Our Parenting Journey | Q&A Part 2!
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- Опубликовано: 5 май 2020
- We're back with part 2 of our parenting Q&A this week! You guys had so many great questions that we had to come back to this! We're sharing some parenting advice and a few more of our favorite parenting tips! #StayHome #WithMe
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In our family, it’s tons of love along with a little bit of chaos every single day! We’re all about creating and sharing memories while we learn about the ups and downs of life TOGETHER. Our kids, Aden and Ariah, teach us that things don’t always go as planned… but they (almost always) turn out even better than we could have expected! This is The Housley Life! Join the fun every Wednesday at 10 a.m. EST! #TheHousleyLife 
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What other topics would you guys like to see a Q&A on??
Juggling work,kids and lifestyle. How do you guys still keep the romance btwn you alive
activities with the kids please. Love seeing Aiden and Ariah. You should do like a competition and maybe get your brothers to judge the winner.
Activities with each other! Maybe your favorite date nights story time while re-creating the dates at home. 😁
......I know it’s kinda off topic, but I thought I’d give it a shot.
I’d love a hair care routine by Tamera, especially through this quarantine! 🌱
The Housley Life finances and money
My husband and I are in our 60s, we have two grown kids, eight beautiful grandchildren. Keep your united front strong, don’t sweat the small stuff, draw a line keep it tight, but most of all pray 🙏🏼
Well said.
The best compliment I got was when my 12 year old daughter told me that she told her friends that I knew when to be a mom and when to be a friend.
susan routly love that
That is really sweet and as 39yr old daughter don't lose that because as an adult we still need both.
That's sweet💝
absolutely!
🤍🤍🙏🏼🙏🏼
See to how you speak to each other. Children pick on that. They will talk to that parent the way their spouse speaks to them. Respect each other in every way.
I freaking LOVED that you both said to not make the other parent the bad guy and decide to work together as parents and knowing when to handle different situations a different way and respecting that. You all are amazing
"If you noticed I haven't talked over you, Have I?" lmaooo same
TAMERA LOOKING ALL GLOWY AND BEAUTIFUL 🌸🌸🌸
When Tam and Adam were talking about Ariah and Adien's relationship as a teenager sounds like a movie they should make lol!!!!
No children nor married however, love the content♥️
same. But I love watching family content. Its very loving and warm
Same 😄
Yeap me too. 😉
Sterling B. Lucky you !
Taking notes for the future. 👌😊
the way Ariah layed her head on her Tamera’s shoulder🥺🥺🥺 my heart melted. i love their relationship ❤️ she is so beautiful, just like her mama🥰🥰🥰
Tamera your skin is literally glowing!!!
Adam is such a guy's guy and has such an old school , chill ,real way about him ..love you guys!
A real man.
Love ❤️ that sentence “Make sure your child is a positive addition to the society “ Amin, this is my favorite video of your channel because I’m a mom of 3 teens.
Awesome! Yes that is important .
I’m old school all day long! I’m coming from a black mom from the Caribbean.....enough said!🤣
Haitian👀
Lol #dontplaywithme
Love your comment
Tip for raising teens coming from a 19 year old. Who doesn't have children but has learned from her years of being a teen and observing.
-Don't push. If you have put knowledge in them, expect they will use it. When you don't expect and just assume, they will rebel!!! Basically, hold them to high expectations.
-if you say somthing MEAN IT! I can't stress that enough. We are know it all and we will throw back technicalities at you and your argument will not hold.
- discipline is key. I hated my mother growing up and loved my father because she disciplined and he didn't. Now that I'm older, I have a stronger bond with my mother. I realized that while both my parents love me unconditionally, my mothers discipline was uncondional love and I now respect her for that.
- if you have a reasonable request, they must do it. Don't let it slide. They will learn that your a softy that can be walked on and will learn no sense of authority.
- do not buy them everything they want. They need to either earn it or get a job and pay for it.
-and finally, one of the biggest mistakes my parents consistently apologize for to this day....do not let your child eat whenever and whatever. Not only will they because overweight, but have that sense of discipline will help them develop self discipline. Don't just says "eat this instead of that because I said so" explain to them why this is better than that. "Because I said so" is a phrase many parents will regret.
I love tamera lmfaooo she's hilarious and the best part is that she doesn't even realize it lmao
Don’t confuse loving and respect for your child as being their friend. The love and structure of a parent is far more important during those first 10 years than being their friend. When they leave the home, will they hear your voice when they are doing things without you.
Teens are completely different. Our daughters are 17 and 16. Our son just turned 10. It’s hard but the joy in parenting teens is being able to have real , deep and meaningful conversations with them. In quarantine I have been journaling more of things they share . Keeping God in the center of your marriage when parenting teens so you are able to sit and communicate about any situations that come up is key . Have a blessed day Housely family .
This was great. Thank you. My biggest takeaway is the thought of only 18 summers (Whoa!). And I really liked the advice of "don't take it personal".
My husband and I love hearing different parenting tips as we’d like to have kids one day. We are interracial and I love hearing both of your perspectives because he and I were raised very differently.
Im not only in an IR, but intercultural marriage. My husband was opposed to spanking. So we didnt. Now, he regrets it.
@@home4life505 He regrets not being physically abusive to children?
Fizzy Bizzy a pop pop is not abuse. Please calm down
Love the old school way of raising children. Raised mine that way. One great thing is that you both agree to do tough love. Your Children will always respect you. Respect first , friends second. Bible says Honor your mother and father for your days will be numbered on earth.Honor is Respect! Happy Mother’s Day!❤️
I don't think you guys need to worry so much. Your kids love you so much. As long as you both work together and keep praying. You got this. Be blessed. Enjoy your children. Enjoy your children. Again, enjoy your children. Love yall. 😊🤟🏿🙏🏿😇
I love how you guys parent the kids. I totally agree with every single thing you guys do. Im not a mother yet, but i hope to be one one day. God willing if its meant for me and my fiance to be a mommy and daddy. Love you guys!!!😘💕
I just LOVE the way that you guys speak to each other and your children. When Adam said, “Can I play off that ?” And Tam said, “Yes!” It was so sweet and endearing. You 2 are such an awesome couple ! My husband and I are really enjoying these parenting tips !!!
I would love to see a video about your walk/relationship with the Lord, how it began, advice for parents, the hardships, etc!! Love you Tam Tam!!
Great video I’m married 8 years and I have no kids yet but I’ll take these tips and use them when it’s our time . Thanks 😊
Great advice don’t compare your kids and draw the line between parents and friends some of the best advice ever
The best advice to dealing with teenagers, is to remember that you both were teenagers and although times have changed the rules or guidelines will not change ......... it will only means' that a new method of solving teenage issues are to be implemented and how you both mentor them as to know that you both have there best interest at heart.
Amen! The dynamic of parent/child will never change; they are not on our level and as old as they get, it is important for them to realize/remember that so they always maintain respect for you and listen to you and respect house rules and such as they age. Great advice!
Oh, my!! Tam, I did the exact same thing with my Dear grandmother. I mis-spoke to her like a girlfriend one day, and she went silent on me for 3 days. I meant know harm.
Lol it happens. I remember I answered my mom really short and abrupt one time. It hurt her feelings and I felt so bad.
@@Denise-ob8dk it hurts,we should remember not to cross that line for real
You know what? You both are fine. What you think you don't know, you know. You'll do great as you already are. Nothing is perfect. ❤
18 summers ...ohhh my! Never looked at it that way. So true!!
Tamera, mentioning the amount of summers and the part where you say its blissfuly exhausting i totally understand, and i get it i love my kids and they're so funny and loving but they have their moments that really made me feel good though.
As a teenager, I was the opposite. I realized I knew nothing about life or the world and it was terrifying! What I wished I’d had from my parents was a safe space to have honest conversations, ask hard questions, and still receive that comfort I might act like I don’t need at times. Also, with fluctuating hormones came my first battles with depression and, going with that safe space element, I think a lot of teens need some validation for their feelings and reassurance that what they’re going through is salient. ❤️
I have 4 kids, it's very tough. They all have there own personality, and definitely strong willed, I honestly think were doing the very best we can do. I have a 16,14,8,6. I do have a decent relationship with my 16yr old, anything that bothers her she'll come tell me anything. When my eldest gets out of line, she knows it, I just give her the MOM stare.
This was so encouraging. Parenting is hard. I have 3.
I'm early. Thank you so much Tamara im just a kid but today is my birthday and I look up to you so much. Stay safe hope you have a great day.
Happy Birthday!! 🎉
Happy Birthday!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!🙌🏽🎁🙌🏽🎂🙌🏽🎊💞
Hahahaha 😂 girl you’re crazy, I completely understand your mom I remind my teens that I’m their mom and need to know how to talk to me.
Just continue to communicate with them and bond with them. My parents didn’t do that and I resented them for it and disliked them for a long time because of it.
Love it!! Momma of 4 here, 1, 4, 6 & 9. And I even learned something new! Thank you both for sharing!
Parenting...it's certainly is a blissful journey 😊
Love how you talk about your faith in God n raise your kids in God's way n you guys doing a great job .
I have son who turns 16 tomorrow and a 10 year old daughter. Ive been raising them alone since she was 3 mos. Its been tough and sometimes exasperating! They ABSOLUTELY get more challenging as they get into the tween/teen years. The babies you romanticized about can test your will to keep going! My best advice is to remember that you have ONE SHOT to get it right, STAY IN PRAYER, remember to breathe, STAY CONSISTENT, discipline and always have patience! Cry it out when they're asleep and be sure you're recharge before they wake up.
I've loved watching your videos. Theyve brought a sense of peace and laughter to me personally, during these challenging times.
mommyonthego Thank you for sharing your comment with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
One thing I always said, my son is my son. I'm not his friend. He has his own and so do I. Don't get it confused. T & A, raise your children on your terms, no one else's. Reach back on what your patents taught you and then tweek it to fit your children. ❤
Thank you for sharing this content with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
My husband & I have no children and don’t plan to for a few more years but I’m still over here taking notes! My favorite family💗💗
Y’all are so cute together! Every time I watch a video, I just smile.
PARENTS: I love kids, but I am not a parent. I don’t judge people on how they parent. BUT, it drives me crazy when parents are oblivious to their kid being a terror to others - destroying someone’s house, using foul language aimed at adults, screaming, hitting, throwing things, etc. I’ve had countless airplane rides with kids kicking the back of my seat and mom or dad is off in space. HOW you parent your kid is your is your deal. But, please, please, PLEASE make sure you are aware of how your kid’s behavior is effecting others.
I am a child, adolescent and family therapist and I tell parents two main things. 1.) Your teens are your toddlers, so whoever's they were at 2 and 3 is the person you will see at 13 on. They are both ages of independence. 2.) Children are seeking safety. The formula for safety is; consistency + stability + discipline (the learning process not necessarily punishment) = safety.
Good good good, yes! Discipline and respect are key! My husband and I are very old school and we’re only 30. Love them
In my 30s single and child free and watching you guys makes me wish and daydream about future spouse and future family. I trust and believe it will happen one day
The foundation you lay at the beginning helps coz they will grow up knowing what line to not cross!!
I can’t say it enough that I love you guy. I’m a single mom of 2 special needs teens. So it’s still an learning process. My boys have autism and ADHD. And I agree with you guy that works with one kid won’t work with the other. Oh boy did I ever learn that😂 Love you guy
B3llet Truth Thank you hun it’s not ma’am but I tries to do the best that I can
Adam & Tamera something I was told a long time ago when raising kids as soon as they go off to school they forget all the things that they were
taught at home! So I would advise you as they get older spy on who they hang around with investigate/screen/ interview all of their friends and find out their friends bad habits & family structure/ Foundation/ Dynamics because that is who will influence your kids around the teenage and preteen years! It will help you keep balance and regulate things much better in helping them become wonderful good biting citizens!!!
Yes I have 3 daughters an almost 2 year old, 7.5 year old, an 8.5 year old. And everyone tells me to enjoy this time now because when they become teenagers it’s going to be rough. As my mom says the older they get, the harder it is to let them go and make their own choices.
I like their openness and acknowledgement that they don't know it all but are willing to give things a good try.
Love that "Don't take it personally" advice. I hate conflict, but if you love your kids you have to sometimes. Parenthood is the scariest hood!😆
I’m a great mom I love the relationship with my daughter she’s not afraid to talk to me about anything going on in her life. Best relationship ever. She’s 25 and still home I’m living it.
Love this!! I so needed to hear the end about not taking it personally when your kids don’t listen. I literally had that exact convo with my husband two days ago! It’s so good to remember that! Hard at times but absolutely key! You guys are the bomb! Thank you so much for doing this!! 🥰
I am not a parent but I have been a nanny for the past 14 years and any advice is always greatly appreciated. Love watching your videos!
None of us are there in person to actually see how you handle your kids BUT I can tell you are GREAT parents and you are doing an AMAZING job!!
You guys are such a blessing. You’re doing a great job with parenting and your family is lovely.💙
I so Agree with you both!!! I know of so many grown adults that disrespect their parents. I just shake my head!!! Like that could not be me!!!
I just love you guys and it's great to see that their are still people in the world who parent with faith, love, intent and structure just like my husband and I strive to do! All is not doomed in the world for our future generations ☺
I legit love y’alls relationship and family🥰
Part two!! Yay! I love you guys 💕💕💕
You guys are great parents! Thanks for the good tips😊
I wholeheartedly agree! setting boundaries with your kids is a must...
I want to say I love you guys and your family! I have been a fan for years! I dont have social media but I have seen your quarantine cuisine videos when they are uploaded to RUclips and I watch it everyday! You guys have made this time easier! Thank you and stay safe and healthy!
Pick ur battles and compromise! Teenage years in a nutshell!
Love you and family dynamics
oh wow 18 summers is not long when you think of it. Great advice and video
It really flies by!
I love how you guys are very honest
Y'all are great human beings! Thank you for sharing your lives and your beautiful family with us!
Love when both parents participate in the questions/answers
I really loved this!
Especially your honesty in your expression, answers and advice.
Thankyou lovely Housleys💖
To start , I think you two should consider a TV show, I completely enjoy watching you, from this subject of parenting to just being a family. Good , bad and in between. You're always positive , funny and enjoyable to watch. I have told you before you have a beautiful family . keep up the good work.
gloria shaeffer thank you
Oh my gosh I love your videos! I’m so glad you were talking about feeling like you are failing. I feel like that a lot and I know I shouldn’t but I do. So I’m glad to see you guys talk about what you struggle with. Thank you so much 😊
Your family is so beautiful! God Bless your family !
Good parenting advice 💕💕💕
Love you. I get such a joy watching your videos.
I loved all of the parenting tips! I am not a parent yet, but I am old school lol!😊
Great advice! It’s so true, 18 summers will go by fast. It’s great seeing you two work together.
They both have such high energy, so fun to watch em!
Good parenting...keep it up, and Gob bless
I love the advice about realising that we really only have a few years with our children. So just enjoy every moment and spend the most quality time as possible❤️❤️❤️
I love this family so much!
Great video guys. Lots of love to you and your family xoxo
Love ya'll!
Enjoy them now get all the best memories because when they reach 17 teens they will let you know that they need there space
You two are an extraordinarily wonderful couple. I love the "learn as you go" parenting advice, and I like your parenting style.👍🏾
Just keep taking one experience at a time.
Love yall!
OMG I love your channel I love you two guys together you're a perfect example of compromising and complimenting each other in both marriage❤parenting and of course business partners LOL thanks for sharing learning so much XO😍😘❤👈🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽☝🏽
You truly do have the most beautiful children they’re just the cutest things 🥺
Always a pleasure seeing you guys. Working from home here in Killeen, TX.
Thank you for the advice great job guys😊
This is such an inspirational channel.Thank you for starting it
Glad you enjoy it!
We need 2-3 videos a week!! We love the storytelling sit-downs. Cooking episodes. Children! All the content🙌🏾just keep it coming🤗
Love the feedback, thank you!! More cooking and story time coming up!
It's cute watching you two. You both are very smart.Keep up the good job with your kids.
You guys are great and so real. I think you kids are blessed to have you as parents.
I love you Guys...... I have 6 kids from 24-2 you have two parents each one of them differently and learn as you go and you adapt to what works for you. LOVE THEM KEEP GOD FIRST....... This has worked for us
P.S Me and My husband lost or oldest he was murdered in 2016 it just makes us not sweat the Small things and Make everyday every hour every second count... YOU ARE great parents keep the great job
You guys are great. Your advice is on fleek!!!!❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏