Oh dear Dee. You have gone and done it. I’m crying. This is so powerful. I’m actually crying. Tears streaming down my face. Not in a sad way…or even a glad way. Might be your aura…your gentleness.. your kindness…the words. I’ve such a hard time letting go. I’ve let go of a lot of traumatic memory moments. Yet….a song, a word, a phrase, something I’m reading or watching in a nature video….will trigger something in me, and memories come flooding back at lightening speed. For a few moments…I’m aware of this happening and I realize I can not change what’s occurred or how many loved ones have left (life is sometimes so short)…and I can’t change the fact that many family members I’ve helped financially, emotionally, physically have long kind of forgotten about me. I’ll never stop caring… yet I feel broken. So tired. So sad that my life didn’t turn out to be like the ‘Walton’s’ (a tv show I always watched when I was young). Silly tv shows and fairy tales….all with happy endings. I’ve had several joyous moments….but I seem to have had more very painful, traumatic moments. Never thought I’d really live this long with so much heart disease on both sides of family. Especially after dealing with several people who have had severe mental illness issues. And me…usually not thinking rationally: ‘oh I can save this person, this dog, this cat, this opossum, my child, my grandchild, etc…), not aware, at that time, that I could not really save anyone. Being so empathetic..it stinks, Dee. But I’ve done what I thought I had to do at the time. As far back as I can remember. Letting go. Such lovely words. Ahhhhh….to just let go. Thank you so much for sharing this. I shall check the link out and read more. Beautiful words of wisdom. I know one thing. I’m not afraid of dying. I’m headed for exit ramp. I am very tired. And tho I don’t know what comes next…doesn’t matter. I’ve told my daughter. If I get too ill to care for myself…she promises to not hook me up to any machines to keep me breathing. Then…and only then…perhaps I will truly let go..like a leaf does when autumn comes and the wind blows them off the trees…. and they cover my little front yard with so many pretty colors. I hope so anyway. Thank you again, Dee. I’m done crying. The words just overwhelmed me for some reason. Hugs to you and Mishka. ❤️💞🌈🌾🍃🌱🪻🪴🌸🪷💐🦚🍁🍁🍁🍁🍂🍂🍂
If my head gets in the way of letting go, I will use my imagination & either picture a rope or a bungy-cord... If I want to truly let go, I picture cutting the bungy-cord away (from a part of my body) & letting the energy bounce back to the recipient or where it came from. If it's something I still have to be "attached to" (a family member as example), I picture the rope with a knot & it magically unravels & the connection is "straight" again. Puts me back in my heart every time. 💛 💫 🌟 🫶
@@SueHorgan-dn8ty Then, I invite you to be your own best friend, so completely, that you begin to realize that the human side of you may have hurt feelings, but the Soul side of you sees you as whole & well & just having an interesting experience that either invites you to learn something about yourself or let go of something that no longer serves you. Begin with the small step of patting yourself on the back & reminding you that you are doing the best you can & be kind with your thoughts... So gentle & tender. 💛💫🌟🫶
I think God is great greater than anyone any problem and challenge, than I think this is nothing to worry about compared to him than I come to myself mindful and it’s gone only peace and happiness is left ❤
hi. I always had to stay strong towards my family and friends. I always forgot my own problems and ran into their problems. I became a therapist. That's why I could never fully open up to them and that's why I couldn't get advice on my own problems, I always had to solve my own problems. Now I'm watching your videos and now I'm getting advice from you that I couldn't get from my family and my friends. I just wanted to say that you touched my life and just wanted to thank you.
thank you just had to split with a guy and I saw your channel today for the first time and it gave me a lot of confidence that im worth it on my own. you do really beautiful videos thank you.
The harboring of ill wills & thoughts is harder than letting go. It’s much more difficult clinging to grudges & hatred than freeing yourself from those feelings.
I lived the life of letting go, I did it when I was young. My whole life has been about letting go, because it was too painful to not. I read when I was young this poetry wisdom...If you love someone set them free, if they come back, then they are yours, and if they don't come back they were never yours to begin with. Letting go, is about loss, sometimes its about control, mine was about because no one loved me at all, I was born into this world and even though I had a family, I had to let them go and leave. I was born into a religion, then I had to let that go. I come to the end there was nothing left to let go, so then I had to learn to hold on so I did, now its let go again and....that and is important...Let go and love, Let go and allow, Let go and grieve, let go and get angry, let go and be peaceful, let go and be silent, let go and write, let go and breathe, let go and live, let go and be alone, one of the most difficult losses in my life, was the loss of my family, and not being able to be with them.....I let go and left, because I can not be without love, and peace. Now I prepare for letting go and accepting that I will die alone, there is a possibility, a reality maybe, to face the possibility of dying alone. Is it really that bad we die alone. Or that people die alone and its ages before they are found. I can't tell you how upsetting that has been to me. So that was let go and now its ok. I have a son, its a possibility that he will die alone too, because he came with me when he was younger, also learnt how to let go, he is better at it than I am. Now he prefers to be alone. I learnt to love when no one loved me back, and I learnt and found the greatest love of all, not love of self, or being selfish, I discovered I never was without love at all, nor wihout peace always with me, always free. I write because I love to write, whether people like reading my writing, I love my writing, but not enough to hold on. Let go and...... I see rainbows all over our land. Beautiful carpet of gold, reds, blues, greens, purple, silver, diamonds as far a the eye can see...I let go, because I can see rainbows, because I live rainbows...I let go and I got rainbows.
When you were reading that piece I felt like that girl and I was so strong, free and myself Made me not to think about some things for a little while and just enjoy being me :)
@@Cheshirelass🙏 generally speaking yes you are. by being light hearted and lifting people’s spirits up . the dark side is that since the late 60’s we have seen this huge push with the LSD and all the hippies and psychedelic music .. that from my research is not grass roots based 😔 it’s a mind control operation.. there certainly are some good aspects to it .. peace and love and happiness, nothing wrong with that .. (🙏see weird scenes inside laurel canyon / or the tavistock institute)
@@jesusislukeskywalker4294 Thank you - yes, was around in 60's but usually with my nose in a book to get to uni and get my degree! Thanks for the gen - will check! D
I would always try to overthink/analyse it, understand it and so on nothing ever worked. I'm only just learning to turn and face all the things and feel them, reframe, even laugh at it, I'm finding doing that is helping the thoughts/feelings I always ran from or tried to reason with, lose their power. It's never perfect I fall into old habits but hopefully the start of a better way.
Working out those little strategies to help you along your way will really help - as will your ability to see humour. Great. It's not that you are putting yourself down, rather you are accepting of this version of you with a smile because you know what a great job you are doing. D
I struggle sometimes in letting things go. I don't understand how people can treat others so poorly...especially when it's your family 😢. I have your "just let them" video in my playlist that I listen to every night. Thank you ❤!
Thank you. I’d love a precious soul like you in my life. We could sit and have tea and just have the most lovely visit. I too think so deeply and letting go of certain things is very hard. I know I need too but doing it is another story.
I got broken up with 2 days ago. Very out of a sudden which made it very hard for me to let go. But I spent today writing down all my feelings, on the relationship with her and my life in general and i feel a lot better now. Its gonna take time to fully let go of her, but it will happen
@@Cheshirelass im still wondering if it would have worked out if i didnt do the mistakes that i did. but im trying not to regret but maybe accept that it wasnt meant to be
I’ve not long found you and I love your vlogs. It’s like listening to your mum , who has wisdom to share ❤❤❤ … snippets of advice to make you think and evaluate xXx
Hi Dee, I'm enjoying your thoughtfullness. Thankyou for taking the time to share with us. When I was in my 30's I had to let go of my relationship with my mother and I went through everything the rev Rose said she didn't do, which actually made it harder- letting the self doubt rule. Nowadays I find that I am able to just let go, thankfully but I do still pray for people I let go so my heart stays in a good place, which for me is important. As for the emotions I believe it was Ralph Waldo Emerson who said that emotions are like a string of beads! I think to feel them fully but to then let them pass through you is the key. Take care x
We had a culture of watching our young gathered in front of the learned asking questions of all sorts. Life, priorities, ambitions and faith. Lucky are those who finds friends for life to share those subjects with. Though youth is the age of fouley it is also a source of gathering memories that allows you to sit down in your old age and share those foileys with the next generation.
I do not think about letting go. I voluntarily do it now. To completely be aware of the continuity of attachments such as memories, possessions, experiences, conclusions, people etc... Letting go is a renewal of life or life made new again.
Thank you so much for sharing "Letting Go," by the Reverend Rose. Her message was so beautifully written, and I loved hearing you read it. Learning this art of "Letting go" is a powerful life skill to learn. Practicing this will help me to build resilience, and become more balanced in my all-over-the-place feelings in life. So, when hurtful, shitty things happen, I will quietly remind myself to practice what you brought to my attenetion. "Let them," and "Letting go" You inspire me! Take good care of yourself:) You are loved.
Hi, not seen your videos before, so I was listening and trying to fathom what this was about. You asked the question about letting go, Being a Christian, I’m a 71 year old widow, my answer is I give everything to Jesus. It’s not just about letting things go in the natural, doing things in our own strength. My belief is only Jesus can deal with our stuff, and by having a close relationship and friendship with Him we can be truly free.
I cope in a very different way. I'm a satanist, and we like to leave very little to outside forces. We're all about being self sufficient and building your own healing no matter what it looks like! The way you worship is beautiful, even if it's not how I do it in my own religion :)
I cope in a very similar way! I’m a Daoist, so I try my best to flow with the way, the dao, which can’t be described. I move gently, slowly, and deliberately, allowing my life to bloom like a flower. When I intervene on my own behalf, I still move with the flow.
Hej! I want to thank you for your wise words when I need it the most I love it so much it calms my mind and make me think about my life and relations 💧🌍 🇸🇪 ♥️ Grateful I find you love, Madeleine
By the time I normally watch your videos when I wake up, it's been about 8 hours since you posted them. I'm glad I stayed up a bit late today because Reverend Sapphire Rose's poem has indeed helped softening by putting into precise and beautiful words all those things, people, expectations, judgements, feelings and who knows what else I've been (painfully) letting go lately. What a relief. May you have a nice day. Thank you for sharing. Bye for now. It's time for me to go to Bedfordshire.
Very good follow up. I am reading Falling Upward by Richard Rohr. He explained how there are two different halves of our lives. . . . let them and letting go is definitely characteristic of the 2nd half. The first half is where those who push against us are coming from and it is totally normal and natural for them to do so. This helps me immensely to LET THEM and LET GO. I no longer take it so personal and realize I am maturing in a healthy way. I highly recommend his book.
Thank you for reading, Dee. I just let go of a 6 year friendship and it was extremely excruciating. It felt good to finally do so after many, many chances and disappointments. Sometimes I doubt myself about whether I should have let go or tried to stay patient. However, I am glad I did let go and that I am still learning to do so when necessary to care for myself. Your videos help me with my anxiety very greatly, you inspire me and so many others. It is always a pleasure to see a new video from you, take care. 💝
Thank you Dee, you seem a beautiful, kind soul and I am sure you are helping lots of people out there with these videos, not just myself. I am currently going through the hardest time of my life, a divorce from a woman I love and being separated from the other love of my life, my seven year old son. Your videos, like this one, have brought me peace at times when I needed it most x
Greeting from Vietnam grandma. Those days I just come to your channel and listen to your voice, it's bring me peace, sometimes I was in tears, I just don't know why. Life is precious 🙏
Beautiful. I closed my eyes while i listened to you read that. Letting go is possible without making it so hard for ourselves. It's hard for me, too. I am very sensitive and emotional. But..it can be done... And , when it happens...it feels so wonderful. Thank you for this. ❤
I'm about to turn 17 and I know life hasn't started yet and all that but it can get hard sometimes, you know. I'm grateful I found your videos, you have no idea how much comfort you bring to me. Thank you.
You got this! Your life certainly has started - think of all that you have achieved so far -things you are taking for granted. Learning to walk, talk etc etc - you have come so far already and lots more to come! Grab life by the scruff of the neck. D
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
You are giving yourself so many negative messages in there - using 'can't' and 'trying'. The more you say this, the harder it will be to make a new start. Start using positive affirmations. D ruclips.net/video/aWMkPaqN-bM/видео.html
You can and you will be better, be stronger. Embrace the things you like about yourself, all the positive things. And address the things that you know were issues in the relationship. Keep a journal close by and get busy writing. You will feel better and be better.
It’s really hard to let go when the thing (whatever/whoever this thing is) when it’s still present/part of your life in some way. If you have no control over who is coming in and out of your life, whether or not you be a child, or are disabled in some way, letting go becomes more complex. Something/someone unhealthy that/who is preventing you from moving forward and living a peaceful life as well as causing pain, could also be triggering past pains that you might have put effort into moving away from. I’m autistic and in the face of one traumatic event to the next have been at the mercy of those around me, unable to gain/regain enough focus, fortification, self confidence, energy, self awareness etc to escape and start healing. Autistic people need more time than the average person to process and to heal and not being in control of who, or what comes into your life results in an echo chamber of thoughts/continuous catastrophising . We can sometimes go into years long shutdowns after traumatic events, so imagine what it’s like never being able to escape trauma? In the past I’ve had what many might call a “spiritual awakening” and put all the light I had dug around in the darkness for into the efforts of making connections with a sister who I have a very strained relationship with. I saw her as a child and loved her as such. This worked for a while, but she took and took, meanwhile my lights started dimming again and wasn’t looking after myself. Even after I went into shut down, I still gave my time to her, like a robot, at the expense of other family members who are much more kind to me. On a side note, there are levels to spiritual awareness, someone, like me, who is quite young on her journey, needs to use the light wisely. Just giving and giving after going through a trauma you haven’t fully healed from is going to result in burnout and you won’t grow healthily. There’s more to this story, but have reached my limit for today, so will stop shortly. I will say this though, I’m hopefully going to have my own home soon. There is no spite towards my sister, only a feeling of sadness, because I can see why she is the way she is. She is still bound to a childhood trauma we went through. The man she married as a teenager was a way of escaping. He didn’t value her then and doesn’t now. He rates her based on her looks and success. She struggles with arrogance and is not very kind as a result. She only sees the light on the occasion he’s been really nasty and then will go back to protecting her husband’s name at any cost. She became so many parts of him, as she desperately sought his approval. She never spends enough time away from him to truly see any different. I will have to let her go. The process has already started. I just hope, from afar, she can make self discoveries that will lead us to being one day healing together and being there for each other.
Dear Dee. This is a topic which affects me also and I guess many others. Letting Go is an excercise that is treated in the ancient teachings of wisdom such as Zen or the old sanskrit books. Personally I think that letting go is a life task for me. I try and sometimes I can do it with ease and sometimes not - but as for many other important things it is relevant to keep on going. Thanks for sharing and Greetings from Germany. Satoshi
I am the same - depending on the relationship. I totally agree about the keeping on going - and for me, keeping on learning, including about myself. Take care. D
Letting go is when you are fully & freely able to live without apology or explanation. I refuse to apologize to people for who I am. It’s being self actualitied like Maslow talked about.
Excellent! I let go Or have I? But there have been countless "letting goes" Which actually really indicates not Really letting go The last one was the year mark of my No Contact where I've decided to quit ruminating, or analyzing or battling the situation in my head, or secretly hoping or longing for the negative person. And I think even when U let go, for most of us it's still there. It's not a complete cleansing of the person, it lingers still... So this was great I hope to really be Free from any invisible yet debilitating shackles that keep me chained to a painful past which is even present Thank u!
Sometimes we hang on to the good stuff and let go of the bad. This can work either way for us. As I said to someone earlier - we can be odd creatures - but hey,that is what makes us the beings that we are. D
I've recently found your chanel and it was the best thing ever !! i love hearing from your wisdom and especially warmed heart , how wonderful to learn from you ! sending love 💕❤❤❤
A lovely, gentle way to deal with things, thoughts, and feelings from the past. Even if it is only for the moments while you were reading this and I was listening.. 😊 you brought me a little peace ❤. Thank you.
Your.voice is a lovely calming influence and very comforting. I do know the feeling of comforting or motivating others myself when it might feel like you're taken ror granted by some of those people, or even the weight of old negative memories. Reminds me of a line from Tears of a Clown by Iron Maiden: *"Who motivates the Motivator?"* Sending you some encouragement and warm feelings, Dee - for whatever that's worth. It would be a darker world without you in it.
Hello, this is my first comment under your videos, which I keep watching for a while now. And I want to say: Thank you! This video really touched me the most! Because I'm not goot at letting go. I needed to grow a lot to be where I am now. I moved from a very dark mental place to a place that is much brighter, because I found things to do that I love and overcame fears to fulfill these dreams, but I'm not quite where I want to be yet, mentally. One of the reasons for that is because I just can't let go. Very often my head is turning from the same thoughts, anxieties or self-doubt. Letting go is one of my flaws and this poem read by your calm voice is exactly what I needed today! In my Yoga course, the instructor always told us to imagine our thoughts as clouds that are there but just passing by. I feel like this video was a guide to help me to remember that! I'm really happy that I found your RUclips channel. The video "Let them" inspired me to move on from some things, too. I think, self-reflection is one of the most important things in life and you are an amazing guide for that! Thank you, dear Dee, and many greetings from Luxembourg!
Thank You Lovely Dee~ we must let go when we know we are destroying ourselves by holding on..I've learned as still learning..this is comforting Sending love and gratefulness for your spirit. Take care as well, God Bless you
This reminds me of an old country song. She let herself go. You might want to check it out, helps to remind me sometimes of the good that happens over time.
I do everything wrong 😂 I tell everyone about it I cry And eventually I find peace in prayer and distraction but some days the pain of parting from Someone hits back in waves I think it’s the struggle of fear Fear of anything failure or being alone It’s hard Waiting for that relief to hit naturally but thankyou for this Gave a diff perspective
I know my decision is right for me when not to do it would be untenable. I seek others input to a degree and then I keep quiet and listen to my own inner voice, council. When I find I’m struggling with making a choice/decision it is because the timing is not yet right or the decision is not yet a “perfect fit.” You know it when not to follow through would simply be unthinkable.
Thank you very much for your advice and shared empathy.. letting go is sure tough when there was a meaningful connection with a special person. I do appreciate your support and I do feel accompanied in a certain way for this process, I guess I don't have to quit to my love, feelings and memories for him but to just allow myself to let him go..
Wise words, but after letting go, I felt relief. So, I chose a path free of stress, guilt & misery. Life is good, I will enjoy every day that I have & let go of negativity in whatever form it comes in. 😊
There are Lightworkers and there are Wayshowers, I'm somewhere in the middle I think. Then there are Starseeds... it's a rabbit hole finding our origins and missions! The poem was lovely, and like you I find it hard to let go of some things, easy to let go of others. Recently I've been trying my best to let go of expectations. That is a tough one, especially when you are reciprocal by nature. I tend to ruminate too much, my ego mind keeps me awake after the bathroom visit at 3am! Letting go is healthy for us, we have to let go of what isn't working, and what doesn't serve us any longer in order for the good the Universe has planned for us to enter in. Very hard when there's emotion attached. 😘
Not convinced Dee ! John Lennon's In My Life cover version by Bette Midler @ Royal Variety performed here in Blackpool takes some beating. You can vacillate (sic) Dee. Going for run.
Again, right on the money Dee ! Brilliant❤ This will stay with me. I repeat this in my self talk. Letting go of fear , so hard sometimes. Thank you again for your inspiration and gentle guidance. Blessings and love always ❤❤❤
It's hard letting go but you can't make people think, say or do what you'd like. Letting go, gives you peace.
I wish I could sit down and talk to you. I wish I had a grandma like you or a therapist.
I just let go of a relationship with someone I love because I had no choice. It was ruining my health and life.
Quite fitting for me.
Take care D
Dee, you are like the mother I never had. I hope that isn’t weird for me to say. God bless you.
"Take care bye for now " ı feeled my mothers care through your words thank you so much 💐
So nice of you D
Oh dear Dee. You have gone and done it. I’m crying. This is so powerful. I’m actually crying. Tears streaming down my face. Not in a sad way…or even a glad way. Might be your aura…your gentleness.. your kindness…the words. I’ve such a hard time letting go. I’ve let go of a lot of traumatic memory moments. Yet….a song, a word, a phrase, something I’m reading or watching in a nature video….will trigger something in me, and memories come flooding back at lightening speed. For a few moments…I’m aware of this happening and I realize I can not change what’s occurred or how many loved ones have left (life is sometimes so short)…and I can’t change the fact that many family members I’ve helped financially, emotionally, physically have long kind of forgotten about me. I’ll never stop caring… yet I feel broken. So tired. So sad that my life didn’t turn out to be like the ‘Walton’s’ (a tv show I always watched when I was young). Silly tv shows and fairy tales….all with happy endings.
I’ve had several joyous moments….but I seem to have had more very painful, traumatic moments. Never thought I’d really live this long with so much heart disease on both sides of family. Especially after dealing with several people who have had severe mental illness issues. And me…usually not thinking rationally: ‘oh I can save this person, this dog, this cat, this opossum, my child, my grandchild, etc…), not aware, at that time, that I could not really save anyone. Being so empathetic..it stinks, Dee. But I’ve done what I thought I had to do at the time. As far back as I can remember.
Letting go. Such lovely words. Ahhhhh….to just let go.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I shall check the link out and read more. Beautiful words of wisdom. I know one thing. I’m not afraid of dying. I’m headed for exit ramp. I am very tired. And tho I don’t know what comes next…doesn’t matter. I’ve told my daughter. If I get too ill to care for myself…she promises to not hook me up to any machines to keep me breathing. Then…and only then…perhaps I will truly let go..like a leaf does when autumn comes and the wind blows them off the trees…. and they cover my little front yard with so many pretty colors. I hope so anyway. Thank you again, Dee. I’m done crying. The words just overwhelmed me for some reason. Hugs to you and Mishka. ❤️💞🌈🌾🍃🌱🪻🪴🌸🪷💐🦚🍁🍁🍁🍁🍂🍂🍂
Do take care. D
I read your comment and what you said resonates in many ways. I wish you peace. ❤
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If my head gets in the way of letting go, I will use my imagination & either picture a rope or a bungy-cord... If I want to truly let go, I picture cutting the bungy-cord away (from a part of my body) & letting the energy bounce back to the recipient or where it came from. If it's something I still have to be "attached to" (a family member as example), I picture the rope with a knot & it magically unravels & the connection is "straight" again. Puts me back in my heart every time. 💛 💫 🌟 🫶
What interesting analogies - attachment/detachment - both can be difficult. D
I find it hard to let go of hurt feelings.😢
@@SueHorgan-dn8ty Then, I invite you to be your own best friend, so completely, that you begin to realize that the human side of you may have hurt feelings, but the Soul side of you sees you as whole & well & just having an interesting experience that either invites you to learn something about yourself or let go of something that no longer serves you. Begin with the small step of patting yourself on the back & reminding you that you are doing the best you can & be kind with your thoughts... So gentle & tender. 💛💫🌟🫶
That's such a beautiful visualization. Thank you. Much love and light to you!
I think God is great greater than anyone any problem and challenge, than I think this is nothing to worry about compared to him than I come to myself mindful and it’s gone only peace and happiness is left ❤
I don’t know why I let myself hold onto things that feel like they’re burning me
Consider what you have let go of - and see if you can find the difference between the 2 sets. D
hi. I always had to stay strong towards my family and friends. I always forgot my own problems and ran into their problems. I became a therapist. That's why I could never fully open up to them and that's why I couldn't get advice on my own problems, I always had to solve my own problems. Now I'm watching your videos and now I'm getting advice from you that I couldn't get from my family and my friends. I just wanted to say that you touched my life and just wanted to thank you.
Thank you, D
I dont bother my mind about letting go now I just do it, have wasted to much of my life in the past with this mindset. Am done❤
thank you just had to split with a guy and I saw your channel today for the first time and it gave me a lot of confidence that im worth it on my own. you do really beautiful videos thank you.
Thank you so much. D
Good morning Dee, you’re looking great. Thank you for this. I’m going to do it (just deleted “try to”!) ❤❤❤
Well done... and well done especially with that last sentence. D
The harboring of ill wills & thoughts is harder than letting go. It’s much more difficult clinging to grudges & hatred than freeing yourself from those feelings.
We are complex beings aren't we? D
I lived the life of letting go, I did it when I was young. My whole life has been about letting go, because it was too painful to not. I read when I was young this poetry wisdom...If you love someone set them free, if they come back, then they are yours, and if they don't come back they were never yours to begin with. Letting go, is about loss, sometimes its about control, mine was about because no one loved me at all, I was born into this world and even though I had a family, I had to let them go and leave. I was born into a religion, then I had to let that go. I come to the end there was nothing left to let go, so then I had to learn to hold on so I did, now its let go again and....that and is important...Let go and love, Let go and allow, Let go and grieve, let go and get angry, let go and be peaceful, let go and be silent, let go and write, let go and breathe, let go and live, let go and be alone, one of the most difficult losses in my life, was the loss of my family, and not being able to be with them.....I let go and left, because I can not be without love, and peace. Now I prepare for letting go and accepting that I will die alone, there is a possibility, a reality maybe, to face the possibility of dying alone. Is it really that bad we die alone. Or that people die alone and its ages before they are found. I can't tell you how upsetting that has been to me. So that was let go and now its ok. I have a son, its a possibility that he will die alone too, because he came with me when he was younger, also learnt how to let go, he is better at it than I am. Now he prefers to be alone. I learnt to love when no one loved me back, and I learnt and found the greatest love of all, not love of self, or being selfish, I discovered I never was without love at all, nor wihout peace always with me, always free. I write because I love to write, whether people like reading my writing, I love my writing, but not enough to hold on. Let go and...... I see rainbows all over our land. Beautiful carpet of gold, reds, blues, greens, purple, silver, diamonds as far a the eye can see...I let go, because I can see rainbows, because I live rainbows...I let go and I got rainbows.
Thank you for sharing your words with us. D
Love the flowers behind you in the yard. Alot of people could use your advice 🌷
thank you D
You glowed up my morning ! Thanks for being here for us. ❤
You're the agony aunt everybody needs and a very gentle spirit💗
When you were reading that piece I felt like that girl and I was so strong, free and myself
Made me not to think about some things for a little while and just enjoy being me :)
love those last 4 words D
Yeah its true. You know do things for others without expecting them to do things for you. At the end its you vs you. One must stay strong.🙏
My mom framed this poem and hung it in her sitting room. It helped me during the hard times in life.
I overthink, it's hard for me to let go, thanks for the beautiful poem and reflections ❤
I’m chuckling to myself that you may not realize you are a light worker. ❤
Thank you - but I hadn't heard anything about this. I was fascinated to find out about it and need to find out more. D
@@Cheshirelass🙏 generally speaking yes you are. by being light hearted and lifting people’s spirits up . the dark side is that since the late 60’s we have seen this huge push with the LSD and all the hippies and psychedelic music .. that from my research is not grass roots based 😔 it’s a mind control operation.. there certainly are some good aspects to it .. peace and love and happiness, nothing wrong with that .. (🙏see weird scenes inside laurel canyon / or the tavistock institute)
@@jesusislukeskywalker4294 Thank you - yes, was around in 60's but usually with my nose in a book to get to uni and get my degree! Thanks for the gen - will check! D
I would always try to overthink/analyse it, understand it and so on nothing ever worked. I'm only just learning to turn and face all the things and feel them, reframe, even laugh at it, I'm finding doing that is helping the thoughts/feelings I always ran from or tried to reason with, lose their power. It's never perfect I fall into old habits but hopefully the start of a better way.
Working out those little strategies to help you along your way will really help - as will your ability to see humour. Great. It's not that you are putting yourself down, rather you are accepting of this version of you with a smile because you know what a great job you are doing. D
I struggle sometimes in letting things go. I don't understand how people can treat others so poorly...especially when it's your family 😢.
I have your "just let them" video in my playlist that I listen to every night. Thank you ❤!
It is hard to understand at times isn't it? D
Thank you. I’d love a precious soul like you in my life. We could sit and have tea and just have the most lovely visit. I too think so deeply and letting go of certain things is very hard. I know I need too but doing it is another story.
Sometimes, for our peace of mind, we simply have to. D
You read that piece so beautifully....I love it!
I got broken up with 2 days ago. Very out of a sudden which made it very hard for me to let go. But I spent today writing down all my feelings, on the relationship with her and my life in general and i feel a lot better now. Its gonna take time to fully let go of her, but it will happen
Getting feelings down in writing is a good idea - rather than having them whirring around in your head, you know what you are dealing with. D
@@Cheshirelass im still wondering if it would have worked out if i didnt do the mistakes that i did. but im trying not to regret but maybe accept that it wasnt meant to be
Hope your doing ok. Im a few months further along, similar loss and it really is a journey @@ζεζτζεζ
I’ve not long found you and I love your vlogs. It’s like listening to your mum , who has wisdom to share ❤❤❤ … snippets of advice to make you think and evaluate xXx
Beautiful. I've found it's a practice. But the initial decision....yeah....just poof. Gone. The most liberating, joyful, loving feeling ever. ❤❤❤❤
Hi Dee, I'm enjoying your thoughtfullness. Thankyou for taking the time to share with us. When I was in my 30's I had to let go of my relationship with my mother and I went through everything the rev Rose said she didn't do, which actually made it harder- letting the self doubt rule. Nowadays I find that I am able to just let go, thankfully but I do still pray for people I let go so my heart stays in a good place, which for me is important. As for the emotions I believe it was Ralph Waldo Emerson who said that emotions are like a string of beads! I think to feel them fully but to then let them pass through you is the key. Take care x
Thank you for sharing with us. D
I really enjoyed that Dee ☺️
We need more people like you in this world❤️
Thank you so much. D
You are so sweet!! Your videos are a moment of peace for me. Thank you very much, I'm waiting for you.
We had a culture of watching our young gathered in front of the learned asking questions of all sorts. Life, priorities, ambitions and faith. Lucky are those who finds friends for life to share those subjects with. Though youth is the age of fouley it is also a source of gathering memories that allows you to sit down in your old age and share those foileys with the next generation.
I do not think about letting go. I voluntarily do it now. To completely be aware of the continuity of attachments such as memories, possessions, experiences, conclusions, people etc... Letting go is a renewal of life or life made new again.
It is good to hang on to some precious memories/things and people too. D
@@Cheshirelass Iam talking about psychological perseption to be aware of one's attachments.
Thank you so much for sharing "Letting Go," by the Reverend Rose. Her message was so beautifully written, and
I loved hearing you read it. Learning this art of "Letting go" is a powerful life skill to learn. Practicing this will help me to build resilience, and become more balanced in my all-over-the-place feelings in life.
So, when hurtful, shitty things happen, I will quietly remind myself to practice what you brought to my attenetion.
"Let them," and "Letting go" You inspire me! Take good care of yourself:) You are loved.
Thank you Jane - sadly hurtful, shitty things do happen - so good to have ways of getting through such times and moving on. Take care D
Thank you again for your helpful message.
You have such a lovely voice and have such a calm and wise presence. Thank you ❤
Wow, thank you! D
Hi, not seen your videos before, so I was listening and trying to fathom what this was about. You asked the question about letting go, Being a Christian, I’m a 71 year old widow, my answer is I give everything to Jesus. It’s not just about letting things go in the natural, doing things in our own strength. My belief is only Jesus can deal with our stuff, and by having a close relationship and friendship with Him we can be truly free.
Thank you for sharing your way of coping. D
I cope in a very different way. I'm a satanist, and we like to leave very little to outside forces. We're all about being self sufficient and building your own healing no matter what it looks like! The way you worship is beautiful, even if it's not how I do it in my own religion :)
I cope in a very similar way! I’m a Daoist, so I try my best to flow with the way, the dao, which can’t be described. I move gently, slowly, and deliberately, allowing my life to bloom like a flower. When I intervene on my own behalf, I still move with the flow.
Hej! I want to thank you for your wise words when I need it the most I love it so much it calms my mind and make me think about my life and relations 💧🌍 🇸🇪 ♥️ Grateful I find you love, Madeleine
By the time I normally watch your videos when I wake up, it's been about 8 hours since you posted them. I'm glad I stayed up a bit late today because Reverend Sapphire Rose's poem has indeed helped softening by putting into precise and beautiful words all those things, people, expectations, judgements, feelings and who knows what else I've been (painfully) letting go lately. What a relief. May you have a nice day. Thank you for sharing. Bye for now. It's time for me to go to Bedfordshire.
Good night! D
I think this is my favorite one yet. Thank you 💕
Cute jacket! Great display with this video. ❤
Thank you Dee. Now every day is bake sale day and every night is movie night
That sounds really good! D
You speak with such grace..yes i let go to receive my peace on return...no applaud just simply let go.
Very good follow up. I am reading Falling Upward by Richard Rohr. He explained how there are two different halves of our lives. . . . let them and letting go is definitely characteristic of the 2nd half. The first half is where those who push against us are coming from and it is totally normal and natural for them to do so. This helps me immensely to LET THEM and LET GO. I no longer take it so personal and realize I am maturing in a healthy way. I highly recommend his book.
Thank you. Iwill check it out. D
Tks Dee ... its comforting to know we are not alone. Take care & warm hugs from South Africa ❤
thank you. D
Thank you for reading, Dee. I just let go of a 6 year friendship and it was extremely excruciating. It felt good to finally do so after many, many chances and disappointments. Sometimes I doubt myself about whether I should have let go or tried to stay patient. However, I am glad I did let go and that I am still learning to do so when necessary to care for myself. Your videos help me with my anxiety very greatly, you inspire me and so many others. It is always a pleasure to see a new video from you, take care. 💝
Take care - keep that self-doubt at bay. Tell that little voice in your head to shut up. D
Wonderful Dee! Will send me down the rabbit hole to find out more! What better way to spend what's going to be a wet afternoon ❤
Have fun! Say 'hi' to Alice if you see her there. D
Thank you Dee, you seem a beautiful, kind soul and I am sure you are helping lots of people out there with these videos, not just myself.
I am currently going through the hardest time of my life, a divorce from a woman I love and being separated from the other love of my life, my seven year old son. Your videos, like this one, have brought me peace at times when I needed it most x
Thank you. D
Greeting from Vietnam grandma. Those days I just come to your channel and listen to your voice, it's bring me peace, sometimes I was in tears, I just don't know why. Life is precious 🙏
Thank you.D
Such a hard thing to do, yet so vital! Thank you for sharing these beautiful words❤
Beautiful. I closed my eyes while i listened to you read that.
Letting go is possible without making it so hard for ourselves.
It's hard for me, too.
I am very sensitive and emotional. But..it can be done... And , when it happens...it feels so wonderful.
Thank you for this. ❤
My pleasure - take care. D
When I realize that I can't do anything about a problem, I give it to the Lord and "let go". I may have to do it more than once, though.
@julieellis6793 the BEST advice 👌 👏
I have a piece of art on my refrigerator that says, “Let go as many times as it takes.” 😊
I'm about to turn 17 and I know life hasn't started yet and all that but it can get hard sometimes, you know. I'm grateful I found your videos, you have no idea how much comfort you bring to me. Thank you.
You got this! Your life certainly has started - think of all that you have achieved so far -things you are taking for granted. Learning to walk, talk etc etc - you have come so far already and lots more to come! Grab life by the scruff of the neck. D
This video made my heart so warm. I have a hard time letting go sometimes too. We are learning this and growing through it together ❤️🫂
Many of us do - you aren't alone in that, but well worth the persevering. D
Stumbled upon one of your videos now I wake up excited to hear your voice before prepping for the day. Thanks, Dee!
My pleasure - take care. D
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
You are giving yourself so many negative messages in there - using 'can't' and 'trying'. The more you say this, the harder it will be to make a new start. Start using positive affirmations. D
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You can and you will be better, be stronger. Embrace the things you like about yourself, all the positive things. And address the things that you know were issues in the relationship. Keep a journal close by and get busy writing. You will feel better and be better.
It’s really hard to let go when the thing (whatever/whoever this thing is) when it’s still present/part of your life in some way. If you have no control over who is coming in and out of your life, whether or not you be a child, or are disabled in some way, letting go becomes more complex.
Something/someone unhealthy that/who is preventing you from moving forward and living a peaceful life as well as causing pain, could also be triggering past pains that you might have put effort into moving away from.
I’m autistic and in the face of one traumatic event to the next have been at the mercy of those around me, unable to gain/regain enough focus, fortification, self confidence, energy, self awareness etc to escape and start healing.
Autistic people need more time than the average person to process and to heal and not being in control of who, or what comes into your life results in an echo chamber of thoughts/continuous catastrophising . We can sometimes go into years long shutdowns after traumatic events, so imagine what it’s like never being able to escape trauma?
In the past I’ve had what many might call a “spiritual awakening” and put all the light I had dug around in the darkness for into the efforts of making connections with a sister who I have a very strained relationship with. I saw her as a child and loved her as such. This worked for a while, but she took and took, meanwhile my lights started dimming again and wasn’t looking after myself. Even after I went into shut down, I still gave my time to her, like a robot, at the expense of other family members who are much more kind to me.
On a side note, there are levels to spiritual awareness, someone, like me, who is quite young on her journey, needs to use the light wisely. Just giving and giving after going through a trauma you haven’t fully healed from is going to result in burnout and you won’t grow healthily.
There’s more to this story, but have reached my limit for today, so will stop shortly.
I will say this though, I’m hopefully going to have my own home soon. There is no spite towards my sister, only a feeling of sadness, because I can see why she is the way she is. She is still bound to a childhood trauma we went through. The man she married as a teenager was a way of escaping. He didn’t value her then and doesn’t now. He rates her based on her looks and success. She struggles with arrogance and is not very kind as a result. She only sees the light on the occasion he’s been really nasty and then will go back to protecting her husband’s name at any cost. She became so many parts of him, as she desperately sought his approval. She never spends enough time away from him to truly see any different. I will have to let her go. The process has already started. I just hope, from afar, she can make self discoveries that will lead us to being one day healing together and being there for each other.
Thank you for sharing your words and your thoughts/feelings. Take care - and I hope that you get that house soon. D
For some reason I think of a Talking Heads song “And She Was” ..the world was moving, she was floating above it and she was. Have a lovely day Dee.
Dear Dee. This is a topic which affects me also and I guess many others. Letting Go is an excercise that is treated in the ancient teachings of wisdom such as Zen or the old sanskrit books. Personally I think that letting go is a life task for me. I try and sometimes I can do it with ease and sometimes not - but as for many other important things it is relevant to keep on going. Thanks for sharing and Greetings from Germany. Satoshi
I am the same - depending on the relationship. I totally agree about the keeping on going - and for me, keeping on learning, including about myself. Take care. D
Letting go is when you are fully & freely able to live without apology or explanation. I refuse to apologize to people for who I am. It’s being self actualitied like Maslow talked about.
Very few reach the dizzy heights of Maslow's triangle, Sadly, far too many these days are stuck at the level of seeking safety and security. D
this is so beautiful ❤️
Its great to just let go. I just made the choice to let go, it is so freeing & I feel fabulous & light. I love your listening to you ❤ x
Without apology or explanation they just let go. Not even a whisper to the wind they let go!!! Powerful stuff!!!
It is - super use of words by Rev Rose. D
Excellent!
I let go
Or have I?
But there have been countless "letting goes"
Which actually really indicates not Really letting go
The last one was the year mark of my No Contact where I've decided to quit ruminating, or analyzing or battling the situation in my head, or secretly hoping or longing for the negative person.
And I think even when U let go, for most of us it's still there. It's not a complete cleansing of the person, it lingers still...
So this was great
I hope to really be Free from any invisible yet debilitating shackles that keep me chained to a painful past which is even present
Thank u!
Sometimes we hang on to the good stuff and let go of the bad. This can work either way for us. As I said to someone earlier - we can be odd creatures - but hey,that is what makes us the beings that we are. D
I've recently found your chanel and it was the best thing ever !! i love hearing from your wisdom and especially warmed heart , how wonderful to learn from you ! sending love 💕❤❤❤
Welcome!! D
A lovely, gentle way to deal with things, thoughts, and feelings from the past. Even if it is only for the moments while you were reading this and I was listening.. 😊 you brought me a little peace ❤.
Thank you.
Your.voice is a lovely calming influence and very comforting. I do know the feeling of comforting or motivating others myself when it might feel like you're taken ror granted by some of those people, or even the weight of old negative memories.
Reminds me of a line from Tears of a Clown by Iron Maiden:
*"Who motivates the Motivator?"*
Sending you some encouragement and warm feelings, Dee - for whatever that's worth. It would be a darker world without you in it.
Thank you so much! It means a lot - it takes a lot of time and effort to keep my channel going. Take care. D
Thank you Dee❤sending love from Botswana ❤❤❤
I love this poem, I read it out occasionally to my Yoga classes, it’s perfect ♥️
I let go to approach my higher power.
Thank You Dee❤
Hello, this is my first comment under your videos, which I keep watching for a while now. And I want to say: Thank you! This video really touched me the most! Because I'm not goot at letting go. I needed to grow a lot to be where I am now. I moved from a very dark mental place to a place that is much brighter, because I found things to do that I love and overcame fears to fulfill these dreams, but I'm not quite where I want to be yet, mentally. One of the reasons for that is because I just can't let go. Very often my head is turning from the same thoughts, anxieties or self-doubt. Letting go is one of my flaws and this poem read by your calm voice is exactly what I needed today! In my Yoga course, the instructor always told us to imagine our thoughts as clouds that are there but just passing by. I feel like this video was a guide to help me to remember that! I'm really happy that I found your RUclips channel. The video "Let them" inspired me to move on from some things, too. I think, self-reflection is one of the most important things in life and you are an amazing guide for that! Thank you, dear Dee, and many greetings from Luxembourg!
Lovely 💚 thank you, have a wonderful day xx ⭐️
You’re an angel 🫶🏼 thank you!
Thank You Lovely Dee~ we must let go when we know we are destroying ourselves by holding on..I've learned as still learning..this is comforting
Sending love and gratefulness for your spirit. Take care as well, God Bless you
You are so welcome D
This reminds me of an old country song. She let herself go. You might want to check it out, helps to remind me sometimes of the good that happens over time.
Interesting - I have a piece lined up about similar. D
I do everything wrong 😂
I tell everyone about it
I cry
And eventually I find peace in prayer and distraction
but some days the pain of parting from
Someone hits back in waves
I think it’s the struggle of fear
Fear of anything failure or being alone
It’s hard
Waiting for that relief to hit naturally but thankyou for this
Gave a diff perspective
Working on toning down the fear would be good - maybe with the support of a therapist - hypnotherapy is good for kicking out fear. D
This is my favourite poem of all time.❤
Wonderful and powerful in its simplicity. Thank you very much. Greetings from the Netherlands.
I know my decision is right for me when not to do it would be untenable. I seek others input to a degree and then I keep quiet and listen to my own inner voice, council. When I find I’m struggling with making a choice/decision it is because the timing is not yet right or the decision is not yet a “perfect fit.” You know it when not to follow through would simply be unthinkable.
Thank you very much for your advice and shared empathy.. letting go is sure tough when there was a meaningful connection with a special person. I do appreciate your support and I do feel accompanied in a certain way for this process, I guess I don't have to quit to my love, feelings and memories for him but to just allow myself to let him go..
Well said! D
Wise words, but after letting go, I felt relief. So, I chose a path free of stress, guilt & misery. Life is good, I will enjoy every day that I have & let go of negativity in whatever form it comes in. 😊
Well said! Enjoy life D
you're the grandma everyone deserves, thank you for being so awesome!! much love❤❤
Thank you Dee, I too struggle with letting go, but I continue to try. Sending love from Oz. xx
Please lose the word 'try' as it immediately puts into your head that you might not/won't succeed. eg I will try to catch the train! D
I wish we were bestfriends so you can teach me life
We cn always connect on here. Channel friends! D
Me too. Meeting you could change my mindset which will change my life❤
Love you 😍 ms. Dee 🤗
My sister has cut out the rest of the family including me, it really hurts. I don't think she'll ever contact me again. I have to let go...
There are Lightworkers and there are Wayshowers, I'm somewhere in the middle I think. Then there are Starseeds... it's a rabbit hole finding our origins and missions! The poem was lovely, and like you I find it hard to let go of some things, easy to let go of others. Recently I've been trying my best to let go of expectations. That is a tough one, especially when you are reciprocal by nature. I tend to ruminate too much, my ego mind keeps me awake after the bathroom visit at 3am! Letting go is healthy for us, we have to let go of what isn't working, and what doesn't serve us any longer in order for the good the Universe has planned for us to enter in. Very hard when there's emotion attached. 😘
would love to learn more, so must get my self sorted and do it! Thanks again. D
@@Cheshirelass Look up Dolores Cannon who has passed on, but there are videos, and books she wrote on the subject many years ago.
@@LuvBritTV Thank you - I will. D
@@Cheshirelass Bible?
Thank you always Dee, I really resonate with this❤
Thank you Dee as always 😊
Thank you Dee…I find it very hard to let go 💕
Many people do - you aren't alone with that. Consider the pros and cons. D
that was beautiful
Thank you Dee as always. That was beautiful! Letting go gives us peace! Have a wonderful day and be blessed🌷🙏🙏🙏
Thank you. D
Not convinced Dee ! John Lennon's In My Life cover version by Bette Midler @ Royal Variety performed here in Blackpool takes some beating. You can vacillate (sic) Dee. Going for run.
Again, right on the money Dee ! Brilliant❤ This will stay with me. I repeat this in my self talk. Letting go of fear , so hard sometimes. Thank you again for your inspiration and gentle guidance. Blessings and love always ❤❤❤
You are so welcome D
That was a fine poem very meaningful.
💖 Thank you Dee 💖
Thank You Dee, and Bless you too... A Light Worker You are! 🦋🦋🦋
That’s beautiful and it was wonderful the way you read it ❤❤❤
Thank you. D
I loved that. She just let go. ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing. I needed that.