Dating Advice From A Certified Sad Girl【Amanogawa Shiina | PHASE CONNECT】
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"if you ever go on a first date", man, Shiina has high hopes for us.
She believes in us cookies !
Great, now we get to disappoint our moms AND Shiina
"Queen Marika has high hopes for us. That we continue to struggle, unto eternity."
We're all gonna make it, bros.
@@blahblahboii GIRLFRIEND DATED - 500,000 runes
Shiina is right. It's deeply unsatisfying to be around a person who uses you as an emotional toilet.
Stealing that
What about as an skibidi toilet 🤨🤨🤨
@@judashentairoite8225 I don't think that generation is old enough for dating yet.
@@judashentairoite8225 Cringe
Depending on what you get out of it, it might be worth it
Challenge accepted.
Chat spamming "No" murdered my ribs man 😂😂😂😂
Poor Shiina, though too be fair she seems to have been expecting too much out of her fan base, in order to apply that advice they would have to attempt social interactions with a female.
She is right. Had to learn this the hard way. Memes aside you can't fix women who either don't want to be fixed or don't know how to be fixed. Work on yourself and be the best V-Tuber enjoyer you can be.
My first several dates were with women who talked about how badly their dating life was how they lucked out on men how they struggled in life and I just never went past a 2nd date.
@@JcBravo8 Comma's bro, use them!
Jermaine Cole once said “Dont save her, she dont wanna be saved”
That's not just women, that applies to people in general. You can't fix people. The only one who can "fix" a person is the person themselves. All that the people around them can do is nudge them in the right direction and occasionally offer a helping hand. But if the person won't work for it themselves or won't even acknowledge that there's a problem in the first place, then forget it. Don't waste your time.
To her credit, she gives good advices. Just to people who could never use them
What advice for example? Especially regarding 'how to get a date'?
The advice right in this clip: look out for this particular red flag. Better no date than bad date
But this advice is only useful to people who can already get date, so not the cookies. "How to get a date" is not what she giving advices on, only the part that comes after
@@QweaklyForgotten A bit weird though, when she goes 'has any of my advice given you a date', when she never gave such advice in that regard.
And the answer 'how to get a date is primarly be 'be superficial/good looking enough'
"You could have lied"
LMAOOOOOO
No, Shiina, but that's not your fault. It was probably good advice 15 years ago.
It’s like giving the residents of Chernobyl diet advice after the meltdown…good advice generally but the situation is so screwed that the only thing you can do is wait for the inevitable
Got a date? No. Recognize patterns? Yes and recognizing patterns for me is more important
The patterns;
i can't stop,
yearning statistics
Dodge those divorce papers bois
The advice in the clip is good, but to follow it you almost have to never date American/Canadian women so every viewer over here is screwed...
@@jacobblanton5179The only winning moves are either not playing the game or changing the league you’re playing in.
@@jacobblanton5179 hi, Euro women are no better
Bro, I can't just "run from the crazy ones" that's my whole dating pool
Sounds like you need to find a different pool.
@@Fraggr92 Nah, who knows if the next is worse, I can deal with crazy
What of worse can happen? One of them killing me? That would be just making me sleep forever, and sleeping is great
@@valleyard8674 Where the fuck did you find an actual real-life yandere pool?
Bro get out it's not worth it
The last girl I took out for a date, she mentioned her ex and bjs in the first thirty minutes. And I’m just there like, *pardon?*
I used to go to a sandwich shop fairly often a few years ago, one of the girls working there took notice and asked if she could take her break and eat lunch with me, about 5 minutes in she said "you are so easy to talk too, I feel I could tell you anything" about 10 minutes in she told me about her miscarriage from a few years before.
Should have offered to give her another one bro
@@Huarrnargrelax with the edginess pal ...
Hope they sold alcohol there. I woulda needed a few pints.
see you guys at the gym
Real stuff, just went yesterday too
You don’t really need to go to the gym. Just do some calisthenics push ups. Saves time and money when you are a beginner.
@@friendlyhobo6483 More plates more dates. Don't do that gay shit, progressive overload with heavy weights.
@@asddsa8203 As a firm believer of progressive overload being the optimal way to build muscle strength and size. And the best option for most people to achieve progressive overload is going to a gym.
Not everyone is trying to get a bodybuilder physique. Most people just want to be healthy strong and look good. You can achieve that very well at a gym. Or by doing Calisthenics, running and dieting. You don't need a gym to work out and be healthy.
@@asddsa8203that’s good advice if you’re trying to date men.
From personal experience the ones that baggage dump on the first date are usually safer, because you either get the chance to run or know what you are getting into =p. It's the ones you only finally find out about the baggage three months into the relationship and then it just keeps piling up like an airplane cargo hold that are the real issue lol.
All the girls I've ever gotten close to and tried to date/court... they did that to me. And, yehp, never turned out well. Shiina's 100% spot on with that. Man, I just wish I'd meet someone who didn't just "like me" only to turn me into a fricking emotional pillow for dumping issues onto. Every damned time.
Them opening up about emotional issues is fine, if it's past boyfriends that's a big no though.
@@Steven-hq3go, well, here's the pattern that I noticed. They'll be interested in a conversation and eventually even dating/courting. They'll start pouring their heart out to you, but they'll rarely be interested in hearing you out when it comes to yours. So, it's often one-sided. And, after a few times they've successfully utilized you as said emotional pillow for whatever baggage they had going on, all of a sudden, they're suddenly disinterested and will never personally interact with you ever again even after you've put in a lot of effort into getting to know them better. Worse, if it doesn't end in getting completely ghosted outright, you'll suddenly hear gossip around you that never even happened in the first place. They'll start posting about their date with you on their social media stories and so on with the general context being their distaste of men like you, and you're just left emotionally distraught. This is not me saying or claiming that all women are like that. Maybe I've just been an unlucky guy. So, as of writing, I've honestly stopped trying. I'm just focusing on work and trying to find time to exercise more and stay healthy. And I'm happy I discovered the VTuber space relatively recently (around a year or two now... if my memory is correct). One thing I'm sure of... is that none of those scenarios I've mentioned ended up with me being happier. All it ever did was made me feel like a piece of garbage that's only appreciated when I'm "useful".
@@PsychoRavager thanks for sharing your experience. I'm a Christian so am only looking to date a like minded woman with none or minimal emotional baggage. A lot of my knowledge is purely only theoretical so far though.
@@Steven-hq3go, no worries. I'm a Christian, too, but, to be frank, I'm not that good at being one. Still need to find my way back to God for the most part. It's been rough trying to find a gal that, at the very least, shares the same faith and tries to take it seriously.
Often times, I meet someone that just uses it as a way to gloat, and, when the conversation goes to ethics or morals, I'm often left dumbfounded at the lack of foundation in either of those areas. Too many people these days have gotten too comfortable with not even trying. I'd rather know someone that's not going to play pretend and just be humble enough to point out that they're as flawed as everyone else. It's why I do my best not to make up excuses with my own shortcomings.
So, I do think it's helping that I'd rather spend time just being a responsible man than wasting much of it trying to court a lady. Maybe I just need to keep working on myself and who I am. Like I said, still need to find God in my life more often than I'm used to doing. Hoping you'll find the right person for you someday. All the best on that journey. On my end, for now, I've grown tired of it all.
See this is why i think platonic friendships between men and women are so important. If i have a platonic female friend who has hangups about her past relationships, then i don't mind at all walking her through it and helping get her ready for a future relationship. Men and women have different outlooks and different perspectives on life, and sharing those perspectives can be extremely beneficial. It's only when i have to be a boyfriend AND guide her through her hangups at the same time that shit starts to get out of hand.
She is right.
Never, ever take on someone with "bagage", its never worth it.
If someone unlpads on you on the first date, you are probably the rebound
Good advice tbh. First date I had with this girl, she just unloaded. I tried my best, not to fix her per se, but to understand her way of life. Shit put me into a downward spiral. Good bless her but that shit is not worth it.
Good advice, unless she is a Phase Girl, in which case I *can* fix he
The problem is, we're VTuber fans. We're too scared of women to go on dates. Maybe we'd use her advice if we were able to score, but we're our own worst enemy on that front.
"We're too scared" not really. Even if you're upfront and direct with 0 shame and extreme courage, it won't work out to give a date in most cases.
It’s not so much scared as “tired of trying hard, and getting the occasional first date that goes absolutely nowhere”
@@InquisitorJacksome of us are too comfortable and lazy to even start trying lol
@@AlexanderMartinez-kd7cz 6.5 years since I tried myself
Scared? No.
But i know that the majority of women would not be okay with my lifestyle and hobbies, and would consider it a dealbreaker/it would lead to problems in a potential relationship, so i don't bother. So unless i find someone with similar interests and outlook on life to me that i also happen to be attracted to, it's not worth the hassle. Aside from some minor exceptions, i like my life the way it is. I'm not going to go bending myself out of shape in order to live up to some random woman's ideals just to score a date. Screw that. I value my peace of mind more than i value having a girlfriend/wife.
why fix her if the mental instability is why she is your oshi
That’s some pretty good advice. However, she forgot to add in one factor… I’m desperate.
Speaking from experience, it really isn't worth fixing them. I've learnt to treat them as study material and experience opportunities to improve my therapy skills for friends and family 😅.
Based and tru. No lies detected there
As someone who loves someone who has been hurt badly in the past, I will say that you will have to be prepared to be very patient. The person I love is extremely sweet, but I won’t say that a relationship is for someone who isn’t ready to accept that mental trauma doesn’t have an easy cure. Love doesn’t magically solve someone’s problems, but someone who is self-aware and genuinely wants to be with you might be worth the trouble. There are some who will just drag you down though; unless you know the person very well, it’s not worth the risk and responsibility that comes with them. But, if you do really actually love that person, it is rewarding to be there for them.
They shouldn't be emotionally attached or vulnerable unless intending to want to marry. Why would you want to build up baggage from every potential romantic partner to dump on the next one? Naive women
Gotta keep trying Cookies!! ^^
Even though she couched it in "IF you ever go on a first date", she needed to load that last bit with "run, even if it seems like your only chance. It's not worth it". The advice to run just doesn't hit if she doesn't make it clear she knows what the stakes seem like.
Awww. There were a few "yes"s in the chat, I hope she noticed them.
I appreciate the boost in confidence. I know I don't got game, but hey at least there's some kind of support.
Id be willing to be meemaws therapist
So do we become therapists by watching hours of PC talent?
Either that or we need therapy ourselves after long exposure.
There is no better wingman, than the wingman that wingmans for himself, I hope that Shiina can be that wingman one day
there was one guy who said yes lol
I'm happy that Shiina is trying to help them/us. Regardless of the results, having a person giving that much help is very appreciated.
Ill probably be an loner and celibate for life unfortunately.
But what if I want someone like Shiina though? Someone that can pamper me after a grueling day as a full stack developer who have to keep explaining to the client that [insert the newest trend word in tech] is not as simple as "just ask ChatGPT".
Absolutely correct but good luck to anyone out there in finding a date
I firmly believe that Meemaw gets too many of her views of men from Tik Tok, but I genuinely believe she cares about her Cookies and wants what is best for them.
Actually autistic here, guy here but I know enough on other things related to it, I personally won't advise against it, just know what you're getting into. From my and other people's experiences, you might actually have a better time with other autistics if you're also one, but that will also depend on not having sensory need and repulsion collision (most often it is with touching and/or hugs). Not sure about other mental health issues, besides of us often ending up with PTSD thanks to school bullying.
I too am actually autistic. Giving people a heads up about our condition isnt the same as dumping trauma. Good luck out there
Well, I am a good listener. My advice usually gets ignored, but even venting out to someone can make you feel better.
And I can actually ask someone to lie down on a couch or a bed to do that.
Its a no from me because she keeps telling me to run from the hot ones.
🗣️WELL I WONT KNOW TILL I TRY!
What if the man she's on a date with is a therapist?
Unless she is able to stick it out until she gets better and learns the value of those around her, she might just run off with someone else then thinking that she can do better now that she is mentally healthy again . . . dunning-kruger effect can exist even within emotional maturity.
Taht guy would be getting a worse life/work balance than a japanese boomer salaryman.
Un blurred hands i trust.
I don't wanna date but mom keeps expecting a GF out of me. Parents.
I just want the tea
Make Shiina proud, cookies, get out there!
I cant fix her. But i can make her into a vtuber.
Actually it has, but haven't formalized anything, dodged a few red flags there 😂
I shall let her know if that indeed happens someday tho,
But Shina, we don’t want WINGS! We want CHICKEN CUTLETS!
At this point in the west right now, the best advice is to avoid women entirely. It's not worth it.
man, nobody is dating anymore huh.
Hey, I saw one "Kinda?"
Naa, she’s looking for a “woman” therapist
Challenge accepted
"She's not looking for a boyfriend, she's looking for a therapist"
This is the exact opposite of discouragement
Is there a compilation of her advice? 🤔
Nah I'd win
Real talk sad/fail girls aren’t good dates
But have you seen her Duel disk???
Instructions unclear, she tells me she has a baggage, I said “that’s what my arm is for, I’ll carry it for you!”
I was just being a gentleman, and now I have a date.
I don't get it. What does she mean by "baggage"?
People can heal through relationships. Maybe don't let some cute menhera on the internet decide the rules on who you date.
Though, relationships should be a win win type of exchange.
L take, shiina is right
Guy thinks he will fix her
From experience bad take. You aren’t Bob the Builder you can’t fix it
Even if someone gets better specifically because they're in a relationship, it's still an act of self-improvement and not necessarily the result of anything the partner is doing for/to them.
No one can fix anyone. Even therapists are just there to facilitate the process of getting better on your own.
When people tell you they're broken, believe them. Even if they can get better, it ain't all waiting on you.
I have no baggage, why should I date someone with a lot? God never intended men and women to date 10 different people and be intimate with them all