đôi khi chúng ta quá tập trung vào những điều ngoài tầm kiểm soát mà quên mất sức mạnh của sự tự điều chỉnh?
He read the effing book. Even he can’t help but put his passion into this. He knows the power of words and uses them wisely rather than for profit. Just think how powerful his persuasive approach is and thank the gods he uses it for the greater good.
Haven't finished yet but this video is one of the best You've made, Ryan :D Amazing!!
I've been looking into stoicism lately, thanks for this video😂😂🎉🎉🎉
I learned a lot. Thank you, Mr. Ryan.
Thank you. I think that in this kind of videos is very helpful to add timestamps
18:58 The Corollary to that ("Make Your Boss Look Good") that has served me well in my career is this: "Keep you boss' boss off of your boss' back". Never let your boss be surprised or find out something about you from somebody other than you. Show discernment - don't go to your boss with every detail but keep them informed about possible land mines that they will need to know.
With a good boss it builds trust, respect, and goodwill. If you're unfortunate enough that your boss ends up using that against you for any reason, get out of there. That means they are a terrible boss and you want to abandon that sinking ship immediately.
Great comment.
Wonderful video. New York has been wearing me down. I did ayahuasca a few times, yet it continues. So I guess I need to do the work and change my perspective.
First discovered Stoicism after being told all my life that I looked “stoic” and just assumed it was lacking emotion. My sister recommended me Ego Is the Enemy, which opened me up to Ryan Holiday, then the true meaning of Stoicism. As a current 20 year old male who hasn’t found his purpose yet, Stoicism thus far has been a wonderful guide to brave this world.
It’s great to hear that Stoicism has been a helpful guide for you in navigating life. It’s often assumed that being "stoic" means being emotionless, but Stoicism teaches us to respond wisely to emotions, not to suppress them. The philosophy helps us focus on what we can control, especially in moments of uncertainty. At 20, it’s completely normal to feel like you haven't found your purpose yet, as many of us go through this phase. Do you think Stoicism has influenced how you approach figuring out your purpose, or has it helped you become more patient with the process of discovery?
@ It for sure has. I’ve been overwhelmed with responsibility for as long as I remember and there’s a constant feeling of pressure with most of what I do in a day. Stoicism has helped me channel my thoughts and emotions to focus positively and clearly with my actions, which has improved my self-esteem and patience significantly. I’m also far more understanding of others while still acting true to myself. And at the end of the day, it’s a beacon of light and hope to help navigate me through tough times in life. I’m incredibly grateful for exploring the practice, working on it daily, and I have Mr. Holiday to thank for that.
Ego is the enemy freaking helped me during hard times
"The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing." -Socrates
Honestly such a beautiful video
Thanks ryan, i needed this.
We don't rise to the standards we have when others are watching.
We fall to the standards we have when no one is watching.
The only work that really matters is the work that no one sees.
It shows you who you really are
Rather than who you say you are.
Keep up the good work.
Needed this reminder!
a chance click on one of your recent videos made me buy Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, and the first 30 pages already made a big impact. thank you for bringing this to my attention, it is exactly what I need in this moment
“Another has done me wrong? Let him see to it. He has his own tendencies, and his own affairs. What I have now is what the common nature has willed, and what I endeavor to accomplish now is what my nature wills.”
-MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 5.25
Great vid. Thank you
Ryan, thank you
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Thank you.
Most excellent.
Great stuff.
Early Christianity had strong connect to Stoicism. In fact, while putting together the NT canon there was a collection of fake letters between Seneca & St Paul. Much of stoicism is in NT. When I quote it to fellow christians, many think I am quoting NT.
Well said.
Great meditation to start the day=]
Wild how aligned stoic and dhamma are
LIVE AN INTERESTING LIFE!
Life is gonna put you through it. You'll probably feel like a f*#$@ng loser at some point(s). You can always rebound. While, at least looking back, I LOVED my 20s, many of the things I found challenging and many roads that said "closed" have changed so much. Doors have opened, hills that seemed steep feel flat, life changes if you continue to grow.
Enjoy being young, just learn from each failure. Do not be foolish, but never be afraid to fail. If you're not making mistakes, you're not doing anything. Embrace each challenge and setback, it builds character.
As for growing more conservative as you age... Well, part of that for me was simply understanding my 150M countrymen voting have no interest in a utopia. What's pragmatic but still maintains my values? That's been a big shift.
*Man this is a jampacked video!!!*
Finding a job that teaches you... Brilliant. I've learned more from my floating career than I did in college. And I've made a a few hundred K (that's not much spread out) vs spending 100k.
You do have time. Don't bank on having forever. I hit 30 and a few weeks later the words "brain cancer" became a common part of my vocabulary. That's been an 11 year fight. Sucks? Definitely. Changed my life for the better? Without question.
*The sheer amount of life advice... Dude* 🤯
Make your boss's job easier. I hate brown nosing, both as an employee but even moreso as a manager. However, "anything I can help with?" or "I'm noticing ___ and I'd like to help fix it" go a LONG way. You're gonna deal with a boss, might as well be a positive relationship. And, hey, once I like and trust you, you've got someone helping you move up the ladder. I went from the mailroom to Sr. Project Manager in 3 years with nothing but a film degree and a positive attitude.
My problem with lesson 1 is this. We may not control what is going to happen to us, but we do potentially have influence over it. This is why we worry. Anxiety is a signal to review where we are, and consider taking some action, or change course, to prevent some potential bad future outcome. Of course there is no guarentee that acting will prevent a future catastrophe, but I am uncomfortable with taking a “what will happen, will happen” approach, and ignoring my internal anxiety warning system which is asking me if I want to take some alternative path or action.
I think it's a question of balance. For example, I have a tendency to over-worry, over-prepare, and run through scenarios over and over again in my head until I lose all hope. There comes a point where you have to take a step back and remind yourself that you have already done whatever you can do to be prepared so it's time to move on and see what happens. Critically ask youself "If I replay this problem in my head one more time, will I reach any new conclusions or solutions, something I can implement, or will I just make myself more anxious to no benefit?"
Yes, I agree with you. It is a balance. I just find the distinction between what is controllable and what is not, too binary. While I agree that how we respond to any situation is all that we are fully in control of, there is a big grey middle ground, where we have influence….and this is the source of much of my anxiety, at least
I’ve been through some terrible times in my life…….some of which actually happened
I have always been idealistic with strong morals and principles. People (mostly men) often told me it was cute and unrealistic and it that it would dissipate over time.
I’m almost 60 and I continue to be an idealist. I see injustice everywhere and I work towards justice - paricularly for the 80 BILLION land animals bred,confined, transported and slaughtered annually for food. I’ve had successes - as have others working for justice.
I believe most people are basically good want a peaceful life unless they are emotionally damaged or depraved in which case they need help and boundaries.
You have uniquely rare perspective😮
Yep,Steven Covey principle 1 -be proactive
Many truths found here
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thx Ryan
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I swear, The Elite Society's Money Manifestation is one of the best books I’ve read. It’s life-changing
I’m the opposite- was staunch Republican as young (indoctrination in Christianity), now I’m a progressive Democrat. I feel that I have developed more of an open heart.
I know the history of religion, but hating it because religion trauma when you refuse to work through that trauma is even sadder my guy.
@@Skoopyghost read their comment and do not see or read hate in his comment, my guy.
That’s the opposite of stoicism
You developed an ill mind. Something happened to it and you should go see a doctor about it. No rational person grows up conservative and changes willingly to a progressive democrat. What’s ironic is there’s nothing progressive about liberalism. It’s more lunacy than anything.
I was very right wing when I was about 16 to 26. I was certain I could reconcile the inconsistencies I saw in "my camp". While I could ultimately reconcile some of those, it didn't matter because no one else in "my camp" could or wanted to. Now in my 50's I'm definitely middle to left of center.
Write them out
Read the bible and know God❤
If nobody knows how do we know stoicism is the way?
Something i have really struggled with all of my adult life is how ti bakance being a stoic and a Buddhist wjth being a liberal. Especially now. I am trying to empathize with my wife in the wake if the election, but im alsk trying to makntain my mental health. How do we do this? They seem like opposites.
If you’re a liberal your mental health hasn’t been maintained. You need to see a doctor.
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are there a lot of setbacks with your journey with this philosophy?
i found this dude out from mark manson, thanks mark and thank you ryan
Which one do you think can be a better guide at this point of your life?
Be honest
BOOOO keep the swearing in at 8:14 GREAT WORK RYAN
08:14 • Common sense.
That's interesting. At age 65I have a lot in common with the young guys who are like turning 2122. Because I'm in a new situation called old age and impanding death. I mean not right away. I hope, but yeah, I'm in the last 25 years, and they're embarking on a whole new thing too, where they've Done some amazing s*** When you think about it, we all did you know that whole break from your parents? Economically, establish your own identity outside of your existing family, determine your sexuality and find your vocation, what you do for money. That s*** is huge, but yeah, these lessons apply to all age groups, and they're easily forgotten. In the shitstorm
I am a girl in my 20s
Careful identifying your gender around this guy. He was a dude for Harris after all
Wasnt expecting a taylor swift reference tbh
so are you saying the people who have a hard time ready like people with dyslexia can't be a stoic ?????
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Ryan is clearly a depressed person. Ego is HIS enemy.
Hellyeah
Well, Ryan, that's true! Twenty years from now most of us will be daed! By then, who cares!
Why is this especially for young men?
Because they're idiots
I'd like to echo this question. I'm merely curious because I would say these principles are universal.
Yes, I had to employ some Stoic philosophy to keep listening after he said that. It was challenging not to stereotype.
"young men especially" - why?
I thought it was interesting about talking with dead aka reading....
The fact you used Taylor Swift as an example is an absolute JOKE!
He tells a lot of jokes.
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Why doesn't Ryan Halliday apologize for his liberal views and COVID non believer Bashing
Great guy and I respect him for bringing me into the world of Stoicism
But he was completely brainwashed and in stoic like in these times
And I think us smart people who were eventually proved right deserve an apology
Half these comments look like scams/marketing.....
I'm curious about why you say "especially for young men"? I understand why you say "young" person, but why do you believe it applies more to young men than young women? I'm not a hater; I'm actually a big fan who has participated in several of your courses and read all your Stoic books, but I was a little turned off by that statement and I wonder what I'm missing.
Probably an oversight / accident. Ryan's speaking from experience so naturally, inclined to think in male terms. But I have seen many of his videos and many times he's mentioned Stoicism is just as applicable for women and there have been many women throughout history into Stoicism as well.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
I think it's because nowadays there are a lot of people trying to scam young men by appealing to their frustrations (that have increased since the massiveness of the internet) and tend to generate less good social interactions.
I think it’s because men often face more pitfalls in life compared to women. Men are surrounded by a toxic environment that promotes harmful influences, and he’s hoping to change that trajectory. Just look at how many negative role models are celebrated as champions for men, often masking harmful ideologies under the guise of stoicism or self-improvement. Figures like Andrew Tate or Joe Rogan are examples of this trend. In contrast, young women have inspiring role models like Taylor Swift, Malala Yousafzai, Serena Williams, and Emma Watson-individuals who promote empowerment and positivity. Unfortunately for men, we often encounter figures who encourage us to act in negative and self-destructive ways. It’s a harsh reality that needs to change.
He probably references young men because he was one himself and that’s the only field of reference he has to work with.
Focus on how to respond to our environment -- very Buddhist.
Did just use Taylor swift? R U High!
That caught me off guard as well. Lol. We have to take what resonates and leave the rest at the door
He also used Bill Gates picture as an example of an entrepreneur. But…..choosing to focus on the lesson 😂
Has anyone noticed how the text on his cap is so screamiing in your eyes? - when in his other video's he's wearing the cap backwards like a teenager? Oh, yes, I almost forgot: he's a businessman who uses subliminal advertising for his books and products...
All the liberals in here is hilarious.
Stoicism and liberalism are basically oxymorons. Stoicism emphasizes personal responsibility, self-discipline, and accepting what cannot be controlled, whereas modern liberalism often focuses on systemic change, collective responsibility, and addressing external injustices. This is definitely contradictory.
Stoicism teaches individuals to focus inward, controlling their reactions and finding peace regardless of external circumstances. Liberalism, particularly in its modern form, often seeks to change those external circumstances to create a more equitable society. While stoicism might counsel someone to endure inequality with grace and self-reliance, liberalism might advocate for dismantling the systems causing the inequality. Even if inequality doesn’t exist.