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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
- Want to level-up your emotional intelligence??
(This one might sound really strange, but bear with me…)
When it comes to emotions, we usually say, “I’m sad…” I’m angry…” “I’m frustrated…” “I’m stressed.”
But here’s what we don’t realize…
When we say “I AM [insert emotion]” it becomes a part of who we are, rather than a temporary and fleeting emotion. There’s a permanence to it.
In using “I AM…”, we come to identify with the emotion as if we ARE the emotion.
When we look to emotion and cognitive behavioural research, an emotion is felt in response to some sort of stimulus, based on how we INTERPRET it and the MEANING we apply.
So if we can learn to heighten our self-awareness when it comes to how we refer to emotions, it can change how we experience them.
All it requires is a simple tweak:
Instead of:
“I AM… [insert emotion].”
Try:
“My brain and body have registered the emotion of X.”
Or if that sounds too un-natural (totally understandable), try more simply,
“I FEEL [insert emotion].”
It’s a simple way to remind yourself in the moment that you are NOT your emotion, even if it may feel that way. And you can change the meaning you apply to an event. (Interestingly, this is the basis of cognitive behavioural therapy).
Share how you FEEL, not what you ARE.
Have you ever done this before? How did it feel? 👇
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I take control of my emotions by analyzing the trigger, and then figure out the reason. I then transmute the energy by processing the emotions, reprogram my reaction, and then release. I basically eliminate what makes me feel disempowered, eliminate triggers that cause negative emotions, and then release them. I still struggle when emotions blindside me, but I pick it apart and figure why I reacted this way. Understanding myself is important to me.
I find that I do the same thing, and this goes beyond identifying the emotion because then I can better address (and correct the cause), or eliminate the negative emotion altogether by realizing it was unfounded.
I agree with both of you. I really wanna take this path of emptional intelligence, is there any advice you would give to your younger self?
My mom sees me and ask me why I am sad. I said to her ..
"I have registered the emotion of sadness."
Then she said what?? Then I said never mind. Then I became irritated and angry. Then she look at me being confused..Then I said.
"My brain and body have registered the emotion of anger."
Then she walk away and said I am weird. 😁
LMAOOO! next thing you have a psychiatrist knocking in your room.
I heavily identify with my emotions I really appreciate you bringing this up and grateful to have found it
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
I really like this advice. Emotions are important but they are telling you what is important in that moment as opposed to the emotion actually being important. Sometimes all they are telling you is that you are tired or hungry.
Good advice. These emotions are triggered by something, evaluate what made you feel so and work to manage those emotions.
Very helpful. On another note, the hair! Gorgeous hair.
I agree. Those waves are PERFECT. And this is a great breakdown; a good way of remembering that emotions pass and are fleeting.
You help me understand myself better and be efficient at work...thanks a lot💕
Very helpful. Thanks 🙏🏻 ❤
Made me smile ,I thought I was over controling myself ,not reacting and only acknowledge
This is quite thoughtful and enlightening.
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Thanks so much for sharing this
Excellent info. Thx for your videos
You are amazing !
That recognition of the state of mind by identifying your anger is called “self-awareness.” Dr. David Goldman describes self-awareness as one of the Emotional Intelligence competencies that every human should adopt to be able to manage their emotions and prevent an amygdala rapture generated in the human limbic system. Good start by your explanation.
Emotions are difficult to control is true for sensitive people..😊❤
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Thank you... please share more information on Emotional intelligence
1.Daily mindflushout
2. Positive speech, gratttitude before u go to bed(better than scolding yourself for no gains)
Thanks for this. Really helpful.
U r so humble and sweet😊
This is so real! Thanks for sharing! Your feelings truly are data helping you to be more aware of your thoughts. Having positive thoughts and feelings allows you to not only be in a healthier state and have healthier relationships with people but it improves your relationship with manifestation as well! Instead of pushing your emotions down, ask yourself why you feel this way and what thoughts are leading to it.
~ Candace
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I just love it!
Excellent content
Glad you enjoyed it
maam the way you explain things are sp intuitive and helpful thank u
Your voice is amazing 😍
Most informative dii el sis..
Between the stimuli and the response lies a sliver of time wherein lies the choice - Victor Frankl used that behavioral psychology to survive the holocaust horrors. 2500 years ago Gautam Buddha attained nirvana by practicing Vipassana mediation, there he trained his mind to be a detached observer of the reactions to all stimuli and maintain equanimity. Shadè thanks for sharing that wisdom in simple and compelling youtube shorts for all.
Love this distinction. This is something I am working on!
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
You're the best❤
Right they are base clues to what you are discerning.
Wow so motivational 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Really informative ❤️
Decouple yourself from the emotion: love it, more people should learn this
Identify the emotion: excellent. Learn to recognize when you're upset
And then act accordingly based on the information: and now you've lost me
Do not make decisions based on emotions. Emotions are erratic and two people can experience different emotions from the same circumstances.
Identify your problem, find solutions, fix it if you can, then decide how you feel about it
I love this! Is this really what emotional intelligence is?!?
I love ur content
Useful and practical content like always !!! Keep it up !!! 👍👍
You explain so well in short clips. Shade is very talented.
To switch on spritual knowledge to get perfection. Thanks
Actually I saw a lot of youtubers talking about those topics
But the way you explain make everything inter my mind and my heart directly
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
@shade zahrai great Steps.how easy you trasfering understanding.
👍I feel good about this Information.
You talk with your eyes 😊
Great Thanks
“Tá bron orm” - There is sadness on me .3.
There is something static and definitive with “I am sad” compared to just recognizing that there is sadness at the moment.
It’s a subtle difference. But all emotions are temporary, do not define us, nor do we have to whole heartedly embrace the thoughts that accompany them. We can feel our emotions, accept them, question and challenge them, express our thoughts and feelings. Emotions can tell us things, they can lie, and we are more realistically our reactions to our emotions. Emotions are like the weather. We can feel anxiety come upon us, and then we can ask ourselves what we can do that aligns with our own values.
Muchas gracias por su 😘 video
The registry of anger has been with me all my life
I often fear it identifies me and becomes a permanent trait. But this helps.
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Voice of my mind.
Practice this for all mind matters instead. “I’m not the body, I am not the mind.”
Why can’t I find a thoughtful woman like you in my city? :D Love the content. Coming from an over thinking guy, your vocal tone, expressions, annunciation, calmness, knowledge, and insights are greatly appreciated.
SIMP
Once person is angry, lose ability to think. It's not possible to think this way. It's done after some time. Once anger is gone.
I'm good thanks
U instantly chnge my vibe
I usually hate quick fixes because they rarely work and are insulting to people looking for actual help but this is Step One is easy as it seems this really is step one
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Agree🙌
Wow, that's good 👍 I like that
Sadguru said the same 👌
Great!!
You don't have to intellectualize the emotion. Just sense it, in the body, and stay with it. Else you shall always be dealing with the symptoms rather than the cause.
This is what yoga tell us.❤
What's the second step?
In other words if you say “I am angry” you have already decided what you are and want to be in that moment but when or if you say “I feel angry” you are calling out the feeling and from there on you decided if you will continue to feel angry until you become angry or until you figure out a way to diffuse said anger find what makes that emotion click and really think about it
I got it!....thanks
Stoicism. You described stoicism.
Superb
thanks
Is there a second part to this video? Do you have anything more about emotional intelligence
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Thanks n I feel affectionated towards you
💯 true
Lately I have come across 2 experiences. A Coffee Bean manager called me and accused me as a customer who's an annoyance and disturbing their business. All I did was asked more about the coffee I was ordering and how many cups I can expect from buying their coffee bean bag
I was pissed off. I didn't react and spoke tho him calmly. I have stopped going to Coffee Bean since that day
Better say my brain feels angry or sad. It helps me a lot.
Nice!
Good idea bro
Wow 🌸🦋
I love it
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times.
This is very helpful, its like decoding the mind, because you are not your mind , i would recommend everyone to read "Power of Nowc by Eckhart Tolle , i have started mine - Saw fee videos by him & was drove to buy the book , i have started my journey , hope everyone here comes to their ultimate state of awareness bringing in more peace & inner happiness..... Stay Present Stay Happy Stay Peaceful.....
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
What about body language. How do i create this feeling of wormth and caring like in old freindship . What do you think about wile you are talking to the camera,
so im essentially numbing my emotion... to process the information to take an appropriate logical action.
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Love u ❤❤
Amazing
I don't know. I don't express emotions because they constantly change. If I'm angry one minute, my emotions may change within 5 minutes. I don't talk about these emotions because of this reason. The only time I talk about what I'm feeling is when the feeling is consistent for more than a day or 2. But things change by then and my mind is elsewhere. I can't justify my emotions if their going to change every few minutes. I feel as if there's no point on ruining someone's day because I feel sad or angry. I feel that would be selfish of me. Because I know when I'm feeling happy or good and I'm around someone who is angry or sad it puts an awkward vibe. Is that wrong of me? Or should I ask questions to see if I can be of help of that person? I know, I'm learning about emotion and behavior now due to the fact I've gone years without showing... Anything. I'd like to feel again. And I would also like to be able to read and people more. I've always had this, I don't care attitude and never took the time to understand people because I was never around them that much.
@shade - could you please tell how should we respond for "why do you looking for changing current job"
Very intelligent sycologist ❤😊
Emotion is information awesome😅😊❤
There's a meditation called vipassana were you learn how to detach from you emotions and be equanimous at all times
Its giving... bep boop.
"My brain and body have REGISTERED the emotion of anger." It feels like I am Spock 😅, a Vulcan from Star Trek. Just kidding, the advice is really helpful. 😊
I’m in love =)
De-identification as in de - personisation?
What if you have the right to be angry in that moment?
NLP....works
Dam you are smart cookie!
Emotional distancing
I have a doubt! if your mother or dad died youll cry or control your emotions ?
This requires very advanced self awareness skills and will not resonate with most people unfortunately.
Reminds me of the giver
Emotions are data dr susan David
Long long time in the past, our ancestors had collapsed these long sentences into angry, sad etc for the benefit of humans to understand quickly. They must be very disappointed to see that those words are being expanded again. 😂
I'm sure everyone's ancestor is screaming silently in a hell somewhere
Those words here are used to make anger a relative term for you and makes it easier to subjectively analyze it and hence prevents the emotion from overpowering you. A self talk or your defense mechanism against anger.
OMG I've been living like for ages
I want to meet u oneday...
its my dream.
I am so excited.
Great
It is like behaving like robot?
But what's the next step ?
i'm not drunk , i feel drunk... much better