it should be made specfically by queer people who know nothing about straight cis men, like if you're lgbt+ but you have even a remotely realistic idea of straight cis men, you don't get the job
asexual enby, i went to catholic schools and had no idea why everyone makes it seem like staying "pure", resisting "temptation" and staying a virgin for my future husband is sooo hard. turns out i am built different after all 😔
@@Arakhor Same here. I thought everyone else was like playing up their horniness because of social expectations that I just wasn't interested in conforming to. Oops!
weirdly enough I'm the opposite despite being ace/aro: i can't understand wanting to save yourself for someone special because I like the act of doing private bedroom wrestling on it's own but not because anyone's attractive to me, every ace is different tho so it's fine lmao
@@Arakhorweirdly enough, despite me NOT being ace at all, I also find it suspiciously easy to just.. not feel the need to do the horizontal tango with someone (idk, I guess me being a chronically introverted gay male with no friends who’s questioning whether or not he might be some form of aromantic helps)
I feel like resisting temptation goes way beyond sex. Is about not disobeying, not going against hierarchy, against god and stuff like that. You cannot have a personality, identity anything. Way before I even discovered my sexuality I already felt like I was being wrong and it was too hard to do things as people told me to. I mean, I understand what you're saying but I think sex is just one thing among a lot of others you're not allowed to do while raised by church or conservative parents. Sometimes we get to the point where we end up performing sex just to get somewhat free from the pressure, it's not even because we want to, but because the prohibition is so intense that having sex feels freeing in a way.
Kink is how many ace people experience intimacy though. So some ace people may actually "immediately start with kink." There is no universal truth or common experience when discussing asexuality.
@@TinyGhostysure, but typically not from being a virgin with NO sexual experience. Typically, you would have dipped ties in the water and realized you don’t like the typical stuff so then you figure out your kink. It’s not common ace people would discover their kink before having any sexual experience whatsoever.
@@Duckduckobtusegoose I actually disagree on the assumption that people find kink through sexual experience instead of kink itself. Maybe it used to be that way, but online communities around kink are easy to find and ace communities within kink are strong. I am sure there are plenty of ace people right now in time experiencing kink completely detached from anything else. If you are an ace person into kink I would be interested in why you think kink and sex are so interconnected when they are not. Even allosexuals participate in sexless kink, rope especially is a community for that.
Uh, you would and should give more warning than "I'm going to suck on your toes" and then start sucking on toes. She is the giver in that scene and should have given him a proper talk about what to expect from it. You do NOT just immediately jump into the scene without any discussion and anybody who does that is doing kink wrong, full stop, no arguments permitted. Safe and sane is the first rule and someone who does not have the full information of what is going to be happening to them and their body is being taken advantage of and cannot give their informed and enthusiastic consent, sorry not sorry. This isn't acephobia, do not try to imply this is acephobia, this is doing kink safely in a way that isn't assault. @@TinyGhosty
Carell's character does not seek out sexual and/or kink materials. Trying to pretend that the majority of online kink material does not appear on pornographic sites is nonsense. He doesn't watch porn, he doesn't go to porn sites, he doesn't know what kink is because those are the most readily accessible sources of kink material. His entire concept of interpersonal physical intimacy, sexual or no, is from what he gleans from conversations with his friends. This man *cannot give informed consent to kink*. He can *barely* give informed consent to sex and even that is a really murky subject because he is shown in the film to have not received adequate sexual education. Every asexual person in that room commented on it: even they know how to apply a condom. There is no way to justify jumping directly into kink with this character, sorry not sorry. He can't consent, he doesn't know what it is and what happens during it and what could happen during it.
Nothing was more ace than when the scene where a bunch of men talk about sex was playing and the aces just got distracted by a dog coming into the room
Yeah this movie seems mad relatable I’ll have to check it out. Tho they missed the part where you research sex facts for hours so you can convince people you’re a certified sex haver, so you don’t get made fun of by everyone you know 😢
In this movie its actually a metaphor though. Andy's attachment to his collectibles represents his inability to take risks and experience life. its not about the fact that he owns a bunch of toys, its that they are all in their packaging where he has never even been able to enjoy them. Of course IRL there's nothing wrong with keeping your collectibles in the packaging if that's what makes you happy, but it serves a purpose in the story outside of "haha he has toys, what a nerd"
I'm not ace, but even watching this movie as a teenager going through puberty, I thought it was really sad how they showed him having a full enjoyable life, but apparently it was all meaningless because he's never had sex. Like the joke was supposed to be "Haha look at this NERD painting his little figures!" and I was just like what is wrong with enjoying painting little things? They never showed him as feeling like his life was lacking without sex. It was only once he started getting peer pressured that there was something wrong with the way he was living his life, and that just makes those coworkers shitty friends.
And as a person who does enjoy sex, it annoys the hell out of me that it's treated like the greatest thing in life. There's a lot of great things in life.
Something wholesome that you forgot or maybe didn’t see: In the Age of Aquarius number, the trans woman comes back, and gives him a big ole hug and smile. It was cute to include her in the happiness he was having. The jokes about her didn’t age well, but scenes including her were wholesome.
@@JayR.-fk7vt I get what you are saying, but for me, as a queer person, I feel like every time I hear those jokes, I wonder if the people off camera feel the same way. That being said, I do believe Judd and the crew did have some empathy for trans people, and I wish he had shown it more by leaving in that deleted scene.
@@JayR.-fk7vt I know what you mean, but they are still the protagonists and the world is presented from their eyes. Joking at the expense of someone still normalizes it, even if we're not supposed to root for the characters.
As an ace guy I'm glad there weren't any guys on the couch because when we might not have had the amazing conversation where four ace women try to figure out how erections work
This is what alosexual men don't get it. They think not showing interest makes women like them, but it is just the fact he's is not in "chasing mode" helps.
@@acompleterandom7360 I consider myself abrosexual witch is very similar. Another one is the graysexual. All of those refer to people who experience assexuality for a certain period of time. For example, you may experience like a month, a semester or a whole year without feeling any attraction towards another person. For some people you may not have a sex drive at all during this time. For others you may feel the need to orgasm but not need someone else for it. The diference between the three would be the frequence and which phase is more lasting for you. (Alosexual or Asexual)
@@Dionaea_M I thought asexuality was just about being sexually attracted to someone else, not ones own sexdrive? Or did I misunderstand something just now?
@acompleterandom7360 Maybe I didn't express myself correctly?? It's bcs english isn't my first language so I'm doing my best >.< I was trying to explain exactly that some people have sex drives and some do not and that is not necessarily related to your asexuality. Because it's a common misconception. The fact that you have the urge of doing something with yourself or that you don't does not define how you feel towards other people. And the sexuality is about the attraction to other people!! I think there is a specific name for the having or not having sex drive thing but I don't remember it right now.
@@acompleterandom7360Sexuality is inward, non-targetted while attraction absolutely is, even if it doesn't have to be a specific person. The prefix a- means the absence of, an absence of sexuality understood purely in terms of physical.. fornicating. We now understand sexualities go beyond the physical act of having sex but the definition still stands. Attraction is understood as something transient, outwards, dependent on the target, not the source. Sexuality can and often is fluid but it's changes are connected to person's identity and inner world, rather than presence or absence of the right person. I think a lot of people who struggle with mental health have experienced periods of low sexual drive that could lead to them identifying as asexual (at least for that for that period) even if person they are/were attracted to is still present in their lives. For some people it takes a long time to realise that they are asexual and their previous sex experiences were results of different pressures and needs.
I've gotten my friends into your videos (almost exclusively gay men, with some bisexuals for color), and after a new one comes out, they always say the same thing for what your next video should be. "She should make lesbians watch Cadet Kelly." So on their collective behalf, I'm making this comment and hoping it garners enough traction for your attention.
As a person who is asexual and doesn't have any asexual friends, it was really comforting to see a group of asexual people in this video series of making LGBTQIA+ watch movies. At times, it can feel like I'm the only person in the world who doesn't particularly care for sex and it also doesn't help that there is such little asexual representation in the media so watching this and just seeing other people like me was so reliving and made me feel less alone. I really appreciate this video series and get so excited whenever you make a new one. It's such a comfort series for me!!
I know the feeling. It really does get quite lonely feeling like you're the only one around who doesn't care for sex. I really hope that in the future there's more representation of us in media and I hope you're able to befriend some fellow asexuals! Or, I at least hope you find something that can make you feel less alone!
Fellow autistic person here (questioning if ace/demi). Never bothered with looking at people, cool leaves are so much better. Trees are super interesting, why bother with eye contact if you have a perfectly good Blackthorn hedge?
Shocked that you used pancakes to lure the asexuals in and not garlic bread and cake. It's well known that us asexuals are unable to resist garlic bread and cake
Demisexual here married to another demisexual like me. My husband and I were so confused because people made us feel bad to simply enjoy life and hobbies over sex. Been married 16 years, traveling and playing games together and enjoying concerts and such and still being ourselves. I always did think this movie resonated with me because, virgin or not, he seemed happy being himself and then everyone just had to go and make him feel bad and it reminded my husband and I so much of our lives.
I always took the movie as being ace-positive because you look at EVERYONE else in Andy's life at the beginning of the movie and NONE of them are happy. They all seemed to have worse problems.
I always thought the whole joke was the title of the movie setting up Andy to be a weirdo, but these "normal" people were then so bizarre. Obsessing, projecting highly personal fantasies and preferences, giving contradictory terrible advice to "fix" him when he seems pretty happy outside of awkward and high pressure situations. Back when the movie was new I thought pointing at sex-obsessed society and mocking it for being so weird and stressful was pretty rare and worthy of praise.
30:18 “She’s the temptress! Take her away!!” has massive “I’m the PS5 coming to you from inside your brain! Listen to me, boy! Leave the girl, we don’t need her!” energy.
I am really enjoying this RUclips. I worked on the rigging crew for this movie and was on it for months and months, but the way it works in Hollywood is I barely know the name of the title or the name of the movie and maybe it hadn’t even been named yet. But then as production showed up a few months after rigging on La Cienega Blvd. a defunct Best Buy that became the Electronics store people would show up with a badge that said 40-year-old virgin and I laughed, because I didn’t understand why somebody had a badge proclaiming themselves, in this case it was a teamster. That he was a 40-year-old virgin. I was like what’s the problem? Course he thought I was an idiot because I didn’t know the name of the movie that I worked on. But so often in Hollywood when working on films and television. You’re there for just the day or the week. And you don’t know what production you’re working on until you look at your paystub.but thank you for this. It was awesome.
THAT is such a funny story I love that honestly looking at all the behind the scenes stuff on this movie I just know that must have been a running joke the entire shoot
@@voyance4ellenot an expert, but I believe it has to do with the production side of filming (camera, lights, sound). People on the rigging crew will probably be the ones securing them in place/adjusting them during the filmed scenes.
american media really loves hyping up sex. it's always very strange to me cause it feels like so much value is put into quickly having sex when you're young and consistently having it or you're seen as a loser. there's such a social engineering on sex addiction. no wonder there's so many issues on porn addiction and producing incels where they feel entitled to sex.
Yo, the panic over getting rid of all his fun stuff to be "acceptable" for dating was such a mood. That was cool stuff! Srilatha and I would have been holding hands and screaming together.
The diatribe about holes is hilarious cuz I had a chat with a microbiologist friend about how human bodies are a whole mess; there's a lot of mixed passages inside our systems, from the bloodstreams to our food tubes and air tubes intersecting. It's a whole mess
Thank you so much for having me--it was such a blast!! For anyone looking for more ace content, I'm dropping my debut hour of standup 2/11 at noon, and would love if you checked it out!
though i don't identify as a man anymore, i did when i originally realised i was, and came out as, asexual. my partner at the time tried to convince me i actually just had erectile dysfunction (because why else would i not want to have sex with him?), and understanding or supportive reactions were relatively rare, at least from my irl friends. my closest friends were naturally much better (and i helped some others realise that they themselves were asexual) but several people told me that asexuality isn't real, or that men can't be asexual. even my own sister thought i just meant i wasn't trying relationships for a while when i told her (she's gotten better since). anyway, now i identify as aroace (and agender), and my queer-platonic partner is polyamorous and demisexual, so needless to say i have a better experience now. but the asexual stigma, particularly towards men is very much a whole thing. loved the video as ever, can't wait to see what other films you think of to torture asexuals with.
i also want to add to this that it's never too late to realise that you are asexual - i didn't realise until just before my 23rd birthday, i didn't come out as agender until i was 25, and i didn't realise i was aromantic until i was 27. identity is forever changing, but it is always you.
I'm only out online. My IRL friends wouldn't understand. Tried coming out as ace to my family, and I got "but you had girlfriends before, so that's impossible". So I'm only out online. I only realized I was ace when I was 39. Before that time I thought I had ED or I was broken in other ways.
I have severe emetophobia (like truly irrational and makes it difficult to function sometimes) and for YEARS this movie has only existed in my mind as "that movie where a lady barfs on steve carell's face which I saw as a standalone scene against my will in a youtube video from like 2012" and the barbie puke commentary genuinely healed something in me 😭 thank you fellow asexuals
Asexual has been in use since well before the 90s. There was even a classic Canadian punk rock band in the early 80s called the Asexuals. It's been in the zeitgeist for many decades.
I'm a fifty seven year old male who recently discovered what asexual is and it describes me to a t. I've never been attracted to anyone and the one time I dated, I didn't know we were. A friend told me this woman liked to go to movies and I did too so we should go together, which is what we did. I was never attracted to her in a romantic or sexual way. We always paid for our own meals and tickets and didn't do what I considered couple things. Looking back I was never attracted to anyone. My way of avoiding the sex talk at work, worse for me since I work with military veterans, and they talk about nothing else. I just keep quiet, I'm quiet by nature, and they assume whatever they assume. Being in the Marines too I'm sure they think something happened at some point. No one has ever asked me though.
If it helps to know, you are not alone. My grandma has been having conversations with me about Asexuality and she feels it describes her to a t, too. She deliberately got married and had kids because she wanted to be a mom, but when her husband died in the war, she just never bothered ever again with relationships. She's been happy being on her own and has been in my life since I was born. She just turned 75 and is still going strong and happy. :)
I feel like there are a ton of older ace people that fell under the radar because they weren't immediately detested like those who had same gender preferences.
When the one asexual ranted on collecting toys and getting legit mad at Andy's gf Trish being dismissive of what Andy is saying at 30:19 and 33:34 fully resonated with me 😂😂
@thepubknight6144 lol me too. I never understood the trope of wiping a desk of important business papers and office supplies, like those papers were probably in order dude, that's rude. Brings a new meaning to post-nut clarity 😎👉🏽👉🏽 lol
For being a Judd Apatow movie, I think "40 Year Virgin" is one of those rare raunchy comedies that genuinely questions and critiques societal expectations. Andy has never had sex but he is the only man in this film that has a (relatively) healthy relationship with his partner and ~generally~ views women as actual people. One of the only things about this I find offensive is that they made Andy buy a car. Why are you making fun of my environmentally conscious king?? 😭
as not only an asexual but also a filmmaker, those behind the scenes of dev patel complaining about recording the film were way too relatable lmao also yeah i thought this movie was gonna be a trainwreck but it's actually kinda wholesome ????? amazing. i may actually watch it eventually but now with intentions of seeing a not so serious flick and not with intentions os self flagellation
Well, I'm crying now. That was unexpectedly incredibly sweet. I'm demi myself, which I didn't know at all in 2005 (beyond having no vocab for it, I wasn't super in-touch with my own desires other than wanting love and wanting people to like me.) I loved this movie when it came out. I was (and am) a huge Steve Carrell fan, because his humor is always founded on vulnerability and understanding. I like that Andy was able to be flawed without having to be "fixed" to find love. The end kind of bummed me out, because I had built up s*x to be a transcendent experience, and my first time wasn't. (I mean, it took years before I could enjoy it with another person, and I've still only enjoyed it with others a few times over the decades.) I know one film can't be everything but, like, it would be cool to have a movie where someone decides, "oh, actually s*x is not for me" and still has a fulfilling life and relationships. (Also, thanks y'all for doing this. Eva, I've been clicking on your channel every day this week eagerly awaiting this one! Love your content!)
@@EvasiveOneno kidding! All the pizza and/or pancakes in the world couldn't cover up the bad aftertaste of Emmerich's *Stonewall* but this one is a sweet Valentine's treat to take us in a better direction
I was asexual man as a kid and teenager and the scene of Andy freaking out after his coworkers hype up sex to him and he had sensory overload at any sexual thoughts or sexual things was extremely relatable Another great video Evasive
@@facthunt2facthunt245 Well, as I understand it, it's complicated. No asexuality isn't a "a phase," people grow out of, or something people decide to be or not to be, but sexuality can be fluid. Not for everyone, and fluctuations aren't always so drastic, but it's not impossible to say that his sexuality changed over time. Even within the the ace community, some people describe themselves as aceflux and other microlabels that mean they experience sexual attraction in different ways sometimes. I'm definitely no expert, as I'm someone who has been asexual my entire life, and sex repulsed, but I've heard from other aces and others.
I think we are missing the big picture here. Andy works a retail job and is able to afford to live alone in an apartment in California. Also able to buy vintage figures.
NO!!! That episode makes me so mad. People online are constantly telling me my mental health then physical disabilities then my parent's trauma (them being SA'ed and teaching my sisters and I what are red flags so we didn't get hurt, too) all made me Asexual and I am not ace and therefore was "destined to be broken".... that is what that episode reminds me of and I cannot stand it and don't want any other Asexual people to get subjected to it.
@@NoOneReallySpecial It also makes me very mad and sad, but I think it's important to talk about it and raise awareness about the existence of this episode, even because many people don't really aknowlege the many struggles and prejudice that asexuals do face. Also I think it fits this whole series of "I forced ... to watch ..." as is literally watching offensive or bad portraying of queer people in media
That episode of House made me dislike Hugh Laurie. I know that's irrational as he was just an actor playing a role but his character has contributed to disinformation about us. I now have an aversion to Hugh and won't watch anything he's in.
I love the magic scene! I'm a magic nerd and understand how uncool it seems. I love that they say "he doesn't have a condom but does always have a giant quarter?" Kat Dennings even comments, "so you always have that on you?" Yeah because this one time out of a million it payed off and was awesome I practice this EVERY night
@weirdcreature9928 Because the character could be enby/fluid and predominantly femme presenting, like myself. But Gina could also be a woman who is masc and bi. The way I phrased it covers both most comfortably, IMO. But feel free to share any discretion you have.
@@Flyn4thewin I just found it weird bc there's nothing about the character that suggests she's AFAB. Even if they're nb/fluid, they could be AMAB. So it makes it kind of confusing to get what you were trying to convey
I honestly don’t see much “problematic” things. By the end it shows respect fo everyone’s sexual lifestyle. And shows that all his coworkers were actually being kinda shitty. With all their stupid advice. Like yeah, it contains a trans woman, but she’s never disrespected, you just have some straight guys say they don’t wanna have sex with someone with a penis. That’s pretty normal straight guy stuff. And by the end Andy is the one with the best relationship of his friends. And it came from just respecting a woman and not treating her like a walking vagina.
It was so relatable with the woman talking about fitting in. "...Yeah...Dat ass... ehhe" I am an asexual man and while guys (at least the ones I interacted with) wasn't nearly as bad as the guys in this movie, it was still fairly often it came up. It could be quite stressful, because not only did you have to respond, but also you couldn't always be the last to notice, so you had to be aware at all times and find a person who fit the definition of generally attractive and then mention it to the guys. I am SO glad that I am satisfied with who I am now and don't have to do that anymore. I usually tell people just that... that I am happy with my life. If they don't like it, well - not my problem.
As an aroace person I am both thoroughly entertained and disturbed as I expected to be after watching this movie, and compelled to request an "I forced aromantic people to watch '500 Days of Summer' " video
please check out the tv series Young Americans, it came out in 2000 and it has a storyline of a teenage girl who disguises herself as a boy to get the attention of her absent mother. Of course one of her fellow students finds himself attracted to her and is therefore confused about his own sexuality...
You couldn't find any asexual guys? That's me! I remember my boss recommending this movie to me and I couldn't stand it. My boss was like "you remind me of Steve Carrell in that movie." I quit that job soon after, she was pretty rude.
My girl Srilatha is asking the REAL! Question 🤣. It was an honest question that I just HAD to google and came across the following! The male body has a system that keeps it from being able to ejaculate and urinate at the same time. The muscles at the base of the bladder contract in order to close off the passageway from the bladder into the urethra- which both pee and sperm share a same pathway. Also, You technically COULD pee while hard but it would take an effort.
yup, you can, it's just obnoxious. also makes the scene super unlikely since he'd have to have never had morning wood before, and while that could be possible, it's so common for teenagers he'd have had to deal with it at some point prior to the movie.
peeing with a boner isn't any harder than peeing flaccid, the problem is that you cant really point your dick down to aim into the bowl. if you want to pee with an erection you basically have to lean your whole body forwards like michael jackson in smooth criminal
There is actually a medical condition where the prostate gets too large and you get something called retrograde ejaculation. The semen actually goes into the bladder from all the pressure. Can't imagine that'd be very fun lol
Honestly that movie director is a mood. Everytime he talked about filming the movie i could feel the despair in his eyes. And as an audiovisual communication student, i get that.
Ace man here! we do exist but are rarely seen. We hang out with Bigfoot (who is also asexual) and the Loch Ness Monster (who is hypersexual but we like to keep them around because they have good stories)
Being an asexual and watching all your other "I made [group of people] watch [movie that specifically embarrasses them]" videos, I was wondering what movie out there could be used for asexuals. I had completely forgotten about this movie, probably because I could in no way relate to the main characters. It was kind of funny, I'll admit, but I just wasn't the target audience. Well, time to relive it with my fellow aces. Thanks for this opportunity Evasive.
It's so weird to me how collecting figures was seen as "uncool" back then, every millennial I know collects action figures or merchandise from franchises they love 😂😅 I have pokemon and vintage Nintendo games and people always love checking them out when they visit my house
@@JayR.-fk7vt I think you're mistaking sexual attraction for libido which are two entirely different things and generally where people get it wrong. Are you sexually attracted to yourself if you play the solo game? Probably not.
28:23 Lyrics of this masterpiece ¿Cuándo arreglan mi cuarto? No encuentro nada ¿Dónde va con tanta prisa? Al partido de fútbol Translation: When will my room be tidied up? I can't find anything Where are you going in such a hurry? I'm going to the soccer game
We just rewatched mrs doubtfire, and while it has some upsetting moments, it made us cry. (In a good way) and honestly the upsetting parts seemed diagetic. The movie seemed to frame drag positively (Willaim's character gets a tv host gig educating kids while in Doutfire drag) while exploring how not fitting in stereotypical gender roles can very negatively affect people in divorce. And that in divorce, its important to make sure the kids are taken care of Also wario is an asexual icon so I love to find out he was going to be in this movie. Hate to find out he got cut
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It is possible being Pansexual but also being shy?
@@entertainmentpowerfuchs5744 it absolutely is. Your sexuality is about who you find attractive, not your ability to pursue people.
@@entertainmentpowerfuchs5744 no. These unrelated things that have no overlap are mutually exclusive.
That's a joke.
I guess so
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You should make straight men watch a really bad documentary about Nascar or something
it should be made specfically by queer people who know nothing about straight cis men, like if you're lgbt+ but you have even a remotely realistic idea of straight cis men, you don't get the job
This
Or Ford v. Ferrari
Lol "when are the straight males getting representation on this channel"
YES PLEASE 😂
asexual enby, i went to catholic schools and had no idea why everyone makes it seem like staying "pure", resisting "temptation" and staying a virgin for my future husband is sooo hard. turns out i am built different after all 😔
As a teenager, I also never saw what was so difficult about not having sex before marriage. It's as easy as breathing, surely! 😂
@@Arakhor Same here. I thought everyone else was like playing up their horniness because of social expectations that I just wasn't interested in conforming to.
Oops!
weirdly enough I'm the opposite despite being ace/aro: i can't understand wanting to save yourself for someone special because I like the act of doing private bedroom wrestling on it's own but not because anyone's attractive to me, every ace is different tho so it's fine lmao
@@Arakhorweirdly enough, despite me NOT being ace at all, I also find it suspiciously easy to just.. not feel the need to do the horizontal tango with someone (idk, I guess me being a chronically introverted gay male with no friends who’s questioning whether or not he might be some form of aromantic helps)
I feel like resisting temptation goes way beyond sex. Is about not disobeying, not going against hierarchy, against god and stuff like that. You cannot have a personality, identity anything. Way before I even discovered my sexuality I already felt like I was being wrong and it was too hard to do things as people told me to.
I mean, I understand what you're saying but I think sex is just one thing among a lot of others you're not allowed to do while raised by church or conservative parents. Sometimes we get to the point where we end up performing sex just to get somewhat free from the pressure, it's not even because we want to, but because the prohibition is so intense that having sex feels freeing in a way.
When the whole room of asexuals goes "well you don't immediately start with the kink", you know the truth is being spoken.
Kink is how many ace people experience intimacy though. So some ace people may actually "immediately start with kink." There is no universal truth or common experience when discussing asexuality.
@@TinyGhostysure, but typically not from being a virgin with NO sexual experience. Typically, you would have dipped ties in the water and realized you don’t like the typical stuff so then you figure out your kink. It’s not common ace people would discover their kink before having any sexual experience whatsoever.
@@Duckduckobtusegoose I actually disagree on the assumption that people find kink through sexual experience instead of kink itself. Maybe it used to be that way, but online communities around kink are easy to find and ace communities within kink are strong. I am sure there are plenty of ace people right now in time experiencing kink completely detached from anything else. If you are an ace person into kink I would be interested in why you think kink and sex are so interconnected when they are not. Even allosexuals participate in sexless kink, rope especially is a community for that.
Uh, you would and should give more warning than "I'm going to suck on your toes" and then start sucking on toes. She is the giver in that scene and should have given him a proper talk about what to expect from it. You do NOT just immediately jump into the scene without any discussion and anybody who does that is doing kink wrong, full stop, no arguments permitted. Safe and sane is the first rule and someone who does not have the full information of what is going to be happening to them and their body is being taken advantage of and cannot give their informed and enthusiastic consent, sorry not sorry. This isn't acephobia, do not try to imply this is acephobia, this is doing kink safely in a way that isn't assault.
@@TinyGhosty
Carell's character does not seek out sexual and/or kink materials. Trying to pretend that the majority of online kink material does not appear on pornographic sites is nonsense. He doesn't watch porn, he doesn't go to porn sites, he doesn't know what kink is because those are the most readily accessible sources of kink material. His entire concept of interpersonal physical intimacy, sexual or no, is from what he gleans from conversations with his friends. This man *cannot give informed consent to kink*. He can *barely* give informed consent to sex and even that is a really murky subject because he is shown in the film to have not received adequate sexual education. Every asexual person in that room commented on it: even they know how to apply a condom. There is no way to justify jumping directly into kink with this character, sorry not sorry. He can't consent, he doesn't know what it is and what happens during it and what could happen during it.
As an Ace Man I can personally confirm that I don’t exist.
As another ace man I can also confirm that I exist
At 9:23
Yo same
Yeah we're just non existent
That statement is a paradox
Nothing was more ace than when the scene where a bunch of men talk about sex was playing and the aces just got distracted by a dog coming into the room
It me
Hiiiiii asexual man here, can confirm this movie is indeed me (I'd rather read Wario World strategy guides than have sex)
This is such a mood
YOURE SO REAL
Yeah this movie seems mad relatable I’ll have to check it out. Tho they missed the part where you research sex facts for hours so you can convince people you’re a certified sex haver, so you don’t get made fun of by everyone you know 😢
I don't even play Wario World but fuck yea man I'm wirh you
@@tomtomtomtomtomtomtomhahhhhhh, I'm lucky enough to not be around sex-centric friends, tho I'm crazy enough to embrace being clueless on sex :3333333
"SHE IS THE TEMPTRESS, TAKE HER AWAY" fucking slayed me
As a doll collector, I felt that.
What did she say after "I know but you can never" ???. At like 30:27
@@BrieanaWeybright im a Marvel and DC toy collector I fully understand as well
i hate that these types of movies always go, "being an adult means selling all your things you love and cherish!"
Yeah it's a very narrow view of what an adult should be
In this movie its actually a metaphor though. Andy's attachment to his collectibles represents his inability to take risks and experience life. its not about the fact that he owns a bunch of toys, its that they are all in their packaging where he has never even been able to enjoy them.
Of course IRL there's nothing wrong with keeping your collectibles in the packaging if that's what makes you happy, but it serves a purpose in the story outside of "haha he has toys, what a nerd"
I understand that but sometimes people are hoarders and it's fine to give some of the old stuff you no longer look at away to free up some room.
I'm not ace, but even watching this movie as a teenager going through puberty, I thought it was really sad how they showed him having a full enjoyable life, but apparently it was all meaningless because he's never had sex. Like the joke was supposed to be "Haha look at this NERD painting his little figures!" and I was just like what is wrong with enjoying painting little things? They never showed him as feeling like his life was lacking without sex. It was only once he started getting peer pressured that there was something wrong with the way he was living his life, and that just makes those coworkers shitty friends.
And as a person who does enjoy sex, it annoys the hell out of me that it's treated like the greatest thing in life. There's a lot of great things in life.
@@BeTheAeroplaneat least in the end he found love, and the movie frames this as more important than sex.
“She is the TEMPTRESS, take her AWAY”
“YOUR ASS DAMAGED THE BOX”
“No I’m not ok……… I’m CONCUSSED.”
where is Srilatha’s Oscar nom for this video???
How many asexuals does it take to screw a light bulb?
Doesn’t matter because they aren’t interested in screwing anything.
...and they don't need the lights out.
JAUEAHUEAHSHAHSUAHAHA IM DEAD
Wocka Wocka
💀
None. They’re too busy??? Their gender!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
At this point, I'm convinced Evasive ONLY has LGBTQ+ friends.
and I love that for her 😆
Lucky
ideal friendship situation
Is that not normal?
All queer ppl only have queer friends
"that's our nipples"
"barbie puke"
"i feel violated by that"
"this is her glee audition"
"they're losing value"
I just love their remarks
"Baby bunny puke"
"I'm not a dick scientist. I haven't studied them."
"it's not old faithful"
Reminded me of Bimini as Katie Price: "The nipples are the eyes of the face... and you've got gorgeous nipples!"
I need to see more videos with this exact panel of people because the commentary was A+.
Something wholesome that you forgot or maybe didn’t see: In the Age of Aquarius number, the trans woman comes back, and gives him a big ole hug and smile. It was cute to include her in the happiness he was having.
The jokes about her didn’t age well, but scenes including her were wholesome.
I didn’t even notice that I love it, I really wish Judd could’ve kept her scenes in
@@JayR.-fk7vt Decades of conservative culture poisoning the well.
@@JayR.-fk7vt I get what you are saying, but for me, as a queer person, I feel like every time I hear those jokes, I wonder if the people off camera feel the same way.
That being said, I do believe Judd and the crew did have some empathy for trans people, and I wish he had shown it more by leaving in that deleted scene.
It's really interesting because the character herself is treated amazingly, while the jokes later are bad.
@@JayR.-fk7vt I know what you mean, but they are still the protagonists and the world is presented from their eyes. Joking at the expense of someone still normalizes it, even if we're not supposed to root for the characters.
As an ace guy I'm glad there weren't any guys on the couch because when we might not have had the amazing conversation where four ace women try to figure out how erections work
That was so funny
I'm not even particularly ace and those things still confuse me.
"When he's not desperate about sex he's actually charming." Welcome to men. I felt that so much lol.
I mean that’s kinda the whole point of the movie tbf
This is what alosexual men don't get it. They think not showing interest makes women like them, but it is just the fact he's is not in "chasing mode" helps.
I'm an aceflux guy and I gotta tell you the in bed with the Wario World manual is the most accurate reflection of self I've ever seen.
Thats the first time I heard of aceflux, tho it makes sense I'm a bit confused. How exactly did you realize that?
@@acompleterandom7360 I consider myself abrosexual witch is very similar. Another one is the graysexual. All of those refer to people who experience assexuality for a certain period of time. For example, you may experience like a month, a semester or a whole year without feeling any attraction towards another person. For some people you may not have a sex drive at all during this time. For others you may feel the need to orgasm but not need someone else for it.
The diference between the three would be the frequence and which phase is more lasting for you. (Alosexual or Asexual)
@@Dionaea_M I thought asexuality was just about being sexually attracted to someone else, not ones own sexdrive? Or did I misunderstand something just now?
@acompleterandom7360 Maybe I didn't express myself correctly?? It's bcs english isn't my first language so I'm doing my best >.<
I was trying to explain exactly that some people have sex drives and some do not and that is not necessarily related to your asexuality. Because it's a common misconception. The fact that you have the urge of doing something with yourself or that you don't does not define how you feel towards other people. And the sexuality is about the attraction to other people!! I think there is a specific name for the having or not having sex drive thing but I don't remember it right now.
@@acompleterandom7360Sexuality is inward, non-targetted while attraction absolutely is, even if it doesn't have to be a specific person. The prefix a- means the absence of, an absence of sexuality understood purely in terms of physical.. fornicating. We now understand sexualities go beyond the physical act of having sex but the definition still stands. Attraction is understood as something transient, outwards, dependent on the target, not the source. Sexuality can and often is fluid but it's changes are connected to person's identity and inner world, rather than presence or absence of the right person. I think a lot of people who struggle with mental health have experienced periods of low sexual drive that could lead to them identifying as asexual (at least for that for that period) even if person they are/were attracted to is still present in their lives. For some people it takes a long time to realise that they are asexual and their previous sex experiences were results of different pressures and needs.
I've gotten my friends into your videos (almost exclusively gay men, with some bisexuals for color), and after a new one comes out, they always say the same thing for what your next video should be. "She should make lesbians watch Cadet Kelly." So on their collective behalf, I'm making this comment and hoping it garners enough traction for your attention.
I’m adding that to my list tell your friends 💖
Yesss!! Lets goooooo!
Yesss make this happen
I'm cishet and I enjoy the videos too, some of the comments are wild though, none of the assumptions fit most of the cishet guys I know lol
@@enigmaticrage812 that's good to know ^^
As an Asexual man, I would like to kindly request that you stop spreading rumors that we exist.
all the cutaways from raucous raunchy jokes to the aces politely eating snacks lolol
I love it
As a person who is asexual and doesn't have any asexual friends, it was really comforting to see a group of asexual people in this video series of making LGBTQIA+ watch movies. At times, it can feel like I'm the only person in the world who doesn't particularly care for sex and it also doesn't help that there is such little asexual representation in the media so watching this and just seeing other people like me was so reliving and made me feel less alone. I really appreciate this video series and get so excited whenever you make a new one. It's such a comfort series for me!!
I've been listening to the AceCouple podcast and it's helped me feel less alone!
as a fellow ace, solidarity 🤝 hope you're doing well!
@@dannymarie Thank you for the recommendation! I'll definitely check them out.
I know the feeling. It really does get quite lonely feeling like you're the only one around who doesn't care for sex. I really hope that in the future there's more representation of us in media and I hope you're able to befriend some fellow asexuals! Or, I at least hope you find something that can make you feel less alone!
THIS
As an autistic asexual person, gotta say I am absolutely not making eye contact with anyone
Yeah I have no idea what anyone's eye color is lol
I hate (or rather just CANT) eye contact, maybe I'm autistic after all?
My eye contact is too intense
Me
Fellow autistic person here (questioning if ace/demi). Never bothered with looking at people, cool leaves are so much better. Trees are super interesting, why bother with eye contact if you have a perfectly good Blackthorn hedge?
Shocked that you used pancakes to lure the asexuals in and not garlic bread and cake. It's well known that us asexuals are unable to resist garlic bread and cake
I am saving the garlic bread and cake for the next asexual video ❤️
As a food-obsessed asexual I would go anywhere for pancakes, garlic bread, OR cake lol
Garlic cake!
YAYY IM SO EXCITED @@EvasiveOne
I think you're confusing Asexuals with Goro Aketchi. Understandable mistake.
Demisexual here married to another demisexual like me. My husband and I were so confused because people made us feel bad to simply enjoy life and hobbies over sex. Been married 16 years, traveling and playing games together and enjoying concerts and such and still being ourselves. I always did think this movie resonated with me because, virgin or not, he seemed happy being himself and then everyone just had to go and make him feel bad and it reminded my husband and I so much of our lives.
I am a very proud ASEXUAL BLACK MAN here.
I always took the movie as being ace-positive because you look at EVERYONE else in Andy's life at the beginning of the movie and NONE of them are happy. They all seemed to have worse problems.
I always thought the whole joke was the title of the movie setting up Andy to be a weirdo, but these "normal" people were then so bizarre. Obsessing, projecting highly personal fantasies and preferences, giving contradictory terrible advice to "fix" him when he seems pretty happy outside of awkward and high pressure situations. Back when the movie was new I thought pointing at sex-obsessed society and mocking it for being so weird and stressful was pretty rare and worthy of praise.
“Just one old South Asian dude in a Circuit City? Who are they kidding?”
30:18 “She’s the temptress! Take her away!!” has massive “I’m the PS5 coming to you from inside your brain! Listen to me, boy! Leave the girl, we don’t need her!” energy.
Was about to comment as instructed, that I am a male asexual. Then remembered I’m non binary and just misgendered myself 😪
REAL I FEEL SO SEEN
I am sorry but that is hilarious! 😂
It’s great when people can joke about themselves!
obsessed with you calling pancakes "asexual pizza". it makes absolutely no sense to me and i love it
"Andy is going down partner, we gonna be-" (starts humping air)
*cut to asexuals like "omg food yass i love this"*
I SCURRIED OVER HERE LIKE A RAT
🐀
SAME, every time Eva uploads I fly for it 😂
That’s so real
"skaven noises" Is that garlic bread?
I am really enjoying this RUclips. I worked on the rigging crew for this movie and was on it for months and months, but the way it works in Hollywood is I barely know the name of the title or the name of the movie and maybe it hadn’t even been named yet. But then as production showed up a few months after rigging on La Cienega Blvd. a defunct Best Buy that became the Electronics store people would show up with a badge that said 40-year-old virgin and I laughed, because I didn’t understand why somebody had a badge proclaiming themselves, in this case it was a teamster. That he was a 40-year-old virgin. I was like what’s the problem? Course he thought I was an idiot because I didn’t know the name of the movie that I worked on. But so often in Hollywood when working on films and television. You’re there for just the day or the week. And you don’t know what production you’re working on until you look at your paystub.but thank you for this. It was awesome.
THAT is such a funny story I love that honestly looking at all the behind the scenes stuff on this movie I just know that must have been a running joke the entire shoot
what is a rigging crew? I only know what a rigger is so....
Well, if you know what a rigger is, imagine a crew of them.@@voyance4elle
The exterior was in Encino. So unless you're saying the interior was on La Cienega you're wrong.
@@voyance4ellenot an expert, but I believe it has to do with the production side of filming (camera, lights, sound). People on the rigging crew will probably be the ones securing them in place/adjusting them during the filmed scenes.
american media really loves hyping up sex. it's always very strange to me cause it feels like so much value is put into quickly having sex when you're young and consistently having it or you're seen as a loser. there's such a social engineering on sex addiction. no wonder there's so many issues on porn addiction and producing incels where they feel entitled to sex.
This is true.
Yo, the panic over getting rid of all his fun stuff to be "acceptable" for dating was such a mood. That was cool stuff!
Srilatha and I would have been holding hands and screaming together.
The diatribe about holes is hilarious cuz I had a chat with a microbiologist friend about how human bodies are a whole mess; there's a lot of mixed passages inside our systems, from the bloodstreams to our food tubes and air tubes intersecting. It's a whole mess
Sounds like a hole mess to me
EEEYYYYY@@liamace1107
fr tho Srilatha was so real for that
The struggles of bringing an ace man who’s homoromantic :3
Hear, hear! Gay male culture is so exhaustingly sexualised!
RIP
Feel ya there brother
Where are you bringing him?
As an ace homoromantic trans man I FEEL you bro
obligatory rent comment
Dave Chapelle: I'm not a bigot, I have a dead trans friend
Rent: You and me both
@@morbidsearch holy fuck
@@morbidsearchAm I going to Hell for laughing at this? 😂
@@morbidsearchlmao
"They called it pussy even then?" What do you mean even then? This movie is less than 20 years old. That made me feel old and I'm only 33. lol
OMG YES! Thank you for commenting that! I literally thought the same thing like- it's really not that long ago and now I feel older. =P
its been used in that context since the 18th century. the more you know
asexuals are so fucking badass to me like they’re just like “sex is boring i want breadsticks”
Thank you so much for having me--it was such a blast!! For anyone looking for more ace content, I'm dropping my debut hour of standup 2/11 at noon, and would love if you checked it out!
Everyone check out Leorah’s special when it comes out!
You were really funny and insightful! Also your hair looks so great with the bow I'm jealous!!
Aww thank you so much!! @@TheNerdySimulation 🥰
@@leorahwood 🖤
though i don't identify as a man anymore, i did when i originally realised i was, and came out as, asexual. my partner at the time tried to convince me i actually just had erectile dysfunction (because why else would i not want to have sex with him?), and understanding or supportive reactions were relatively rare, at least from my irl friends. my closest friends were naturally much better (and i helped some others realise that they themselves were asexual) but several people told me that asexuality isn't real, or that men can't be asexual. even my own sister thought i just meant i wasn't trying relationships for a while when i told her (she's gotten better since).
anyway, now i identify as aroace (and agender), and my queer-platonic partner is polyamorous and demisexual, so needless to say i have a better experience now. but the asexual stigma, particularly towards men is very much a whole thing.
loved the video as ever, can't wait to see what other films you think of to torture asexuals with.
i also want to add to this that it's never too late to realise that you are asexual - i didn't realise until just before my 23rd birthday, i didn't come out as agender until i was 25, and i didn't realise i was aromantic until i was 27. identity is forever changing, but it is always you.
"identity is forever changing, but it is always you" is such an excellent line!!! also hey, alliteration buddies B-) I'm aroace and agender as well!
I'm only out online. My IRL friends wouldn't understand.
Tried coming out as ace to my family, and I got "but you had girlfriends before, so that's impossible".
So I'm only out online. I only realized I was ace when I was 39. Before that time I thought I had ED or I was broken in other ways.
I have severe emetophobia (like truly irrational and makes it difficult to function sometimes) and for YEARS this movie has only existed in my mind as "that movie where a lady barfs on steve carell's face which I saw as a standalone scene against my will in a youtube video from like 2012" and the barbie puke commentary genuinely healed something in me 😭 thank you fellow asexuals
Asexual has been in use since well before the 90s. There was even a classic Canadian punk rock band in the early 80s called the Asexuals. It's been in the zeitgeist for many decades.
I'm a fifty seven year old male who recently discovered what asexual is and it describes me to a t. I've never been attracted to anyone and the one time I dated, I didn't know we were. A friend told me this woman liked to go to movies and I did too so we should go together, which is what we did. I was never attracted to her in a romantic or sexual way. We always paid for our own meals and tickets and didn't do what I considered couple things. Looking back I was never attracted to anyone. My way of avoiding the sex talk at work, worse for me since I work with military veterans, and they talk about nothing else. I just keep quiet, I'm quiet by nature, and they assume whatever they assume. Being in the Marines too I'm sure they think something happened at some point. No one has ever asked me though.
If it helps to know, you are not alone. My grandma has been having conversations with me about Asexuality and she feels it describes her to a t, too. She deliberately got married and had kids because she wanted to be a mom, but when her husband died in the war, she just never bothered ever again with relationships. She's been happy being on her own and has been in my life since I was born. She just turned 75 and is still going strong and happy. :)
I feel like there are a ton of older ace people that fell under the radar because they weren't immediately detested like those who had same gender preferences.
At long last, some Ace representation in "being kidnapped and blindsided by Evasive"!
13:54 "that's OUR nipples" * points to eyes * lol the asexuals are asexualing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
When the one asexual ranted on collecting toys and getting legit mad at Andy's gf Trish being dismissive of what Andy is saying at 30:19 and 33:34 fully resonated with me 😂😂
@thepubknight6144 lol me too. I never understood the trope of wiping a desk of important business papers and office supplies, like those papers were probably in order dude, that's rude. Brings a new meaning to post-nut clarity 😎👉🏽👉🏽 lol
Nipples are the eyes of the face...
@@covertmacbeth exactly! wait…no hold on
I love how Kat Dennings had a consistent of playing impeccably pissed off ladies.
That Yinzer "give no fucks" type
(She's from Western Pa like me so I instantly picked it up 😂)
She’s definitely typecasted into that role for sure lol
For being a Judd Apatow movie, I think "40 Year Virgin" is one of those rare raunchy comedies that genuinely questions and critiques societal expectations. Andy has never had sex but he is the only man in this film that has a (relatively) healthy relationship with his partner and ~generally~ views women as actual people. One of the only things about this I find offensive is that they made Andy buy a car. Why are you making fun of my environmentally conscious king?? 😭
as not only an asexual but also a filmmaker, those behind the scenes of dev patel complaining about recording the film were way too relatable lmao also yeah i thought this movie was gonna be a trainwreck but it's actually kinda wholesome ????? amazing. i may actually watch it eventually but now with intentions of seeing a not so serious flick and not with intentions os self flagellation
calling Judd Apatow “Dev Patel” is too funny I can’t omg
@@EvasiveOne OMG I MESSED UP THEIR NAMES SORRY ALJDHLKSJHG you know what i won't even fix it
God those video diaries felt like watching someone go through a 30 day sobriety program and failing miserably.
“I’m not a dick scientist” finally, an attainable goal for children to look up to
The most overlooked STEM career
Well, I'm crying now. That was unexpectedly incredibly sweet. I'm demi myself, which I didn't know at all in 2005 (beyond having no vocab for it, I wasn't super in-touch with my own desires other than wanting love and wanting people to like me.) I loved this movie when it came out. I was (and am) a huge Steve Carrell fan, because his humor is always founded on vulnerability and understanding. I like that Andy was able to be flawed without having to be "fixed" to find love. The end kind of bummed me out, because I had built up s*x to be a transcendent experience, and my first time wasn't. (I mean, it took years before I could enjoy it with another person, and I've still only enjoyed it with others a few times over the decades.) I know one film can't be everything but, like, it would be cool to have a movie where someone decides, "oh, actually s*x is not for me" and still has a fulfilling life and relationships. (Also, thanks y'all for doing this. Eva, I've been clicking on your channel every day this week eagerly awaiting this one! Love your content!)
Thank you so much 💖 I was hoping this one would be sweet after the nightmare that was the Stonewall movie
@@EvasiveOneno kidding! All the pizza and/or pancakes in the world couldn't cover up the bad aftertaste of Emmerich's *Stonewall* but this one is a sweet Valentine's treat to take us in a better direction
As a 30 year old virgin (im super ace) this video has helped me heal from the disappointment of not becoming a wizard as the internet promised me.
Cherry magic mentioned ❤
The Indian girl is so funny. I would watch her stand up.
She does do stand up! That’s how I met her, check out the link to her instagram in the description ✨
This should be a comfy yet nervous watch as a fellow asexual (and aro).
aero? as in flying? or aromantic? ? aro people can fly?
Shhh, the allos aren't supposed to know we can fly.
@@cooltunacankeep quiet, nobody can know
@@cooltunacanAro, whoops
1. As a raging homosexual, I love all these videos so much.
2. You should make nonbinary people watch "Seed of Chucky". It's... a lot.
Oh gosh... the Glen/Glenda scene...
We already had “It’s Pat” must we suffer further?
hey don't knock Seed of Chucky too hard, Glen/Glenda are canonically genderfluid in the Chucky tv show
And they're played by nonbinary actor Lachlan Watson
@@drayton.2078of everything that went on with the character, i always wondered if the actor is NB but I never bothered to check
I was asexual man as a kid and teenager and the scene of Andy freaking out after his coworkers hype up sex to him and he had sensory overload at any sexual thoughts or sexual things was extremely relatable
Another great video Evasive
Aces don't stop being ace. If you did then I think you meant to say celibate.
🙄 let him live
@@facthunt2facthunt245 Well, as I understand it, it's complicated. No asexuality isn't a "a phase," people grow out of, or something people decide to be or not to be, but sexuality can be fluid. Not for everyone, and fluctuations aren't always so drastic, but it's not impossible to say that his sexuality changed over time.
Even within the the ace community, some people describe themselves as aceflux and other microlabels that mean they experience sexual attraction in different ways sometimes. I'm definitely no expert, as I'm someone who has been asexual my entire life, and sex repulsed, but I've heard from other aces and others.
This movie helped my dad become more comfortable and proactive with teaching my sister and I sex ed. He really took the health clinic scene to heart.
I think we are missing the big picture here. Andy works a retail job and is able to afford to live alone in an apartment in California. Also able to buy vintage figures.
Yeah that’s what I thought!! No way is his only form of income coming from working his retail job. Dude must have a trust fund or something lol
i just hope the trans woman in the movie knows: she is really beautiful and the deleted scenes look like she was acting very well.
Now we need "I forced asexuals to watch that one Asexuality doctor House episode"
NO!!! That episode makes me so mad. People online are constantly telling me my mental health then physical disabilities then my parent's trauma (them being SA'ed and teaching my sisters and I what are red flags so we didn't get hurt, too) all made me Asexual and I am not ace and therefore was "destined to be broken".... that is what that episode reminds me of and I cannot stand it and don't want any other Asexual people to get subjected to it.
@@NoOneReallySpecial It also makes me very mad and sad, but I think it's important to talk about it and raise awareness about the existence of this episode, even because many people don't really aknowlege the many struggles and prejudice that asexuals do face. Also I think it fits this whole series of "I forced ... to watch ..." as is literally watching offensive or bad portraying of queer people in media
@@lind_sorri I see what you're saying, now. Definitely makes sense in that context, then.
That episode of House made me dislike Hugh Laurie. I know that's irrational as he was just an actor playing a role but his character has contributed to disinformation about us. I now have an aversion to Hugh and won't watch anything he's in.
Please no! *insert Steve Carell shouting no here*
I’m an asexual guy and (I think) I exist
Also the dance scene edit at the end goes so hard
You think *therefore* you exist!
Love,
Rene Descartes.
(But also, me too)
Source?
Ace man here, thanks for confirming we exist!!
I love the magic scene! I'm a magic nerd and understand how uncool it seems. I love that they say "he doesn't have a condom but does always have a giant quarter?" Kat Dennings even comments, "so you always have that on you?" Yeah because this one time out of a million it payed off and was awesome I practice this EVERY night
Not even watched the video but all u had to say was "asexual" and i was summoned
Gina, though the role is short, is truly the masc AFAB bisexual representation we need.
Big time "Sup bro, lemme see your hog" energy, and I'm here for it.
Why use "AFAB" instead of "woman" here? /gen
@weirdcreature9928 Because the character could be enby/fluid and predominantly femme presenting, like myself. But Gina could also be a woman who is masc and bi. The way I phrased it covers both most comfortably, IMO. But feel free to share any discretion you have.
@weirdcreature9928 (should probably edit this comment to emit the "she", though.)
@@Flyn4thewin I just found it weird bc there's nothing about the character that suggests she's AFAB. Even if they're nb/fluid, they could be AMAB. So it makes it kind of confusing to get what you were trying to convey
I love this series. It's like MST3K but for problematic comedies.
oh my gosh 1) great comparison 2) MST3K mention i could cry 🥹 i used the watch them with parents alll the time
Omg THAT'S why I like these videos so much
Problematic is just code for funny tbh
I honestly don’t see much “problematic” things. By the end it shows respect fo everyone’s sexual lifestyle. And shows that all his coworkers were actually being kinda shitty. With all their stupid advice.
Like yeah, it contains a trans woman, but she’s never disrespected, you just have some straight guys say they don’t wanna have sex with someone with a penis. That’s pretty normal straight guy stuff.
And by the end Andy is the one with the best relationship of his friends. And it came from just respecting a woman and not treating her like a walking vagina.
40 year old virgin actually isn’t problematic if you’ve seen it the title was to get people to see it had a good message
It was so relatable with the woman talking about fitting in. "...Yeah...Dat ass... ehhe"
I am an asexual man and while guys (at least the ones I interacted with) wasn't nearly as bad as the guys in this movie, it was still fairly often it came up. It could be quite stressful, because not only did you have to respond, but also you couldn't always be the last to notice, so you had to be aware at all times and find a person who fit the definition of generally attractive and then mention it to the guys.
I am SO glad that I am satisfied with who I am now and don't have to do that anymore. I usually tell people just that... that I am happy with my life. If they don't like it, well - not my problem.
As an aroace person I am both thoroughly entertained and disturbed as I expected to be after watching this movie, and compelled to request an "I forced aromantic people to watch '500 Days of Summer' " video
I exist Evasive. Thank you for your acknowledgement.
please check out the tv series Young Americans, it came out in 2000 and it has a storyline of a teenage girl who disguises herself as a boy to get the attention of her absent mother. Of course one of her fellow students finds himself attracted to her and is therefore confused about his own sexuality...
I will investigate thank you 🫡
13:50 they really just said "the nipples... are the eyes of the face" THE PROPHECY OF BIMINI realized with the power of asexuals I CAN'T EVEN 😂
"they used to call it a pussy even then? Wow" that seemed so sincere, im crying
You couldn't find any asexual guys? That's me!
I remember my boss recommending this movie to me and I couldn't stand it. My boss was like "you remind me of Steve Carrell in that movie."
I quit that job soon after, she was pretty rude.
I can say a lot of stuff as an asexual guy, but my biggest complain is:
as an hispanic guy, i can't tell what the fuck the boss was singing 💀
🎶Cuando arreglan mi cuarto, no encuentro nada. ¿ Dónde va con tanta prisa al partido de fútbol? 🎵
I've been hitting the Redbull HARD for THREE DAYS, I go home every night and I SHAKE dudeee he is so me
He’s so you-coded
My girl Srilatha is asking the REAL! Question 🤣. It was an honest question that I just HAD to google and came across the following! The male body has a system that keeps it from being able to ejaculate and urinate at the same time. The muscles at the base of the bladder contract in order to close off the passageway from the bladder into the urethra- which both pee and sperm share a same pathway. Also, You technically COULD pee while hard but it would take an effort.
yup, you can, it's just obnoxious. also makes the scene super unlikely since he'd have to have never had morning wood before, and while that could be possible, it's so common for teenagers he'd have had to deal with it at some point prior to the movie.
I was fascinated that the movie implies him being a virgin means he's never before had a boner when he needs to pee
peeing with a boner isn't any harder than peeing flaccid, the problem is that you cant really point your dick down to aim into the bowl. if you want to pee with an erection you basically have to lean your whole body forwards like michael jackson in smooth criminal
There is actually a medical condition where the prostate gets too large and you get something called retrograde ejaculation. The semen actually goes into the bladder from all the pressure. Can't imagine that'd be very fun lol
Sometimes really having to pee makes you hard, because you’re not gonna accidentally let it go with a boner.
Hey guys I exist. Just incase you thought we were a myth
Honestly that movie director is a mood. Everytime he talked about filming the movie i could feel the despair in his eyes. And as an audiovisual communication student, i get that.
you should get lesbians to watch hit 2009 comedy "lesbian vampire killers" starring james corden
That one is on my list ✨
@@EvasiveOne holy shit lmao, can't wait
You probably wouldn't even need to lie about the movie title as long as you made them promise not to look it up in any way
Oh dear lord I watched that in a cinema that video is gonna be PAIN
the way i almost choked when reading 'starring james corden'
1 second in, can already tell this is gonna be uncomfortable. Will I still watch it? Obviously, it'll also be hilarious.
I’ve heard my dad quote “You know how I know you’re gay?” far too many times… and like every other line…
Jane is so iconic for that improvised Spanish song lmao
Ace man here! we do exist but are rarely seen. We hang out with Bigfoot (who is also asexual) and the Loch Ness Monster (who is hypersexual but we like to keep them around because they have good stories)
As an asexual man, I cannot confirm I exist but this video does speak to me and my interests
The video diary is fucking hilarious. Dude is like me, we really need to stop letting our intrusive thoughts win by saying it all out loud.
It feels ahead of its time. If Judd Apatow was born 30 years later I could imagine him being a RUclipsr instead of working in movies and TV
Being an asexual and watching all your other "I made [group of people] watch [movie that specifically embarrasses them]" videos, I was wondering what movie out there could be used for asexuals. I had completely forgotten about this movie, probably because I could in no way relate to the main characters. It was kind of funny, I'll admit, but I just wasn't the target audience. Well, time to relive it with my fellow aces. Thanks for this opportunity Evasive.
9:22 Ok, so I didn't start the video before making my initial comment. Let it be known that I am indeed an asexual man.
So glad you said “the Northern hemisphere”. As another ace who hasn’t seen this movie, I’m excited and worried about what I’m about to watch!
It's so weird to me how collecting figures was seen as "uncool" back then, every millennial I know collects action figures or merchandise from franchises they love 😂😅 I have pokemon and vintage Nintendo games and people always love checking them out when they visit my house
Steer clear of many an 80s movie...SO much anti-nerdery...
I really hate the misconception that asexual people don't have or like sex. We can and do. Asexuality is about missing that spark of attraction.
I’m on the ace spectrum myself tbh and you’re right I should’ve worded that better and clarified
Thank you, I just typed the same thing.
@@JayR.-fk7vt I think you're mistaking sexual attraction for libido which are two entirely different things and generally where people get it wrong. Are you sexually attracted to yourself if you play the solo game? Probably not.
@@JayR.-fk7vt Please tell me you are just joking, and you don't actually think that's how that works.
@@JayR.-fk7vt whatever d00d. I'm sexually active and asexual. Physical contact between 2 people is still way better than playing with yourself.
I'm gonna need all casting directors to stop casting Jane Lynch as a straight woman, now, forever, and retroactively
Great vid as usual Eva! :D
I give this video a 4.5/5. Excellent editing and great participant personalities. 0.5 deduction for no pizza.
the way that one actor not wanting his mom to see the movie parallels one of the asexuals not wanting her daughter to see this … cinema
28:23 Lyrics of this masterpiece
¿Cuándo arreglan mi cuarto?
No encuentro nada
¿Dónde va con tanta prisa?
Al partido de fútbol
Translation:
When will my room be tidied up?
I can't find anything
Where are you going in such a hurry?
I'm going to the soccer game
We just rewatched mrs doubtfire, and while it has some upsetting moments, it made us cry. (In a good way) and honestly the upsetting parts seemed diagetic. The movie seemed to frame drag positively (Willaim's character gets a tv host gig educating kids while in Doutfire drag) while exploring how not fitting in stereotypical gender roles can very negatively affect people in divorce.
And that in divorce, its important to make sure the kids are taken care of
Also wario is an asexual icon so I love to find out he was going to be in this movie. Hate to find out he got cut
asexual man here!
I saw “asexual” and I clicked. As an asexual, nothing lures me in like this concept
I just realized while watching this that I'm now a 40 year old virgin. Lol. I recently turned 40 and I'm an asexual trans man.